As a sigma infj heyoka, she tried to hoover me during so many years, trying to replace me. She was obsessed, I made research to heal her and find her mental disorders but it was unknown and there was wrong information about it, what a waste of time. I thought that death of her gran mother and bad event in her life give them bad behaviors. Projections ,blame shifting , gaslighting, nothing worked, my gentleman mirrors hurts,I told her good luck for becoming old she must fight to keep a good body shape ,I hope for her that she won't try too much surgery. She finds a cop for new supply waiting for a rich man. Let's make money for haters, authentic people, look at how they treat strangers with lower social level, superiority,grandiosity,control , twisted stories, victimize and smear campaigns about best people telling they did everything for them, or telling all are betrayers,sometimes they insults other people when you discard them if they can't enrage against you,they say all the same with insults and other names speaking along. Doing victims and telling you to not talk because you miss respect them and you have one year under even if you are 80 years old ,they are playing a game for the 1st school. If they feel stronger they bully and insult. Telling them how their inside makes them be disgusting and ugly, how they look stupid not interesting, how being with them is so opposite of a pleasure... Don't do this if you are in front of them especially if you are a woman it could be very dangerous but when they try to hoover for example. A plan to escape in their back and no contact ,support if you have and rdy for police,avoiding people who see them,they will be manipulated and give information about you. Learn how to recognize healthy people and wake up your instinct
You also have to be very careful bc they will breadcrumb you and use the push pull just to keep your supply around in case it doesn't work out with the new supply.
Me too! Im NOT letting this guy back into my life ever again! NEVER!!!!! I know he will one day feel Im long gone! He got more and more beautiful with me. I got more and more in love with him and he only hurted me!🥲 im not letting noone in my life again before they deserve it!
He won’t he’s an idiot and wouldn’t appreciate nobody especially if they are unique and intelligence thats especially invisible (takes one to know one so these traits must be understood in oneself to recognize in someone else )
Very unique...and he knows it....been no contact for over a year...and he just cannot leave me alone.. he stalks by proxy....he is so addicted ...The ex Narc...cannot come back...and by no means am I replaceable...He will try but not succeed...Ty God !
My husband of 12 years brutally discarded me for the secretary from his work. These people are so impulsive, malicious, vile, liars, cheaters....but hes shacked up with her still so it must be great supply. He used me up and threw our entire marriage in the trash. Its a sick game for both of them.
I don't they whole story, just your side. But I still feel really bad for you. It's alot of pain to go through. You have to be tough.....like Marine Corp basic training tough. Fight the pain and challenge yourself to new experiences. A new pet.....a new hobby....volunteering
Mine left for his emotional affair partner. I put up with 22 years of the bare minimum, just like you, I’ve been thrown away. They may still be together, but it’ll not be a healthy relationship. Nasty people can never find contentment unless they take accountability for what they have done.
He went back to the “back burner” 📲💰 👰♀️🏆💔😢 Just wish I would have known what was really going on and left years ago!! What a waste!!!! Sadly I really loved him he was my husband and it was all a lie 💔👰♀️ What a devastating, heartbreaking, truth and lesson!!! I am so grateful to be the one who discarded…..I didn’t know anything about Narcissism or about my husband it seems!! Thanks for wisdom and love 💔🏆👰♀️
It’s when I was fed up, and told her i wasn’t paying for anything I didn’t have to ( like bills because she wouldn’t stop spending all of the money on only herself) she cheated and left with him. Divorced me. And now I find out she’s not even with the guy, she’s dating a female who wants to transition. She lost it when I wouldn’t let her win. I loved her very much, but I didn’t know until after the divorce that she checked every box of a covert narcissist. So now I feel extremely lucky.
@@April_Patrice you should maybe listen to Sam vaknin who explains how all prophets are the original narcassists, he knows a thing or to about narcissism and hate to break the news Jesus didn't exist
After 5 &1/2 years with my ex covert narcissist I started to resent her as she would not be fair and spend time in my life with my son or take an interest in my hobbies or help me with my house and chores. t was all her way or the highway and I got sick of it , so I stepped back. I stopped making her beautiful meals I stopped cleaning her house, fixing her house servicing her car, fixing her car fixing her kids cars. I stopped mowing her lawns doing the edges. Doing the watering doing the electrical doing the plumbing. I stopped everything. And stepped back to see what would happen. So she went and found herself a new man and I left her for good. I'm glad her life will now be so much more expensive without me doing everything for her and she will never, ever find a man that does everything I did for her, right down to bringing her a long stem single red rose with gyp in cellophane every week. She had my heart and soul forever. And all she had to do was be fair and she couldn't do it.
I don’t think they can think that way can they! They just see you as something that they can easily replace, particularly female narcissists if they’re even moderately attractive have soo many option. Will it end better than with you? No! They’re narcissists and that’s the one thing they’re completely unwilling to change.
Yah, but when they won’t find someone who puts up with THEIR shit, they will remember how they messed up bad. They hate losing. Always have to win. Well losing you is a loss.
@@christopherbrubaker2070 yeah but their ego cannot accept that they are wrong! They have no remorse! You’re always the blame holder which is the reason your relationship never worked with them and definitely won’t work with anyone else. Nobody can deal with that type of makeup break up abuse forever it just won’t work. Your always secondary supply to a female narcissist no matter how great a man you might be if you’ve been a romantic partner of some kind.
@@ianarn Agreed, woman are not impressed with men, but who are they to make such claims. They have latched on to the idea that men are SUPPOSED TO provide, when nothing could be further from the truth. So we all wait for them to catch a clue. But then again unfortunately they are used up, so we still lose. Well I for 1 won’t have another woman in my life. But I’m 50.
if they have this I am a 'pretty cute thing' and that is all their trade-off to your emotional care and support then that's 'giving" without nothing good to take. We ight be natural "givers" and find joy in it but still no bitch can demand it from us for we are not machines but creative human beings with ourselves too to care.
Irreplaceable, a very nice word. I don't know if I was one to him. But it still makes me feel good. I didn't have much to offer him apart from my very empathetic towards him. He was unable to get me to love him. But I liked him enough to spend time together. It was a long distance relationship. He was still studying at that time. I found someone who I really love, and left him. Completely no contact by circumstances. Have a reasonable life with my late husband. Just found out on social media that he has passed away, at the beginning of the year, the anger and bitterness were flash back. Don't know who to turn to. Somehow I came to know about narcissist on twitter which leading me to UA-cam. That helps me to understand what was happening between me and him. 33 years ago the tormented still around. Thinking that I might be an irreplaceable, is a consolation. Thanks Joe, looking forward to your VDO every day.
The same exact thing happened with my ex narc, he was always forgetting how better he felt after we got back together,he will discard me then come back crying later😂
narcissitic is spiritual warfare bigtime. i don't think he knows he's a narcissist. he was so selfish. but sure put on a good show to be believable that he was a good guy.
I did talk to his cousin about 3 weeks ago and she just made it sound like the family was talking in like the relationship didn't and we went our separate ways when that is the furthest thing from the truth. I felt horrified I felt like I was being lied about on so many different levels
Sometimes we don’t get the validation we need, I’m really struggling with the last interaction I had with him. I wanted to tell him so much about the pain he’d caused our children and myself, but I never got the chance. Even though he and I both know, I still want him to feel any semblance of regret. These dirty beasts destroyed our psychological stability and then act like victims.
Yes there is a huge sense of injustice in how it is all portrayed. Either way you are made to look like you are the worst person. Whether it's thru being accused of hysterics when you try to defend yourself or save the relationship/ process the sudden shock of how it unravelled or being the reason why the person had to flee from you. All of it. The smear campaign is implied at all times.
One more video ??? 😯!!! and even saying we are irreplaceable ? !!! ( i would like to believe that 😊) Thank you, its never enough of magic of Joe B House ! 🤗❤
I got discarded after finding us a place for a winter rental it's a long long long story but I gave my heart and soul to this person and feel so deep in love with him but then on the last day of our winter rental but I found on his iPad he was searching up porn which for a whole year he was saying he never did even though I was open to it and as soon as I exposed him to do on that he left said f you ghosted me and it's the been the most horrific relationship I have ever been through
The essence of the narcissist is that of a black hole that can be equated to an open grave. Whoa to those who step into their trap and experience their hell, until we realize that their life is a hellish nightmare and that they sucked us into their drama, until we wake up and heal from childhood trauma as well as their trauma to become strong and healthy.😊❤😊 There's only one person you can control, and that's yourself!❤❤❤
I have been watching your videos for about 3 weeks now and this is my first comment because it hits really hard. I wish discarded a year and two months ago I still cry about it he was an alcoholic since he was twenty he was just turning 50 I got him off his death-bed brought him to detox got him into another rehab which he's already been to two other ones. He started to love balmy writing luxurious beautiful letters while he was in rehab he only spent a month in there he was supposed to be in there for like seven to eight months up to a year but he got out because he wanted to be back with me. I helped him get his driver's license when she hadn't had for almost 20 years, I brought him because he did not have a car to AA, he had no top teeth, and more than I can ever say.
The addicts are some of the worst ones. They have chances of relapsing. No matter how much you stay with them and all help them. It's inevitable. Get away from them.
You are but sadly what might make you unique is your ability to have hope and trust in their mask. They like to have people who really trust people and have a kind heart fall for their mask. It is more delicious supply to them. They want a 'true believer' who really believes who they say they are. They start to devalue a person once the person doesn't believe in the mask the same way and then discard when you either don't believe in them at all or when you hold them accountable. What a narcissist truly wants is a person who adores them (like during the love bombing phase) whilst they get to do evil/be evil. Obviously only a broken down person would accept that, a masochist for example. So most people at some point resist the foul treatment and reject the mask of perfection. Now the problem is that when the narcissist goes away. They not only forget what they did wrong but they also seem to forget all the bad things we say to them in reaction to their behaviour. When they are away from us, after a while they start rembering the times we did adore them and they crave that back..they are totally clueless that they will never get that adoration back from us but they still crave it. The more we loved them with sincerity, the premium grade the supply was. They dont want to be around a sarcastic and cynical person who mocks them. They want the person back who you used to be when you adored them. They can't figure out that it is their fault that person can't come back. We figured out they are an illusion and that we shouldnt have adored a liar whose identity is pure illusion. Once the illusion has been smashed, we can never go back. The weird thing is that THEY CAN GO BACK because the illusion hasn't smashed for them. They still think they are wonderful and that you still adore them, that is why they get angry to see you angry at the sight of them. Their life is just one long fantasy and for a while you were part of it. The fantasy smashed for you but still continues in their head. They miss the supply you gave them when things were good. They can't figure out that the grade A supply you gave them has gone forever. They think you still have it for them but denying access to it. That you are still madly in love with them but just pretending not to be. Like you are being wilfully awkward rather than genuinely hating them or feeling indifferent..they can't ever understand. You stopped drinking their Kool-Aid but they haven't. They never stop drinking their own Kool-Aid..they are still drinking it up until the very end.
I made it very difficult for my ex to come back. He initiated the break up but I decided to divorce him. I knew that I would never be able to handle an infidelity. I moved on and never looked back.
When I was dumped and was drained and was miserable I was asking God why I get this experience. After years I clearly see it probably was lesson more for her than for me.
I was the A+ supply and he wanted to come back but it was a no for me and so he settled for the new D- supply mommy type, servant, caregiver, taxi service. The D- supply spent less and less time with him. The narcissist had developed many health issues and fell asleep in death by himself alone. Sad outcome for him.
Question: is it rare for the narc NOT try to win u back ? I am indescribably unique. There is not another woman such as me. When he tries to replace l, and find a mirror copy of me...he will fail. Good goddess please dont send him back this way. Everything i feel says he WILL NOT want me back in his life. It feels so wrong to think he would try to hoover and breadcrumb me... more than positive he cauterized me from his thoughts. Do you answer back, Joe?
She left me and went on a date with another guy.. when she came back home at night.. she had an asthmatic attack and lying helpless and hopeless all alone in her apartment.. i still took her to the hospital that midnight at she hurt me so bad. She probably would never forget that in her life.
I got discarded after taking care of him and his son every day for 3 yrs, paying for all the food and trips, cooking for 3 meals everyday, washing their clothes, making up the bed, handling all documents, giving advice, preparing birthday parties, coming to his country every 3 weeks until we reunite together again next year. So yes, an established surgeon cannot be replaced by 20 yrs old student
You're good dude. I've been in a Push Pull for 5 months. She was my concert buddy for 7 years prior to our relationship. She initially said she was diagnosed CPTSD then she said BPD. Your videos are making it VERY clear that she is a Narcissist. I'm so exhausted - She will discard over minor situations - Dwell in Crisis & chaos. She has never bought me a gift. It's finally hitting me that she is a Narc. She dumped me again yesterday - after Thanksgiving for a plethora of minor reasons. - I called her a Narc & that I was on to her crap last week. I think it shook her. Anyways if you'd ever like to look at my situation - let me know. 💲
Nah, she’ll be fine. At 53, she is still an extremely physically attractive woman with an endless number of options, while I’m over here thrown on the scrap heap & robbed of my self-esteem.🤷♂️
You're worth more than how she made u feel. She made u feel that way because she feels like not enough. You deserve respect and love like everybody else.
False statement...supply is supply and you're no different from anyone before them or after. Its not personal,thats just your ego and emotional thinking so let go and move on
I wouldn’t say false statement either. I appreciate that you are mature in your remarks though, because it takes that to recover, heal, and move on. They were never ever worth a damn.
Hes hoovering u because they dont want to lose any of their supply. If you are useful in one way or another they will always come back. Thats why mines ex thinks she won him from me. I let him go snd he went back to her. Shes ok being number 2 or 3 not me @caligirl9403
The discard was brutal but I’m grateful because I would’ve hung on forever, supporting him
Emotionally, trying and hoping for him to see my worth.
Shhhhiiit better snap outta that ride or die mentality
“If people try to make you feel like you are replaceable,So be it”
As a Super Empath, I may be replaceable physically, but I will never be replaced spiritually.
Ditto! God is w us!
fuel is fuel...
@@mariojanaf5474agreed
As a sigma infj heyoka, she tried to hoover me during so many years, trying to replace me. She was obsessed, I made research to heal her and find her mental disorders but it was unknown and there was wrong information about it, what a waste of time. I thought that death of her gran mother and bad event in her life give them bad behaviors. Projections ,blame shifting , gaslighting, nothing worked, my gentleman mirrors hurts,I told her good luck for becoming old she must fight to keep a good body shape ,I hope for her that she won't try too much surgery. She finds a cop for new supply waiting for a rich man. Let's make money for haters, authentic people, look at how they treat strangers with lower social level, superiority,grandiosity,control , twisted stories, victimize and smear campaigns about best people telling they did everything for them, or telling all are betrayers,sometimes they insults other people when you discard them if they can't enrage against you,they say all the same with insults and other names speaking along. Doing victims and telling you to not talk because you miss respect them and you have one year under even if you are 80 years old ,they are playing a game for the 1st school. If they feel stronger they bully and insult. Telling them how their inside makes them be disgusting and ugly, how they look stupid not interesting, how being with them is so opposite of a pleasure... Don't do this if you are in front of them especially if you are a woman it could be very dangerous but when they try to hoover for example. A plan to escape in their back and no contact ,support if you have and rdy for police,avoiding people who see them,they will be manipulated and give information about you. Learn how to recognize healthy people and wake up your instinct
@@mariojanaf5474True, gets them from A to B but we don’t care moving forward.
The narc is replaceable there nothing special
You also have to be very careful bc they will breadcrumb you and use the push pull just to keep your supply around in case it doesn't work out with the new supply.
That’s what actually pushed me away to never wanting anything to do with them. I don’t play silly games and they found out.
I Hope he never find supply like me. I don't wish that abuse on anyone.
Me too! Im NOT letting this guy back into my life ever again! NEVER!!!!! I know he will one day feel Im long gone! He got more and more beautiful with me. I got more and more in love with him and he only hurted me!🥲 im not letting noone in my life again before they deserve it!
He won't. Give yourself some time. Love yourself like you've never done.
I hope he does so he’ll never knock at my door.
He won’t he’s an idiot and wouldn’t appreciate nobody especially if they are unique and intelligence thats especially invisible (takes one to know one so these traits must be understood in oneself to recognize in someone else )
Very unique...and he knows it....been no contact for over a year...and he just cannot leave me alone.. he stalks by proxy....he is so addicted ...The ex Narc...cannot come back...and by no means am I replaceable...He will try but not succeed...Ty God !
My husband of 12 years brutally discarded me for the secretary from his work. These people are so impulsive, malicious, vile, liars, cheaters....but hes shacked up with her still so it must be great supply. He used me up and threw our entire marriage in the trash. Its a sick game for both of them.
I don't they whole story, just your side. But I still feel really bad for you. It's alot of pain to go through. You have to be tough.....like Marine Corp basic training tough. Fight the pain and challenge yourself to new experiences. A new pet.....a new hobby....volunteering
Mine left for his emotional affair partner. I put up with 22 years of the bare minimum, just like you, I’ve been thrown away.
They may still be together, but it’ll not be a healthy relationship. Nasty people can never find contentment unless they take accountability for what they have done.
Can’t imagine 😥
@Paul-vf4wv just my side of the story?? TRUTH is the ONLY side
@@shamimtemour I hear you. I wish you wellness
I hope he forgets about me never come back.
He went back to the “back burner” 📲💰
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Just wish I would have known what was really going on and left years ago!! What a waste!!!! Sadly I really loved him he was my husband and it was all a lie 💔👰♀️ What a devastating, heartbreaking, truth and lesson!!! I am so grateful to be the one who discarded…..I didn’t know anything about Narcissism or about my husband it seems!! Thanks for wisdom and love 💔🏆👰♀️
@randallglatt9115 Best way is to walk away, before it too late
It’s when I was fed up, and told her i wasn’t paying for anything I didn’t have to ( like bills because she wouldn’t stop spending all of the money on only herself) she cheated and left with him. Divorced me. And now I find out she’s not even with the guy, she’s dating a female who wants to transition. She lost it when I wouldn’t let her win. I loved her very much, but I didn’t know until after the divorce that she checked every box of a covert narcissist. So now I feel extremely lucky.
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@randallglatt9115
I will not accept or tolerate any form of disrespect for myself or others!
@randallglatt9115
Walk away ❤
Even Jesus had his Judas....
Jesus is the perfect example of a narcissist
And nikola tesla had Thomas edison.
@@tonyconnor5691
He died for our sins, boy....
@@tonyconnor5691Jesus died for your sins. Now who's the narcissist?
@@April_Patrice you should maybe listen to Sam vaknin who explains how all prophets are the original narcassists, he knows a thing or to about narcissism and hate to break the news Jesus didn't exist
I’m sad but I know this too shall pass.
I left him. He hasn’t bothered me in twenty five years . Now all of a sudden life’s boring so he contacts me again. Smh loser
After 5 &1/2 years with my ex covert narcissist I started to resent her as she would not be fair and spend time in my life with my son or take an interest in my hobbies or help me with my house and chores. t was all her way or the highway and I got sick of it , so I stepped back. I stopped making her beautiful meals I stopped cleaning her house, fixing her house servicing her car, fixing her car fixing her kids cars. I stopped mowing her lawns doing the edges. Doing the watering doing the electrical doing the plumbing. I stopped everything. And stepped back to see what would happen. So she went and found herself a new man and I left her for good. I'm glad her life will now be so much more expensive without me doing everything for her and she will never, ever find a man that does everything I did for her, right down to bringing her a long stem single red rose with gyp in cellophane every week. She had my heart and soul forever. And all she had to do was be fair and she couldn't do it.
Still breathing and pushing forward in peace and prayer 🕊
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Yes, prayer very important, and necessary. God just revealed to me that this was his plan for me to be closer to him, and not see her as a God-dess.
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The very best way to win the battle and truly heal! GOD Bless! 🙏✝️🕊️❤️
very chaotic to be close/attach to this kind of person. narcissist is truly a ton of thorns majority of their being.
I don’t think they can think that way can they! They just see you as something that they can easily replace, particularly female narcissists if they’re even moderately attractive have soo many option. Will it end better than with you? No! They’re narcissists and that’s the one thing they’re completely unwilling to change.
Yah, but when they won’t find someone who puts up with THEIR shit, they will remember how they messed up bad. They hate losing. Always have to win. Well losing you is a loss.
@@christopherbrubaker2070 yeah but their ego cannot accept that they are wrong! They have no remorse! You’re always the blame holder which is the reason your relationship never worked with them and definitely won’t work with anyone else. Nobody can deal with that type of makeup break up abuse forever it just won’t work.
Your always secondary supply to a female narcissist no matter how great a man you might be if you’ve been a romantic partner of some kind.
@@ianarn Agreed, woman are not impressed with men, but who are they to make such claims. They have latched on to the idea that men are SUPPOSED TO provide, when nothing could be further from the truth. So we all wait for them to catch a clue. But then again unfortunately they are used up, so we still lose. Well I for 1 won’t have another woman in my life. But I’m 50.
if they have this I am a 'pretty cute thing' and that is all their trade-off to your emotional care and support then that's 'giving" without nothing good to take. We ight be natural "givers" and find joy in it but still no bitch can demand it from us for we are not machines but creative human beings with ourselves too to care.
Irreplaceable, a very nice word. I don't know if I was one to him. But it still makes me feel good. I didn't have much to offer him apart from my very empathetic towards him. He was unable to get me to love him. But I liked him enough to spend time together. It was a long distance relationship. He was still studying at that time. I found someone who I really love, and left him. Completely no contact by circumstances. Have a reasonable life with my late husband. Just found out on social media that he has passed away, at the beginning of the year, the anger and bitterness were flash back. Don't know who to turn to. Somehow I came to know about narcissist on twitter which leading me to UA-cam. That helps me to understand what was happening between me and him. 33 years ago the tormented still around. Thinking that I might be an irreplaceable, is a consolation. Thanks Joe, looking forward to your VDO every day.
I was that light and love my mother could not create for herself. I’m gone now, 3 years no contact. I took my love and light w me!
That..." Thanks for Watching"...always comes too soon 😮😅
The same exact thing happened with my ex narc, he was always forgetting how better he felt after we got back together,he will discard me then come back crying later😂
Not my problem anymore.
narcissitic is spiritual warfare bigtime. i don't think he knows he's a narcissist. he was so selfish. but sure put on a good show to be believable that he was a good guy.
I did talk to his cousin about 3 weeks ago and she just made it sound like the family was talking in like the relationship didn't and we went our separate ways when that is the furthest thing from the truth. I felt horrified I felt like I was being lied about on so many different levels
Sometimes we don’t get the validation we need, I’m really struggling with the last interaction I had with him. I wanted to tell him so much about the pain he’d caused our children and myself, but I never got the chance.
Even though he and I both know, I still want him to feel any semblance of regret.
These dirty beasts destroyed our psychological stability and then act like victims.
Yes there is a huge sense of injustice in how it is all portrayed. Either way you are made to look like you are the worst person. Whether it's thru being accused of hysterics when you try to defend yourself or save the relationship/ process the sudden shock of how it unravelled or being the reason why the person had to flee from you. All of it. The smear campaign is implied at all times.
It will come down to begging😂 i am not replacable. I was 3 steps ahead all along.
The love I had was destroyed to the point I dont want to extend myself at all anymore only to myself
One more video ??? 😯!!! and even saying we are irreplaceable ? !!! ( i would like to believe that 😊) Thank you, its never enough of magic of Joe B House ! 🤗❤
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Thanks for your very helpful videos Joe. Love the images you use in your videos they really cool ☺
I got discarded after finding us a place for a winter rental it's a long long long story but I gave my heart and soul to this person and feel so deep in love with him but then on the last day of our winter rental but I found on his iPad he was searching up porn which for a whole year he was saying he never did even though I was open to it and as soon as I exposed him to do on that he left said f you ghosted me and it's the been the most horrific relationship I have ever been through
Great video, as usual. We miss your videos, Joe. And BTW, I may have some material for you; about convert narcissism. Cheers,
I was used in this exact way.
He felt better after the hoover then he discarded again.
The essence of the narcissist is that of a black hole that can be equated to an open grave. Whoa to those who step into their trap and experience their hell, until we realize that their life is a hellish nightmare and that they sucked us into their drama, until we wake up and heal from childhood trauma as well as their trauma to become strong and healthy.😊❤😊
There's only one person you can control, and that's yourself!❤❤❤
Ty 🕊️✨🙏🪽🫶
Assuming they have everything..🙏, thank you Joe.
I have been watching your videos for about 3 weeks now and this is my first comment because it hits really hard. I wish discarded a year and two months ago I still cry about it he was an alcoholic since he was twenty he was just turning 50 I got him off his death-bed brought him to detox got him into another rehab which he's already been to two other ones. He started to love balmy writing luxurious beautiful letters while he was in rehab he only spent a month in there he was supposed to be in there for like seven to eight months up to a year but he got out because he wanted to be back with me. I helped him get his driver's license when she hadn't had for almost 20 years, I brought him because he did not have a car to AA, he had no top teeth, and more than I can ever say.
The addicts are some of the worst ones. They have chances of relapsing. No matter how much you stay with them and all help them. It's inevitable. Get away from them.
But… am I unique… to him? … Aren’t I just an appliance? A service?
You are but sadly what might make you unique is your ability to have hope and trust in their mask. They like to have people who really trust people and have a kind heart fall for their mask. It is more delicious supply to them. They want a 'true believer' who really believes who they say they are. They start to devalue a person once the person doesn't believe in the mask the same way and then discard when you either don't believe in them at all or when you hold them accountable. What a narcissist truly wants is a person who adores them (like during the love bombing phase) whilst they get to do evil/be evil. Obviously only a broken down person would accept that, a masochist for example. So most people at some point resist the foul treatment and reject the mask of perfection. Now the problem is that when the narcissist goes away. They not only forget what they did wrong but they also seem to forget all the bad things we say to them in reaction to their behaviour. When they are away from us, after a while they start rembering the times we did adore them and they crave that back..they are totally clueless that they will never get that adoration back from us but they still crave it.
The more we loved them with sincerity, the premium grade the supply was. They dont want to be around a sarcastic and cynical person who mocks them. They want the person back who you used to be when you adored them. They can't figure out that it is their fault that person can't come back. We figured out they are an illusion and that we shouldnt have adored a liar whose identity is pure illusion. Once the illusion has been smashed, we can never go back. The weird thing is that THEY CAN GO BACK because the illusion hasn't smashed for them. They still think they are wonderful and that you still adore them, that is why they get angry to see you angry at the sight of them.
Their life is just one long fantasy and for a while you were part of it. The fantasy smashed for you but still continues in their head. They miss the supply you gave them when things were good. They can't figure out that the grade A supply you gave them has gone forever. They think you still have it for them but denying access to it. That you are still madly in love with them but just pretending not to be. Like you are being wilfully awkward rather than genuinely hating them or feeling indifferent..they can't ever understand. You stopped drinking their Kool-Aid but they haven't. They never stop drinking their own Kool-Aid..they are still drinking it up until the very end.
I made it very difficult for my ex to come back. He initiated the break up but I decided to divorce him. I knew that I would never be able to handle an infidelity. I moved on and never looked back.
When I was dumped and was drained and was miserable I was asking God why I get this experience. After years I clearly see it probably was lesson more for her than for me.
I was the A+ supply and he wanted to come back but it was a no for me and so he settled for the new D- supply mommy type, servant, caregiver, taxi service. The D- supply spent less and less time with him. The narcissist had developed many health issues and fell asleep in death by himself alone. Sad outcome for him.
Question:
is it rare for the narc NOT try to win u back ?
I am indescribably unique.
There is not another woman such as me. When he tries to replace l, and find a mirror copy of me...he will fail.
Good goddess please dont send him back this way.
Everything i feel says he WILL NOT want me back in his life.
It feels so wrong to think he would try to hoover and breadcrumb me... more than positive he cauterized me from his thoughts.
Do you answer back, Joe?
He drove my vehicle n I found out he has no license! Debt debt debt unbelievable I want to puke for being so weak n blind by loveeeee
She left me and went on a date with another guy.. when she came back home at night.. she had an asthmatic attack and lying helpless and hopeless all alone in her apartment.. i still took her to the hospital that midnight at she hurt me so bad. She probably would never forget that in her life.
Even judas kill himself out of regret and shame same as narc they feel it
Really Fantastic!!!❤
Thanks 😄
Like the videos. So non narc
Friendly! Not some guys face talking at me. Like, what a way to talk about narcs by acting like one onscreen!
Never again. He broke up after 7 days he has a new supply
Awesome 😊
I got discarded after taking care of him and his son every day for 3 yrs, paying for all the food and trips, cooking for 3 meals everyday, washing their clothes, making up the bed, handling all documents, giving advice, preparing birthday parties, coming to his country every 3 weeks until we reunite together again next year. So yes, an established surgeon cannot be replaced by 20 yrs old student
You're good dude. I've been in a Push Pull for 5 months. She was my concert buddy for 7 years prior to our relationship.
She initially said she was diagnosed CPTSD then she said BPD. Your videos are making it VERY clear that she is a Narcissist.
I'm so exhausted - She will discard over minor situations - Dwell in Crisis & chaos. She has never bought me a gift. It's finally hitting me that she is a Narc.
She dumped me again yesterday - after Thanksgiving for a plethora of minor reasons. - I called her a Narc & that I was on to her crap last week. I think it shook her.
Anyways if you'd ever like to look at my situation - let me know. 💲
Stay strong, we understand how you feel.
Baby cheezlus
Nah, she’ll be fine. At 53, she is still an extremely physically attractive woman with an endless number of options, while I’m over here thrown on the scrap heap & robbed of my self-esteem.🤷♂️
You're worth more than how she made u feel. She made u feel that way because she feels like not enough. You deserve respect and love like everybody else.
@@Hiddenplace414
Thank you for saying this.
All I ever had is I can do this I can do that I know that I know this I’m going to be the priminister yet he’s never left the bloody country wtf
False statement...supply is supply and you're no different from anyone before them or after. Its not personal,thats just your ego and emotional thinking so let go and move on
I wouldn’t say false statement either. I appreciate that you are mature in your remarks though, because it takes that to recover, heal, and move on. They were never ever worth a damn.
@randallglatt9115 no good supply means compliance, you don't want to be good supply for a narc
@caligirl9403 narcs hoover all supply,they recycle.
Hes hoovering u because they dont want to lose any of their supply. If you are useful in one way or another they will always come back. Thats why mines ex thinks she won him from me. I let him go snd he went back to her. Shes ok being number 2 or 3 not me @caligirl9403
You sure sound like a narcs. Best friend