I'm sorry, but this is all terrible advice. As a guy who's been a gym rat for over 15 years, I feel qualified to say that. First, no one says that you CAN'T approach women at the gym, it's just that doing so is very risky. You can get reported to management, get ostracized, or even have your membership terminated. All of which can happen after approaching just a couple of girls. I don't understand the headphones thing, because everyone has headphones on at the gym. The way you tell if she's interested or not is whether or not she takes her earbuds out/headphones off when you talk to her, or just pulls them out/off a few inches as she replies while quickly walking away. But trying to catch her at the water fountain, lobby, or smoothie station is borderline stalking. To do that you'd have to watch her throughout her entire workout, waiting for her to go to one of those places, then run over before she leaves and strike up a conversation. Which is the quickest way I can think of to get kicked out or ostracized.
Yes I agree, if you approach a random woman she could report you or and she might feel like you're harassing or stalking her but... if she's blatantly looking at you everytime you go to the gym there's nothing wrong in approaching her, in that case she's probably attracted to you or interested in getting to know you
Whilst its something i have never done before and probably never will , considering most people just want to do their workout and leave. Whilst its better than meeting at bars - I'd keep the interactions at Run Clubs (or group fitness classes) where people are more open to being social. You'll only get banned from the gym if you go around saying "nice a**" / follow her around the gym. Nothing wrong with making an interaction at the nearby smoothie or coffee shop if you happen to see her. Yes some have blasted innoccent guys for "creeping" on them, but thats A) Ragebait and B) people with a presense on OF.
Oh, it was worse than that: "I saw we made eye contact, so I thought I'd say hello." Literal cringe! How can it be that women are so awful at giving dating advice? Are they purposely trying to sabotage men?
@@gordongekko2781 I guess she is assuming the guy is very attractive, probably a fantasy women have about being hit on by chads. This will not work for an average guy.
@@gordongekko2781 @dookjade3238 It is actually decent advice that will work just fine. As long as you are above average in looks, that is. I feel like she does give generally give advice that works. As long as the guy is her attractiveness.
I seem to attract a lot of women’s attention, given I’m 6’5”, have broad shoulders and an athletic build, but I get turned off by their attire, I’m an evangelical Christian, so I’d like my future partner to dress modestly (I don’t what to change anyone, I want accept them as they are). I’m extroverted and use to speaking to women. I speak to women at the gym, mainly asking them when will they be done with the apparatus or weight (that’s the extent of it). I have a rule of I have nothing good to say I say nothing at all.
News flash: most attractive women at the gym have headphones in or on the entire time. Unless it’s 2 or more girls working out together. Edit: You should still try to talk to girls who have headphones in/on is my point. I've done it, they just take them off. I'm just highlighting that her advice is terrible because it does not map the reality that a lot of people listen to music while they workout in 2024.
@@justinheiple I'd modify that to most Attractive women are going to be unavailable for one reason or another and I would agree with that. And I'm not saying I wouldn't approach a girl with headphones in, I have and guess what, they take them out and you proceed. I'm just pointing out her bad advice.
I finally build up the build courage to approach a girl in the gym! Thing we're going well she was blushing then I asked for her Snapchat and she gave it! Sadly she wouldn't give me her phone number but a win is a win! Was talking for a good day and the conversation went really well then she ghosted me and never returned... Did approached another girl at the gym and got her insta but she never added me back so we never talked... I'm going MGTOW now 😂
So according to you, taking 1 f***ing minute at most from your routine to approach a cute woman will destroy your life… Just how sacred of rejection are you?!
A few months ago, I saw a reel on your Instagram about the same topic, in which you told you met your 'fiance' at gym. So glad now you both are married. Wishing a great life ahead🔥❤️
I am a stunningly gorgeous man, with a 220 lbs muscular physique, I have never approached at the gym, I get a lot of attention and women walk past me to get my attention ALL THE TIME, I give them none, I’m there to work out, I believe in compromising, the rare and only time I will approach if she shows extreme interest in me, only, I’m the hot one at the gym, and I carry myself as such
@@frankgeez6584 That was the least sensical thing she said. EVERYONE has headphones on at the gym. The way you tell if a girl is interested at all is whether or not she takes them off when you approach her, or does the whole, lifts it a few inches off her head as she quickly walks away while giving a vaguely relevant reply thing. Spoiler alert: either way can mean she's not interested.
So rule number one : change your schedule to spy the woman and arrive/go out of the gym exactly at the same moment as her. Otherwise, it's not the moment... 😂😂
Hi Blake, i appreciate your content, would you consider making a video on building a connection with a girl, as a reserved person i always struggle with that 😅
Guys especially in the U.S. don't pay any attention to women in the gym. It is a place you go to workout and be comfortable get involved with women there could ruin that. I wish the women would just stay out of my local gym most are just there to get attention to stroke their ego's. I did not always feel this way but the modern day B's are just a joke. Just because she is at the gym does not mean she has anything in common with you at all she is probably just as shallow and self centered as the rest.
I use to ignore people period at the gym unless I had to interact with people. I am sure before starting to workout strictly from home to avoid the drama and bull corn and fake gold digger or social status seekers and materialistic shallow minded women; there were probably one or two ladies in my life that might have liked me at a gym. But I will never know and okay with that. I have been working out from home for past 6 years or so. I do agree about the one-strike rule and other stuff you say here. I agree about approaching women anywhere the rules and expectations you mentioned are applicable. I do subscribe to your channel and follow you on Instagram and one other platform. You are correct on many things. But I am too old unfortunately for any of this to be considered useful probably?
Never had luck with talking to girls at the gym. In fifteen years I've never noticed more than five girls looking over at me or otherwise giving me a signal they would like me to approach. Not everyone is going have women wanting them to approach. Sucks for someone like myself who is interested in active women, but it is what it is. There is only so much you can do make your self more attractive.
I'm a fairly attractive guy and I've only gotten the green light once, possibly twice, in the past 3 or 4 years, so you're not alone, bro. Also, I don't even think she gave good advice. Wait for the "go" signal, then interact with them on multiple occasions before making your intentions known -- that seems like a great way to be the "nice guy" who never gets a date.
Same, 15 year gym rat and I can count on one hand the number of times girls have shown interest in me. That number is far outweighed by the number of times I've been pulled into the managers office, had memberships terminated, or been ostracized. It took a while, but I finally realized that the gym is a terrible place to meet a potential partner, regardless of how good of shape you're in.
I used to say hi to a girl who used to work in the same office. One day in an office party she came to me and while I was drinking beer and also offered her. She was telling me about her to me and I listened to her and told her bit about my self. She asked me to dance with her which I told her I have to meet another colleague who was waiting for me next to us. She then told me to come and join later. I didn’t go as I don’t know how to dance and there were lots of other colleagues. One as I was working in clients place she also used to visit frequently. One day she had visited and saw me exiting the office and came to talk to me. I thought she was going to the enter the building for some work. As I just said hi and walked away she got a shock and she haa which I could hear. The other reason was that I was really upset on that day as one of the client employees had told me something personally. Later I quit the office and joined the client. Covid came and I didn’t see her since then. Heard many people got affected as client pulled out the projects.
Q: about one-strike rule. But it doesn't work for too long right? I can ask again if enough time has passed (like half a year), by this time she may have forget me already )
That's the safe tactic, but will likely never get any results. Then again, the only results you'll likely get from approaching will likely be getting pulled into the managers office, getting your membership terminated, or getting ostracized, so the wise move is to not take action.
One "technique" I used to do often was to check a chick I like without her noticing, once I noticed a flaw in the exercise technique I'd ask her like "Do you mind if I share some advice regarding this exercise?" and I'd start the conversation from there ;)
OK, today, after six months of eye contact, I’ll finally try to say hello to my gym crush!
how did it go?
@@topcat2574 ‘I hAvE a BoYfRiEnD"
@@G_G249 lmao probably what she said 🤣
@@G_G249 They all do and also have side man!
Same about to try tommorow
I'm sorry, but this is all terrible advice. As a guy who's been a gym rat for over 15 years, I feel qualified to say that.
First, no one says that you CAN'T approach women at the gym, it's just that doing so is very risky. You can get reported to management, get ostracized, or even have your membership terminated. All of which can happen after approaching just a couple of girls.
I don't understand the headphones thing, because everyone has headphones on at the gym. The way you tell if she's interested or not is whether or not she takes her earbuds out/headphones off when you talk to her, or just pulls them out/off a few inches as she replies while quickly walking away.
But trying to catch her at the water fountain, lobby, or smoothie station is borderline stalking. To do that you'd have to watch her throughout her entire workout, waiting for her to go to one of those places, then run over before she leaves and strike up a conversation. Which is the quickest way I can think of to get kicked out or ostracized.
This is true fuzzypanda
Yes I agree, if you approach a random woman she could report you or and she might feel like you're harassing or stalking her but... if she's blatantly looking at you everytime you go to the gym there's nothing wrong in approaching her, in that case she's probably attracted to you or interested in getting to know you
Whilst its something i have never done before and probably never will , considering most people just want to do their workout and leave. Whilst its better than meeting at bars - I'd keep the interactions at Run Clubs (or group fitness classes) where people are more open to being social. You'll only get banned from the gym if you go around saying "nice a**" / follow her around the gym. Nothing wrong with making an interaction at the nearby smoothie or coffee shop if you happen to see her. Yes some have blasted innoccent guys for "creeping" on them, but thats A) Ragebait and B) people with a presense on OF.
“Hey ive seen you here before so i wanted to introduce myself”-solid advice from the pits of Hell
Oh, it was worse than that: "I saw we made eye contact, so I thought I'd say hello." Literal cringe! How can it be that women are so awful at giving dating advice? Are they purposely trying to sabotage men?
@@gordongekko2781 I guess she is assuming the guy is very attractive, probably a fantasy women have about being hit on by chads. This will not work for an average guy.
@@gordongekko2781 @dookjade3238 It is actually decent advice that will work just fine. As long as you are above average in looks, that is.
I feel like she does give generally give advice that works. As long as the guy is her attractiveness.
It works.
@@gordongekko2781 Pretty good advice if you ask me. Shows you don't have a hidden agenda.
I seem to attract a lot of women’s attention, given I’m 6’5”, have broad shoulders and an athletic build, but I get turned off by their attire, I’m an evangelical Christian, so I’d like my future partner to dress modestly (I don’t what to change anyone, I want accept them as they are).
I’m extroverted and use to speaking to women. I speak to women at the gym, mainly asking them when will they be done with the apparatus or weight (that’s the extent of it).
I have a rule of I have nothing good to say I say nothing at all.
It really depends what region in the US you are in. The Georgia, girls love talking. In NY, its get in, get out, smash at the nightclub.
News flash: most attractive women at the gym have headphones in or on the entire time. Unless it’s 2 or more girls working out together.
Edit: You should still try to talk to girls who have headphones in/on is my point. I've done it, they just take them off. I'm just highlighting that her advice is terrible because it does not map the reality that a lot of people listen to music while they workout in 2024.
naturally, those women are tired of being bothered by hundreds of low-level, needy guys asking for their number. Wouldn't you be too?
Most isn’t all. Talk to the ones that don’t. Statistically most women are always going to be unavailable for one reason or another.
Definitely not approaching a group.
@@justinheiple I'd modify that to most Attractive women are going to be unavailable for one reason or another and I would agree with that. And I'm not saying I wouldn't approach a girl with headphones in, I have and guess what, they take them out and you proceed. I'm just pointing out her bad advice.
@@alespogacnik Hey Pog, follow these easy steps: 1) Read my original comment
2) Comprehend
3) Have a Relevant Reply
Why is the burdan of performance yet again on the man?
I finally build up the build courage to approach a girl in the gym! Thing we're going well she was blushing then I asked for her Snapchat and she gave it! Sadly she wouldn't give me her phone number but a win is a win! Was talking for a good day and the conversation went really well then she ghosted me and never returned... Did approached another girl at the gym and got her insta but she never added me back so we never talked... I'm going MGTOW now 😂
guys, don't approach woman at the gym, focus on your workout
Exactly what my son's say, they don't want to be approached there: working out hard.
Really the best advice
Men if you’re that guy, they will approach you if you’re fine
Trust me - focus and bam
Finally some sane and smart comments under a YT video
No you can. Just go about it the right way and be careful.
So according to you, taking 1 f***ing minute at most from your routine to approach a cute woman will destroy your life…
Just how sacred of rejection are you?!
This is the reason MEN need to IGNORE women dating coach.....
she say things she never have done herself in her live!!!!
Next video - grocery store
My reaction after watching these videos is always, 'Maybe it's better if I never talk to any woman again.'
Well nothing will work unless she likes you too. & i did all of the things right.
What happened?
@@marcusknoll9500 Bro won't reply he is in prison
@@dakshjain7493 o shit
@@marcusknoll9500 What else outcome can we expect as instructions were unclear first one had to be you should be handsome
Spilled my coffee
A few months ago, I saw a reel on your Instagram about the same topic, in which you told you met your 'fiance' at gym. So glad now you both are married. Wishing a great life ahead🔥❤️
Thanks I’ve noticed a woman who looks at me and comes over to workout next to me. I’m kinda kicking myself for not doing something
Not yet too late if you see her again at the gym :)
Saw her again, smiled at her and think I got a smile back. Still didn’t approach as it didn’t feel right. Next time.
Bro, the fuck. That isn’t her shot
You just look badass and she will make the better attempt
Believe me
She worked out right next to me. Which she didn’t really have to because the gym is big enough. Women don’t approach though so it’ll have to be me.
@@alexflips393 that’s true
You got this
I am a stunningly gorgeous man, with a 220 lbs muscular physique, I have never approached at the gym, I get a lot of attention and women walk past me to get my attention ALL THE TIME, I give them none, I’m there to work out, I believe in compromising, the rare and only time I will approach if she shows extreme interest in me, only, I’m the hot one at the gym, and I carry myself as such
"Don't ask the fish how to fish. Ask the fisherman" -i forgor who
Seriously 😂 her take is dumb
The best thing she said - headphones means she doesnt want to talk
@@frankgeez6584 That was the least sensical thing she said. EVERYONE has headphones on at the gym. The way you tell if a girl is interested at all is whether or not she takes them off when you approach her, or does the whole, lifts it a few inches off her head as she quickly walks away while giving a vaguely relevant reply thing. Spoiler alert: either way can mean she's not interested.
While the comments indicate her advice is bad... I would much rather have a woman's perspective than a guy's. I want to know what SHE would want.
This video is toxic. When it comes to the time, you gotta do what you gotta 👌
So rule number one : change your schedule to spy the woman and arrive/go out of the gym exactly at the same moment as her.
Otherwise, it's not the moment... 😂😂
Hi Blake, i appreciate your content, would you consider making a video on building a connection with a girl, as a reserved person i always struggle with that 😅
It's "Blaine"
So why did you accept your husband's proposal of date ? What was soon good about it ?
this video is hardcore friendzone advice 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
she just wants to be looked at, but she doesn’t.
everything is on point, imma actually sub. keep up!!
🙌
I want to hear how your husband approached you at the gym.
It's a lie. It's business chip. She is promoting her garage advice. It's called marketing. Don't believe everything you hear. 💯 of the time its a lie
No offense but this is lame!
Guys especially in the U.S. don't pay any attention to women in the gym. It is a place you go to workout and be comfortable get involved with women there could ruin that. I wish the women would just stay out of my local gym most are just there to get attention to stroke their ego's. I did not always feel this way but the modern day B's are just a joke. Just because she is at the gym does not mean she has anything in common with you at all she is probably just as shallow and self centered as the rest.
We are usually there cuz of breeakup or pent up stress from life
Bitches is the last thing in my mind
Most girls there are vain as fuck anyways
Thankyou 👊
I use to ignore people period at the gym unless I had to interact with people. I am sure before starting to workout strictly from home to avoid the drama and bull corn and fake gold digger or social status seekers and materialistic shallow minded women; there were probably one or two ladies in my life that might have liked me at a gym. But I will never know and okay with that. I have been working out from home for past 6 years or so. I do agree about the one-strike rule and other stuff you say here. I agree about approaching women anywhere the rules and expectations you mentioned are applicable. I do subscribe to your channel and follow you on Instagram and one other platform. You are correct on many things. But I am too old unfortunately for any of this to be considered useful probably?
2:05..... creepy
Never had luck with talking to girls at the gym. In fifteen years I've never noticed more than five girls looking over at me or otherwise giving me a signal they would like me to approach. Not everyone is going have women wanting them to approach. Sucks for someone like myself who is interested in active women, but it is what it is. There is only so much you can do make your self more attractive.
I'm a fairly attractive guy and I've only gotten the green light once, possibly twice, in the past 3 or 4 years, so you're not alone, bro. Also, I don't even think she gave good advice. Wait for the "go" signal, then interact with them on multiple occasions before making your intentions known -- that seems like a great way to be the "nice guy" who never gets a date.
Same, 15 year gym rat and I can count on one hand the number of times girls have shown interest in me. That number is far outweighed by the number of times I've been pulled into the managers office, had memberships terminated, or been ostracized. It took a while, but I finally realized that the gym is a terrible place to meet a potential partner, regardless of how good of shape you're in.
I used to say hi to a girl who used to work in the same office. One day in an office party she came to me and while I was drinking beer and also offered her. She was telling me about her to me and I listened to her and told her bit about my self. She asked me to dance with her which I told her I have to meet another colleague who was waiting for me next to us. She then told me to come and join later. I didn’t go as I don’t know how to dance and there were lots of other colleagues. One as I was working in clients place she also used to visit frequently. One day she had visited and saw me exiting the office and came to talk to me. I thought she was going to the enter the building for some work. As I just said hi and walked away she got a shock and she haa which I could hear. The other reason was that I was really upset on that day as one of the client employees had told me something personally. Later I quit the office and joined the client. Covid came and I didn’t see her since then. Heard many people got affected as client pulled out the projects.
this video has solid advice. I've been thinking about this since I heard you talk about the gym on Lauren Compton's podcast.
Or let them approach you.
They never do lol
One problem though is that if you get rejected and you hope to have a chance with someone else from that gym is you may ruin that chance
I’m in a big city and would never have this problem. I don’t even think I see the same people at the gym like ever
This is a GREAT vid!!
Q: about one-strike rule. But it doesn't work for too long right? I can ask again if enough time has passed (like half a year), by this time she may have forget me already )
I don't think so....... I think you have to try whit another woman
Ah… yeah, just don’t
I can listen to that smile say anything
Tacos yes!
Usually, I am waiting when a lady will approach first but they are not so active. Nice subject to discuss
Waiting tables?
That's the safe tactic, but will likely never get any results. Then again, the only results you'll likely get from approaching will likely be getting pulled into the managers office, getting your membership terminated, or getting ostracized, so the wise move is to not take action.
One "technique" I used to do often was to check a chick I like without her noticing, once I noticed a flaw in the exercise technique I'd ask her like "Do you mind if I share some advice regarding this exercise?" and I'd start the conversation from there ;)
sorry this is not great advice. pretty cringe
Tell them you are MGTOW usually works for me if not tell them you are poor.
Smoothie bar? What gym you be going to ?!😂😂
rich one that her husband pays for.
Thx for the video its so helpful :)
glad to help!
Great story Blaine❤
thank you :)
@@DatingByBlaine Whatta smile ! You go girl. M
Don't go to Gym,