The Narcissist ex needs to know if you still trauma bonded if you still missing all their drama and bullshit . Don’t ever contact them let them wonder around let them rot in their own misery.
One thing that you said that really hit home. The narc never wants you to be happy. In other words your life with them is nothing more than existence. And that is on a good day.
They hate themselves and project that hatred onto happy peace loving people who will be dragged down by the negative vibes constantly being thrust upon them! Keep your distance and plug your ears to the long drawn out downers! Being alone is heaven,try it,you will get to love it and become a solitary person! Getting in touch with your own spirit and soul as you heal and learn to avoid over the top narcs who live off feelings and other people!
My husband of 12 years ghosted me and has been living with the secretary from his work. I am not on social media thankfully and as soon as the divorce is done,IM DONE being available in ANY WAY. Hes dead to me just like ive been dead to him for years
You know what Joe? I finally got sooo sick of being spoken to so nasty/angry that I just told myself I am DONE BEING DISRESPECTED by this a hole.... it's almost 2 years I'm living on my own. I'd rather be alone at this point with peace n quiet. No drama. God I don't miss that...
I give my ex covert narcissist of 7 years absolutely nothing. I don't exist on social media and we had no mutual friends to check up on me. She did bring her new supply to one of my favourite places to walk the dogs so I could see her draped all over him kissing him. I actually want her to think I'm miserable and missing her and that way she will leave me alone. She could really ruin my life if she wanted too so I'm happy she thinks I'm no value to her, then she moves on and doesn't make trouble for me. I love that she thinks she's doing better than me. She knows nothing about me and never will again.
No contact is everything. I’m no longer on facebook, Twitter, instagram. He’s blocked on every platform unless he’s watching me on this one, in which case, he’s not going to like what he sees. Our mutual friends and family know nothing because nobody sees me. There is no access to my life and that’s the way l like it. I’m way happier.
Went no contact with narc in my life 6 months ago, and you are so right. I found out he has been calling my own mother to see how I am doing😂😂😂. Why won't they just accept the loss and move on. What a waste of life living for "supply". Silence is GOLDEN!
My ex narc has been melting down lately. Crying how alone she is and proclaiming she had to shave her head because she is sick with cancer. She post these videos of herself on twitter. It's insane man.
May I ask why you didn't delete or block her? 🤨 You shouldn't want to know what she doin & sayin. She still on your mind & your thoughts. Isn't that affecting your healing?? 🤔
@sarab.2873 sure is affecting my healing. I will be honest here, I did block her but I look from a different account. I'm still trauma bonded. Was a long relationship.
The flying monkeys you can’t outpace. I have learnt to give as little as possible including my energy. It’s actually easy as most people I know only want to talk about themselves and not interested in what I’m up too. This is a good thing so I’ve learnt to listen from a position of discernment.
@@directionfinderformen unfortunately the 5 years no contact was with my 5 year old dad. 3 years later I married one! So now I'm starting over. 3 months no contact with the most current one. You can imagine I'm doing some self reflecting!! Smh
@candace435 I'm on board with you. I actually wrote a book/journal about my life and I have a YT channel as well. She's never going to control my life again. I fervently believe Mrs. Right is out there. 55 is just a number. Bless you miss. 🙏
I blocked my parents and every last “sibling” and their flying monkeys or anyone even suspected of having access to them. I know this is a total mind fuck for them. I don’t feel bad for being happy, but it is sad to know such pathetic people exist. I just hope they survive the pain and learn (although I highly doubt it) because I’m not dimming my light for anyone anymore
He is an energy vampire. I was a supply. I am calling all my energy back. Going forward 🐝I actually saw his eyes turn completely black when he was angry. There is something very dark in there and I do not want it near me anymore.
Such a sick sick game and mindset these creatures have.. once we are all forced to gain this education.. the real mind F starts... I used to LOVE watching horror movies... not anymore... I was living in one for 7 years.
Listen I am two-and-a-half years no contact. Well minimal contact. I have a child with my Nex. Just hang in there. Life gets so much better when you start loving yourself more than The Narcissist loves you. Good luck to you and stay strong. The happier you become the Sadder they become. Life's good 😊😅
After 38 years of misery I find the only power I have is Silenced 🔕. I'm all in. Thank goodness I live on my own now. I have animals and we are at peace ✌
even if they find out you miss them or still thinking of them and are temporary miserable, let them get there satisfaction because they don’t matter nor there opinions on you. God always has a plan and thing will get better while the narcissist stays miserable. Your sadness is very temporary. just keep healing and don’t even worry about them. i been in NC for 2 years and they got a few insights in my life from old friends i cut off, but idc. I got a promotion, i’m traveling, i’m meeting better people in my life, i’m working out, bought my dream car, and did upgrades to my house. I got off social media but youtube and I read books more now. I’m completely in peace and would never go back.
Joe this is so true, love this excellent summary of why you should never accept the Hoover...(unless you want insight into their toxic mindset).. Their need for supply is incessant, and they'll never pass up a good opportunity..😉♥🎭
This is very accurate in my experience. For example, on Instagram, she removed me as a follower but didn't unfollow me. Unfortunately for her, I rarely post, and she knows that. Very strange after a confusing discard.
thanks for your insightful, nonclinical, and compassionate content. My Buddhist world view kept me in denial of the truth that acceptance and compassion would never change the cycle of rage, blame, and abuse, for ten years. After a year of suicidal ideations, and deep depression, and with minimal contact for a year, I am now happy in a completely new life. However moving to Jamaica, to play congas in Raggae band, may not be the best choice, for many, its working wonderfully for me. Cheers
I dont understand how theres any competition😂 this dude is jobless, lazy, unmotivated, can't create anything tangible or long lasting in reality...he was mooching off my energy the whole time. 😂😂😂wheres the competition in that? At this point he was just a parasite and i was the host. You're bang on regarding they are masters of manipulating perceptions. I stayed with him long enough to get enough information to understand his operating system. I did get emotionally entangled...but at this point i look at life as an experiential experiment and have been observing the effects of this connection from a standpoint of traversing the adverse effects of how to properly assimilate deep trauma and addiction to the recovery phase. Interesting dynamic indeed.
I just blocked it. Seriously I hope I don't see when he tries to call. I needed to do this. Divinely Guided with dreams and intuition. I love myself too much 💞 🐝
This is true which makes me wonder, no, think, that I must have been a piece of work in a previous lifetime to endure the madness and abuse from my former narc.
WOW !!!😯 Two videos today, plus a new articles on Quora !!! You are really inspired today !!! Thank God for that 🙏!!! Thank you ! Thank you ! Thank you ! 🤗❤
I had to be around one relentless family-of-origin narcissist recently who said, "I googled your name, and noticed you were doing (whatever)." It creeped me out a little. I have no social media in my name. I almost want to send this, to let her know I got no candy (salty language warning): ua-cam.com/video/1OqCVoW1W6I/v-deo.html
I blocked my sons wife on social media, she sent her flying monkey to troll me on the narc support groups. I can not believe how far she'll go to get her supply
I live a boring chill life I still a had a lot to offer I’m a powerful good person I gave her energy advice everything I had I knew she had no empathy early on I wanted to change her I face up 9 months blocked she sent a text today with a hey I ignored don’t know for sure if it’s her it’s a random Number I face her my soul I’m not rich but I a gave what I had she wVts back in they are pathetic
It's not an option. No Contact. We still live together and have 2 boys. But at least this discard is on the books so I can have some positive changes in my life.
After 38 years of misery I find the only power I have is Silenced 🔕. I'm all in. Thank goodness I live on my own now. I have animals and we are at peace ✌ Even his cat ran away. 🐈
The Narcissist ex needs to know if you still trauma bonded if you still missing all their drama and bullshit .
Don’t ever contact them let them wonder around let them rot in their own misery.
One thing that you said that really hit home. The narc never wants you to be happy. In other words your life with them is nothing more than existence. And that is on a good day.
It’s crazy how invested they are in making us miserable
You better believe it!! How dare you be Happy!!?? That's exactly how they are 👍
They hate themselves and project that hatred onto happy peace loving people who will be dragged down by the negative vibes constantly being thrust upon them! Keep your distance and plug your ears to the long drawn out downers! Being alone is heaven,try it,you will get to love it and become a solitary person! Getting in touch with your own spirit and soul as you heal and learn to avoid over the top narcs who live off feelings and other people!
They think destroying your happiness somehow makes them better
My husband of 12 years ghosted me and has been living with the secretary from his work.
I am not on social media thankfully and as soon as the divorce is done,IM DONE being available in ANY WAY.
Hes dead to me just like ive been dead to him for years
Mathew 1245
@mynewlife1911 thank You! Going to read it NOW🙏🧡
You know what Joe? I finally got sooo sick of being spoken to so nasty/angry that I just told myself I am DONE BEING DISRESPECTED by this a hole.... it's almost 2 years I'm living on my own. I'd rather be alone at this point with peace n quiet. No drama. God I don't miss that...
I blocked her from all social media platforms, including her number months ago! I am so happy that I cut her off! I am so happy!
I give my ex covert narcissist of 7 years absolutely nothing. I don't exist on social media and we had no mutual friends to check up on me. She did bring her new supply to one of my favourite places to walk the dogs so I could see her draped all over him kissing him. I actually want her to think I'm miserable and missing her and that way she will leave me alone. She could really ruin my life if she wanted too so I'm happy she thinks I'm no value to her, then she moves on and doesn't make trouble for me. I love that she thinks she's doing better than me. She knows nothing about me and never will again.
No contact is everything. I’m no longer on facebook, Twitter, instagram. He’s blocked on every platform unless he’s watching me on this one, in which case, he’s not going to like what he sees. Our mutual friends and family know nothing because nobody sees me. There is no access to my life and that’s the way l like it. I’m way happier.
Went no contact with narc in my life 6 months ago, and you are so right. I found out he has been calling my own mother to see how I am doing😂😂😂. Why won't they just accept the loss and move on. What a waste of life living for "supply". Silence is GOLDEN!
My ex narc has been melting down lately. Crying how alone she is and proclaiming she had to shave her head because she is sick with cancer. She post these videos of herself on twitter. It's insane man.
Pity play, seeking sympathy, just ignore it.
@@westcoast747 exactly what I'm doing brother.
@@westcoast747😊😊😊😊
May I ask why you didn't delete or block her? 🤨 You shouldn't want to know what she doin & sayin. She still on your mind & your thoughts. Isn't that affecting your healing?? 🤔
@sarab.2873 sure is affecting my healing. I will be honest here, I did block her but I look from a different account. I'm still trauma bonded. Was a long relationship.
You have to cut any and all contact.
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Yes, because the person we thought they were doesn't even exist ✌️
The flying monkeys you can’t outpace. I have learnt to give as little as possible including my energy. It’s actually easy as most people I know only want to talk about themselves and not interested in what I’m up too. This is a good thing so I’ve learnt to listen from a position of discernment.
They are irrelevant. 5 years strong and yall I can't even remember what his face looks like.
Ooh! Only if he knew that! Ouch!
@@directionfinderformen all pictures were deleted of him. When I packed his things, all printed pictures when in his garbage bags.
@candace435 you're my type of person. Good for you. My journey began 18 months when I figured out she's been sleeping with someone else. 😴 oh well
@@directionfinderformen unfortunately the 5 years no contact was with my 5 year old dad. 3 years later I married one! So now I'm starting over. 3 months no contact with the most current one. You can imagine I'm doing some self reflecting!! Smh
@candace435 I'm on board with you. I actually wrote a book/journal about my life and I have a YT channel as well. She's never going to control my life again. I fervently believe Mrs. Right is out there. 55 is just a number. Bless you miss. 🙏
I blocked my parents and every last “sibling” and their flying monkeys or anyone even suspected of having access to them. I know this is a total mind fuck for them. I don’t feel bad for being happy, but it is sad to know such pathetic people exist. I just hope they survive the pain and learn (although I highly doubt it) because I’m not dimming my light for anyone anymore
He is an energy vampire. I was a supply. I am calling all my energy back. Going forward 🐝I actually saw his eyes turn completely black when he was angry. There is something very dark in there and I do not want it near me anymore.
Such a sick sick game and mindset these creatures have.. once we are all forced to gain this education.. the real mind F starts... I used to LOVE watching horror movies... not anymore... I was living in one for 7 years.
13for me bro salute
No Contact literally saved my life 🎉 and the best part is that all I have to do is focus on MY healing. I'm only responsible for my choices 💛🙏✌️
Appreciate your messages focus on post narcissist. Keeping the trauma bond at bay and building back self esteem.
Listen I am two-and-a-half years no contact. Well minimal contact. I have a child with my Nex. Just hang in there. Life gets so much better when you start loving yourself more than The Narcissist loves you. Good luck to you and stay strong. The happier you become the Sadder they become. Life's good 😊😅
I know for a fact my Narc watches all his exes on FB so I blocked him!!! He's not gonna watch me!!!
After 38 years of misery
I find the only power I have is
Silenced 🔕.
I'm all in. Thank goodness I live on my own now. I have animals and we are at peace ✌
Keep the 'door' firmly SHUT...you KNOW what 'they' want and it sure ain't for YOUR benefit...you KNOW this!! NO CONTACT means just that!!!
even if they find out you miss them or still thinking of them and are temporary miserable, let them get there satisfaction because they don’t matter nor there opinions on you. God always has a plan and thing will get better while the narcissist stays miserable. Your sadness is very temporary. just keep healing and don’t even worry about them. i been in NC for 2 years and they got a few insights in my life from old friends i cut off, but idc. I got a promotion, i’m traveling, i’m meeting better people in my life, i’m working out, bought my dream car, and did upgrades to my house. I got off social media but youtube and I read books more now. I’m completely in peace and would never go back.
Joe this is so true, love this excellent summary of why you should never accept the Hoover...(unless you want insight into their toxic mindset).. Their need for supply is incessant, and they'll never pass up a good opportunity..😉♥🎭
❤😁
Yeah he’s not getting ANY of my gold nuggets!!! 😂
This is very accurate in my experience. For example, on Instagram, she removed me as a follower but didn't unfollow me. Unfortunately for her, I rarely post, and she knows that. Very strange after a confusing discard.
thanks for your insightful, nonclinical, and compassionate content. My Buddhist world view kept me in denial of the truth that acceptance and compassion would never change the cycle of rage, blame, and abuse, for ten years. After a year of suicidal ideations, and deep depression, and with minimal contact for a year, I am now happy in a completely new life. However moving to Jamaica, to play congas in Raggae band, may not be the best choice, for many, its working wonderfully for me. Cheers
I dont understand how theres any competition😂 this dude is jobless, lazy, unmotivated, can't create anything tangible or long lasting in reality...he was mooching off my energy the whole time. 😂😂😂wheres the competition in that? At this point he was just a parasite and i was the host.
You're bang on regarding they are masters of manipulating perceptions. I stayed with him long enough to get enough information to understand his operating system.
I did get emotionally entangled...but at this point i look at life as an experiential experiment and have been observing the effects of this connection from a standpoint of traversing the adverse effects of how to properly assimilate deep trauma and addiction to the recovery phase.
Interesting dynamic indeed.
I just blocked it. Seriously I hope I don't see when he tries to call. I needed to do this. Divinely Guided with dreams and intuition. I love myself too much 💞 🐝
You reap what you sow 👈🏻
This is true which makes me wonder, no, think, that I must have been a piece of work in a previous lifetime to endure the madness and abuse from my former narc.
@@JS-hb8nk it’s the unspoken words that confuses us.
This is the hardest part to maintain, due to extended family relations and small talk.
You know Narcissist's very well .,Joe!
WOW !!!😯 Two videos today, plus a new articles on Quora !!! You are really inspired today !!! Thank God for that 🙏!!! Thank you ! Thank you ! Thank you ! 🤗❤
Thank you, yes indeed today was a very inspiring day!! ❤😊
I AM HIS WORST ENEMY-👈🏻
DONT CARE, EAT IT👈🏻
I joined that club today myself. Public enemy #1. I set a boundary 😮😮😮
I had to be around one relentless family-of-origin narcissist recently who said, "I googled your name, and noticed you were doing (whatever)." It creeped me out a little. I have no social media in my name. I almost want to send this, to let her know I got no candy (salty language warning):
ua-cam.com/video/1OqCVoW1W6I/v-deo.html
I blocked my sons wife on social media, she sent her flying monkey to troll me on the narc support groups. I can not believe how far she'll go to get her supply
My narc found a naive rich insurance agent to live off of she swear she has struck gold 😂 I got married and blocked him
I live a boring chill life I still a had a lot to offer I’m a powerful good person I gave her energy advice everything I had I knew she had no empathy early on I wanted to change her I face up 9 months blocked she sent a text today with a hey I ignored don’t know for sure if it’s her it’s a random Number I face her my soul I’m not rich but I a gave what I had she wVts back in they are pathetic
It's not an option. No Contact. We still live together and have 2 boys. But at least this discard is on the books so I can have some positive changes in my life.
Excellent video as always! You are so helpful and educating people. Keep it up. I am so thankful for you👌🏻✅
Thank you ❤️
Thank you for sharing that it’s not possible to conceal 100%.
I took my ex narcs mask off and showed it to him. He raged and hates me so bad I wonder how he ever "loved" me.
I just wish the narc would come around again, I really do wish he comes. I just wanna play with him a little like a cat plays with a mouse.
They just stalk you in person
most definitely
After 38 years of misery
I find the only power I have is
Silenced 🔕.
I'm all in. Thank goodness I live on my own now. I have animals and we are at peace ✌
Even his cat ran away. 🐈
🙏❤
love the content and the images