Catastrophizing How to Stop Making Yourself Depressed and Anxious Cognitive Distortions
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So it’s very hard to stop after in the last 2 yeas loosing my vision, my marriage, fighting alzheimers with mom and loosing her, getting robbed to stop catastrophizing. As a mattrr of fact I think my life is a grade a catastrophe and what else can I think?
I don’t think I’m actually capable of separating Scientific data from my thought process but I do understand the question. Ok. . . Everything in italics are quotes from experts within their respected field.
As far as I understand it my feelings about abrupt climate change are both logical and data driven. Perhaps it’s not the rational response (?) but Catastrophizing (at least to me) does seem reasonable.
“The amount of heat we have put in the world’s oceans in the past 25 years equals to about five Hiroshima bombs of heat, every second, day and night, 365 days a year.”
That’s a very important analogy because it helps us visualize the level of destruction happening to our Earth’s system. Abrupt climate change is warming our oceans and is the primary cause of “ocean acidification.”
“Scientists estimate that 50-80% of the oxygen production on Earth comes from the ocean. One study for example, found that water in some parts of the tropics had experienced a 40 to 50 percent reduction in oxygen.”
And so it’s logical to conclude that we are destroying the very earth systems that keep us alive. . .
“Billions of tons of carbon are locked away in environments that are currently being destroyed.”
The pace at which climate change is occurring verses the speed at which human activity is required to stop it seems rather unrealistic at this point.
Mark Twain once said. . .
“History may not repeat itself but it sure does rhyme.”
I think that was his savvy way of saying history basically repeats itself. Remember the cognitive inertia thing?
Alright enough negativity for now. I hope at least some of your questions have been answered. Keep doing what you’re doing it’s important. 😊
I love this! Thank you so much for sharing.
And yes. Absolutely. Your thoughts about climate change are logical and data based. I will certainly not argue that.
I do have a question for you, if you're up for it :)
How do you feel when you think, "we are destroying the very earth systems that keep us alive"?
And why do you think that thought makes you feel that way?
(ps. I have that thought too, which is partly why I'm curious about how it affects you!)
Is burts bees all you use?
My question is about climate change and its possible connection to catastrophizing.
The human impact on biodiversity is so profound that scientists say the Earth's sixth major extinction event (i.e., the Anthropocene epoch) is already underway.
Add to that cognitive inertia which in clinical and neuroscientific literature is defined as humanities lack of motivation to generate distinct cognitive processes needed to attend to a problem or issue.
Then. . . we have abrupt climate change (sudden, detectable and rapid warming within the span of a single human lifetime) problem to contend with.
Tell me; knowing all of this how can we realistically have hope for our future and the future of our children?
This is so brilliant! Thank you so much for sharing.
Look at how gorgeous and powerful your brain is. Look at the evidence you can give me for climate change. Look at the evidence you can give me for the need for catastrophizing!
Your brain is like Yes! Yes! Yes! I hear you catastrophizing is not healthy, but here's all my evidence for why I need to be catastrophizing!! If I don't do it, we are in serious trouble! Yes! I am totally with you.
This is such a beautiful example of what are our big fabulous brains do :-)
I want to challenge you. Can you set aside all of your evidence for just a moment... And tell me the answer to two questions:
1. When you believe "climate change is inevitable and I need to panic for my children" How do you feel? What happens in your body?
2. When you feel that way, what do you do? What do you not do? What do you say? Would you not say?
When you are in a panic about climate change and are convinced that it is important that you panic about that, what happens to you? How do you feel? How do you act? How do you show up in your life? How do you talk to other people?
If you can answer these questions honestly, I think you might begin to see the point of this video :-)
And I want to be very clear, I'm not challenging your facts or your evidence. I'm simply challenging whether or not the beliefs you're holding are helping you achieve what you want to achieve. I'd love to hear back from you if you'd like to continue this conversation. Thank you so much for sharing!
Imagine that you’re on a boat sailing towards oblivion. The only logical recourse would be to turn back now before it’s to late. There’s just one problem. Your boat is sinking and you haven’t enough time.
Sailing towards oblivion represents our worlds leadership and their lack of acknowledgment about the eminent consequences of abrupt climate change.
Turning back now would represent our leaders acknowledging the above statement and taking immediate action.
The sinking boat represents how we are currently living beyond our means. You can’t have infinite growth in a finite system. It is unsustainable.
Not having enough time represents the theory of cognitive inertia or perhaps abrupt climate change denialism (?) in moving towards a zero carbon future.
Hope that helps. 🙂
That's an amazing visualization. Thank you.
If you're enjoying this chat, I'd love to keep going deeper!
The "you" on the boat... if it's me, or you, or any normal person... Do we have any power in your mind? Or are we simply passengers and witnesses?