Bodybuilding & Relationships: A Guide to Supporting the Competitor in Your Life | Ep.6
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- Опубліковано 10 тра 2024
- In this ultimate guide, you’ll learn tips and advice on how to support the bodybuilder in your life. We cover everything from mental health, to show day etiquette. If you are in a relationship with a bodybuilder, or you have a friend or family member who competes in bodybuilding, this video is for you! Whether you're new to the world of bodybuilding or an experienced supporter, this guide will help you become an even better ally to your loved one.
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00:00 Introduction: Bodybuilding & Relationships
03:00 Tip 1 Don't Touch Their Food
07:40 Tip 2 Learn What A Tie-In Is
09:35 Tip 3 "They LooK Great"
11:20 Tip 4 Don't Be A Coach Or A Judge
13:01 Tip 5 Be Ready For Prep Brain
15:12 Tip 6 Sympathy Cardio
18:25 Tip 7 Don't Engage
21:54 Tip 8 Know When To Pull The Plug
24:56 Tip 9 Be Ready For Show Day
26:56 Tip 10 Be Proud
31:01 Natalie's Bonus Tip
33:05 Giveaway Time!
This was such a fun conversation with hubby George… I hope you guys enjoyed it.
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What if only one person (husband) is the BB and not the wife. She feels left out and disconnected in her marriage at about 5 weeks out? What then?
George’s stories had me laughing so hard! Thank you for that. Your video has brought much joy to my day!
One thing I do for my husband when it is obvious he’s struggling with something, I tell him that I see him, I see he is are having a hard time, what can I do to help? Sometimes something so simple can relieve so much stress for him. Sometimes, he just needs to reconnect with me to make him feel better. It’s easy to get lost in your own head when you’re focused on a goal.
I hope to see you both in more videos! I appreciate all the content you provide. ❤
Thank you so much for sharing.
Aw thank you! I am glad you enjoyed it! That is a great tip and something that would be super helpful in any relationship!
Wow! You hit it out of the ballpark with this one. I was getting teary-eyed. This is a must-see for partners of anyone prepping. You and George complement each other so well. I'm not a bodybuilder but my advice would be to watch this video :) You covered so many great tips, Loved "not to touch their food", and "sympathy cardio". I think being educated as to what your partner is going through, appreciating how hard it is, and being willing to be their rock when times get tough. I'm so happy you have George supporting you on this journey.
Aw thank you so much. I am so happy you got something out of this. I think your tip "being educated as to what your partner is going through, appreciating how hard it is, and being willing to be their rock when times get tough" is fantastic because as I read it I realize that applies no matter what journey you are on...not just bodybuilding. Thank you!
Thank you so much for sharing! I'm pretty lucky to have him in my life.
Such a fun video. You guys nailed what it’s like to be in a relationship with a competitor. Love it. I’ll be sending Kevin this video in a few a few months to remind him of all 10 tips!
Thank you! I need to do a special tip #11 for Kevin....learn how to take photos properly hahaha
@@GeorgeRitchieMatthews yes!!! Photographer is a very important job that he has zero skills for!
George is seriously #husbandgoals!!! lol! As a married woman in my 50s, I’m seriously impressed with his self-awareness and willingness to admit mistakes and be honest about the whole experience.
Natalie, you also always display great self-awareness. You seem like a really solid couple. 💕
Thank you sooo much! he is the best!
Awe thank you so much. That means a lot!
@@GeorgeRitchieMatthews Great job on all your support for Natalie in this very challenging sport. And it was nice to see she was able to return the favor during your athletic competitions too. I love the positive dynamic between you two.
@@calisongbird she helped me so much during all my "adventures" I couldn't have done it without her!
Agree! It's so sweet to see two really amazing and self aware people that are truly committed to the relationship and to each other. Love this! He's a rock when she needs it. That's really what partnership is all about - when both people support their partners' goals.
Y’all are the cutest! Loved the humor in this from you two.
My hubby helps by hiding all the tempting snacks. When we’re a month out and I can’t have rice cakes anymore, he hides them. Yes, rice cakes are craved that deep in prep lol
My best tip for supporting your person is to come up with date ideas that aren’t going out to eat. Like bowling, window shopping, or a black coffee or tea date. To be their advocate when they are bringing Tupperware food to work restaurant meetings. Oooh so excited for double chocolate chip!
We need to be better about non-food dates. You know we are foodies, so its hard for us to think of anything else hahaha I like your other tip too...she has brought her food to some of my work functions and they have a very hard time understanding haha
Love these Ideas! Thank you so much for sharing beautiful.
Awesome to hear from both sides of the coin. One of the ways my partner helped me push towards and accomplish my goals was to have small achievable steps. It split the big goal into steps we celebrated. One day we went bowling, another day a hike or a scuba day...all as rewards we used as motivators, healthy together time and as a symbol of an accomplishment.
That is an amazing idea. We might need to steal that! Thank you!
I love these sooo much!
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I love how your husband is so supportive. I'm prepping for my first competition and I've noticed my boyfriend is showing some insecurity. He's acting like he is going to be supportive but I know him, he doesn't like it. Whether he likes it or not I'm going to do this. I'm glad I'm noticing this behavior because it's showing me his true colors and maybe I'll be making a decision on the relationship soon. In the meantime I feel amazing and love the results I'm getting. Maybe I'll meet you soon, and when I do I'll give you a big hug because you are my support while I'm on this journey. Thank you 🙏☺
Love this! So needed. You both are so supportive of each other.
Thank you for watching!
You guys are so great! I love the sympathy cardio lol🤣 One tip I would give for anyone going through prep or anyone supporting someone going through prep is to find time to meditate regularly, even if only for a few minutes. It is easy to get caught up in all of the things we need and want to do that it all becomes so overwhelming. This is when it helps to take a moment to meditate and let your brain unwind. @youdrillthemout
I like that one!! I've been doing the non-sleep deep rest you Nidra. I try to get Natalie to do it with me...maybe you can talk her into it hahaha
This is a great tip! Thank you so much for sharing 🙌🏽
I love this. Last year when my twin sister did her first prep, I also figured out ways on how to best support her and I can resonate with most of the things you and George mentioned. One thing I'd add is: take pictures on show day. From the glam up process to show day check ins to her time on stage, I documented it all. And she was so glad she had those pictures to look back on. Show days go by so so fast and most people don't remember to take any. :)
I like that one. We actually just realized when we were looking for thumbnail pics that we do not have many pictures of show day and we have almost no pictures of us together! Thank you for an awesome tip!
Love it!! This is such a great tip. Like George said we barely have show day photos together because we are always running around and forget.
These are great tips and with a few tweaks can be applied to anyone starting a fitness journey!!! 🙌🏼
Oh lordy - I have prep brain and I'm not even on prep!! 🤣😅
Great video as always!
Haha sometimes it happens 😅🤣
Increaseimg macros always helps with my mental clarity! I coach nutrition, teach people how to adjust macros and live a healthy and balanced lifestyle.
Such a great video! Thank you Ms. Natalie and George, you are so fun to watch together! 🥰
Thank you! I am glad you enjoyed it!
I love Natalie. I love George. I LOVE Natalie + George! I always enjoy your videos but I started following you right when you were posting about your trip to Puerto Rico. Then we had the California road trip and vlogmas with your vegan stories. So whenever you post a video with lots of the both of you it's always an extra special treat. This was really cool because even though I follow you, Natalie, I don't compete or know anyone who does, so all the little extras in this one are cool to hear.
Aw Thank you so much Laura! That means a lot. I love that you enjoyed the video.
Aww thank you sooo much! I'm always nervous about being in the videos. Congrats on winning the giveaway!!!! So happy that you won!
@@GeorgeRitchieMatthews Thanks! I'm so excited to see what's in the box!
I truly admire the relationship you two have created together. Well said, and something that I feel is applicable in all facets of partnerships. Thanks for sharing!
Aw thank you so much
Love this Thank you !!!
Neither me or my person are athletes but Natalie and George, you inspire me to push myself and be a better version of me ❤
Aw thank you so much. That means a lot!!
Thank you so much
I love how you two support each other!! I admire both of you, so much!
Awesome tips!!!
#6 is my Favorite tip. it means a lot when a gym buddy or a significant other joins you for cardio.
Yes! It’s the best🫶🏽
This is such a great video!!!! Help with food prep!!!! So helpful!!!!
Love the regular uploads!
Thank you so much 😊
I really enjoyed this one! So needed 🙌🏼🙌🏼
I’m glad you enjoyed the video
This is such great information.!
I love this so, so much!
Such great tips! Thank you both so much❤
Thank you! I am glad you enjoyed them.
Our pleasure!
Great tips!! The two of you are so sweet together!! Thank you for sharing 😊
Thank you so much
Great video natalie! It's great to see you and george are supportive of each other
I'm very lucky to have her in my life!
Such a great segment! Just told the hubs I’m sending this one to him to check out and get some pointers!! He is my biggest fan and know he’ll do anything to support me, just like I do for him!! That’s what makes us such an amazing team!!
That’s what is all about… being there for each other 🫶🏽
That is awesome! I am so glad you shared it. I hope he gets a lot out of it and can avoid all of my mistakes haha
So wholesome 💕💕
Thank you so much
Excellent topic Natalie! Great job to both you and George. Plenty of good tips in this video.
You and George would make great relationship counsellors!🙂
Keep up the great work!
Thank you so much! As a counsellor, I could only give the same advice...find someone as nice as Natalie hahaha
@@GeorgeRitchieMatthews Now that's the best advice ever! 🙂 Keep up the great collaboration with Natalie! Thanks to both of you!
Awesome to hear from both sides of the coin and Natalie you and George are couple goals ❤Great video
Thank you so much 🙌🏽 we appreciate you
This was so good ! I was laughing out loud! Very funny and helpful.
Glad you enjoyed it!
Great Video!!
Thanks!
I love George!!! His support is incredible!!! What a great video idea. Something I would've loved in the past when prepping (before I had a partner) was someone to help prep my meals when I'm tired. I have a partner now so I look forward to having him help me cook when needed while i'm in this cut. And of course, I'll cook for him as I'm able and support him in his goals as a gym owner!!!
Yes that’s a good one!
Aww thank you! These are some great tips. I would likely get kicked out of the kitchen for trying to help Natalie cook (She's a much better cook than me). Maybe I can jump in for the cleanup hahaha
🥰🥰❤❤ What an awesome demonstration of love! Thanks for sharing!
🫶🏽 glad you enjoyed it
I just found your channel, and I am absolutely loving all of the videos, Natalie! But I specifically am very appreciative of this video because I am in my third prep right now and I’m two weeks out and for the first time in a prep I’m actually in a relationship. And although he has done a prep before for a bodybuilding competition, he hasn’t been with anyone who has been a competitor before. So I wish I would’ve found this video in the beginning of my prep so that it could help both of us but a lot of these tips are going to be so helpful for the future.
I absolutely loved this video! I am new in my journey but so excited. Can you maybe do a video about the commitment to this in hours and finance? It would be great to hear about the cost and time throughout the day/week?
Also, these tips are appreciated so I can share with my family and friends. So greatful for this Chanel
Glad you liked it! That would be a fun video to make!
Great idea!! Competitive body building is a pretty expensive sport. I think doing a breakdown video would be super cool.
First of all - ma’am. the 👏🏾 curls 👏🏾!!
Second of all I’m already deceased from the first tip 😂 you’re hilarious man!!
you do not want to get in the way of Natalie and her macros!
Thank you so much! It was a good hair day 🤣… and Omg I promise that only happened once 😂😅😅
If I ever come to a show to support, I’ll be the one carrying a safety drawer 😂
@@lindsaytoussaint lol dead!!!!🤣🤣🤣🤣
@@lindsaytoussaint hahahaha I may need to just have one with me at all times!
What a great couple and love hearing George's tips.
Thank you so much!
Thank for your support!!
Haaaa haaa omg when he was talking about contorting to see if you could see the tie ins had me rolling lmao When I first did that to my daughters they were so mortified and confused they didn’t even want to know the explanation they were like what do you even mean and I was whipping out the glute lineup photos 😂
It is very strange at first. I'm glad I wasn't the only one confused by this hahaha
hahaha every competitor has done this.
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This was sooo fun and interesting to experience :D you two are really cool people, also, quite adorable at times haha
In my case, I'm not doing prep or anything, but I'm cutting and trying to lean up currently, so I'll use your tips for me and how I treat myself!
Hope you're having a fantastic day!!
Well made and detailed video. Totally relate hard even right now on when you’re mood toward your look goes from I love myself to what the hell am I doing lol.
Thank you! It’s a tough roller coaster!
Thank you!
George is a natural. Can't believe you tried to hurt him🤣🤣🤣
I would never! lol
@@NatalieMatthewsFitVeganChef 🤣🤣
Thank you! I wouldn't be here today if that drawer didn't save me!
@@GeorgeRitchieMatthews 🤣🤣
George is so funny. Love the dry humour. Also, what a great video idea.
Thank you so much… we looked around and couldn’t find anything about supporting a competitor. We thought it would be a fun topic 🫶🏽 glad you enjoyed it 🙌🏽
Thank you so much!!
You two are blessed to have each other 💕 What a power couple! No touchy their food 😂 Even though I don’t know anyone going through prep (except you Natalie), these tips are great day to day with ANYONE tips! I’m proud of both of YOU. You live & learn. 💕 I just ordered some of the new protein powder with your discount code. Looking forward to trying it and would love to win more 😉
Thank you so much for all the support. You will love the new flavor🫶🏽
Thank you so much for your kind words and encouragement!
This food stealing story 😂😂😂😂😭😭😂😂😂 George is a great story teller. 😂
aw thank you!! Someone I know (Natalie) gives me a lot of heat that I tell too many stories and they are way too long hahahaha
hahahaha
You guys are awesome. George is a great storyteller. He made me laugh so hard, I almost peed on myself. When he said don't touch their food even if it's in the garbage disposal, I almost fell in the floor laughing.
hahaha I am glad you enjoyed it!! Thank you so much for watching!
hahahaha...he is pretty good lol
Me encantó este video! Dijeron cosas que no imaginé que pudieran pasar y me reí mucho 😂
Son lo máximo!!
He’s so funny 😂.. Natalie thank you for being the face for the vegan community in bodybuilding world .. especially for us women ..
Thanks for the video, Natalie! Very informative. Can you tell us more about your planning schedule, how you plan the days/weeks as a couple? I need to learn to plan better with my husband (we work together fulltime as dancers).
Yes 🙌🏽 definitely 💯
You guys are adorable. Interesting info too!
Thank you for your support!
The food story🤣🤣🤣so real.
not my proudest moment...but it happened lol
Ur hubby George is v supportive ☺️
Showing this video to my partner asap!!!!
My favorite go to meal has got to be a tofu scramble!
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Omg, I’m dying laughing over Rule #1. Do NOT EVER touch their food. #truth 😂
Just sent this to my boyfriend!!!!! I actually laughed so hard at this!!!! SO SO true!
Hopefully it keeps him from making all the mistakes I've made. If he plans on stealing food he will be ready with a drawer or hiding spot nearby hahaha
stapppp he will never let me forget this lol
Thank you so much for sharing, hopefully he finds value in the video.
I don’t have anyone that competes but my husband competes with himself 😂 and I do all his meal preps and encouraging. 😊. Great video!
@tenapit
Thank you so much
I love this video! I have shared this with my person but I feel like they lack passion for the sport and don’t really want to support me through the journey in a lot of ways, do you have any tips for getting them on board? My boyfriend doesn’t have any passions, goals or dreams in his life so I feel like he doesn’t understand.
I’m sorry you are not feeling support in your journey.Maybe having fun workout date and sharing that experience together might be helpful for him to understand why you love this so much. Or taking him to a bodybuilding competition, it’s super inspiring to watch, and you can educate him on how it all works.
I feel you on this one! My husband dislikes the sport. I get it, show day can be long and boring. I’m not a fan of his hobby either. We still support each other regardless, because we love the person. Having the conversation with them about your shared relationship goals, and how you need support could really help. Even if it’s guided by a couples counselor for a session or two. Having a professional doesn’t mean anything is wrong, it means you’re serious at making it the best, just like with having a physique coach.
Thank you! You are in an interesting situation. If I look way back to when Natalie and I first met, we were very different people. We were more into having fun and just living in the moment. Neither of us really had many goals, and if anyone would have asked, we would have told you how hard we were working. I think that we both just took small steps over time and continually were inspiring each other. Day by day our goals and passions got bigger and we grew together. You might just be the first one taking a step right now and it will be impossible for your boyfriend not to be inspired by your journey. You are leading by example and that is the most powerful way to influence anyone. Keep it up!
I’d love to know where you got your sweater, George.
My sweet wife got it for me for Christmas! It’s from nobull. They have a hooded version too that I’ve been eye balling!
You guys are SOOO CUTE!!!!!! I just love your authenticity!!!!! You are just Adorable🥰🥰🥰🤗🤗🤗 I don't want you to move back to Florida......😒😔🥺 I
This would of been helpful 15 years ago 😅 I remember a guy that was....well, more the conceited ego type. But everything bothered him 🙄 I couldn't handle his personality/lifestyle.
Good tips on the video.
Follow-up question for George - did he eat that morsel of food or did he put it back? 😆
😂😂😂 don’t get him going 😅
@@NatalieMatthewsFitVeganChef Fair enough! 😆😆😆
I can’t remember I was traumatized.
@@GeorgeRitchieMatthews haha 😂
Sometimes competitors (and friends, family, partners) just need a listening ear, not advice.
FACTS!
Look how pretty your hair looks ❤
Loveeee u🫶🏽
You guys are so cute
Thank you so much!
Well my comment totally disappeared. Oh well I didn't even get to read the reply 🙁
I just saw it! How did that happen???...That's so weird :( Hopefully it pops back again, sometimes UA-cam has problems.
This is my first look behind the scenes of body building and so far it doesn’t sound enjoyable.
Loved this video! I have never competed but have definitely dieted, and I felt so loved and seen when my partner made meals for me, but dinners that have individual ingredients that I can measure - like pasta and sauce and proteins not all mixed together, or burritos with individual parts laid out. It makes it so we can eat whatever we each want but also share the meal together, but I can track what I need to!
And I’ve never tried LivBody! Fingers crossed!! (Sorry I’m a little late to this video!) @Kaylamakesokaythingssometimes
That was some great tips. I just started with a online Vegan coach. I'm in the cutting phase right now to lose body fat. I am seriously hungry some days. I went from eating tons of carbs to cutting way down. Boosting protein and fat. Changing body composition at 60!! My tip is for your person to just be there. Not saying anything and letting them vent on the hard days. Don't bring things into the house that they can't eat. Try to eat that stuff away from home. I just reposted it just in case it doesn't show back up! @rocknrobin62
So impressed that you’re making changes at 60! Keep up the great work!
You are super inspiring 🫶🏽
Such a great video! My partner has been great and so supportive, including making sure I have Epsom salt and candles for recovery baths. @jenzveganlife
ouuuu I love that! "take notes George" lol
thats a good one!
BEST 👏🏼 PART 👏🏼 OF 👏🏼 MY 👏🏼WEEK. ☺️🥰🥳🤍❤️
Thank you so much ❤ so happy you are here!
@@NatalieMatthewsFitVeganChef- You’re welcome! Me too!! ☺️🤍💯
I love this video!! Amazing tips thank you so much 💖 Me and my husband are lucky enough to have been able to help each other through a prep and learned a lot during it.
My tip: We supported each other by meal prepping for each other while prepping so after working long days food was ready to eat!
We also helped each other by taking care of the kids needs so they didn’t feel like we were too busy for them. That is why we choose not to compete at the same time ( we learned that lesson at our first show 😂) @azddavis
haha Natalie would not like it if I meal prepped for her. It would be a disaster!
@@GeorgeRitchieMatthews 😂😂
I love this video idea so much!! My tip is to plan small surprises for your partner 🥰 For prep you would probably need to avoid food lol but little things like sending flowers, picking up a new trinket that you know they will like, getting coupons for a couples massage, whatever will make them smile! @xamandamae
These are some great ideas. Thank you so much for sharing.
Amazing video .. I have only competed during 2 seasons and my husband has been the best always .. and that helped a lot .. I think my tip would be for that supporter to be authentic and cared that means a lot for the one competing 🥰🥰❤❤ @angemir
So true 🫶🏽
This was funny and so true! It’s great that you guys did it together. My tip would be just listen, not that you need to respond sometimes we just need to get something off our chest. @Elaine.q.silva
Great tip! So true.
I could improve on this. I like to talk too much and try and fix everyones problems instead of just listening.
I love this video! I am about to start my first prep and this video had a lot of great advice! I also love watching your videos, you are so happy and positive all the time. Since this is my first prep I don’t have a tip but my favorite of these ones was Natalie’s tip. @sarahdrulias_
Good luck on your first prep!
Good luck on your journey! First prep is the best prep🫶🏽
A tip i would give is don't reflect your own insecurities on the person you're supposed to be supporting. @tweety102880
love this
so true...thats a good life skill!
I really enjoyed this video! My tip is to visualize yourself congratulating your partner on their win, and try to feel as if it's aready real, or affirm for their win and happiness every day! 🥰 @kriss_shaman_queen
Thank you! I like this a lot! I am a huge believer in visualizing the outcomes you want! Natalie has taught me a lot about vision boarding and day dreaming about the future.
@@GeorgeRitchieMatthews that's awesome, I wish you guys a great season!
Love that!
@@NatalieMatthewsFitVeganChef thank you!! And thanks for your videos 💪🥰
I’m deep in improvement season and my partner makes it point to plan dates around restaurants I want to eat at for my free meals. He also knows what days those are or asks me if I want to plan a dinner around one. @aribbfit
Omgosh that's sooo sweet!
It's so nice when you can enjoy restaurant trips! Those days are my favorite!
Yes! I’m vegan and he’s not so I appreciate the thoughtfulness of going to these fun vegan spots ☺️
Best tip.. MORE HUGS -- If you KNOW their love language is words do that, if it is physical touch do that, if its keeping things tidy - be more mindful of that. take the love language test it helped hubby and I so much @emylougall
I’m all about hugs!
We recently took the love language test! It’s super cool. Definitely helpful to understand each other’s love language
@@NatalieMatthewsFitVeganChef my hubby is acts of service so making sure the fridge is tidy is big.. where mine is words 💓💓 give me all recognition when I do clean the fridge 😂😂
@@EmylouGall love that!
My best tip is to help your person carry their bags/ luggage etc on show day and bring them flowers! ❤
I def support this!