How people can thumbs down this is beyond me, this man is a genius, and so many are grateful for his work including me, it gets me through the day. Thank you Dan!
I appreciate your teachings very much. While I knew I’ve been in fight or flight mode much of my life, I had trouble changing it because I felt I was lying to myself in some way by not facing reality. Your wording has helped… especially the part about saying frightening things to ourselves. I thought “I wouldn’t do that to anyone I love, why am I doing it to myself” that hit home . I also wanted to mention I went on a very very low carb animal based diet 5 1/2 months ago and it greatly lessened my inflammation, and cured my restless leg syndrome, and many other things esp metabolic health. But I still was stuck with my depressive pain Full way of thinking and could not get out of home or entertain hanging with others. So I am working on this now, and it is much easier because I have only a few pains left . This hopefully will help others. Thanks ❤
I eat mostly carnivore myself. When I am strict, I feel amazing. Fortunately I have no pains or symptoms to resolve, but overall health, energy, sinus congestion and body weight is so much better on carnivore.
@@PainFreeYou I am wondering if you have anything that may help me to deal with grief, I just can’t help despair I feel because I feel I can never have a relationship as special as with whom I lost. I just don’t know how to put in perspective without feeling so victimized. It’s been 10 years of depression since the loss. Thanks
@@beingbenign2685 I'm not sure how old you are, but it's never too late to meet someone special in your life. At 58 years old, I am still dating and not in a serious relationship yet. I hold out hope. Begin to envision your ideal partner. Focus on making yourself into the best version of yourself so you can attract that quality of partner into your life. I believe in you. Regarding the grief, I have recorded a few videos on grief: ua-cam.com/video/2wZTUonNM88/v-deo.html ua-cam.com/video/UWBXQOoWuhw/v-deo.html ua-cam.com/video/CcSg3DI6P1U/v-deo.html
I have lived in Fight or Flight Mode for 30 years Now! It is a miracle I am alive. And I have suffered many various and assorted Symtoms..but I am learning! Thank You..Dan..for your good work and your Caring.
Since discovering you early this week I have been binge watching your videos. You’re calm and deliver your message in that cool and calm way-with a smile on your face. I realized when taking my walk I would be tense-so wound up and now I have been loosening up , being in the moment. Now to work on talking to my brain--in that cool and calm way. Thank you Dan. 😊
If being abused, and/or in an unsafe situation, it is important to be able to stay reasonably calm. Because it's very hard to think clearly and intelligently when in freeze fight or flight. It's as though the brain literally just can't think, and when scared and overwhelmed, that unfortunatly starts to kick in.
Mine was on off year ago Then stress increased Pain also Symptoms too Vertigos panic anxiety Mild insomnia My symptoms became severe after i burnt out nd didnt care for my mind body Now.they are mild Im recovering thnx dan Ill see u in 🎉 in the success stories inshallah
I have been healthy all my life, but have been plagued with aches snd pains. I have used natural remedies and exercise, yoga, dance. And those things have helped. But these teachings that you bring are the real key to bring balance, ease and pain free for me . Thank you so much .
I wish I saw this video back in 2017 when I was going to college. In the fall of 2017 I broke up with my girlfriend. I thought she gave me a disease and I prolonged going to a doctor for a a year and half. It ate me up night and day. The thought of having a disease set off my fight or flight response. I really am disappointed because I went and got checked two years later and I had nothing. But the damage was done. Believing that fear ruined my life. I can’t even get out of the parasympathetic mode. I have no drive, no appetite, I can eat and not get full, chronic pain, sleep is deeply disturbed, I can’t sleep for more than an hour without waking up. This has been going on since the fall of 2019. Only time it seemed to get better when I smoked weed for 4 months. My best advice for anyone that’s experiencing a constant fight or fight response. Stop it or you’ll wind up similar to me. It really sucks I don’t wish it on anyone. Thank you for the video. Any tips to help reverse this would be awesome :/ I’m so depressed
Yes, the way out is the opposite of what got you where you are today. Learn to turn down the fear with accurate information that your body is actually fine. My suggestions are in this video: ua-cam.com/video/3vJgBnrhFt8/v-deo.html And watch my videos: ua-cam.com/users/PainFreeYouvideos I post a new one every single day - free coaching all on how to settle down a nervous system.
Hello Dan . , I've been watching your videos after suffering with debilitating embedded uti pelvic floor dysfunction, tinnitus and muscle spasms and severe pelvic pain 😢 struggling with this journey .. enjoying watching your videos very much
I dont experience chronic pain (i used to but had a surgery which resolved the issue), but i do have pretty extreme anxiety symptoms/attacks and your videos are extremely helpful for me. Thank you so much, I finally feel like I understand what's going on and why I start to feel so bad despite nothing actually being wrong
This video is 2 years old and I’m glad I’ve found this because I’m constantly stuck in fight or flight mode. Constant panic attacks, racing heart, shortness of breath. This is so hard to get out of.
Thank you Dan...I came to your channel via The Steady Coach and have PPPD - a lot of what you say overlaps and it makes so much sense. Can't wait to watch more.
I happen to be in a toxic household that has set me on fight or flight: I can’t just move overnight so I have to tolerate it for now. This state has been affected my romantic relationship and I really want to change it.
Getting assaulted and feeling a real fight or flight situation made me realise my anxiety and panic attacks albeit scarey and still releasing all the chemicals were not the same. Silver lining
Thank you so much for helping us ground and giving us the tools to calm and maintain and get back to enjoying life. Also thank you for your outdoor videos! We are of this earth and need to be connected to it. I beat crippling anxiety and have been off of SSRIs for 8 years by walking, gardening, breathing exercise, eating well, and confronting my very traumatic childhood in which I was constantly afraid and performing. Your videos help remind me that I am safe and life is good and it’s just my silly body being stuck, but in actuality I am free and can be happy even right now ❤
Yeah - this is what I need - I have been trying for weeks. It seems I am stuck and so my muscles are aching all over. I am trying to get re-frame my thoughts today. Accept the thoughts, let them go.
Hello, I'm new to the channel. I really enjoyed the video, it's like a one on one talk and I like the simplicity and calming nature. My symptoms of chronic fatigue began after my relationship ended later got worse after I felt betrayed by my best friend. I suffered a lot of grief and had ongoing confusement and thoughts over the losses. Now I'm suffering from chronic fatigue after covid. Not to blame anyone, I think I was just overwhelmed by lifes events. I did not even think of it being connected possibly. I do believe in recovery, thank you for the video.
Making a playlist to listen to while playing jazz etc... I have chronic migraines, and doing the TMS wiki program years ago helped amazingly. WHY am I so resistant to doing it again? Migraines have gotten much worse. Singing is REALLY helpful. Just a lullaby or an old traditional song is easy to try. Great advice. I wake up with anxiety every day, and the migraine follows immediately. The abortive meds aren't working much anymore. I also notice my tongue (although clean!) is grey/white when I get migraines. It's like I'm suffocating on anxiety. When I am energised and healthy - my tongue is pink and healthy. I am also very fit and active - exercise very much WHEN I have no migraines. Migraines are literally Killing me. Suicidal ideation comes with each one.
I understand how distressing this can all be. But when you KNOW that it's merely a stress response and nothing physically wrong, you can embrace an approach that leads out out of this pain cycle. This video has my suggestions. Embrace and implement these concepts and you can get well. Many have. ua-cam.com/video/3vJgBnrhFt8/v-deo.html Here is a success story for migraines from a couple weeks back that may give you some hope: facebook.com/PainFreeYouNow/posts/770495697041564
The awareness now is ALL talking about the same thing. Eckart, Mooji, Sarno, Gabor Mate etc. Everything is what you feel. Everything is what you believe. Trauma is the issue.
My Thoughts are literally make me sick so i reflect on it and this are just thoughts you recognize them just as thoughts you are in Control because there are not real
0 seconds ago Hi there Dan I am totally trapped in fight or flight frozen the Anxiety the worst ever is so bad am sure it's going to kill me'most doctors in UK just want to put me on meds also on nighty zopiclone for sleep these are Not helping me indeed I feel making me worst zopiclone are a horrible ! sleep med Dan I know when the fight & flight is about to hit ! me like a express train your video is spot on in the breakdown about the triggers & mind tools to recovery Dan ps I have just signed on to your Facebook page cheers my friend
I get often into fight flight because of subconscious fear, I often don't notice the trigger until my symptoms flared so bad I can barely talk. (For years I didn't even know what triggered them, so I really didn't fear it, but my body did!) So I had to learn to calm my nervous system via the body, because thinking "I'm safe" didn't help at all, because I never consciously felt unsafe. I think many people can't recognize the roll of stress because they are not aware of it, because it all happens subconsciously and very fast. (For example getting symptoms from loud noise, heat, high heart rate)
Great point. The first signs of stress are often felt in the body. Becoming body aware and noticing if our breath becomes shallow, or our chest feels tight, if our body is tense can absolutely help.
Great talk yes I suffer with bad anxiety so it increases my pain and all I do is think about my pain from the time my feet hit the floor until bed I really must change my thought process because it consuming my life with causes depression and all I want to do is sleep and cry not a way to live..
Your number one job is convincing your brain that you are SAFE. If you know what TMS is and believe you have it, you are safe in your body. This video explains what I believe is necessary to end symptoms.
I have to for 6 years and its effecting everything in my life except sleep. I sleep like a rock. My only issue is when I'm in it I cough a lot. And it's like living in hell. I'm beyond tired.
Omg I was, to late my thoughts were horrible and hoppa I went straight to the fight and flight zone grrrr working now hard to stay calm will go for a walk also I am very angry about everything my symptoms people situations I know that it is the tms am sooo fat up with everything... Don't have many friend to go to right now grr try to relax but soo difficult now am breathing deep now will sing in the dunes will practice with your help in this video... Thank you Dan not a good day I quess
Hi I have pelvic pain too. A beast of a condition! symptoms: Urinary frequency... tight muscles in pelvic floor which cause "bathroom problems" on both ends,.. My main issue is several rectal pain (I can't sit due to this which limits my life tremendously ) . My pelvic floor physical therapist notes that a muscle group in the pelvic floor is "stuck in spasm " thus the pain and dysfunction..She knows this pain better than any doctor, (doctors are clueless about it) . Every time I use the bathroom and have trouble " emptying" I'm over-using/ squeezing these muscles which I think creates / exacerbates the rectal pain . This causes of stress, getting through the day. However I am blessed to have a home by the beach (we bought this year). I can walk to ocean and swim ....the area is more relaxed....etc.
What if the fight or flight turns down by itself ? If ur not hyper focused on it and try to do things which are important to your life despite the symptoms. I find that thought helpful. What if there is no problem to be solved anymore. But y probably the hardest thing to do when symptoms are high. To have the trust that you can lean back a bit.
The body self regulates. It's our job to create the feeling of safety and not fuel the perception of danger with our thoughts and behaviors. DansfastStart.com
Good video. An argument with my girlfriend turned my fight or flight on 3 days ago and I got the fuck out of there but have been stuck in this panic attack mode ever since even though we have made up since. The body is a strange unit. Thanks for the info
I have had pelvic pain for 8 years because of fight or flight. My doctors say my pelvic nerves are stuck causing horrific burning in my vagina. I am seeking nerve blocks or a surgical process called interstim. Your information is very helpful but I may be out of time to help myself. Thank you, Rita
I've been in pain now for going on 8 years and find that Anger has now become an additional emotion that I need to deal with, because I just cant release this "THING" that is stuck in my Colon . . . this intense energy sucking discomfort . . . whatever it is...😵💫😖🤦♂
This works really well. Even just an icepack or cold flannels on your forehead, temples, and cheeks will reduce your heart rate too. ua-cam.com/video/00RKh6NRMqc/v-deo.html
My limbic system is constantly reacting and in alarm. I react to most foods and chemicals and smells and major fatigue. Alot of things trigger me easily. This all started after surgery and antibiotics
My overall recommendations are in this video. While I mention pain a lot, the same exact concepts are able to teach the brain and entire nervous system to settle down. ua-cam.com/video/3vJgBnrhFt8/v-deo.html
@@mindful__gardener YES, stress illness / TMS can cause all sorts of symptoms. This page shows all the wild stuff it can cause: PPDAssociation.org/symptoms Check it out.
@@mindful__gardener My methods are all about teaching your brain that you are safe NOW and calming down the brain. Once the brain calms down, the nervous system and limbic system settle down too. My approach is in the video here: ua-cam.com/video/3vJgBnrhFt8/v-deo.html I don't believe confronting stress and past trauma does much to convince our brain and nervous system that it is safe now.
Im a 31yo man, my mind feels like a 7 year old sometimes. Im immature and emotional. I put my wife and kids through hell and she wants a divorce. I had reached bliss once before and now im stuck in my thoughts. I really need to let go of stuff and move on, build self confidence ect. But its so hard right now. Im trying to let go of pain of marriage, molested at 5 and 7 years old, neglected childhood, and now discovered my son and i are autistic. I dont want to hurt others anymore. I dont want to dump my pain on my wife anymore. Someone help me please.
I might suggest you rename your profile. Calling yourself pathetic is likely not helpful. I'm very sorry you had such a tough childhood. Awful stuff. A few videos that may help. ua-cam.com/video/A6Z6KO7b0lE/v-deo.html ua-cam.com/video/GBecoK2k93k/v-deo.html ua-cam.com/video/5SsKnAgAvnY/v-deo.html ua-cam.com/video/iRIsuAXYsq4/v-deo.html ua-cam.com/video/buP0NSOkQAE/v-deo.html Your story says you are broken. Changing that story and not believing those thoughts is the beginning. ua-cam.com/video/yJRytY-Fcpw/v-deo.html
@@PainFreeYou thanks this helps. hope i didnt drag you down too much. remember you arent responsible for everyones pain, your videos alone are enough. thanks for your kind response. im in a better mental state now. i remember making this comment and since then thinking about it sometimes and hoping i wasnt infecting someone with it. namaste.
Is it possible to have weakness in legs arms , im been in fight flight all time .. My daughter trigger my trauma ( Cptsd ) how to heal ???? Have so much pain, anixety, depersonalisation, inflammation in my face I am unsafe in my body and life and my nervous system been so sensitive
Hi Dan. Thank you for all your videos. Can you talk about coming off some of the psychiatric medication that causes withdrawal symptoms? Such as benzoclonopines?
If you search within my channel for "medication", the first three videos talk about my general thoughts on it. This is not medical advice, just my thoughts. ua-cam.com/users/PainFreeYousearch?query=medication
Hey Dan this is my main concern right now is fight or flight. My challenge right now is how to turn it off. It's on 24 hours a day 7 days a week and I'm trying so desperately to turn off fight or flight. I could sure use some help on that. It's my challenge of the day, the week, the month. Please direct me to where I can get additional assistance for this. I need to turn off the fight or flight response in my head and just saying to my brain stop it doesn't seem to get it. I'm scheduled to talk to psychiatrist about this in the next week. I don't want to go on drugs I want to do this naturally. I'm being a fool? Please sir let me know your thoughts. I'm new to your web page and I'm trying so hard to get over this TMS. Thanks Rodger
Rodger. Trying "desperately" to get out of the stress response is keeping you in it. Fight or flight is simply a state that you are in right now. The solution is calm. Being in fight or flight is not the problem, it's the result of the problem. Perceived Danger. The best way I can assist is to have you start from the beginning. My getting started page is a great place to learn more and assess your situation. Once you do that, there are a couple paths you can follow. All on this page: www.PainFreeYou.com/start
I feel disconnected from my kids and always on edge and fatigued I feel like im gonna run crazy and I feel weird like there's something wrong with my nerves. Always feeling Luke I'm in a dream
@@nmash6835 I used to do one-on-one coaching, but now I am focused on doing my coaching via a video course and group sessions that meet weekly. There are 4 sessions and you can show up to any one of them or multiple sessions if you want more help. All the details are here: www.PainFreeYou.com/join
I still keep feeling the fight and flight. It started up 8 weeks ago and just won’t settle down. I am exhausted. I don’t know what kicked it on. Whenever I do the breathing I hyperventilate or over breathe. I meditate and I take breaks. Just not sure what to do to get this to settle down. Thanks for your great video though. You have some good suggestions. I just have not succeeded at settling down
Feb 2022 I broke my sternum on a locked seat belt.. The ribs got pushed bad and have have never stopped hurting... 14 months now.. I am locked in and freaking out in flight or flight... This morning i felt ok'ish so I did 2 laps of breststroke at the pool and and few physio stretched... 4pm in the after now and my chest is killing me.. It's been killing me more that is been feeling ok for the last 14 months.. So my a guts hurt , my chest hurt.... Seeing a pain managment team soon..
Perceived danger explains it all. Tomorrows video on Fear + Attention = Chronic Pain. Your ribs healed long ago. The brain perceiving danger is why the pain continues. Watch this to understand. ua-cam.com/video/tnU6KBAv5fg/v-deo.html
@@PainFreeYou two weeks ago I met with the lead doctor at the Pain Clinic.. My chest gets worse as the day goes on.. The doctor there suspects I have Osteo Arthritis. Maybe I do maybe I don't. But he planted the PDP in my head.. Add to that 3 weeks ago my colon got blocked and bloated... Clear now but has given me pain I don't need. Last week I said to a phyio buddy of mine, IF i do have Osteo Arthritis in my chest, what exercises would you suggest. He said "Slow swimming, walking, Dead Bug and Child Walk.. (Last 2 are physio moves.. I immediately donned my swimmers and went to the pool.. Nice and slow 3 Rounds 2 laps swimming 10 Dead Bugs 10 Child walks Later that day my chest exploded in pain.. It took 2 days of it to calm down. While swimming I did not perceive danger.. I believed it was going to help. Yesterday morning I figured I had just done too much.. So I swam again, did just a fraction of the workout.. Again, my chest exploded.. When it did my guts hurt more..
@@parttimedrummer2064 I do not believe osteoarthritis is causing your pain. Perceived danger does not need to be conscious. If you had a problem with your chest, why did it not hurt DURING exercise? Why did it wait till the next day to "explode in pain". Perceived danger does that. The brain does that. And it's run by the subconscious. Even though you believed the exercise would help, you believe you have a physical problem, thus the physio and the exercises. You have zero evidence other than the "opinion" of a doctor that you have osteo or that this theorized osto is causing the pain. Getting clear that your body is actually already okay is job #1. Perceived danger explains it all to me. Watch this and see if this makes sense to you. ua-cam.com/video/tnU6KBAv5fg/v-deo.html
I mean @PainFreeYou typical anxiety place for pain is middle of the top colon.. But mine was stretched just a couple of weeks ago and it has not let me forget it. And it hurts all the way right to left, and right to down on the accending colon. This is my chest pain.. I try to smile. I listen to music. I meditate.. I work on my drum pad project I am building but at the end of the (my) day, I'll be in bed around 5pm.. I'll not sleep, but I hurt so so much. Not pain meds touch the colon and my gastro doctor told me to not take any pain meds..
Talking about survivor instincts why am I more easily triggered (disturbed) when I’m thinking/planning as opposed to acting naturally/spontaneously ???
Pain Free You I mean when I’m being myself in conversation I don’t get triggered as easily but when I’m being more analytical in conversation I get triggered and become inhibited. I assume it’s because when your thinking it’s a process so others people’s mannerisms can be distracting to that process and you can become confused. But being yourself no process is going on. So I wanted to know when you premeditate is the brain more susceptible to being triggered??? (Fight or flight response)
@@Peacemakerblue Of course, trying to think your way through a conversation means you aren't even paying attention to the conversation because you are so concerned with how you are being perceived. If you are in the present and just talking, there is no self judgment. If you analyze every word and the other persons reaction, you will obviously trigger stress. Make a decision to simply be who you are. Be in the moment. Deciding up front that you don't care about the outcome and that you will just be in the moment will be very freeing.
@@Peacemakerblue You are asking me to explain human psychology. I would suggest you not over-think it. Just be and not worry about being triggered by everything. Don't worry about evaluating peoples hand patters. Don't hyper-analyze everything. Just be.
Dan Buglio ok thanks I was trying to understand the fight or flight response. One last question why does fight or flight response make you feel self-conscious?
@@PainFreeYou I recently made the connection that rock climbing (among other things including life's daily responsibilities) has been putting my body in a TMS based stress response causing chronic pain. I can't stomach the thought of giving it up, but there are literally instances where i'm putting myself in positions that would end very poorly if i were to mess up. i try to reduce that risk as much as possible, but my subconscious is apparently very much aware of what's going on.
@@williamsanders5554 TMS doesn't start because you are doing something you love that has an element of danger to it. It starts to protect us from an emotional world our brain perceives we can't handle or doesn't fit with our self image. Follow the steps in this video to learn the essential elements to ending TMS pain: ua-cam.com/video/3vJgBnrhFt8/v-deo.html
Fibromyalgia is created by the brain. Which means it can be reversed with the concepts I teach daily. Learn more here: www.PainFreeyou.com/start And my take on Fibromyalgia along with several Fibro success stories: ua-cam.com/users/PainFreeYousearch?query=fibromyalgia You can get well too.
I have been married for 25 years and my husband was diagnosed with mental illness 5 years ago. He refuses to stay on his meds and becomes verbally and emotionally abusive as a result. I am in the process of getting out of the marriage but can't leave until I find an affordable place to go. I have pushed down my anger, pain, rage, hurt, sadness, depression etc., for years. It is simply unsafe for me to express any negative emotions. I know I am constantly in fight or flight but I don't know how to make myself feel safe. I am also having trouble feeling my emotions because I just feel kind of numb. I know I am sad and angry about things but I don't actually "feel" those emotions anymore or know how to release them. Any suggestions you might have would mean so much.
HEAPFOF an acronym I made up after my neuropsych evaluation labeled me with somatic stress syndrome. Highly sensitive empath with ADHD PTSD in fight or flight. 2008 recovered from a botched surgery that left me in a 3 week coma. 11.3.2016 a stroke. 12.16.2016 breast cancer diagnosis. Told I had one year 2 at the most. 2020 developed a gross case of lymphedema in the right arm. September 2022 the weight caused it fallout out.what now. Rejected due 2 non compliance to standard cara.
New here, can anybody tell me how to reach out to get help. Yesterday I was denied reinstatement to hospice for pain Because my last pet scan showed improvement and I don't have an attitude that cancer won't kill me. The dislocated arm is the worst pain I've ever endured on a daily. It's impossible to not feel it.. and the only way to get help is to talk about it so I'm in a terrible catch-22. I truly believe God has a plan for my journey to help My true desire is to learn music but the is the pain is so horrid I can't retain what I learn. I'm almost out of morphine, my reiki coach introduced 2 U. Where can I go for help right now? Anybody out there? ?
Lol, awwww dude I really wanted to hear what you have to say. But the drilling or whatever it is in the background was so agitating I couldn't take in your words! Ironic, or are you testing out our calming skills already, ha! I love your content though - will watch this on mute with subtitles.
Likely someone doing yardwork and using some machinery. My apology. I have nearly 2000 videos - most don't have that background noise. My fast start playlist is a great place to get the fundamentals. DansFastStart.com
Generally, with more adrenaline and cortisol, the heart rate increases. But it's not something I suggest we monitor vigilantly. That creates too much hyper focus on the body and what's going on. Know you are safe no matter what the heart rate is doing. We don't need to measure and monitor.
@@PainFreeYou no I don't I can tell that's what's confusing me why it isn't raised and resting heartrate 60 .if ime in fight flight mode why it is normal
@@Truerealism747 You don't need to be in fight or flight to have pain. If the brain is perceiving danger, pain can still be on even with a low resting heart rate.
Affirmations by themselves may or may not be enough. Also depends a lot on what you are saying and whether or not you are believing them. Here are my suggestions: ua-cam.com/video/3vJgBnrhFt8/v-deo.html
Watch the video again. I offer several strategies to turn off the fight or flight response. To simplify it, notice when you are in it, breathe and calm down your body and thinking. I cover this type of stuff in each of my daily videos.
Hey Dan, did you ever experiment with CBD oil? I know it’s not a long term solution, but I’ve researched that it has a calming effect and can slow down the sympathetic nervous system and jump start the parasympathetic system. Let me know what you think. Thanks!
Nope - I'm not a pills or potions guy. I like to focus on the true cause. Unresolved emotions and stress. And through choice, we can learn to feel emotions and turn down the volume on the stress levels. If you try it, keep me posted if you notice a difference.
Do you feel better drinking it or not? I'm not convinced it's healthy for us. And if we are in a state of fight or flight, a stimulant like coffee may not be idea.
@@PainFreeYou I feel like sometimes a coffee is the only thing getting me through the day mentally. But I’m not convinced it’s healthy for this condition either
Helen - I don't treat anyone for any specific medical diagnosis. Simply put, I help to educate people about how often a medical diagnosis may not be what is causing our pains. I teach based on the concepts discovered by Dr. Sarno. If you haven't read anything by him yet, I strongly urge that you do. The Mindbody Prescription by Dr. John Sarno is excellent for understanding TMS. If you'd like a quick intro, watch the video at: PainFreeYou.com Next, see if your symptoms are TMS. Take the pain test. Regardless of your physical structure, if the test shows over 29, then the pain is caused by TMS, not the ankylosing spondylititis. DanBuglio.com/paintest And once you know it's TMS - dive into the suggestions outlined in this video. This is the way to turn off the pain. ua-cam.com/video/3vJgBnrhFt8/v-deo.html
@@PainFreeYou thank you Dan! I work as a Kinesiologist and Bowen therapist. Am familiar with these concepts and have read Dr Sarno and am binge watching your videos and have had several eureka moments!!!! Thank you very much. I had a sudden onset last year which was horrendous hospitalised and on crutches for months. The trigger was an assault. I've gradually got better with some of these techniques but most using diet. I recently learned that the person who assaulted me has moved back to my town. Two weeks later I'm in agony! Made the connection, done some work and my pain is down! Amazing🙏✨
@@complete-balance Take the pain test. And as much as your profession is all about the physical body, embracing TMS is your way to recover completely. Implement the techniques in the video in my comment.
@@PainFreeYou I've done one before and it suggested TMS. Obviously I have a physical diagnosis but I'm able to see that it doesnt have to be this way. Bowen works with the nervous system too and I believe that's why it's so effective. It's great revisiting this though and will be great for my clients too. Additional benefit of this flare! Thanks again Dan for your input and the fab videos 😊🙏✨
@@complete-balance Glad to be of assistance. Keep in mind - a physical diagnosis is simply an observation of an abnormality in the body. It does not mean it's the cause of the pain. As Dr. Sarno discovered, these are normal abnormalities. The cause is TMS - created in the brain. You can recover completely. :-)
It can be, but something like that should be checked out by a doctor to rule out anything significant or life threatening. If your doctor says you are fine, then it is very possible it's TMS / Fight or Flight. Take the Pain Test to see how your symptoms behave. DanBuglio.com/paintest
@@PainFreeYou yeah for sure, you always need that reassurance, I’ve had checks already and doctor said no organic problems, I always remember in youre videos you talk about how Tms pain can actually feel Worse than a real problem
@@PainFreeYou schubiner also advises to get forceful and shout at the brain with harsh language to stop symptoms. I'm sure that does wonders for safety and anxt, let alone mental health. 😂😂😂
I’m 24 parents Got divorced at a really young age which cause me to be stuck with this fight or flight mode to support myself which I recently became aware of , I got super sick cause I literally over work myself to the point I couldn’t get out of bed to go work an I bump into this video thanks man really helpful...
Really glad to be of help. If you are looking for a few more strategies - this video linked here have my suggestions: ua-cam.com/video/3vJgBnrhFt8/v-deo.html If you'd like more information on what causes chronic health problems, check out the video at: PainFreeYou.com
I’m a wife and mother, and my husband has childhood trauma, CPTSD, depression, and likely a personality disorder (a therapist said this, then my husband never went back). I’ve been with him for 9 years. He really has put in work to improve and heal, and he is a wonderful father. But he is not a good husband, he puts in effort with every other person he comes across, but I’m who gets him without any effort. I’m sad to say that it is horrible. We got together when I was 36, and I never had chronic pain before. I’ve had chronic pain since about 18 months into our relationship, all in my pelvis and back. I’m just now, like in the past week, grasping that it is all emotional. When he’s loving and respectful towards me (or even just bland) I’m fine. When he gets stressed or feeling depressed.pm he takes it out on me... and my back starts to spasm, leading to days (sometimes weeks) of immense pain. I won’t leave him, because as I’ve said, he’s a great father. Our children are little and I know how divorce damages children. The good news is that I’ve learned how much my emotions and “perceived danger” are making my life worse with this pain - so I have something to move forward with now.
Jeez, I've been in fight or flight mode for days now. Like a constant state of anxious, every minute and every second of every day. The symptoms are scaring me. I cannot switch it off. I know there is no reason to be anxious, but I just cannot turn it off in my brain 😭
I understand. Here's a video that may help: ua-cam.com/video/3vJgBnrhFt8/v-deo.html Not sure what TMS is? Watch the video at: PainFreeYou.com Not sure if your symptoms are TMS? Take the pain test. DanBuglio.com/paintest Want to end the symptoms: Ending TMS - a summary ua-cam.com/video/3vJgBnrhFt8/v-deo.html
Very helpful. Just discovered sarno’s books a week ago. Thank you. The “oh no” vs. “oh well” video really helped me last night. I had myself convinced I had an autoimmune disease for almost 2 years. Realizing it is tms. Bloodwork normal, nothing extraordinary in MRIs. Realizing now I can greatly reduce or even turn off the pain (but it’s temporary and moves somewhere else). First time I’ve felt hopeful in a while.
I have been in the fight or flight stress response to some extent for years and it is no wonder that I deal with the various chronic pains and sensations. Your videos make it so much easier to understand the process.
Hi, Dan, I'm a fairly new subscriber and I am getting so much value from your guidance. You mentioned breathing in this video...what are your thoughts on nose breathing vs mouth breathing and how each can engage either the para or sympathetic nervous system? I tend to wake up with very dry cotton mouth, and in researching this I found it is due to mouth breathing during sleep. Then I learned that mouth breathing engages the sympathetic nervous system, whereas nose breathing engages the parasympathetic. I tried to consciously nose breathe, and it felt really awkward, which tells me perhaps my constant mouth breathing has been contributing to my living in fight or flight for so long from past trauma. It's just been a few days of practicing nose breathing during the day and using mouth tape during sleep, and I'm feeling calmer already. I will also use the advice in this video to continue the soothing/stress balance I need. Thank you, Dan, for what you do.
I haven't heard much about mouth versus nose breathing as it relates to TMS. We cannot control our mouth breathing during sleep, so I wouldn't worry about it. During the day, you can influence your breathing slightly by noticing if your mouth is open or not. Which type of breathing makes you feel better/safer? Do that. Deciding you are doing it wrong and stressing about it likely adds more fear than just breathing in whatever way you do.
For some reason, this one popped up on your FB page this morning and I really needed to hear this message TODAY. For the last few days I have awakened, not in physical pain, but in the crazy world of anxiety which for me is worse than physical pain. I come to my journal first thing and I try to get rid of it. Realizing that pushing it away with great fear wasn't helping, I tried to accept it and have an open house as you have suggested in the recent past. (I simply love that imagery, btw.) But this anxiety is a hard friend to accept. So... THIS! I realize once again that I am working too hard. Today I will try harder (LOL) to have fun. :)
It's interesting. Anxiety is not a problem to be solved. It's simply another feeling that, while uncomfortable, is not dangerous. If we simply stop resisting it and stop trying to get rid of it and allow ourselves to feel anxious - it will pass. Many people give themselves anxiety attacks trying to get rid of.... anxiety.
Is it possible to have weakness in legs arms , im been in fight flight all time .. My daughter trigger my trauma ( Cptsd ) how to heal ???? Have so much pain, anixety, depersonalisation, inflammation in my face
It’s really asinine to torturing yourself. Your fight or fight response scam be triggered by just a negative thought. I’ve done it plenty of times and I didn’t know anything about the parasympathetic or sympathetic system until it was too late. I was always in the sympathetic nervous system for the majority of my life. Now I’m just cruising in the parasympathetic mode which is not good tbh. It’s no fun not stressing about things that need attention. Like your hygiene, parents, your significant other. It can literally mess w h your entire body. Sex for example feels really good when your sympathetic nervous system is healthy. Trust me I don’t enjoy sex anymore and it’s because my bodies adrenaline is worn out :/ I really hope people watch the entirety of this video.
The other thing too is taking wise efforts to calm down the amygdala - there are many ways to do it and its not a mystery, its in our sphere of control and can apply techniques every time. Whereas for me the deeper emotional processing is tougher, less obvious, a bit of an unknown landscape. Not to say it isnt important to address MBS, but I agree that getting out of the "reactive" mode is the first and most fundamental thing if nothing else than to keep things from getting worse, or triggering even more issues (anxiety, depression) that can happen if we stay in the stress response too much/long.
The adrenal glands are totally responsible for how you feel. I take GABA 750 mg four times a day along with L theanine 200 mg three or four times a day. Helps to relax.
If I've been in fight of flight a couple of years, could that taken all my energy so I can't go for walks, or I got so week in 2-3 days after just activating myself a little..? Thank you , I will now start with all your tips🙏✨✨✨
Anxiety is just another symptom imperative. Many people juggle between, anxiety and physical symptoms , one is up and the other is down alternately . Did you personally go through the anxiety side of tms or did you only have back and leg pain ?
How people can thumbs down this is beyond me, this man is a genius, and so many are grateful for his work including me, it gets me through the day. Thank you Dan!
Thank you for having my back Ryan. Much appreciated.
I appreciate your teachings very much. While I knew I’ve been in fight or flight mode much of my life, I had trouble changing it because I felt I was lying to myself in some way by not facing reality. Your wording has helped… especially the part about saying frightening things to ourselves. I thought “I wouldn’t do that to anyone I love, why am I doing it to myself” that hit home .
I also wanted to mention I went on a very very low carb animal based diet 5 1/2 months ago and it greatly lessened my inflammation, and cured my restless leg syndrome, and many other things esp metabolic health. But I still was stuck with my depressive pain
Full way of thinking and could not get out of home or entertain hanging with others. So I am working on this now, and it is much easier because I have only a few pains left . This hopefully will help others. Thanks ❤
I eat mostly carnivore myself. When I am strict, I feel amazing. Fortunately I have no pains or symptoms to resolve, but overall health, energy, sinus congestion and body weight is so much better on carnivore.
@@PainFreeYou I am wondering if you have anything that may help me to deal with grief, I just can’t help despair I feel because I feel I can never have a relationship as special as with whom I lost. I just don’t know how to put in perspective without feeling so victimized. It’s been 10 years of depression since the loss.
Thanks
@@beingbenign2685 I'm not sure how old you are, but it's never too late to meet someone special in your life. At 58 years old, I am still dating and not in a serious relationship yet. I hold out hope. Begin to envision your ideal partner. Focus on making yourself into the best version of yourself so you can attract that quality of partner into your life. I believe in you.
Regarding the grief, I have recorded a few videos on grief:
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I have lived in Fight or Flight Mode for 30 years Now! It is a miracle I am alive. And I have suffered many various and assorted Symtoms..but I am learning! Thank You..Dan..for your good work and your Caring.
You are very welcome.
Since discovering you early this week I have been binge watching your videos. You’re calm and deliver your message in that cool and calm way-with a smile on your face. I realized when taking my walk I would be tense-so wound up and now I have been loosening up , being in the moment. Now to work on talking to my brain--in that cool and calm way. Thank you Dan. 😊
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Tell yourself..Let Go..A lot! That really helps me.
Do You have weakness in legs and depersonalisation
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If being abused, and/or in an unsafe situation, it is important to be able to stay reasonably calm. Because it's very hard to think clearly and intelligently when in freeze fight or flight. It's as though the brain literally just can't think, and when scared and overwhelmed, that unfortunatly starts to kick in.
If being abused in an unsafe environment do what you can to get out of that situation.
I was by my ex then my son. He had to go live with his dad. I don't hear off him now which is sad
Mine was on off year ago
Then stress increased
Pain also
Symptoms too
Vertigos panic anxiety
Mild insomnia
My symptoms became severe after i burnt out nd didnt care for my mind body
Now.they are mild
Im recovering thnx dan
Ill see u in 🎉 in the success stories inshallah
Absolutely will see you in the success stories. You can do this.
I have been healthy all my life, but have been plagued with aches snd pains. I have used natural remedies and exercise, yoga, dance. And those things have helped. But these teachings that you bring are the real key to bring balance, ease and pain free for me . Thank you so much .
You are so welcome. :-)
I wish I saw this video back in 2017 when I was going to college. In the fall of 2017 I broke up with my girlfriend. I thought she gave me a disease and I prolonged going to a doctor for a a year and half. It ate me up night and day. The thought of having a disease set off my fight or flight response. I really am disappointed because I went and got checked two years later and I had nothing. But the damage was done. Believing that fear ruined my life. I can’t even get out of the parasympathetic mode. I have no drive, no appetite, I can eat and not get full, chronic pain, sleep is deeply disturbed, I can’t sleep for more than an hour without waking up. This has been going on since the fall of 2019. Only time it seemed to get better when I smoked weed for 4 months. My best advice for anyone that’s experiencing a constant fight or fight response. Stop it or you’ll wind up similar to me. It really sucks I don’t wish it on anyone. Thank you for the video. Any tips to help reverse this would be awesome :/ I’m so depressed
Yes, the way out is the opposite of what got you where you are today. Learn to turn down the fear with accurate information that your body is actually fine. My suggestions are in this video: ua-cam.com/video/3vJgBnrhFt8/v-deo.html
And watch my videos: ua-cam.com/users/PainFreeYouvideos
I post a new one every single day - free coaching all on how to settle down a nervous system.
Does your ex even know what you are going through and how she was responsible for it?
Hello Dan .
, I've been watching your videos after suffering with debilitating embedded uti pelvic floor dysfunction, tinnitus and muscle spasms and severe pelvic pain 😢 struggling with this journey .. enjoying watching your videos very much
I dont experience chronic pain (i used to but had a surgery which resolved the issue), but i do have pretty extreme anxiety symptoms/attacks and your videos are extremely helpful for me. Thank you so much, I finally feel like I understand what's going on and why I start to feel so bad despite nothing actually being wrong
This video is 2 years old and I’m glad I’ve found this because I’m constantly stuck in fight or flight mode. Constant panic attacks, racing heart, shortness of breath. This is so hard to get out of.
A great place to begin is DansFastStart.com
I feel you I wake up in fight or flight, need to find a way out of this.
How you respond is key. Trying to fix morning anxiety makes it worse. Allow it to pass. ua-cam.com/video/DG6XV7C6pRs/v-deo.html
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@@MsEdwin9000 your not alone been suffering from this since December if it’s not one symptom, there’s a new symptom
Great suggestions for turning off the Fight-Flight system!
Great video, as always!
Thanks again!
Thank you Dan...I came to your channel via The Steady Coach and have PPPD - a lot of what you say overlaps and it makes so much sense. Can't wait to watch more.
Welcome aboard! Yes, she and I are very in sync on our recommendations.
I heart that propanolol helps to break a pattern of flight or fight response, many people use that.
I happen to be in a toxic household that has set me on fight or flight: I can’t just move overnight so I have to tolerate it for now. This state has been affected my romantic relationship and I really want to change it.
I understand. But I got well in the middle of my marriage falling apart.
You can still get well.
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I’m going to start listening to your videos every single damn day my man ! ❤️
Awesome - thanks for listening. Here's the channel and video archive:
ua-cam.com/users/PainFreeYouvideos
Also your voice is very soothing
Getting assaulted and feeling a real fight or flight situation made me realise my anxiety and panic attacks albeit scarey and still releasing all the chemicals were not the same. Silver lining
Thank you so much for helping us ground and giving us the tools to calm and maintain and get back to enjoying life. Also thank you for your outdoor videos! We are of this earth and need to be connected to it. I beat crippling anxiety and have been off of SSRIs for 8 years by walking, gardening, breathing exercise, eating well, and confronting my very traumatic childhood in which I was constantly afraid and performing. Your videos help remind me that I am safe and life is good and it’s just my silly body being stuck, but in actuality I am free and can be happy even right now ❤
Yeah - this is what I need - I have been trying for weeks. It seems I am stuck and so my muscles are aching all over. I am trying to get re-frame my thoughts today. Accept the thoughts, let them go.
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I know this video is 4 years old, but thank you so much for these back then and now!!!!! ❤
My pleasure.
Hello, I'm new to the channel. I really enjoyed the video, it's like a one on one talk and I like the simplicity and calming nature. My symptoms of chronic fatigue began after my relationship ended later got worse after I felt betrayed by my best friend. I suffered a lot of grief and had ongoing confusement and thoughts over the losses. Now I'm suffering from chronic fatigue after covid. Not to blame anyone, I think I was just overwhelmed by lifes events. I did not even think of it being connected possibly. I do believe in recovery, thank you for the video.
Needed this subject matter. Thanks!
Hey MaryAnn - really glad this video was helpful for you. :-)
Love you ❤ very informative thankyou
You are welcome.
Making a playlist to listen to while playing jazz etc... I have chronic migraines, and doing the TMS wiki program years ago helped amazingly. WHY am I so resistant to doing it again? Migraines have gotten much worse. Singing is REALLY helpful. Just a lullaby or an old traditional song is easy to try. Great advice. I wake up with anxiety every day, and the migraine follows immediately. The abortive meds aren't working much anymore. I also notice my tongue (although clean!) is grey/white when I get migraines. It's like I'm suffocating on anxiety. When I am energised and healthy - my tongue is pink and healthy. I am also very fit and active - exercise very much WHEN I have no migraines. Migraines are literally Killing me. Suicidal ideation comes with each one.
I understand how distressing this can all be. But when you KNOW that it's merely a stress response and nothing physically wrong, you can embrace an approach that leads out out of this pain cycle. This video has my suggestions. Embrace and implement these concepts and you can get well. Many have. ua-cam.com/video/3vJgBnrhFt8/v-deo.html
Here is a success story for migraines from a couple weeks back that may give you some hope: facebook.com/PainFreeYouNow/posts/770495697041564
Absolutely brilliant presentation & elaboration. Thanks, Dan.
Glad it was helpful!
The awareness now is ALL talking about the same thing. Eckart, Mooji, Sarno, Gabor Mate etc. Everything is what you feel. Everything is what you believe. Trauma is the issue.
Thank you sir. Thank you for helping me and others get closer to the root cause.
Glad I could help
My Thoughts are literally make me sick so i reflect on it and this are just thoughts you recognize them just as thoughts you are in Control because there are not real
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Hi there Dan I am totally trapped in fight or flight frozen the Anxiety the worst ever is so bad am sure it's going to kill me'most doctors in UK just want to put me on meds also on nighty zopiclone for sleep these are Not helping me indeed I feel making me worst zopiclone are a horrible ! sleep med Dan I know when the fight & flight is about to hit ! me like a express train your video is spot on in the breakdown about the triggers & mind tools to recovery Dan ps I have just signed on to your Facebook page cheers my friend
You are amazing, Thank you. I just discovered you less than a week ago and been listening
Wow, thank you!
I get often into fight flight because of subconscious fear, I often don't notice the trigger until my symptoms flared so bad I can barely talk. (For years I didn't even know what triggered them, so I really didn't fear it, but my body did!) So I had to learn to calm my nervous system via the body, because thinking "I'm safe" didn't help at all, because I never consciously felt unsafe. I think many people can't recognize the roll of stress because they are not aware of it, because it all happens subconsciously and very fast. (For example getting symptoms from loud noise, heat, high heart rate)
Great point. The first signs of stress are often felt in the body. Becoming body aware and noticing if our breath becomes shallow, or our chest feels tight, if our body is tense can absolutely help.
Great talk yes I suffer with bad anxiety so it increases my pain and all I do is think about my pain from the time my feet hit the floor until bed I really must change my thought process because it consuming my life with causes depression and all I want to do is sleep and cry not a way to live..
If you want more direction, check out my getting started page: www.PainFreeYou.com/start - the concepts apply to anxiety just as much as pain.
Stuck in fight and flight for 6 years and stopped sleeping I am living in a state of hell
Your number one job is convincing your brain that you are SAFE. If you know what TMS is and believe you have it, you are safe in your body. This video explains what I believe is necessary to end symptoms.
I have to for 6 years and its effecting everything in my life except sleep. I sleep like a rock. My only issue is when I'm in it I cough a lot. And it's like living in hell. I'm beyond tired.
Omg I was, to late my thoughts were horrible and hoppa I went straight to the fight and flight zone grrrr working now hard to stay calm will go for a walk also I am very angry about everything my symptoms people situations I know that it is the tms am sooo fat up with everything... Don't have many friend to go to right now grr try to relax but soo difficult now am breathing deep now will sing in the dunes will practice with your help in this video... Thank you Dan not a good day I quess
A bad day is just that. A bad DAY.
@@PainFreeYou ok it is, a bad day pfff
WOW! Thank you Dan!
You are welcome.
Your content is gr8, bruh.
Thank you!
This is great! Pelvic pain is too much stress! I really need to let go and change behavior, always in freak out mode stress about everything!
Watch todays video Knowing vs Doing - you may find it helpful.
Hi I have pelvic pain too. A beast of a condition! symptoms: Urinary frequency... tight muscles in pelvic floor which cause "bathroom problems" on both ends,.. My main issue is several rectal pain (I can't sit due to this which limits my life tremendously ) . My pelvic floor physical therapist notes that a muscle group in the pelvic floor is "stuck in spasm " thus the pain and dysfunction..She knows this pain better than any doctor, (doctors are clueless about it) . Every time I use the bathroom and have trouble " emptying" I'm over-using/ squeezing these muscles which I think creates / exacerbates the rectal pain . This causes of stress, getting through the day. However I am blessed to have a home by the beach (we bought this year). I can walk to ocean and swim ....the area is more relaxed....etc.
How are you are you better hope so
Thank you 🙏❤️
You are so welcome
What if the fight or flight turns down by itself ? If ur not hyper focused on it and try to do things which are important to your life despite the symptoms. I find that thought helpful. What if there is no problem to be solved anymore. But y probably the hardest thing to do when symptoms are high. To have the trust that you can lean back a bit.
The body self regulates. It's our job to create the feeling of safety and not fuel the perception of danger with our thoughts and behaviors. DansfastStart.com
Just wanted to say thank you 🙏🏼
You are so welcome
Thank you this is me with thoughts I now realise its why I got pppd.
Wonderful. Focus on safety now. That's the way to recover.
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it just feels like something is turned on.. it just won't cut off. happen after a panic attack
The concept I have introduced called perceived danger pain/symptoms explains a lot. Give it a watch. ua-cam.com/video/tnU6KBAv5fg/v-deo.html
Just browsed for this subject and got a video from good ole Dan. This is my missing link to work on FIRST!
Awesome.
Good video. An argument with my girlfriend turned my fight or flight on 3 days ago and I got the fuck out of there but have been stuck in this panic attack mode ever since even though we have made up since. The body is a strange unit. Thanks for the info
Glad to help. Focus on safety. Despite the relationship issues, you are safe and no need to panic. You are safe. You are okay.
I have had pelvic pain for 8 years because of fight or flight. My doctors say my pelvic nerves are stuck causing horrific burning in my vagina. I am seeking nerve blocks or a surgical process called interstim. Your information is very helpful but I may be out of time to help myself. Thank you, Rita
Why are you out of time? If the pain is caused by the brain and TMS, how will nerve blocks solve a problem in the brain?
Do Dan's pain assessment on the painfreeyou website, before going under the knife . You owe at least that to yourself. 💜
I've been in pain now for going on 8 years and find that Anger has now become an additional emotion that I need to deal with, because I just cant release this "THING" that is stuck in my Colon . . . this intense energy sucking discomfort . . . whatever it is...😵💫😖🤦♂
Great video
Glad you enjoyed it
My face is showing my red alert mode I look haunted.
I'm in fight.or flight right now. For 3 years and yes I'm scared. Tried Everything !
This works really well.
Even just an icepack or cold flannels on your forehead, temples, and cheeks will reduce your heart rate too.
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@@woah6958 thank you. I need help.!
Looks weird but works well
Did it affect your sleep
@@josh7916 I sleep OK
Thank you. :)
My limbic system is constantly reacting and in alarm. I react to most foods and chemicals and smells and major fatigue. Alot of things trigger me easily. This all started after surgery and antibiotics
My overall recommendations are in this video. While I mention pain a lot, the same exact concepts are able to teach the brain and entire nervous system to settle down. ua-cam.com/video/3vJgBnrhFt8/v-deo.html
@@PainFreeYou this is what I was thinking. Doesnt have to be just pain, can be other symptoms.
@@mindful__gardener YES, stress illness / TMS can cause all sorts of symptoms. This page shows all the wild stuff it can cause:
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Check it out.
@@PainFreeYou wow that's mind blowing. What are their methods of healing is it through confronting stress and past trauma?
@@mindful__gardener My methods are all about teaching your brain that you are safe NOW and calming down the brain. Once the brain calms down, the nervous system and limbic system settle down too. My approach is in the video here: ua-cam.com/video/3vJgBnrhFt8/v-deo.html
I don't believe confronting stress and past trauma does much to convince our brain and nervous system that it is safe now.
Im a 31yo man, my mind feels like a 7 year old sometimes. Im immature and emotional. I put my wife and kids through hell and she wants a divorce.
I had reached bliss once before and now im stuck in my thoughts. I really need to let go of stuff and move on, build self confidence ect. But its so hard right now.
Im trying to let go of pain of marriage, molested at 5 and 7 years old, neglected childhood, and now discovered my son and i are autistic. I dont want to hurt others anymore. I dont want to dump my pain on my wife anymore. Someone help me please.
I might suggest you rename your profile. Calling yourself pathetic is likely not helpful. I'm very sorry you had such a tough childhood. Awful stuff. A few videos that may help.
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Your story says you are broken. Changing that story and not believing those thoughts is the beginning. ua-cam.com/video/yJRytY-Fcpw/v-deo.html
@@PainFreeYou thanks this helps. hope i didnt drag you down too much. remember you arent responsible for everyones pain, your videos alone are enough. thanks for your kind response.
im in a better mental state now. i remember making this comment and since then thinking about it sometimes and hoping i wasnt infecting someone with it.
namaste.
I feel very fatigue around the afternoons when my kids come back from school, I can't function and play with them.
Fatigue is very often the brains perception of danger. A good place to understand more is: www.PainFreeYou.com/start
I need to practice this until it becomes automatic
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Is it possible to have weakness in legs arms , im been in fight flight all time ..
My daughter trigger my trauma ( Cptsd ) how to heal ????
Have so much pain, anixety, depersonalisation, inflammation in my face
I am unsafe in my body and life and my nervous system been so sensitive
Hi Dan. Thank you for all your videos. Can you talk about coming off some of the psychiatric medication that causes withdrawal symptoms? Such as benzoclonopines?
If you search within my channel for "medication", the first three videos talk about my general thoughts on it. This is not medical advice, just my thoughts.
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Hey 👋🏽 I tried your website but it doesn’t work - do you offer 121 calls?
Looking around I am perfectly safe! ..... But if I don't get up now my sausages are going to burn ! 🙊.....yep!... Thanks Dan, burnt them ! 😵
haha - pay attention to the cooking.
Hey Dan this is my main concern right now is fight or flight. My challenge right now is how to turn it off. It's on 24 hours a day 7 days a week and I'm trying so desperately to turn off fight or flight. I could sure use some help on that. It's my challenge of the day, the week, the month. Please direct me to where I can get additional assistance for this. I need to turn off the fight or flight response in my head and just saying to my brain stop it doesn't seem to get it. I'm scheduled to talk to psychiatrist about this in the next week. I don't want to go on drugs I want to do this naturally. I'm being a fool? Please sir let me know your thoughts. I'm new to your web page and I'm trying so hard to get over this TMS. Thanks Rodger
Rodger. Trying "desperately" to get out of the stress response is keeping you in it. Fight or flight is simply a state that you are in right now. The solution is calm. Being in fight or flight is not the problem, it's the result of the problem. Perceived Danger. The best way I can assist is to have you start from the beginning. My getting started page is a great place to learn more and assess your situation. Once you do that, there are a couple paths you can follow. All on this page: www.PainFreeYou.com/start
I feel disconnected from my kids and always on edge and fatigued I feel like im gonna run crazy and I feel weird like there's something wrong with my nerves. Always feeling Luke I'm in a dream
It's quite common actually. That is ALL created by a scared brain that is perceiving danger. Teaching it we are safe is the way forward.
@@PainFreeYou do you coach? I'd like you to help me please
@@nmash6835 I used to do one-on-one coaching, but now I am focused on doing my coaching via a video course and group sessions that meet weekly. There are 4 sessions and you can show up to any one of them or multiple sessions if you want more help. All the details are here:
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I still keep feeling the fight and flight. It started up 8 weeks ago and just won’t settle down. I am exhausted. I don’t know what kicked it on. Whenever I do the breathing I hyperventilate or over breathe. I meditate and I take breaks. Just not sure what to do to get this to settle down. Thanks for your great video though. You have some good suggestions. I just have not succeeded at settling down
Feb 2022 I broke my sternum on a locked seat belt.. The ribs got pushed bad and have have never stopped hurting... 14 months now.. I am locked in and freaking out in flight or flight... This morning i felt ok'ish so I did 2 laps of breststroke at the pool and and few physio stretched... 4pm in the after now and my chest is killing me.. It's been killing me more that is been feeling ok for the last 14 months.. So my a guts hurt , my chest hurt.... Seeing a pain managment team soon..
Perceived danger explains it all. Tomorrows video on Fear + Attention = Chronic Pain. Your ribs healed long ago. The brain perceiving danger is why the pain continues. Watch this to understand. ua-cam.com/video/tnU6KBAv5fg/v-deo.html
@@PainFreeYou two weeks ago I met with the lead doctor at the Pain Clinic.. My chest gets worse as the day goes on.. The doctor there suspects I have Osteo Arthritis.
Maybe I do maybe I don't. But he planted the PDP in my head..
Add to that 3 weeks ago my colon got blocked and bloated... Clear now but has given me pain I don't need.
Last week I said to a phyio buddy of mine, IF i do have Osteo Arthritis in my chest, what exercises would you suggest.
He said "Slow swimming, walking, Dead Bug and Child Walk.. (Last 2 are physio moves..
I immediately donned my swimmers and went to the pool..
Nice and slow 3 Rounds
2 laps swimming
10 Dead Bugs
10 Child walks
Later that day my chest exploded in pain.. It took 2 days of it to calm down.
While swimming I did not perceive danger.. I believed it was going to help.
Yesterday morning I figured I had just done too much.. So I swam again, did just a fraction of the workout.. Again, my chest exploded.. When it did my guts hurt more..
@@parttimedrummer2064 I do not believe osteoarthritis is causing your pain. Perceived danger does not need to be conscious. If you had a problem with your chest, why did it not hurt DURING exercise? Why did it wait till the next day to "explode in pain". Perceived danger does that. The brain does that. And it's run by the subconscious.
Even though you believed the exercise would help, you believe you have a physical problem, thus the physio and the exercises.
You have zero evidence other than the "opinion" of a doctor that you have osteo or that this theorized osto is causing the pain.
Getting clear that your body is actually already okay is job #1.
Perceived danger explains it all to me. Watch this and see if this makes sense to you. ua-cam.com/video/tnU6KBAv5fg/v-deo.html
I mean @PainFreeYou typical anxiety place for pain is middle of the top colon.. But mine was stretched just a couple of weeks ago and it has not let me forget it. And it hurts all the way right to left, and right to down on the accending colon. This is my chest pain.. I try to smile. I listen to music. I meditate.. I work on my drum pad project I am building but at the end of the (my) day, I'll be in bed around 5pm.. I'll not sleep, but I hurt so so much. Not pain meds touch the colon and my gastro doctor told me to not take any pain meds..
Talking about survivor instincts why am I more easily triggered (disturbed) when I’m thinking/planning as opposed to acting naturally/spontaneously ???
I'm not sure I understand the question. Can you clarify please?
Pain Free You I mean when I’m being myself in conversation I don’t get triggered as easily but when I’m being more analytical in conversation I get triggered and become inhibited.
I assume it’s because when your thinking it’s a process so others people’s mannerisms can be distracting to that process and you can become confused.
But being yourself no process is going on.
So I wanted to know when you premeditate is the brain more susceptible to being triggered??? (Fight or flight response)
@@Peacemakerblue Of course, trying to think your way through a conversation means you aren't even paying attention to the conversation because you are so concerned with how you are being perceived. If you are in the present and just talking, there is no self judgment. If you analyze every word and the other persons reaction, you will obviously trigger stress. Make a decision to simply be who you are. Be in the moment. Deciding up front that you don't care about the outcome and that you will just be in the moment will be very freeing.
@@Peacemakerblue You are asking me to explain human psychology. I would suggest you not over-think it. Just be and not worry about being triggered by everything. Don't worry about evaluating peoples hand patters. Don't hyper-analyze everything. Just be.
Dan Buglio ok thanks I was trying to understand the fight or flight response. One last question why does fight or flight response make you feel self-conscious?
what would you suggest when your hobby or exercise literally puts you in a life threatening situation?
Can you be more specific?
@@PainFreeYou I recently made the connection that rock climbing (among other things including life's daily responsibilities) has been putting my body in a TMS based stress response causing chronic pain. I can't stomach the thought of giving it up, but there are literally instances where i'm putting myself in positions that would end very poorly if i were to mess up. i try to reduce that risk as much as possible, but my subconscious is apparently very much aware of what's going on.
@@williamsanders5554 TMS doesn't start because you are doing something you love that has an element of danger to it. It starts to protect us from an emotional world our brain perceives we can't handle or doesn't fit with our self image. Follow the steps in this video to learn the essential elements to ending TMS pain: ua-cam.com/video/3vJgBnrhFt8/v-deo.html
What about fibromyalgia? I'm trying hard not focus on it. But pain bad
Fibromyalgia is created by the brain. Which means it can be reversed with the concepts I teach daily. Learn more here:
www.PainFreeyou.com/start
And my take on Fibromyalgia along with several Fibro success stories:
ua-cam.com/users/PainFreeYousearch?query=fibromyalgia
You can get well too.
I have been married for 25 years and my husband was diagnosed with mental illness 5 years ago. He refuses to stay on his meds and becomes verbally and emotionally abusive as a result. I am in the process of getting out of the marriage but can't leave until I find an affordable place to go. I have pushed down my anger, pain, rage, hurt, sadness, depression etc., for years. It is simply unsafe for me to express any negative emotions. I know I am constantly in fight or flight but I don't know how to make myself feel safe. I am also having trouble feeling my emotions because I just feel kind of numb. I know I am sad and angry about things but I don't actually "feel" those emotions anymore or know how to release them. Any suggestions you might have would mean so much.
HEAPFOF an acronym I made up after my neuropsych evaluation labeled me with somatic stress syndrome.
Highly sensitive empath with ADHD PTSD in fight or flight.
2008 recovered from a botched surgery that left me in a 3 week coma.
11.3.2016 a stroke.
12.16.2016 breast cancer diagnosis.
Told I had one year 2 at the most.
2020 developed a gross case of lymphedema in the right arm.
September 2022 the weight caused it fallout out.what now. Rejected due 2 non compliance to standard cara.
New here, can anybody tell me how to reach out to get help.
Yesterday I was denied reinstatement to hospice for pain
Because my last pet scan showed improvement and I don't have an attitude that cancer won't kill me.
The dislocated arm is the worst pain I've ever endured on a daily.
It's impossible to not feel it.. and the only way to get help is to talk about it so I'm in a terrible catch-22.
I truly believe God has a plan for my journey to help
My true desire is to learn music but the is the pain is so horrid I can't retain what I learn.
I'm almost out of morphine, my reiki coach introduced 2 U. Where can I go for help right now? Anybody out there?
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Talk about freeze mode
TMS?
Lol, awwww dude I really wanted to hear what you have to say. But the drilling or whatever it is in the background was so agitating I couldn't take in your words! Ironic, or are you testing out our calming skills already, ha! I love your content though - will watch this on mute with subtitles.
Likely someone doing yardwork and using some machinery. My apology. I have nearly 2000 videos - most don't have that background noise. My fast start playlist is a great place to get the fundamentals. DansFastStart.com
Do we have to have raised heartrate to be in fight or flight I haven't it would be a good benchmark
Generally, with more adrenaline and cortisol, the heart rate increases. But it's not something I suggest we monitor vigilantly. That creates too much hyper focus on the body and what's going on. Know you are safe no matter what the heart rate is doing. We don't need to measure and monitor.
@@PainFreeYou no I don't I can tell that's what's confusing me why it isn't raised and resting heartrate 60 .if ime in fight flight mode why it is normal
@@Truerealism747 You don't need to be in fight or flight to have pain. If the brain is perceiving danger, pain can still be on even with a low resting heart rate.
@@PainFreeYou ah I thought I did thanks for that I've also read that stress can cause low heartrate
Daily affirmations 10-15 min for 1 month. Will it help?
Affirmations by themselves may or may not be enough. Also depends a lot on what you are saying and whether or not you are believing them. Here are my suggestions: ua-cam.com/video/3vJgBnrhFt8/v-deo.html
Hello, how do i gte out the freeze and flight , i have had this in my mind
Watch the video again. I offer several strategies to turn off the fight or flight response. To simplify it, notice when you are in it, breathe and calm down your body and thinking. I cover this type of stuff in each of my daily videos.
@@PainFreeYou thank you, how often shall i do this type of exercies
@@simplybuyer1 There is no rule. If you notice yourself stressing out - it's time to breathe and calm your thinking.
Hey Dan, did you ever experiment with CBD oil? I know it’s not a long term solution, but I’ve researched that it has a calming effect and can slow down the sympathetic nervous system and jump start the parasympathetic system. Let me know what you think. Thanks!
Nope - I'm not a pills or potions guy. I like to focus on the true cause. Unresolved emotions and stress. And through choice, we can learn to feel emotions and turn down the volume on the stress levels. If you try it, keep me posted if you notice a difference.
Did you ever give it a try?
Does this mean coffee is bad?
Do you feel better drinking it or not? I'm not convinced it's healthy for us. And if we are in a state of fight or flight, a stimulant like coffee may not be idea.
@@PainFreeYou I feel like sometimes a coffee is the only thing getting me through the day mentally. But I’m not convinced it’s healthy for this condition either
Have you treated people with Ankylosing Spondylitis (AS) with the TMS approach?
Helen - I don't treat anyone for any specific medical diagnosis. Simply put, I help to educate people about how often a medical diagnosis may not be what is causing our pains. I teach based on the concepts discovered by Dr. Sarno. If you haven't read anything by him yet, I strongly urge that you do. The Mindbody Prescription by Dr. John Sarno is excellent for understanding TMS.
If you'd like a quick intro, watch the video at:
PainFreeYou.com
Next, see if your symptoms are TMS. Take the pain test. Regardless of your physical structure, if the test shows over 29, then the pain is caused by TMS, not the ankylosing spondylititis.
DanBuglio.com/paintest
And once you know it's TMS - dive into the suggestions outlined in this video. This is the way to turn off the pain.
ua-cam.com/video/3vJgBnrhFt8/v-deo.html
@@PainFreeYou thank you Dan! I work as a Kinesiologist and Bowen therapist. Am familiar with these concepts and have read Dr Sarno and am binge watching your videos and have had several eureka moments!!!! Thank you very much. I had a sudden onset last year which was horrendous hospitalised and on crutches for months. The trigger was an assault. I've gradually got better with some of these techniques but most using diet. I recently learned that the person who assaulted me has moved back to my town. Two weeks later I'm in agony! Made the connection, done some work and my pain is down! Amazing🙏✨
@@complete-balance Take the pain test. And as much as your profession is all about the physical body, embracing TMS is your way to recover completely. Implement the techniques in the video in my comment.
@@PainFreeYou I've done one before and it suggested TMS. Obviously I have a physical diagnosis but I'm able to see that it doesnt have to be this way. Bowen works with the nervous system too and I believe that's why it's so effective. It's great revisiting this though and will be great for my clients too. Additional benefit of this flare! Thanks again Dan for your input and the fab videos 😊🙏✨
@@complete-balance Glad to be of assistance. Keep in mind - a physical diagnosis is simply an observation of an abnormality in the body. It does not mean it's the cause of the pain. As Dr. Sarno discovered, these are normal abnormalities. The cause is TMS - created in the brain. You can recover completely. :-)
What about chest pains ? Is this a main fight or flight symptom
It can be, but something like that should be checked out by a doctor to rule out anything significant or life threatening. If your doctor says you are fine, then it is very possible it's TMS / Fight or Flight. Take the Pain Test to see how your symptoms behave. DanBuglio.com/paintest
@@PainFreeYou I thought that chest pain was one of the most common anxiety pain you can feel other than back pain
@@ezza1236 It is very common stress/anxiety type of pain. You sill likely should have it checked out to make sure your heart is okay.
@@PainFreeYou yeah for sure, you always need that reassurance, I’ve had checks already and doctor said no organic problems, I always remember in youre videos you talk about how Tms pain can actually feel
Worse than a real problem
@@ezza1236 Yes, Dr. Sarno said long ago that the pain from TMS can exceed the pain from most medical reasons for pain.
Could you spell the name of Doctor?
Schubiner - UnlearnYourPain.com
@@PainFreeYou schubiner also advises to get forceful and shout at the brain with harsh language to stop symptoms. I'm sure that does wonders for safety and anxt, let alone mental health. 😂😂😂
A mother can’t get any damn rest or recovery
Why do I see a red man
??
He’s saying that I don’t know my fate and he’s laughing at me
I think I’m gonna die, help
I’m 24 parents Got divorced at a really young age which cause me to be stuck with this fight or flight mode to support myself which I recently became aware of , I got super sick cause I literally over work myself to the point I couldn’t get out of bed to go work an I bump into this video thanks man really helpful...
Really glad to be of help. If you are looking for a few more strategies - this video linked here have my suggestions: ua-cam.com/video/3vJgBnrhFt8/v-deo.html
If you'd like more information on what causes chronic health problems, check out the video at: PainFreeYou.com
What are the symptoms?
I’m a wife and mother, and my husband has childhood trauma, CPTSD, depression, and likely a personality disorder (a therapist said this, then my husband never went back). I’ve been with him for 9 years. He really has put in work to improve and heal, and he is a wonderful father. But he is not a good husband, he puts in effort with every other person he comes across, but I’m who gets him without any effort. I’m sad to say that it is horrible. We got together when I was 36, and I never had chronic pain before. I’ve had chronic pain since about 18 months into our relationship, all in my pelvis and back. I’m just now, like in the past week, grasping that it is all emotional. When he’s loving and respectful towards me (or even just bland) I’m fine. When he gets stressed or feeling depressed.pm he takes it out on me... and my back starts to spasm, leading to days (sometimes weeks) of immense pain. I won’t leave him, because as I’ve said, he’s a great father. Our children are little and I know how divorce damages children. The good news is that I’ve learned how much my emotions and “perceived danger” are making my life worse with this pain - so I have something to move forward with now.
Jeez, I've been in fight or flight mode for days now. Like a constant state of anxious, every minute and every second of every day. The symptoms are scaring me. I cannot switch it off. I know there is no reason to be anxious, but I just cannot turn it off in my brain 😭
I understand. Here's a video that may help:
ua-cam.com/video/3vJgBnrhFt8/v-deo.html
Not sure what TMS is? Watch the video at:
PainFreeYou.com
Not sure if your symptoms are TMS? Take the pain test.
DanBuglio.com/paintest
Want to end the symptoms: Ending TMS - a summary
ua-cam.com/video/3vJgBnrhFt8/v-deo.html
how are you doing now?
How are you now ?
Wish I had found your page a long time ago, thank you!
You're very welcome!
Chinese proverb: best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago.. And next best time is now.
Very helpful. Just discovered sarno’s books a week ago. Thank you. The “oh no” vs. “oh well” video really helped me last night.
I had myself convinced I had an autoimmune disease for almost 2 years. Realizing it is tms. Bloodwork normal, nothing extraordinary in MRIs. Realizing now I can greatly reduce or even turn off the pain (but it’s temporary and moves somewhere else). First time I’ve felt hopeful in a while.
I am going through it right now.. learning to live is like a rebirth
Fantastic.
Yup it feels like a baby learning to walk
I have been in the fight or flight stress response to some extent for years
and it is no wonder that I deal with the various chronic pains and
sensations. Your videos make it so much easier to understand the
process.
Really glad to hear that.
OMG Dan.. This is me I’ve listened to this video before but today it so resonates thank you thank you❤
You are very welcome.
Nothing builds stress more that chronic pain.
True, but there is a solution.
Hi, Dan, I'm a fairly new subscriber and I am getting so much value from your guidance.
You mentioned breathing in this video...what are your thoughts on nose breathing vs mouth breathing and how each can engage either the para or sympathetic nervous system? I tend to wake up with very dry cotton mouth, and in researching this I found it is due to mouth breathing during sleep. Then I learned that mouth breathing engages the sympathetic nervous system, whereas nose breathing engages the parasympathetic.
I tried to consciously nose breathe, and it felt really awkward, which tells me perhaps my constant mouth breathing has been contributing to my living in fight or flight for so long from past trauma. It's just been a few days of practicing nose breathing during the day and using mouth tape during sleep, and I'm feeling calmer already.
I will also use the advice in this video to continue the soothing/stress balance I need. Thank you, Dan, for what you do.
I haven't heard much about mouth versus nose breathing as it relates to TMS. We cannot control our mouth breathing during sleep, so I wouldn't worry about it. During the day, you can influence your breathing slightly by noticing if your mouth is open or not. Which type of breathing makes you feel better/safer? Do that. Deciding you are doing it wrong and stressing about it likely adds more fear than just breathing in whatever way you do.
For some reason, this one popped up on your FB page this morning and I really needed to hear this message TODAY. For the last few days I have awakened, not in physical pain, but in the crazy world of anxiety which for me is worse than physical pain. I come to my journal first thing and I try to get rid of it. Realizing that pushing it away with great fear wasn't helping, I tried to accept it and have an open house as you have suggested in the recent past. (I simply love that imagery, btw.) But this anxiety is a hard friend to accept. So... THIS! I realize once again that I am working too hard. Today I will try harder (LOL) to have fun. :)
It's interesting. Anxiety is not a problem to be solved. It's simply another feeling that, while uncomfortable, is not dangerous. If we simply stop resisting it and stop trying to get rid of it and allow ourselves to feel anxious - it will pass. Many people give themselves anxiety attacks trying to get rid of.... anxiety.
Pain Free You So I just reread this. I needed to rehear it today.
Is it possible to have weakness in legs arms , im been in fight flight all time ..
My daughter trigger my trauma ( Cptsd ) how to heal ????
Have so much pain, anixety, depersonalisation, inflammation in my face
It’s really asinine to torturing yourself. Your fight or fight response scam be triggered by just a negative thought. I’ve done it plenty of times and I didn’t know anything about the parasympathetic or sympathetic system until it was too late. I was always in the sympathetic nervous system for the majority of my life. Now I’m just cruising in the parasympathetic mode which is not good tbh. It’s no fun not stressing about things that need attention. Like your hygiene, parents, your significant other. It can literally mess w h your entire body. Sex for example feels really good when your sympathetic nervous system is healthy. Trust me I don’t enjoy sex anymore and it’s because my bodies adrenaline is worn out :/ I really hope people watch the entirety of this video.
It's never too late to teach your brain you are safe. When that happens the nervous system self regulates and calms down.
The other thing too is taking wise efforts to calm down the amygdala - there are many ways to do it and its not a mystery, its in our sphere of control and can apply techniques every time. Whereas for me the deeper emotional processing is tougher, less obvious, a bit of an unknown landscape. Not to say it isnt important to address MBS, but I agree that getting out of the "reactive" mode is the first and most fundamental thing if nothing else than to keep things from getting worse, or triggering even more issues (anxiety, depression) that can happen if we stay in the stress response too much/long.
The adrenal glands are totally responsible for how you feel. I take GABA 750 mg four times a day along with L theanine 200 mg three or four times a day. Helps to relax.
Thoughts create emotions too. What if we didn't believe everything we think?
If I've been in fight of flight a couple of years, could that taken all my energy so I can't go for walks, or I got so week in 2-3 days after just activating myself a little..?
Thank you , I will now start with all your tips🙏✨✨✨
Vicki, fatigue is definitely stress related. Watch this video for my thoughts in this area. ua-cam.com/video/k-zLCQsxLAU/v-deo.html
Really thankful for the video.
Great video. I have a question, Can horror/ suspense movies also increase back pain due to adrenaline rush?
Yes, absolutely
Thank you so much for this video 🫶
Anxiety is just another symptom imperative. Many people juggle between, anxiety and physical symptoms , one is up and the other is down alternately . Did you personally go through the anxiety side of tms or did you only have back and leg pain ?
I have certainly had my bouts of anxiety over my years on this planet. I still do.
@@PainFreeYou like a snail surrounded by hungry birds , only to realise it left its shell at home.