My biggest problem with the unemployment crisis is whilst I can't find a job, a great deal of misery in my life has been caused by incompetent people who can't do their jobs properly.
I have Audhd, Dyscalculia and moderate ME/CFS. As much overwhelming shame and guilt I feel about myself for not having a job, I openly admit that my mental and physical health is always at its best when I'm not working. I found this out by having various jobs and periods of unemployment in the past. There isn't a day that goes by where I don't wish that I have the brain and body to do a full time job. It's a hard pill to swallow.
@ShudBstudyinRN Have you ever had the opportunity to work part time? I know how hard holding down a FT job is with ADHD, and possibly autism (as yet undetermined). I am fully aware that without medication, I could not do the job I do. It leaves me feeling like I'm always balanced on a knife edge, trying to keep myself from tumbling off. The NHS is effed, and it's only cause I have the job that I can afford to pay privately to have my "annual" reviews. 😂 I've not had an NHS review since I was diagnosed in 2018, but I am on the list. 🙄 Anyway, sorry about the rant. 😅 I was just wondering if you might be better off getting something part time, if your health is up to that, and if it doesn't eff up any benefits you might be on. Job or no job now, you've clearly tried really hard to manage living a "normal" life with a not "normal" level of difficulty and I don't think you need to feel guilty or ashamed in concluding that you're not able to work like people who don't have your rake of difficulties. Society sets a norm which we struggle with immensely.
@Not_a_number_ All of my jobs apart from one have been part time and they still burnt me out to the point of making active plans for unaliving. Even jobs I've really enjoyed and we're good at. Toxic environment and people forced me to leave, which is a shame. Yeah, living on benefits isn't fun or great for the self esteem, but I've accepted that without them I would either be homeless or dead. Accepting that my self worth is not tied to paid work is an ongoing issue I'm working on with my therapist but it's requiring a lot of deconstruction of indoctrination from childhood. I hope you are not kept too long on the list and life works out for you. How do you handle your job? Does it fit with your needs and accommodate you?
Have you considered self-employment? I'm 69, so went through the school and work system years before Nancy, when it was probably a bit easier to survive it. But I became pretty much unemployable when I was 30, and started my own business. It wasn't a great success, but I survived and had quite a good life, working long hours at home on my own, with some visits to clients for social connection, and freedom to pick my own hours so I could have time off during the day, and work when I felt like it. It's a shame I didn't discover my AuDHD until my working years were over, or I might have been able to have achieve more.
I adore the energy from both of you. The hope, the logical reality of our future and the kinds of people that we are. How we are the best candidates to get ourselves out there. Thank you for your wonderful attitudes.
Thank you so much for this - what an AMAZING interview - what an AMAZING woman. You’re a great interviewer too - letting your guests express themselves
The Genius finder is £42. It used to be free. I’m all for charging business for corporate services but how are individuals who are under employed or unemployed supposed to afford this? And employers won’t pay for an individual to do the self assessment.
I didn’t go to school between year 7 and 9 - I only went for gcse because I was told I’d never get a job. Even with that I was exactly the same I was late 30s before I was any where near my level of job. Now I’ve had a hysterectomy at 42 I feel like I’ve gone backwards- 10 year waiting for assessment for neurodivergence
Good video, but slightly flawed statement by your guest, when she says there might have been 4 or 5 neurodivergent kids in a classroom coping with school in the 80s and 90s. That isnt true at all. There was PLENTY of sensory assaults in the school system then. For a start the fluorescent lights, the harsh bell, the screaming , rushing noise of people everywhere, the cigarette smoke permeating spaces outside the staff room, the school dinners being cooked, the smell of weird and probably now banned disenfectants..... And that's before anyone gets started on appalling teachers and bullying from other kids... . That's why there's a high amount of gen xers who have trauma and substance issues because of being undiagnosed and being forced to cope in just as noisy and sensory assaulting school environment as today. School is a terrible place if you're neurodivergent and not able to have any adjustments.
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'Omg I thought you'd be dead by now!' and 'this is 20 years worth of healing' - I can relate haha! Great discussion thanks.
My biggest problem with the unemployment crisis is whilst I can't find a job, a great deal of misery in my life has been caused by incompetent people who can't do their jobs properly.
I know that feeling!! Do you know what kind of work you're looking for?
I have Audhd, Dyscalculia and moderate ME/CFS. As much overwhelming shame and guilt I feel about myself for not having a job, I openly admit that my mental and physical health is always at its best when I'm not working. I found this out by having various jobs and periods of unemployment in the past. There isn't a day that goes by where I don't wish that I have the brain and body to do a full time job. It's a hard pill to swallow.
@ShudBstudyinRN
Have you ever had the opportunity to work part time?
I know how hard holding down a FT job is with ADHD, and possibly autism (as yet undetermined). I am fully aware that without medication, I could not do the job I do. It leaves me feeling like I'm always balanced on a knife edge, trying to keep myself from tumbling off.
The NHS is effed, and it's only cause I have the job that I can afford to pay privately to have my "annual" reviews. 😂 I've not had an NHS review since I was diagnosed in 2018, but I am on the list. 🙄
Anyway, sorry about the rant. 😅
I was just wondering if you might be better off getting something part time, if your health is up to that, and if it doesn't eff up any benefits you might be on.
Job or no job now, you've clearly tried really hard to manage living a "normal" life with a not "normal" level of difficulty and I don't think you need to feel guilty or ashamed in concluding that you're not able to work like people who don't have your rake of difficulties. Society sets a norm which we struggle with immensely.
@Not_a_number_ All of my jobs apart from one have been part time and they still burnt me out to the point of making active plans for unaliving.
Even jobs I've really enjoyed and we're good at. Toxic environment and people forced me to leave, which is a shame. Yeah, living on benefits isn't fun or great for the self esteem, but I've accepted that without them I would either be homeless or dead. Accepting that my self worth is not tied to paid work is an ongoing issue I'm working on with my therapist but it's requiring a lot of deconstruction of indoctrination from childhood.
I hope you are not kept too long on the list and life works out for you. How do you handle your job? Does it fit with your needs and accommodate you?
Have you considered self-employment? I'm 69, so went through the school and work system years before Nancy, when it was probably a bit easier to survive it. But I became pretty much unemployable when I was 30, and started my own business. It wasn't a great success, but I survived and had quite a good life, working long hours at home on my own, with some visits to clients for social connection, and freedom to pick my own hours so I could have time off during the day, and work when I felt like it. It's a shame I didn't discover my AuDHD until my working years were over, or I might have been able to have achieve more.
I adore the energy from both of you. The hope, the logical reality of our future and the kinds of people that we are. How we are the best candidates to get ourselves out there. Thank you for your wonderful attitudes.
Thank you so much for this - what an AMAZING interview - what an AMAZING woman. You’re a great interviewer too - letting your guests express themselves
Again another amazing episode.....packed with such important and impactful information....thank you Nancy for your dedication to our community.
So happy to find this!
The Genius finder is £42. It used to be free. I’m all for charging business for corporate services but how are individuals who are under employed or unemployed supposed to afford this? And employers won’t pay for an individual to do the self assessment.
Agree. As an Australian there's no way. I'd love to access it, and I love everything in this video. It makes so much sense to me.
I didn’t go to school between year 7 and 9 - I only went for gcse because I was told I’d never get a job. Even with that I was exactly the same I was late 30s before I was any where near my level of job. Now I’ve had a hysterectomy at 42 I feel like I’ve gone backwards- 10 year waiting for assessment for neurodivergence
Good video, but slightly flawed statement by your guest, when she says there might have been 4 or 5 neurodivergent kids in a classroom coping with school in the 80s and 90s. That isnt true at all. There was PLENTY of sensory assaults in the school system then. For a start the fluorescent lights, the harsh bell, the screaming , rushing noise of people everywhere, the cigarette smoke permeating spaces outside the staff room, the school dinners being cooked, the smell of weird and probably now banned disenfectants..... And that's before anyone gets started on appalling teachers and bullying from other kids... . That's why there's a high amount of gen xers who have trauma and substance issues because of being undiagnosed and being forced to cope in just as noisy and sensory assaulting school environment as today. School is a terrible place if you're neurodivergent and not able to have any adjustments.