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_Mistakes_ 0:27 1. Not thanking the gift giver on time. 1:09 2. Responding "no problem" to thank you. 1:51 3. Greeting people you do not know with "hey". 2:19 4. Man extending hand first to handshake woman in a *social setting* . 3:22 5. Sneezing in your right hand palm. 4:01 6. Pointing at people with fingers. 4:35 7. Misspelling or mispronouncing someone's name. 6:05 8. Placing utensils on the table after using them. 6:34 9. Confusing the drinking glasses. 7:44 10. Sticking pinkie out when holding a tea cup.
Agree! Omg- I came to so many events, trying hard to dress up properly and most people wore casual on basically any occasion. I don't know what to wear anymore.
Agreed. I always try my hardest not to even respond but when it happens over years and years, cannot help but at some point give those that dish it out the same medicine.
Thank you Jamila for reminding me that I should still be following ways I was brought up with. In this day and age most of the people around me don't follow any etiquette at all but that shouldn't mean that I should forget my Mother's teaching. I found the tea cup holding session interesting. I've been told and have seen that the pinky is held up when drinking tea. I must admit my pinky automatically tends to stick out a little bit when holding my tea cup but not held up. I will practice tucking it in from now.
I am so happy that I have found Jamila! This information is timeless and extremely helpful for everyone. Thank you for your meaningful work and the knowledge that you share :)
Most of these are just plain common sense. Unfortunately, decent manners seem to be lost on so many people these days. Thank you for a wonderful, classy video! Hopefully everyone who views it will learn some valuable lessons. 💜
Finally, I meet someone who thinks the same about how important it is to pay attention to others' names! I don't understand nowadays how it still possible that people misspell your name, most of the time you can just copy and paste it if you have any doubts!
Jamila, you have done an excellent job! I am glad that some people in 2021 still remember and worry about etiquette. Now, when you think about it - all these etiquette things are actually logic - aren't they? If you're in a formal social setting, all these moves and rules are something decent people would probably come up with themselves more or less. Keeping the cloth clean, being respectful, giving the advantages to women, etc - they all make sense. After all, we want our guests or friends feel good around us - right? Carry on the good job!
Extending the pinkie was used in the high classes of old France to show that the person is single, available and interested in someone on the table. It is definitely not recommended anymore by multiple etiquette teachers.
I wonder if this is where the admonition to "mind your p's and q's" comes from. The letters p and q on a keyboard are typed using the pinky fingers. And it wasn't that long ago that we were taught to extend our pinkies as the "proper" way to hold a drink. I remember it in the 1960s and it was regarded as a semi-automatic position of the fingers that you didn't really have to think about once you got in the habit.
Such a classy and well-mannered woman you are! If everyone in this world was as polite as you it would have been a much better place to live. My personal mistake from the list in this video is that once I offered a handshake to a woman and she felt awkward about it and refused it,so my hand was just miserably hanging there...a good lesson but learned with blood :(
that must have been mortifying for yourself and the lady. Much better to learn this etiquette that in a social setting a lady outranks a man and then a lot of sub etiquette like walking a lady home , allowing her to sit first follow naturally
According to history, the pinky extended was used by French aristocracy (who were very promiscuous) as a sign to who had a venereal disease. When you raised your pinky, you were signaling to anyone who wanted to be with you that you had an STD, so they would know and others who had an STD would know. I learned this from a video by William Hanson who also addressed this faux pa. 🤘
The b&d technique is so helpful, I always used to forget where to put my breads, I guess not anymore. I have seen many videos where people suggest to extend the pinky out and I always find it frustrating. Thank you for correcting.
I can't imagine what I watched recently so that your video showed up in my feed. But I am happy to say "thank you" to the UA-cam algorithm gods. While I knew about most of these common mistakes, it's still nice to know that I am doing something right. Plus, you and your presentation are both so elegant that I just had to subscribe and see more. I think we all can use refresher courses on proper etiquette for various situations, especially nowadays when it seems that anything goes.
Agree. Mine was even worse. One of my friend used to call me by another girl's name a few times until I got so annoyed and he said "what's the big deal? Just a name" :/ yet some people claim they do this by mistake and it's not their intention but still, unacceptable.
Yes! Admin workers are always too lazy to spell my name correctly, even though I already showed them my birth certificate / ID. Why are names so undermined? They're precious.
@@agnesfrank2734 Thank you for your comment. I have a hard to pronounce first and last name, but it does not bother me because life is too short and I rather to focus in important things and forget trivial ones. Maybe Nashmia Norhan will realize now that "misspells" happen everyday to everybody!
this is the whole reason titles were invented. If feeling unsure, just address by titles. This is fairly common in Asian countries and even in Europe, but nowadays I feel Europe has adopted the American way.
These etiquette are really needed altough it's common and sometimes people do not care about that, but for upgrade your attitude and get respected by others. Thank you for these advice I would love to practice when i'm in situation.
✨ Ms. Jamila Musayeva ✨ I enjoyed your video so much. It reminded me of what my mother taught me when I was very young. It was also nice to hear someone speak English without slang, or "um" cluttering up their speech. You have such a lovely voice that I had to subscribe. Thank you, Ms. Jamila, for posting this video. May you bring manners back so they are commonplace.
Hello Jamila, What a happy occurrence in finding your video come through my feed on UA-cam! I was raised having etiquette as a most important part of my life. Recently though, I had a person tell me that I was: “old school” and that etiquette was ‘dead’! It seems this kind of thinking is partially the reason the world we live in is in such a horrible situation. So I thank you ever so much.
Loved it! Especially the point about a person's name. I have been told so many times how I "should" pronounce my name. Thank you for this video. Please continue.
Excellent video, Jamila; thank you. You have to wonder where "you're welcome" came from, and what was said before that became common. Apparently many people infer too much formality is present when one says "you're welcome" , or even a mild or implied insult, depending on the tone of voice and other context. And what about the French "Je vous en prie" which means "you're welcome" in English, but literally means "I pray for you." That certainly could be perceived as an insult too !
that "no problem" response is so funny and takes me back to my childhood in the Midwest of the US. It's a very common inside joke among people who grew up in that area and for some reason particularly if you were raised in the Lutheran Church to use the phrase "no problem". I'm still trying to break myself of that habit.
My mother did a pretty good job of teaching her children basic etiquette. The only rule I was ignorant of was the proper way to drink tea. Thank you for the clear directions. I will endeavor to remember that in future. Thank you also for the video, I enjoyed it very much.
I personally think more young people are saying "no problem" instead of your welcome in certain scenarios because often times favors and other requests are "burdens", especially if they are for people who are not immediate family or close friends. They are not always "welcome" to my time and favors and sometimes it's not necessarily a pleasure to work for them.
The topic about names is so true! My name is Cristina and specially when I get email answers from people outside Spain they usually write my name so wrong! I get emails every day like this: Christina, Kristin, Christine, Cristiana...and most of times they're replying an email from me with my signature on it. I find it so incredibly rude and annoying! I usually take my time to find out how to write other persons name correctly even if there's times when my keyboard doesn't even allows me to do it as there are names from other countries that have more symbols we don't use here.
I feel for you. I used to work for a woman named Margarita and so many people would either misspell or mispronounce her name Marguerite, and it confused me because no one ever mispronounces the drink.
I’d just like to share my thoughts from someone who uses “no problem” more. I’ve heard it more often among young people. The reason I prefer it over “you’re welcome” is because to me, YW sounds like it’s redirecting it back to the person thanking like “you’re free to ask for help again” when I just wanted to focus on complimenting the other person for their help. NP is like reassurance to me that they weren’t burdened by doing a favor. That’s why I personally like it more and prefer hearing that back. I definitely agree that YW is a more “proper” expression. Older people also tend to like it more. Just wanted to share my thoughts as someone on NP who doesn’t intend any malice from it lol
I definitely agree with you. I've heard people say, "You're welcome" so snobbishly like, "Oh, I know you couldn't handle it on your own." (This is just my experience.) And it grates on my nerves and makes me not want to reach out for help. I've always thought of, "no problem" as a shorten version of, "It was no problem helping you." But that could just be me.
I think "you're welcome" is almost condensing. As saying "I'm doing you a favor." No problem sounds to me like "it wasn't a big deal. Don't worry about it." But I always just say "my pleasure" just because I feel it's the most neutral out of the 3. Context might also depend tho.
@@jhonsmith5710 I hate to agree with you but I COMPLETELY agree. With “You’re Welcome” all I hear in my head is “I’m doing you a favor” which is something that I DO NOT like
I was actually going to make a comment about this very subject. I completely agree "You're Welcome" just doesn't work in our society today. As language changes so did the context of "You're Welcome" as it's now seen as condescending and snobbish.
Simply loved it!! Just subscribed! What the world misses actually is elegance!! People usually mix being casual with being impolite.. :( That makes the world terribly unpleasant...
Such great etiquette tips! Thanks for sharing. I’ve noticed that I don’t like it when someone says ‘Hi’ to me (whether they know me or not). I think it’s because I work in PR so I’m used to going the extra mile in terms of politeness and also because of my Nigerian heritage. Nigerians generally expect you to say ‘Hello’, ‘Good Morning’, ‘Good afternoon’ or ‘Good evening’. 😊
Yes. I received a wedding thank you over a year after the wedding! Now people don't think that thank you cards are important We always send thank you cards for any gift received promptly..Thank you for the video 💐
While my mom and grandma thought me a lot when I was little I need a good refresher, so here I am all ears and taking notes! Beside I can just hear you talk and you have my full attention. Very hypnotic voice. ❤️
I clearly remember my physical education instructor who gave me a rap on the knuckles in 5th grade, while he was supervising our class during lunch break to make sure we were all following dining etiquette. My pinky finger was pointing outwards while eating and he corrected me that it was impolite to point your pinky while eating or drinking. The lesson stays with me till today.😀
Guilty of most of these, over many years from mostly not knowing any better - so, lots of room for improvement for me in 2024. All ten sound like easy to keep, common sense New Year resolutions. I started your book on etiquette and was very impressed by all of it. Particularly the content. The cover, embossing, illustrations and even the silky bookmark all have your signature effect - elegant and first glance, then life changing upon further inspection. Well done Jamila!
I am from India. This Video on social etiquette was superb. The lady is super thin, soft-spoken, quick, speaks very few words, but conveys her meaning fast Excellent. I would like to hear more of her common sense.😅
The “no problem” always sounded weird to me, English is not my first language and when I learned it I would always answer with You’re welcome or My pleasure but many teachers told me this wouldn’t sound natural at all, but for me No problem could give a wrong idea as you’ve said of burden, so I’m glad at least I was doing it the right way.
I really appreciate this. In my opinion, it's easier for people to start with mistakes to avoid than to start habits they might not find themselves needing.
I LOVED this video! Such good basic information and guidance, plus the bonus is your gentle and elegant manner of speaking. i look forward to many more! thanks.
All of Jamila's viewers started off by basically learning how to be human and now we've leveled up to how to deal with _others_ that don't behave properly 😂
When she mentioned the lower case name spelling, that is so real! I genuinely do not like and disregard people who don’t uppercase names and the letter “I” when referring to self. It’s just so displeasing😖.
It's SO refreshing to see someone actually talk about good etiquette!! I remember I used to enjoy reading Miss Manners books in large print at the library, when my daughter was a little girl & a book worm!? It's sad that people simply don't pay attention to table manners, at all and good etiquette seems to be fading away & considered UNnecessary - like good hand writing. I think both are important, but my children & their friends would probably disagree!?
@@PeacePlease. She had a hilarious dry sense of humor. I remember her replying to a woman who tripped and fell into an avocado dip causing a wardrobe malfunction at a cocktail party. The woman wondered what one should do in this particular circumstance? Her response was quite amusing referencing how often does this happen? Etc etc. she’d call rude guests mr. And mrs . dreadful…Miss manners was a hoot.
@@sheilaterranovabeasley1966 Intelligent people usually have a good sense of humor so I don't doubt it. It's been some years, I guess I either missed out, or don't remember details about her. ✌&💖2U!!
I really watched this one all the way through and I learned a lot today I appreciate you sharing this and how you going to do these videos this is really a good idea you doing all 10 steps that right there is what's going to flip the switch and make whoever listens to it have better manners and again thank you very much
The name issue - I have a an uncommon last name (uncommon in America) that isn't pronounced as it looks. No one purposely mispronounces it, it often spelled in very creative ways. I can see how this can also being an issue with uncommon first or foreign names. Unless some is named 'Mary' and someone else goes out their way to mispronounce it, I can't see a mispronunciation as an etiquette blunder.
Like many things, I'd say that context matters here. If two folks are meeting for the first time, then messing up a name is understandable. However, I was recently attending a staff event, and one of the big bosses entered to give thanks to the front line staff, and he blundered a few of the names. Mind you, the "big boss" is at least four levels up on the org chart from those he thanked, but it's really a horrible look that he didn't take the time to learn the names of those he intended to publicly thank since they all do indeed work for him, albeit indirectly.
Saw your video and channel for the first time. It was well presented, informative and interesting. And your voice and style of speaking is gentle and respectful. And , yes , you are a beautiful woman.
I just subscribed today and this video look's like a gift.🥰 To be honest I really find uncomfortable when someone who doesn't know use "HEY" to address and I would be like where is your manner's in my mind. Will be doing all this thing's in my daily life even if it is with my class mate Thank you
This was great. I often wondered how and why in US we became so casual? Growing we were taught all of these issues. Every single one. You were talked to if you did not comply either. Sigh. The only I struggle with on the list is pronouncing names. I have met people with names that are extremely difficult because not if native language. Some do get offended even when you ask how to pronounce it or you don't get it right the second or third time. I think included in manners is mercy. When folks mispronounce my name from a foreign country, I understand. It can be hard. It is not purposeful.
Thank you for this gracious presentation. When listening and considering the reasoning behind ridding ourselves of the phrase, "No problem," it seems to me that this ineffective phrase diminishes the effort, value or the careful matching of the gift to the recipient. When we say, "No problem," we seem to be saying, "The gift was not important enough for me to expend attention, time or resources. This ill-used phrase indicates the giving of the gift is inconsequential or the person receiving the gift is insignificant. Neither of these conclusions are good experiences unless a deliberate shaming or insult is intended, which violates good etiquette.
Hi Jamila, I love your video. Very handy tip regarding avoiding confusion on which glass to drink. I would like to suggest for you to make a travel etiquette (airplane, bus, trains) video. Also a mask etiquette especially now when masks are required to be worn everywhere. But there are times we have to remove it to eat or drink. Would be very handy for everyone. More power, and stay safe!
In regards to the "no problem" point, I've seen it argued that it's a generational shift, old school versus new school ways of thinking. The old way of responding "you're welcome", since it refers directly to the other person, can sound more agressive, and implies that you just did the other person a favour, that you took trouble onto you and now they're indebted to you. While the new response "no problem" outright states it wasn't a problem to you to do the thing for the other person, it didn't inconvenience you in any way, and you did it because you wanted to. I'm a millennial, so a newer generation, and new school, and I do not like "you're welcome" because it sounds sarcastic to me, and I much prefer "no problem" for the reasons stated above. "My pleasure" is a bit of a middle ground, old school formality but without the direct confrontation of "you're welcome", since you're referring to yourself like you do with "no problem", sparing the other person from the discomfort of being directly referenced.
It's more of an issue of setting and culture. In America, no one will think worse of you for saying "no problem", unless you're in an extremely formal setting. That said, I think considering "you're welcome" aggressive is a bit extreme.
i’ve asked older people about that because “no problem” is what naturally comes out as a response, and none of them have seen an issue with it. i feel the same way you described, all i mean when i say it is to alleviate anyone’s concern that they might be bothering me or being a burden. maybe it just stems from my own anxiety asking anyone for help. 🥴
It was lovely to see Etiquette brought back into every day life's. THANK YOU, your voice is charming and your expose ' about all pertinent forms of Etiquette, were portrayed ever so kindly ♥️💎🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟
I loved these tips. I have to agree in regards to our names. I try so hard for others and am so taken aback when people say my name incorrectly. Maybe we can get a reactions video? On how to respond with etiquette when someone does something like saying our name wrong.
Thank you very much, Lady Jamila! Such an inspiring video. Hehe As you mentioned when people respond to "Thank you" as 'No problem" I feel uncertain as If I made a person do a favour against their will. "My pleasure" or "You are welcome" sound right for me as well. 😄
If someone says “No Problem” it usually means that is was no problem. If someone says “You’re Welcome” it could have been a burden to them OR it was no burden at all. You never know.
You look very professional. I am glad that I found you today because I like to know more about general common etiquette in western 🌎 world 🌍 since I came from different culture.
I love this. In one of the languages I speak when a younger person is speaking with a senior citizen, our vocabulary becomes more formal. Eg the word 'you' sorta resembles the word 'thy'. When speaking in English using thy is kind of weird so we just be polite and not say 'hey' or 'yo' like sis NO!
I surprised we don't all know these basic tips. Another favorite of mine is: make sure to hold the door open for anyone behind you. If someone has a heavy bag or bundle (or sleepy toddler) make sure to hold the door so they can precede you.
In the building where I work, the Chinese students ALWAYS let me off the elevator first or through a doorway first, and without making a big deal about it or even making eye contact. It's because I'm older than most of them, and it's deeply ingrained in their culture to do this. It's kind of nice.
You are so right. I loved this video. I recently just having a cup of tea on my own found my pinky sticking out. I had to chuckle . I had never done that before. I’m in my 80s so forgive me. I think you are just delightful. ❤
Jamila, Thank you for another educational video! I've always been curious about where the "pinky out" rule came from, or why pinkies are even relevant or important to tea drinking 🤔
I agree about point #2. It annoys me when people responded with 'no problem' when I thanked them. Also point #3, I find it impolite when people younger than I at work write emails with the opening 'hey'.
Mistake #8 - placing cutlery. I've never seen anyone return cutlery to the table after using it. When pausing - two cutlery items are placed in an inverted V, as demonstrated. When finished and to signal place can be removed by waiting staff - cutlery items are placed side by side - not at 6 o'clock but at the angle as first demonstrated.
Greetings from Apexa I would love to see common etiquette for dressing up hair, color of the hair, hairstyle, hair cut and more. Also I being a professor along with practicing architect would love to see different social etiquette to follow.
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Classic etiquette and good manners are timeless. But occasionally, in our fast-casual society, we need gentle reminders.
Nicely stated. Thank you.
Very true!
Her face really reflects coolness and lot of manners and etiquettes. Really master in her work.
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0:27 1. Not thanking the gift giver on time.
1:09 2. Responding "no problem" to thank you.
1:51 3. Greeting people you do not know with "hey".
2:19 4. Man extending hand first to handshake woman in a *social setting* .
3:22 5. Sneezing in your right hand palm.
4:01 6. Pointing at people with fingers.
4:35 7. Misspelling or mispronouncing someone's name.
6:05 8. Placing utensils on the table after using them.
6:34 9. Confusing the drinking glasses.
7:44 10. Sticking pinkie out when holding a tea cup.
Can we get a dressing etiquette ? I see people wearing anything on any situation 😣
Good idea 👍
Agree! Omg- I came to so many events, trying hard to dress up properly and most people wore casual on basically any occasion. I don't know what to wear anymore.
try anna bey's channel
Yes! Dressing over 40 would be nice too!
Well tailored clothes, no jeans and appropriate outfits for events.
You made learning etiquette very interesting and positive. You are a role model. Thank you Jamila for inspiring us to become good people 🙂
Thank you very much!
@@JamilaMusayeva No problem.
@@UsefulmusicYou've just made the mistake.
I was being naughty.
@@Usefulmusic naughty?
Love the “there’s no need to extend your pinky” Queen of Shade.
She is so effortlessly elegant and gentle!! Her voice sounds like a gentle pat of the back
As my grandmother used to say about drinking tea "the higher the pinkie, the lower the class". So true.
Exactly
Actually it does not matter that much.
@@heidiluotolahti4305alright bruh 🤡
My mom used to say this also!
Hello, can You make a video about how to react to rude people? Or people who try to hurt, attack or humiliate other person? Love your videos ❤️
Exactly what I would be interested in, too! 🙂
Yes great idea 👌🏻
Agreed. I always try my hardest not to even respond but when it happens over years and years, cannot help but at some point give those that dish it out the same medicine.
She did that in a video addressing rude comments
@@magdaforwomen2 I know. I mean when you talk directly to people. Work, friends, family and so on
Thank you Jamila for reminding me that I should still be following ways I was brought up with. In this day and age most of the people around me don't follow any etiquette at all but that shouldn't mean that I should forget my Mother's teaching. I found the tea cup holding session interesting. I've been told and have seen that the pinky is held up when drinking tea. I must admit my pinky automatically tends to stick out a little bit when holding my tea cup but not held up. I will practice tucking it in from now.
Yes to a series of these (:
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I am so happy that I have found Jamila! This information is timeless and extremely helpful for everyone. Thank you for your meaningful work and the knowledge that you share :)
Thank you very much ☺️
Most of these are just plain common sense. Unfortunately, decent manners seem to be lost on so many people these days. Thank you for a wonderful, classy video! Hopefully everyone who views it will learn some valuable lessons. 💜
Finally, I meet someone who thinks the same about how important it is to pay attention to others' names! I don't understand nowadays how it still possible that people misspell your name, most of the time you can just copy and paste it if you have any doubts!
Jamila, you have done an excellent job! I am glad that some people in 2021 still remember and worry about etiquette. Now, when you think about it - all these etiquette things are actually logic - aren't they? If you're in a formal social setting, all these moves and rules are something decent people would probably come up with themselves more or less. Keeping the cloth clean, being respectful, giving the advantages to women, etc - they all make sense. After all, we want our guests or friends feel good around us - right? Carry on the good job!
Extending the pinkie was used in the high classes of old France to show that the person is single, available and interested in someone on the table. It is definitely not recommended anymore by multiple etiquette teachers.
How interesting!
i extend my pinkie because my pinkie is short and cannot reach to whatever i am holding in my hand.
I wonder if this is where the admonition to "mind your p's and q's" comes from. The letters p and q on a keyboard are typed using the pinky fingers. And it wasn't that long ago that we were taught to extend our pinkies as the "proper" way to hold a drink. I remember it in the 1960s and it was regarded as a semi-automatic position of the fingers that you didn't really have to think about once you got in the habit.
Such a classy and well-mannered woman you are! If everyone in this world was as polite as you it would have been a much better place to live. My personal mistake from the list in this video is that once I offered a handshake to a woman and she felt awkward about it and refused it,so my hand was just miserably hanging there...a good lesson but learned with blood :(
that must have been mortifying for yourself and the lady. Much better to learn this etiquette that in a social setting a lady outranks a man and then a lot of sub etiquette like walking a lady home , allowing her to sit first follow naturally
The pinky extended is considered as a asign of uneducated person in most of Europian countries.
YES!
It’s tacky and try-hard, i can’t believe she asked to extend the pinky and make sure it’s at an angle lolol
@@pinkandgreen7681 So it's "pefect"!
According to history, the pinky extended was used by French aristocracy (who were very promiscuous) as a sign to who had a venereal disease. When you raised your pinky, you were signaling to anyone who wanted to be with you that you had an STD, so they would know and others who had an STD would know. I learned this from a video by William Hanson who also addressed this faux pa.
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@@carlitosway1330 interesting factoid.
The b&d technique is so helpful, I always used to forget where to put my breads, I guess not anymore.
I have seen many videos where people suggest to extend the pinky out and I always find it frustrating. Thank you for correcting.
You are welcome 🤗
I can't imagine what I watched recently so that your video showed up in my feed. But I am happy to say "thank you" to the UA-cam algorithm gods. While I knew about most of these common mistakes, it's still nice to know that I am doing something right. Plus, you and your presentation are both so elegant that I just had to subscribe and see more. I think we all can use refresher courses on proper etiquette for various situations, especially nowadays when it seems that anything goes.
I definitely feel bad when someone mispells my name even after i correct them politely.
Agree. Mine was even worse. One of my friend used to call me by another girl's name a few times until I got so annoyed and he said "what's the big deal? Just a name" :/ yet some people claim they do this by mistake and it's not their intention but still, unacceptable.
Yes! Admin workers are always too lazy to spell my name correctly, even though I already showed them my birth certificate / ID. Why are names so undermined? They're precious.
Do you mean "misspells"????
@@agnesfrank2734 Thank you for your comment.
I have a hard to pronounce first and last name, but it does not bother me because life is too short and I rather to focus in important things and forget trivial ones. Maybe Nashmia Norhan will realize now that "misspells" happen everyday to everybody!
this is the whole reason titles were invented. If feeling unsure, just address by titles. This is fairly common in Asian countries and even in Europe, but nowadays I feel Europe has adopted the American way.
These etiquette are really needed altough it's common and sometimes people do not care about that, but for upgrade your attitude and get respected by others.
Thank you for these advice I would love to practice when i'm in situation.
I aspire to be as elegant and polite and well spoken as you 🥺 you’re doing great !
You have a great teaching style. Its efficient, informative and pleasant. Thank you for putting in so much effort into your videos ❤
Excellent content, this is much better than watching other programs like National Geographic.
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I enjoyed your video so much. It reminded me of what my mother taught me when I was very young. It was also nice to hear someone speak English without slang, or "um" cluttering up their speech. You have such a lovely voice that I had to subscribe.
Thank you, Ms. Jamila, for posting this video. May you bring manners back so they are commonplace.
Hello Jamila,
What a happy occurrence in finding your video come through my feed on UA-cam!
I was raised having etiquette as a most important part of my life. Recently though, I had a person tell me that I was: “old school” and that etiquette was ‘dead’!
It seems this kind of thinking is partially the reason the world we live in is in such a horrible situation.
So I thank you ever so much.
Loved it! Especially the point about a person's name. I have been told so many times how I "should" pronounce my name. Thank you for this video. Please continue.
You are welcome
People actually dictate how you should pronounce your own name?? Geez, that's terrible. 😧
Excellent video, Jamila; thank you. You have to wonder where "you're welcome" came from, and what was said before that became common. Apparently many people infer too much formality is present when one says "you're welcome" , or even a mild or implied insult, depending on the tone of voice and other context. And what about the French "Je vous en prie" which means "you're welcome" in English, but literally means "I pray for you." That certainly could be perceived as an insult too !
that "no problem" response is so funny and takes me back to my childhood in the Midwest of the US. It's a very common inside joke among people who grew up in that area and for some reason particularly if you were raised in the Lutheran
Church to use the phrase "no problem". I'm still trying to break myself of that habit.
My mother did a pretty good job of teaching her children basic etiquette. The only rule I was ignorant of was the proper way to drink tea. Thank you for the clear directions. I will endeavor to remember that in future. Thank you also for the video, I enjoyed it very much.
I personally think more young people are saying "no problem" instead of your welcome in certain scenarios because often times favors and other requests are "burdens", especially if they are for people who are not immediate family or close friends. They are not always "welcome" to my time and favors and sometimes it's not necessarily a pleasure to work for them.
For younger people too “You’re Welcome” will come off wrong.
Many people use it for sarcasm or if they are annoyed with a request.
The topic about names is so true! My name is Cristina and specially when I get email answers from people outside Spain they usually write my name so wrong! I get emails every day like this: Christina, Kristin, Christine, Cristiana...and most of times they're replying an email from me with my signature on it. I find it so incredibly rude and annoying! I usually take my time to find out how to write other persons name correctly even if there's times when my keyboard doesn't even allows me to do it as there are names from other countries that have more symbols we don't use here.
Same with me. Admin workers always misspell my name :(
I feel for you. I used to work for a woman named Margarita and so many people would either misspell or mispronounce her name Marguerite, and it confused me because no one ever mispronounces the drink.
if it isn’t spelled correctly- it isn’t your name !
When you make the effort you are showing respect. They are not.
@@shayk.393 That's exactly how I feel!
I’d just like to share my thoughts from someone who uses “no problem” more. I’ve heard it more often among young people. The reason I prefer it over “you’re welcome” is because to me, YW sounds like it’s redirecting it back to the person thanking like “you’re free to ask for help again” when I just wanted to focus on complimenting the other person for their help. NP is like reassurance to me that they weren’t burdened by doing a favor. That’s why I personally like it more and prefer hearing that back.
I definitely agree that YW is a more “proper” expression. Older people also tend to like it more. Just wanted to share my thoughts as someone on NP who doesn’t intend any malice from it lol
I definitely agree with you. I've heard people say, "You're welcome" so snobbishly like, "Oh, I know you couldn't handle it on your own." (This is just my experience.) And it grates on my nerves and makes me not want to reach out for help. I've always thought of, "no problem" as a shorten version of, "It was no problem helping you." But that could just be me.
I also agree with you.
I think "you're welcome" is almost condensing. As saying "I'm doing you a favor." No problem sounds to me like "it wasn't a big deal. Don't worry about it." But I always just say "my pleasure" just because I feel it's the most neutral out of the 3. Context might also depend tho.
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I hate to agree with you but I COMPLETELY agree. With “You’re Welcome” all I hear in my head is “I’m doing you a favor” which is something that I DO NOT like
I was actually going to make a comment about this very subject. I completely agree "You're Welcome" just doesn't work in our society today. As language changes so did the context of "You're Welcome" as it's now seen as condescending and snobbish.
Simply loved it!! Just subscribed! What the world misses actually is elegance!! People usually mix being casual with being impolite.. :( That makes the world terribly unpleasant...
Such great etiquette tips! Thanks for sharing. I’ve noticed that I don’t like it when someone says ‘Hi’ to me (whether they know me or not). I think it’s because I work in PR so I’m used to going the extra mile in terms of politeness and also because of my Nigerian heritage. Nigerians generally expect you to say ‘Hello’, ‘Good Morning’, ‘Good afternoon’ or ‘Good evening’. 😊
You are welcome
This is the content UA-cam needs 👍🏻
Such an extraordinary and unique channel. I’m in love with it 😍
Yes. I received a wedding thank you over a year after the wedding! Now people don't think that thank you cards are important
We always send thank you cards for any gift received promptly..Thank you for the video 💐
Your skin. Your confidence. Your knowledge. Thank you 💗
While my mom and grandma thought me a lot when I was little I need a good refresher, so here I am all ears and taking notes! Beside I can just hear you talk and you have my full attention. Very hypnotic voice. ❤️
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Thank you for your kind comment ☺️
I clearly remember my physical education instructor who gave me a rap on the knuckles in 5th grade, while he was supervising our class during lunch break to make sure we were all following dining etiquette. My pinky finger was pointing outwards while eating and he corrected me that it was impolite to point your pinky while eating or drinking. The lesson stays with me till today.😀
Guilty of most of these, over many years from mostly not knowing any better - so, lots of room for improvement for me in 2024. All ten sound like easy to keep, common sense New Year resolutions. I started your book on etiquette and was very impressed by all of it. Particularly the content. The cover, embossing, illustrations and even the silky bookmark all have your signature effect - elegant and first glance, then life changing upon further inspection. Well done Jamila!
Sophistication at its finest
Yes, that's Jamila 😵❤️✨
Great video. In Britain the ring finger and pinky should follow the angle of the rest of the fingers they shouldn't be tucked away.
I am from India. This Video on social etiquette was superb.
The lady is super thin, soft-spoken, quick, speaks very few words, but conveys her meaning fast
Excellent. I would like to hear more of her common sense.😅
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Thank goodness! We all need a refresher... or first encounter with proper manners! Keep going! Love it!
Thank you!
She Is beautiful, elegant and a perfect idol all of us who are obsessed with etiquettes so much... Thank you for another polite video.
@Godly Woman she should be an idol then our world would’ve been better. Jamila is an inspirational idol ❤️
The “no problem” always sounded weird to me, English is not my first language and when I learned it I would always answer with You’re welcome or My pleasure but many teachers told me this wouldn’t sound natural at all, but for me No problem could give a wrong idea as you’ve said of burden, so I’m glad at least I was doing it the right way.
Thank you so much ma'am! Just a small kid learning etiquette from you everyday. :)
Your videos help me a lot. Love from India.
Your etiquette lessons are spot on, so to speak. However, your grammar could be better.
Wow! I love your tone of communication and I love the teaching. Thank you so much.
I really appreciate this. In my opinion, it's easier for people to start with mistakes to avoid than to start habits they might not find themselves needing.
I LOVED this video! Such good basic information and guidance, plus the bonus is your gentle and elegant manner of speaking. i look forward to many more! thanks.
I would be interested in a video about how to react with etiquette to someone who behaves without etiquette.
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All of Jamila's viewers started off by basically learning how to be human and now we've leveled up to how to deal with _others_ that don't behave properly 😂
Yes me too
You aren't supposed to react to them as that would expose their failings, which they may not know.
Ignore any mistakes.
When she mentioned the lower case name spelling, that is so real! I genuinely do not like and disregard people who don’t uppercase names and the letter “I” when referring to self. It’s just so displeasing😖.
I'm so lucky to watch your videos and improve myself. You are like a sister to me, thank you dear ❤
-Greetings from Turkey xo
I wish the people would value and respect to these classic etiquettes. Reminds me of the good ole days.. Thank you.
Thank you for these videos!!!!! I can’t tell you how much I need them! I feel so much more confident in social settings 💜
You're absolutely the best thank you I'll pass this on to my children also so this culture is never forgotten
Wow! Very interesting topic! You could totally make a part 2. 😊 PS. The white looks beautiful on you💖
Simply brilliant explanation! I appreciate that the music as a background was played very softly.
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It's SO refreshing to see someone actually talk about good etiquette!! I remember I used to enjoy reading Miss Manners books in large print at the library, when my daughter was a little girl & a book worm!? It's sad that people simply don't pay attention to table manners, at all and good etiquette seems to be fading away & considered UNnecessary - like good hand writing. I think both are important, but my children & their friends would probably disagree!?
Miss manners was also terribly funny!
@@sheilaterranovabeasley1966 Funny🤨!?
@@PeacePlease. She had a hilarious dry sense of humor. I remember her replying to a woman who tripped and fell into an avocado dip causing a wardrobe malfunction at a cocktail party. The woman wondered what one should do in this particular circumstance? Her response was quite amusing referencing how often does this happen? Etc etc. she’d call rude guests mr. And mrs . dreadful…Miss manners was a hoot.
@@sheilaterranovabeasley1966 Intelligent people usually have a good sense of humor so I don't doubt it. It's been some years, I guess I either missed out, or don't remember details about her. ✌&💖2U!!
I really watched this one all the way through and I learned a lot today I appreciate you sharing this and how you going to do these videos this is really a good idea you doing all 10 steps that right there is what's going to flip the switch and make whoever listens to it have better manners and again thank you very much
The name issue - I have a an uncommon last name (uncommon in America) that isn't pronounced as it looks. No one purposely mispronounces it, it often spelled in very creative ways. I can see how this can also being an issue with uncommon first or foreign names. Unless some is named 'Mary' and someone else goes out their way to mispronounce it, I can't see a mispronunciation as an etiquette blunder.
Like many things, I'd say that context matters here. If two folks are meeting for the first time, then messing up a name is understandable. However, I was recently attending a staff event, and one of the big bosses entered to give thanks to the front line staff, and he blundered a few of the names. Mind you, the "big boss" is at least four levels up on the org chart from those he thanked, but it's really a horrible look that he didn't take the time to learn the names of those he intended to publicly thank since they all do indeed work for him, albeit indirectly.
Saw your video and channel for the first time. It was well presented, informative and interesting. And your voice and style of speaking is gentle and respectful. And , yes , you are a beautiful woman.
Thanks and welcome
I just subscribed today and this video look's like a gift.🥰 To be honest I really find uncomfortable when someone who doesn't know use "HEY" to address and I would be like where is your manner's in my mind. Will be doing all this thing's in my daily life even if it is with my class mate
Thank you
As you mentioned business etiquette, please make videos about it.
Thank you so much for doing this.
This was great. I often wondered how and why in US we became so casual? Growing we were taught all of these issues. Every single one. You were talked to if you did not comply either. Sigh. The only I struggle with on the list is pronouncing names. I have met people with names that are extremely difficult because not if native language. Some do get offended even when you ask how to pronounce it or you don't get it right the second or third time. I think included in manners is mercy. When folks mispronounce my name from a foreign country, I understand. It can be hard. It is not purposeful.
Because most people just put it on for show. Doesn't matter if you know how to hold a tea cup but still are a nasty judgy being inside.
Thank you for this gracious presentation.
When listening and considering the reasoning behind ridding ourselves of the phrase, "No problem," it seems to me that this ineffective phrase diminishes the effort, value or the careful matching of the gift to the recipient. When we say, "No problem," we seem to be saying, "The gift was not important enough for me to expend attention, time or resources. This ill-used phrase indicates the giving of the gift is inconsequential or the person receiving the gift is insignificant. Neither of these conclusions are good experiences unless a deliberate shaming or insult is intended, which violates good etiquette.
Yes I love etiquette series 👍🏼 Never get tired of it 😍
I just wanted to say that I love your videos. Watching you and gaining the etiquette knowledge is a pleasure.
Hi Jamila, I love your video. Very handy tip regarding avoiding confusion on which glass to drink. I would like to suggest for you to make a travel etiquette (airplane, bus, trains) video. Also a mask etiquette especially now when masks are required to be worn everywhere. But there are times we have to remove it to eat or drink. Would be very handy for everyone. More power, and stay safe!
Almost everything you said here was taught to me by my mum ❤
The "b" & "d" tip will come in handy next weekend for a family wedding...great way to remember..thank you.
In regards to the "no problem" point, I've seen it argued that it's a generational shift, old school versus new school ways of thinking. The old way of responding "you're welcome", since it refers directly to the other person, can sound more agressive, and implies that you just did the other person a favour, that you took trouble onto you and now they're indebted to you. While the new response "no problem" outright states it wasn't a problem to you to do the thing for the other person, it didn't inconvenience you in any way, and you did it because you wanted to.
I'm a millennial, so a newer generation, and new school, and I do not like "you're welcome" because it sounds sarcastic to me, and I much prefer "no problem" for the reasons stated above.
"My pleasure" is a bit of a middle ground, old school formality but without the direct confrontation of "you're welcome", since you're referring to yourself like you do with "no problem", sparing the other person from the discomfort of being directly referenced.
True. Whenever I say no problem, I genuinely mean that it was literally not even a bother for me.
It's more of an issue of setting and culture. In America, no one will think worse of you for saying "no problem", unless you're in an extremely formal setting. That said, I think considering "you're welcome" aggressive is a bit extreme.
i’ve asked older people about that because “no problem” is what naturally comes out as a response, and none of them have seen an issue with it. i feel the same way you described, all i mean when i say it is to alleviate anyone’s concern that they might be bothering me or being a burden. maybe it just stems from my own anxiety asking anyone for help. 🥴
@@bannedcommander2932 am I the only one here response to (thank you) with ( don't mention it) . OK .
@@زينبالموسوي-ب4ص No, I hear that one quite a bit
It was lovely to see Etiquette brought back into every day life's. THANK YOU, your voice is charming and your expose ' about all pertinent forms of Etiquette, were portrayed ever so kindly ♥️💎🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟
I loved these tips. I have to agree in regards to our names. I try so hard for others and am so taken aback when people say my name incorrectly. Maybe we can get a reactions video? On how to respond with etiquette when someone does something like saying our name wrong.
Thank you so much Jamila for the classic etiquette video!
This is the probably the first time ever for me to request some video from a UA-camr and here it is awe you’re the sweetest💕
I did very much enjoy this video. I knew the rules of etiquette addressed in it, but it was to see it confirmed. Thank you
Thank you very much, Lady Jamila!
Such an inspiring video. Hehe As you mentioned when people respond to "Thank you" as 'No problem" I feel uncertain as If I made a person do a favour against their will. "My pleasure" or "You are welcome" sound right for me as well. 😄
If someone says “No Problem” it usually means that is was no problem.
If someone says “You’re Welcome” it could have been a burden to them OR it was no burden at all. You never know.
@@Shay45 Oops Not for me. "No problem" sounds rude to me. :))))
You look very professional. I am glad that I found you today because I like to know more about general common etiquette in western 🌎 world 🌍 since I came from different culture.
This is a refresher and helpful for social graces esp the position of the drink, butter and bread and how to drink tea. Thank you!
I'm so glad you brought up this topic! You and Anna Bey are the queens of self development 💜💜
Wow, I am also a fan of Jamila and Anna 😍
Me too
I love them both :)
They are not of the same class 😱
Please, don't compare her to Jamila. They are miles apart. Jamila has Class.
I love this. In one of the languages I speak when a younger person is speaking with a senior citizen, our vocabulary becomes more formal. Eg the word 'you' sorta resembles the word 'thy'. When speaking in English using thy is kind of weird so we just be polite and not say 'hey' or 'yo' like sis NO!
True, in my language too we use different words when addressing someone older than us and all. In English there's barely any 'formal' words and all
I surprised we don't all know these basic tips. Another favorite of mine is: make sure to hold the door open for anyone behind you. If someone has a heavy bag or bundle (or sleepy toddler) make sure to hold the door so they can precede you.
In the building where I work, the Chinese students ALWAYS let me off the elevator first or through a doorway first, and without making a big deal about it or even making eye contact. It's because I'm older than most of them, and it's deeply ingrained in their culture to do this. It's kind of nice.
You are so right. I loved this video. I recently just having a cup of tea on my own found my pinky sticking out. I had to chuckle . I had never done that before. I’m in my 80s so forgive me. I think you are just delightful. ❤
Jamila, Thank you for another educational video! I've always been curious about where the "pinky out" rule came from, or why pinkies are even relevant or important to tea drinking 🤔
I can talk about it in one of the next videos ☺️
Thank you for sharing this video.
It came at the right time to assist me in teaching my grandson.
This is excellent. So many people ignore these basic courtesies. Please say, "going" and not "gonna.."
I agree about point #2. It annoys me when people responded with 'no problem' when I thanked them. Also point #3, I find it impolite when people younger than I at work write emails with the opening 'hey'.
Great videos. Would you be able to do a video on eating fruits? How to eat prepared and/or eat whole fruits (like apples, pears).
In addition to being informative, I think this video is good ASMR. It is relaxing and helpful. Thank you.
Mistake #8 - placing cutlery.
I've never seen anyone return cutlery to the table after using it.
When pausing - two cutlery items are placed in an inverted V, as demonstrated.
When finished and to signal place can be removed by waiting staff - cutlery items are placed side by side - not at 6 o'clock but at the angle as first demonstrated.
Hi Jamila! It would be a pleasure to keep on listening to you explain other mistakes in depth . 👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🌹
Loved the video. Yes a series is welcome. Thank you so much.
I feel good after watching your videos because I get to learn sooo many things.
Thank you so much!
Glad to hear that ☺️
This was a very useful and easy to digest video. Please make a series. ❤️
Yes serious person I can afford Insalt
Thank you Ms. Musayeva. I will follow you because I need these ettiquette refreshers very much.
Greetings from Apexa
I would love to see common etiquette for dressing up hair, color of the hair, hairstyle, hair cut and more.
Also I being a professor along with practicing architect would love to see different social etiquette to follow.