Common Etiquette Mistakes That You Do Not Want To Make EVER | Jamila Musayeva
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Hi,
I am Jamila Musayeva, an international social etiquette consultant and the author of the books “Etiquette: the least you need to know” and “Afternoon Tea Etiquette.”
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In this video, I will share some more common etiquette mistakes that I have encountered over the years of working as an etiquette consultant. I will talk about proper introductions, handshake mistakes, ways of handling business cards and toasting.
Enjoy!
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Money etiquette (in conversation, offering to pay, etc.) would be a great video
Men should pay. The end ❤️☺️we have fragile masculinity, so please don’t refuse if a man offers to pay, it may hurt his feelings 😥
@@bitovroman7941 um no, we dont have to turn everything into a 'which gender should'. manliness and masculinity are NOT in paying what we have isnt fragile masculinity its toxic masculinity. manliness and masculinity are in personality so if a man offers, you CAN refuse and pay yourself if YOU WANT, its also very respectful to refuse and offer to pay yourself in lots of cultures. so how can being polite hurt someones feeling that literally doesnt make sense. theres no rule that says a certain gender have to pay. the end ❤️
@@Madawi08 thank you for your reply, but I have a degree in gender studies, so with all due respect I beg you , don’t refuse, just let a man be a gentleman and enjoy your salad with appreciation ☺️ the end. (?)
@@bitovroman7941 you too, thank you for responding, and with all due respect i think what you said before is dumb and i dont agree with it. you totally dont have to agree with me!! i just stated my opinion. thank you ❤️
@@Madawi08 thank you and take care you wonderful human being ❤️🤗
Jamila makes me feel civilized.
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A lot of people misjudge ettiequte as being too stiff and all about the rules? But personally I feel like knowing a format of what to do and say in every situation that people appreciate just helps you relax and be comfortable.
TRUTHHHHHHHHHHHH 👍❤❤❤
So true. Knowing the basic fundamentals of etiquette is the most liberating thing. You can choose to break certain rules, but you have to know them first.
Truth
I am very new to this, but I love your perspective on this. I am really shy, but I want to behave elegantly.. so this gives me something to fall back on while I feel shy
In relation to number 4, if you are in East Asia or maybe in some Southeast Asian countries also, use your two hands when passing a gift, a thing, or a business card. Received it also with two hands.
Yes! Thank you for mentioning this. It's a very important sign of respect.
the same is true when accepting something someone is giving you whether it is a cup of coffee or a gift, receive with 2 hands
Yes. I learned this before moving to South Korea, and it's the general practice. 👌
the full list :)
1) Forgetting to introduce people to each other
2) Passing through an aisle with your back facing people
3) Not RSVPing or sending them late
4) Passing your business card with your left hand (mostly significant in the Middle East)
5) Shaking someone's hand while staying seated
6) Seasoning food before tasting it
7) Taking a sip of a drink when you still have food in your mouth
8) Leaving your used napkin on the plate
9) Making the first toast when you're a guest (you typically should wait for the host)
10) Toasting in your own honour
After over a year of COVID isolation, we all need to re-learn these points!!!
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This lady is pure elegance. 🤎
Jamila the dress you wear is very gorgeous, it suits you really well and makes you shine even better.
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About eating and sipping water: some people have conditions where they don't produce enough saliva, making it extremely tiring and uncomfortable to chew their food, as in Sjogren's syndrome among others. So if you notice such behaviour, excuse them and don't be hasty to judge.
especially when they have otherwise very good etiquette, it can be excused ♥️
I didn't know there's a condition like that. I don't think anyone would be pointing at the table or saying nasty things behind their back just because someone took a sip of drink while they still have food in their mouth :)
Also sometimes, as a sommelier, you can sip wine while you have just a little food in your mouth, just to observe how's the pairing.
I would always spill food on my chest & feel so embarrassed. It was only when my sister took me to a nice hotel & once again I dropped food. I felt so small until another guest said the rule for napkin on knee does not apply to people with short necks. That was when I noticed my sister had a beautiful swan neck & I had a wrestler's neck. Now I happily tuck my napkin into my top & make no mess on my clothes. I also don't pile up my fork or spoon, just in case you were wondering. Thank you.
I’m the opposite, i produce too much saliva. I even drool sometimes! I try my best to be cautious, but it’s never on purpose and it’s so embarrassing.
Great post! Simple introductions is not enough - it can actually end a conversation, sharing some details that are potential places to make a connection and build a relationship will move people into the friendly zone!
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How to hold different kinds of cocktail glasses would be a good video !!
Don't you all think Jamila's voice is so soothing 😌
I have to thank my grandmother for teaching me many of these basic etiquette, thanks Jamila for the refresher and a reminder to be always mindful.
Hodan Ahmed I was thinking the same, only with my mother.
Wow, learned a lot, thank you so much!
Could you please be kind to make a video of how to deal with unpoliteness of other people? Sometimes we come across very uncomfortable situations and we don't know how to deal with them. 🌹💟
In that case I would be calm & humble, smile and use a bit of sarcasm.
Absolutely- I'd love to know how to handle someone who is talking too much or who keeps interrupting me
I'm so proud of having such a sophisticated compatriot ...❤
I like to add some details in my invitations. For a cocktail party from 5-8:00 pm, for example, I said “drinks and substantial hors d’oeuvres”, so guests could plan the rest of their day or evening around what I was serving.
Perfect! That is how it should be done
In France this is called un apéritif dinnatoir
The demonstration clips you added were very helpful!
If you're reading this comment, one small positive thought can change your whole day & believe you can and you’re halfway there ✨. God bless you, and may your dreams come true, stay safe and have a wonderful day.
You too lovely!
You too! 🙂❤
Thank you my dear, i wish you a wonderful day too❤
You too! :)
You too, take love 🖤
I learned something new...#10. Not to touch the glass if I'm being toasted. Thank you Jamila :)
Thank you for this video. These are important etiquette lessons that are unfortunately overlooked. Because I was extremely shy as a child and had limited social skills (possibly due to a developmental delay), despite my mom’s teachings, when my 4th grade teacher asked me to introduce my mother, I ran away. Of course, Mom wasn’t happy about it at all. It took me years until I finally made it a habit to introduce others.
I also didn’t know about the only times when it is acceptable to shake hands while being seated. It is good for others to know. I think another exception is to shake hands with others who are physically unable to stand. For example, there are several people at church who have difficulty standing, so they shake hands while seated. 🤝
I’ll never toast myself-I am too humble (and shy)! 😉🥂
Love all your vlogs - concise and educative.
Thank you so much for reminding and showing us all about Etiquette rules
Ah today I'm early lol ✨
Btw I really love your videos !! I've improved a lot after watching your videos here on UA-cam !! Thank you so much for it Jamila ❤️ they're really very helpful in personality development
Learning a lot with you! Thank you ❤
*Thank you Jamila! Your videos are always super educational and elevating* 🧡 💛
I like your short videos where you show what not to do and what to do. That's really helpful. :D
We look forward too 😊 Thank you Jamila ❤
Ohh I definitely learned a lot, thank you for another excellent video!
I've just discovered your content and love it all - thank you! I know you've touched on this, but a video dedicated to time management would be fab.
You’re wonderful again🙏🏻thank you so much for your efforts 🌸
Honestly I didn’t know some of these. Great info. Thank you. 😊
I would love to see your recommendations on how to look well put together and clean. Love your videos! 💕
I saw you on Instagram learning Arabic, So محتوى رائع و جميل 🤩
Thank you so much Jamila for giving tips on Common Etiquette mistakes because it is very helpful for us and please make daily videos I love your videos so much you are my inspiration imagine getting a heart from You♥️😍☺️🙈😊😘😘🤗🌸💕💓💗❤️
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Dearest Jamila, Thank You so much for the refresher and I must say you hair is absolutely beautiful and why not so are you.
Etiquette Videos I have been waiting for ❤️❤️❤️❤️
you are the best. love your content and your sense of styling and your choice of outfits
Wow such a beautiful dress again..!!🤩 I love the colour and the design!🤩🤩
Such a good video!! So many things that I didn’t know, wow.
Jamila is so inspiring as always 💕 lovely video 🧡
Really you are great lady..
Thanks for your elegant lessons..
Love from India ❤❤
These are truly beautiful things. Thank you.
We really do these mistakes. Thanks for ur sweet reminder
Useful tips. Regarding RSVP, recently I read that a party sent a bill of 14000 $ to the people who not sent RSVP reply resulting in wastage of food.
Jamila, your idea of the Patreon/Movie Etiquette Club is very smart, especially in this pandemic.
Wonderful information! Thank you!
Thanks for making a second part 😍
So useful! 🥰
I’ve been guilty of some of these myself 🙈
Please please, would you consider to do a video on wedding etiquette?
And I have seen that your book is no more avaiable on Amazon … are you going to publish some more of them?
Her books are only available in Azerbaijan, so you should e-mail her for a copy. :)
Excellent Jamila .
Thank you so much for these etiquette mistakes to avoid. I've learned so much from you within the last 4 days, and I feel it's a lot of value for free. I can't wait to sign up for your courses. Thank you, Jamila. ❤
You are so welcome!
I was just watching your self care habit's video , and got a ping , I have watched all your videos thrice times , love it
Dear Jamila
I'm so glad! Thank you!
Love these videos and your soft voice! I have been passing people incorrectly when they are seated! Thank you!
You are welcome
Beautiful video, Jamila.
I am pretty sure many people have told you this... But you are the most elegant and poised person I know.....
I aspire to be like you 👍🙏😀
how soothing is her voice
A common reason for not introducing an acquaintance to a friend is simply that you do not remember their name! Be alert and if your friend doesn't immediately introduce you, take the lead and do it yourself- the embarrassment of not doing the introduction will be less than that of having to admit they don't remember the person's name!
On the subject of introducing, if you are (for example) in the presence of your gardener/housekeeper/secretary when your friend arrives you should briefly introduce them. To simply turn away and greet the guest is just rude and demeaning to the employee.
Thank you so much, I learned 2 etiquette mistakes that I may be making. OY!! Cheers
Hello Jamila :) Thank you for the video. Please note that with toast the rules can be diffrent. As an example during a Polish wedding or birthday the wedding couple or person that have birthday usually makes few toasts "for all guests" and all guests and hosts must drink :)
that is right! first I thought. ooooh, I stand corrected but now I'm like that's right. We (Poles) always toast along with the person toasting us - it would be a bit rude not to, as if you were not accepting the toast.
10th mistake is something new to me! I always used to raise my glass first if someone's giving a toast to me. Wonderful explanation!! Thank you!!!!
You are welcome
In certain countries it's actually the expected thing for you to raise the glass with the person toasting you. Trust me. :)
Hi Jamila i m frm India. I m a mindset coach and a mentor to aviation aspirants..I find your content is so apt and so precise for all who want to understand etiquette,manners and much more. I follow you and feel that understanding etiquettes also gives you a headsup with understanding someone's culture and lifestyles too..thanks and appreciate your good work
Thank you 🙏🏻
Toasting etiquette video would be amazing !
Your videos are very informative! Could you please make a video on the different types of glasswares used for drinks in dining? I would love to know more about that. All the best for your upcoming videos! ❤
thank you for this video! More etiquette videos please~~
Could you do a video on writing a proper thank you note? Seems this is becoming a lost art also. Thanks so much. Really enjoy your videos. Think I’ll try my hand at calligraphy. I’m a doctor and my handwriting shows it.
These are all good points.
Appreciate your video , great info .
Wonderful. Really informative. 🙂😊.
Amazing video, as always. Thank you so much!
Welcome ☺️
Yay I missed your etiquette videos hehe
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YES! We need for of this!
You are very inspiring.Your videos have had a very positive influence on me . Thank you. :)
I am happy to hear that ☺️
I feel like your videos and your voice specifically is better than psicotherapy, spatreatment or meditation! I appreciate the content, thank you!
I agree, it's so calming to watch Jamila's videos. 💜
Hello Jamila !!! I learnt soo much from you. U beautifully dressed in every vedio. 😍❤
I really loved the video ♥️
Loved it❤
Please make video, how to host guests and what to prepare as meal
this is a great suggestion!
Worthwhile informations 👍🏻
You're the most gracious woman I've ever encountered on the internet.
Thank you 🙏🏻
Number 10 was totally new for me! I'm in chock. I thought that it was the opposite 😱 that the person should drink with the other guests because that would mean that they were saying thank you
Great video!!! Keep going!!!
Love this video ❤️
it's 10:00 pm and I'm sipping some tea watching this
I feel collected after watching this
Hey Jamila! Thanks for this insightful video :) I was wondering if you could do one on 'hotel stay etiquettes'
I had NO idea about Mistake #10!!! I tought you drank in your honor to accompany the toast itself, didn't know it was rude! Thank you!
You are welcome
Hi I love your videos
Can u make a video on how to style jewelry elegantly
Thank you, very helpful tips.
Thank you!
Thnx for the video 👌👌
Yes, I choose this thumbnail 😉 thank you for sharing you are so beautiful inside out🥰
I learn a lot ❤️
My dear Jamila thaks a lot🙏🙏👸💯🥰
Amazing videos. Would like to see the video on how to keep hair clean and tidy please.
Thank you 🙏🏻
Thank you Jamila. I love your content, I'm sure my life will change for the better with this.
Very useful thank you❤
You're welcome 😊
Hi, Jamila. If you don't mind I would like to see a video about having good pose for your photograph in any occasions (formal or nonformal. Thank you! ❤
By the way, great video as always 👍
Thanks so much ❤️
Thank you ma'am.