From People-Pleaser to Boundary Boss - Terri on The Marie Forleo Podcast
Вставка
- Опубліковано 22 тра 2024
- Today's episode holds a special place in my heart. This is the beginning of a series where I share my favorite podcast episodes where I'm being interviewed, and this one is with a dear friend and an exceptional colleague, Marie Forleo.
We delved into the essentials of being a boundary boss, explored various aspects of setting and maintaining boundaries, and how to tap into our inner wisdom to make the right decisions. How do we hold boundaries gracefully? How do we not feel rejected? What are your deal breakers? How do you know your preferences? So many things!
Get ready to be inspired and empowered. I hope that you enjoy this episode as much as I enjoyed being a part of it.
Grab the guide here: boundaryboss.me/marie
Time Stamps
0:00 - You don't need to convince people
0:35 - Introduction
3:33 - Boundary disaster to boundary boss
9:50 - Being too nice or too rigid
13:26 - Boundary Boss Bill of Rights
15:00 - Boundary blueprint
16:30 - Over-giving & over-functioning
22:00 - Preferences, desires, deal-breakers
29:10 - Not caring what others think
30:35 - Dealing with invalidation
34:50 - Social media boundaries
37:44 - Healing comes from asking
39:16 - Boundary scripts
46:00 - Not my circus, not my monkeys
If You Enjoyed This, Watch These Videos
• The 5 Foundational Bou... - The 5 Foundational Boundaries for Epic Relationships
• Back to Boundary Basic... - Back to Boundary Basics
• How to Create Conseque... - How to Create Consequences for Repeat Boundary Violations
• What is your Boundary ... - What Is Your Boundary Blueprint?
• Afraid to Speak Up For... - How to Talk True
• Boundary Setting Succe... - How to Say Your Boundaries
About Marie Forleo
Marie Forleo is such a force of nature and a born and raised Jersey girl like me, and she has built an incredible digital empire that reaches millions across the globe. Our friendship goes back to early days in New York City for both of us, and it has been such an amazing journey to witness her growth and what she has achieved.
Marie's journey started with a laptop, passion and a dream to create MarieTV, and now The Marie Forleo Podcast. She also penned a number one New York Times best-selling book, Everything Is Figureoutable, which is nothing short of completely inspiring.
Her mission and her mantra revolve around the belief that every challenge in life can be figured out, offering the necessary tools and support to achieve it.
Website: marieforleo.com
IG: / marieforleo
UA-cam: @marieforleo
About Terri Cole
Terri Cole is a licensed psychotherapist, global relationship and empowerment expert, and the author of Boundary Boss-The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen and (Finally) Live Free.
For over two decades, Terri has worked with a diverse group of clients that includes everyone from stay-at-home moms to celebrities and Fortune 500 CEOs.
She has a gift for making complex psychological concepts accessible and actionable so that clients and students achieve sustainable change. She inspires over 450,000 people weekly through her blog, social media platform, signature courses, and her popular podcast, The Terri Cole Show. For more, see www.terricole.com/
Connect With Me
Instagram: terricole.com/ig
Community: terricole.com/fbg
TC's VIPs: terricole.com/membership
Newsletter: terricole.com/newsletter
Resources
Boundary Boss Book: amzn.to/44DZID9
The Boundary Boss Workbook: amzn.to/3Ra7CRU
Insight Timer: insig.ht/cpKnbJB4KDb (I have a bunch of free meditations on here and love this app!)
BetterHelp: betterhelp.com/terricole
I’m not currently taking any new one-on-one therapy or coaching clients, but highly recommend using BetterHelp to find a therapist that fits your needs. As a team, we have fully vetted BetterHelp's resources.
www.terricole.com/gethelp/ -- If you are in a crisis or any other person may be in danger the resources on this page can provide you with immediate help.
Please note: If you choose to sign up for BetterHelp or Insight Timer or buy through my Amazon links, I will receive a commission. Please know that I only recommend services and products that I know & trust.
#settingboundaries #boundariesarehealthy #boundariesmatter #boundaries101
Let me know what you thought about my conversation with my pal, Marie Forleo! Did you have any aha moments related to your boundaries? Don't forget to grab the guide I mentioned at the end: boundaryboss.me/marie/ and follow Marie's podcast here: www.marieforleo.com/marietv
This is one of the best things I’ve ever heard in my life. Thank you SO MUCH for posting this. I kept stopping it to take notes. I love this SO MUCH. I want to watch it a million more times. THANK YOU!!
This makes me so happy to hear, Michelle ❤️❤️ So glad it was helpful!
I love you Terri!!! Thank you so much! I didn't know anything whatsoever about boundaries before encountering you and your amazing book. Thank you for all your contributions towards people's inner journeys.
I appreciate you and your support 💕 So glad to hear my work has helped you!
Oh yes!!! I have always told my 9 granddaughter's when faced with a challenge. Intuition kicked in, because I don't know how i knew that. Boundaries wasn't a known thing yet. Even when they were babies. I taught them we "figure it out" Currently, they range in ages from 3 to 29, and all I have to say when now, they express feeling challenged, is to say with a smile on my face. "What do we do?" And they will echo back in response.."we figure it out!" IT has served us so well over the last 27 years. They're so wonder full. Thank you
I need this boss. I never realized that my issue was BOUNDARIES.
Check it out- it may be in your local library!
Omg... the part at 19:50... I felt that and needed that. ❤
❤️
You two are totally in my head all the time as my board of internal directors. I always think 💭 what would Marie and Terri do? 😂
Lol! Amazing ❤️🔥
I struggle with this..... thank you
You're not alone ❤️
No is an answer
Indeed!
Love, love, love this!! Thank you both!
💕
You know doctor, I've learnt a great deal from this video, however, a salient point is regarding sociol media. In all honesty, I even posted a comment that was meant to be on another clip. I have to watch this again to assimilate the content as it is loaded with a lot of wisdom. On a positive note, if someone says " im from Jersey ", I'll make sure im 15 seconds early lol.
I'm glad you found the content helpful!
You are teaching me so much…and I am learning!!! One thing that has just settle in for me with this video today is that fact that it’s okay to be work in progress. Being a recovering perfectionist as well as a boundary disaster, I had the mind set that it was all or nothing. If I said yes before l, well then it is expected of me to say yes again; therefore I felt stuck. I’m finally getting the course correct part. Just because someone expects it of me does not mean that I have to do it! I can course correct as I’m learning my preference, limits, and deal breakers! It is such a freeing feeling…thank you so so much for the work you do. There is a chic in Kentucky you are helping in leaps and bounds!!!
Thank you so much for sharing this takeaway, Julie, because I am sure you're not the only one who feels this way. ❤️ So many of us feel like when we commit once, we commit for a lifetime. But we definitely have the right to change our minds! We evolve, and some things that worked for us in the past may no longer work for us now. Way to go!!
Former model and agency owner. Burned myself out due to this.
I see you 💕
In the Asian culture I grew up learning that submissiveness is the goal.
Thank you for sharing- the cultural norms we grew up in have such a big impact on us. ❤️
I really needed to hear this today. Thank you ladies. 🤍
❤️❤️