How To FORCE A Narcissist Who Is Driving You Crazy into Panic Mode

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  • @asmrtistfox3844
    @asmrtistfox3844 9 місяців тому +574

    It’s really sad how much work is required in order to deal with these demonic beings. Shut them down & shut them out! ✌🏼

    • @TNTUXO
      @TNTUXO 9 місяців тому +43

      I've wondered if something evil is involved too. The lack of empathy from my ex, was just mind blowing.

    • @smtberry01
      @smtberry01 9 місяців тому +15

      This evil spirit is the reason I filed for annulment from my narcissistic husband of 3 months. I'm so aggressive that I know I absolutely could not deal at all!

    • @titanium8182
      @titanium8182 8 місяців тому +16

      @@TNTUXO they can be sociopaths.

    • @titanium8182
      @titanium8182 8 місяців тому +5

      @@smtberry01good you do what you have to do to keep safe and sane. Nice job🎉

    • @Dr.Sharron
      @Dr.Sharron 8 місяців тому +8

      Exactly. That is what people are dealing with when involved with other people with such behaviors. Get away from these people. Speak to them with a long handle spoon.

  • @burgundisands9905
    @burgundisands9905 5 місяців тому +56

    1. Brutal honesty
    2. Pushing back
    3. Exposing them
    4. Them losing control in any way
    1. Do not be intimidated by their behavior.
    2. Don't give in to their demands.
    3. Start putting boundaries in place.
    (Don't give in.)
    4. Focus on the facts.
    5. Withold emotional reactions.
    6. Cut them off and ignore them.
    Six Tactics
    1. Call them out when things are not adding up.
    2. Don't react to their bait.
    3. Get them to lie and then flip it against them.
    4. Act like you don't care.
    5. Creating invincible leverage.
    6. Be offensive and not defensive.
    Ten Phrases
    1. "I can see that you are upset."
    2. "We can both work together on this."
    3. "I hear you."
    4. "I have no right to control how you see me."
    5. "I'm not upset with you."
    6. "Your approach is not working for me."
    7. "You can disagree with me but you have no right to disrespect me."
    8. "What you are saying does not align with the facts."
    9. "I agree with you..."
    10. "Goodbye."
    Top LIES All Narcissists Want You to Believe:
    1. You can be vulnerable with me.
    2. You can count on me.
    3. Everything in their lives is your fault or your problem.
    4. I will change / I have changed.
    5. I would never lie.
    6. No one loves you like I do.
    1. Threaten their supply source.
    2. Demonstrate their lack of control.
    3. Live your life!!!

    • @bellableu4023
      @bellableu4023 Місяць тому +5

      Thank you!!

    • @dt7202
      @dt7202 Місяць тому +1

      Beautiful thank you

    • @mtm105
      @mtm105 Місяць тому

      It took almost 20 years to recognize. Her step-sister identified my wife’s Mother as a malignant narcissist. Malignant? I thought narcissists were benign and liked looking at selves in the mirror. I thought that my wife was on a bi-polar spectrum. 4 DUIs and 17 listed crimes on record, 58 days in jail, she is a “covert” narcissist. I prefer Sociopath.

    • @mtm105
      @mtm105 Місяць тому

      I want to cut & copy this list.

  • @lashellehardy6687
    @lashellehardy6687 2 місяці тому +40

    I joked that he was a narcissist. When I finally started researching narcissism, I was shocked!! Wow! I don't want revenge, explanations... nothing. I want him out of my life!!

  • @topneverstop
    @topneverstop 3 місяці тому +35

    He always said i was psychotic, a narcissist, sociopath, all the above. But God says whatever comes out the mouth is from the heart. It was him the whole time. I feel like crying from 3 years of emotional and physical abuse.

    • @jen-gv7tx
      @jen-gv7tx Місяць тому

      cryogenics

    • @NopeNotTodaySatan
      @NopeNotTodaySatan Місяць тому

      Projection at its finest!!!

    • @HS-vr9ml
      @HS-vr9ml Місяць тому

      Can change from one nature to another.didnt fit in when young.

  • @venessatiller8939
    @venessatiller8939 7 місяців тому +191

    It's easy to panic a narcissists , learn their weakness , ignore, cut off , say no , keep records , call them out , don't care , best one is walk away

    • @peterredit1305
      @peterredit1305 4 місяці тому +8

      Yes, walk away!!
      This just works and removes their power…

    • @KayMcGuffin-wr6gh
      @KayMcGuffin-wr6gh 4 місяці тому +3

      I got subpoenaed by the district Attorneys Office. I testify against him. I felt I was betraying him because I always told him I would have his back. But I still knew it was time to tell the truth. I don't think his public defender told him I was subpoenaed. I know the public defender was told. My ex narc looked at me with surprise. I wasn't looking at him directly until they ask was my abuser in the court room and who is he to me. He was staring at me with dead or the evil eyes. Was he angry or thinking revenge? He took a plea and the judge put a 3 year protective order on me. The day he got out he violated because he contacted me. I hung up on him. He continue calling demanding me to pick him up. I wouldn't. Then 2 weeks later he left and got a bus ticket and went back to his mom where ever she is at. So now he has 2 warrants we're I live and one where we both r from. Both felonies and it's domestic violence me being the victim. Now if he gets caught he's looking at prison, but it's not my fault nor my problem. I do wonder if he was angry or just planning revenge on me. Because I am sure that he thinks I betrayed him

    • @vickicravener7529
      @vickicravener7529 4 місяці тому +2

      Oh I'm so good at pretending I am home alone and totally ignoring! He can rant and rave all he wants and i dont blink an eye, just go about my business. I would leave but it would be hard financially and physically, as i have stage iv cancer. He is on medication now that has decreased his manic phases. And I use that one now, you are in a manic mode rt now so everything is a catastrophe. It will actually be fine.

    • @vickicravener7529
      @vickicravener7529 4 місяці тому +4

      Not giving in!

    • @meshugga2668
      @meshugga2668 3 місяці тому +5

      They diminish when you walk away... did mummy walk away 😢

  • @loafergirl3374
    @loafergirl3374 8 місяців тому +161

    When I started to push back, our relationship began to END

    • @indridcold8433
      @indridcold8433 5 місяців тому +9

      As soon as you realise a narcissist is in your life, simply delete the person. A

    • @susanrobertson2922
      @susanrobertson2922 4 місяці тому +9

      Same here! My now ex husband, was a boundary bulldozer. Any control he lost over me, the worse things got. He finally replaced me and drug me through six years of court, and has been on a strategic mission to discredit me to this day, almost seven years since the divorce.

    • @RebeccaZungEsq
      @RebeccaZungEsq  3 місяці тому +5

      How are you doing now? Hope feeling well and getting your power back! 💪 Perhaps my upcoming webinar might help - rebeccazung.com/cert-workshop

    • @clintonnagy1662
      @clintonnagy1662 2 місяці тому

      Amen. Same here.

    • @olgadewitt9462
      @olgadewitt9462 Місяць тому +1

      My ex started moving to the divorce direction when I become smarter and his manipulation stop working on me. They just coverts

  • @emthegreat7675
    @emthegreat7675 2 місяці тому +10

    I’m married to one unfortunately and we have kids with disabilities. He’s the bread winner and he is exactly as described in this video.

  • @melattard2037
    @melattard2037 4 місяці тому +37

    I found raising My voice and swearing like I've never sworn before actually shut him down
    He didn't expect me to do that

    • @CovetAmory
      @CovetAmory 4 місяці тому +4

      Me too!!

    • @RebeccaZungEsq
      @RebeccaZungEsq  3 місяці тому

      How are you doing now? Hope feeling well and getting your power back! 💪 Perhaps my upcoming webinar might help - rebeccazung.com/cert-workshop

    • @NopeNotTodaySatan
      @NopeNotTodaySatan Місяць тому +2

      I began doing that & it enraged him so much that he physically assaulted me. He was on top of me & when he saw the look in my eyes panicked & took off.
      Then called my family acting like I was abusing him!!! 🤯 He did me a favor by doing that--they drove hours to come get me. When my parents saw all bruises on me including his hand/finger prints on both my arms I didn’t have to say a word. He’s been sending essays. Haven’t read them but am keeping them just in case. 4 within the last 24 hours. Now he’s sending them to my parents & children. I’m so exhausted.

  • @annemarie5273
    @annemarie5273 7 місяців тому +202

    Don't give in.
    Don't back down.
    Remember: "they actually fear you more than you fear them".
    No contact.
    No words.
    Live your life.

    • @bridobrien7483
      @bridobrien7483 5 місяців тому +7

      thank you I was just looking for this I cant stand spending an hour listening to someone waffle when 60 seconds or less will give the same information without the ego tripping

    • @paulagould5853
      @paulagould5853 5 місяців тому +1

      TOTALLY!!

    • @indridcold8433
      @indridcold8433 5 місяців тому +5

      I do more than no contact. I delete narcissists. I never speak about them again, to anybody. Anything given ti me by the narcissist is discarded, anything damaged or repaired by the narcissist is discarded. It is as if the personas N never existed in my life.

    • @spectershore4482
      @spectershore4482 5 місяців тому

      🤣🤣 you made my day!!

    • @marypatton1122
      @marypatton1122 4 місяці тому

      If the narcissist and gaslighter is your boss and holds the purse strings, an empath is SCREWED!

  • @dermlover1
    @dermlover1 10 місяців тому +207

    I’m currently getting the silent treatment. And lord I hope this lasts forever. Not speaking or dealing with this person is so refreshing. I just pray he doesn’t come home today, or ever for that matter.

    • @roadtrip808
      @roadtrip808 9 місяців тому +21

      Did it last? Im getting it now as well lol it's so peaceful 😅

    • @lorettaknox154
      @lorettaknox154 9 місяців тому +13

      If they are being silent it's time for you to take a vacation. Make sure you have a backup plan. Go away for a few days have some fun.

    • @lorettaknox154
      @lorettaknox154 9 місяців тому +5

      ​@@roadtrip808You have the right to party. Go out. Treat yourself build a whole life of fun. Put them out of your mind. When you go home carry out your night routine and if they question you give them the silent treatment.

    • @acolley2891
      @acolley2891 6 місяців тому +9

      I just wish he would. No harm, just go away. God bless you.

    • @user-uo8pp7kq7n
      @user-uo8pp7kq7n 5 місяців тому +5

      If you are feeling like that.. make your plans to leave! It may take awhile but plan it!

  • @julieutley2073
    @julieutley2073 5 місяців тому +35

    66 years here. Been there, done that, got educated and understand why and allowed me to understand. It set me free!!

    • @RebeccaZungEsq
      @RebeccaZungEsq  3 місяці тому

      How are you doing now? Hope feeling well and getting your power back! 💪 Perhaps my upcoming webinar might help - rebeccazung.com/cert-workshop

    • @julieutley2073
      @julieutley2073 3 місяці тому

      Oh, yeah. Am over that stuff many years now. But thank you!

  • @jjdotj5028
    @jjdotj5028 4 місяці тому +18

    Omgosh, it’s the lying for no reason for me!!!!! 😑😑 The gaslighting is even worse. 😒 Oh and the victim role….let’s not forget that! 🤦🏻‍♀️

    • @clintonnagy1662
      @clintonnagy1662 2 місяці тому +1

      Lying about stuff that doesn't matter. Mind boggling. Absolutely insane.

    • @funUrth4all
      @funUrth4all Місяць тому +1

      Me too and silent treatment for 1-5 days.

    • @user-os7ll6qt3h
      @user-os7ll6qt3h Місяць тому +1

      Plus no accountability and never apologize.

    • @jjdotj5028
      @jjdotj5028 Місяць тому

      @@user-os7ll6qt3h that right there makes my blood boil!!!!!

  • @user-ht8rt6hr4m
    @user-ht8rt6hr4m 10 місяців тому +157

    You tell them the truth.about everything they do.and they go ballistic and blame you

    • @ruthslater6364
      @ruthslater6364 9 місяців тому +5

      Yup the nightmare goes ballistic. 😮

    • @nicolecarnevale3226
      @nicolecarnevale3226 8 місяців тому +2

      Yeah.
      She is a murderer.
      The ballistic part hasn’t happened except on an emotion hijacking’s front.

    • @AltonWealth
      @AltonWealth 7 місяців тому

      😂💯

    • @acolley2891
      @acolley2891 6 місяців тому +5

      ​@@nicolecarnevale3226 Jesus said if you hold hatred for someone you are a murderer, so yes, they will be judged as such. God bless you.

    • @Smartcriticalthinker89
      @Smartcriticalthinker89 4 місяці тому

      Totally

  • @pamelahunter4203
    @pamelahunter4203 11 місяців тому +288

    Having boundaries and calling them out on the bs is key.

    • @terriekurney6548
      @terriekurney6548 10 місяців тому +15

      They are very insecure and I kept it 💯

    • @skywatcher6064
      @skywatcher6064 10 місяців тому +9

      That tactic only makes a narc stronger, they dont realize what they are doing. Speaking from experience

    • @coffeegirl6854
      @coffeegirl6854 10 місяців тому +37

      @skywalker.....They know exactly what they are doing. 100%.
      100% !!!!!!!

    • @skywatcher6064
      @skywatcher6064 10 місяців тому

      @@coffeegirl6854 Thanks for your reply. I will agree, the narc knows what they are doing, while they are doing it. I believe that narciscism is a form of mental illness. My observation of my narc wife pertaining to our relationship shows me that she uses her narc skill to manipulate and control with negativity. She doesnt seem to be in control of herself while doing so, but rather seems to feel the need to control the narrative by skirting the issue or changing the subject slightly to frustrate me into submission , showing her strength so to speak, with irrational and unreasonable thinking, attempting to cause me to go into defence mode. And since I care about her and our relationship, I fall for it and become very frustrated and heated arguments and debates ensue. I dont back down, never did. As a last ditch effort to get her to understand she does not have to act or react in this way with me , for the last six months I have been calling her out on her behaviour, on her lack of comunication skills, on her unwillingness to agree to disagree ,etc. etc. All that I have accomplished is that she has distanced herself even further from having an intimate relation with me. Yes, on one hand she may see the logic in what I,m doing and it has slowed her negativity somewhat, but , I think her behaviour was conditioned at an early age by her abusive narc mother and later by 4 failed marriages, one of which, her husband killed her pet cat,cooked it and fed it to her . Afterwards, he told her what she had eaten. I still believe that I am paying for all the wrong that others have inflicted on her in her life. She cant let go of the past pain and negativity she has endurred. At 62, it may be too late for that to occur. . This is why I say that narcs dont know what they are doing, not only to themselves but to others . They have been conditioned to think and act in a certain way but they dont realize that this is what has happened to them. They actually believe that their behaviour is normal socially acceptable behaviour. I,ve been involved with her and her problems for 13 years, I,m not a scholar or a pschycoligist, just a critical thinker that can see what her narc behaviour has done to us, and she does not. As a matter of fact, she thinks my beliefs pursuant to her behaviour and how it affects us is absurd and unfounded. My closest friend asked me, did you ever concider that she just doesnt like you ?, I replied, yes so why does she stay with me?. He said, because she,s a survivor. He,s right. She feeds off of me for her sustainability, biting the hand that feeds her . She doesnt have to feel that way, but she just dont get it. Therefore, I still say, a narc doesnt know what they are doing.

    • @genuinsanity
      @genuinsanity 9 місяців тому +20

      Watch out , they get angry to point of violence .

  • @brookevangerbig8242
    @brookevangerbig8242 2 місяці тому +6

    This women wants to control every thing!!! I was emotional- she told people that I as crazy!

  • @funUrth4all
    @funUrth4all Місяць тому +5

    So true "why are you lying about verifiable things?" So wild.

  • @allsouls5997
    @allsouls5997 Рік тому +129

    When you ask them to leave. Their evil is revealed.

    • @karenwingerd8929
      @karenwingerd8929 10 місяців тому +7

      ​@sine8811 the difference is, we're not talking about cutting out all our friends, we're talking about cutting out the Narcissist

    • @karenwingerd8929
      @karenwingerd8929 10 місяців тому +12

      Yes, they can rek havoc on ur entire life & those that mean the most to u.

    • @existinginthegray
      @existinginthegray 9 місяців тому +9

      100% That's when I truly saw I was NOT the problem!

    • @CovetAmory
      @CovetAmory 4 місяці тому +3

      Every time they asked me if I ever got lonely the first thing I thought was always yeah when I'm with you. When I finally said it they acted so ugly the ick Factor set in all of a sudden I could smell something nasty in the room I saw them differently stop caring what they thought or if they apologize and I really don't care what happens to them. I don't wish them any harm of course but I really wish they'd just get the hell out of here. They've been abusive in public more and more and the community is noticing and they will have to move and take on a new alias yet again. I know background check everyone a date for spend any kind of alone time with even platonically but remember some people might have criminal records and have changed. My attacker actually came up clean so take that into consideration they probably just didn't get caught many psychopathic narcissists don't get caught.

    • @CovetAmory
      @CovetAmory 4 місяці тому +3

      That being said err on the side of caution!! Always.

  • @tommyephran-dc4by
    @tommyephran-dc4by 10 місяців тому +188

    And when you have outsmarted them, and crippled them from supply, it tears them up, and that means , you have refused all they bait, and you have taken back your power ✊️✊️💪💪💯😊

    • @RebeccaZungEsq
      @RebeccaZungEsq  10 місяців тому +3

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    • @andyrosefan
      @andyrosefan 9 місяців тому

      Married 25 years and never knew what a narcissist was until I looked it up last year. But on my 69th birthday I claimed my independence, and no longer allowed him to control me. He couldn't handle it so he called his daughter with some sob story and they sent him a one way ticket back to Jersey to live with them. The apple doesn't fall far from the tree, cause they all are pretending that I don't exist. Lesson learned never ever trust a man that always says, "trust me,"

    • @Dlzozoa
      @Dlzozoa 8 місяців тому +5

      Be careful. People with trauma see narcissists everywhere. And if you tear one up with a technique, they might be crumpling because they think of you as they did their abusive, narcissistic parent.

    • @user-tu7yy9bt1s
      @user-tu7yy9bt1s 7 місяців тому

      Totally

    • @christinajackson3461
      @christinajackson3461 5 місяців тому

      ​@@Dlzozoamake sense

  • @Catmansdaughter
    @Catmansdaughter 4 місяці тому +19

    I'm NOT giving in. I'm just learning about narcissists, and now it's all making sense why my husband is like he is. I'm just flooding my mind with as much information as I can.
    Thank you for your information!!!

    • @RebeccaZungEsq
      @RebeccaZungEsq  3 місяці тому +1

      How are you doing now? Hope feeling well and getting your power back! 💪 Perhaps my upcoming webinar might help - rebeccazung.com/cert-workshop

    • @Catmansdaughter
      @Catmansdaughter 3 місяці тому +2

      @RebeccaZungEsq Thank you for checking in on me. It means a lot. The last few days have been rough. My pastor and his wife offered for me to stay with them. I told them I'd stick it out as long as I could. Thank you for the invite. 🙂

  • @kyleefritzius584
    @kyleefritzius584 6 місяців тому +9

    “why would you lie about that” YESS!!! i’m 2014 my son Cyrus passed away, born premature for placenta issues. 24 weeker fought for months in the NICU then passed away on his own, in my arms.
    2018 my new healthy baby boy! dad files
    for custody and said “one infant has died in her care. we can’t leave him with her”
    my son is now 5, and I am still fighting for him 💔💔💔

    • @RebeccaZungEsq
      @RebeccaZungEsq  3 місяці тому

      How are you doing now? Hope feeling well and getting your power back! 💪 Perhaps my upcoming webinar might help - rebeccazung.com/cert-workshop

  • @leefrancis007
    @leefrancis007 8 місяців тому +60

    The power struggle with a narcissist is unbelievable!!

    • @RebeccaZungEsq
      @RebeccaZungEsq  3 місяці тому

      How are you doing now? Hope feeling well and getting your power back! 💪 Perhaps my upcoming webinar might help - rebeccazung.com/cert-workshop

  • @kimberlyasmann4053
    @kimberlyasmann4053 Рік тому +53

    I am a person that won't let anyone control me, especially a narcissist..

    • @RebeccaZungEsq
      @RebeccaZungEsq  Рік тому +6

      Stay strong! ❤

    • @vanessamorey3812
      @vanessamorey3812 11 місяців тому +2

      Same, always have someone, somehow, somewhere trying to get into my head and mess with my peace.
      👢 hell no.

    • @leonardlisa8318
      @leonardlisa8318 5 місяців тому +4

      Sometimes they miscalculate the strength of people. They think you are weak and gullible and you turn out to be super strong. Surprise !!😲

    • @christinajackson3461
      @christinajackson3461 5 місяців тому +2

      I wish i had gone grey Rock. My narcissistic mother was looking for a fight, looking for attention, said just the worst thing that she knows gets to me, and I caved. I argued back. I should have just never responded and blocked her.

  • @kricketstrickland2851
    @kricketstrickland2851 3 місяці тому +6

    Thank you! Removing my emotions. I'm treated like I don't igsist. Being ignored, acting like she didn't hear me and makes me repeat myself. No eye contact. So many mind games.

    • @EvieBoyleHeights
      @EvieBoyleHeights 3 місяці тому

      Shoot I have a guy doing that to me omg BIPOLAR CRAP

  • @jerrythibeaut4593
    @jerrythibeaut4593 6 місяців тому +4

    Once I discovered this disorder within my family I simultaneously began to see it in my old friends. The mosaic started filling in.

  • @amygonzales9146
    @amygonzales9146 11 місяців тому +130

    My ex loved attention. I blocked his number and deleted it 😉 Then he started leaving letters in mailbox and following me. After all this I met him at his house with a policeman and told him to leave me alone 😂😂😂 He lost his shit and started screaming and yelling " How dare you embarrass me! He was cuffed and taken away 😂😂😂😂 He definitely got attention that day and never bothered me again 😂😂😂😂 Everyone saw him for what he was. His name was in the paper and everything lol 😂😂😂 Asshole 😂 He wasn't expecting any of that. He got his! That was 8 years ago. Never saw him again 😉😉

    • @Lahijadelabogado
      @Lahijadelabogado 10 місяців тому +9

      ❤I love it 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
      Mine works at the same school I do , so i talked to the superintendent and I haven’t 👂 hear anything about him luckily…. It took 2 meetings at the main office , couple of emails for harassment and 5 police reports…😂

    • @FaithFilled.
      @FaithFilled. 10 місяців тому +13

      Narc slayer goddess

    • @dargeo1406
      @dargeo1406 10 місяців тому +8

      Job well done! 👏🏻

    • @chocolateshake1130
      @chocolateshake1130 10 місяців тому +6

      Incredible ❤❤❤

    • @susangoodman2598
      @susangoodman2598 9 місяців тому +3

      Did you go for court to pay you support and deal with his property and put a lean on his property till retro active support is paid..?

  • @user-gf1sg7ge7t
    @user-gf1sg7ge7t 10 місяців тому +27

    As soon as I refuse to supply any more. I am the worst person on earth. They shout n scream with anger n say all these bad things about me that I'm not. I am walking away. Wish I did it earlier.

    • @RebeccaZungEsq
      @RebeccaZungEsq  3 місяці тому +1

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  • @julialynnehenry7903
    @julialynnehenry7903 5 місяців тому +10

    Totally. I used to live in LA for 30 years and moved back to Kansas and am struggling with the abuse of my parents and never, in a million years did I think that I would need to reach out to a woman's group. First step.

    • @RebeccaZungEsq
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    • @ellaalexandrialove9963
      @ellaalexandrialove9963 3 місяці тому +1

      How did you find the group?

  • @waynebeebe8828
    @waynebeebe8828 3 місяці тому +8

    This information is totally vital anybody going through this has to listen and take it to heart!

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      @RebeccaZungEsq  Місяць тому

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  • @johnmccafferty2120
    @johnmccafferty2120 7 місяців тому +86

    I have been dealing with narcassisitc abuse for 6 or 7 years, this changed a while back when I decided I wasn't going to suffer anymore.
    A few things I noticed about the narcissist is that they work in patterns, do the same things, say the same things and carry out the same actions. Once the revolution is complete, they go back to the beginning and start again.
    One more thing to remember - narcissist accusations are confessions of their own actions.

    • @visionvixxen
      @visionvixxen 6 місяців тому +5

      lol. All true. Why do we want so badly for th em to see and understand themselves. 😂

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      @RebeccaZungEsq  3 місяці тому

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    • @topneverstop
      @topneverstop 3 місяці тому

      He keeps asking if I'm seeing someone, begging to not break up blah blah. So is be actually cheating? God showed me. I'm just really still in disbelief and so hurt by it all.

    • @steph020
      @steph020 Місяць тому +2

      that last part " narcissist accusations are confessions of their own actions." took me years to understand why he thought everything I said was a lie. Finally realized he was the liar and the one who couldnt be trusted

  • @samanthahague6506
    @samanthahague6506 10 місяців тому +40

    So true, they rely on you to do the stuff their afraid to do. Also because they don't want to look bad to other people.

    • @ruthslater6364
      @ruthslater6364 9 місяців тому +3

      And they don't want to be bothered doing anything or
      everyone is beneath them . Seriously I can't understand how people can feel that way. It's pathetically so sad and demented .

    • @RebeccaZungEsq
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  • @leolosy08
    @leolosy08 6 місяців тому +7

    TOTALLY! YOU NAILED IT RIGHT IN THE HEAD! I WAS MARRIED TO ONE, WITHOUT EVEN REALISING WHAT THE REALITY WAS! I'M SO GLAD THAT I'VE MADE IT OUT!!

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  • @esteenagro9684
    @esteenagro9684 27 днів тому +1

    Holy moly, I worked for a narcissist, and the only way to have a conversation with her was if you kept the subject on her. It was so predictable from having a narcissist father. God help them lol.

  • @ericaa5862
    @ericaa5862 9 місяців тому +58

    You nailed it, when you mentioned that they are always sick or always saying something hurts and can't do anything but then later acts like they are not having pain. It's ridiculous annoying

    • @elizasteiner7330
      @elizasteiner7330 9 місяців тому +8

      Every day, he says i don't feel good. I have a headache. My stomach hurts.

    • @ericaa5862
      @ericaa5862 9 місяців тому +2

      @elizasteiner7330 exactly 💯! Like attention seekers and always finds ways to have me drop what I need to do and be all about him. Ugh

    • @marlo2919
      @marlo2919 8 місяців тому +4

      My mother does this she always says that I am giving her an ulcer. Interesting, she won't go to the doctor and tell them. Also, ulcers are caused by bacteria a person can't make someone have an ulcer. She has been saying this 30 years, so I assume she doesn't have one, and I assume she doesn't even know what an ulcer is. It gets old she always a victim of something, but she is also a bully and mean.

    • @marlo2919
      @marlo2919 8 місяців тому +1

      I'm going to try not to be triggered that's hard to do. I'm need to be a robot lol

    • @moniqueaugustine8914
      @moniqueaugustine8914 6 місяців тому +5

      Omg! His back hurt everyday, he tired, oh and now for 2 years, if it's cold outside, he acts like he has a chill he can't get rid of( won't wear a coat or winter gear at all in the winter) and when it's hot or summer, I get to hear him complain every day about how hot he was and how straining the heat was at work. Omg. Stfu narc husband. Dam, its always gonna be either cold or hot ! Get over yourself. Now I just ignore him and walk out the bedroom as soon as he starts complaining. I go take a hot soak in the tub so I don't have to listen!

  • @maxmaximus8323
    @maxmaximus8323 10 місяців тому +126

    I've been married to someone for 36 years who has this behavior, I didn't know people like this existed and thought she was just a bitch. I found this disorder out within the last few years. This is tuff stuff to deal with, but it makes total sense. Now she lives in another state with the two oldest adult children and I'm doing great and feeling free for the first time in years.

    • @LisaGallantSealMUSIC
      @LisaGallantSealMUSIC 8 місяців тому +9

      Same, 32 years for me, and I thought he was just one of those belligerent, stubborn people, who always share their thoughts with no filter ... not so much. They are sneaky, expert at lying and highly manipulating. So sad and am glad that I too have learned about the disorder in the last few years and am in the process of breaking free, and seeing my own issues too, as I have been attracted to this type of personality for decades.

    • @michelletecklenburg5950
      @michelletecklenburg5950 8 місяців тому +3

      ​@@LisaGallantSealMUSICyes, 30 years for me. Never realized the gravity of their depravity.

    • @shericleveland6890
      @shericleveland6890 7 місяців тому +2

      God bless you🙏🦋💫

    • @ElainePMP2008
      @ElainePMP2008 7 місяців тому +1

      I wonder how many of these people are the root cause of some violent crimes.
      Amazing. Enough already. The worst is how they treat their parents and lie to their husband and try to take your husband.

    • @fionaallen5108
      @fionaallen5108 7 місяців тому +8

      Congratulations. I love to hear men being released from manipulative wives and girlfriends. You all deserve the best love!

  • @Sparaxis11
    @Sparaxis11 5 місяців тому +3

    Totally…..the destruction they cause must be stopped. Thank you for this info. Just run and run as fast as you can. Save your sanity.

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      @RebeccaZungEsq  3 місяці тому

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  • @SwimminWitDaFishies
    @SwimminWitDaFishies 6 місяців тому +2

    Two yrs ago at my year end review with my narco-boss,
    I was off the hook and told him everything I thought about him. The biggest panic reaction I ever saw from him is when I said "People who are unhappy at work will either self destruct or they will leave." His reaction was epic! Totally flustered!
    If he was normal, he would have continued the conversation and asked me "what do you mean by that?"
    I'm still here and still dealing with him. Thankfully he doesn't hassle me for how much I work from home - so I don't have to look at him!

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  • @dianacardenas1518
    @dianacardenas1518 Рік тому +43

    They don’t change their mindset … no matter what

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      @RebeccaZungEsq  Рік тому +1

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  • @James-bc2oh
    @James-bc2oh Рік тому +46

    I can't help myself I'm a truth teller so I expose them,they try and keep my mouth shut by threats and intimadation but that just makes me even more determined to expose these freak's

    • @joannelang4412
      @joannelang4412 Рік тому +8

      Im the same. I can’t help it either… I know the feeling exactly 😊

    • @RebeccaZungEsq
      @RebeccaZungEsq  11 місяців тому +1

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    • @user-fu4iw5dx3f
      @user-fu4iw5dx3f 7 місяців тому

      They dont like facts, they will always attack truth tellers

  • @ShannonOneal-j8s
    @ShannonOneal-j8s День тому

    TOTALLY! I ended up in the mental hospital four times and the emergency room numerous times. I literally had to escape

  • @costalwest1231
    @costalwest1231 3 місяці тому +2

    Omg, this is exactly how it happened with my family members. My parents would intimidate me every single time, especially financially. They would make me feel as if I was disabled and that without them I’ll be nothing. My sister would be the golden child, very abusive. She would always bully me and diminish me. But the day I decided to say no and push back from all of their toxicity, I became the “bad” person. Narcissists don’t like when you push back and they can’t control you anymore.

  • @WhiteWolf-mf6sl
    @WhiteWolf-mf6sl Рік тому +523

    It's amazing how predictable they become...

    • @RebeccaZungEsq
      @RebeccaZungEsq  Рік тому +10

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    • @Ilovemychris24
      @Ilovemychris24 10 місяців тому +29

      I have been Married to dangerous covert narcissist. I didn’t know people like that existed. Finally got help but he has taken everything from me including kids and grandkids
      7:51 7:55

    • @AboveItAllDroneShots
      @AboveItAllDroneShots 10 місяців тому +21

      Finally understanding them give you back your own control. Then it is staying on top of things if you choose to stay.

    • @mleecthulhu
      @mleecthulhu 10 місяців тому +11

      Oh ikr?! 😂
      Like CLOCKWORK! 👍🏻

    • @randyschwarz2336
      @randyschwarz2336 10 місяців тому +8

      In most ways this one was predictable as can be but then another wolf curve ball I’ve never seen before.. sadly enough was enough and I chose to lose and amazing woman over her losing her respect for me.

  • @lt827
    @lt827 Рік тому +61

    My narcissistic parent was so bold that she even asked me what I liked the most in a calm voice when I was a teenager. Then she immediately turned on me and said "That's exactly what I am going to take away from you if you don't do X". The change in her face was lightning fast and she was pointing at me. Talk about embarrassing to be treated like this at the dinner table.

    • @Stardustpal25
      @Stardustpal25 Рік тому +17

      Pretty shocking. Only one should be embarrassed is her. No contact I hope. Be good to yourself That crap Does Not Define YOU. 🌹🪷🕯️

    • @lt827
      @lt827 Рік тому +8

      @@Stardustpal25 This parent passed away last year. There were many years of no contact though. She changed very much for the better once she was retired.

    • @nerobloom3614
      @nerobloom3614 11 місяців тому +2

      Same here...

    • @FaithFilled.
      @FaithFilled. 11 місяців тому +1

      Did you tell her to eff off?

    • @reneeboehm558
      @reneeboehm558 10 місяців тому +3

      💯 evil

  • @MPachent
    @MPachent 18 днів тому

    “They lie about things they don’t even NEED to lie about”, exxxxxxactly 😂.. I recorded every conversation I would have because all they do is LIE!!! What I can’t understand is, them sitting in therapy, and the actual therapist will ignore the one telling them who this person is… and sit up and ALLOW this piece of nothing to be even MORE of what they ARE!!

  • @amandaofhouserobinson6707
    @amandaofhouserobinson6707 6 місяців тому +3

    I love when I act like it was her idea and that I'm not happy about the outcome!! Lol works nearly everytime!!! Lol 😆

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  • @mjharris5999
    @mjharris5999 Рік тому +54

    They are so good at playing the loooooong game.

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      @RebeccaZungEsq  Рік тому +1

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    • @bernardabubnic2512
      @bernardabubnic2512 Рік тому +5

      They May also found How to secretly hurt You in the level of tree of life and the final fight Is not in the court But in the spiritual realm

    • @drollmender
      @drollmender 5 місяців тому

      And like he said, "You have to play with the game."

  • @juliaogara8794
    @juliaogara8794 10 місяців тому +61

    No 7 has been a total eternal opener. I'm married to a narcissist but only realised this recently and we've known each other 35 years and been as a couple 20 years. I kick myself for being so blind but late is better than never.
    Thank you for your channel

    • @rogerwhoareyou
      @rogerwhoareyou 10 місяців тому +4

      I know how you feel, 38 years for me to finally wake up and smell the coffee, so to speak.

    • @melodybergquist9407
      @melodybergquist9407 9 місяців тому +4

      I didn't realize my mother held me hostage before l realized its or even knew what narcissistic was two year's ago. I'm turning sixty at the end of the month and very bitter towards her know.

    • @DarkMetaOFFICIAL
      @DarkMetaOFFICIAL 9 місяців тому +2

      good thing u figured it out, it could have been so much worse

    • @DarkMetaOFFICIAL
      @DarkMetaOFFICIAL 9 місяців тому

      6 or 7 years ago, we broke up. it was a severe one. so she messages me after the 2nd day. i pour my heart out at first, then i quit texting. so if time passes she start to realize oh man. after she chills the f out. so i respond. we basically make up. then toxic hostility almost immediately. we have mutual groups online. she starts saying bs in a room, with 30 people live chatting. gets 12 captain save a hoes believing i harrassed her, and wont leave her alone. you see, this kinda shit had already happened before. many times. this time i started documenting. so guess what, i say OH NOOO MY FRIEND. and drop 30 images in chat of her i love you baby, i missed u so much, last night was baautiful.. etc. one dude says okay HOLD UP. ARE THESE REAL? oh yes my friend. and i also have audio which both her and i knew is recorded to server history. She left the chat immediately. they banned her after that. and made me moderator after apologizing. which i did not accept most of their apologies. just a couple sincere ones. she is very cunning. clever. but im more.

    • @ruthslater6364
      @ruthslater6364 9 місяців тому +3

      I know what you mean . Until there was a name for these people I just knew he's a manipulative mean cruel bully. But didn't know it was a type of personality .and they are real monsters. Now I know. It helped me survive.

  • @DualThreatGamble
    @DualThreatGamble 6 місяців тому +2

    Finally. Complete clarity. How the world do people become this way? It’s disturbing.

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      @RebeccaZungEsq  3 місяці тому

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  • @jamesfyffe2610
    @jamesfyffe2610 28 днів тому

    I’m 61, my wife is 50. We have 4 children, 19, 20, and 22…and 10. I had my children late in life obviously, to raise your children right you have to put the work in. My 19 year old son and 22 year old son are active duty Marines. My 20 daughter is married to her high school sweetheart who is in the Air Force and they are doing fantastic. My 10-year-old daughter is going to be OK too… I am very close with all of them and they still listen to me. Because they understood my discipline was through love. There is a lot of truth to that saying where this is gonna hurt me a lot more than it’s gonna hurt you. Discipline your children but never in anger.

  • @indridcold8433
    @indridcold8433 10 місяців тому +141

    It is amazingly easy for me to panic a narcissist. As soon as I detect the person that is communicating with me to be a narcissist, I leave. I could be in mid sentence or the other person could be in mid sentence. I will immediately leave the presence of the narcissist, giving no reason for leaving. Aside from leaving with no explanation, I will never communicate with the narcissist again. There will be no further interaction with that person, ever again. Should I have a friend that becomes a narcissist, I shall delete that person from my life as if I never know that person. Narcissists deserve no communication, no friends, no companionship at all, not even from a pet. They are subhuman pests, no different from tics, leeches, chiggers, pin worms, tape worms, hook worms, candiru (penis fish), lawyers, and politicians.

    • @ruthslater6364
      @ruthslater6364 9 місяців тому +8

      You forgot husbands lol.

    • @indridcold8433
      @indridcold8433 9 місяців тому

      @@ruthslater6364 Both male and female seem to drastically change upon becoming spouses. They no longer put the other first. They are cruel to each other and resent each other. After witnessing this many times, even in just boyfriend / girlfriend, relationships that have lasted 10 months, or more. I opted to cease all attempts at finding a girlfriend 8 August 2000 at 18:34. I require no cruelty, liars, users, hypocrites, fakes, nor manipulators in my existence. Thus, I require no spouse, girlfriend, friend, acquaintances. I learned a painful lesson. I will function in life alone to maximize the chances of never having to go through what I did with my last, "friends," and girlfriend. It is not even worth it to find friend or a girlfriend. If you are heterosexual female, you will find that the same is true with a spouse, boyfriend, "friends," acquaintances. Human companionship is not the beneficial institution it used to be 25 years ago. Just isolate and enjoy life much better.

    • @JoeYDiMeSRaeN
      @JoeYDiMeSRaeN 8 місяців тому +14

      I’m gonna be honest, the separating yourself from narcissists, I understand.
      But that dehumanizing language isn’t productive. The truth of the matter is, these people were hurt somehow, and they hurt people. That doesn’t justify their actions, and they should definitely be held accountable, but your lack of empathy towards them is still… troubling.
      Your pain was a result of their lack of empathy. You can create boundaries and separate yourself from them, and still apply empathy.
      As someone who is just come to terms with what I’ve been dealing with, for the last six years was a relationship with a narcissist, and the aftermath/CPTSD as a result.
      The revelation that my ex was a narcissist led me to realize there are other people in my life who have varying degrees of these tendencies and both of my parents are included in that. The realization of this with my parents came from a terrible interaction with my father where I watched him use the tactics my ex used to use against me to deflect from how he had hurt me.
      We are all conditioned by our environments when we were young, and I understand completely how my ex ended up the way she is. I understand that my parents, narcissism and treatment of me conditioned me for the paradigm, just as her parents conditioned her with their lack of attention, and constantly dropping her on her grandparents.
      It must’ve sucked. And the narcissistic personality is constructed around that as a defense mechanism. They’re sad, hurt people. And that at least, I understand.

    • @juniordunkley8284
      @juniordunkley8284 8 місяців тому +6

      You are 100% right. I know one

    • @blowitoutyourcunt7675
      @blowitoutyourcunt7675 8 місяців тому +1

      @@JoeYDiMeSRaeN Yeah I try to avoid doing any of the '10 steps to a Genocide', (even when dealing with a narcissist) because you will eventually lose touch with your own Humanity if ya persist with nonsense like that.
      Good luck all!
      Ps to OP - Excessively strict boundaries are just as bad as pervasive ones, you should get that checked out.

  • @diane19456
    @diane19456 9 місяців тому +17

    I have recorded his verbal abuse on my phone to play to my therapist! My husband says I can't do this but in Texas you can!

    • @franco2b145
      @franco2b145 4 місяці тому

      Yes you can! Just know your individual states rules on recording. Whether it’s a one party or two party contest state.
      Follow the law and proceed to protect yourself by any means necessary.

    • @josiahgummeson445
      @josiahgummeson445 3 місяці тому

      My understanding of the 1st amendment is as long as you let them know you are beginning a recording and then they chose to talk after you let them know… that’s on them. You have a right to record. They shouldn’t be bleeps, but they need power & control… can you blame them? Hehe

    • @RebeccaZungEsq
      @RebeccaZungEsq  3 місяці тому

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  • @wilblissful
    @wilblissful 2 місяці тому

    I am simultaneously dealing with maybe 12, the mother, the son and his extended family. These people are enmeshed, its the whole family. Thank you for making these great videos.

  • @yahelihollis9997
    @yahelihollis9997 Місяць тому +1

    I was with an ex narcissist for one year . I left immediately when I took his mask off . I left without notice October 20 2021. He's been cyber stalking me since then. My husband passed away 2018 . He came as an old friend years later. I went into that relationship in mourning. . When I saw his true colors, We'll when I made him accountable, he went nuts . I did exactly what your saying in this video. I was so calm . I didn't defend myself or anything. I had my face in my bible as I always have been . He told me to stop . I laughed. Well since I left he's been hacking my calls , pixel FaceTime videos , hacking emails, social media accounts and more . My family, friends, and witnesses know everything. I am just now speaking about this on UA-cam. Enough is enough 😂 😂😂 I have traveled out of the country. And found his location of state in my location settings. When̈ do these ppl move on and stop faking happy 😂. What do you think I should do with the evidence? I'm willing to take polygraph test 😂😂 These ppl are weird .

    • @HS-vr9ml
      @HS-vr9ml Місяць тому

      So sorry for u.maybe change your name and numbers

  • @darkcloudsilverglint4552
    @darkcloudsilverglint4552 10 місяців тому +18

    Totally, the amazing part is that they themselves, slap you the narcissist label first, so anything you do or say validates their accusations

    • @Natty183
      @Natty183 9 місяців тому +1

      Yeah lol. That's happening to me now. I placed boundaries on interactions and as a group we have to get together and talk about any issues anyone is having. They can't just corner me and harass me five times a day. They were attempting to gaslight and they were baiting me multiple times a day about the things the other people in the group were doing. In this way I hope to hold off the queen narcs ability to orchestrate the tactics, because I think she has my uncle in thrall, and I'm trying to wake him up.. What's sick is I noticed all of this because one of them took their dog to have diarrhea right where I sit outside with my new puppy that I asked them to be careful of because he's still shy of being fully vaccinated. She took her dog right to where my chair is outside and where my dog has been playing Fucking psychopath bitches...
      Fucking absurd and I'm ashamed I'm stuck here for now. They can call me whatever they want as long as they just stop harassing, sabotaging, and gaslighting. So disgusting how jealous they are of everything and it's insane that these kinds of people exist. But they do...

    • @hardware144
      @hardware144 7 місяців тому

      exactly. I was gaslighting and I was the narc. ... people talk other people into psychosis sometimes .. its horrible.

    • @RebeccaZungEsq
      @RebeccaZungEsq  3 місяці тому

      How are you doing now? Hope feeling well and getting your power back! 💪 Perhaps my upcoming webinar might help - rebeccazung.com/cert-workshop

  • @ND-or5so
    @ND-or5so Рік тому +64

    Yes, my husband would act like he has changed only to do it for 4 days, or 1 week and go right back to his moody, neglectful self. He would do this many, many time's and now I just sit back and wait because I know the monster inside him is waiting to get out.

    • @cyndim8785
      @cyndim8785 Рік тому +8

      It’s like a storm is coming all of the time. Then the love bombing calling me “Babe, Babydoll and Love”. Makes me sick to my stomach. I hate him and what he has done to my life. I am his prisoner with outdoor cameras around the house and I would suspect some on the inside.

    • @skywatcher6064
      @skywatcher6064 10 місяців тому +6

      My wife is the same way, 13 years now, 12 of which I try to convince her that she can be happy with me if she wants, I,m out of options, feeling that I caused her problems, her abusive mother and her prior 4 husbands are also people she likes to blame . I finally started to feel insane and will not comply anymore. Sadly, what gives me support is explaining this to those that she has convinced Im a monster. They agree with me, it,s her problem, mine only if I allow it to be. Being 66 and in poor health seems to constitute a life sentence of trying to remain sane and out of trouble, neglected, targeted, and miserable. Shes actually sucking the life out of me. Ironically, she knows she depends on me for her everything , Everything to sustain her physical life, and if I leave her, she will continue her behaviour pattern and feed off another unsuspecting provider. I must do what she does, stop caring.

    • @RebeccaZungEsq
      @RebeccaZungEsq  10 місяців тому +2

      I'm deeply sorry you had to deal with a Narcissist. On a happier note, we're throwing a spectacular launch event on Sep 30th, Saturday, 9am Pacific time, and everyone is included. I'm optimistic about the chance to see you there! >> www.slaythebullylaunch.com

  • @user-sm5nw8iz7i
    @user-sm5nw8iz7i 27 днів тому

    Im just starting this - 3 decades in , ran away 2 years ago - Big ptsd- thanks just found this ❤😢

  • @DizzyDinaDetroit
    @DizzyDinaDetroit 27 днів тому

    Totally true and over!! Finally ignoring blocking cutting off supply completely it’s the ONLY legal way to get your Piece of Mind and Peace back.

  • @lt827
    @lt827 Рік тому +39

    Being brutally honest with a narcissist has less impact if you are always honest.

    • @dominiqueconquest
      @dominiqueconquest Рік тому +5

      Facts

    • @TammyMason-uu2of
      @TammyMason-uu2of 10 місяців тому +14

      They don’t believe anyone is honest.

    • @colleenpeck6347
      @colleenpeck6347 3 місяці тому +1

      Exactly 💯, just day it as it is!🎉

    • @RebeccaZungEsq
      @RebeccaZungEsq  3 місяці тому

      How are you doing now? Hope feeling well and getting your power back! 💪 Perhaps my upcoming webinar might help - rebeccazung.com/cert-workshop

  • @aaronconners5570
    @aaronconners5570 Рік тому +75

    My narc wife literally treated me the worse a person had ever treated me in my life while I’m deployed constantly gaslighting, manipulating and after 3 months of marriage told me we having an open marriage and to deal with it, she thinks a weak ass sorry through text is going to solve and fix it all hell nah I’m divorcing you. “ The best apology is changed behavior!”

    • @bmariafernandez1152
      @bmariafernandez1152 11 місяців тому +12

      I hope you divorced that woman. Don't fall for her traps again.

    • @zigzzagz5732
      @zigzzagz5732 10 місяців тому +9

      No bro....a narcissist CAN'T change their behaviour.
      Get t.f. out of that marriage immediately or as soon as possible.

    • @TNTUXO
      @TNTUXO 9 місяців тому +6

      Mine did a number on me too..crazy lies and a whore and a half.

    • @fleet_street215
      @fleet_street215 8 місяців тому +1

      Sorry you had to go through it. I’m on the down hill now.

    • @RebeccaZungEsq
      @RebeccaZungEsq  3 місяці тому

      How are you doing now? Hope feeling well and getting your power back! 💪 Perhaps my upcoming webinar might help - rebeccazung.com/cert-workshop

  • @alejandromata825
    @alejandromata825 5 місяців тому

    NGL, you are one of the people who have a channel like this that doesn’t sound like a narcissist yourself and actually sound like a professional.

  • @mariachiguira2k
    @mariachiguira2k Місяць тому

    I found it sooooo weird when my ex asked me one day “What led you to be scared of me? What did I do?”
    I found that sooooo odd because I never did anything that would lead her to believe that. 😮😮😮😮
    Crazy!
    I flat out told her I wasn’t scared of her. She insisted I did. 🤷🏽‍♂️
    She asked this on several occasions.

  • @NehaSharma-wq9yc
    @NehaSharma-wq9yc Рік тому +52

    You being logical, rational and operating with evidence and reality CONSISTENTLY is what makes them panic , because they themselves are not living in reality and seeing you being in reality and taking charge and control of your existence reminds them of their incompetence and your god perfection. My dear Empaths , Light is not only Love , light is also a warrior. Even god doesn't tolerate darkness. Light expands and banishes the darkness .

    • @sine8811
      @sine8811 10 місяців тому +1

      Yeah you don't sound narcissistic at all.

    • @FaithFilled.
      @FaithFilled. 9 місяців тому

      ​@@sine8811says the narc lol

    • @kimberlyestes3978
      @kimberlyestes3978 9 місяців тому +3

      My future ex husband is exactly like this. I finally left but just started divorce proceedings. He has started to be very predictable. I have good friends who have helped me a lot. Just filed today. He wants everything. Our house, property, alimony, health insurance, wants me to pay for the mortgage and he keeps the house. No! I’ve supported us for 6 years. He isolated me, told lies about me and made me look like the bad person. I have been diagnosed with PTSD, but no wonder. I’ve also been diagnosed as an empath, so. Mine is covert. He acts like a 5 year old when he’s confronted with the truth. Not necessarily with other people. The people who know him best from childhood know that he has a temper. Hopefully that will come out in court.

    • @ibiminaabiye257
      @ibiminaabiye257 8 місяців тому

      This is so so true

    • @RebeccaZungEsq
      @RebeccaZungEsq  3 місяці тому

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  • @jtslmmr1
    @jtslmmr1 11 місяців тому +39

    Totally! My wife cheated on me twice and on the third time I confronted her and she said that it was all in my mind and none of it really happened

    • @marioharris8671
      @marioharris8671 10 місяців тому +4

      Really sad 😔

    • @robertswift6101
      @robertswift6101 10 місяців тому +7

      even when caught red handed they lie about it or deny

    • @TammyMason-uu2of
      @TammyMason-uu2of 10 місяців тому +4

      Yup, I was crazy! My ass!

    • @RebeccaZungEsq
      @RebeccaZungEsq  10 місяців тому +2

      I'm deeply sorry you had to deal with a Narcissist. On a happier note, we're throwing a spectacular launch event on Sep 30th, Saturday, 9am Pacific time, and everyone is included. I'm optimistic about the chance to see you there! >> www.slaythebullylaunch.com

    • @ghosthusler
      @ghosthusler 10 місяців тому +2

      Because someone cheats on you doesn't make them a narcissist. Stop being delusional.

  • @merlindamarquez1695
    @merlindamarquez1695 6 місяців тому +1

    Totally,my parents have exploited and dismantled my life. I'm crushed to the core. Your connecting all the dots in my
    Life. Thanks for helping find my power with proper tools to protect myself.

    • @RebeccaZungEsq
      @RebeccaZungEsq  3 місяці тому

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  • @user-up5js7dp8p
    @user-up5js7dp8p 6 місяців тому +2

    I would never lie; I've been honest from day one. He got ill and ended up somewhere, I only reached out once but suspect he is sicker than he admitted. Tomorrow is D-day. I don't think he's able to get back to work, I pray he gets better. Manipulate forever, so I pulled away. If I ever hear from him again...No fear, I didn't let him get too close. He was a kind person thank goodness.

    • @RebeccaZungEsq
      @RebeccaZungEsq  3 місяці тому

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  • @sherryclark8121
    @sherryclark8121 Рік тому +38

    When I confronted my sister/roommate/assailant/Narc about lying to me she screamed, I have never lied to you, so hard I thought she was going to pass out. I walked away thinking,
    Thou doth protesteth too much...

    • @elizabethandiosa4579
      @elizabethandiosa4579 Рік тому +2

      Back it up with proof. Tell the fool to chill. It's OK to make some mistakes or change your mind or not do what you said you're going to do. It's OK to be wrong. Tell her to just chillax and say something or call if you're held up. Life happens and sometimes we take on too much, that's no lie. Lol. Depending on your situation of course. My sibling poisoned me, is wealthy, manipulative, super covert, super deuchebag, super disappointment. He believes he's superman. He's a psycho bully. Block her, out her, call her out with evidence, record, email, document everything, then, block and dump or go extremely low contact. Be safe. Blood relatives does not mean family. Some are just after your blood as in blood money. Didn't Cain kill Able?

    • @RebeccaZungEsq
      @RebeccaZungEsq  Рік тому

      This might help you better as well slay.rebeccazung.com/home

    • @elizabethandiosa4579
      @elizabethandiosa4579 Рік тому +1

      Lol. I have had a few of those freaks too. They need a smackdown. Totally bizarre behaviours. You know they have or are planning to hurt you first or third handed. Dang.

    • @elizabethandiosa4579
      @elizabethandiosa4579 Рік тому

      @@RebeccaZungEsq no link?

  • @jaysonwashington8787
    @jaysonwashington8787 10 місяців тому +23

    In my experience, narcissits often project their image on to you so they often are often fighting themselves. I've heard the phrases such as, maybe you should calm down and talk when you are less emotional... All while i said nothing and listened to her for an hour straight. All i thought was wtf?

    • @TammyMason-uu2of
      @TammyMason-uu2of 10 місяців тому +2

      😂

    • @lyneadetyfitness
      @lyneadetyfitness 5 місяців тому +1

      Classic phrases Calm down ,Stay normal 🤣..I am like was I abnormal all this years🤦🏽‍♀️

    • @RebeccaZungEsq
      @RebeccaZungEsq  3 місяці тому

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  • @hollyparrotte3766
    @hollyparrotte3766 7 місяців тому +1

    It's mind-boggling how they can make you feel so small.....It has taken me a while to figure out how to stop all communication. Stop giving into the bs & lies. But one thing I have always done is call em out on the lies & bs. It just took a bit for me to realize they never change. I've had to learn to say no, learn to ser boundaries. I had to stop giving in & going back. I've learned they don't like it when you're finally done & walk away. Its crazy how much emotional damage you leave with though & it's been a struggle getting through it. But I'm getting through it & finding my balance again, but only because I have finally walked away.

  • @leonardlisa8318
    @leonardlisa8318 5 місяців тому

    This is exceptional information. There are few videos this complete. My blinders came off when I started writing everything down!!!these people are a LOT of work! People whose main goal is to hurt you…how devilish and sick is this to always be on guard. Lord help me. But once you know you know and then they are pathetic.

  • @donnasteffes8060
    @donnasteffes8060 Рік тому +28

    Make no mistake the malignant narc runs over the boundaries -

    • @RebeccaZungEsq
      @RebeccaZungEsq  3 місяці тому

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  • @oksanabuchananiregressiveh8097
    @oksanabuchananiregressiveh8097 9 місяців тому +50

    You 100% described my husband’s threats every time he explodes in anger.

    • @777lucifero
      @777lucifero 9 місяців тому +7

      Though if a narc were to describe you after you've been gaslighted, he/she would describe you in that same very way ''he/she just explodes in anger for no reason'' [I didn't do anything, he just exploded in anger]. That was literally the start of every story from her side. I just... ''exploded'' for no reason. Never mind trying to backtrack to the gaslighting.

    • @user-up5js7dp8p
      @user-up5js7dp8p 6 місяців тому +1

      Gracious...you married him?

    • @JohnSmith-zo6ir
      @JohnSmith-zo6ir 6 місяців тому +2

      Just checking to see what you may have done to cause him to respond that way? Often many abuses that fall under the definition of abuse for a DVO are behaviours that are so normalised for women, they don't consider them to be abusive. If you have been abusing your husband by using those behaviours then you can expect him to respond in kind.

    • @RebeccaZungEsq
      @RebeccaZungEsq  3 місяці тому

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  • @fattie__pie
    @fattie__pie 4 місяці тому +3

    TOTALLY….
    However, too can play that game so Thanks 🙏🏽 for sharing the tips and clues to look out for.

  • @kristinpummer2425
    @kristinpummer2425 5 місяців тому +2

    Totally!! So helpful and so much good information!!

    • @RebeccaZungEsq
      @RebeccaZungEsq  4 місяці тому

      Stay strong! ❤ Join me in my free webinar - www.rebeccazung.com/cert-workshop

  • @joe7665
    @joe7665 10 місяців тому +15

    🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉
    I went to mediation And my soon to be ex covert narcissist with an retired judge.... we came to an agreement!!!!!
    Hopefully the end of September I will be free

  • @ms.anderson7064
    @ms.anderson7064 8 місяців тому +27

    Run from these type of people. Do not give them your energy. They will make you sick. If you can get away from them. 😑

    • @kristicarr9149
      @kristicarr9149 3 місяці тому

      This is so true! I have never had health issues until this person (narcissist) came into my life 7 years ago. It has been a roll coaster from hell.

    • @RebeccaZungEsq
      @RebeccaZungEsq  3 місяці тому

      How are you doing now? Hope feeling well and getting your power back! 💪 Perhaps my upcoming webinar might help - rebeccazung.com/cert-workshop

  • @kevinmoore3338
    @kevinmoore3338 6 місяців тому +1

    Totally
    After I set boundaries about abuse then said We're done ! My ex stole the kids by manipulating an arbitrator and is now trying to steal the home bankrupt me and make me homeless. Spot on

    • @RebeccaZungEsq
      @RebeccaZungEsq  3 місяці тому

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  • @veronicajohnson5863
    @veronicajohnson5863 Місяць тому

    The worst thing of all...that really did me in, is that he took my loving, trusting pets from me! I didn't even realize it at first, 😢 the evidence points towards him slowly poisoning them one at a time! All the time feeding off my pet and my pain and suffering! Unreal!!!! I lost 3 beloved dogs and two cats! How could someone be so cruel???

  • @sophfores430
    @sophfores430 Рік тому +21

    I have gone to every agency and police but these are organized gang members who know exactly how to commit torture without leaving evidence.
    Thank you for your concern

    • @RebeccaZungEsq
      @RebeccaZungEsq  Рік тому +4

      This might help you better as well slay.rebeccazung.com/home

    • @cherylnathanodette
      @cherylnathanodette 2 місяці тому +1

      There is always a way to expose a narcissist, whittle away at the flying monkeys, find them make a list, one will slip up eventually and there you go. Bide your time be patient, note everything, write it down on paper too. Everyone has a tipping point including that narcissist.

  • @Soralella71
    @Soralella71 Рік тому +78

    Currently in a legal battle with a narcissist sibling. This is helping a lot. Thank you.

    • @bluedogfish2
      @bluedogfish2 11 місяців тому +15

      Let me guess…. The legal battle is over a inheritance😂😂😂😂 they just didn’t get everything but want everything and they are the trustee

    • @JoeHill-yy9fw
      @JoeHill-yy9fw 10 місяців тому +3

      Blessings

    • @kaydogg2086
      @kaydogg2086 9 місяців тому +5

      I have a sibling as well… its so tiring

    • @JohnSmith-nc6ul
      @JohnSmith-nc6ul 7 місяців тому +1

      Me too! It’s unbelievable what has taken place!

    • @RebeccaZungEsq
      @RebeccaZungEsq  3 місяці тому

      How are you doing now? Hope feeling well and getting your power back! 💪 Perhaps my upcoming webinar might help - rebeccazung.com/cert-workshop

  • @StefShock
    @StefShock 5 місяців тому

    My mom is an overt, introverted narcissist with avoidance attachment which means I rarely hear from her but when I do, it's misery. I've had to do a lot of work to process the past in order to understand the present. I can assure you this gets better with time when you clearly define your boundaries and stick to them. I haven't shared my personal life with her and this has helped me because if she knew about the art I make and the life I have, she'll find a way to embarrass me with it. Know what your narcissist needs from you and limit their access! It works.

  • @tammykonneker1
    @tammykonneker1 6 місяців тому +1

    Totally!!!! I’m actually sharing this with our attorney. Thank you this was verbatim of the way we were treated

    • @RebeccaZungEsq
      @RebeccaZungEsq  3 місяці тому

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  • @carenbarnet378
    @carenbarnet378 8 місяців тому +11

    Not giving in, setting boundaries. Cutting off their source of emotional manipulation. Thankyou Rebecca Zung

    • @RebeccaZungEsq
      @RebeccaZungEsq  3 місяці тому

      How are you doing now? Hope feeling well and getting your power back! 💪 Perhaps my upcoming webinar might help - rebeccazung.com/cert-workshop

    • @carenbarnet378
      @carenbarnet378 3 місяці тому

      Yes, I am holding my ground. TBI does add a curved ball to all past situations. However with "learned information " from you, I am Stronger. xx thu

  • @sophielt964
    @sophielt964 10 місяців тому +29

    This is the only video talking about narcissistic that gives step by step as guidance how to deal with them.
    Other UA-camrs only talk non stop about what they’re like well, of course we know what those narcissistic people are like if we’re living with them right.
    You instructed us how we should act and what the outcome will be, what to expect from them which is very insightful and I’m amazed by how stern and powerful you sounded and I love it!
    Thank you so much
    For this video I’m your new sub now. 🙏🏻💕💕💕

    • @RebeccaZungEsq
      @RebeccaZungEsq  10 місяців тому +1

      You got this! We're organizing a major launch event, and you're warmly welcome to join us on Sep 30th, Saturday, 9am Pacific time. I'm looking forward to the possibility of meeting you there! >> www.slaythebullylaunch.com

  • @user-kd6fx1fd8y
    @user-kd6fx1fd8y Місяць тому +2

    Narcissus do not like to write things down or message because then you have proof of what they said something else they'd rather talk to you over the phone so that they could confuse you and say you said something else or they said something else

    • @nikkicbex1915
      @nikkicbex1915 Місяць тому

      I ended up using an app on my phone to record all calls, Cube ACR. It helped me gather more evidence of the abuse

  • @alexandravatavuk3796
    @alexandravatavuk3796 6 місяців тому +2

    My mom accuses me of lying when she’s lying. She also gaslights me then gaslights herself. Haha she’s a mess.

  • @lindasue1955
    @lindasue1955 11 місяців тому +24

    My narcissist husband says I just want to fight when I try to talk to him about spending all our money on crack cocaine and wine instead of paying the bills. We had another big blow out about it and as usual he accused me of trying to run his life. He's ruining mine. So he sat down beside me and in a calm voice that implied that I was the ptoblem, said that he just couldn't take it anymore. UNBELIEVABLE! He wasn't talking about the drugs; what he "can't take anymore," are the everyday arguments and reminders of all the legal consequences and financial bind for which I too must suffer because of his choices. Trying to hold him accountable or save him from himself is much wasted energy and I am plumb pooped. I have no choice left but to save myself.

    • @firedplay
      @firedplay 7 місяців тому +6

      Your first clue to get yourself to safety is "crack cocaine."

    • @user-fu4iw5dx3f
      @user-fu4iw5dx3f 7 місяців тому +1

      If you bring up things the covert is doing wrong, they will just go quiet, stare into space like time has stopped, until you stop, then they will punish you any way they can, sublinily, like not talking, not listening, dragging there feet, start to feel unwell, purposely not helping you and usually find something to be angry about to show aggression as a threat to you of what they would do to you if you persist. Just dont bring up there faults for your own sanity and get away.

    • @carparthero
      @carparthero 6 місяців тому +1

      @lindasue1955 if someone is treating you that badly, there comes a point when you have to stop blaming their behavior and blame yourself for sticking around. the 1st giveaway was the crack and alcohol.

    • @lindasue1955
      @lindasue1955 6 місяців тому +2

      @carparthero I took my marriage vows seriously, which means that I didn't run at the first, second, or even third sign of trouble. But you must have ignored the part where I said it was now time to save myself.

    • @RebeccaZungEsq
      @RebeccaZungEsq  3 місяці тому +1

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  • @dianacardenas1518
    @dianacardenas1518 Рік тому +53

    Even if I ignore them …. It’s gets worse by being more spiteful

    • @dianacardenas1518
      @dianacardenas1518 Рік тому +2

      Intimacy ….. not! And he feels the push back… gets really mad

    • @dianacardenas1518
      @dianacardenas1518 Рік тому +7

      If someone wants something… you think they would kiss ass…. But it’s the opposite for co- Vert. Change started when I had my kids and focused more n them

    • @dianacardenas1518
      @dianacardenas1518 Рік тому +1

      Anyone - thoughts? Any answers? Or this is just how they are as narcissists??

    • @TerriLynch
      @TerriLynch Рік тому +3

      Yes. I did 4 and 5 and they won't let me at the house. This is my son's girlfriend and they live together, it keeps me from seeing my son and grandchildren. He doesn't wanna deal with it so I couldn't go to the football practice since she was there. It's killing me because he doesn't see what she is. Even if he does, he has to live with it. I live with one and married for 20 years.

    • @sine8811
      @sine8811 10 місяців тому +4

      [ Try ignoring all your friends. You find out they all are narcissists because they get spiteful from being ignored. Kick them to the curb sister! ]

  • @eleanormyvett6127
    @eleanormyvett6127 5 місяців тому

    Totally! I’m truly amazed because I tend to be a brutally honest person and the individual gets very angry and pushes back and makes me feel bad.

    • @RebeccaZungEsq
      @RebeccaZungEsq  3 місяці тому

      How are you doing now? Hope feeling well and getting your power back! 💪 Perhaps my upcoming webinar might help - rebeccazung.com/cert-workshop

  • @kamelmicheal6462
    @kamelmicheal6462 3 місяці тому +1

    Just LEAVE THEM. You already know there are no prognosis so LEAVE AND LEAVE NOW.
    You deserve better and now you know all about narcissists so choose carefully and do NOT RUSH.
    There are perfect so many women around

  • @bridgettetraveler658
    @bridgettetraveler658 Рік тому +12

    Yes indeed! Weather it's parents fam so-called friends or lovers cut them out of our lives. When they find out we're living our best lives they're gonna try their best to get back in. We must show them the door is closed for get. Goodbye!!!

    • @RebeccaZungEsq
      @RebeccaZungEsq  3 місяці тому

      How are you doing now? Hope feeling well and getting your power back! 💪 Perhaps my upcoming webinar might help - rebeccazung.com/cert-workshop

  • @iritnayden6755
    @iritnayden6755 Рік тому +25

    Hi Rebecca, thank you. I listened to you everyday during my divorce and you gave me insight that really helped me

    • @RebeccaZungEsq
      @RebeccaZungEsq  Рік тому +6

      Glad I could help. You got this! ❤

    • @sigridbohne
      @sigridbohne 10 місяців тому +2

      Good luck with your divorce.
      My narcissistic couldn't wait was so nervous before the divorce date that he preferred to hang himself

  • @rebeccamochel
    @rebeccamochel 6 місяців тому

    You are describing exactly what the narcissist in my life accomplished. He’s taken everything from me! He just took my trailer I am homeless!

  • @donnaw.6905
    @donnaw.6905 2 місяці тому

    Totally! I laughed so hard with your comment about the chocolate hollow easter bunny. I've never seen him run around so much to all his flying monkies, after a meeting I had with a boss higher than him. His every move is so easy to predict. Gray rocking him till he leaves in five days. Prayer answered, he gave his 2 week notice.😃

  • @storey2875
    @storey2875 11 місяців тому +17

    I had a wife just like this. I figured her out but it took 18 years I didn't have videos like this. I had to document everything times and dates it got crazy. They do not know anything about love. They are demons they are stupid but not dumb sounds crazy but there is a difference. You have to out smart them. That's why it always seems like their ahead of you. if your married to it it's worse. You have to keep up with everything.

    • @RebeccaZungEsq
      @RebeccaZungEsq  10 місяців тому +1

      I'm truly sorry you had to go through that with a Narcissist. On a brighter note, we're hosting a grand launch event Sep 30th, Saturday, 9am Pacific time and you're cordially invited. It would be wonderful to meet you there! >> www.slaythebullylaunch.com

    • @storey2875
      @storey2875 10 місяців тому +1

      @@RebeccaZungEsqThank you I'll be there.

    • @Nolaboy17
      @Nolaboy17 10 місяців тому +2

      15 years and 4 girls for me. Once my eyes opened, I put so much pressure that she finally tapped out and left me. Such a peace of mind since she's out of my life. I still have to deal with her for the girls, but it is on a minimum basis. The best thing about all of this is that I don't have to appease her anymore. When she tries, I just say you're not my woman anymore, and I don't have to appease any longer.

    • @johnathonsensing8162
      @johnathonsensing8162 9 місяців тому +2

      The jezebel spirit

  • @paco9694
    @paco9694 8 місяців тому +9

    OMG I'm so grateful I found you!!! I've been out of Narcissist relationship for over a year and trying to educate and heal from a lifetime of this stuff. I had no awareness about narcissist people by name but turns out my life was full of them starting with my mother!!! It's so crazy they all have the same patterns of behavior. Still learning ❤❤❤

    • @RebeccaZungEsq
      @RebeccaZungEsq  3 місяці тому

      How are you doing now? Hope feeling well and getting your power back! 💪 Perhaps my upcoming webinar might help - rebeccazung.com/cert-workshop

  • @allenmouldey7784
    @allenmouldey7784 5 місяців тому +1

    It doesn't matter what you say they won't change.

  • @NadineHiggins777
    @NadineHiggins777 2 місяці тому

    Totally. You are spot on! Thank you for giving me the insight and strength to leave an abusive narc

  • @jeffreymcarthur4518
    @jeffreymcarthur4518 8 місяців тому +11

    Well the dumbest part about making them go into panic mode is that it then also pushes them into fighting and yell and threatening mode!

    • @scarredcitizen2023
      @scarredcitizen2023 3 місяці тому +2

      Yeah this is dangerous to tell people... gonna get women hurt.

    • @RebeccaZungEsq
      @RebeccaZungEsq  3 місяці тому

      How are you doing now? Hope feeling well and getting your power back! 💪 Perhaps my upcoming webinar might help - rebeccazung.com/cert-workshop

  • @ronaldwescott3835
    @ronaldwescott3835 10 місяців тому +8

    That's it for sure Rebecca. The sad part is this person has had a lot of tragedy in her life but that does not give her the excuse to use me as a sacrificial lamb

    • @RebeccaZungEsq
      @RebeccaZungEsq  3 місяці тому +1

      How are you doing now? Hope feeling well and getting your power back! 💪 Perhaps my upcoming webinar might help - rebeccazung.com/cert-workshop

    • @ronaldwescott3835
      @ronaldwescott3835 3 місяці тому

      @@RebeccaZungEsq doing okay Rebecca still waiting to get my feet up off the ground

  • @user-ht7jb3jg6f
    @user-ht7jb3jg6f 6 місяців тому

    Thank you so very much for these videos, dealing with a sibling that was cut completely out of an inheritance, who is completely shocked that it happened, and now wants me to rescue them from the consequences of their past actions. You have been a massive help so again thank you so very much.

    • @RebeccaZungEsq
      @RebeccaZungEsq  3 місяці тому

      How are you doing now? Hope feeling well and getting your power back! 💪 Perhaps my upcoming webinar might help - rebeccazung.com/cert-workshop

    • @user-ht7jb3jg6f
      @user-ht7jb3jg6f 3 місяці тому

      @@RebeccaZungEsq as I tell most of my friends I ain't tripping because I am always tripping, haha yuck yuck. Thank you very much for asking about me. I am as well as I allow myself at any given time witch is fairly well most of the time. Reading Marcus arellius, Allen Watts ,gurigev ,St Benedict, Saint Thomas Aquinas, ect ect always helps. Please have a wonderful day.

  • @sandraenes8505
    @sandraenes8505 4 місяці тому

    Totally! Every single point you hit! And it took me 14yrs to realize it!

    • @RebeccaZungEsq
      @RebeccaZungEsq  3 місяці тому

      How are you doing now? Hope feeling well and getting your power back! 💪 Perhaps my upcoming webinar might help - rebeccazung.com/cert-workshop