Basic Manners Everyone Should Have | Jamila Musayeva
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Basic Manners Everyone Should Have | Jamila Musayeva
Over the years of working as an etiquette consultant, I have written down a good checklist of most commonly broken etiquette rules. These rules are very simple, at first glance, yet most often overlooked. Based on my observations, I have noted some of the most basic good manners that everyone should have. So here are the simplest rules that create the biggest impact on the way we present ourselves to the world.
Enjoy the video and let me know what you think of it. As always, your feedback and video suggestions are always welcomed!
Sincerely yours,
Jamila Musayeva
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Other basic manners everyone should apply in their daily habit, please put your phone away when talking or in the presence of other people it’s quite disrespectful and also learn to be a good listener everyone wants to be heard but they don’t want to take time to listen. Thank you Jamila for sharing this video.
Well pointed out!
I completely agree about the phone…I hate when I’m spending time witj people and they’re on the phone instead of trying to talk to me
And do not talk on the phone when you are at the register/cashier paying for something. It’s extremely rude. Go to self check out if you want to talk on your phone.
I agree, I see people at the cash register completely ignoring the cashier and carrying on with their phone conversation.
I saw this tart sitting down on a bus seat after I did a long days work, I told her to get up so I could rest she refused do I slung her bag and phone out of the bludey window, she has no manners
1:55 Hold the door
3:30 Knowing the rules of walking
5:08 Address a person with their full name
6:54 Let people exit before you enter a room
8:00 Use of pleasantries/courteous words
10:14 Appropriate dress code
11:36 Maintaining adequate physical space
13:50 Table etiquettes
15:54 Show patience in a queue
17:02 Speak less, listen more/Think before you speak
Thank you !
Oh no not the last one ny yapper self can't help 😭
Thank you! They are what I learn here in Tokyo. Quite grateful!
Thank you.
Thanks. Was interesting but took sooo long
Some of these manners are common sense. So many people have forgotten them due to not being in public as often. It's nice to be reminded of these manners. Thank you Jamila!
Welcome ☺️
Common sense has been lost. Unfortunately.
This video really goes in line with "debunking elegance myths" one. A great lesson is that etiquette, manners and politeness is for everyone, not only a certain "elite", but also for everywhere, not only in high end restaurants. I love that you are making etiquette accessible and relevant to our everyday life!
Thank you
People starting to eat without everyone seating at the table especially the hostess who cooked for them gets me everytime. I have lived in the UK for 30 years and most people don't hold the door. I really don't uderstand how they are labelled as very polite. The great thing about your list is that these are very easy tweacks to make so achievable for anyone who wants to "upgrade". Thank you for the reminder ♥
I wish people would follow this old etiquette rule: if someone declines an invitation please don’t ask them why they can’t come. Just say you’re sorry they won’t be able to attend and/or suggest another time. Demanding an explanation may force someone to lie. One friend did this so much, I stopped being her friend.
Jamila, I have watched your videos for years, and every time I go out to eat when it comes time to sit down & place my bag I always remember your teachings: NEVER place your bag on the table. Even when I eat at a fast food restaurant I don’t put my bag on the table 😂☺️ thank you for another insightful video.
Thanks for sharing!!
I really love how she matches flowers with her outfit. Eye-catching!💗
Thank you ☺️
Yes, I agree, but the tulips are too crowded. They could be arranged.
As a New Yorker, I’ve seen a lot of these basic rules broken and it’s very irksome when it happens. I can’t tell you the amount of times someone stands on the left side of an escalator, or enters an elevator or train before exiting passengers can get off. Sometimes individuals also struggle with waiting in line when boarding a bus or doesn’t hold the door open for someone close behind them. Thank you for this latest recap on the most basic of manners, Jamila.
Especially in big cities people overlook these basic manners. I hope we can get etiquette back to fashion and respect will be the guiding feeling amongst humankind.
It’s outrageous that I saw a woman curse someone out who asked to pass when her and another were blocking the path to get up the escalator 😢 I heard her say she was tired from working on her feet but that didn’t give her the right to be rude.
Fun fact about elevator manner in Japanese. When riding escalators, in the Kanto region, people typically stand on the left side and leave the right side open for those who want to walk. In Kansai region, it's often the opposite, with people standing on the right side. This is a common etiquette practice in Japan. Something good to know if any of you are visiting Japan :) hope this was helpful 😊
Thank you for sharing this! Japan is my dream!
common behavior, but often forgotten, nice reminder for everyone💜
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In my language (German) there is a politeness form (Sie, Ihnen, Ihr…).
Young people tend to override this and use the colloquial form even form perfect strangers. I don‘t like that. The politeness form may sound a bitt stiff, but it gives a respectful distance between you and the other person. Conversely, when you get to know a person better and you change to the coloquial form, it creates a heartwarming feeling of familiarity and friendship.
Since my childhood mostly I have been the only one doing all these good acts.My whole life people normally just want to grab first, reach first, leave first, leave everything because they think why should they bother about others...endless cruelty. Finally after watching this video I am very glad to know I was not a naive or someone who can be easily stepped over but I am actually a person with naturally many etiquettes.😊
Do Not Be On Your Phone When Hanging Out With Friends! - I can’t believe how many people check their messages, or emails, or even reply WHILE being at a dinner table, or grabbing a coffee with a friend. Simply sad. 😢
I am usually setting up an alarm for 10 minutes before I have to leave. That way, I never worry about the time going by too fast, while having 10 minutes to say good bye.
Absolutely love all your points from this video ❤!
I'm not sure if you made a video of basic manners when in a workplace setting (especially in a multicultural company and when there are different generations of employees). Would be nice to have one.
I will note it down ☺️
Great idea!
That'd be a wonderful idea! :)
All the good manners you explain, I share them in schools, because, yes, it is useful for the children to have them. ( door, escalator et, …)
Never thought I need these etiquettes but when I watch your videos, I feel like I need to learn more to improve myself.
Glad you like them!
Your content is getting more and more interesting every time you upload videos and I love the way you share your learnings/insights with us. Thank you so much for your kindness, Jamila. ❤️
Happy to hear that!
Yeah I love how fresh her insights on etiquette are because they’re very inclusive to all types of humans
Totally agree with this!
I loved this! So informative, I work in retail and recently I've noticed people do seem a lot more rushed and distracted, sometimes not even saying a simple "hello" when they come to the cash desk.. Thank you for sharing this ❤️
So true!
Some actions seem to be instinctive, but it is reassuring to know for sure that they are actually correct. Good manners make others feel respected, important, and comfortable...kindness matters. Thank you for your helpful and enoyable videos.
I’m pleased to realise that I follow all of these basic rules! My table manners aren’t excellent, but I do have the basics down and I hope I can improve on them. Thank you for the video Madame!
Wonderful!
The touching/personal space is my nemesis. I'm quite reserved in that regard, I have to know a person really well and have a close relationship with them to feel comfortable with more than a handshake. So whenever I'm at a social event with aquaintances, I have to fight with myself to accept hugs or kisses upon greeting. It's even worse when someone tries to come too close on our first meeting. I offended a friend's boyfriend once: we were just introduced and he came in for a hug or a kiss, and I reared back like a spooked horse. It was an incredibly awkward situation.
I understand. I have had people cross my personal space to touch my jewelry. They like the pendant and have no regard to touch something on my chest. It’s so strange to me.
I had an incident where a guy my friend was dating came in for a hug. I extended my hand for a handshake.
I feel women are more accommodating in allowing men to cross our boundaries to be the “good girl”.
Shouldn’t they be considered the rude boy for pressuring a lady to go against her comfort zone?
One thing that I observe quite often is when people stop and stay in front of an entrance or in front of stairs/ escalators. It’s sooo annoying and sometimes even dangerous when a big crowd is coming behind you.
YASsss!
I live in Toronto and rarely do people hold the door, let others exit before entering, have good table manners, know the rules of walking (often people won't even pull their dogs to one side of a sidewalk to let others pass!) or show patience in a queue. I would like to add giving up a seat on public transit for the elderly, pregnant women, people with visible disabilities or parents with babies.
One thing I struggle with is how to tell people that they should fix something on themselves. For instance if they have food on their face, lipstick on their teeth, or if their zipper is down. It's a quick fix, and if it were me I would want to know, but I never know how to bring it up without embarrassing them, especially if we are in a group setting.
I would appreciate you have something on your face. I had my zip open at the office and after walking around and no one told me and when a colleague told me I actually went back to the other side of the office and told them how nasty of them not to tell me that my zip was open😊. I asked them if tables were turned would they appreciate it if I did the same and the answer was no so I told them that at least it would have been one or two people n not more. We laughed about it and now everyone knows to approach me if something is not appropriate with me.😂😂
Saying, “thank you” to he person the opened the door for you, it’s very nice!
Can you please make a video on laughing etiquettes, such as properly laughing, when to laugh, how to laugh 😊
Also sneezing, yawning and touching your nose. Please! Thank you
Next topic video :- Office manners & etiquette
This makes me smile because I worked from the smallest firm to the very top notch firms but must say I never had to bite my teeth with ill mannered behaviour in work places. I guess we owe that to highly qualified HR team.
I would add: Not texting in someone’s face when you hang out with them (unless it’s an emergency and you have excused yourself), being mindful of the volume of your voice in public spaces, not talking with your mouth full, when you take photos/videos in public places, try to avoid having strangers in them as much as possible (I know sometimes it can’t be helped)
I strongly agree to the last rule because I frequently encounter it , especially in social media platforms like Instagram , people are being extremely ignorant and insensitive.
Thank you for this amazing video!❤
I am a college student, i can very proudly say that i follow most of these, except the elevator one and classroom ones. Me and my friends usually walk on the escalator but i didnt know that there were particular sides for that and there is just no energy left after all the classes and extracurriculars in college but i do hope one day i will be able to follow them too!!!
It really is annoying how some people dont treat vendors and other service providers nicely, like it doesn't take much from you but might make them feel well, so why not just say !
By the way, the flowers are really pretty and your top kind of match with them❤
Oh I can't thank you enough for speaking about standing too close to another person. Long before covid I've never been a proponent for that behavior. Same in laundrymats. Whole place free yet ppl come " snuggling " right up in your immediate area!!!!! It makes me steam...😬😬😬😬
That beautiful vase of pink tulips and your shirt just look too perfect and aesthetic, I could not keep my eyes of it. On another note, people in Australia stand on the left side if they are not climbing the escalator. :)
I’ve held the door open behind me for another couple to walk through and sometimes they walk through it. Don’t look at me. Don’t thank me and leave me holding the door. 😂😂
It happens with people who lack basic manners to say thank you. But you know, we do these not to ask that in return but to do our part. We cannot be responsible for what others do.
Exactly my experience every time I hold the door open. Once a big group of 5-6 walked through while I was there holding the door. Since then I make sure not to be taken for granted like that still following the etiquette though.
@@bhavyasehgal4851 what’s even more annoying than them not taking the door off me is they don’t even make eye contact or say thank you. Maybe they think I’m the door man 🤣. Oh well we just have to think they don’t know any better.
My husband is a gentleman and will always hold the door for ladies, I’m guilty of saying “Thank you” very loudly if they do not.
I see it mostly with the younger generation not thanking.
@@hildib2689 that’s a good idea 👍
Thank you for this wonderful video! i really like it!
I just hope that everyone from my community watches this, Im so tired of seeing people lack of mannerism everywhere, its very depressing honestly.
Thank you ☺️
Thank you so much for sharing these basic manners! I especially agree with the last one, thinking before you speak. It's not just people the public who will find these comments later, but your family, friends, work colleagues and significant other. I would be so horrified if a close friend of mine made nasty comments to people all the time.
These days I buy flowers almost every week and I have purple tulips and pink roses. ♥
I’m Latina and even when people here are very loving and kind; I really don’t like physical contact and much less from a stranger.
Please, make pt 3 about "Basic Manners" and so on.
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I needed this _ forgetting to be cultured. Thank you for reminding us, those that care
Everytime I'm feeling a bit down you inspire me to live a better, organized, elegant and happier life. Indeed you are a true influencer, may you keep growing 💎. Love from MX 💖
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Can we add to move your buggy to the side in the supermarket when you stop to browse. Almost everybody leaves their buggy in the center of the aisle making it impossible to pass. The same goes for standing in the middle of the aisle or doorway to look on your phone or chat with someone. Be mindful and step to the side.
thank you for doing helpful and valuable content like this. i personally need reminders like these because it really is a challenge to navigate social life with different kinds of people of different cultures and perceptions. as an introvert who is so comfortable with solitude, ensuring that good manners are observed when i’m outside is crucial for me- especially i’m seen as academically educated. we also love people who respects each’s privacy without being misinterpreted as snobbish. introverts need to decompress once in a while. I love people but for a limited time only every day.😅
Thank you so much dear Jamila, your etiquette advices are very useful to me, l learn a lot from you🙏🏻❣️ I hope many people will use this manners, the world would be better🌞
You’re welcome 😊
I really appreciate the refresh of these common courtesies. 😃
Thank you so much Queen for this wonderful information
Thank you so much Jamila for your content! I always get so excited when you post something new, it feels like I’m getting big sister advice!! I was wondering if you could make a video about how to find/meet and foster relationships with girls who enjoy etiquette, culture, art…etc 😊
Thank you for the informative video, Jamila. Would you consider doing a video on cell phone etiquette in the context of social gatherings, formal events, dining, etc?
She has spoken about this, you put them away. Excuse yourself if you need to take a phone call or message someone 😊
Great suggestion!
I find this video very very relatable to my day to day experience and so I was so entertained and smiling throughout the video. Am so so happy to see so many comments on the video and know that there are people out there like me who struggle with lack of etiquettes of others in public settings. Thanks for posting this video Jamila.
Jamila, you are one of the very few UA-camrs that I click the bell notification for. Your videos are very informative and educational. I appreciate all the effort you place into your videos. Thank you!
Sincerely,
A Longtime Subscriber.
Even though good manners sometimes should be a given, it still helps to show your appreciation and acknowledge them when you are on the receiving end.
Very informative.
Thank you for sharing.
Thank you I really appreciate all these reminders.
You are welcome
I just love to watch your videos, its everytime new lessons to learn and get inspired❤❤
Thank you!
Blessings! Thank you for all of these great tips. 🙏
Welcome 🤍
thank you for this video, Jamila! u never disappoint! ur elegance is beautifully comforting ❤️
Thank you!
Amazing episode 👏🏻
Thank you so much 🌸
You're welcome 😊
thank you..I hope that people take these basic rules seriously as it makes life in perfect harmony!!
Amazing tips, Jamila. Thank you for continuing to share your wisdom with us! I have a question. I live in America in the South where people are often “touchy,” so to speak. Oftentimes when meeting someone new, they’ll come straight for you, even going so far as to say, “I’m a hugger!” As if to excuse what is likely not the best etiquette when meeting someone for the first time. What would you suggest as an appropriate reaction if someone is opening their arms to you, expecting an embrace?
Air hug or an out stretched arm to indicate a handshake works.
Air hug or handshakes.
Like they always say, chivalry is dead!
Huge fan, thank you for your videos! Love from CT (USA)
Jamila I appreciate you! Thank you for this beautiful content and your beautiful presence! 👏🏼🌷💕🌸💗🙏
Thank you so much!
Thank you so much 👍🏻.This is a very important topic ❤.
My pleasure 😊
Great advice as usual Thank you
Glad it was helpful!
Thank you!
I really love your content. It's very useful and very classy. You are so elegant!❤❤❤
Thank you so much!
word's cannot explain the vibe you give Mam... Always learning from you my idol. 🥰😍
I love your videos!! I love the reminder about the elevator and letting people leave the elevator first and I love the reminder about the escalator make sure you keep one side clear.
I have an etiquette question on a teacup. If you’re sitting and having coffee or tea and you have a saucer, do you bring the saucer up with the teacup or can you leave the saucer on the table and bring the teacup to take a sip?
I was completely unaware of this escalator rule--I actually had been under the impression that it was rude to try and walk up an escalator past others. That being said. Where I live, most escalators only fit one person.
Where do you live?
First of all thank you for the well thought out video. What you shared is very helpful. I especially enjoy your content to help keep myself in check. 💝
A video suggestion: 7 basic bags that you may need in life. ( Building a basic bag collection and wondering which bags you recommend)
Glad it was helpful!
Thank you Jamila for mentioning the lineup on the left side of escalators. I wonder how it is not considered a natural thing to do if one respects others and their mere existence, it reflects a complete absence of mindfulness regarding the presence of anyone else but one own's little self and expanded bubble. Most annoying of all (please bring it up!) are backpacks in the metro occupying double the space, in cafes where one's coffee is spilled as a backpack drives through like a subway train (yes, as if on autopilot without any "excuse-me" heard after the accident), in buses where people make their way through the corridor, hitting all shoulders with their back luggage, or in front of supermarket shelves where a backpack held by another quidam blocks other's way in corridors, preventing them from comfortably doing their chores ... etc, etc. Backpacks have turned into a danger to civilization and courtesy. I am not exaggerating! Keep on the elegant awareness rising.
Thank you 🙏🏻
As a student of fashion, I'm highly impressed by the color synchronization of this video, pink shirt paired with blue jeans along with pink lipstick and pink blush and beautiful pink tulips set besides....I just can't praise it enough 🤌🏻🤌🏻🎀💗
Wow, thank you!
Isnt amazing how these are basic but we dont do them? Thanks for sharing. Im going to save this video to apply in my life as Im recently paying attention to these things and want to improve and be considerate with others...
Glad it was helpful!
In Latin America, it's common to greet with one kiss, but in Spain, people typically greet with two kisses - one on each cheek.
Thank you💐
Dziękujemy.
Thank you!
Excellent video once again ❤
Thanks again!
Outfit is gorgeous
Thank you
I’ve been watching u from 100k and now it’s nearly 1M!!🎉
Aw thank you!
I would be interested in a video that talks about etiquette rules are that important for men. Obviously most of your viewers are women, but I could imagine that there are certain etiquette rules specific to men as well.
This is for everyone ☺️
It is important to be mindful of others time, so when performing actions that require lines make sure you are pointed with the task and not wasting the time of others.
Very affirmative 🌷👏🏻
Thank you!
Your videos are just awesome. I really like the way you present the video❤!!
Can you please do a video regarding the dressing etiquette( in a party, church etc.....)
We want more etiquette videos💟
I think she’s done something like this 😊
Noted ☺️
And also please address people who walk around in their glad rags and open the door to unexpected callers. I find it in poor taste to see folks in their night clothes late into the morning or coming to the mall dressed for the back yard. Literally glad rags
would love a video about hats/caps/beret ettiquette and when/how to remove them. I understand you are to remove them when eating/entering a place? And what if you are on a terrace dining? only wear them outside? Is it indifferent whether you dine indoors or outdoors? Does it make a difference the type of hat (like a beret)? if you take if off, where do you lay it? should you caress your hair to make sure it is neat? What about wearing a hat to church? What about inside a church wedding? I would love to know what would be the correct etiquette. What about hat/cap and gloves also? Umbrella? Thanks so much. I believe it is important to know how to properly behave with all the 'extras'.
I have done a video on how to hold accessories such as umbrella, coat and gloves. I will note down your suggestion too.
These are great stuff❤.From Colombo, Sri Lanka .
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Hello Jamila I just discovered your channel, thank you for your lovely content
You’re welcome 😊
You would think everyone should instinctively KNOW these social mores already -- it's just simple common sense and CONSIDERATION for others (as in treating others like how you WANT people to treat you).
Unfortunately, not these days
Could you also make a video on teenagers and how they can handle disrespectful comments from their peers and how to handle difficult and uncomfortable situations elegantly? thank you so much
I have done a few videos on handling criticism elegantly. Check out my playlists ☺️
Thank you, it was very instructive and interesting. See you soon on your next video 😊
Thank you! 😃
Good job again thanks you God bless you 🥰🙏❤️💋👍
Thank you again
Thank you Jamila for these very useful tips! I was not sure, about the escalator, but now I know! Please would you tell me, when people yawn, should yhey put their hand to conceal the yawning? I notice a lot of people don' t...
Jamila, could you please make a video on the use of emuji , which , when and to who
I think a good idea for a video is to explain, on a kid's level, why good manners are important and basic manners that will carry them in the future. Getting my nieces and nephews to use even basic table manners is stressful, but so is sitting at a table with a smacker.
Very helpful video❤
I'm so glad!
Please Jamila, could you quickly address water drinking etiquette? I.e., the correct way to hold a tumbler, fill it up with water and drink from it when dining? I tend to struggle a bit with that but it's an often overlooked area 😅
Thanks for your effort, Jamila, and I hope I can read your books in Arabic translation soon. 🙏
Love you from Egypt💙
I hope so too!
Can you please do a video on picking up things from the floor in front of people. How to pick things up elegantly or to bend or reach for something elegantly?
I have shown it in my deportment video ☺️
I'm shocked to know that there're people who don't get it
I like the video and I agree with most of what you're saying. Just one thing I don't understand: why is it necessary to stand on the right side of a staircase in a shopping mall? I mean I understand this situation when it's happening in the public transportation areas where people are going from point A to point B and they are frequently rushed. I always stand on the right side, so people in a hurry can get past me. But in a shopping center? No, I don't believe it's necessary, it's not like you have a train to catch.
Shopping mall escalators, I mentioned. Someone might be in a hurry - and the right is for standing and left is for walking. It is the other way around in Japan, for example.
@@JamilaMusayeva thank you for your reply! I apologize, I didn't express myself well, I'm not a native speaker, I meant the moving staircase. I can see your point of view, still I'm not convinced a shopping center is a place where people are entitled to be in a hurry. They could be, but for the most of us it's a leisure place and I don't find it very pleasant to use the escalator the same way I do it in the subway. I partially agree with you, but still I find this situation debatable.
Hello Jamila. I hope you’re well? Could you please make a video about the difference between ‘Manners and Etiquette’, I would love to hear what you have to say, and I’m sure it’ll help everyone to know the difference. Thanks for helping. Cayla
Jamila could you please make video about dining and travel with kids.I’m mum of three. Thanks