Yes,yes,yes. Things have gone wrong for so long right now I'm in a really good place and I just expect it blow up any minute yet I try to stay calm and enjoy the quiet right now
Yes I have strong sense of foreboding. Today it was there and getting myself ready to get food in, I felt like I was walking through treacle or like I'd had a sleeping pill because getting dressed leads to going out. I had to fight myself to get ready. Still didn't go to the shop though.
One expects the worst because the individual may have been placed in the most traumatic situations and they have no REAL support system in place and are getting financially, psychologically and possible physically abused by not only their family, but society. So, in essence, they are already conditioned to think the worst because it has been horrible for decades.
Pretty much on point. After my experience's I've had throughout my life my brain is conditioned to anticipate the worst. After I was targeted then gangstalked it became worse. They then use the trauma an triggers to keep you in this negative state of existing. Then use the trauma they intentionally caused as a weapon against you to convince you something is wrong with you an you need help. Sick game but that's what it is.
@@ABar83376 You are spot on ! They will use your victimization against you to keep you down, poor, controlled and contained ! It is highly calculated, orchestrated, psychopathic, and downright criminal ! Often money and intimidation/antagonizing/fear/gaslighting are used as weapons to control ! Keep speaking your TRUTH and I hope you are now free of that ! I can relate to it because I have been terrorized too and it came from all sides (Internal- family + external-society) ! Have a good night and be safe !! 💪👍
and the problem is..A LOT of people won't understand(especially on the internet/social media). When you go through mental illness/things like CPTSD,it's a lonely existence because so many people don't understand or even worse,REFUSE to understand😔
It has been a lifetime of plans thwarted by some kind of serious event occurring at the same time. Mostly those associated with pleasure or fun. To avoid chaos everything became spur of moment or serendipitous. No plans, no disappointments. Career work went otherwise well. Enjoy the small things, home is sanctuary, a boring day with no chaos is a great day.
Thank you Michelle thats been the programming my whole life both narcissistic mother AND stepfather..they made it their mission to make me feel like sh*t on a constant daily bassis I often wonder thank God Im not insane for all the mental and physical abuse I endured. Thank you because you have explained where these thought patterns of mine come from its a comfort and also empowering that it CAN be changed!! We deserve that!! ❤
In tears❗❗❗Finally someone who understands❗❗❗Thank you❗❗❗I struggle with enjoying the beautiful times because of the fear that something horrific is right around the corner. 😭😭😭
THIS!!!!!!!! Once again you've created a nuanced video that demonstrates detailed understanding. I've struggled with this ALL of my life. My father would PUSH so hard. He'd tell me what to do, though often, not how to do it. If I failed, I got indifference or he'd change the goalposts so the meaning of the outcome evaporated. The result being that I didn't achieve anything, even when I did. I'm 48 and struggling to achieve simple things, though NOW, and almost for the first time, I understand what's wrong. Thanks for your content!!! It's supplemented, acknowledged and reinforced the work that I've been trying to do on myself for 40 years.
Hey Michele could u do a video on learned helplessness and how to go from being sooooo externally focused to internally focused and how to trust yourself?
Wow! This opened my eyes so much. I'm currently at the moment in my life, where I realised that I'm not living they life I want, but changing feels so difficult. My inner critic ends up showing up, I get emotional reactions from my body, it feels terrible. Now I understand why.
One of the best tricks I learned many moons ago was to talk to myself as I would a good friend; to be kinder to myself. This is a very useful tool and I applaud it being mentioned here.
I left my narcissistic partner more than 10 years ago. I was with him for 16 years and had 2 sons with him. Your videos are a God send to me. I love that you focus on the person left behind rather than the abuser. I am starting to understand myself and why I have had such a difficult time because of how my brain has been changed by the abuse. Thank you so much!
Hypnosis helped me with this the most. I had to literally re brainwash my self to even begin to change these negative, self defeating thoughts that were programmed into me in the first place.
You have helped me so much. Thank you and my God you are beautiful. Inside and out. Thank you for helping me out of the fog. I can't relay in words how much you helped me. Thank. You.
Thank you so much for this video. Your explanations are clear and meaningful. I have been doing your PDF : I miss me and I want me back. I'm precisely in this part of the process where I am examining each injury and learning to be the parent to myself that my parents and grandparents couldn't be. I hadn't realized before this process how much I hung on to these hurts. I didn't know how to let them go. I thought I had to let them go. I'm beginning to realize that what they did to me and my siblings is not okay. It was unhealthy. I thank God everyday that he led me to you. I hope you know how many people you help. I got away from my NPD in February last year. Every day since although difficult has been a blessing. I have learned to say no and am learning to speak up for myself. Thank you, Michelle.
Hey you’re one of the better narcissism channels. Just check your thumbnails for consistency, expecting is spelled wrong on this one. Want you to get more views
I said yes to all questions I suppose being bashed everyday for 11 years gave me an impending sense of doom for everyday. I had criticisms everyday. 5-15 inclusive. My stepfather would bash me and say at the sametime that somehow my real father impregnating women 1500 miles away was my fault. He'd bash me with fists and 1" dowel rods blaming me for those pregnancies. I grew up scared of women.
Could u do a video on why when u do something for yourself u feel selfish? Like why do we feel like that? Or u feel guilty ALL THE TIME and just blame yourself
Yeah that's what makes certain people narc bait they exploit people that have this quality. They study people an test people to see if those qualified for their program are worth the abusing for their amusement. It far more systematic then people would ever suspect.
My catastrophizing happens due to my grandson and daughter. She is so dependent on her abusive young man who has ignored a court order to stay away after really hurting her, and 2nd arrest. Trauma bonded. Alienated. Isolated. Defensive of him.. It makes me ill.
I am not ok. Feel very abandoned and alone. Don't want to think my kids could also be narcs like their dad and my dad and my siblings (all but one and my mom died and she wasn't one) but it feels as such...I am feeling extremely vulnerable and scared. My kids even though grown and left (left for far away places probably due the horrible abuse their dad put us through here but their dad also abandoned them too and moved away in 2004). But I did so much for all three and here I am alone listening to these videos. I am hoping to get a counselor this week. But I am so scared. No family really now, and just feel like I can't trust anyone. My son wondered if I wanted to come to Aus this year? I have no ability to feel safe with him and his wife after this event that happened in 2017- she is divicive and mean to me. My son once said he thought she was jealous. I know my son never kept his word on paying for things - like rent etc...here till age 29. Now he's THRIVING in Aus and he wants me to come out? I feel so unsafe - she hasn't been nice and my whole body's nervous system did flight /flight just thinking about it. Crying so much. So many losses.
Yes,yes,yes. Things have gone wrong for so long right now I'm in a really good place and I just expect it blow up any minute yet I try to stay calm and enjoy the quiet right now
Yes I have strong sense of foreboding. Today it was there and getting myself ready to get food in, I felt like I was walking through treacle or like I'd had a sleeping pill because getting dressed leads to going out. I had to fight myself to get ready. Still didn't go to the shop though.
If you are sensitive you have to learn to distinguish when you are picking this up from others
I grew up in my teens with my uncle. He would criticize me on everything I did. He was also very emotionally and physically abusive.
One expects the worst because the individual may have been placed in the most traumatic situations and they have no REAL support system in place and are getting financially, psychologically and possible physically abused by not only their family, but society. So, in essence, they are already conditioned to think the worst because it has been horrible for decades.
Pretty much on point. After my experience's I've had throughout my life my brain is conditioned to anticipate the worst. After I was targeted then gangstalked it became worse. They then use the trauma an triggers to keep you in this negative state of existing. Then use the trauma they intentionally caused as a weapon against you to convince you something is wrong with you an you need help. Sick game but that's what it is.
@@ABar83376 You are spot on ! They will use your victimization against you to keep you down, poor, controlled and contained ! It is highly calculated, orchestrated, psychopathic, and downright criminal ! Often money and intimidation/antagonizing/fear/gaslighting are used as weapons to control ! Keep speaking your TRUTH and I hope you are now free of that ! I can relate to it because I have been terrorized too and it came from all sides (Internal- family + external-society) ! Have a good night and be safe !! 💪👍
I can understand
and the problem is..A LOT of people won't understand(especially on the internet/social media).
When you go through mental illness/things like CPTSD,it's a lonely existence because so many people don't understand or even worse,REFUSE to understand😔
It has been a lifetime of plans thwarted by some kind of serious event occurring at the same time. Mostly those associated with pleasure or fun. To avoid chaos everything became spur of moment or serendipitous. No plans, no disappointments. Career work went otherwise well. Enjoy the small things, home is sanctuary, a boring day with no chaos is a great day.
as your subconscious, it's recommended to reconnect your directions as she said 😊
Thank you Michelle thats been the programming my whole life both narcissistic mother AND stepfather..they made it their mission to make me feel like sh*t on a constant daily bassis I often wonder thank God Im not insane for all the mental and physical abuse I endured. Thank you because you have explained where these thought patterns of mine come from its a comfort and also empowering that it CAN be changed!! We deserve that!! ❤
I love how you speak to healing and how your content and voice tone are encouraging, educational and non-judgmental. You have a great gift.
In tears❗❗❗Finally someone who understands❗❗❗Thank you❗❗❗I struggle with enjoying the beautiful times because of the fear that something horrific is right around the corner. 😭😭😭
Your voice is so calming and you seem so humble 🥰 thank you for sharing all these informations.
THIS!!!!!!!!
Once again you've created a nuanced video that demonstrates detailed understanding.
I've struggled with this ALL of my life.
My father would PUSH so hard.
He'd tell me what to do, though often, not how to do it.
If I failed, I got indifference or he'd change the goalposts so the meaning of the outcome evaporated.
The result being that I didn't achieve anything, even when I did.
I'm 48 and struggling to achieve simple things, though NOW, and almost for the first time, I understand what's wrong.
Thanks for your content!!!
It's supplemented, acknowledged and reinforced the work that I've been trying to do on myself for 40 years.
This video is so insightful, kind, and encouraging, thank you!
Thank you Michele and you look very lovely today
Hey Michele could u do a video on learned helplessness and how to go from being sooooo externally focused to internally focused and how to trust yourself?
You’re really great at breaking this down bit by bit w logic thank you and please please keep it up 🙏👍💕
Wow! This opened my eyes so much. I'm currently at the moment in my life, where I realised that I'm not living they life I want, but changing feels so difficult. My inner critic ends up showing up, I get emotional reactions from my body, it feels terrible. Now I understand why.
I think I need to rewatch this video at least weekly!! Thank you 😊
RssrWwWwWWAWwwW xDdzddzdzszsWe
I7o877666455
One of the best tricks I learned many moons ago was to talk to myself as I would a good friend; to be kinder to myself. This is a very useful tool and I applaud it being mentioned here.
‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️
😭😭
🧚🧞🧜🤽🧟🧛🧙🧑🔬🤵🕵️👳🧑🦰
✨🥲👁️🌟😓😀😊🤬🙄‼️😭
Thank you for this video. I hadn't realized the roots of my catastrophizing. I look forward to meditating on this as part of my practice.
Michele you are amazing and have helped me beyond anything I could have imagined. Thank you for these videos. You are a God send
I left my narcissistic partner more than 10 years ago. I was with him for 16 years and had 2 sons with him. Your videos are a God send to me. I love that you focus on the person left behind rather than the abuser. I am starting to understand myself and why I have had such a difficult time because of how my brain has been changed by the abuse. Thank you so much!
Her instructions r very helpful becoz she is knowledgeable, empathetic, practical, and plain spoken.
Hypnosis helped me with this the most. I had to literally re brainwash my self to even begin to change these negative, self defeating thoughts that were programmed into me in the first place.
Great video; thank you, Michelle.
You have helped me so much. Thank you and my God you are beautiful. Inside and out. Thank you for helping me out of the fog. I can't relay in words how much you helped me. Thank. You.
question:does CPTSD include suffering from intrusive thoughts?
I'm so glad you made this video Michele! 😅
How do you differentiate between catastrophizing and real intuition ?
Don't judge it till you are in a calm state then you will know always observe the bad before judgement
I know they will Epstein me if my book gets popular
I think catastrophizing is felt more in the head and heart, while intuition is felt in the gut
Thank you so much for this video. Your explanations are clear and meaningful. I have been doing your PDF : I miss me and I want me back.
I'm precisely in this part of the process where I am examining each injury and learning to be the parent to myself that my parents and grandparents couldn't be.
I hadn't realized before this process how much I hung on to these hurts. I didn't know how to let them go. I thought I had to let them go.
I'm beginning to realize that what they did to me and my siblings is not okay. It was unhealthy. I thank God everyday that he led me to you.
I hope you know how many people you help. I got away from my NPD in February last year. Every day since although difficult has been a blessing.
I have learned to say no and am learning to speak up for myself. Thank you, Michelle.
F.E.A.R Forgets the greatness of God Envisions the worst possible outcome possible Accepts defeat before the fight Rejects God's way out
Hey you’re one of the better narcissism channels. Just check your thumbnails for consistency, expecting is spelled wrong on this one. Want you to get more views
Really great content last few weeks. Thanks Ms Michelle! 🙂
Awesome! I love the way you always explain
Excellent video!
I said yes to all questions
I suppose being bashed everyday for 11 years gave me an impending sense of doom for everyday. I had criticisms everyday. 5-15 inclusive.
My stepfather would bash me and say at the sametime that somehow my real father impregnating women 1500 miles away was my fault. He'd bash me with fists and 1" dowel rods blaming me for those pregnancies.
I grew up scared of women.
Could u do a video on why when u do something for yourself u feel selfish? Like why do we feel like that? Or u feel guilty ALL THE TIME and just blame yourself
Yeah that's what makes certain people narc bait they exploit people that have this quality. They study people an test people to see if those qualified for their program are worth the abusing for their amusement. It far more systematic then people would ever suspect.
My catastrophizing happens due to my grandson and daughter. She is so dependent on her abusive young man who has ignored a court order to stay away after really hurting her, and 2nd arrest. Trauma bonded. Alienated. Isolated. Defensive of him.. It makes me ill.
4:40 Yeah, a badly programmed super ego
I am not ok. Feel very abandoned and alone. Don't want to think my kids could also be narcs like their dad and my dad and my siblings (all but one and my mom died and she wasn't one) but it feels as such...I am feeling extremely vulnerable and scared. My kids even though grown and left (left for far away places probably due the horrible abuse their dad put us through here but their dad also abandoned them too and moved away in 2004). But I did so much for all three and here I am alone listening to these videos. I am hoping to get a counselor this week. But I am so scared. No family really now, and just feel like I can't trust anyone. My son wondered if I wanted to come to Aus this year? I have no ability to feel safe with him and his wife after this event that happened in 2017- she is divicive and mean to me. My son once said he thought she was jealous. I know my son never kept his word on paying for things - like rent etc...here till age 29. Now he's THRIVING in Aus and he wants me to come out? I feel so unsafe - she hasn't been nice and my whole body's nervous system did flight /flight just thinking about it. Crying so much. So many losses.
Happy July 4th!
Check spelling in thumbnail
Beton. TY
Interesting. But what if the world is bad and doesn't offer any real good things?