I love that Gabor Mate is also open about his story. Praise God for all the wounded healers.. so many of us health care professionals are trauma survivors
I feel so much love for Frank. I heard his great interview with Lewis Howell then found my way here. I don’t know if it’s that I resonate deeply with his journey or just how genuine he comes across. He’s clearly done deep work that he’s come through and shares from a humble vulnerable and empowered place and is putting positive energy into the world. Thanks for this one!
"I will not self-abandon to maintain the status quo because the status quo, for me, has sucked!" "You have to do the healing." Amen. Thank you both for this fabulous episode.
I failed my children at times too, and I’ve also apologized. By the grace of God and my children’s love, they forgave me and we’ve healed as a family. ❤ Single parent, no support from anyone and I was full of anxiety.. We heal
“ forgiveness is about the person doing the forgiving more than about the person being forgiven “ 💡 “ our wounds chose our intimate partners” 💡 Dude! Im starting to understand how to move out of ‘resentment prison’ I needed to hear this today! Ya and forgive self for lowering boundaries and rinsing and repeating! all such great advice
I realized, later in life, that I picked relationships that mocked the unhealthy relationship I had with my mother growing. My counselor floored me when she indicated that I was repeating the relationship I had with my mom. Because it was familiar and apparently comfortable.
I have fallen in love with the concept of IFS therapy from the millisecond I heard my first Frank G. Anderson interview. I have carried family trauma around with me for years, and I'm ready to do the work. Even if I can't find IFS therapy where I live, I plan on listening/reading everything I can get my hands on relating to IFS and Frank's journey.
Amazing, amazing, amazing. I related everything about this podcast. Can't wait to read the book. Thank you Terri for always being true to who you have on. You are the most amazing woman and I have learned so much from you
Qué buena entrevista, Terry! ambos son tan buenos terapeutas y los comentarios y plática sacó lo mejor de los dos! Hay tanto qué aprender todavía de todo lo que compartes! Está para verla varias veces. Gracias gracias gracias 🙏🙋🏼♀️
I love this conversation. I wish our society would recognize that institutional homophobia is child abuse--plain and simple. Attitudes need to change so that the LGBTQ community can come into this world and have the parents and society accept their LGBTQ offspring so they can socialize from the beginning of their lives.
Hi Terri, thank you so much for this interview, it is one of the most scratch that it is the most powerful video and interview I have seen. I do think you need a disclaimer that watching this video can bring your own trauma to surface. But it is so real so authentic so impactful, filled with depth and breadth and relatability. I want to ask what process one can go through to identify the right level of therapist or process they need on healing journey; and how can one help a loved one create greater awareness that they actually need to embark on a healing journey to reclaim their life the one that they deserve regardless of the past. Forever grateful to your wonderful work that I have been following for over a year now and it is helping me immensely! 🙏
Thank you for the suggestion, I've added it to the video description ❤️ As for your Qs: I have a video on finding the right therapist here that may help -- ua-cam.com/video/GIg_2A1VZzw/v-deo.html As far as "how can one help a loved one create greater awareness..." I think that's a tricky one. Most of the time I suggest leading by example. We cannot presume we know more about what someone needs than they do, which can be really, really tough when you're watching someone suffer. I learned this lesson myself with my sister, which I detailed here: ua-cam.com/users/shortsCsWl0-5kNtM
Excellent, i will Not self abandon. Thanks for saying that.i recently decided to take 10 miles of distance from my 10 siblings in order to take care of me.😢😮😅❤❤❤
To your point on why we clinicians are not talking about our own traumas around clients, we are not allowed to self disclose very much. I think it is ridiculous because people need to feel like we have credibility to feel safe to talk.
When he answers the question on forgiveness he is describing restoration as I understand it. I think we can free ourselves by forgiving without deciding to restore any relationship with anyone. Restoration requires health and growth from both parties. The victim can’t create a new healthy relationship alone
Honestly, I am a bit shocked he mentions IFS only as a side note. I know this is a memoir and not a professional book, but since he has written two books about that, I imagined it would have greatly impacted his life, helping him overcome his trauma.
Agreed! Like it’s almost disconcerting how little he mentions IFS. That being said, I do understand IFS is just one part of healing from trauma but still, it feels like he’s staying away from the topic almost intentionally distancing himself from it. Albeit I’m making assumptions but that’s my perspective.
@@terrahillman151 You could be right. I noticed Richard Schwartz is not mentioned on the book's cover, endorsing his memoir, while others like Bessel van der Kolk and Gabor Maté are.
I did want to ask him about it and I'm sorry I didn't get to! Based on the upcoming events listed on his website I would say he's still interested in the topic: www.frankandersonmd.com/events
@@terri_cole Thank you, Terri. You might want to check out Tammi Sollenberger. She is a leading IFS expert and a delightful lady. I think you'll love her energy.
Dr. Frank shared his experiences of how he healed, and he goes into more detail in his book. I also have 500+ free videos on my channel about healing that I could help point you to, if you tell me what you're looking for specifically. 💕
I wonder if you think you can forgive in the present whilst the little boy or girl still holds onto the anger and pain? Because the adult you and the person who hurt you are different. They have probably aged and become weak, old and infirm whilst you have grown strong and capable but the hurt child in you can still be there frozen inside.
Interesting Q! I think it might depend on why you want to forgive and how you view forgiveness. I go into forgiveness more in this video: ua-cam.com/video/DaGVM8hzGsQ/v-deo.html
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Thank you so much for reiterating that forgiveness is a choice and not a requirement for healing.!!👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
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Exactly!
I love that Gabor Mate is also open about his story. Praise God for all the wounded healers.. so many of us health care professionals are trauma survivors
I feel so much love for Frank. I heard his great interview with Lewis Howell then found my way here. I don’t know if it’s that I resonate deeply with his journey or just how genuine he comes across. He’s clearly done deep work that he’s come through and shares from a humble vulnerable and empowered place and is putting positive energy into the world. Thanks for this one!
He was such a lovely guest ❤️ So glad you found this interview and enjoyed it!
I first heart Dr. Frank Anderson through the Lewis Howes show too.
"I will not self-abandon to maintain the status quo because the status quo, for me, has sucked!" "You have to do the healing." Amen. Thank you both for this fabulous episode.
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I love this interview, thanks. Dr Joe Dispenza says, when the stuff is processed, healed, forgiveness comes by itself, thats how I experience it.
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I failed my children at times too, and I’ve also apologized. By the grace of God and my children’s love, they forgave me and we’ve healed as a family. ❤
Single parent, no support from anyone and I was full of anxiety.. We heal
That sounds so difficult, Ramona ❤️ Thank you for sharing.
This was SOOO good. Thank you both 🙏🥰
Thank you for watching! ❤️
I think a simple apology from a parent that did know better can be very healing....
“Our wounds choose our intimate partners!” Frank G. Anderson-Woah 🤯 Blew my freaking mind and answered so many questions!
Loved that quote ❤️
For me the same thing 😢
“ forgiveness is about the person doing the forgiving more than about the person being forgiven “ 💡
“ our wounds chose our intimate partners” 💡
Dude! Im starting to understand how to move out of ‘resentment prison’ I needed to hear this today! Ya and forgive self for lowering boundaries and rinsing and repeating! all such great advice
Thank you for sharing ❤️❤️
I realized, later in life, that I picked relationships that mocked the unhealthy relationship I had with my mother growing. My counselor floored me when she indicated that I was repeating the relationship I had with my mom. Because it was familiar and apparently comfortable.
Yep, it's so common and you're not alone ❤️
I have fallen in love with the concept of IFS therapy from the millisecond I heard my first Frank G. Anderson interview. I have carried family trauma around with me for years, and I'm ready to do the work. Even if I can't find IFS therapy where I live, I plan on listening/reading everything I can get my hands on relating to IFS and Frank's journey.
Thank you for sharing and I wish you all the best on that journey ❤️
Yes! Observe not absorb with the power of compassion and humor! ☯️
thank you Terri and your guest ...always love to learn from you and all that you share with us. Amazing conversation
So glad you enjoyed it ❤️
@@terri_cole ❤️ always
Amazing, amazing, amazing. I related everything about this podcast. Can't wait to read the book. Thank you Terri for always being true to who you have on. You are the most amazing woman and I have learned so much from you
Thank you so much, Carol 💕 Glad you enjoyed this one!
What a powerful interview. Thank you both for being authentic and vulnerable. We have so much to learn.
So glad you enjoyed it! ❤️
Awesome and so true! We know what we know! 🎉
Qué buena entrevista, Terry! ambos son tan buenos terapeutas y los comentarios y plática sacó lo mejor de los dos! Hay tanto qué aprender todavía de todo lo que compartes! Está para verla varias veces. Gracias gracias gracias 🙏🙋🏼♀️
So glad you enjoyed it as much as I did, Gregaria! Dr. Frank was truly an amazing guest. ❤️
Forgiveness yields blessings.
I love this conversation. I wish our society would recognize that institutional homophobia is child abuse--plain and simple. Attitudes need to change so that the LGBTQ community can come into this world and have the parents and society accept their LGBTQ offspring so they can socialize from the beginning of their lives.
👏👏👏
Hi Terri, thank you so much for this interview, it is one of the most scratch that it is the most powerful video and interview I have seen. I do think you need a disclaimer that watching this video can bring your own trauma to surface. But it is so real so authentic so impactful, filled with depth and breadth and relatability. I want to ask what process one can go through to identify the right level of therapist or process they need on healing journey; and how can one help a loved one create greater awareness that they actually need to embark on a healing journey to reclaim their life the one that they deserve regardless of the past. Forever grateful to your wonderful work that I have been following for over a year now and it is helping me immensely! 🙏
Thank you for the suggestion, I've added it to the video description ❤️
As for your Qs: I have a video on finding the right therapist here that may help -- ua-cam.com/video/GIg_2A1VZzw/v-deo.html
As far as "how can one help a loved one create greater awareness..." I think that's a tricky one. Most of the time I suggest leading by example. We cannot presume we know more about what someone needs than they do, which can be really, really tough when you're watching someone suffer. I learned this lesson myself with my sister, which I detailed here: ua-cam.com/users/shortsCsWl0-5kNtM
Thank you very much Terri for your response and further guidance, truly appreciate it. 🙏
Excellent, i will Not self abandon. Thanks for saying that.i recently decided to take 10 miles of distance from my 10 siblings in order to take care of me.😢😮😅❤❤❤
Good for you! 💕
To your point on why we clinicians are not talking about our own traumas around clients, we are not allowed to self disclose very much. I think it is ridiculous because people need to feel like we have credibility to feel safe to talk.
When he answers the question on forgiveness he is describing restoration as I understand it. I think we can free ourselves by forgiving without deciding to restore any relationship with anyone. Restoration requires health and growth from both parties. The victim can’t create a new healthy relationship alone
100%
I met the aggressor and became the passive acceptor.
Excellent- I’m getting the book 📕
Happy Birthday 🎁
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Honestly, I am a bit shocked he mentions IFS only as a side note. I know this is a memoir and not a professional book, but since he has written two books about that, I imagined it would have greatly impacted his life, helping him overcome his trauma.
Agreed! Like it’s almost disconcerting how little he mentions IFS. That being said, I do understand IFS is just one part of healing from trauma but still, it feels like he’s staying away from the topic almost intentionally distancing himself from it. Albeit I’m making assumptions but that’s my perspective.
@@terrahillman151 You could be right. I noticed Richard Schwartz is not mentioned on the book's cover, endorsing his memoir, while others like Bessel van der Kolk and Gabor Maté are.
I did want to ask him about it and I'm sorry I didn't get to! Based on the upcoming events listed on his website I would say he's still interested in the topic: www.frankandersonmd.com/events
@@terri_cole Thank you, Terri. You might want to check out Tammi Sollenberger. She is a leading IFS expert and a delightful lady. I think you'll love her energy.
I will add Tammi to our list of suggested guests, thanks!
I’m a Master in Repetition Compulsion…
I feel you 💕
I would have liked to have heard something here about HOW to heal.
Dr. Frank shared his experiences of how he healed, and he goes into more detail in his book. I also have 500+ free videos on my channel about healing that I could help point you to, if you tell me what you're looking for specifically. 💕
@@terri_cole Thanks so much for your reply!
I wonder if you think you can forgive in the present whilst the little boy or girl still holds onto the anger and pain? Because the adult you and the person who hurt you are different. They have probably aged and become weak, old and infirm whilst you have grown strong and capable but the hurt child in you can still be there frozen inside.
Or would that be by-passing and you haven't really forgiven them until the child is healed?
Interesting Q! I think it might depend on why you want to forgive and how you view forgiveness. I go into forgiveness more in this video: ua-cam.com/video/DaGVM8hzGsQ/v-deo.html
I like his clarification on the timing of forgiveness and its 100% true 🫶
So true!