Am I Dating An Avoidant? (Avoidant Attachment Style)
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- Опубліковано 15 вер 2024
- Am I dating an avoidant? Do you wonder if you are dating someone with an avoidant attachment style? It can be confusing trying to figure out what attachment style your partner may be. In this video I look at some signs and symptoms that you might be dating someone with an avoidant attachment style.
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My boyfriend who is how my husband didn’t give me a key to his apartment until AFTER 2 years of dating. Yes, he’s avoidant. We didn’t get married until 8 years of dating. I’m anxious. It took ALOT of years of patience, understanding, and honesty to get him to understand me. He still has avoidant tendencies but at least I speak up and express what he does. I adore him.
I am an avoidant , at least there’s hope ! Most run for the hills 🤣
I love my boyfriend but, when. He leaves, it is devastating!!
He also run. Back to an abusive ex wife and it destroys me every time. It's not just the leaving but, not even calling or texting me at all. Does any of this sound familiar?!
That’s because he is low on the spectrum, you took a chance and could of wasted your time like many people
@@evaollie9208true! I wish more secure/anxious people see your comment because I remember when I saw comments like "my avoidant change after time for better" I was so depressed and questioning why he run away from me and even everything was very good (and I was patient, understanding etc.)
So weird that this is exactly what I needed to hear right now... got dumped a week ago after 6 months of declining commitment, and have been blaming myself! But she's a total avoidant, and the more she ran the more I panicked. Thank you for your videos❤
jenni3111 yes! Anything in the 300 dollar range would be amazing
I realized I was dating an avoidant after watching your videos. My girlfriend rarely communicated about the relationship. She said she was too busy to talk but I saw her talking to friends on social media. She said she rarely knew her ex. She also seemed scared of conflicts. She posted emotional quotes on her wall rather than talk about her emotions. I broke up with her because she wasn't willing to work with me on these issues.
Good for you my man. How did that work out for you?
@@TheBlanco951 great because I found she did the same thing to other men. I eventually found a girlfriend who really loves me.
@@kingkong905 congratulations dude! just remember to continuously work on yourself and make sure that she does the same.
@@TheBlanco951 it was hell dating an avoidant. I have an anxious attachment style so her absence made me very paranoid. I was confused and hurt she was avoiding me. I listened to people other than Craig and made a big mistake. One guy suggested I wait until she talks to me. It's ok advice but waiting can only do so much especially when she was lying and unwilling to get help. I tried dating her again and she blocked me for no reason.
@@kingkong905 dude that really sucks. I suggest letting her go for good. delete her from your life. more importantly.....go on dates with women that are truly into you.....trust me on this because its going to be a lot of fun if you know what i mean.....bow chicka bow wow
on a side note. wait like a month before you start going out on dates. that said, trust me you will do just fine in the market if you just keep your head up. you will feel relieved and you will begin to question whether you even want to get back with her. I say this from experience....i've dated avoidants. if you like keep in touch and let me know about your progress.
I'm dating an avoidant. She ghosted me twice so far. Once for three months then one month. I just figured out she was avoidant and upon a come to jesus talk, she agreed she was. With that realization we can now address the issues we have.
I just came across your videos and now know I’m dating an avoidant. I am classic anxious. I read the book Attached and it opened my eyes. Problem is that I’m five months into this thing. So 90% of me knows I have to leave and I am. The 10% is sad and really wants to try because some days he doesn’t seem as bad. These people are destructive. Why do they continue to date when they know they aren’t ready for anything real. I tried to do the responsible thing by taking time to heal from my long term relationship of ten years before dating. I feel like he just set me back and now I’m back scared to even give anyone else a try because I’m scared I’ll get trapped again by one of these types.
Yea they totally waste our time and they should just be honest and single.
Me too
You hit the nail on the head. I was secure turned anxious after dating an avoidant...now I'm questioning everything about how to judge a persons character and my walls are up... not willing to allow anyone in and too scared to give anyone else a shot. My avoidant ex has damaged me so much that I'm now going to therapy and watch how to get my ex back videos haha.
@@bradleylauterbach2415 haha I relate to your comment so dam much. It's everything I'm feeling right now
@@bradleylauterbach2415 Same here dude, literally parallized by my last avoidant relationship. Hopefully you began to open up, and if so, care to share how?
I think if you developed a series of workbooks on how to overcome avoidant or preoccupied attachment styles and get into the stable attachment style matrix, I think that would be wonderful and very helpful.
I noticed that as I progress in my recovery I get turned off by avoidant tendencies (and I was really attracted to them before). Now I get mad when I see how people purposefully ignore me. like if you hate me so much, just stay away from me! Why do you need to pull off this illusion of a relationship? Find someone who is less emotional and expressive if you so much dislike it. I just learned to walk away. And surprise-surprise, these people are like "hold on, where are you going to, I thought you'd be around forever!" They look strong and confident as long as you are around, showering them with love and admiration, and when you walk away they become lost and confused. But really, how can you be so insensitive and expect me to tolerate this endlessly? Very selfish people.
Elena, I wish I would feel like you and get turned off! I have had a lot of those "relationships" and many turned out to be narcissists disordered men. Because in the beginning they were obviously not avoidant in order to seduce me and hook me. Currently I am long distance with a man who is pulling away, after having been very close in person and he had been very affectionate and loving. I guess there is some manipulation, conscious or not, because in the beginning he knew how to seduce me and make me feel loved, but I think it is when I started to show I was hooked and in love, and waiting for a relationship, he started the pulling away and coldness, withdrawal of affection... It doesn't really feel like a relationship because the emotional connection has almost disappeared. I feel like he's testing my attachment, am I going to stick around for emotional crumbs? I agree with you on the selfishness, they are very immature people, self-absorbed, even if they fear intimacy and closeness.
Sarah M last two of my relationships were with narcissists, they are much worse than simple avoidants. Screw them both
Elena May, same for me! Narcissists are horrible people even if they are disordered there is no excuse for the abuse. Currently I believe the guy I am involved with has strong borderline features, very fearful of intimacy, pulling away now that I have asked for more connection.. I guess I am going through a devaluation phase after having been idealized and loved... which is terribly confusing and saddening.
Sarah M omg I'm so sorry to hear you're going through that. Been there myself. I managed to walk away eventually but my soul was ripped apart. The worst kind of abuse I have experienced
Thank you Elena May. I totally relate to what you say. I am still hung up about him, he said recently he will call but he flakes... at the same time he wanted to stay in contact, but couldn't promise a relationship. His avoidance is very controlling in the end, it's all about his needs, and never about mine. I fear if I reach out to him I will smother him.
My ex left me and was an avoidant to the point where he turned to porn and online dating instead of working on our relationship. I thought I was secure attachment until this marriage...but I turned into a very needy and anxious person.For 8 years he wouldn’t have sex more than one or two times a year...it was so horrible...I gave and gave to the point that I was trauma bonded with this push pull dynamic. Glad he is gone. I lost myself and now am focusing on loving me.
Avoidant or someone with narcissistic traits. Im confused if my ex boyfriend was that way. He did acts of kindness, but was also very cold and dismissive and arrogant. He would give me the silent treatment and never apologized for anything. I always felt like I was walking on eggshells.
Does he seek attention and admiration you have to be observant and emotionally sharp. Do u feel like they gaslight you, is the seduction phase over the top? Are they some with eveyone? Avoidant usually are same with everyone...narcs arent ...it will take time to decipher the intent behind the actions .
Oh, I wish I would have found out about couch Craig 3 years ago!! I exhausted myself trying to date an Avoidant and kept going back with them over and over again. Little did I know that I am an Anxious dating personality and made it even worse for myself! Thank God I saw these videos and will not be going into that mess again! My advice is when you find an Avoidant run as fast and far away as you possibly can.
You have nailed many issues down with your video on recognizing an avoidant attachment style. You are my new hero Dr. Kenneth!-dls
gonna buy your workbooks soon. never knew I need to do so much work to keep a healthy relationship running. unfortunately, I've got dumped. Thank you for the bottom of my heart for your work.Gaining tons of knowledge from your videos. Thank you again. Not sure my Ex will come back or not after all the classic mistake. but I will be a different man for sure!
moviebites I love them
It sounds like she was turned off to a degree by his age this may have affected her attraction. She was embarrassed by his age not to want his voice to be heard over the phone or to show him to her family. It almost seems she was using the relationship as more of a father figure or someone supporting her in some way than in a romantic connection sense. She may have given kissing, sex etc to someone her own age she was dating. I’m feeling she had an aversion to his age sadly.
YES!! More training on Avoidant Attachment styles would be awesome!
Going through the same thing here. Me and the ex have been dating casually things go well she’s calling, texting being warm then out of no where I get ghosted.
Ok, all I hear from this video and the comments is about avoidants and how WE as an anxious people need to deal with them. It appears that we need to change for them. Sorry, avoidants have an attachment style trauma from childhood too. To me they need to change to be more secure or seek help with their trauma. We anxious can't be the ones doing all work here and accepting them as they are. I understand that avoidants don't think they have a problem and we can't just give them a pass because "you just have to accept them as they are". Life and relationships are a two way street. They need to understand that that's how they are and be willing to change just like anxious are willing to change. Total BS that we need to follow suit of how they are.
She probably had a boyfriend(s) closer to her age the entire time they were "dating". That's why he wasn't allowed to call her. She was leading him on for favors. The relationship was in his head.
You should do a video on how to get an avoidant back. I truly believe it’s possible but a lot of people could use the advice and mentor ship. It won’t be easy but being someone that’s in this situation I’m learning a lot from you but this one thing.
Aaron_StayFrosty_ going thru this situation now, any tips on getting an avoidant back??
My ex was an avoidant disguised as an anxious. She showered me with gifts, gave me keys to her apartment after date #3, but the second I started expressing my love for her and desire to be with her more, she ran for the hills. Just gotta find the middle ground, and as coach says "always keep your interest level slightly under hers".. I do still believe that avoidants come back around. They just need way more time unfortunately.
thelegionary07 I appreciate the comment and advice. We’re currently not talking and she did run for the hills. But I know how it works and I agree it’s a time thing and me deciding how patient I want to be. I’m focusing on me and letting things happen naturally. It’s not easy. I miss her a ton and it’s testing me but ever since it I’ve been doing more research and learning way more. I personally believe in this and now that I understand me and her personality when things one back around it’ll be stronger and healthier. But yes time time time
Aaron_StayFrosty_ How long did you date? I was going out with my ex for 4 months, but it felt way longer because of how fast we were going. We've now been broken up longer than we've gone out, so I'm obviously losing hope that I'll ever hear from her again. I'm currently dating a pretty awesome chick right now though for 2 months, but she does have some concerning red flags that I'm trying to overlook right now because I'm having fun with her. Coach's vids have helped me handle this one much better though.
Aaron_StayFrosty_ guys keep up with the personal growth and don't lose hope, at this time I'm dating my previous ex, nothing formal but she came back , she contacted me after one and a half year, obviously I'm doing this after my current girlfriend dumped me two months ago, and besides her I'm dating other girl, believe Craig's advice when he says that you have to invest in yourself. It really works.
I am wondering, if you can convince and avoidant that he has an attachment problem. I am sure therapy is necessary for such people and that it can do wonders and make them heal, so that they can achieve happiness in relationships. But how do you get them to hear you, when they always avoid talking about emotions?? btw, through your videos Craig, I realized I was with an avoidant. Fortunately, he was however not as extreme as the girl in this video. The poor guy..
STOP!!! some of us dont even know we are avoidants and when we do, we understand and look back at our lives, .We are not happy looking back seeing a trail of destruction we think after every broken relationship we think we are getting closer to happiness .Some of us are trying its a Constance battle in our heads trying to do the right thing reassuring ourselves looking for validation. We still feel it after your gone , we feel it hardest when you move on we are not heartless it still hurts it just takes us longer
AND WE WILL NEVER LET YOU SEE THAT SIDE we are 2-3 months behind you and reach out way too late, we see you happy and step aside When we are feeling suffocated in a relationship we run because the we cant breathe., imagine your head is been held under water we are gasping for air, fighting to get another breathe of air to survive.,if you knew how to get us to breathe wow things would be different .when we breakup with you we are just trying to breathe .all you see is us happy and assume we cold heartless people imagine breathing normal again take a deep breath its not about you its air to survive revive
sonny2744 wow. Thank you for saying it out loud. My guy is just like this, and I don’t know how to help him understand that life doesn’t have to be this way. There are good people out there including myself that cares for others, our intention is never to hurt you. I have my hurt/pain from childhood, but I still have hope, I still believe in true love, and long term happiness.
@@sashabrown2361
be his friend
we think differently
if we say we like you or your ok
it means we love you dont push it
we still dont trust you ,but we are thinking if your the one we let in
its hard work ,but if he doesn't know hes an avoidant your wasting your time
change can only come from knowing you have a problem and wanting to change for personal growth like the Man said no two relationships are the same
Sonny
sonny2744
thank you Sonny. 😊
I will keep your advice in mind. So far we are 1 1/2 weeks in no contact, if he ever reaches out to me, with your words/ advice, I feel I have a different understanding/ prospective, and will approach him a little differently.
I hope you someday find love worthy of letting your walls down for. ☺️😘
I get you. Have good communication make the time for it to be meaning ful conversation as long you pay attention to him or her .meet them halfway.and you can still have your alone time.should be a guilt free and go out and have fun with your partner.meet them half way.im Avoudent.
Respect!!!
Craig I'm more addicted to your videos than to my long termed addiction to video games. :D
Well my EX is totally avoidant. Your videos are great! Helped me understand her needs in case I have a chance of getting back together.
Been 4 months since the break up and over almost 2 months in no contact. I'm 26 and She's 22 and currently dating a 32 years old guy. She didn't introduce him to anyone I know, even her parents. Probably using him to soak up her emotions and I'm waiting for it to crush.
I'm ready for her message/call. Evolve, adapt, overcome boys and girls!
I think a class is a great idea
Yes please! We need a practical class on situations with avoidant.
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I went out with a guy friend of mine last month. He was so fun, kind, talked about how much fun we were going to have, and was a perfect gentleman. On the date, he told me he was an avoidant and to read this book called Attached. I didn't know what he meant by avoidant on the date because I consider myself avoidant, too. Avoidant of jerks. But after reading that book, I was astonished that this man who's been my friend for 12 years is one of these abusers. Two weeks after our date, he offered me a job.😂 These people are unbelievable. We get it. You've been abused as a child, but FFS, you're 57 years old and can't get over it? I was abused, too, but I don't go around hurting other people because of something my parents did half a century ago.
It’s been 7 months now. I’m still hurting. I feel lost and don’t know where and how to start again. Feels like I wasted 2 years of my life. If not for your videos I might have smothered my ex and his new bf. I’m clinging to NC. It’s hard, but I started to develop myself more by going to the gym, eating right, and Besides working freelance, I’m studying now to learn a new language in a French school.
How are you doing now?
She sounded like my ex...she is a photographer, won't introduce me to her family, broke up with me because her family don't like other race...also don't even hold hand in public too...wtf. She broke up with me like in June. And she is 20...
Dating sounds is self induced torture.😂
I really would love it if you guys decided to create workbooks on attachment styles, specifically avoidant! That would be so helpful! And I would seriously devote time to that also! Lmk if I can help!
Craig with all due respect I don't think that this particular email example is a good representation of an avoidant attachment style although she is..can you give some more attachment style examples? Love the workbook idea on attachment styles..love your videos Craig.sometimes though I think that I may be getting false hope by hearing my ex may return...forgive me .No reflextion on you..Guess it's just my Anxious attachment style that makes me "insecure" about it.. 😉it's true...love you and Margret Craig...thank you for what you do.you have helped me through many a hopeless sad day..❤
How could the man not feel guilty for dating someone half his age? I’m not an avoidant person, but even I would slowly end a relationship with that much age gap simply because I would feel uncomfortable. She was not comfortable with getting too close from the very beginning, and before she could be certain, 8 months passed.
More videos about this topic please!
Hey Craig, please make a video on kids who were raised by single parent, by only father or mother because I feel like it's hard to understand and have a healthy relationship with a girl who lost her mother when she was just 5 years old and her father didn't look after her very well, that's why I think her behaviour always been weird to me and that's the cause of our break up, Thank you for sharing great information.
coach craig i have a situation where i was with an avoidant and she was so distant i would pursue and try and win her over, feeling that once she was in love with me she would pursue me more. However she became closer in some ways but more distant in others. when we would go out to a club she would want to be away from me socializing with everyone else. anyway the interesting thing for me is i seem to not really be interested in the girls that show a high level of interest in me but show this high level of interest in this girl who shows little in me. When i get that interest its like a switch goes off in me and i no longer desire the person wanting me. can you give me your thoughts on my attachment style and what to do from there?
I went through something very similar! She always said she felt the same way about me, but never called me on the phone or introduced me to friends or family! And we’d been together for months close to a year! I struggled thinking that I was doing something wrong! I often tried to bring up my feelings, but she’d often shut down and push me away.
how are people supposed to date all the time when they have no way of attracting a partner?
outside of work and going to the gym i have nothing else to do with my time and nothing to build interest or attraction with another person. theres nothing else that excites me, everythings just boring and routine day in day out.
if i did manage to find a girl i liked and talked to her the limit of what i can contribute to the conversation is "hey"
When I first saw this I thought it said am I dating an aardvark LOL . I guess I need to get my eyes checked
Kirk V or some sleep....lmao though.....It might be easier to date an aardvark...
I think its better to date an aadvark... Maybe they are more emotionally connected 😁
Just what I needed. I definitely am dating an avoidant.
Is there any point in doing a Skype call if you're wanting to re attract an avoidant ex of only 5 months? I really want to fix the relationship but I'm worried this is a hopeless situation. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
Can someone at different times, go from an anxious personality to an avoidant personality? Like a light switch lol? Thank you coach!
Angelo Tzortzakis that’s called Disorganized or Fearful Avoidant
There are so many more problems with this particular case. First of all, a 20 year-old is still a child. Period. Second of all, unless she comes from a very strict religious background, her demands and restrictions don't make any sense. If she's religious, she'll have to date someone who is on the same page and is ok with no contact at all before marriage. Too many red flags, this case goes way beyond the classical "avoidant attachment style".
If you are, run.........
Lol. How are u doing on the workbooks?
Coach Craig Kenneth I'm working on them slowly. I like that I can do them at my own pace. Mainly, when I'm feeling anxiety at night. I do feel like they are giving me some sort of strange confidence. Like I have some magic book of spells. Lol. It's a great tool!
That’s what I love to hear!
Coach Craig Kenneth I did: "Understanding Attraction" topic from Workbook 2 yesterday and had big laugh because your beard looked like you had some problems with paying bills :D
dont think its too farfetched that he hadn't dated in that long. im close to 30 and have only been interested in a few different girls and only really dated one of them, one of the other ones wanted a casual fling and i wanted a relationship so it didnt work out.
Its doubtful now that i'll be dating again any time soon since i work 50-60 hours a week , cant go out after work and all my friends are either busy or dont want to do anything on the weekends so i have zero opportunity to meet new people.
only started dating my now ex because we happened to work together and i found her work ethic and general attitude very attractive so we chatted for a while then i asked her out to a casual date and things progressed from there.
of course me having an anxious attachment style meant I smothered her emotionally and its possible she has an avoidant attachment style so of course that drove away her attraction.
she did have some unusual hangups regarding sex and her sexuality though.
naturally now ive been watching a lot of these videos to try to improve myself, or at least know myself a bit better and hoping that when she moves back (she had to move half the country away for a year for a new job) after some good old no contact she might reach out and i'll have improved myself enough to be ready for that since i doubt i'll have the chance to meet anyone new in that time.
Could it be that someone is ‘avoidant’ to some people, but ‘anxious’ to his/her ideal person (I.e.: a person who is way out of his/her league, or his dream person, or celebrities he/she adores)
i think that's possible , but they eventually would go back to their usual self
such a great video coach!
Rule of thumb……. Avoid the avoidants.
..and the avoidants should just simply avoid!
Do you think your attachment style changes? I think I was avoidant in my marriage of 15years that ended 5years ago yet my recent relationship with the one I thought was The One, I was super anxiety style and he was the avoidant.
You’re likely Disorganized attachment / Fearful Avoidant. They swap between the two depending on what their partner is. I am FA myself. Thought I was Avoidant then I got with a Dismissive Avoidant and felt anxious.
Try to find out the country people are in. There are many places such as Tokyo where any public display of affection is prohibited.
Not prohibited but frowned upon. Now in the middle east you would get jailed :D
Hi coach craig please can you do a video on how to retract an ex if it's long distance and you've been broken up for a while?
Do you know if he ever did this one?
Sounds like she just wanted a father figure she didn't have.
If you do a class I hope it's for world..I'm in Australia....
I really need to do a Skype but soon ...
I'm struggling when I'm realionship with fear of abandonment cheating bpd..
Think more info be great ..how do I get booklets you have now plz ?
I'm 47 been so hurt in past 4 years from realionships...
Hi coach, I broke up with my ex almost 3 months ago because i found out he very likely had been cheating and talking to multiple girls. He wasnt giving me the same interest and respect as before. He didnt even give it a second thought and didnt fight to keep me. We were together for a year and 3 months. I have been in no contact for about 2 months. His brother had found out about me calling their home phone from an unknown number. I found out from a mutual friend he was courting a girl towards the end of our relationship and is now also sleeping around with 2 or 3 girls and flirting with multiple women online. I tried calling him 3 times from a phone number he recognized was me and he was eager to pick up each time but i didnt say anything. Your thoughts?
Vee Lee stay away from people like that. Raise your self esteem. Don't go back.
He won't change. He only seems attractive because he sleeps with a bunch of girls. Please respect yourself. You need to stay away from him. He's jacked up. You're gonna get hurt. Keep watching video's. It's hard. Do not listen to words. Watch actions. His actions say he doesn't care about anyone but himself. Love yourself more. Good luck!
Thank you belle and cynthia....I am just shocked that he is capable of doing such a thing to me...I thought we had a pretty good understanding of each other... in the beginning we were so inlove and dedicated to each other...fastforward a year later..i was being fed with lies and fake promises...Sleeping around with other girls isnt attractive to me at all...I miss the guy I knew and fell for. I guess the long distance also added another challenge/layer of difficulty...we were very public about our relationship so what he did is humiliating...will keep watching self-help breakup videos until I am better..
He sounds like a narcissist to me chica. You're a Queen. You remember that.
Vee Lee It's because you trusted him. I know the feeling. But you can only control yourself. It's extremely hard. Your mind is tricking you. You want him to be something he's not. Just keep NC and start to understand yourself and him. You will eventually see his flaws clearer and yours. Work on yours! You can do this! Be a better version for yourself and someone better will benefit from it. Good luck!
any recommendations of books related to this subject.
Please do the class Craig!
Thinking of doing an email. How long can the email be? 500+ words? 1,000+?
Lisa i did one..500 words
Thanks for your replay, Amy. I've typed mine out it is close to 1,400. I have a doozy of a story. Now, I have to try to pare it down. I think it would actually be a great video. Lol!
Mine was also. I had a hard time taking content out because i felt like i couldnt relay the whole story. Although i thought it was super beneficial, i wish i had done a skype.
Hey Coach! What do you think of a 10 year age gap (me being older than him)? I have an anxious attachment style while he is an avoidant.
How does an Avoidant change? I feel I'm Fearful avoidant ( anxious avoidant) . Do you have videos on helping us be secure?
My Creative Healing Course is centered around becoming more secure!
@@CoachCraigKenneth thank you for replying! Is that an online course?
@@CoachCraigKenneth all I see are lots of videos mainly aimed for Anxious attachment ? Can you specify which are for Avoidant attachment to help get secure.
Yes. Scroll down to section 5 and 6. But the entire course will help. Avoidants are anxious as well. So do the entire course!
@@CoachCraigKenneth ok, yes I have high anxiety, lose weight and nightmares each time I start to feel emotionally close and vulnerable with a man.
40 year old man sleeping with a 20 year old
....call the cops. End of the story.
Even a 10 year age difference is pretty big i find.
Have you created an online training in this topic?
The workbooks will help!
Yes, please make the classes
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I've been watching your vids for over 3 months now Coach, so I know that I understand attachment theory at this point, but that said, it's still very hard to know what you're dealing with when you're dating someone, at least in the early goings. For example, I've been dating a new girl for almost 2 months now, but I'm still very unsure what she is. Perhaps a hybrid of anxious and avoidant. On one hand, she's very chatty, personable, and loves to go out, hold hands and if she's a little boozed up (lol) make out in public. On the other hand, she seems very untrusting of people, and seems insecure in the bedroom. She hates giving oral sex and is basically a mute during sex (minus the orgasm when the whole block can hear her lol).. Yes, this is all "TMI", but I've expressed my desire for both of those things, and she's just not into it, so its made a few of our sexual encounters awkward to say the least. My ex was the best lover I've ever had, so this is a step down in my opinion, and it's almost been a struggle for me intimacy wise. I like communication, interaction and openness in the bedroom, and this new girl doesn't. She displays anxious behavior in her every day life, but she's also distrusting of people overall, and avoidant in the bedroom. No clue on how to handle her lol.
thelegionary07 Sorry, she probably ain't the one.
Chasiraw We have already broken it off.
I got my first kiss with age 19..i was shy in puplic 2 back tht time. 😇
Yes, to workshops.
She was just using him!!! Was he giving her money? Probably doesn't have anything to do with a personality disorder. You're way over analyzing this!!!!!!!!
Another excuse to justified people who is not really honest excuse the lack of interest and love. No life is to short to put up with this s**t.
A Gen X dating a Millennial. Get outta that relationship brother! He's old enough to be her father.
She’s not even close to a millennial. She’s barely legal and he would date teenagers if it was legal.
Hasn’t dated since 2009 whatttttt? Lol
She probably just wanted a discreet sugar daddy
40 dating 20 young girl..hes not avoidant..hes a pervert
Sounds like she was only looking for a sugar daddy loool
I like the class idea...this is critical to success between the different styles. I am in this currently.