How to Make a Narcissist Panic
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Can you help me divorce my mother??
Great video, thank you!
Ive been with a narcissistwife for 10 years.
TOTALLY.... Yes Lord now my 11yr old who lives with him is afraid & I don't have help with saving my son
@@metatechnologistI wish I could divorce my Narc family members I just don't come @ don't call just break free don't call them either & pray love I'm so sorry that its your Mom I'm praying for you Thank God my grandparents & my Mom was not one Thank you Jesus
That narcissist stare they give you when you "did" or "said something wrong" or something that angers them....... its like staring into the eyes of a demon....
The eyes are the window to the soul. How well I know the narcissist stare....no soul there....just dark emptiness while they plot how to get back at you.
I totally agree
I've seen this too many times. My ex was so good at pretending to be an angel while lying about everything. She seemed so amazing until the second she was caught in a lie...her eyes would do this thing where it was like the light behind them just flipped off like a switch. It was like all her empathy just turned off (cuz it was never real to begin with) it was so fucking disturbing. Almost like a real life nightmare
Been there, done that. Didn't know what I was seeing at the time, like looking at two dark holes where her eyes used to be.
Omg yes! I told him once, “you should look at yourself in the mirror” look at you-yourself. He walked away. 1st time I ever saw this on him.
When they realize that they don’t have any control over you they will try to lie to everyone around and make people around them think that you’re a bad person!
Yes Emmy Lee,...so true..."Divide and conquer' that's one of their main ploys
Yes thats right you are scapegoat they are called the flying monkeys. Its very biblical. Just imagine fallen angels want what we have. Kindness kills someone if they are evily intent upon you. 💃 Hope this helps. Up the light vibrations love out hard love those that act not fake act. X
I’m married to one. I need help getting rid of him
@@lisamidgett664 leave him no excuses
@@yourboiD he is a walking excuse
1. BRUTAL HONESTY
2. PUSH BACK
3. EXPOSING THEM
4. LOSING CONTROL
Big time your right
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Oh God! They are always sick. It's the feeling sorry, victimhood. But only in front of people who tolerate it. It's really, really hard not to call them out on this.
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My advise is dont play games with a narcissist. Just walk out the door and say a permanent good bye.
@@RebeccaZungEsq unfortunately easier said than done if you have little kids with them! :(
@@jessy1554 exactly.. The more I watch these videos, the more I see why my mother suffered so much in her marriage. Even though I respect my father.
Yes.
You can play a little but be smart .. it's good to give them a taste of their own medicine before that permanent goodbye 😉
Dean Weston Amen to that!!!
Best way to deal with them
Its to not deal with them
True accept they stalk which is called Hoovering
The best way to deal with them is to not give a toss... Thankfully it is possible. Takes time but one day we wke up to their shitiness... And God that feel great !!
@@facelesspsycho8252 male disabled noticed she was a narcicist after my disability gott worst. Then I stoped being.a.narcisist also
the problem is that most of the time you can't tell someone has this psychopathy and by the time you realized, it's too late. and trying to cut ties with someone who has severe narcissistic disorder can prove to be very difficult. they will go out of their way to try and reel you in, provoke you, even do illegal or dangerous things in order to get what they want. they are not normal or rational people.
michael morgan Totally!
My narcissistic partner has abused me mentally and physically, emotionally as well but 2 days ago, he walked off the aeroplane after causing a scene because we weren’t seated next to each other, the stewardess took me to the back of the aeroplane and said she was away to ask him to disembark but he’d went anyway, I’ve ended up in Tenerife alone for my birthday, I’m so so thankful my daughter has organised a flight to come over and see me tomorrow
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Thank you for fighting the good fight - these parasitic creatures are everywhere and need to be brought under control like rats and wasps
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Who wants to make a bet that all the thumbs down people are pissed off narcissist. LOL
Yep
Lol
Haha I bet youre 100% correct.
LOL 4 sure !!
I was thinking the same thing!!
Having self confidence I've found is very upsetting to the narcissist
Amen...!!!
100% yes
I’m a narcissist and I hate it . We want to keep them down and not better than us
@@stevec3892 lol. Is human born narcissism or they become one? Can they heal?
U G Official my parents were the ultimate narcissist. My father would ignore everyone unless he wanted something and my mother would just tear apart everyone especially if they do better . Both still alive and haven’t talk to them in 20 years . My older sisters are the same . Of course being the youngest I all their crap handed down . It’s tough but it’s a struggle every day
I remember when I told my ex, you're a pathological liar. She just stood there in awe. Her stories constantly changed, it was so maddening.
1) Brutal honesty.
2)Pushing back.
3)Exposing them.
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When the narcissist starts tearing you down and telling you everything that's wrong with you - which they always will - just nod & agree with everything. And when they're done, tell them you realize you're just not worthy of someone like them and you're going to do the decent thing and remove yourself from their life so they can find someone they deserve. And then wish them well & walk out.- and mean it. They don't come equipped to handle this kind of thing.
I have a friend in high school who is a narcissist and I need help with him this has helped
😂😂😂
@@strangebutfunny7179 Good luck. You can do it. There's some comedy in this tactic, and this brand of humor is NOT in their repertoire. It disarms them and leaves them totally without ammunition. And you get to walk away empowered, with your head up. I tried this recently and it worked.
@@DivineSimply Great advice!
What a great idea...never considered that before...it does sound good.
I heard one expert say.....the magic word is "whatever". There is nothing a narcissist hates more than being dismissed or ignored.
Yeah but they like to play games even one word they will retaliate by doing something drastic for attention like assault even. In my experience you have to leave not play their game at all because the deck is stacked and you can't win.
@@AnnaLVajda sad huh
@@AnnaLVajda you just really can't win with them it's tragic
I never knew what his was but I have had a narcissist mother all my life and my boss brought it to my attehow she was acting towards me and how she guilts me to get money or anything and now I’m wowed how well this actually works don’t feed into them that grinds the duck out of her gears but I wish me and her could have a good relationship but she said I don’t do anything for her I just re done every bit of electrical in her house from breaker box to plug ins to new fans and I work on her car I also mow her grass I mean there’s a lot but she wants money but she’ll buy drugs instead so I won’t directly give her money I buy what she needs
@@daltenmorris5072 I can relate sound like my daughter I do everything for her send her private schools she dropped now an adult still look after her and her son . She will say I never there for her never done nothing for her . I don’t give her money anymore because she does drugs with her boyfriend. So now I blocked her I’m done I’m tired
#3 ALL THE WAY. I once played "psychic" by email, pointing out all that I "saw" in her "aura," etc. - "Something happened to you in adolescence that caused you to feel inferior to others, and you began to overcompensate." "Your aura is so thick with layers that you don't quite know who you are anymore." This was all under the guise of caring - and I never saw her or heard from her again. (They'll HIDE from you if you can pull this off!)
Used to go toe to toe with my ex wife who’s also a narcissist. It just ended in me getting cussed out and alienated in the process. Ended up trying the grey rock method and it worked much better. We have kids together so it’s a lot harder to navigate the dynamics but not making myself so accessible and workings on myself, mentally physically and spiritually helped empower me to stand firm in my beliefs
Right on brother. Five months into the process so far
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Some empaths really do have the ability to destroy the narcissists if they wanted to, but they're just holding it back.
This is very true, especially when you have child with them. You hold back so they don't hurt your child.
YES
yep
Not this empath.... Empathy mixed with basic humane common sense....and humility... I can't hold shyt back calm cool n collected too
Yass!!..like me I'm not to play because I'm very spiritual and I'm a scorpio and will literally put him on this place. If I was to go that far I could with ease. But I hold back alot because I let the universe and karma get to him
My Narc would get mad at me for being upset about something he did.
My husband constantly does this
They can't be held accountable for their bad behavior. They have to be innocent at all times.
Thats not narssissism totally
@@nabinvlogs4989 It's an aspect
@@nabinvlogs4989 wat do u mean?
Brutal Honesty. I was born that way... 😆
Pushing back. Exposing them.... all good. But you have to be very careful when exposing a narcissist. There will always be a come back. Losing control, exactly! Isn't it simply the best thing to just ignore them, avoid them, and go no contact as far as possible? If it is family or friends, it might be a bit easier than a spouse!
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I have found that brutal honesty only results in more twisting of my words, leaving out of critical related in ch ormation, or just out and out bullying and raging to try and intimidate & devalue me. The last thing I want is an extended verbal brawl with that beast. Unless it's critical to get information conveyed, I remain silent, & only convey critical information in writing with critical witnesses copied on the communication.
It's funny how much my memory has improved since I left my ex
So soo true. I left a five year relationship with one and suddenly I feel so liberated and can remember al their bs more clearly now lol
Thats crazy lol
Yes u probably have CPTSD
Same here. I feel like I can remember books of shit, books that have helped me understand how fowl and intrepid these ppl really are. In fact I feel like I've shed pounds of bullshit and tumors from my mind that they tried so hard to repress.
Do it: LOL - absolutely! And I'm not emotionally "crazy" or "exploding" anymore either. Who knew?
They lie about dumb things, just because they feel like they're "smarter" than you if they get away with it. Its an ego booster for them too.
yeah I hate when they do that. Like lying about something as benign as what type of bread they ate in the morning. It serves no purpose to lie about, but they get so giddy when you were silly enough to "believe" that they ate rye bread instead of whole grain! They then call you so gullible and stupid for falling for it. lol. they're like 5 year olds
Then get all butt hurt when you call them out and go into a fit of rage for recognizing that they're lying.....
yep, remember mine waving an engraved keyring at me, telling me his daughter got him it. No prompting. It was a really odd engraved message, not appropriate between father and daughter. I began to think he had some weird relationship with her but didn't question it. Can't believe I didn't cotton on that he was married but I didn't. He was smarter than me I guess. If smart is being a lying psycho and dumb is being trusting.
lol. what a weak ass they are.
OMG, Right!?!?!?! I am juuuuust about to lose my crap, due to mostly just the lying alone! How on Earth can he look me right in the eyes, so effortlessly, and lie and lie and lie....even after being caught in such a small, stupid lie?!?!? 🙃 😢
A narsissist will lie about something they have already admitted to and then say the first time is when they were actually lying.
TOTALLY. Yes they are empty on the inside. And yes, they are bullies.
The only way to deal with a narcissistic person is have no contact forever if that's possible! 🤔
Once you call them out and they realize they cannot manipulate you, control the narrative & lose their flying monkeys they will drop you like a hot potato. It's been 8 glorious years since the hubby, his brother & wife & I have had to deal with the mother-in-law. The rest of the family kept telling her to fix it but if she did then she would have to admit her actions and again, it's been 8 years. =)
It’s not. Trying to figure out how to avoid him tomorrow...
And what if they're your parent? 😂
I couldn’t agree more. I’ve been married to mine for 14 years and I have a kid with him but I’ve finally woken up after finally having the last piece of my inner self robbed from me and destroyed. I’ve filed for a divorce (first time taking it that far). But once I get out from his grip, I don’t ever want to see his face or even speak his name again. His son doesn’t even like him as a person, at all. And my boy is the sweetest and shyest kid if that tells you anything t about the quality of my hush band’s character. Unfortunately, my son was smart enough to figure out that his dad never wanted anything to do with him, he was only a tool to keep me at home and dependent on the narcissist who also refused to allow me to work and no access to the finances and was made to ask for money here and there. It was all how he so perfectly crafted my artificial world to keep me bottled up inside. I’ve had a couple black eyes along the way as well and I look at myself every day wondering how this could’ve happened to me. “Why am I here?” I ask because I was always a free spirit and I depended on no one before him. When me and my husband got together, he actually moved into my downtown Tulsa apartment. I used to be so proud of my work ethic and my ambition. I was going places for sure! Now I’m 40 and I feel like a useless failure in all but being a mother. I try not to ever let my boy know that I’m so broken inside and I always put on a smile for him and comfort him when his dad is yelling and saying awe full things about me in front of him. It’s no wonder he hates him I guess. I’ve made excuses for his dad long enough. I’m not religious for obvious reasons, but if you are and it works, please give a prayer for me and my boy as well as all the other moms and dads trapped in abusive relationships with psychotic narcissist spouses. We need a god to help us achieve what feels impossible, leaving in one piece.
Yes! It's the best. It sucks that they continue to smear your name, but true friends and smart family know the truth
Nothing can fix them, why waste your energy instead care for those who really care for you.
Its a very fine line between psychopaths and narcissist...
You're so right..! 💖🙏😇
Like my own biologic "psycho dad", i forgave him but i never ever want him back in my life.!
My son is one of their flying monkeys . Difficult . He dismisses me lies threatens to keep my granddaughter from me. Took my inheritance from the Narcs. Denies it but I know.
@@suzannemorrow9987 So sad that even our own family members can be driven by greed. Let karma catch up with them whilst you enjoy living your life as a good person. Try to remember that all of the good things in life are free eg. scenic nature walks with the awe factor with true friends by your side xo
I better pray for my narcissist. He was rejected as a child, poor little one.x
Totally! I got manipulated into buying a home, having a child and getting married all so she could return to not working, not helping and physically beating me until it hurt less to leave than stay. Only connected the dots in last two weeks and trying to know how to cope
Counselling in abundance
Sorry to hear & wishing you strength and health to heal yourself and deal with the narcissistic asswipe & put them in their place..
This is very common for women. They get married have kids buy a house then they kick the husband out and get custody of the kids so they get to keep the house. Men need to call this out so women know we know.
Many women want a divorce because they dont get any help from the husband with raising the kids. They are exhausted and desperate and the husband is like another child that they have to take care off. Than they figure that they might as well just raise them by themselves because they are already doing it alone anyway. Many men still see women as a their maid, nanny, sextoy and mother. Wheres the respect.Ofcourse there will also be women who are really bad and manipulative but the majority of women just dont accept this treatment anymore.@@NoName-zb1gm
Taking care of children and the house is also work. Im worried about the child if shes this agressive. I hope shell not use the child to hurt you. Good that you got away.
It’s ok they can think I’m insane... as long as they stay away from me
how ironic, us empath feels we're becoming more of a narcisist when were stading out to fight the narcisist.
Its true. Please dont be and save yourself. It is not a good thing to become. You will never be fully satisfied with this caracter. I broke up with my ex 5 years ago didnt have any pity for him but i loved him. When i reached out last year , i was more mature and ready to fix things up , found out that he wasnt the same person and it was me who created this dark side of him .. then broke up with me and did everything i did to him. ( i have changed and i dont blame myself for what happened 5 years ago i was totally immature)
Roy Savage my history is different I was a person that grew up very poor, and because of that I gave everything to my daughters because I want them to have a better life, now my daughter has three kids and she had them late in her life she’ll be 48, I was there for her hand and foot gave her money gave him my time gave him my life in other words she grew up privileged, I am a senior citizen suffering so much, and because I have different opinion in the political issues both of them hate me with a passion, I thought I was allowed to think and use my brain, and if that is A crime I didn’t know I am very naïve person and I am very empath I care I’m religious and I love to help people I gave 3 gallons of blood since I was a young girl, now my daughter is torturing me mentally, I have many accidents because I was always running to help them with the babies I have five fractures in my body right now I need money to pay my rent because I had the virus and I had to get medication, I gave her all my savings naughty one time but little by little, I she won’t let me see my grandkids which they love me I don’t like to go to her house to watch them because she always has an angry face and I don’t like it, The kids love me because I play with them like I was five years old even though I have horrible arthritis and broken bones, she asked me to lend her my car, and because she ruined it the last time she used it cost me $1500, I said no I’ll drive you, she said to me she doesn’t wanna be next to me because I give her stress, she gives me stress I’m on medication right now I’m having therapy I think she’s bipolar she needs therapy and she talks to me horrible she did not Listen to me to me she made horrible choices she found a boyfriend that used her in abused her and that’s 43 she decided to have babies, and I think she hates me and she tell me I don’t exist and I need help now to pay my rent she said no and I have to sell my jewelry the little bit that I have because she took some it, it’s true I lost all my friends she told everybody that I was a bad mother that I used to beat them they believe her because she talks to them with honey, even my best friend she’s always reproaching me telling me she loves you, do you know why because she talks to her like oh how are you Kissy Kissy, so now the only person I can speak to is my sister because she knows my situation and because my daughter also rejected her, I never had grandparents because they stayed in the old country my grandkids have a grandmother who adore them she doesn’t want me to see them, please answer me, but don’t make it public because I’m afraid of her!!!
I don’t tell her what she says to everybody I’m a liar to her own father she brainwashed him and I’m Father’s Day she gave me a card saying happy Father’s Day mother because you were my mother and my father I love you, she forgot all the good things I did for them because I took the key from my apartment and I don’t give her the car anymore because she ruined it and now I don’t have money she hates me!!!
I exposed her and she told everybody my political view now they all run away from me like I’m a monster or I have leprosy it’s horrible you want or I can do that to a mother who grew up so poor so poor, when I came to this country at 16 was the first time I heard TV FrigidaireAnd a birthday cake I never heard that before that’s why I gave them everything I wanted to be a good mother I didn’t know I was doing something wrong in my heart I thought it was doing them a favor to have a piano in ballet and sweet 16 so many things I gave them no I’m all alone
Thank you so much for saying this
Totally! I’m going through a divorce at this time. I have been abused from this narcissist man for 38 years.
Good do it
🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
I have been married to a narcissist for 48 years it has been a mental $ emotional nightmare . Heading for divorce ASAP
@@stevesparks9135 45 for me n totally 100 % i agree. I was served 4 yrs ago n it's been dragging out.seeing a divorce master n finally 2 months out of the hell in same home. Good luck to you
Totally, my wife is the narcissist. I pushed back and she left me and moved to another state.
Brutal honesty makes them go to silent treatment
I am on silent treatment with a narcissist but believe they won't care..
Nothing can ever be good enough!
So true Amanda!
Priya Jain 🤷🏾♀️ Welcome to the club, it’s every other day or week on silent treatment.
Amanda Causey something I’m dealing with now my bf shuts down whenever I hit him with brutal honesty
YES IT DOES!!
And then they STICK to that lie even when they're caught in the lie! NUTS!
This is both an annoying and entertaining thing to witness. They'll start rambling hoping to confuse you as they change the subject. Then they'll accuse you of changing the subject when you make it known that they're the ones drifting.
@@yoseflopez4897 wow! It's as if I wrote this comment!! I am EXHAUSTED from keeping up w/his lie, after lie, after lie--just to then listen to him weasel his was around trying to change the topic...ugh 😠😢
@@juliebeebe34 What I started doing is remembering the original topic and the first new topic they drifted off to. That way when they starting accusing I would just say "No, actually...", then they sometimes respond with the whole "Are you calling me a liar?" crap. Lol this is where I would just say "yes" so they could just ramble themselves out of the argument.
@@yoseflopez4897 oh? Very smart! Yesterday, during a "run-around argument", I call them, I spouted out, "I should grap a pen & paper, so I can keep track of the original argument starter", LOL
@@juliebeebe34 If you can try to avoid engaging in the first place with one word responses like "k". It's hard to argue when it's just you.
I was love-bombed by a narcissist last night. It was the empties hug I have ever received. You were right. All my ducks will be in a row the next time I see her and her flying monkey. Thank you for your help!!
Thanks so much so helpful. I just found out my Narcissist husband of 21 years led a double life
Gail Waxman,You deserves better
When you are brutally honest with them,
They know exactly what to do with that.
They use it against you or they turn the truth into lies.
True.. happened to me while married to a narc. They don't respect truth. Better to lie to them...smh
Omg this exactly how my grandma is ....
Yes
So true! Damn it !
Oh god, what if I have been honest abt my feeling while he was in denial and don't want to be blamed at all. I was willing to take the blame because I realized there is no good arguing with a fool or egoist. I just want to walk away. So how to fix this. Help me guys.
Having no reaction anymore...that works, you know they're gaslighting so answering with one word like K or , sorry you feel that way ect. They really know you know by then.
I agree 👍
@ lil winged i have noticed this in the comments quite often so thought i might clarify, etc is the abbreviation for etcetera not ect. Are you from the US?
@@charzemc It's not an American thing, just an error .
Deploy the “K”!!! 😂🤣
@@Pace8260 hello how are you doing? My name is Greg
Thank you for your expertise and helpful information. I have been married for 32 years and I feel like I'm just learning that I have been a fool for a covert narcissist! This is so painful and embarrassing but with videos like this, I am trying to make sense of my life and hopefully someday be happy before she completely kills my spirit and my mental health! God bless you 🙏
I was raised by a narcissist and married one. 52 yrs of hell and never realized it because i thought it was normal. I’m fighting now. I’ve worked my a$$ off and made lots of money that he wants half of even though he getting senile. We’re living in Mexico. So, I’m leaving in the morning. He’ll follow because he’ll think he’s going to lose me. The only place I’ll meet with him is at our old Attorney’s office. He’s got to be evaluated to see if he’s competent. The lies are piling up on him. And I’ll get my revenge on what he’s done to me.
@@harrietjames6063 proud of you ❤️ hope that it works in your favor
Hi Richard, I to have been married to a narcissist for 36 years. Gone is my humor, drive, ambition etc.. I was at the end of my rope 10 years ago. I know it’s about to get ugly and pain is on the way. But I have to move on. I was going to give her another chance but what is the sense.
They ruin lives…with lies and deceptions…😰🥵
@@harrietjames6063…Me too…we didn’t know the difference…it seemed normal…😭
It’s like they are all the same person, they’re so text-book predictable. Mine is an escalating nightmare of gaslighting, lies and manipulation.
It's a personality disorder....
Im ,so worn out!!!😭...God help me,is my prayers.
My God, you’re right! They aren’t even real people. Just cardboard cutouts!
@@stephaniea1185 they are people..!!
Funny I just left a comment about how predictable they are. I think it’s their top true quality over all, only being a mammal comes in second.
The only time I saw my ex panic was when he knew I was leaving for good and the hoover did not work..the biggest hurt for me was realizing that I knew absolutely nothing about the man I married, that he was a complete fake, a con artist liar who really did not have one drop of love or respect for me..
@@mypups7626 so true.
My stomach just turned reading this , I've been with mine for 8 years ,married 3 and living together for 1 1/2 years 😳.I don't know who this person is but it's not who I met , it's absolutely scarry what the difference is
I relate to you 100%. Im trying to leave my narc husband now. I need to be strong.
Yep. Not a drop.
@@BecomingFelicia Do it afraid, if you wait to be strong that moment might never come because strength usually comes after the action, not before. You’ll be surprised at how strong you are AFTER walking away.
Comfort in knowing the game plan. This literally stopped me from being emotionally abused. I did every step and turned the situation in my favor. In the midst of all of that the narcissist became unattractive with her childish behavior and I ended the relationship with ease! Good luck all
All these years I didn’t realize the closest people to me were narcissists until your presentations. Many thanks.
Same here ...4 yrs. of trauma therapy showed me who was who .. it took me awhile to process it . Heartbreaking .
Number 5: when the “target” starts having a satisfying Life and the narc realizes that the victims didnt give up of themselves.
YES!!! THIS!!! My sister and I have both done this, and it drives the narcissists insane!
Living my best life has destroyed them. 🥰😁🙃
They freak out and go find another victim in order to “regulate” their emotions. They cant stand peace and stability...
They are kind of people that accuse you of what they themselves are guilty of doing. The best way to get them out of your life is to block all contacts with them. They are not worth your time nor energy.
I know and get what ur saying. So weird when they do all the certain things and then accuse you of it. This happens all the time with the Narc in my pleasantly divorced life. Yahoo so glad to be divorced only 5 more years till my daughter is 18. Counting down!! Then no more anything.
Summer; they project onto you.
summer what if that person is my sister? I also have been struggling with work and money during covid so her condescension really hurts.
Yes, narcissistic projection! I call it a truth serum in disguise if that makes sense.
what if it's your boss 🤷🏾♂️
It's very hard to walk away when the narcissist is your adult eldest son! But I have made the decision to walk away,no contact!😢
Driving me crazy is right. I’ve been able to hold my peace more and more but I still erupt at times. I’m moving because this to a place I really can’t afford but as soon as I’m away from all this I’ll quickly thrive.
Work on yourself, don't work on others.
Emotionally mature people walk away from abusive people, that includes narcissists.
Enlightened people have no desire to make another person panic, or to control them, in any way.
Mark Thompson beautifully said
HEY! You have been in a 12 step program! I am powerless against ................. There is a higher power greater than your self that can change YOU while taking care of the other person. Wow, thank goodness for healthy People in delightful comments on UA-cam. Cheers to healthyness. 👍
@Marc this describes my personality when I've dealt with a narc. Leave them lost and confused thinking why didn't their evil games work on me. I've actually become a professional narc detective from dealing with so many.
@Harry Munker The best comment
Mark Thompson yes but often there is a process for different reasons according to each persons life experiences traumas of childhood etc to be enlightened to avoid recognize be able of putting them away . Don’t « judge » too easily or harshly people on the process of freedom for who such videos, experiences sharings here or there to help for the best! Best regards,
Totally!! Divorcing a covert narcissist of 27 years, and WINNING!!!
Well done!!
Dusti..pl share your email
Dusti- I was married for 31 years to a covert- narrisst. He committed perjury in court on 3 accounts. I got almost nothing!!! I'm disabled from his abuse and he lied about the amount of home and used a tax asserors amount instead oil f the true amount of 195,400. Please be careful they will use adult children against you!!! Narrisst always play the victim!!!
Meeeee tooooooo!!!! :)
Best of luck!!!!!!!
Thank you so much for your advice it has helped me a lot. I was blind folded by him 😢
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7:18 . . . so true !
I caused a narcissistic injury by being honest with a covert narc I was dating.
I was honest with her in understanding her single mother struggles and that I cared for her.
Man, that stabbed her right in her ego ! I didn't even mean to do it - I was being honest with her trying to figure out where the relationship was heading.
What happened??
I definitely understand where you're coming from brothwe. I had a narc friend that I'd only try to be nice to and look out for because I felt sorry for her. Sometimes she'd take it as a personal attack and fly off the handle for long periods of time. And could she ever fly off the handle. We can't win for losing with people like them and it didn't take me long to see it wasn't even worth my time trying. I don't know if you still have feelings for yours so please don't take this the wrong way but women like that will lead us to an early grave. Their problems are their problems, not ours. We're better off without them even if it means being alone.
Making a narc panic will result in the narc displaying a higher level of heinousness toward you. You'll be astounded when you witness how depraved they really are.
I think that too, they get their kicks off of one upping you, and they're really good at it!! they've had alot of experience and practice. Best tactic is to cut ties, and stand firm with the decision. You'll be at risk of turning into a monster yourself if you play the game with them.
True
@@dalesmith4609 --So Correct Dale!🎯💪✌💖
Yep, the moment I stood up for myself, my ex started doing all kinds of stuff. He started being more obvious
Yep. Make certain you install a camera beforehand.
1. Brutal honesty @7:20
2. Pushing back
3. Exposing them
Signed, your ADHD friend.
4. Losing Control
Signed, another ADHD friend. 🙂
Amazing thank you
Thank you.
OMG TOTALLY!!
I was abused by a felon, female, African American- who makes people call her Reverend. This woman stole 12 years of my life and is a complete liar. You are right on! Thank you for your videos! I'm debating pursuing legal action for the physical, emotional, verbal and spiritual abuse she put me through. Thank you for the encouragement to go forward!!!
is narcissist is bad person or just being angry to some people?
Al Sharpton?
Totally! Realizing I have a "friend" that does this repeatedly, but I keep letting it go because, "they're stressed."
Stay strong! ❤
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Don't let it go
@@chriscogley7216 Happy to report that I'm not friends with that person anymore!
Brutal honesty is pointless in my situation because the denial mechanism is constant.
You're right and actually a waste of precious energy.
If you provide enough documented evidences, they will be stunned. It helped tremendously in my case. And Do not listen to their denials. After showing the evidences, leave them for good.
Same with mine
Same with mine as well. Despite overwhelming evidence she still just denies denies denies. It's just stupid at this point.
I might need to add that I face da group of narc fam, buat some of them are normal. So, the evidences stunned the narc, make them panicked because they were exposed, and let the normals contemplated of what the narcs have done to my family.
For individual narc, this might not be very effective. I agree...
This is exactly what happened to me, actually thought I was mentally insane.
Gaslightning
I felt this way for years
I feel the same. I just wonder if he believed his narrative. But I know he doesn’t. Bc, if he told me that this person or that person was there & heard it his way, I would be like, oh wow. I’m sorry. But he just says they’re crazy or liars. If I have a recording to prove I didn’t say something, he hears that he was wrong, I didn’t.. He will switch to telling me how I pushed his buttons to make him sound bad on the recording & there we go arguing about me defending myself
Kerryn 56,You are beautiful 🌹🌷,you don't need a narc 😈 in your life!!
Me too 🥺
Please be careful. I confronted the narc when he swore at me one night and he hit me, ragdolled me by the hair, threw me down and screamed in my face. I absolutely lost it and he backed off. He told me to calm down and stop acting crazy. Called me a fucking lunatic and a psycho. Just please be careful!
Totally. Oh my god the tone. I have to be so cheery when I talk back. Now I don't care.
There might have been a time where I wanted to take the wind out of my narcissist's sails, but that isn't my desire any more. Continuing to engage and play all the games isn't what I want to do. I'd rather exit stage left and get on with my life. Difficult for sure as this person is a family member. I'm done with all this nonsense. Seriously, no one is worth your inner peace, no one!
Couldn't have said that better. Enjoy a Blessed Life
Unfortunately, for some, such as myself, there remains legal connections that must be dealt with. The narcissist continues to try to manipulate, control, and intimidate in connection to those situations and people. For me, once our youngest turns 18 in a few months and whenever this dang house is sold, I will no longer need or want to "take the wind out of my narcissist's sails". Until then I must protect myself by using cold, hard numbers as facts to prevent a judge from forcing me to pay the narcissist lots of money I don't have. I engage only when forced, and at least for me, this is not playing any sort of game but instead protecting myself and my assets, small may they be, from being unjustly confiscated. I look forward to the day there is no more reason, (other than to collect on the court ordered life insurance policy I have on him), to engage with him in any manner.
@@redlover5088 use Clarity and come out smiling. Bless you on your journey of self discovery. Use everything even the worst, as a learning experience. Try as much not to take things these Demons do personally. This is the aspect that keeps us stuck to their negativity. We are all meant to live safe & happily, some just can't see this in their life.
Yup. I had to let my son and grandchildren go. His narc wife has kept us in an uproar for 13 years. I told him she's a narcissist. He knows but he stays so I'm done!!
Totally
Been dealing with people like these all my life. Absolutely exhausting and draining to be around them.
My mother. 😕
My ex referred to our bed as his "lair". Now I see that he was a con artist/narc/wolf in sheep's clothing.
If that's the case you need to start self-analyzing to see why you haven't start to acknowledge to yourself when you see the signs and haven't learned to drop them right them and there the minute you see the signs. Stop being so optomistic. If someone seems like a bad person, trust your instinct. They are.
@@quickseevee3509 Who says I haven’t? They are energy vampires who zone in to anyone who has an empathetic personality and are compassionate. They are the gum on the shoe of life.
Big time I hear you
Totally!!! He actually said to me that Everyone he knows says he's such a nice & great guy! Lmao!! I looked him straight in the eyes & laughed & said, NO YOUR NOT A GREAT GUY OR A NICE GUY. 😂
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Totally! Especially with the idea of the cowardly narc pulling out their flying monkeys and actually being a scaredy cat!
the only way to deal with a narcissist is to cut all contact with them.and everyone else involved.
Do not get sucked into playing their game it will just become an endless cycle.
Amen. Just walk away. The frustration is real. I highly question the state of those who may want to exact revenge on someone, even a narcissist. Just move on and heal yourself.
It’s not easy when it’s a family member, they are the worst !!!!
My daughter it's sad. I learned the darn hard way. I stay pray UP.
Very true. Its an endless cycle of toxicity
Yes, I've wasted 15 years..never knew what I was dealing with until this past year.
YES: They are sick people; imposters posing as 'nice' people except to the target.
Yes. That is the incidious evilness that I find. You feel like you are the only one that can see. Evil.
Totally!My elder brother & his wife are narcissists . Have been bullying & gaslighting mesince I was 12 years old. I’m now 61 years old now. Finally I realizec I can’t be wrong all thetime.
@@happyme3556Aaaaa???..story of my life.
You describe it perfectly,
Stfu
Yep truly agree. My ex baby mama she exactly like this. She recently got her 3rd dui, thank god this time our daughter wasn’t in the car. I’m in the process of talking to my lawyer in trying to get full custody in the state of texas.
Our narcissist knows they are a narcissist, but they try to get people to believe that we are the narcissist. So the only thing with got is honesty and keeping recording and knowing the best time to bring out the truth where they stumble over there own lies.
Never underestimate the fact that a narcissist will always destroy themselves in the long run it may not happen in your lifetime or in the time you know them but Mark my words they find their downfall downfall soon enough
Truer words never spoken. Especially if you know their life & how miserable they are it's best to let them wallow in their misery & move on so they don't take you under when you're in their fortress.
I think my brother will kill me , so I wont see that happening (he tried doing that when I was a baby... He is not only a narcissist, but and insane and very agressive + childish one)
@@mightyseagoat6874 smh the worst combination. I've recently discovered some people are aware something is off with my narcissist but don't exactly know but a few people are skeptical of them despite being cordial and the narc being super friendly with them. I had no clue people were suspect of her. I'm glad they are and I hope she gets exposed and gets help she desperately needs it.
@@Respect2theFallen you mean your sister? (You said "her")
My brother for example pretends to be super friendly with people , so does my mothwr , but when they are together they talk sh*t about everyone, the worst. They are very aggresive at home and abusive. Making drama about everything. Caring a lot about appearances etc
@@mightyseagoat6874 Nah not sister I dont have one. It's just a her in general they seem like easier people to play victims that's why it's annoying.
I lived with a covert narcissist for nine years. I’m now nine months free. 💃🏼
Congratulations x
Honestly, congratulations💕
@@cheryallenjenkins9800 Thank you 🙏. It’s been the hardest time of my life but I will get through this.
@@sarahkelsey4287 Thank you! 😊
@@GinjaFajr Thank you...only people who have lived with narcissists truly understand.
Totally! Been married 30 yrs and getting a divorce 😊
It is completely shocking how totally spot on you are about these narcissists. I have been called a liar continually when I am known to be too honest with everyone. I exposed mine to a whole community of people here in Mexico. I was at my wits end. I had no choice. I was having my physical and financial stability threatened and needed to let as many people as possible know what was happening. Thankfully I was received without any doubt by many people. He has his flying monkeys but no one came back to me with any negativity. You are so right that they do not want to go to court. They have lined up weak mediators who they have already convinced they are the victim to mediate for us. I have told him we need to go to someone impartial but they are highly resistant. They know I have a lot of proof of their behaviors that will come out in any serious legal venue and it is my only hope. He is trying to take everything from me. And he truly believes he deserves it. He has screwed off his whole life and has nothing. I am in another part of Mexico to escape him and his abuse. It is so much easier not dealing with his nonsense anymore. I find when I do read his texts or listen to his messages I am put into a state of inability to do anything but ruminate. I am waiting for my house sale to go through so I can take all my money and never have anything to do with him again. It is taking forever and he is threatening me in every way with anything he can think of. So ignoring him has been my best tactic. Once in a while I send some other proof of his abuse to keep him reminded. It seems to be helping but I still live in fear. I cannot wait for this to be done. My house was supposed to close by now and having the buyers dragging their feet is killing me. But I am hanging in there. It has been too difficult to find honest help here in Mexico. When they discover the value of the house they want a portion of it as well. I would happily pay a fair amount to have good council but I don't believe it is available to me here.
Stay strong! ❤
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Totally! 1. Gaslighting .2. They lie about trivial issues. 3. Intimidation tactics; they make threats. 4. Triangulation. They make you think that everyone is against you and for them. They are the most scaredy-cats on the planet. They need attention and are super afraid. What causes panic in narc? 1. Honesty stuns them. 2. Pushback. 3. Exposing them. 4. Losing control in anyway.
You are exactly right! Had a supervisor love bomb me and then then discard me when she realized she could not control me and manipulate me. She attempted to triangulate coworkers including her supervisor.
Told her supervisor to make me talk to her when I gray rocked her after she threatened me!
@@blugrn1999 - shocking aren't they! No apology I'm guessing!!
BAM
When hes caught in a lie, it quickly goes from him being in the hot seat, to me in the fire... i hate it.
I'm in the same boat
So am I and at 63, disabled I'm trying to find a way out.
@@jessicarinehart6294 if you have any way out, run!!
@@nana820able im 53..been with him since I was 15... its all ive ever known.
@@Always0110 we were 17 and 18 so it's been 45 years. We got married 5 months after we met and I wasn't pregnant just stupid. I had wonderful parents and a big loving family. He grew up with the abused parents from abused parents and so on.
You are a terrific counselor!! You are saving lives!!! Listen to these videos everyone and do what Rebecca says!
You got this! 💪
No good counselor would spend this much time teaching people how to make a narcissist panic. No, this is how you trigger a narcissist to physically hurt you. You get a safety plan and you leave.
This is the last counselor you should be taking advice from.
Counselors help you find peace, not create panic in your life.
Them being constant ill is so true I'm sick of giving my ex the pity party I'm sick of it and now going gray rock
Just found out my mom is one....I never even knew the definition before. My whole life is validated now!
Same! Except that it is my dad.
Try two mum's and two dad's 🤣🙄🤷♀️
natalie fox after 32 years with my husband since age of 18, I have validation too. I never knew about this stuff back then and I am now educating myself and hopefully move on and far away.
Mine exhusband, father to my kids. Together 30 yrs. Still living w him because I got screwed in divorce and homeless and co. Parenting 17 and 12 yr old .he is so abusive because he doesn't want me living w him. But my 12 yr old daughter needs me
I hope you can get away from the abuse, and build who you are as a person.
Totally! I was married to a true master manipulator. It took me many years to figure him out, and I finally stopped participating in the myriad head games. It crushed him, and our 27-year marriage ended. My life has been completely happy since then!
Lynda Barritt Congratulations! You were smart to not give him “fuel” or narcissistic supply...that’s why he wanted to end the marriage. You were no longer useful! Enjoy your freedoms and stay happy! ❤️
These narcissistic people need deliverance.
I stunned my narcopath mother with “brutal honesty” yesterday in front of an entire shelter and law enforcement. She couldn’t respond to anything. For the first time I think I broke her brain the way she breaks mine. Her gaze was just empty and helpless. She could hardly answer simple questions about what she wanted them to do. She forced me out of my part of the house after causing a mental breakdown. I was cleared to return to my life but she didn’t want to let me without unnecessarily medicating myself for things I don’t even have.
I chose to go to a shelter to heal and move on. She refused to give me my things that would let me move on with my life but would bring petty items. I grabbed her phone when she was off guard, and kept it for probably 2 hrs. She couldn’t handle it, but she couldn’t understand how she upended my life by forcing out of it. She got her phone back but everyone who saw the mess knows how far “off” she is now.
His lies were so nuts I wondered if he had multiple personalities and didn't even remember the insanity we just went through
They seem to forget very quickly, like nothing ever happened!
Girl I feel this...
I dated a covert narcissist for 6 years. Covert narcissist are the worse.
They lie for everything, they make you believe a whole different new story, they manipulate you, they act like the victim around others, they give you the silent treatment, they leave you once they have another supply, they blame you for everything that happened in the relationship. They don't love anybody they just love themselves.
They hate being exposed on social media because its like taking their real mask off.
Kick em "into the wild". See what i did there, ahh? eh??
Maggie McCandless,you are too precious 🌹🌹🥀🥀🥀 to be with a narc 🙄!
What makes a Narc panic starts at 7:00
1) Brutal honesty
2) Pushing Back
3) Exposing them
4) Losing control from the Narc
Im not the tough guy i clame to be. Im not a player. I have no friends. I have no success. I repeatedly lie, cheat, and hurt the only ones who gave a fuck . I feed of attention but am afraid of it. I pray and try to change but honestly didn't know y I couldn't. My family had been dealing with me since the day 1 and subtly stsrted giving me help thst something aint right, damn nesr the whole community. I do want to change and come to reality, and have a real relationship with god and peoole but don't know. I feel line there's good in me but these actions of past trauma and being afraid to face the music on all of my behavior holds me back. How horrible my life is being isolated most life ect, u get a lot of time to search and see why u perceive yourself a way but dont get outcome. I read these comments after searching for the truth about myself, you know being gonest and ran across this NPD. I know people say theres no help and its best to stay away. But please god has talked to me in so many ways over the last years and i just know im not a lost cause. Please Help! Pray! If not for me DO IT FOR MY family i have a young brother, caring parents! I know im nothing now! A piece of shit the way i did people, but do it for my family, do it for the next person help! I am not looking for sympathy someone to drop what theyre doing and feel bad for me. I am not sociopath maybe, i am but i foh damn show know im narcissistic and want to actually change, salvation. Please respond no gimics no games but honesty!
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And what to do if you make them panic and angry?
Thanks!!!!
Totally and more …I can’t write anything down. So much of belongings have been missing,, returned. It’s never ending. I just don’t care anymore.
Dont let them intimate you! You have to stand up
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“Love bombing and then devalue” -yep! The never ending cycle. My only solution was to stop communication
yea it was almost like not only were they trying to manipulate you but also punishing you for showing you some type of love.
@@fomoorplaylist488 then you end up chasing their validation even if you don't want them. A terrible cycle.
Totally!!
KARINA Renee I cannot seem to get that concept down even though it’s killing me
me-me Adams yes and that made me start to cry reading what I already tell myself all the time. That’s the hardest part...they punish love that it what I call evil
Every time I catch him in a lie, suddenly he's having a heart attack!
Mine had a full-blown panic attack on the stand during cross-examination. The lies he told were presented to him & it was a beautiful thing. It was 3 days. I refused to look at him & I had zero reaction to him. Drove him crazy. LOL!
@@alexisgonzales2958 Awesome!!!
Mine vomited when I forced him to let me drive...
😂😂😂😂😂 it’s not funny.. but aren’t narcs so much fun ...
@@ThePriam3 😭😭😭😭 no! Lol
Wow you just described my brother's wife. He lives miserable. I exposed her and she hates me..
When they try to destroy you with lies, destroy them with the truth.
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Narcissists don't have friends, they have token relationships, all based on manipulation, lies, and deception. I have a sister who is a Sociopath/Narcissist and, to listen to her speak, she's the sweetest most caring person you'll ever know. And therein lies the manipulation, because she'll never let you know who she truly is. On the surface, they're great actors, always spinning a story and developing their next opportunity to ride in on their white horse, saving the day or coming to the rescue of someone in need. That's how they gain your confidence and trust ...to be used against you at a later time when you recognize and threaten to expose the truth of who THEY are. Distancing yourself from these people is one option, but my preferred method is to burn the bridge after you're on the other side of the valley.
Robert L (n(
Mine is a repeat offender
Burn the bridges is saver
SAY IT!!!! 👍👍YOU ARE ABSOLUTELY CORRECT - to a tee. I experienced all of what you just mentioned. My advise is: ALWAYS figure out how to run run run & not know these people once you discover they are Narcassist. Normal people OR other less tramatizing per- sonality disorders ,you can kind of dance around with their issues,but NEVER EVER a Narcassist (no matter what kind).View them as a quiet "fake-fun" undercurrent tsnumi Katrina LION SNAKE storm. If your peace of mind or comfort is not maintained at 75-80% at all times always keep a wedge & a " powerful threat" between you &L them,no matter who they are. In the long run they are the WORST people I've ever met.i have no time to describe all of what they do. It's very interesting when you know 7 of them at the same time& all of them are doing the same things at the same time,all the time, but don't know each other.???!!!🥴Peace & Best wishes.
I have a daughter who is a narcissist and I dont talk to her at all. I have to love her from a distance bc I dont like the way she treats me or everybody else.
I've dealt w/many narcissists in my life. I'm an empath so they flock to me as if i'm a magnet. I will eventually feel very uneasy & i will leave. I've been learning since how to recognize a narcassist....thank gawd!
You also attract them, not intentionally that's just how it is.
@Vitelotte no. You can't heal them but they will let you try and suck you dry as a result.
Me too 😭 😭
@Vitelotte no you'll die inside, don't ever do that. Learn to put up boundaries.
@Vitelotte Perhaps you can help them heal themselves, but only through being stern to them, bluntly telling them the truth about themselves, exposing them to others deliberately, showing them that you don't care the least about their gaslighting, lies and tantrums, that you don't need them in any way, but that you *still* care about them as people. Teach them what is worthy of respect and what is only worthy of contempt. Flip their sick worldview and mentality by force. If it doesn't work, then just give up on them, and don't feel bad about it. They are responsible for their own miserable state, while you are not, this is true even though they shy away from their responsibility.
Totally my narcissist has delayed our divorce for 3 yrs
Many narcissists understand the idea of integrity or character but they think it is just for naive suckers who don't know any better. They look down on the qualities the rest of us value as noble- honesty, humility, integrity, self- sacrifice.
I am so happy I finally got rid of him.
I'm taking control of my life.
No more living in hell
Happy happy big love n huggs xx
Well said.
Amen to that
Me too been there
I’m so happy that my ex is gone!!! He took all the gifts from my daughter just because he wanted to take control of our happy Christmas!!! He chocked me while my daughter watched!! Almost killing me!!! All because I kept it real with him!!! Let’s just say he is no longer with me because I stopped giving him supply!!! Yes my ex from hell!!! Thank god he’s gone lord and I’m finally free from the narcissist after 3 years of hell!!!💯💯
#3 for me she threatens to end her life, and scratches herself leaving marks, scares my into her hurting herself.
Best way to send them into a panic: Start talking about yourself.
😂
Oh they want to know all your fears and flaws, so they can use them against you later.
AliensAnonymous Talk about your accomplishments, every friend that you have who they don't know, what a great yesterday you had, how well you slept, & how great today is going to be because "I'm not going to let anything or anyone mess with MY great day."
The narcissist can't handle it. They'll immediately react. Their wheels will start turning immediately as they quickly attempt of something to say, something, anything negative.
As soon as the first negative word comes out & long before they can finish, bluntly & boldly interrupt them with a smile, the biggest smile you've ever smiled, & say, Oh no, I'm not letting anything or anyone sour my day. Love you, but gotta go enjoy my day & love life. Smile even greater, then turn & walk away.
And if they try to interrupt with another negative. Cover your ears & remember walk away.
They can't handle not being in control of the conversation. They can't handle you being happy. And they can't handle be dismissed or ignored.
And if you want to rub it in, just before you go through the exit door or are out of earshot, turn once again toward them with, again, your very biggest smile & boldly wave saying "I hope your day is just as great as mine.
They will just about lose it once you are gone. They'll be sad, mad, aggravated, confused, enraged, & they'll even feel abused. And in the onslaught of all of these emotions, they'll panic, because have no current control & can't figure you out to regain the control they had thought that they had approached the conversation with.
@@WatchingMyLifeFlashB "And they'll even feel abused"😂😂😂
I died!!!
They won’t listen
i literllary wanna cry sooo bad cuz everything you said about narcs in the beginning is sooo true. I am going through all this right now n it feels like death.
I am going through this right now as well. It is absolute hell, if you want to talk I would love to have someone to talk to that's going through similar problems
I am so angry with myself for wasting 8 yrs of my life and isolating myself from every one and and putting up with the constant threats and the financial consequences that I am so ready to expose him his lies and the years of voice recordings. I want nothing but my life and self back.
Oh my gosh he can love bomb and devalue love bomb devalue all within minutes!! He is very insecure. He tells me that I am insecure. I was secure until I got involved with him!
Sounds like something I’m going through..run while you can.
This is highly relatable in a scary way!
Renee Anderson,you are too pretty to be with such man!
What makes them panic is when you can call them out on lies with screenshots or texts. They can't keep track of their own lies but you can.
😂🤣😂.....like u do remember you said that right?...🤦🏾♂️
I did this once and he became super angry then he start defending himself. At first he explains everything and make it look that you are important to them but when the devaluing phase comes he just don't give a fck and blame you for everything instead , and he will call u crazy paranoid etc then discard u then later on contact u as if nothing happens and try to lure you again to feed their ego. I'm glad i don't beg him to comeback and start to realize that he's a narcissist
That’s why my ex calls me and doesn’t want to text things regarding custody, unless it’s to incriminate me or make me look bad. I SWEAR... But that’s fine, I’m already three steps ahead and emotionally ready for what’s under his sleeves.
Giiiirl! What you said.. I have saved text messages from 2009 i still refuse to get rid of with mine.. and was able to use 179 pages of over 250 screen shots of text messages from him to win an Order of Protection.. i was the only one who needed to testify and my response was only yes sir that’s correct, yes sir that was for him... as my attorney read text after text after text from him to me to the judge and a court room full of people... it was HUMILIATING but i knew it had to be done in order to STOP the daily harassment, threats and sexual requests...
My ran is def not over as we are gearing up to go back to court regarding the parenting plan i want changed.. idk if i will ever be rid of this evil man.. but I’ll be damn sure emotional ready for him.. and I’ll ensure my son is able to survive it as well!
Stay strong Ladies and Gents..
Thank you so much. I have gone No Contact. I feel like I am losing my mind. Everything you talk about makes me feel I am not alone in this fight.
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