My Coming Out Story As A Bisexual Man
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- Опубліковано 13 чер 2019
- This was a difficult and emotional video for me to make but I am finally ready to tell you my truth because I think I have finally come to terms with something that has plagued me for most of my life.
I'm Bisexual and this is my story.
happy pride month everyone, i hope this video makes you feel less alone
-with love from Luke
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Luke, I’m so proud of you for sharing your truth. That took a lot of courage. Happy pride month, you beautiful bicon! 💖💜💙
Luke we accept u and love u no matter what! 💛 This must have been a hard video to make and we all respect you for that 🧡 Stay iconic ❤️
That's a really good comment, I agree 100%! thank you❤️
Luke Alexander 💕
Bisexual men have it particularly difficult imo. So many have to conceal their same sex attractions out of fear of not being "masculine" enough or peer ostracisation. I know a few guys who also went to private boys schools (Australia) and they're perhaps the most toxic environment for young men. Those who aren't straight are often victimised, and derogatory stereotypes about women and female sexuality thrive. Not even to mention the lack of representation in media.
Cheer up, buttercup. Good on you for doing this, even though it was difficult. I hope it was cathartic, at the very least.
@@MegaDhop This is it though. I don't think everyone needs the theatrics of "coming out" but the fact you're closeted and I'm assuming haven't even told your few close friends is...I don't know. I feel like you should just be you without needing to worry about people making a big deal out of it. It's shit when straight guy friends act distant when they find out one of their own friends might not be straight, but some are super chill and it's getting easier and easier to be accepted. xx
Who else is watching this after the new Dan Howell's video?
Btw: I think it's so important that people keep doing this videos, a few years ago i was so depressed dealing with bulling and self hatred because of internalize homophobia, this kind of videos helped me a lot to realize i wasn't an outcast because of my sexuality, there was nothing wrong with me, and i wasn't alone in this. So yeah, thank you. Much love and support ❤️❤️
I watched Dan's video and now I'm watching lukes video lmao
I LOVE YOUUUU a whole lot LUKE💙💙
ItzKeisha love you Keisha❤️❤️
Also also proud of ya for putting such a personal story out there
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Valentina love you too❤️
fellow bisexual here, and frankly i'm really happy that you're brave enough to talk about this. we love and accept you no matter what bb ❣❣❣
Couldn't say it better myself. I'm a Gay geeky guy who wants everyone to just be happy. But Bi people get a little extra respect from me because they get so much shit from both sides, it's not fair. Hope you are doing amazing
It's definitely a good thing because other kids can watch this and learn to accept themselves and live happy without fear of what the braindead idiot masses think.
I think all the guys and girl watching are basically just like “ok so what you’re saying is I have a chance” 😂😂
David Perry haha
Omg your hair cut.. you look so cuuute! ☺️
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This was so vulnerable wow thanks for telling your story Luke this is really important
First Dan and then Luke. I feel blessed ❤🏳️🌈🤝🏳️🌈🤝🏳️🌈
crunchypudding who's dan
@@yabsira1321 A british youtuber
Love a Bisexual King, I relate to this so much. Thank you for being such an amazing human being xo
This is lovely! It’s great to see so many people embracing themselves and being proud of who they are, and it’s amazing that you’re so confident to post a video like this. Happy pride month! 🌈
*The king has returned* 🤴
We accept and love u, deserve the best and don’t let anyone tell u otherwise 💕💛
Glad u spoke about this matter bc there isn’t much diversity according men in the community
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Thank you so much for making this video. It's really helped me accept my sexuality, and boy focusing in what people think. 💖
Edit: OMG!! Thanks Luke for liking my comment!
ABBY Tombs he unliked it ah
Aw because u edited it he unliked it
Being a bi girl in the closet this means a lot to me 💙💜💗
same 💙💜💗
this is so similar to my experience discovering my bisexuality. especially the part about not having crushes on the same sex while still being attracted to them in moves/media etc. it made everything so much more complicated and confusing. ugh this was so good thank you for sharing your story
I'm so proud of you! I'm currently struggling with my sexuality and it helps so much seeing you speak about it! ❤️😘
It's so helpful when we know we're not alone in what can be a brutal world. 🌻
Proud of you. 🌈
Damn. This is deep. I'm glad you're doing better now. You're so strong. Thank you for your message.
This was beautiful. Thank you for being vulnerable and sharing 🖤
It's like Luke and I think the same! I'm really glad I subscribed to you. You are so amazing, baby! I love you sooooooo much!!! ✨💞
Kevaun McClorrine thank you! Ily❤️
@@LukeAlexander ily2 bby 💞
You know when I was younger I didn't believe in bisexuality. At almost 30 I understand and I think more importantly I don't care. People are people and everyone has a different orientation. Hope you're in a better place bro
Thank you so much for making this. I'm bi as well but mostly still in the closet (told a few friends.) This gave me some confidence so maybe I'll be able to come out to others now. 💗💜
Misty is not cool good luck!❤️
@@LukeAlexander aww ty 💙
Thank you so, so much for this video Luke.
So proud of you! Its such a hard video to make ❤️
NiamhH thank you❤️
Luke we love and accept you always💛🌻 You are so Inspiring and ily as always💕 Stay Amazing😍
thank you for making this video, not many bisexuals talk about coming out on youtube, not that they have to, but its a great feeling seeing more people like me on the platform
I hate that some people still treat someone bad just because he doesn't fit their preference
Finally my cravings for a new video have been satisfied
OMG. I had to pause when you spoke about the extent of the bullying at the second school. Can't even imagine. Your perspective is needed and you are loved. Thank you for sharing.
So proud of you!!
Thank you so much for this intimate insight into your life. It is so brave of you to be so raw and vulnerable. We love you for who you are and for the love and courage and laughs you bring to the world. Thank you, Luke. You're going to go so far in life. Heck, you already have. Lots of love. 💛🌻
Jen Curry thank you so much ❤️
I'm so proud of you Luke. As a fellow bi i could relate so much to your story. I still struggle but i think i'm heading on the right direction. Thank you so much for opening up, this video is going to help so many people.
Luke.I want you to know,that you’re not the only one in this journey of being bi and carry this “burden” for so long.I am too,and it’s ok.I had the luck of not being bullied like you did,but it was other times.I’m quite sure you’ll get so well in your life,because you’re not just a regular guy.You’re special and amazingly adorable.Give life a time to bring you what you deserve.Hope you the best.(sorry poor English).Take care.
Mario Murano thank u❤️
I'm 16 and it was quite the tough job to finally admit myself and come out as a Bi myself. For the last 3-4 years I kinda felt like something was up.
I was doubtful since I have never been with a girl and done anything with a girl, so how did I know? But now, I know. I just know. And I think that's all that matters!
I'm happy finally being able to accept this side of myself and just move on!
Thank you Luke! You are an inspiration!
You are such an underrated UA-camr! You are so great!!
EDIT:
I wanted to add a point I think i could use some help with.
Parents.
My mom does not believe me. She thinks this is a phase and since I haven't been with a girl before, she thinks that it'll go away.
The thing is, I don't think it will. I am heavily attracted to girls, and I would love to be with one (but with certain conditions, but that's because I'm a hopeless romantic). I just can't seem to come up with good points to make her understand.
Lol I'm screwed
Fan Of Most Stuff she doesn’t need to understand, as long u do and she accepts u then that’s what matters
I had the same issue happen when I came out to my mum. I'm still having issues accepting being bi but I am really glad that you have :D
I'm so proud of you for having the courage to come out. Bisexual men have it especially hard. Bi girls are seen as hot while bi guys are seen as unmasculine, which is ridiculous bc your masculinity has nothing to do with your sexuality.
I myself am bisexual (I'm a female) and I have come out to a ton of my friends, all of which have been accepting. But my parents have this weird theory that bi ppl don't exist (bisexuals are "confused" or just want attention), so I don't know how to come out to them. I'm sure they'd accept me, but I don't want to be called crazy, you know? Do you have any tips on how to come out? Should I just wait until I get a gf to show I'm not confused (I've had boyfriends in the past)?
I love your videos, btw 💙
Cuz men extremely fetishize bi women
So happy you were able to talk about this! Your story is so inspiring and I think it will help so many people especially because there aren’t many stories about bisexual males
This video can also help others, like I once was, who needs to accept and love themselves and tell people about mental health issues, etc. Was very hard for me to tell people I have Bipolar Disorder. A lot of people think BP folks are like serial killers and bs like that. So, I think this video will encourage people to share a wide variety of issues. Maybe even ask for help if they're addicted to drugs or alcohol as an example. So proud of you, Luke. 🌻
You are one of the few LGBT UA-camrs that don't make a big deal of their sexuality on the channel and this something alot of people in the closet and everyone else realise that sexuality isn't a big deal and that life doesn't need to be all about sexuality and you have everything else to be proud of. Thank you for that
to anyone who is struggling with their sexuality and coming out or has homophobic parents and people in their lives , I love you and you are valid.
this is such an incredible and raw video Luke, it clearly took a lot for you to make it and i hope that you can feel comfortable in yourself more! also i'm also bi and coming across bisexual coming out story videos are still hard, and i really resonated with a lot you said, so thank you for being so open 💞
I randomly found your channel today, and havd been binge-watching your videos. I enjoy them so much, thank you. I was pleasantly surprised to see this video. I absolutely love when LGBTQ+ people, especially young ones, live their truth. As an older bi/pan trans guy who still struggles with his identity and being accepted, I'm so proud of you for being a good role model. 🖤💜
Being the pride month...
I really hope people spread love and no hate to anyone...and kudos for you for coming out and that was indeed a gr at video tbh.
For all those fellow peeps out there; remember that there is love to all and no hate persists forever...and your soulmate is round the corner
LOVE IS LOVE....SPREAD LOVE TO ALLLLLLLL 💯💯💯💯💗
We love you Luke! We're happy that you're okay with sharing these personal things with us! 💕💝💖
I rarely comment but this video is *SO IMPORTANT!!* It certainly was a hard video for you to make but im so glad you made it. It matters A LOT to confused bisexual people to have sort of a role model, especially since you're an outspoken and articulate reliable youtuber.
Like you said, just talking about it is so freeing but also hearing someone talk about it and you relating to them is just as important.
I hope this video comes in the way of anyone who needs it ❤ ❤much love from me to all of you, accept yourself and be proud!
i'm super proud of you! sending you a big hug. thank you for taking the time to share your story, it really inspires me, that i'm still kinda questioning who i am.
This whole time I’m just like “how am I crying and he isn’t?”. Thank you for this story! ❤️
Luke, thank you for sharing this. Thank you for being kind and vulnerable and willing to feel that pain again. I know you will help others, and that is amazing. One thing you said about being around family who are good people and love you but make homophobic slurs made me very sad for you. In a way, I can relate. I face this issue and stigma surrounding my mental illness, Bipolar. It can be exhausting. I'm proud of you, and I'm happy my son likes watching Luke Alexander videos. He calls me up and says, "Luke's got a new post up," and we watch it together. You make a difference.
luke you are definitely one of my favorite youtubers, you are so open and genuine and it is so refreshing. Best wishes to you, i'm glad you are happier now :)
Seeing this helps me a lot, I'm also a bisexual dude and seeing people like you tell their stories makes me feel so much more valid. Thank you so much 💖💜💙
I feel this SO DEEPLY carrying around that secret hurts so much and then when it’s no longer a secret and something you can talk about openly 🥰 it’s the best feeling
i haven’t been on UA-cam lately and I’m here to say that I’ve been here since you were around 20k and now you’re at 74k! i’m so proud of how far you’ve come and proud of you as a person. coming out is something terrifying, especially out to the whole world. i wish nothing but happiness and love for you. remember that i’ll be here supporting and rooting for you
Karla M thank you❤️
I’m proud of you for putting this out❤️.. I’m glad you are finding yourself and starting to accept yourself.
Stories like this are a reminder why pride is so important. You never know who you're helping. Thank you for being vulnerable.
Ohmahgwaaash! I'm so excited about this video & yes, awareness. I have a VERY close guy friend who came out as a gay man 2 days ago, & I support him because it was a HUGE step for him. It was really hard for him hiding it for so long, so yeah. Thank you for this. ♥♡ Love ya! :]
OMG, thank you so much for sharing
It takes courage to talke about these experiences and be so honest and vulnerable. We are here and we support you and you're really brave :)
thank you sm for sharing this Luke. it makes me feel like my own experiences are more valid and I’m so glad your representing bisexual guys!!
We’re all human beings, worthy of love and respect. I’ve never understood what it is that makes people think it’s ok to bully and harass anyone who is “different”. Aren’t we all supposed to be different? Thank you for having the courage to tell your story. You are beautiful just as you are. ❤️🦋🌻
Marmaduke Scarlet I agree, we should all embrace each other’s differences ❤️
this video really helped me a lot , i know exactly how you feel with the self hatred and denial , i was confused also for the longest time , I'm bisexual also and I'm so proud of it now. At the beginning i didn't tell anyone also , but as more time passed i came out to my mom and sister and my friends and they are all accepting. Love you luke and your channel.
This broke my heart hearing about you getting bullied 😢 you are a beautiful soul thank you for telling us your story 💕
You're so adorable I'm sure you could help lots of guys feel comfortable coming out as bisexual. 😊
Flirting aside, I think these vids are really great and can help people (especially younger people) stop ever feeling ashamed or judged for having these feelings and learn to open their heart and embrace them. I am pushing 40 now and can say with absolute certainty that bisexuality is definitely a beautiful gift and has made me a much happier and less angry/sad person.
I recently uploaded a video of a description of my experience dating a Bisexual Guy. His sexuality alone did not bother me, it was the fact that he was so sneaky and dishonest about it. Watching other videos like this have given me a better perspective as to WHY he wasn’t upfront. Thank you! there are people who love u and accept you just the way you are 💖
I shouldn’t need to say this because I’m sure you already know, but we love and accept you!!! Keep doing you boo 💖💜💙
Luke, we will always accept and love you no matter what! And I am proud that you have shared this with us and I hope you find someone who will love just the way you are.
I’m crying 💞💞 so proud of you
Awww I’m so proud of you! The way your expressed yourself made me tear up💖
You are such an inspiration and I’m so glad u came to my recommended a few weeks ago xx ❤️
ILY ! Thank you for being so open with us. So much respect! Supporting you always
Thank you so much for your authenticity and sharing your story!! You’ve been through so much! We love you! 💙
This video was so important and I loved it. So proud of you being able to be open and honest about this part of your life.
This is so beautiful and inspiring. I'm not gay or bi but I am an empath and I can often feel the pain(or rather the emotions) of others. I want to be an ally to people. All kinds of people. I want to be a safe space and a safe war to listen and understand. So I just wanted to thank you for sharing your story and your struggle and your strength! I know I can't fully understand all of the pressures you go through but I do feel like I understand it just a little bit better now so thank you and much love
Wow, your story really moved me. I can't imagine how difficult that would have been growing up with your secret. I know from personal experience that not feeling free to live your truth is exhausting! I am confident that you will find someone in this life who loves you exactly as you are ❤️
This video is amazing. Thank you so much for sharing your experience!
Luke you are so strong for doing this! We love you no matter what (okay maybe not if you like murdered someone, but you know what I mean) “Don’t spend your life trying to be someone else’s definition of enough” ❤️❤️❤️
Luke, hear this from a motherly or aunt type figure - I say that because my son is your age. I'm not a cougar. I'm married to a Southern Baptist preacher. Anyway, that being said, you are going to find love in this life, and that person will be so lucky to have you in their lives, sweetie. 🌻
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Jen Curry thank u❤️
Amazing video, especially what you said towards the ending✨
I've never been bullied for my sexuality becausE I've never let it show that much (Okay once in school but it wasn't much) . And I don't think I can ever be out to anyone other than those few close friends but this was so beautiful and emotional to watch I CRIED LUKE YOU MADE ME CRY I've never cried for a yt video before, not this much. I had to take 2 min breaks just to breathe every now and then because you've been such an inspiration to me and to hear your story like this (like ik you've talked a bit about this before but LIKE THIS) and especially the parts about bullying etc was just ..jsjzjshz. but I'm so proud of you for not being afraid to put yourself out there and be all vulnerable, and I'm also grateful Because with every coming out video/story that I watch, I'm a little more comfortable with who I am. Thank you and ilyyyyyyy 💕💕💕🌈🌈🌈🌻🌻
Wow! Such a touching and amazing video. Thank you so much for sharing. You are truly an amazing and caring human being. You be you Luke! So proud ❤
Sweet D tysm❤️
Another future question for deep videos like this, if you do another one, you mentioned your mom became an alcoholic. I'm hoping she's now a recovering alcoholic. 🙏🤞 I just know you've talked about how you and your sisters left, but your little brothers, who either live with mom or grandma, they're in a safe environment, yes? I'm sure they are. They're cuties the one or two times I've seen them.
Jen Curry she is recovered now and they’re fine 😌❤️
@@LukeAlexander I figured so. I'm so happy to hear it. You can tell they look happy. I hope I didn't offend by asking that. I've seen alcohol addiction in my family. I guess I was just wondering more if the boys also live with Gran. But I understand now. Thanks for replying. You're a busy guy, I know.
I love this video is so real and important for the community and the people who are struggling with their sexuality i've following you since 20 k I think I love your channel
Greetings from Costa Rica💜✨
You brought up a good point about not giving a f***! One of my favorite music Icon people is Cardi B! I've always had a hard time accepting myself then it's like you are who you are and not letting people label you. So after that, I started Accepting Myself!!!
Your story is so much like mine,the living with women being bullied,everything. I relate to you so much,and I'm a bisexual man as well. Sending love brother
So proud of you 😍. Of course people will like you you're such an amazing person. Btw love the new look ❤️ love ya
You’re amazing Luke. You’ve been through a lot, as most of us have, and you are a very resilient person. I wish you all the best and hope you find someone worthy of you. You’re so handsome!
Earl
It’s so amazing that you share your story Luke❤️ we love you.
You had to go through a lot of stuff , glad you are doing better now.You are so brave you shared this with the entire internet , im proud of you.Happy pride month
You are amazing to speak about it. So good to hear how it was for you. For me as a Mum to two boys I'm trying my best to be as honest as possible with them so they hopefully understand their feelings more. Thank you for this video
your story broke my heart I just can't believe that we actually lived in a time when being different was an insult? I remember my school how people would throw gay word as an insult and thank god it has changed a little bit. It's still hard to come out and to accept yourself but I love you so much for sharing your story and hopefully in near future there will be more acceptance towards all people. Everyone can love and be whoever they want to and ik you'll find someone who'll make you so happy!❤
Such a great story, your journey. It's good to find out you're not alone in all this
I’m so glad you made this vlog. Bi people get shade from both straight people and gays, and that’s not ok. All the best to you.
you are such a beautiful human being inside and out and i’m so happy and proud that you have started to realize that! so much love for you 💓
blair charles thank you sm❤️
I love the fact that you said it’s just a small aspect of the personality. This made me reflect about my own life. Thank you for this meaningful story 👍🏻
I don't know you personally, but my pride and respect for you is endless! You are exactly perfect just as you are! Thank you for sharing (part of) your story! ❤️ xox.
Idk why but i feel proud of you Luke❤️
Luke, thank you so much for sharing your story and helping me embrace my identity as bisexual. We always love and support you no matter what 💕
Lukie, my dude. Can I just say that this is the most relatable video I have ever watched? I have struggled so much with my sexuality in life, just like you. I couldn't decide If I was gay or straight for the longest point, and honestly I still cant. I roughly estimate I am bisexual, but the way I feel changes daily. I remember hating myself so so so much for not knowing or understanding that I liked both sexes. Growing up was hard but I've learned to accept myself for who I am. Of course naturally I have some bad days but those days are few and far between. It's just crazy how much your story resonates with mine. I also feel the same way about dating apps and how hook up culture is nice but ultimately very empty. I could go on for forever, but basically. A few things, you're so smart, brave, kind, talented, cute, and maybe most important AWARE, like socially. If you weren't doing UA-cam or going to school for acting I'd say you'd be such a good psychologist. Anyways, Luke you're the best, you give me strength to post my own content here on youtube and the strength to be who I am❤ so much love for you boi
Jamie Bowser thank you Jamie! And that’s exactly why I made this video was for people like you. I hope it made you feel less alone❤️
aw luke we love you