Can I Change My Avoidant Ways?
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- Опубліковано 15 жов 2024
- Can I change my avoidant ways? When you discover you have an avoidant attachment style, you may be afraid that you may never change. This video is about how change is possible and attainable. Craigs Creative Healing Course can be a major resource to heal your attachment issues! Only on his website AskCraig.net
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My attachment style was DA, then after a break up I sat down and really assessed my behaviour and how I hardly ever said I loved them or showed much affection. Then and there I promised myself I would change and be the partner I wanted for me even if I got hurt, and that I would work to be vulnerable and expressive. It hasn't worked 100% but I feel better about my behaviour now. DAs can change but it has to be their choice, sorry you can't try to save them if they don't want to be saved or if they don't see they have a problem.
This really resonated with me. In a new relationship where she is sick and I take what she says to heart and get defensive all the time. And I've done it in past relationships too. As you said I'm glad she is a good communicator and holds me accountable and is helping me to hold myself accountable too.
What is your opinion Craig and Margaret, on using meditation as a way to heal avoidant behavior? I have been meditating almost daily for a while, and realized that by raising my personal awareness, it's much easier for me to realize when I'm acting as an avoidant.
I love how you said “people come to OUR channel “ ! Wow, Coach Craig! Mad respect for you! You two are so pure and beautiful 🙏🏽💕
Man when you say "Work with me and you will get professional help on your situation" it feels someone's listening to the heart already ❤️. It connects.
Couch Greg You have saved my life with your videos. I can't afford a session with you but I am so thankful for your videos.
I'm avoidant I just discovered with you guys. Ashamed I am but willing to change for the best. Thank you so much for your help. Just ordered that book on Amazon $16.99 in case anyone needs it. I am so anti-hug & anti-kisses, so lots of hugs and kisses for everyone here in your channel.
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And it’s also hard ( especially as an anxious) to tell the person your needs because the chance they’ll give you the silent treatment
I could not see my very avoidant ex girlfriend changing. Me ( very anxious type)... I was completely anxious and needy during the whole relationship. Had she been more into me from the beginning I could see her change, but I could feel I was not exactly her type. She was attracted to securely attached alpha males. What I notice was what Margaret says. She came from a family that did not share too much and she was the most avoidant of all; kindoff like her mom but worse. When I met the family dynamic of avoidants I was so anxious. They barely acknowledged my presence.
Oh Margaret, you are dearly missed 🌸
I was an FA for most of my adult life - if the marriage word was mentioned I was put the door, I did lots of personal growth / therapy Inner child journey work and finally have I feel reached a secure feeling within myself; well so I thought till I met a kind of FA person who challenged my own FA part of me - then the tables flipped and I became a bit anxious attached - I managed ok all considering I fell for this person but had enough resources to say how I felt and what I needed - then I had to walk away as his fears were too great to step up to the challenge of a committed relationship ! I’m still learning and that is what life is about Experiences and self awareness , ✨😊
Bought that book on Apple Books right after seeing these videos. I would like to have a printed version but there was no physical publication here in China. It is a great book and this is a fantastic channel. Thank you.
This nails it on the head. The works you Both do is a blessing.
Thank you Craig and Margaret! I enjoyed the video and your research!
she met another guy.. we been together for 6 years. Its been 2 years since the break up and she still with the same guy , i did nc since , never bothered her she reaches out here and there but not to reconcile. I still have dreams/nightmares about her. I miss her so much but i can never tell her that
This way a great video Craig, I have been watching your videos for over a year now and this one really hit home.
Craig and Margaret this is a great video. I'm from a family where feelings were never allowed and things were never discussed, if anything swept under the carpet/ ignored. I grew up trying to be perfect and anticipate my Mum's needs. Bullied physically by older sibling and sexual abuse older sibling, trust has been difficult as has vulnerability. I've become more aware however I can feel trapped and feeling I have to give myself up to be loved as I did with my Mum. How do I learn to calm myself and not be triggered with Hugh anxiety by an Anxious partner? More comfortable with partner who is on avoidant side .
Changed my life you and Margaret have ❤️
How does an avoidant ever get married?
Great work with the research Margaret!
Thanks for the work, I'm evolving. I'm leaving for Australia in a few hours :) more personal growth for me ♥️
Me and my ex broke up a week, I am in no contact week, but our relationship was only 2 weeks long, is no contact rule going to help me?
Doesn't matter how long. Theres still something there. Got in to a relationship that lasted 2 FREAKING DAYS. We talked for at least 3 months since she was rushing to get into a relationship and I needed to slow her down. When we got I to one all of a sudden she had an ex slide Into her dms and sent me a vague text saying "o hey, can we not date rn, something just popped up with another guy." So I cussed her out assuming she cheated. Gigantic miscommunication and now were in NC
8:20 avoidant personality disorder???
This video hurts. After separation with my partner realizing I was a avoidant
if you know your flaws and working on yourself maybe try reaching out to them again, if your partner wasn't toxic and you broke up with them cuz of your own self perception that they don't see maybe try talking to them again, get to know and understand them better and possibly redate it you believe their the right person for you, if they truly are they'll think the same and want you back
both parties need to work on themselves but in the case of anxious attachment people they'll be more happy and comfortable with a call out about their behavior and work on themselves compared to a avoidant person, the fact you realize your issue is an amazing first step. I'm anxious so I can't say I fully understand you but I'm trying to fix my toxic attachment too
Will any avoidants comment? ;)
They are avoiding it.
@@SpaceCadet4Jesus i know I am
I have that book!!!!
But do you have The Knowledge 😉
...asked no avoidant ever.
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