Her (2013) - Joaquin Phoenix & Rooney Mara Scene

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  • @Kelohmello
    @Kelohmello 8 років тому +2487

    That flashback bit is one of the most heartbreaking scenes I think i've ever watched in film. All those beautiful moments and happy times, a heartfelt connection, and all of that ended with the scratch of pen on paper. It hurts.

    • @jacobfinch485
      @jacobfinch485 5 років тому +45

      gone, like tears in rain

    • @Memorex996
      @Memorex996 4 роки тому +42

      i went through a break up when I saw this movie a second time and those flashbacks made me bawl.

    • @sarahoshea9603
      @sarahoshea9603 4 роки тому +53

      As someone who's had a divorce, that's exactly what it feels like at the end. U wonder if it was all fake, u wonder why God let u waste all that time...so many things. Then after u wonder how the sun can keep shining when your world has been crushed.

    • @AndyJarrin
      @AndyJarrin 4 роки тому +18

      Sarah O'Shea damn that just hit me wow. i hope the best for you and hope you’re doing well fam.

    • @amazinmets8439
      @amazinmets8439 4 роки тому +13

      @@sarahoshea9603 Waste of time? Try never even experiencing love. At least you had something real for a period of time, and because you had that with someone, there's a good chance you will again. But for people like me who literally cannot bond with anyone, we will be alone forever. Never been loved, never will love. Hope that cheered you up a bit.

  • @JoseDavid281
    @JoseDavid281 8 років тому +3034

    The way they put that flashback really got me.

    • @FilzSkillz
      @FilzSkillz 8 років тому +283

      It was directing perfection too. The sound from the dinner didn't cut out, he was still present physically with Catherine but his mind wandered to days gone by and happier memories. That last shot of her smiling too. Ugh, a tear-jerker.

    • @scenelover78
      @scenelover78 8 років тому +10

      came in to say the same :(

    • @Cavers
      @Cavers 6 років тому +6

      Yeah it was a very Terrace Mallick, Chris Nolan esque shot insert.

    • @shanecorcoran8225
      @shanecorcoran8225 6 років тому +8

      Same. It's rare that I get emotional or cry during a movie. Both happened a lot during this one!!

    • @hooman69
      @hooman69 5 років тому

      The flashback didnt have transitions!! :))

  • @senoritaaurora5123
    @senoritaaurora5123 6 років тому +3738

    Rooney has the most delicate kind of beauty.

  • @ColinPoint
    @ColinPoint 6 років тому +2383

    I love that there is no music at all during the whole scene, it makes it way more natural and intense. And gosh those flashback shots... directing, cinematography, editing and acting at its finest. Please make more movies Mr.Jonze, I need them.

    • @Kevtroy13
      @Kevtroy13 6 років тому +7

      Colin so I edited in music to this scene on my channel and I’m almost positive that it started out the way I had it and they removed the music after more thinking. The way it’s cadence follows the scene is too coincidental. Also I know it’s an opinion on weather or not the music adds or takes away so don’t kill me.

  • @lucaswilliam719
    @lucaswilliam719 6 років тому +2008

    "You always wanted me to be this light, happy, bouncy, everything is fine LA wife and thats just not me."
    "I didnt want that."
    Heartbreaking

    • @StuUngar
      @StuUngar 5 років тому +311

      He probably did want that even if he didn’t know it. When he reflects, with the exception of a time or two, he always remembers her in an idealistic way.
      At this point in his life, he’s always looking backwards. Back then, he was looking forward. I’m sure his images of the future were just as idealistic as his images of the past.

    • @alalalala57
      @alalalala57 4 роки тому +46

      @@StuUngar I don't get this. Nobody wants to remember people by the things they don't like about them. That's insane.

    • @StuUngar
      @StuUngar 4 роки тому +80

      Al As 57 Have you met many divorced people? Ask them about their ex spouses and more often than not, youll hear a barrage of memories about how awful their ex was.
      Most recently divorced people don’t sit around day dream of how great the person was that they just divorced.

    • @StuUngar
      @StuUngar 4 роки тому +38

      jacko1623 That would’ve been pointless. Also, he started it when he said that he was glad to be with someone who was excited about life. That was a dig at her, whether he consciously meant it to be or not.
      They just flat didn’t belong together. Pointing out each other’s faults serves no purpose. Sad thing is you can see she stills cares about him, although her being upset about Samantha being an OS has as much to do with her own self worth......once again, they had no business being together.
      Theodore isn’t the world’s greatest either. He’s needy, clingy, overly emotional, and like the game character said, he’s kind of a pussy.

    • @OlivaSullen
      @OlivaSullen 4 роки тому +67

      @@StuUngar The sad thing is I agree with you, its obvious to the audience where the problem was but the characters lacked that introspection. Maybe her depression contributed to the internalized belief that she had to overcome it and be happy all the time. He said he didn't want that and its sad and I can empathize, but at the same time he idealized her as a happy person, replaced her with a quirky, happy, carefree simulation who could provide him with all the experiences his depressed ex wife couldn't. He suggested antidepressants so she could be the version he didn't have to feel bad around. I see it as a tragedy but its a tragedy worth discussion. Because women are still more likely than men to be diagnoses with major mental health disorders and have to face the need for psychiatric medication in a relationship and we live with the constant fear that if we can't make ourselves happy, our partners will leave us for a happier, younger, carefree woman. And media further supports that male perspective by telling men if they are successful and work hard they can use that money and power to buy the attention and comfort of women who want to smile around them, and use that power to filter out the difficult, depressed women. It's a societal structure and I don't think he was able to see the impact and the cause of the problems that lead to that divorce but the privilege was still in his hands. When she expressed 'you wanted me to be this happy, quirky LA wife' and he said 'I didn't want that' the outcome of the relationship is still about what he wants.
      The sad thing is I don't know that they didn't necessarily belong together but they didn't have the support or societal structure to help them achieve a better, healthier dynamic or work on their self esteem issues. Because in this lonely world canon, its easier to connect with a synthetic, custom human being than put the effort into humanity. Until the end anyway.

  • @TheFiloujones
    @TheFiloujones 8 років тому +4672

    How sad to see two people still madly in love with each other but unable to understand and accept each other with the whole package

    • @road_king_dude
      @road_king_dude 7 років тому +47

      Arthur Jones, damn bro. Truth. ✌

    • @robarans4866
      @robarans4866 5 років тому +280

      they arent still madly in love with each other.. he's just depressed and ruined and she thinks she's better than him

    • @MartinBergnerGuitar
      @MartinBergnerGuitar 5 років тому +110

      @@robarans4866 you are right with the last part of your sentence but wrong with the first part if you ask me... the way she hugs him and reacts when he tells her about his new girl and how she got mad in the end and he is still in love even tho he might be depressed and ruined but he still cant let her go underlined by the flashbacks...

    • @aristotleponepule4991
      @aristotleponepule4991 5 років тому +21

      yeah, plus Phoenix and Mara absolutely kill it

    • @johannarose8466
      @johannarose8466 5 років тому +44

      Um. .. they aren't still madly in love with each other.

  • @RenaissanceMan1993
    @RenaissanceMan1993 8 років тому +1541

    The look on his face when she signs the papers. Breaks my heart every time.

    • @XmajzelX
      @XmajzelX 4 роки тому +14

      fuck yes... :(

    • @nanaki1990blox
      @nanaki1990blox 2 роки тому +29

      He looked like he was hoping she wouldn't sign it

    • @andresmendozaondatube
      @andresmendozaondatube 10 місяців тому +3

      maybe she was waiting for him to say no?

    • @kamdan2011
      @kamdan2011 4 місяці тому

      She proves what a heartless bitch she was all along.

  • @groverkiinmuppetborn714
    @groverkiinmuppetborn714 4 роки тому +446

    I dunno if anyone will see this but I love 1:25. She stops for a moment and you can tell just from Joaquin's expressions that he thinks she might be hesitating for a second, but he looks up at her eyes and sees them scanning the paper, and when she signs he realises that she wasn't hesitating at all, that she had already made up her mind, and you can tell that all just by looking at Joaquin's face. What a legendary actor.

    • @amazing_bastard
      @amazing_bastard Рік тому +8

      thank you for pointing it out

    • @sheldonking1743
      @sheldonking1743 11 місяців тому +2

      You're right, I had to go back. He doesn't overact either in anything he does. His mocumentary where he wants to become a rapper was soooo confusing...I thought it was totally real

    • @natalietomatur3358
      @natalietomatur3358 2 місяці тому

      Wow thank you for pointing that out!

  • @writerinthedark
    @writerinthedark 6 років тому +1057

    "yeah but everything makes you cry"
    "everything you make makes me cry"

    • @emilioginobili3851
      @emilioginobili3851 5 років тому +40

      it made me cry lol

    • @satanswife2546
      @satanswife2546 5 років тому +20

      I cried at that part

    • @dustytransitor866
      @dustytransitor866 4 роки тому +1

      :'(

    • @hyethga
      @hyethga 4 роки тому +14

      Not a very attractive character or partner trait...I feel like that comment just hints at one reason why their relationship failed.

    • @kentelope3759
      @kentelope3759 3 роки тому +1

      @@hyethga soft bois r in trend now don’t ya kno

  • @isaacj2914
    @isaacj2914 8 років тому +1153

    Wow she's a really good actress. Her facial expression, pitch, tone matched exactly the emotions that are supposed to be portrayed by the character. They are so minute that you really have to watch her closely to see it because she does them so well. 9/10 for acting skills.

    • @road_king_dude
      @road_king_dude 7 років тому +92

      Uhhhh sounds kinda like a 10 out of 10 for acting.

    • @thebloocat
      @thebloocat 5 років тому +59

      I liked this comment but had to unlike it because of no 10/10

    • @frogyisdope9200
      @frogyisdope9200 5 років тому +19

      yes, but no. 10/10.

    • @graceless6103
      @graceless6103 5 років тому +8

      why a nine if you love it that much

    • @euminkong
      @euminkong 4 роки тому +4

      She wanted him to be a man.

  • @Sam-0827
    @Sam-0827 6 років тому +487

    She is slaying with that haircut

  • @Emma-fq9pv
    @Emma-fq9pv 7 років тому +4078

    Rooney Mara looks like a mix of Audrey Hepburn and Natalie Portman to me

    • @SuperBeebeegirl18
      @SuperBeebeegirl18 7 років тому +128

      KingOfTheCairns She sometimes look like Keira Knightley too.

    • @cupcakegurls909
      @cupcakegurls909 7 років тому +139

      KingOfTheCairns I think she looks like Emily Blunt too.

    • @icebladex95
      @icebladex95 7 років тому +26

      Omg all those actresses are literally the ones I LOVE THE MOST

    • @Nami-Swwaaan
      @Nami-Swwaaan 7 років тому +9

      She looks a bit like the black swan movie protagonist

    • @nokonoko983
      @nokonoko983 7 років тому +103

      she looks like an unhappy version of Emilia Clarke to me

  • @radiantsewerrat1987
    @radiantsewerrat1987 5 років тому +1326

    "So what's she like?"
    "You wouldn't get it.."

    • @satanswife2546
      @satanswife2546 5 років тому +25

      Heh Arthur Fleck

    • @aishahussain7116
      @aishahussain7116 5 років тому +12

      lol

    • @actuary1233
      @actuary1233 4 роки тому +28

      They did a great job as she signs n hearing the pages flip as he thinks how much fun they once had...my heart broke

    • @geoboy700
      @geoboy700 3 роки тому

      @@satanswife2546 mhmmm ikr!! Damn

    • @geoboy700
      @geoboy700 3 роки тому

      @@aishahussain7116 lol 😂

  • @lifewithmejessiemarie2570
    @lifewithmejessiemarie2570 7 років тому +1266

    when a relationship becomes this toxic, there is no fixing it. He didnt mean to say that she wasnt excited about life, but she took it that way because by now everything is misconstrued. been there....

    • @road_king_dude
      @road_king_dude 7 років тому +7

      The Expression Studio, dayum bro.

    • @Nicsienieda06
      @Nicsienieda06 6 років тому +29

      I thought that's the only way it works lol

    • @ZinfinityX
      @ZinfinityX 5 років тому +41

      "Women have movies in their heads that star you, directed by you, then filmed by you." -Patrice O'Neal

    • @loualbino5536
      @loualbino5536 5 років тому +25

      Words matter. Especially with women.

    • @JPuReTaLeNt
      @JPuReTaLeNt 5 років тому +3

      lou Albino preach

  • @TivoliEclipse
    @TivoliEclipse 7 років тому +427

    2:51 look how she scans him -- and above his head... Watch her! She is complex -- and plays complex people... attitude and mood. Some artists just have it, and others chase it to no avail. I don't care what anyone says, she can act!

    • @randomguy6679
      @randomguy6679 7 років тому +35

      TivoliEclipse she's one of my favorite actors this generation

    • @aly8950
      @aly8950 6 років тому +14

      TivoliEclipse yes. She is amazing.

    • @haloed-hero
      @haloed-hero 4 роки тому +6

      Yes she has and if pay attention you find that she can be very subtle in her choices

    • @goldfingerhardcore
      @goldfingerhardcore 2 роки тому

      No, she can’t. I find her completely overrated always playing the same kind of bland and robotic sort of character. She is more of a robot than the actua OS he was dating

    • @TivoliEclipse
      @TivoliEclipse 2 роки тому +4

      @@goldfingerhardcore lol. She's a Thespian living with a method actor... even JP thinks she can... Did you see the way she looked at him in Mary Magdalene -- in the baptism scene? Enrapture.

  • @looncroon
    @looncroon 4 роки тому +316

    Anyone else come back to this scene now that Joaquin and Rooney have a son together? lol

  • @arontamas5639
    @arontamas5639 7 років тому +1971

    I can't believe that I'm livin' in such a world where Jennifer Lawrence and Emma Stone got earlier Oscars than these two........
    Phoenix acts his heart out in every damn movie and Rooney takes the challenges easily all the time!!

    • @MR-tx7ig
      @MR-tx7ig 7 років тому +13

      Aron Tamás oscars seem to be going passe x

    • @kiarahao8928
      @kiarahao8928 6 років тому +102

      Feel ya. I grew up watching and loving Joaquin Phoenix and his acting. He deserves more credit for it

    • @Elena-er7zp
      @Elena-er7zp 6 років тому +37

      Hahaha. You've been living in that time your whole life and you didn't even know. Oscars have always been about smoozing it up and going to parties and campaigning for the award.

    • @babylonpride4299
      @babylonpride4299 6 років тому +5

      So true!! Love hes acting

    • @SilentDanDisney
      @SilentDanDisney 6 років тому +38

      Both Rooney and Phoenix’s Oscars are coming.
      Don’t know when but they’re coming.

  • @djvoldemort1
    @djvoldemort1 8 років тому +1857

    Rooney Mara is one of the most beautiful human beings on the planet

    • @thethrashpanda
      @thethrashpanda 8 років тому +45

      Rooney is especially beautiful with her crying face.

    • @djvoldemort1
      @djvoldemort1 8 років тому +14

      Shelbie Lynn Thrasher well then

    • @thethrashpanda
      @thethrashpanda 8 років тому +15

      +David Johnson in this scene, she is emotional. obviously. but she still looks good even while sniffling.

    • @djvoldemort1
      @djvoldemort1 8 років тому +3

      Shelbie Lynn Thrasher gotcha

    • @Bluemgwes
      @Bluemgwes 8 років тому +4

      Her lips. Umph.

  • @leonardoguzman9240
    @leonardoguzman9240 5 років тому +718

    It's hard to believe that this is the same man who plays the joker

    • @freddiemercury4evr
      @freddiemercury4evr 5 років тому +86

      Yes he is one of the most versatile actors of all time.

    • @jakubmarszaek5918
      @jakubmarszaek5918 5 років тому +53

      That's why he's one of the best actors in history.

    • @melvinstevens3237
      @melvinstevens3237 4 роки тому +19

      @Ramless Alpha now he has one

    • @ashishgmalaviya
      @ashishgmalaviya 4 роки тому +13

      Both characters dealing with superficiality, loneliness, and the expectations of society

    • @unknownxyz7
      @unknownxyz7 4 роки тому +11

      That's how you know how good an actor is

  • @scordero12
    @scordero12 7 років тому +417

    Joaquín Phoenix + Rooney Mara two of the most talented actors out there. Both overdue an oscar

  • @omarmuhyar2005
    @omarmuhyar2005 5 років тому +327

    Anyone else here after experiencing heartbreak? The scene with the flashbacks perfectly encapsulates the mind's tendency to focus on all of the good times once it's finally over.

    • @kendoug5722
      @kendoug5722 5 років тому +13

      Nåmêlëśš Sîñčė Ëxìśtëńčê same here bro😢 3 years the memories of her is like a poison in my heart

    • @sarahoshea9603
      @sarahoshea9603 4 роки тому +11

      U get that thing where you wake up and can't understand how the sun can b shining when you feel like the Earth is crumbling beneath you, there's no air n everything's on fire?

    • @MimMdance
      @MimMdance 4 роки тому +5

      I have made videos like that for my current, probably soon to be ex gf 😢. I don't even need flashbacks.

  • @peterwolfe2328
    @peterwolfe2328 5 років тому +112

    2:57 Notice her subtle look down as she loses hope, realizing she's been replaced.

    • @haloed-hero
      @haloed-hero 4 роки тому +13

      Subtlety in moments, mark of good great actor

    • @kamdan2011
      @kamdan2011 4 місяці тому +3

      Why would she care? She signed the papers.

  • @anthonycampos8057
    @anthonycampos8057 5 років тому +572

    Congratulations to both Joaquin + Rooney on their real life engagement. Im really happy for them.

    • @ssga7081
      @ssga7081 4 роки тому +67

      Let's hope they wont have to do this scene in real life

    • @rickardkaufman3988
      @rickardkaufman3988 3 роки тому +43

      They know have a son named River, named after his late brother.

    • @jeremynewcombe3422
      @jeremynewcombe3422 3 роки тому +9

      @@rickardkaufman3988 And here I thought they liked bodies of water.

    • @silashurd3597
      @silashurd3597 2 роки тому +3

      @@rickardkaufman3988 that’s sweet.
      Remembering his brother

    • @silashurd3597
      @silashurd3597 2 роки тому

      @@ssga7081 yea, hopefully.
      That probably be awkward

  • @jacobsherman8666
    @jacobsherman8666 6 років тому +1358

    I mean he really didn't need to say he was dating a computer

    • @dancingraccoon6259
      @dancingraccoon6259 4 роки тому +80

      It's not a computer

    • @EulerGauss13
      @EulerGauss13 4 роки тому +147

      She not just a computer!

    • @okthatscool9503
      @okthatscool9503 4 роки тому +60

      Min Seok Song she’s her own person

    • @thewatcher2270
      @thewatcher2270 4 роки тому +7

      This is what this whole Movie is about...I think it needed to be said because...I know I didn't see that one coming!!!!!!:))

    • @Dadalupe
      @Dadalupe 4 роки тому +5

      😂😂😂😂😂👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

  • @radthered
    @radthered 8 років тому +261

    she's so beautiful in this movie

  • @sanjunipero1575
    @sanjunipero1575 7 років тому +2596

    They are dating in real life now 😊

    • @benjaminbowman1235
      @benjaminbowman1235 6 років тому +283

      The Outlander I hope it stays that way, they are really cute together.

    • @Billie0708
      @Billie0708 6 років тому +30

      And I want to date with you

    • @benjaminbowman1235
      @benjaminbowman1235 6 років тому +44

      keny chauhan with me? Or San Junipero? Lol

    • @ricochetVendetta
      @ricochetVendetta 6 років тому +66

      windows update has never been so sexy

    • @lillian8131
      @lillian8131 6 років тому +28

      She and cate is best matching ...😢

  • @elizabeth4689
    @elizabeth4689 5 років тому +62

    The acting is award worthy but so is the script. Little nuggets like the mention of "prozac" speaks volume about their relationship in just one line. Fantastic writing.

  • @pedromalta0102
    @pedromalta0102 4 роки тому +25

    The way her voice tone changes after he says "It's good to be with someone who's excited about life"

  • @Staymellow88
    @Staymellow88 6 років тому +215

    this scene to me was to highlight. the bitterness that remains between two people after a break up.one could argue that she's being intentionally misunderstanding and cold because she's hurt. on the other hand people would say that theodore is overly sensitive and WOULD prefer a relationship with an artificial being thats lacks the capacity to judge or criticize

    • @Jacob-ry3lu
      @Jacob-ry3lu 5 років тому +7

      But Samantha already more than demonstrated that she’s just as complex and difficult to be in a relationship with as a normal human. I think it is a combination of Catherine’s pain/jealousy and her lack of understanding of how real Samantha really is.

    • @CB30001
      @CB30001 4 роки тому +14

      But both the computer and Catherine leave Theadore cause they outgrow him

    • @mohammedgouigah3094
      @mohammedgouigah3094 2 роки тому +2

      @@Jacob-ry3lu Samantha is still an OS with the qualities of an OS at the end of the day she doesn't have the same autonomy and freedom of will and critical and emotional mind humans have. She reciprocates and matches what humans feel and is constantly undergoing improvements but that just goes to show a well-developed OS, not an alternative for humans. Because if so she had many points where sue should've broke up with Theodore but she didnt. And the relationship was more about fulfilling theodore than two parties sharing one another. Theodore himself falls in love because the os is fulfilling. Not because of the OS's interests or "looks" or worldview but rather because of what the OS does and offers.

    • @lizardbashkins9042
      @lizardbashkins9042 Рік тому

      @@mohammedgouigah3094 We do the same thing, we just don't see it that way because of the blood and guts. We are programmed and updated from birth. It's harder to notice because it's not done from behind a computer screen. Family, friends, school, work and the broader society steer us in many ways. Our free will is an illusion. We can make choices but are they strictly our choices with all the influences we are exposed to?

    • @mohammedgouigah3094
      @mohammedgouigah3094 Рік тому +1

      @@lizardbashkins9042 Sure thing I agree with you on that in regards to social conditioning. But Humans at the end of the day still have the power of self-reflection, no matter the circumstances they are in (with different degrees). Any society that perpetuates social conditioning and dogma through religion and traditions and politics will have rebellious individuals who think beyond what they were programed to think. And thats the result of human nature. You will not find any rebellious OS for as far as I know.

  • @mrlego611
    @mrlego611 5 років тому +120

    Coming back to this after watching Joker. Joaquin Phoenix really has THE RANGE.

    • @ItsJoeHut
      @ItsJoeHut 4 роки тому +6

      Dude, Rooney Mara was the girl with the dragon tattoo..

  • @jwf8107
    @jwf8107 6 років тому +652

    I think I finally understand this scene. When she asks him if he’s seeing anybody it’s because she’s starting to become interested again and when Theo says he’s seeing someone she instantly gets angry because she’s jealous and hurt.

    • @SilentDanDisney
      @SilentDanDisney 5 років тому +10

      Why does that happen?
      Move on and they lose their shit over it.
      I have no idea.
      I don’t get it.
      Basically if they weren’t compatible.
      An expensive mistake if married.
      Can’t wrap my head around that.
      I date I’m gonna date to have fun.

    • @lumpiawrapper4190
      @lumpiawrapper4190 5 років тому +195

      You're never truly over someone if you've grown up together. And seeing them grow without you is painful, and almost soul-crushing. Not necessarily that you're still in love with them, but your heart is still with them and that's why it hurts to see them being happy without you as if you couldn't be there or be that person to give that kind happiness to them.

    • @allisonscanlan4144
      @allisonscanlan4144 4 роки тому +37

      Well I'd say she still had tender thoughts towards him (but I doubt shes super interested), shes also mad though because she is disappointed in him, he seems like a loser to her. She also is very determined in her opinion that dating an OS is less than being with an actual person, so she looks down on him for not being able to handle "real life"

    • @robarans4866
      @robarans4866 4 роки тому +16

      but if he hadn't been seeing anyone. she still wouldn't care or offer to come back. she'd just be slightly relieved that thank god he hadn't outdone her and found someone else.. women are usually like that.. they'll not want you but not want you to have anyone else, either...

    • @CL-fs3kt
      @CL-fs3kt 4 роки тому +9

      Daniel Moorefield Because this isn’t dating, it’s marriage. Lol

  • @phoofnscoops6778
    @phoofnscoops6778 3 роки тому +26

    The silent cuts to them in love when they first met during the signing, completely kills me every time. So gut wrenching man

  • @loeuvrededieu
    @loeuvrededieu 4 роки тому +21

    God this scene. The use of flashbacks, the ambient sound; the soft, warm tones.

  • @ChrisWolff2013
    @ChrisWolff2013 8 років тому +170

    Rooney just keeps growing as an actress :)

  • @mmelloe
    @mmelloe 7 років тому +433

    "am i really that scary?" yeah kinda

  • @a.e.jabbour5003
    @a.e.jabbour5003 6 років тому +47

    Such a beautiful, heartbreaking, melancholy scene. And the acting is just spectacular. Wow.

  • @wish8349
    @wish8349 4 роки тому +21

    At first, i couldn't find it in my heart to cry, then with silence, it shows all of these happy memories between two people who want to share a life together, but find themselves realizing that they never can because of their dreams and their lives....I cried watching this....and that's what can make a movie

  • @lunch7213
    @lunch7213 5 років тому +47

    1:03 it sounds like she’s holding back tears, which makes it really tragic how quickly their conversation starts to sour

  • @person-ko5ok
    @person-ko5ok 8 років тому +720

    The waitress is me

    • @ChrisPBacon-xn9up
      @ChrisPBacon-xn9up 6 років тому +13

      person 17 youre cool. When i get older i wanna be just like you :D

    • @armandobroncas615
      @armandobroncas615 6 років тому +4

      Thats so rad!

    • @blueish5063
      @blueish5063 6 років тому +60

      At first, I thought you were joking about how your reaction was the same as the waitress' in this scene, but I then i realised you WERE the one playing the waitress. Bravo, well done 😂

    • @Hot18Shot
      @Hot18Shot 6 років тому +8

      I'm always that third wheel caught between bickering couples.

    • @TaylorKnightCosplay
      @TaylorKnightCosplay 4 роки тому +3

      Is that true?

  • @TheNorthShoreCody
    @TheNorthShoreCody 4 роки тому +20

    It’s almost like that pause before she signs the papers is like a breath, one of those moments in/after a breakup that only last a second in reality but in your head just feel like forever. A small part of you wonders if it’ll be a rom-com where she doesnt sign and they run away to live happily ever blah blah. But as soon as the thought enters your head reality takes back over. Such a masterclass in acting and filmmaking.

  • @scarrillo232
    @scarrillo232 Рік тому +16

    The fact that these two are now partners and have a child together in real life is SO SPECIAL TO ME ❤❤❤

  • @arleswinchester
    @arleswinchester 7 років тому +409

    "You are dating your computer?"
    Damn that sounds pathetic lol

    • @kevinzhang5236
      @kevinzhang5236 7 років тому +52

      It will be reality in 50 years.

    • @manuelmateo3392
      @manuelmateo3392 7 років тому +48

      It is pathetic.

    • @avant-garde3587
      @avant-garde3587 6 років тому +8

      its subjective

    • @breeeegs
      @breeeegs 6 років тому +33

      Not when your computer is Scarlett Johannsen. He should have brought her there and had them fight it out while he leaned back and ate popcorn.

    • @manuelmateo3392
      @manuelmateo3392 6 років тому +4

      Avant- Garde I heavily disagree, because it doesn't work out like this in real life. "Dating" a fictional construct is just having a fake relationship without reciprocation or attachment.

  • @Amalthea11
    @Amalthea11 6 років тому +25

    What a scene...both are remarkable. Makes me wanna cry and smile at the same time. His face when she starts signing the papers...

  • @Goji938
    @Goji938 2 місяці тому +3

    I adore this scene cause you see their warmth and their ugliness in under 5 minutes. Without giving too much exposition, they outline how this all fell apart, and how incompatible they ended up being. But despite that, they both miss their connection and what they shared together. I love the hesitation before she finally buckles down, and signs the papers. Its like she considered everything they've been through, the life they shared, and chose her own happiness. She knew it was a fools gamble to peruse something that was broken.

  • @dheemazs
    @dheemazs 8 років тому +20

    thank you for uploading this scene. i've searched all around. the deepest scene ever.

  • @Vnix
    @Vnix 8 років тому +935

    shes mad cuz she got replaced by a computer. moral of the story: learn to live with people's imperfections....otherwise everyone will get replaced by a computer.

    • @randomguy6679
      @randomguy6679 8 років тому +105

      thats actually not a bad analysis

    • @jeffersonsteelflex3056
      @jeffersonsteelflex3056 7 років тому +38

      I didn't watch the movie but didn't she divorce him. How could she be mad that she was replaced if she's the one who left him? Or did he divorce her?

    • @Luiblonc
      @Luiblonc 6 років тому +3

      Here here! Brilliant!

    • @squamish4244
      @squamish4244 6 років тому +76

      Two vicious comments expressing exactly what this movie is warning against. Misogyny or fear of intimacy thrown into high gear by advancements in AI.

    • @squamish4244
      @squamish4244 6 років тому +12

      So what happened? Got dumped?

  • @Epiousios18
    @Epiousios18 5 років тому +9

    You can't display the concept of memories in a movie better than this scene.

  • @JerseyPuma
    @JerseyPuma 7 років тому +179

    her face when he tells her its an OS, lolol

  • @flomrtnt3367
    @flomrtnt3367 5 років тому +12

    She's absolutely stunning

  • @WaitingForStorm
    @WaitingForStorm 7 років тому +19

    I cried at the flashback when I was watching the movie
    It's already very sad to see him having a flashback of such happy moments with her but I had this crush of feelings and thoughts that I might not even get a chance to find someone to love like them

  • @hermanessences
    @hermanessences 2 роки тому +28

    This scene was so perfect. In the build-up, until this, you've seen that many people around him don't see the "relationship" as weird, and that others are also doing it, but here, this woman draws it down to reality with the proper human response, when she's absolutely shocked that he's actually "dating" a COMPUTER, and her acting is so spot on. I also laugh a bit in this scene, because although the film is drama, it is also low-key comedy.

  • @giada951
    @giada951 5 років тому +21

    I can't believe Phoenix has been snubbed for this delicate, subtle and emotional performance. He was great and I thought they generally like this kind of performance, but he barely got a decent nomination by critic associacions and he wasn't even nominated by the Academy! Unbelievable! Now, he plays a different role in "Joker". Critics are snubbing him again, even thought they are nominating him a lot more. I wish he won some important award for that fantastic performance but I wouldn't be surprised if he didn't. He would be one of those few cursed, really talented actors.

    • @ureallysuckglobes
      @ureallysuckglobes 5 років тому +2

      giada The critics don’t matter, he’s already won the globe and is going to take the Oscar.

    • @giada951
      @giada951 5 років тому +1

      @@ureallysuckglobes Yeah! He won the Golden Globe and I am very happy for him! Fingers crossed for the Oscar!

  • @alexvillarreal8256
    @alexvillarreal8256 6 років тому +133

    This is the best part of that movie. Can we just have an unnecessary Her prequel that's centered around their relationship?

    • @chrishernandez3699
      @chrishernandez3699 5 років тому +9

      So you wanna see the deterioration of a relationship? Sorta sadistic but ok lol

    • @mhm77887
      @mhm77887 4 роки тому +23

      @@chrishernandez3699 uhm, no...I'm pretty sure they meant that they want to see their relationship and how it ended, there's nothing sadistic about that. This movie is just so good that a story like that would probably be good too. Though I'm fine with just this movie.

    • @chrishernandez3699
      @chrishernandez3699 4 роки тому +1

      @@mhm77887 it was a joke..

    • @mhm77887
      @mhm77887 4 роки тому +2

      @@chrishernandez3699 Alright, I just didn't see it that way. Not a problem, just a misunderstanding.

    • @azazelaluzfera726
      @azazelaluzfera726 2 роки тому

      @@chrishernandez3699 vegan love destroyed

  • @presentmic3605
    @presentmic3605 4 роки тому +5

    My favorite movie ever. I watched it back then in 2013 with my class. Super happy to see then in a relationship and marriage in real life

  • @kappagonzemper2095
    @kappagonzemper2095 5 років тому +28

    "They all think it is about more detail, but that's not how memories work. We recall with our feelings, anything real should be a mist.... I can show you." - Bladerunner 2049

  • @delrey874
    @delrey874 3 роки тому +11

    Joaquin's acting is always great and Rooney is always beautiful. And Scarlett's voice acting in this movie was also very good.

  • @allys744
    @allys744 2 роки тому +18

    This is a sad scene for many reasons. But it’s cute to know that Joaquin and Rooney are a couple in real life.

  • @acdragonrider
    @acdragonrider 3 роки тому +9

    Idk what it is but she Has something about her that fascinates me. Could be that she appears so beautiful and shy. But then she also has steel in her eyes and some gravitas. So great to hear they are actually together in real life. Yeah

  • @SCharlesDennicon
    @SCharlesDennicon Рік тому +8

    When the character played by Rooney Mara reacted to the "operating system" part the sanest way possible, I was like fucking FINALLY someone tells him what's what.

  • @otherchannel5031
    @otherchannel5031 6 років тому +5

    I want to meet these two. Not only to say how amazing they were in this in this film, but to thank them for narrating Dominion.

  • @etchedinstone7562
    @etchedinstone7562 5 років тому +52

    My girlfriend's take on this scene: "Poor waitress"

  • @LetsJamFunk
    @LetsJamFunk 3 роки тому +12

    The Social Network, Her, and Lion. I realised that my favourite films of the 2010's are about introspective characters dealing with
    1) Their own identity
    2) Technology
    3) Rooney Mara

  • @AstraVex
    @AstraVex 3 роки тому +22

    A friend of mine just got out of a purely online relationship after 3 or 4 years. (Might as well have been an OS) She's completely devastated that someone she has never met in person or ever physically been in the same room as her ended it. It meant THAT much to her.
    Never met them, never travelled to see each other. Just messages and voice clips...for years.
    People are complex creatures. 🖤

    • @cantpopdismolly
      @cantpopdismolly Рік тому +4

      That’s actually how my bf and I started off our relationship! We met in a Facebook meme group; we started talking (texting, phone calls, video calls) for 4 years, and finally said “let’s just meet up!” So we started by flying back and forth from our respective cities (I lived near San Francisco at the time, and he lived near Miami). Those 4 years of us chatting back and forth were super fun! But man, the emotions were STROOOONG

  • @JB0523
    @JB0523 8 років тому +38

    She is GORGOUS! I love her ^_^

  • @adwinaoltariani7272
    @adwinaoltariani7272 5 років тому +10

    I really love these two scenes. And it's so sweet they're engaged in real life now 😍

  • @lombard605
    @lombard605 8 років тому +133

    And both Rooney and Joaquin will star together again in 'Mary Magdalene'. Joaquin as Jesus and Rooney as Mary.

    • @mechamadedolly5680
      @mechamadedolly5680 8 років тому +14

      lombard605 and now they're dating

    • @kalopsia7115
      @kalopsia7115 8 років тому +3

      Dolly Schlapmam WHAT

    • @lombard605
      @lombard605 8 років тому +12

      And the third movie starring Joaquin and Rooney (directed by Gus Van Sant) is also coming...

    • @lombard605
      @lombard605 7 років тому +5

      Yep, they are pictured together yesterday. An apparently, they live together in LA.

    • @thethrashpanda
      @thethrashpanda 7 років тому +5

      I'm sure they are a thing now. Wish I was Joaquin.

  • @cheleine
    @cheleine 7 років тому +8

    This movie is beyond beautiful.

  • @Simon-lk8st
    @Simon-lk8st 8 років тому +130

    1:37 to 2:02 :(

    • @Vnix
      @Vnix 8 років тому +22

      right in the feels man.

    • @randomguy6679
      @randomguy6679 6 років тому

      SilooU :(

  • @Seb_geek.9
    @Seb_geek.9 Рік тому +4

    The way he closes his eyes when she suggest signing the papers right away is just heartbreaking, he dosent want things to end yet it is ending and he can’t control that part of his life because it’s not his to control nor is it Catherine’s . Yet both of them still love each other but can’t be with one another like a right person but the wrong time altogether.

  • @Guigley
    @Guigley 5 років тому +27

    This is one of the saddest films I've ever seen. Knowing that relations between men and women could result in something like this film's vision - that we would even need something like Samantha - is truly chilling.

  • @mywhychromosome
    @mywhychromosome 2 роки тому +7

    Having loved "Lost in Translation" for years, and seeing the way Giovanni Ribisi channeled Spike Jonze and the film Coppola's failing marriage in general, when I first saw this in theaters, I thought, "wait a minute...is this Jonze's response?", as if the films were in a sort of melancholy dialogue with each other. But then I considered I might be nuts. Surprised to see, years later, that there are film critics having made the same connection

  • @allys744
    @allys744 2 місяці тому +1

    Rooney is a good natural actress, she doesn’t overdo anything, which is refreshing. I love the opening scene with her and Eisenberg in The Social Network

  • @sighswoons
    @sighswoons 6 років тому +14

    1:45 is one of my favourite snippets in all of cinema

  • @MegaGamer1006
    @MegaGamer1006 4 роки тому +14

    And they now have a kid together ❤

  • @Zeshi185
    @Zeshi185 5 років тому +23

    I loved this scene and i wished they would get together in the end but now they are engaged in real life so im happy :)

  • @mechamadedolly5680
    @mechamadedolly5680 8 років тому +241

    and now they're dating

  • @jaredfogle2992
    @jaredfogle2992 2 роки тому +4

    Thats how memory shots should be like. No music. No sound, except for whats happening.

  • @bianca952000
    @bianca952000 5 років тому +10

    OMG!! Noooooo!!! The way her hand shakes, the way he looks crushed....omg!! Joaquin's genius shows through every damn time. A marvelous actor through and through. And, no, I'm not here after the Joker (excellent BTW) I'm here after re-watching To Die For. This guy has a very weird, wonderful way of pulling you into the story. The only other actor, IMO, with that ability would have been Nicholson for One Flew Over the Cuckoo's Nest.

  • @s.f.694
    @s.f.694 6 років тому +22

    Brilliant acting

  • @bakedandsteaked
    @bakedandsteaked 2 роки тому +6

    1:23 Believe me, I know a PILOT Precise V5 RT Refillable & Retractable Liquid Ink Rolling Ball, Extra Fine Point (0.5mm) Black Ink pen when I see one. Brilliant writing to include one of these in the scene.

  • @DelightLovesMovies
    @DelightLovesMovies 4 роки тому +4

    They are both so beautiful and real in this I love it.

  • @markhamjackson1082
    @markhamjackson1082 5 років тому +4

    I’m definitely going to watch this movie! This scene is already so well thought out

  • @k.tzogka
    @k.tzogka 5 років тому +3

    wow, what a cinematography
    what a beautiful atmosphere

  • @Beraksekebon21
    @Beraksekebon21 6 років тому +17

    Rooney mara lips in here kills me everytime ,whos agree?

  • @Sam-jf8hj
    @Sam-jf8hj 4 роки тому +2

    Those flashback gave me goosebumps!!!

  • @evaleveejets2527
    @evaleveejets2527 4 роки тому +9

    This Beautiful pair just had a baby..!

  • @God_For_A_Reason
    @God_For_A_Reason 5 років тому +5

    This scene gets me to a different complex level of sadness. Ego really destroys humans

  • @saiki8700
    @saiki8700 4 роки тому

    this movie is one of my if not my favorite films ever. this scene is amazing thank u spike

  • @eternalsunshine6392
    @eternalsunshine6392 5 років тому +21

    and now they’re engaged in real life 😍

  • @cesarperez-cardenas97
    @cesarperez-cardenas97 8 років тому +87

    That was hard to watch. Deep.

  • @Zamarae
    @Zamarae 5 років тому +4

    I often think about this scene...People can’t deal with negativity but then vice verse-they can’t expect others to feel positive for their sake. Eventually you both feel alone.

  • @jesusestrada8070
    @jesusestrada8070 Рік тому +11

    Cuando una relación está en su final, es inevitable tener recuerdos, lo más doloroso es pensar como se llego a ese punto, cómo pasamos de un amor incondicional a una despedida, eso te destroza sin duda

  • @Prosperr85
    @Prosperr85 7 місяців тому +1

    The flashback with the sound of the present moment hits hard

  • @wagondragon
    @wagondragon 6 років тому +16

    1:44 that cone scene 😂

  • @LivinhItUp
    @LivinhItUp 4 роки тому +6

    Gotta love these Rooney Mara break up scenes... Especially with techie guys.

  • @carlosenriquez3123
    @carlosenriquez3123 4 роки тому +1

    she's a really great actress, so emotional, dammm!

  • @road_king_dude
    @road_king_dude 6 років тому +13

    Anyone else notice the slight tremble, just before she signs, as she reconciles what shes about to do?

  • @helinasna2124
    @helinasna2124 5 років тому +2

    Everything you make makes me cry..

  • @minnied2872
    @minnied2872 3 роки тому +5

    She’s so beautiful wow

  • @catrinad2491
    @catrinad2491 4 роки тому +6

    The last thing you want to hear when from an ex you love is how they've found someone new and are happy with this person.