When they meet a strong person they take it as a challenge to break you down, it gets their blood pumping, they get addicted to dismantling your self confidence and self esteem. If you're naive and don't know people like this exist they could be the end of you, literally.
And that is the very moment you will see their “Snake eyes” because they gambled, rolled like that, and lost a very valuable asset! Heads win, tails lose.
What really tipped it for me that's when I realised what they are up to when it comes to cheating. You really nailed it for me. Basically they are there till they get fed up with you then they try to destroy you.When your at your lowest ebb they go off with someone until you get yoursef sorted. Then they come back again and it all starts over again. Knowing that makes it so much easier to forget the bastard. Thanks for showing me it from that angle, it so much makes sense
They always have a backup and a backup for their backup… we’re just one person in a long string of “supply”. Just vessels to empty then discard and revisit when we’re replenished again. This helped me too when I realised he didn’t love me at all and it was all fake.
Yes, they only have one pattern and they follow it over and over in an endless loop. If you've met one narc, you've met them all. Male, female, malignant, covert, it doesn't matter. The only winning move is to not play the game.
He told me I was too independent and didn’t see why I needed him. He said I suffered from Oprah Winfrey syndrome and he wsnted a woman who needed a man. His said he never frequented the types of events or hotels before he met me. He liked being in my presence because I attended alot of black tie affairs. I realized he was insecure, and didn’t feel comfortable with my lifestyle. So I was discarded. Thank God
He used to tell me I didn’t deserve my six figure income that no one needs that much money. Then he expected me to pay doer everything nor pay me back what he borrowed. He was infatuated with his own voice, which was above average, but I had years of voice training. Once the attention at karaoke had to be shared, he went without me and posted videos of himself on social media. And reposted about every 2 months. His envy, jealousy and entitlement was like a bottomless pit.
My husband of 12 years future faked really good, just when i thought we were doing better than ever, he blindsided me with a brutal discard & moved in with the secretary from his work. So malicious, vile & impulsive 😈
Its always great when the garbage takes itself out! It will get better. The narc always goes for the lowest hanging fruit. 12 yrs made you grade A supply. Which means you are worthwhile for the right person. The new supply is in for a real treat. Karmas a bitch. 😊😊
@Octobersky066 thanks for your words,I find it encouraging because he inflicted so much pain and chaos for my household, I have 9 pets that are all gonna have to be rehomed because of his bullshit behavior and that breaks my heart for them
That's what they do: There is an eerie calm before the discard. It is intentional to make the discard that much more painful. (Sam Vaknin describes it in one of his lectures). Just happened to me after 30 years of marriage. Our last year together was the best. . . until it all turned out to be a lie.
I was on the verge of getting promoted at my job and my ex, whom I was very much in love with at the time, discouraged me from pursuing it and encouraged me to move back with her to her home country. I did, and A month of daily devaluation later, she discarded me, broke up with me. When I went back to my home, she accused me of throwing her in the garbage.
Hi And Thank You For Sharing The Narcissit Broke Me Down With Months And Years Of The Silent Treatment Belittling Horrible Name Calling Destroying My Self Confidence I Always Felt Not Good Enough. And To Top It Off He Broke Me Down through Withholding Ignoring. SHOWING me That He's In A Relationship. Narcisstic Abuse Is Brutal
Always wanted to be a chef. While together I was going to head to chef school part time to achieve my dream. Only to be told for 10yrs that the money could go towards other things around the house and that a career as a chef wouldn't get me anywhere in life. Plus my life long friends weren't good enough for me to be around. Plus loads more other things from her.... Too which I eventually divorced her.
So this explains why when I was in Dental Assisting School, he didn't like the idea of me progressing in my career. First, he was happy & excited for me when he found out that I was in school back last year. Then, when we actually got together & started dating this year, he slowly became insecure about me getting ahead in life & furthering my career. He said that a dentist and a guy who does does 24-hr road assistance/repair, don't go together 🤨 He also said, he worried I would leave him for someone else that I meet in the office, when I hadn't even got a job in the office yet. I wasn't gonna do that at all. I cared about him. He was so stupid. He had that in his head and already putting negativity on things. Really messed up and it defintiely hurt me. School is important and an acheivement. That's why he would take me away from my studies and have me run around w/ him when I should've been studying, and I wasn't at times. He saw how happy I was for being back in school but, He didn't like it anymore 🤨 Also, he didn't go to college & probably didn't graduate high school. When I asked him one time what high school he went to, he said "many." Never said where or which one, strange. When someone asks you where you went to high school, you don't beat around the bush. Unless you wanna cover up the fact you never finished high school...🤨 All the secrets they keep and how they are. If I would've stayed with him, He would've taken my bright-shining light from me, made sure to keep me down, and not get ahead. Now, I'm on my way to being certified & getting ahead, WITHOUT HIM in my life✨ and without someone breaking & putting me down constantly & all his de-valuing remarks and all the other b.s. that came with being with him. SMH, He lost Me. I was the best thing to happen to him. I was the only female he was with that had her shit together! 😂🎉
I only have one wish about your videos and that is I just wish they were longer lol The imagery and content are so dang good I always click and listen through. Thanks for all you do in support of healing and education against narc dweebs.
My ex tried to break my confidence down towards the end of the relationship by constantly eyeing other when when we were out. Generally people would’ve consider me the most attractive person in the relationship and I think this fact always made her feel insecure. She did this irrespective of me telling her that that behaviour was hurtful. Narassisitc people will do anything to break down or make you feel insecure about anything you’ve got going for you.
Ex covert did the exact same thing. If I mentioned it I was “insecure, ridiculous.” There was a moment he even bent over to pick up a suitcase to have his face right in front of a girls ass who was wearing booty shorts.
It’s not the success in itself they hate. They hate if you are more successful than they are ( they think hirarchialy). Often narcissist can be highly successful . But this don’t change their envy. 1: They hate people who are autentic, they fear them, envy them 2: They hate people who don’t chase « euphoria, dopamin». Fear, hate, envy people who can enjoy the « small things» in life. 3: Their main goal is to destroy the victims « growt mindset». And to destroy the victims contentement in life, and contentment with a « regular life». The rage, hatred they feel is on a epic level. Driven by the narcissism. All the small toxic remarks is aimed at creating doubt, in the victims « growt mindset», and view of the world. They want to see the victim broken, sad, envious of the narcissist. Their sadism, lack of empathy, self obsessed compulsion is the core of their patology
Sure did not expect for one more video today, thanks for a nice surprise , thanks for hard work for us. We love you lot , you can see it by reading our comments ❤❤❤ ! Nope he did not brake me , he confused me for a while. Many thanks from us, your fans !!! 🤗❤
I'm gonna say this: _It is a GROSS miscalculation at best, for a narcissist to attempt to exert ANY methodology of manipulation or control strings onto an INTJ... THAT IS A COMPLETE LOSS for the narc & THEIR attempts to "double down" only amplify the losses._ ...just advice for those who accept reality...🖤🏁
Yes. Once an INTJ realizes something is afoot, we'll limit ways to attack and then prepare a counterattack for each way. What's worse is we wait...it's almost like a science project at that point.n
@@tamhead1 aaaaaannnddd I can wait for as long as it takes.....🖤 Consider THIS... I waited 7.5 years to crisp 2 know-nothing, sociopathic, egotistical, STUPID, ARROGANT NARCS....they decided to "pull the pin" & disrupt an official town government proceeding... Police got involved. On 1/16/23, I boldly strolled into the cop shop, WITH A BRIEFCASE BRIMMING WITH AUTHENTIC DOCUMENTS.... gasps could be heard from town officials, as police ran to copy machines!!! EVERY SINGLE document I had COMPLETELY DISPROVED IN BLINDING FASHION, EXACTLY HOW BAD OF LIARS THEY ARE, exposed them for exactly what they are!!! Now no one will give them the time of day, but police tiptoe around me... I'm pretty sure I scared the living crap out of them!!! Once I get a bead...it doesn't matter how long it takes, I WILL put them in their proper place...& do it LEGALLY, with a broad smile on my face....🖤🏁
Thanks again Joe your videos hold alot of information and knowledge. Love tge images you use in your videos. Have a lovely weekend Joe thanks again for your videos ❤️
That's what I am going through at the moment, I have got a job and doing gray rock and going no contact, I hope he feels that his bank account is getting dry. Spot on Joe
I got hoovered 5 times at my house the year after I severed it. I filled out 2 restraining orders but never filed them cuz I knew IT would've enjoyed getting to me. that's how evil IT was.
Sir i come back to this vid multiple times. It triggers me but fill me with joy because i am a narc killer because this is me right here. I do me and it kills them😊❤😂
Joe I’m sooo grateful for your wonderful easy listening program it’s the best at applying n it’s a calming place where I feel I can play it all nite n sleep feeling unthreatened thank you bless
For him, I was secretly to get him to get his RN, then he ruined all of that. It was almost like it was supper to happen. Have you heard of Lucy Letby? Yay. It’s hard to know but once again a personality disorder 👈🏻
When they meet a strong person they take it as a challenge to break you down, it gets their blood pumping, they get addicted to dismantling your self confidence and self esteem. If you're naive and don't know people like this exist they could be the end of you, literally.
Thank you for making me stronger. Wiser and drawing me closer to God
No weapon formed against me prosper!
She can't break me down but she definitely broke my son down!
The prince charming turned out to be the devil 😈 run like hell.
And that is the very moment you will see their “Snake eyes” because they gambled, rolled like that, and lost a very valuable asset!
Heads win, tails lose.
Yes their eyes look like a snake. Eye.sanp Jesi phunkar nazar ATI h.
Truth
What really tipped it for me that's when I realised what they are up to when it comes to cheating. You really nailed it for me. Basically they are there till they get fed up with you then they try to destroy you.When your at your lowest ebb they go off with someone until you get yoursef sorted. Then they come back again and it all starts over again. Knowing that makes it so much easier to forget the bastard. Thanks for showing me it from that angle, it so much makes sense
They always have a backup and a backup for their backup… we’re just one person in a long string of “supply”. Just vessels to empty then discard and revisit when we’re replenished again. This helped me too when I realised he didn’t love me at all and it was all fake.
Yes, they only have one pattern and they follow it over and over in an endless loop. If you've met one narc, you've met them all. Male, female, malignant, covert, it doesn't matter. The only winning move is to not play the game.
He told me I was too independent and didn’t see why I needed him. He said I suffered from Oprah Winfrey syndrome and he wsnted a woman who needed a man. His said he never frequented the types of events or hotels before he met me. He liked being in my presence because I attended alot of black tie affairs. I realized he was insecure, and didn’t feel comfortable with my lifestyle. So I was discarded. Thank God
He used to tell me I didn’t deserve my six figure income that no one needs that much money. Then he expected me to pay doer everything nor pay me back what he borrowed. He was infatuated with his own voice, which was above average, but I had years of voice training. Once the attention at karaoke had to be shared, he went without me and posted videos of himself on social media. And reposted about every 2 months.
His envy, jealousy and entitlement was like a bottomless pit.
She broke the parts that I don't need anymore.
My husband of 12 years future faked really good, just when i thought we were doing better than ever, he blindsided me with a brutal discard & moved in with the secretary from his work. So malicious, vile & impulsive 😈
Hey my friend I hope you are well
Its always great when the garbage takes itself out!
It will get better. The narc always goes for the lowest hanging fruit. 12 yrs made you grade A supply. Which means you are worthwhile for the right person. The new supply is in for a real treat. Karmas a bitch. 😊😊
@Octobersky066 thanks for your words,I find it encouraging because he inflicted so much pain and chaos for my household, I have 9 pets that are all gonna have to be rehomed because of his bullshit behavior and that breaks my heart for them
That's what they do: There is an eerie calm before the discard. It is intentional to make the discard that much more painful. (Sam Vaknin describes it in one of his lectures). Just happened to me after 30 years of marriage. Our last year together was the best. . . until it all turned out to be a lie.
@@SuzieQH4812 I relate
One day i will tell my story what happened to me and finally i m getting free after been discard 8 months ago
I was on the verge of getting promoted at my job and my ex, whom I was very much in love with at the time, discouraged me from pursuing it and encouraged me to move back with her to her home country. I did, and A month of daily devaluation later, she discarded me, broke up with me. When I went back to my home, she accused me of throwing her in the garbage.
Hi And Thank You For Sharing The Narcissit Broke Me Down With Months And Years Of The Silent Treatment Belittling Horrible Name Calling Destroying My Self Confidence I Always Felt Not Good Enough.
And To Top It Off He Broke Me Down through Withholding Ignoring. SHOWING me That He's In A Relationship.
Narcisstic Abuse Is Brutal
I hear you! It's very brutal 😢 I was discarded in May by my husband of 12 years
@@ladyvirgo9514
I’m So Incredibly Sorry Its Very brutal I’m Being Treated Like
I Don’t Even Exist! That Is What Hurts
@demigaines5644 I totally get it unfortunately. Being so betrayed and fooled for so long is brutal
@@ladyvirgo9514 🙏
Joe man your content is amazing what a channel. I love every word of every pod cast you do.
The toxic boss as well!
Always wanted to be a chef. While together I was going to head to chef school part time to achieve my dream. Only to be told for 10yrs that the money could go towards other things around the house and that a career as a chef wouldn't get me anywhere in life.
Plus my life long friends weren't good enough for me to be around.
Plus loads more other things from her.... Too which I eventually divorced her.
So this explains why when I was in Dental Assisting School, he didn't like the idea of me progressing in my career. First, he was happy & excited for me when he found out that I was in school back last year. Then, when we actually got together & started dating this year, he slowly became insecure about me getting ahead in life & furthering my career. He said that a dentist and a guy who does does 24-hr road assistance/repair, don't go together 🤨 He also said, he worried I would leave him for someone else that I meet in the office, when I hadn't even got a job in the office yet. I wasn't gonna do that at all. I cared about him. He was so stupid. He had that in his head and already putting negativity on things. Really messed up and it defintiely hurt me. School is important and an acheivement. That's why he would take me away from my studies and have me run around w/ him when I should've been studying, and I wasn't at times. He saw how happy I was for being back in school but, He didn't like it anymore 🤨 Also, he didn't go to college & probably didn't graduate high school. When I asked him one time what high school he went to, he said "many." Never said where or which one, strange. When someone asks you where you went to high school, you don't beat around the bush. Unless you wanna cover up the fact you never finished high school...🤨 All the secrets they keep and how they are. If I would've stayed with him, He would've taken my bright-shining light from me, made sure to keep me down, and not get ahead. Now, I'm on my way to being certified & getting ahead, WITHOUT HIM in my life✨ and without someone breaking & putting me down constantly & all his de-valuing remarks and all the other b.s. that came with being with him. SMH, He lost Me. I was the best thing to happen to him. I was the only female he was with that had her shit together! 😂🎉
I only have one wish about your videos and that is I just wish they were longer lol
The imagery and content are so dang good I always click and listen through.
Thanks for all you do in support of healing and education against narc dweebs.
i could listen to you all day.Joe. Thamks for your pin point insight.
My ex tried to break my confidence down towards the end of the relationship by constantly eyeing other when when we were out. Generally people would’ve consider me the most attractive person in the relationship and I think this fact always made her feel insecure. She did this irrespective of me telling her that that behaviour was hurtful. Narassisitc people will do anything to break down or make you feel insecure about anything you’ve got going for you.
Ex covert did the exact same thing.
If I mentioned it I was “insecure, ridiculous.”
There was a moment he even bent over to pick up a suitcase to have his face right in front of a girls ass who was wearing booty shorts.
Spot on.😊
🌿 So descriptive. You thanked us twice for watching the video 😅 I didn't even watch the video. I love hearing you talk 🎶
It’s not the success in itself they hate. They hate if you are more successful than they are ( they think hirarchialy). Often narcissist can be highly successful . But this don’t change their envy.
1: They hate people who are autentic, they fear them, envy them
2: They hate people who don’t chase « euphoria, dopamin». Fear, hate, envy people who can enjoy the « small things» in life.
3: Their main goal is to destroy the victims « growt mindset». And to destroy the victims contentement in life, and contentment with a « regular life». The rage, hatred they feel is on a epic level. Driven by the narcissism.
All the small toxic remarks is aimed at creating doubt, in the victims « growt mindset», and view of the world. They want to see the victim broken, sad, envious of the narcissist.
Their sadism, lack of empathy, self obsessed compulsion is the core of their patology
Sure did not expect for one more video today, thanks for a nice surprise , thanks for hard work for us. We love you lot , you can see it by reading our comments ❤❤❤ ! Nope he did not brake me , he confused me for a while. Many thanks from us, your fans !!! 🤗❤
My Nex stayed putting me down and belittling me😢
I'm gonna say this:
_It is a GROSS miscalculation at best, for a narcissist to attempt to exert ANY methodology of manipulation or control strings onto an INTJ... THAT IS A COMPLETE LOSS for the narc & THEIR attempts to "double down" only amplify the losses._
...just advice for those who accept reality...🖤🏁
Yes. Once an INTJ realizes something is afoot, we'll limit ways to attack and then prepare a counterattack for each way. What's worse is we wait...it's almost like a science project at that point.n
@@tamhead1 aaaaaannnddd I can wait for as long as it takes.....🖤
Consider THIS...
I waited 7.5 years to crisp 2 know-nothing, sociopathic, egotistical, STUPID, ARROGANT NARCS....they decided to "pull the pin" & disrupt an official town government proceeding... Police got involved. On 1/16/23, I boldly strolled into the cop shop, WITH A BRIEFCASE BRIMMING WITH AUTHENTIC DOCUMENTS.... gasps could be heard from town officials, as police ran to copy machines!!! EVERY SINGLE document I had COMPLETELY DISPROVED IN BLINDING FASHION, EXACTLY HOW BAD OF LIARS THEY ARE, exposed them for exactly what they are!!! Now no one will give them the time of day, but police tiptoe around me... I'm pretty sure I scared the living crap out of them!!!
Once I get a bead...it doesn't matter how long it takes, I WILL put them in their proper place...& do it LEGALLY, with a broad smile on my face....🖤🏁
Thanks again Joe your videos hold alot of information and knowledge. Love tge images you use in your videos. Have a lovely weekend Joe thanks again for your videos ❤️
That's what I am going through at the moment, I have got a job and doing gray rock and going no contact, I hope he feels that his bank account is getting dry. Spot on Joe
Thank you for the knowledge. I truly appreciate it.
I got hoovered 5 times at my house the year after I severed it.
I filled out 2 restraining orders but never filed them cuz I knew IT would've enjoyed getting to me. that's how evil IT was.
Sir i come back to this vid multiple times. It triggers me but fill me with joy because i am a narc killer because this is me right here. I do me and it kills them😊❤😂
Your videos are very helpful for me Joe :3 thank you very much
Joe I’m sooo grateful for your wonderful easy listening program it’s the best at applying n it’s a calming place where I feel I can play it all nite n sleep feeling unthreatened thank you bless
Thx man
This has left me so damaged and alone. My devaluation was a way of life Mom.
How are you doing?
Not very well my friend, not very well.😩😩😩😩@@ritapeters1330
Not well my friend, not very well at all.😩😩🫂🫂@@ritapeters1330
For him, I was secretly to get him to get his RN, then he ruined all of that. It was almost like it was supper to happen. Have you heard of Lucy Letby? Yay. It’s hard to know but once again a personality disorder 👈🏻
My ex narc said what happened to my micky after he beat me physically into submission n I said back to him he didn’t beat me hard enough i guess