I don't think anyone suspected I was gay. I don't act tough like other guys but I don't act feminine either. I guess I'm neutral. I don't switch when I walk, talk like a woman, nor dress up as a woman but I'm not into sports or acting tough either. I'm calm and quiet most of the time. I was scared to come out to my dad and sister and cousins but it turned out to be no big deal. I'm still me and everything is as usual. I don't go searching for a man because I know what type of guys are out there. I just go with the flow until the right guy (loyal, compatible) shows up and until then, I have no problem being single and not having sex.
The truth is some straight guys don't act stereotypically straight... so why are we so hyper-aware of the "stereotypical gay"? Just think how much easier life would be if we knew just how many guys we assume are straight are actually gay and afraid we will find out.
I’ve been in a relationship with a female twice, but I’ve never been attracted sexually to females. I considered myself “Bi” at that time, but in reality I was straight up gay, but had a girlfriend to try an suppress my attraction to guys.. I’ve always been masculine so unless I tell someone I’m gay they wouldn’t even know.. Thanks for the Advice Video Dalvin...👍🏽
before someone comes in these comments and say, “how can you walk gay?” Dalvin was trying to say, his mannerisms are not of what people say a gay male is.
I wish my kids dad will come out. An ex transgender friend of mine used to always tell me my kids dad was gay. I was young 18 or 19 at the time when we had our first daughter so I brushed it off like yeah right. Then......between his violent abusive behavior/narcissism, blatant homophobia and hatred towards gay men, I realize it's clear as day now, the man is gay. Ugh
I didn’t come out till I was 22. I knew from the age 14 but never acted on my feelings. I was too busy breaking girls hearts trying to block it out. Hated it tbh 😞😞
I totally agree with you. I been DL for a very long time. Best thing I suggest, just be yourself. Be honest with yourself and the person who talking to. That's has always work for me
If you're saying you been DL for a while that means you still are you never said that you're open to being bisexual you still confusing yourself using the term DL download you're bisexual you're bisexual you like men and if that's your real picture people already know what you are you wrote the comments
I am and have been on the DL all my life. Just like you, I played high school and college basketball. I come off as being straight and you wouldn't know unless I let you know that I am gay. Everyone that does know be like you cool as hell and they say that they can go anywhere and do chill with me because people have no idea that I am gay. I'm very masculine.
I feel good about both, but don't get me wrong, a lot of people know and a lot of people don't know. I just don't think that it's necessary to broadcast your sexuality. I am on no way a shame of being gay. People in general are a lot more and accepting and tolerant of alternative lifestyles today than they use to be. I never cared whether people liked me or not. I just always was myself and refused to change who I am.
Putting this on UA-cam is about the bravest thing you can do and your helping other guys be themselves which reduces heart breaks, diseases ect.. Hopefully your living situation is safe.
I’m gonna send this to a DL man I know. He seems to believe he isn’t gay bc he likes trans women. But trans women have “extra equipment” that I don’t have. Thanks for being honest and true to yourself.
I was DL in my younger days, I'm 35 now, but I have been on my own since 21.. it only took me a year after being on my own then at age 22 I decided there was no point of me caring anymore about what others think, I'm grown and none of those people who have so many opinions are paying my bills or taking care of me. That goes for family, friends and definitely strangers. So fuck their feelings. I learned to live by my own rules, not some non-fucking-factor who is irrelevant to my life. Who I had sex with was still not anybody else business, but if I was asked if I was gay or got down with dudes now the answer was Yeah, instead of lying saying NO because of being DL before. Now at 35 I really don't entertain that shit, I laugh when some dudes slide into my DM asking "yo bro you DL" my response is "Nah bro, I'm GROWN"
@@zurdoaggresive What? Nobody is scrutinising anyone. It's typical for a gay man to have some kind of inflection in their voice that gives it away, and I hear it as well when he talks.
@@mr.quacadile683 Yes you are scrutinizing, you are literally fixed on the man's voice talking about "inflections" and "his vibe." I don't know why people are so obsessed with "scouting out" gay men it's none of your business. Think about other things.
@@Angel.Shehu8081 Uhm I never said anything about his vibe. Just his voice. No one is "scouting out" gay men. He is openly gay & since he is, I'm saying that he has a typical inflection in his voice that gay men tend to have, whether they force it or not. I'm not "fixed on his voice". It was simply something I noticed...🤦🏾♂️
it's not acting straight. its acting masculine. the majority of masculine people are straight and that's why you come off as straight but its acting masculine. not straight
santiago luis exactlyyyyy And it’s fine for gay guys to be masculine as well and not even be acting. Sexuality doesn’t always influence behavior! People need to realize this. Living in this time of the internet you should be seeing the amount of masculine gays that exist.
Sexuality is not defined by muscular bodies ....I have my friends who are so muscular but they are not straight and hate calling them straight...they are not shy ....and I have feminine friends who are straight and having children and a wife doesn't mean you are straight
Thank you for mentioning the part about us men having feelings too. It’s not fair to get involved with someone, who you know you’ll never take seriously.
I always considered myself to be hetero. I was married for 10 years. We got divorced about 10 years ago. It seems like I have lost my attraction to women ever since the divorce. I was so heartbroken by it, and still have not fully recovered from it. I have been celibate for 10 years now. When I see a guy who is good-looking and intelligent like you it gets me hard. It is so confusing and frustrating to me. Girls hit on me a lot but I can't bring myself to give it up. It seems that more and more dudes are hitting on me these days. I want to step out but I don't know what to do. I am so worried and confused that my sexuality seems to be way up in the air. This has thrown me for a loop. Anyway, brother, thank you for your advice. It brings me some comfort. I feel like I'm in panic mode, and I don't know what to do about it. It's a damn shame that I don't know who I am anymore!
I think the easiest way to deal with it is to acknowledge that you are attracted to guys. Once you accept that reality then everything gets easier. If you want to maintain your privacy, just ensure you have your own place/turn your own keys, then live life on your own terms. As long as you have your shit together (job, car, house etc), you can live ur life in private as u desire.
Hi Dalvo i really liked this video. You are an intelligent and a mentally mature person. I loved how you used your own experiences to demonstrate the advice you were giving. Continue to blossom. Much ❤❤❤. Blessings!!
I'm just checking out your piece for the first time and I like your content. I too am a masculine & discreet guy that happens to enjoy women and men. However, I always felt that whatever I do and like behind closed doors is not anyone's business.
Your genuine spirit and amazing compassion is so evident Dalvo. That’s what makes these advice vids of yours so wonderful....you don’t ever come from a place of judgement or condescension. I’m definitely sure you helped the dude that sent you that question (as well as many others in the same position who watch this vid). Keep doing ya thing man, proud of you 💯💯
Thank you your very articulate and you are understood well. That important I like your topics, you not a clown I like that about you. Your topics are great and important to the masses. I've been out for yrs but I like your content and subjects. I've only seen 3 of your videos but great so far. Look forward to many more😇😇
If is not your style it is not your style !!!!! Don’t change for no one in life. Be yourself always. Do not try to fit in with something that you do not like. The best answers comes back to asking your family members. They are there for a reason thru thick and thin !!!!!!! Take heed to your family’s words of life always. You are a very intelligent person. Start using your wisdom and knowledge in life about being accepted in life. “ BE YOURSELF ALWAYS “ !!!!!!!😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍 DALMATIANS in the HOUSE !!!!!!!!!!
I remember getting called gay in school it started around 4th grade 94-95 it's like it never leaves even in my adult life I'm a masculine man it was still hard for me to have relationships with women I was often friendzoned and treated as an option the guys would call me the "F" word all the time I had some of the worse years in middle school I never imagined how vile and odious people could be❗❗❗. It was hard then I was always the target of gay jokes they literally tried to break my soul I'm straight but I can totally relate to what certain people go through❗.I couldn't even get a time of second let alone a time of day Bro it was hard but your story has been very informative on some real things keep up the good work❗❗❗❗🤜🤛🍻
Hey I loved the video where you introduced your boyfriend! Stay strong and true to who you are. It's such a huge reward in being yourself and having someone you love being with you. God made you just as you are. Give God glory and he will take care of you. I am a witness.
Royce Rowland only people at my school know I'm gay, but one day my mom peeped my rainbow ribbon and told me she hopes I'm not gay, and that kinda discouraged me to open up to my family
Most people think I’m straight when they meet me and I like it cause it gives them a real chance to get to know me for who I am and not just a gay guy. I don’t really like being around flamboyant guys cause i feel they are kinda putting on a show and playing into stereotypes that push back progress already made. Plus I see myself as being Black before anything else. Can someone tell me how I can change this cause I honestly feel bad when I push away flamboyant gay guys.
Look, I'm very feminine..But listen, were all gay and because we're pushed into a box and rejected we all need to support each other, the progress is getting all the gays out of the shadows...not to show straight people that were similar to them, that's not progress...that's adapting to what makes them comfortable, and never were people concerned about our comfort as gay people..the people you should support is us because we will run miles just to make sure you get the same respect as us weather your fem, trans, trade, drag, mas etc we got you more then they ever will...and the people you wana show progress to are people who would hate you if you wore lipstick. No shade at all just explaining what I think, and I hope that made sense
Robert Bailey and as far as a show, some floss there femininity and I will admit someone who's super obnoxious is annoying, but girls do it to, and mas guy flaunt there manliness sometime to. Maybe there doing it because there letting people know, I'm gay af and I'm here and no ones gunna stop me. I know I was like that at 18. It's like a fuck you thing. I'm still fem but not as dramatic.
Robert Bailey you do t like being around fems bcuz you think they play into a sterotype? How is one being themselves playing into a sterotype ? I think the re reason why you don't want to be around fems is bcuz you don't want the side eyes and shade gays get in general. I understand trying to break the sterotype that gay men want to mimick women, but don't shade the fems and stay away from them bcuz you aren't comfortable with yourself yet
Robert Bailey oh and dont push them away. You'll ultimately lose a good friend. You just need to get the courage to live in your truth and say fuck who don't like it
im not a flamer but im not trade either so i can tell you from a lifetime of bullying experiences that fem boys have been thru hell and back and we're possibly some of the strongest people you will ever meet. sometimes even the most loyal. don't let fear keep you from meeting amazing people.
That’s the thing, you do walk, talk, and act gay bc that’s who you are. We need to promote different ppl like yourself to help change the perception of what “gay” is. You can be gay and be feminine or masculine, you can be gay and play ball or do ballet, you can be gay and sing or rap. Being “gay” doesn’t mean one thing we as gay men define how we are perceived. I thinks the main reason DL guys struggle with acceptance because we find it hard to identify. We need more representation of gay masculine men to show the world that we cannot be put in a box. Hopefully this helps
Sup Brother Man ... KingMan Holla ' From The NYC So Proud of You Dal 4 Standing up 4 ya' self As A Proud Masculine Bi-Man, Like Myself 4 Being So Open & Honest. I Know in Most Circumstances It Must of Been Very Difficult Growing up with Those type of Feelings 4 Both Sex' es I know it Was Hard 4 Me as Well Growing In The HardKnock Streets of NewYork Luckily Society Has Loosened up A Bit. Keep up The Good Work, U Doing A Good Thing Making These Types of Videos Peace ...
Itzdalvo you really are an inspiration to others because your calmness brings a sense of peace. I would like to offer an alternate perspective when it come to the DL reality that we find ourselves in today. Not until very recently in history people began to intrude into other people's sexual identity. If you look at Greek and Roman societies, for example, they were founded on sexual liberty. Terms such as LGBTQ+ were not even relevant because people were free to be with whomever they desired. Also, with most tribal people of the world did not impose heterosexuality as the norm and individual uniqueness was treasured because everyone is seen as irreplaceable. This modern interpretation of christianity has us looking for the worst in other people. So, I would like to suggest that DL is simply another dysfunctional byproduct of a misinterpretation of what christianity is supposed to be. I'm not a Christian perse but what he really taught was love, acceptance, service to others and to do no harm. I would add one, which is to value every person around us to the best of our ability. If we all did that one thing, bullying culture would be a thing of the past. There is so much untapped potential in people that goes unrealized because we don't understand that is in ALL of us.
Awww Dalv I love how you don't edit your videos you just start talking and let the camera roll... even if you mess up you just keep going and that's raw and real! If you keep it up you'll have a fan forever over here 😍😘💖💖💖💖💖💖
Your advice is good. Its very tough being gay is but I think the femmenie gays have a harder time. With it. But over all its best to come out when your ready. When you get to the point that you don't care what pepole think or say.
keishawnlight oh cmon..😷..live your life and be open quit w that dl stuff especially when it comes to doing that crap behind someone elses back..its disturbing.
NIKKI STAHR you need to shut up. You don't know what someone goes thru. This is why it's so many gay youth killing themselves and on the streets homeless. Bcuz ppl like you try and pressure them to come out and it wasn't the right time. Ppl will discover themselves when it's right . As long as they don't hurt anyone else let them stay deep in that closet
I always appeared to be gay to people who I came in contact with because I was kind of feminine /sexy. but When I first seen prince when he first came out in 1983 I was amazed in how much freedom he had with just being himself it was liberating to me and ever since then I chose to be my self .masculinity is attractive sometimes when a person is not attractive but you don’t have to hide behind your Masculinity just be yourself and free yourself I got a lot of down low men just by being myself. IM NOT A WOMEN IM NOT A MAN I AM SOMETHING THAT YOU'LL NEVER UNDERSTAND AND IM LOVINGING IT
When he said “I don’t come off as a gay man” 😂😂 babbbyyyy u have sugar foot *in my zo voice* written all over u...lol no shade tho...seriously! No shade lol
I am glad that you are living in your truth. Society might not appreciate people living in their truth but in the bigger picture, it gets us spiritual points. It's a sign of great courage and strong will. Btw, you are a cutie on duty. You look like you could be one of my relatives.
DO YOU THINK IF A MAN RATHER SPEND TIME WITH DUDES IN THE STREET THAN BE AT HOME WITH HIS WIFE WHO HAS MARRIAGE LICENSE AND ALL. DO U THINK HE'S GAY OR DOWN LOW?
The problem with DL guys is when the woman you're sleeping with knows he is DL or gay, and doesn't have a problem with it. When I told the guy he denied it. I ended the relationship. I wasn't interested in outing him, but the denial needs to stop. While most of you that are DL may not 'behave' like someone gay, the bottom line is that you are gay. You're only fooling yourselves.
It really ain't nobody business who you do me personally I'm totally gay but everybody assumes I'm straight because of how I carry myself and I don't tell them any different because that's my shit feel me
Hey Darius Miss watching video for good while so I'm back now and i see you have some new changes and improvement in everything so I like you to keep up the good work and I was so watching your Video peace out Love dude :)
first of all flamboyant guys don't put on shows nor do we live up to stereotypes, stereotypes are made by the mass public I'm a feminine guy and it's what I'm the most comfortable at so I could easily say men who are more masculine who fit into the social Norm who are later confronted about being gay are too scared to come out that's a stereotype we're all stereotypes
I'm gay but still everyone is in my school be playing with my emotion because my but is to big it so annoying give me advice because all people bother me because of my body I haven't even dated anyone what do I even do......
Tanijia Gennae they don't say things there always touching me and it make me very uncomfortable and the dum things is when I tell the teacher there excuse is I'm straight but luckily I have my friend to protect me
Omg! Same thing used to happen to me as a kid! Straight boys would sexually harass me all school-day long!! Every now and again they would even get a little physical and actually cop feels, or poke at it w/phallic objects, etc. All the while I was in the closet. It was a balancing act trying to hide my sexuality and simultaneously being singled out by male attention b/c I had a big booty. Anyway, if you're as lucky (or unlucky depending how you look at it) as I am you'll lose your booty eventually. Around Sophomore/Junior year of high school I started running and exercising, and my butt is very average now. (But, ironically now that I've sexually come into my own as an adult...I kinda wish I had it back lol. Whereas as a kid it was annoying, as a grown up I would appreciated it more now.)
As for advice, I'm still young myself, but as an adult the PC thing to say to a child in this situation I guess would be value your childhood and don't try to grow up too fast. You're only a child for a few years; you're an adult for MUCH longer. In other words, don't worry about "romance" and boys, and definitely don't have sex! All that can wait. (I get it, hormones are raging at that time, and boys love to find other boys to experiment on/with. And having a big butt will draw all that attention to you like it did to me. But, curve those guys as best you can!) The thing is, as an adult sometimes you look back on your life and feel like maybe some things that happened (to you) when you were young have predetermined your fate and robbed you of the ability to have true control over certain aspects of your life. But, b/c I demanded more respect and never allowed myself to be "used" as a kid, I never have to feel that level of powerlessness or insecurity when I'm faced with adversity now. I'm strong and independent. And when I make life choices I can be confident that they're stemming from a place of healthy decision making and that it's not childhood trauma that's really pulling the strings instead. Sometimes bad things happen to you, you can't control that. That's not your fault. BUT, if you can control it, don't have sex or let ppl touch you until YOU are ready. Sorry for rambling. It's just my opinion. Admittedly I could be totally wrong about all this. But, I can't pass up the chance to be of service to the younger generation. I hope this was of some help to you! Good luck! :)
1st gratz on embracing but accepting yourself. 2nd you are a man with preferences just as everyone does. This is not an option you are going to be able to prefer and truthfully its not about other peoples choice for you...boo! Its learning to be comfortable in ur skin. 3rd you promote who you are what you stand for simply living your life. Nice video please remember Prep you are in danger of HPV even fucking females...beaware of that truth. Stay encouraging fellas to be themselves and self love...hug you besides it is all inconsequential by understanding of the New Covenant. Hugs lil daddy
I think we all need to read more and educate ourselves because in the Black Culture masculinity is looked at as right so that's why you guys are labeled as DL and you don't want to deal with the stigma of being call flamboyant or Sissy are soft but just live your life living your truth living for yourself you're not here to please nobody but you, whether you choose to walk out the house like Lady Gaga that's your prerogative or if you choose to dress an appeal to the social Norm of what Society has implicated on how men especially black men act and dress then so be it but be you you got one life don't live in for no one else
Try harder and stop over thinking it stop assuming about what other people are going to think or say about you what matters is what you think about you its OK to be yourself some people will like you & some won't it really doesn't matter if you're gay or straight be honest and live your best life.❤💙💚💛💜
I believe my ex may be "trapped in the closet". He would always go soft when we would f***, and he was always ready to snap at the drop of a hat. He told me he experienced a homosexual encounter when he was in his early teens and that he had been on the fence with his sexuality as recently as college.
Bro, I hate to break it to you but us gay men can tell yall are into us by your eyes. The amount of straight dudes I catch staring at my butt at the gym tells me everything I need to know. They are not shy at all.
They're not straight. Stop with the lies. Real straight men are not into guys sexually. These men are bi and gay. I just came out as gay, and I'm very naturally butch. You are encouraging us to be dl or closeted by entertaining our "straight" delusions. Don't be a queen.
When a DL can’t or won’t tell their female dates their sleeping with men both parties are being played and used. Just Be Honest.
I agree
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I don't think anyone suspected I was gay. I don't act tough like other guys but I don't act feminine either. I guess I'm neutral. I don't switch when I walk, talk like a woman, nor dress up as a woman but I'm not into sports or acting tough either. I'm calm and quiet most of the time. I was scared to come out to my dad and sister and cousins but it turned out to be no big deal.
I'm still me and everything is as usual. I don't go searching for a man because I know what type of guys are out there. I just go with the flow until the right guy (loyal, compatible) shows up and until then, I have no problem being single and not having sex.
Justin Love I do what I want, I act feminine and masculine
This is exactly how i am 💯
I'm just going with the flow as well, not searching for a man. If it happens it happens.
The truth is some straight guys don't act stereotypically straight... so why are we so hyper-aware of the "stereotypical gay"? Just think how much easier life would be if we knew just how many guys we assume are straight are actually gay and afraid we will find out.
You are literally me right now, educated, independent, and single lol. Figure I'll just keep it kosher until someone catches my attention.
I’ve been in a relationship with a female twice, but I’ve never been attracted sexually to females. I considered myself “Bi” at that time, but in reality I was straight up gay, but had a girlfriend to try an suppress my attraction to guys..
I’ve always been masculine so unless I tell someone I’m gay they wouldn’t even know..
Thanks for the Advice Video Dalvin...👍🏽
How old r u ?
I can relate to what you are saying Bro 💞
Can I see what u look like? I’m a female btw and I slept with a guy 3 yrs ago I’m 100% sure is dl
before someone comes in these comments and say, “how can you walk gay?” Dalvin was trying to say, his mannerisms are not of what people say a gay male is.
I wish my kids dad will come out. An ex transgender friend of mine used to always tell me my kids dad was gay. I was young 18 or 19 at the time when we had our first daughter so I brushed it off like yeah right. Then......between his violent abusive behavior/narcissism, blatant homophobia and hatred towards gay men, I realize it's clear as day now, the man is gay. Ugh
I was used by a gay narcissist, too.
I'm so sorry!
Very selfish of them to not come out!
I didn’t come out till I was 22. I knew from the age 14 but never acted on my feelings. I was too busy breaking girls hearts trying to block it out. Hated it tbh 😞😞
Tyrone matete I came out last year at 23. I had to friend zone a couple of girls because I didn't want to hurt them.
Tyrone matete subscribe to my UA-cam channel for more videos like this
iaytoao I'm sexually attracted to both sexes, it's a lot stronger for guys however.
Me either
Hey Cuz... I see you're starting to gain more confidence man... I'm proud of you.
Being dl is low key easy when u bi until you develop a crush on one of your home boys 😔
I totally agree with you. I been DL for a very long time. Best thing I suggest, just be yourself. Be honest with yourself and the person who talking to. That's has always work for me
If you're saying you been DL for a while that means you still are you never said that you're open to being bisexual you still confusing yourself using the term DL download you're bisexual you're bisexual you like men and if that's your real picture people already know what you are you wrote the comments
I am and have been on the DL all my life. Just like you, I played high school and college basketball. I come off as being straight and you wouldn't know unless I let you know that I am gay. Everyone that does know be like you cool as hell and they say that they can go anywhere and do chill with me because people have no idea that I am gay. I'm very masculine.
Dyron Smith hi dadddy
Dyron Smith That’s what up!!
Dyron Smith I'm only out at my highschool, at home nobody knows
I feel good about both, but don't get me wrong, a lot of people know and a lot of people don't know. I just don't think that it's necessary to broadcast your sexuality. I am on no way a shame of being gay. People in general are a lot more and accepting and tolerant of alternative lifestyles today than they use to be. I never cared whether people liked me or not. I just always was myself and refused to change who I am.
Caleb DeSouza the thirst
Putting this on UA-cam is about the bravest thing you can do and your helping other guys be themselves which reduces heart breaks, diseases ect.. Hopefully your living situation is safe.
I’m gonna send this to a DL man I know. He seems to believe he isn’t gay bc he likes trans women. But trans women have “extra equipment” that I don’t have. Thanks for being honest and true to yourself.
I was DL in my younger days, I'm 35 now, but I have been on my own since 21.. it only took me a year after being on my own then at age 22 I decided there was no point of me caring anymore about what others think, I'm grown and none of those people who have so many opinions are paying my bills or taking care of me. That goes for family, friends and definitely strangers. So fuck their feelings. I learned to live by my own rules, not some non-fucking-factor who is irrelevant to my life. Who I had sex with was still not anybody else business, but if I was asked if I was gay or got down with dudes now the answer was Yeah, instead of lying saying NO because of being DL before. Now at 35 I really don't entertain that shit, I laugh when some dudes slide into my DM asking "yo bro you DL" my response is "Nah bro, I'm GROWN"
Thank you for sharing your experience it takes a lot of confidence, much love and respect and blessings to you🙏🏼
Intuitive ppl that can tell your compromised. Gay men give off a distinct energy that can not be hidden to someone who can read energy.
You come off straight until you talk. You have this twang in your voice and it’s something about your vibe that gives it away
he seems straightish to me lol. i have the worst gaydar. 😂
Y'all OBSESSED to scrutinize gay men millimeter by millimeter it's getting weird fr
@@zurdoaggresive What? Nobody is scrutinising anyone. It's typical for a gay man to have some kind of inflection in their voice that gives it away, and I hear it as well when he talks.
@@mr.quacadile683 Yes you are scrutinizing, you are literally fixed on the man's voice talking about "inflections" and "his vibe." I don't know why people are so obsessed with "scouting out" gay men it's none of your business. Think about other things.
@@Angel.Shehu8081 Uhm I never said anything about his vibe. Just his voice. No one is "scouting out" gay men. He is openly gay & since he is, I'm saying that he has a typical inflection in his voice that gay men tend to have, whether they force it or not. I'm not "fixed on his voice". It was simply something I noticed...🤦🏾♂️
Your intro is so chill💙
it's not acting straight. its acting masculine. the majority of masculine people are straight and that's why you come off as straight but its acting masculine. not straight
santiago luis exactlyyyyy
And it’s fine for gay guys to be masculine as well and not even be acting. Sexuality doesn’t always influence behavior! People need to realize this. Living in this time of the internet you should be seeing the amount of masculine gays that exist.
A lot of DL men do not claim to be gay but instead claim to be straight. They are the ones wearing sunglasses and acting masc in the gayborhood lol
Sexuality is not defined by muscular bodies ....I have my friends who are so muscular but they are not straight and hate calling them straight...they are not shy ....and I have feminine friends who are straight and having children and a wife doesn't mean you are straight
@@shutupandeatasmr4498 I wasn't ready!!! 🙃😆😭
No actually it is acting straight... Straight is largely a performance .. the way you ACT.
Thank you for mentioning the part about us men having feelings too. It’s not fair to get involved with someone, who you know you’ll never take seriously.
I’m only supporting you after the situation. Love ur chillness
nativia TV what situation ?
nativia TV tbh he a role model he don't care if it's a guys ass or girls ass he just shoot
I always considered myself to be hetero. I was married for 10 years. We got divorced about 10 years ago. It seems like I have lost my attraction to women ever since the divorce. I was so heartbroken by it, and still have not fully recovered from it. I have been celibate for 10 years now. When I see a guy who is good-looking and intelligent like you it gets me hard. It is so confusing and frustrating to me. Girls hit on me a lot but I can't bring myself to give it up. It seems that more and more dudes are hitting on me these days. I want to step out but I don't know what to do. I am so worried and confused that my sexuality seems to be way up in the air. This has thrown me for a loop. Anyway, brother, thank you for your advice. It brings me some comfort. I feel like I'm in panic mode, and I don't know what to do about it. It's a damn shame that I don't know who I am anymore!
I think the easiest way to deal with it is to acknowledge that you are attracted to guys. Once you accept that reality then everything gets easier. If you want to maintain your privacy, just ensure you have your own place/turn your own keys, then live life on your own terms. As long as you have your shit together (job, car, house etc), you can live ur life in private as u desire.
Hi Dalvo i really liked this video. You are an intelligent and a mentally mature person. I loved how you used your own experiences to demonstrate the advice you were giving. Continue to blossom. Much ❤❤❤. Blessings!!
Your bravery and wisdom is admirable! You remind me so much of myself, you’re just braver than I am!
God Bless you!
❤️
Bee Jay thank you ❤️
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I'm just checking out your piece for the first time and I like your content. I too am a masculine & discreet guy that happens to enjoy women and men. However, I always felt that whatever I do and like behind closed doors is not anyone's business.
Your genuine spirit and amazing compassion is so evident Dalvo. That’s what makes these advice vids of yours so wonderful....you don’t ever come from a place of judgement or condescension. I’m definitely sure you helped the dude that sent you that question (as well as many others in the same position who watch this vid). Keep doing ya thing man, proud of you 💯💯
CJ Bourne thanks a lot
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Thank you your very articulate and you are understood well. That important I like your topics, you not a clown I like that about you. Your topics are great and important to the masses. I've been out for yrs but I like your content and subjects. I've only seen 3 of your videos but great so far. Look forward to many more😇😇
If is not your style it is not your style !!!!! Don’t change for no one in life. Be yourself always. Do not try to fit in with something that you do not like. The best answers comes back to asking your family members. They are there for a reason thru thick and thin !!!!!!! Take heed to your family’s words of life always. You are a very intelligent person. Start using your wisdom and knowledge in life about being accepted in life. “ BE YOURSELF ALWAYS “ !!!!!!!😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍 DALMATIANS in the HOUSE !!!!!!!!!!
I remember getting called gay in school it started around 4th grade 94-95 it's like it never leaves even in my adult life I'm a masculine man it was still hard for me to have relationships with women I was often friendzoned and treated as an option the guys would call me the "F" word all the time I had some of the worse years in middle school I never imagined how vile and odious people could be❗❗❗. It was hard then I was always the target of gay jokes they literally tried to break my soul I'm straight but I can totally relate to what certain people go through❗.I couldn't even get a time of second let alone a time of day Bro it was hard but your story has been very informative on some real things keep up the good work❗❗❗❗🤜🤛🍻
Hey I loved the video where you introduced your boyfriend! Stay strong and true to who you are. It's such a huge reward in being yourself and having someone you love being with you. God made you just as you are. Give God glory and he will take care of you. I am a witness.
Dalvin being bisexual do you find yourself being more attracted to one gender more than the other?
Product or Brand and how did you accept yourself as a bisexual
martell dave
I just accepted who I am and became ok with. I'm not bisexual I'm happily gay😄
I'm bisexual, sexually attracted to both guys and girls but the attraction is a lot stronger for guys.
@@tjtanner9311 whats yo ih
@@tjtanner9311 you are gay..period
Good video today, I can relate to the subject of being DL. I was the guy who dealt with two guys who were not comfortable with who they were.
Royce Rowland only people at my school know I'm gay, but one day my mom peeped my rainbow ribbon and told me she hopes I'm not gay, and that kinda discouraged me to open up to my family
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8:42 the look yo momma give you when you doing sum you not suppose too😂😭💀💀‼️much love for ya bro‼️‼️❤️❤️😈😈
“Under cover gay” 💀💀💀💀
I love your personality ❤ - I think you're somewhat emotionally intelligent
I love you man....Love you for speaking your truth. I can tell you at 59 years old its not easy for some of us. Just saying....God Bless you bruh!
Most people think I’m straight when they meet me and I like it cause it gives them a real chance to get to know me for who I am and not just a gay guy. I don’t really like being around flamboyant guys cause i feel they are kinda putting on a show and playing into stereotypes that push back progress already made. Plus I see myself as being Black before anything else. Can someone tell me how I can change this cause I honestly feel bad when I push away flamboyant gay guys.
Look, I'm very feminine..But listen, were all gay and because we're pushed into a box and rejected we all need to support each other, the progress is getting all the gays out of the shadows...not to show straight people that were similar to them, that's not progress...that's adapting to what makes them comfortable, and never were people concerned about our comfort as gay people..the people you should support is us because we will run miles just to make sure you get the same respect as us weather your fem, trans, trade, drag, mas etc we got you more then they ever will...and the people you wana show progress to are people who would hate you if you wore lipstick. No shade at all just explaining what I think, and I hope that made sense
Robert Bailey and as far as a show, some floss there femininity and I will admit someone who's super obnoxious is annoying, but girls do it to, and mas guy flaunt there manliness sometime to. Maybe there doing it because there letting people know, I'm gay af and I'm here and no ones gunna stop me. I know I was like that at 18. It's like a fuck you thing. I'm still fem but not as dramatic.
Robert Bailey you do t like being around fems bcuz you think they play into a sterotype? How is one being themselves playing into a sterotype ? I think the re reason why you don't want to be around fems is bcuz you don't want the side eyes and shade gays get in general. I understand trying to break the sterotype that gay men want to mimick women, but don't shade the fems and stay away from them bcuz you aren't comfortable with yourself yet
Robert Bailey oh and dont push them away. You'll ultimately lose a good friend. You just need to get the courage to live in your truth and say fuck who don't like it
im not a flamer but im not trade either so i can tell you from a lifetime of bullying experiences that fem boys have been thru hell and back and we're possibly some of the strongest people you will ever meet. sometimes even the most loyal. don't let fear keep you from meeting amazing people.
That’s the thing, you do walk, talk, and act gay bc that’s who you are. We need to promote different ppl like yourself to help change the perception of what “gay” is. You can be gay and be feminine or masculine, you can be gay and play ball or do ballet, you can be gay and sing or rap. Being “gay” doesn’t mean one thing we as gay men define how we are perceived.
I thinks the main reason DL guys struggle with acceptance because we find it hard to identify. We need more representation of gay masculine men to show the world that we cannot be put in a box. Hopefully this helps
Sup Brother Man ... KingMan Holla ' From The NYC
So Proud of You Dal 4 Standing up 4 ya' self As A Proud Masculine Bi-Man, Like Myself 4 Being So Open & Honest.
I Know in Most Circumstances It Must of Been Very Difficult Growing up with Those type of Feelings 4 Both Sex' es
I know it Was Hard 4 Me as Well Growing In The HardKnock Streets of NewYork
Luckily Society Has Loosened up A Bit.
Keep up The Good Work, U Doing A Good Thing Making These Types of Videos
Peace ...
That was great man, I appreciate you!!
Itzdalvo you really are an inspiration to others because your calmness brings a sense of peace. I would like to offer an alternate perspective when it come to the DL reality that we find ourselves in today. Not until very recently in history people began to intrude into other people's sexual identity. If you look at Greek and Roman societies, for example, they were founded on sexual liberty. Terms such as LGBTQ+ were not even relevant because people were free to be with whomever they desired. Also, with most tribal people of the world did not impose heterosexuality as the norm and individual uniqueness was treasured because everyone is seen as irreplaceable. This modern interpretation of christianity has us looking for the worst in other people. So, I would like to suggest that DL is simply another dysfunctional byproduct of a misinterpretation of what christianity is supposed to be. I'm not a Christian perse but what he really taught was love, acceptance, service to others and to do no harm. I would add one, which is to value every person around us to the best of our ability. If we all did that one thing, bullying culture would be a thing of the past. There is so much untapped potential in people that goes unrealized because we don't understand that is in ALL of us.
Awww Dalv I love how you don't edit your videos you just start talking and let the camera roll... even if you mess up you just keep going and that's raw and real! If you keep it up you'll have a fan forever over here 😍😘💖💖💖💖💖💖
Your advice is good. Its very tough being gay is but I think the femmenie gays have a harder time. With it. But over all its best to come out when your ready. When you get to the point that you don't care what pepole think or say.
When you DL them urges are so strong 😂
keishawnlight 😂😂
keishawnlight oh cmon..😷..live your life and be open quit w that dl stuff especially when it comes to doing that crap behind someone elses back..its disturbing.
NIKKI STAHR I’m out now lol I was saying when a person is DL
NIKKI STAHR you need to shut up. You don't know what someone goes thru. This is why it's so many gay youth killing themselves and on the streets homeless. Bcuz ppl like you try and pressure them to come out and it wasn't the right time. Ppl will discover themselves when it's right . As long as they don't hurt anyone else let them stay deep in that closet
keishawnlight Good baby im proud of you. DL is what attaches a negative stigma to gay society, so be brave and live in your truth.
I love you Dalvin! Your honestly the best! I hope you see this comment! Keep being amazing:D
u r looking more and more confident and to them that see you as advice this is ggg good i really enjoy watching your vids
I love this video and ur other vlogs keep it up tho cuz it’s so many guys dealing with how to be dl n these vlogs ur doing helps ppl out a lot
I always appeared to be gay to people who I came in contact with because I was kind of feminine /sexy. but When I first seen prince when he first came out in 1983 I was amazed in how much freedom he had with just being himself it was liberating to me and ever since then I chose to be my self .masculinity is attractive sometimes when a person is not attractive but you don’t have to hide behind your Masculinity just be yourself and free yourself I got a lot of down low men just by being myself. IM NOT A WOMEN IM NOT A MAN I AM SOMETHING THAT YOU'LL NEVER UNDERSTAND AND IM LOVINGING IT
When he said “I don’t come off as a gay man” 😂😂 babbbyyyy u have sugar foot *in my zo voice* written all over u...lol no shade tho...seriously! No shade lol
Trade
I am glad that you are living in your truth. Society might not appreciate people living in their truth but in the bigger picture, it gets us spiritual points. It's a sign of great courage and strong will. Btw, you are a cutie on duty. You look like you could be one of my relatives.
Good Thursday Morning DalvO! Bruh your really speaking the dam truth about very thing you talking about. Much love n have a blessfull day.❤❤❤❤❤❤✌❤❤
Dalvo so camera shy its funny but cute
Itz Dalv0 so basically to be good at being downlow is to behave masculine so that people will always assume you are heterosexual
Brah I be at the barbershop and da dudes do me the sameway especially about girl's.
DO YOU THINK IF A MAN RATHER SPEND TIME WITH DUDES IN THE STREET THAN BE AT HOME WITH HIS WIFE WHO HAS MARRIAGE LICENSE AND ALL. DO U THINK HE'S GAY OR DOWN LOW?
Both
Gaaay
"I dont come off as a gay male"
Me: You so fucking right I thought I had gaydar but u make me think differently 😂
The problem with DL guys is when the woman you're sleeping with knows he is DL or gay, and doesn't have a problem with it. When I told the guy he denied it. I ended the relationship. I wasn't interested in outing him, but the denial needs to stop. While most of you that are DL may not 'behave' like someone gay, the bottom line is that you are gay. You're only fooling yourselves.
v t yes bitchhh tell them girlll
@v t I agree with you a 1000%
Nice video. The struggle is real.
You have to have a person that is going to be there for u and u have to have ur on back win no one else do but u have to believe in ur self as well
In my opinion that's just means you like The Best of both worlds and there's nothing wrong with it nothing wrong with that at all
I remember what you say bro just be yourself
I love your approach on being.....YOU!!
Im a little older than you and i understand exactly what your saying
It really ain't nobody business who you do me personally I'm totally gay but everybody assumes I'm straight because of how I carry myself and I don't tell them any different because that's my shit feel me
Just be careful and be honest and don't lead nobody on. ❤️😉😀🥺❤️
Hey Darius Miss watching video for good while so I'm back now and i see you have some new changes and improvement in everything so I like you to keep up the good work and I was so watching your Video peace out Love dude :)
Good vibes from all your videos☺️
proud of you...glad u happy with yourself
Thank you for your honesty, many can relate keep sharing!
Always enjoy your video
Does having a desire to do wrong make it right? What if you were fighting attraction to children or animals?
You're talking some good "Truths" bruh.
So what do u do when u have a friend on the dl and you like them and they have told u that they want to be gay?
I don't see a reason why I wouldn't try it out
I commend you. I just came across your video. For many reasons
Great Video. God bless you.united we stand. From Chicago south side Hyde park
first of all flamboyant guys don't put on shows nor do we live up to stereotypes, stereotypes are made by the mass public I'm a feminine guy and it's what I'm the most comfortable at so I could easily say men who are more masculine who fit into the social Norm who are later confronted about being gay are too scared to come out that's a stereotype we're all stereotypes
Question how do you date but on the DL or how to get some where in your life where you can?
Brave man 😍 we need more guys like you
I'm gay but still everyone is in my school be playing with my emotion because my but is to big it so annoying give me advice because all people bother me because of my body I haven't even dated anyone what do I even do......
So what do they actually say about your butt???
Tanijia Gennae they don't say things there always touching me and it make me very uncomfortable and the dum things is when I tell the teacher there excuse is I'm straight but luckily I have my friend to protect me
Omg! Same thing used to happen to me as a kid! Straight boys would sexually harass me all school-day long!! Every now and again they would even get a little physical and actually cop feels, or poke at it w/phallic objects, etc. All the while I was in the closet. It was a balancing act trying to hide my sexuality and simultaneously being singled out by male attention b/c I had a big booty. Anyway, if you're as lucky (or unlucky depending how you look at it) as I am you'll lose your booty eventually. Around Sophomore/Junior year of high school I started running and exercising, and my butt is very average now. (But, ironically now that I've sexually come into my own as an adult...I kinda wish I had it back lol. Whereas as a kid it was annoying, as a grown up I would appreciated it more now.)
As for advice, I'm still young myself, but as an adult the PC thing to say to a child in this situation I guess would be value your childhood and don't try to grow up too fast. You're only a child for a few years; you're an adult for MUCH longer. In other words, don't worry about "romance" and boys, and definitely don't have sex! All that can wait. (I get it, hormones are raging at that time, and boys love to find other boys to experiment on/with. And having a big butt will draw all that attention to you like it did to me. But, curve those guys as best you can!)
The thing is, as an adult sometimes you look back on your life and feel like maybe some things that happened (to you) when you were young have predetermined your fate and robbed you of the ability to have true control over certain aspects of your life. But, b/c I demanded more respect and never allowed myself to be "used" as a kid, I never have to feel that level of powerlessness or insecurity when I'm faced with adversity now. I'm strong and independent. And when I make life choices I can be confident that they're stemming from a place of healthy decision making and that it's not childhood trauma that's really pulling the strings instead. Sometimes bad things happen to you, you can't control that. That's not your fault. BUT, if you can control it, don't have sex or let ppl touch you until YOU are ready. Sorry for rambling. It's just my opinion. Admittedly I could be totally wrong about all this. But, I can't pass up the chance to be of service to the younger generation. I hope this was of some help to you! Good luck! :)
I love all your videos 💖
Dude is so handsome
Amen just be yourself.
I hear you n see ur videos and I'm gay also n proud of it.. We think alike don't ask don't tell... From ya Boi HOT BOI MARCUS
Im not gonna lie he really is nice and cute 😊💙💚
1st gratz on embracing but accepting yourself.
2nd you are a man with preferences just as everyone does. This is not an option you are going to be able to prefer and truthfully its not about other peoples choice for you...boo! Its learning to be comfortable in ur skin.
3rd you promote who you are what you stand for simply living your life.
Nice video please remember Prep you are in danger of HPV even fucking females...beaware of that truth.
Stay encouraging fellas to be themselves and self love...hug you besides it is all inconsequential by understanding of the New Covenant. Hugs lil daddy
I think we all need to read more and educate ourselves because in the Black Culture masculinity is looked at as right so that's why you guys are labeled as DL and you don't want to deal with the stigma of being call flamboyant or Sissy are soft but just live your life living your truth living for yourself you're not here to please nobody but you, whether you choose to walk out the house like Lady Gaga that's your prerogative or if you choose to dress an appeal to the social Norm of what Society has implicated on how men especially black men act and dress then so be it but be you you got one life don't live in for no one else
Great advice!!!💪✊👌😍😍😘😙😩😭🙏
“I don’t come off as a gay male” *blocks*
Four Walls why? Cause he’s telling the truth?
Hey what’s good , New subscriber take care & Be Blessed .
Hey question if u dating a DL and he love u and spend time with u but one thing he say to u that his trying. What would u do or say to him
Try harder and stop over thinking it stop assuming about what other people are going to think or say about you what matters is what you think about you its OK to be yourself some people will like you & some won't it really doesn't matter if you're gay or straight be honest and live your best life.❤💙💚💛💜
You from New Orleans 😍 its the accent for meee
I Love the advice,because it was nice,thanks for the advice.!!!!
Great advice Dalvin. Question. Is Michigan still a super homophobic state? When I was growing up there it was. So has anything changed?
Wow i loved this video so much great job keep it up
Can you do a video on dL guys that use women to look straight
i love you❤️
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I believe my ex may be "trapped in the closet". He would always go soft when we would f***, and he was always ready to snap at the drop of a hat.
He told me he experienced a homosexual encounter when he was in his early teens and that he had been on the fence with his sexuality as recently as college.
For me I get made when someone ask me if I have a girlfriend 🤔🤔
Me too it's nobody's business
loveeeeeee your videos DONT STOP
Bro, I hate to break it to you but us gay men can tell yall are into us by your eyes. The amount of straight dudes I catch staring at my butt at the gym tells me everything I need to know. They are not shy at all.
They're not straight. Stop with the lies. Real straight men are not into guys sexually. These men are bi and gay. I just came out as gay, and I'm very naturally butch. You are encouraging us to be dl or closeted by entertaining our "straight" delusions. Don't be a queen.