How to Stop Being Emotionally Abusive | A Former Abuser Shares How She Healed and Stopped the Abuse

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  • Опубліковано 6 жов 2024
  • In this interview with Andrea J. Lee, we explore how to stop emotional abuse. We will see the healing path and first steps to how to heal emotionally abusive behaviours.
    This message is especially intended for Sensitive Souls, empaths, Highly-Sensitive People, Healers and Starseeds.
    Resources Mentioned in today's video:
    ▶︎Andrea J Lee: andreajlee.com/
    ▶︎We Can Stop Being Abusive Blog: stopbeingabusi...
    ▶︎Beverly Engel: beverlyengel.com/
    ▶︎ "The Emotionally Abusive Relationship" Book by Beverly Engel: amzn.to/3dktpR1
    ▶︎ 10 Question Quizzes "Are You Being Emotionally Abusive?" and "Are you Being Emotionally Abused?" beverlyengel.co...

КОМЕНТАРІ • 18

  • @monalletinie143
    @monalletinie143 4 місяці тому +25

    this video hits too close to home. my partner gave me a break from a relationship so I can heal and come back to fix the relationship. i can't believe i went from standing up against abuse to becoming abusive with the person I love

  • @alissaschlesinger1355
    @alissaschlesinger1355 Місяць тому +7

    I see myself copying my parents emotionally abusive patterns with my little brother, and I need to stop, I want to stop. Useing the same excuses, (stress, frustrated ect) makes me feel disgusting

    • @drebugsita
      @drebugsita 24 дні тому

      at least you are recognizing it! speaking as the abused younger sibling/scapegoat that is a meaningful first step. of course, apologies without change become manipulative so it is important to focus on healing to end those patterns

  • @freshmanna4678
    @freshmanna4678 4 місяці тому +18

    Andrea, I strongly identify with you. My dad was abusive to me and I picked it up from him and now I am abusing my mother. It’s so scary. I don’t want to do this to her. I need help!

    • @monalletinie143
      @monalletinie143 4 місяці тому +3

      you're not alone ! i think us recognizing it is the first step to heal

    • @Sometheinuhuh
      @Sometheinuhuh 3 місяці тому +1

      Say that to her, I think it would mean a lot

    • @freshmanna4678
      @freshmanna4678 3 місяці тому +2

      @@Sometheinuhuh I have. She tells me that I am not. She didn’t think my father was abusive either, though. Still I know I can be this way. I am working on my behavior now, though, and I have seen some improvement

  • @ZinniaGulden
    @ZinniaGulden 2 місяці тому +2

    “If the abusive person is remorseful and wants to change, that is a path that’s valid”. This really hit home. I’ve been struggling for so long feeling like I’ll always be a bad person because of what I’ve done so what’s the point in changing? Thank you so much for this video. You’re so brave for this

  • @seablomkvist
    @seablomkvist 7 місяців тому +10

    As others have said, thank you so much for doing this. I’ve always been aware of my behavior and always feel like sht and regretful once I’ve said all the wrong things to people I love. I try to apologize sincerely trying to be better but I always fall back into the behavior especially when I am in under a lot of pressure.

  • @drmansalee9577
    @drmansalee9577 Місяць тому +2

    Thank you for sharing this q

  • @AZVREIGN
    @AZVREIGN 8 місяців тому +7

    Thank you so much for this, this is a topic not really spoken about in public spaces which people NEED. I needed this, i’m very grateful there’s people out there who have grown from this and are able to help guide others.

  • @Nora-ul5lp
    @Nora-ul5lp Місяць тому +1

    thanks

  • @jujubean2024
    @jujubean2024 3 місяці тому +3

    Thank you for such honesty. It's so hard to find videos like this, and I really appreciate it !

  • @NBZ_Bobby
    @NBZ_Bobby Рік тому +3

    Great videos. Thank you for making them.

  • @jazminj6512
    @jazminj6512 11 місяців тому +6

    I have big issues these videos are awesome is there any way we can talk some more I feel so lost in my life with my kids and now my daughters dad left me about a month ago 😩 my life seems to be falling apart yet again

    • @montanabirdmommy
      @montanabirdmommy 9 місяців тому +1

      Try Dr Daniel Fox's content on BPD, very helpful