Why YouTubers & Influencers Can't Take Constructive Criticism (exposing the truth)
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- Опубліковано 16 лип 2019
- so recently I gave constructive criticism to a social media influencer / UA-camr on twitter and they chose to respond in an immature and nasty manner and repeated to do so towards me along with the help of their followers and that is what promoted me to make this video. I hope you all know that this goes beyond them and some petty drama, this situation and video speaks on how social media influencers and UA-camrs don't know how to take constructive criticism and it's something that is a real issue here on the internet so I thought I would touch some light on this issue.
I hope you enjoyed this video and if so please give it a thumbs up and share it, and I'd love to hear your opinion in the comments. Also don't forget to subscribe and turn the bell on and I hope to see y'all in my next video
with love:
-Luke
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I love your channel because it's not just about "spilling tea". You take the time to educate people on very real and very important issues happening today. I actually found you through your video about romanticizing mental illness and I knew instantly that I would like you. Keep it up, you're doing good things here ❤️
megan nicole aw thank you ❤️
Some youtubers have 100s of comments which makes for a good environment. There are some who cant take any comments unless coming from their fans or themselves. They feel like they are steeling their thunderrrr
We need more influencers like Luke who can speak the truth and doesn’t act nasty or like smug whenever someone else does the same thing to him
yes and we need more people like him in real life not just influencers/youtubers
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Inés Cabo excuse me
See this is why I don't have twitter. Because it's too toxic. Just be like Beyonce and only come out when you need to
I think after you realized you made a wrong assumption you should have said something to the agree of - "I didnt realize this was the meaning before and was trying to defend my beliefs in romanticizing mental illnesses." Instead of not replying, but the way he responded was immature and I do understand why you were so heated about it
Yes that did bug me as well.
Twitter is just a no. It's too much drama on there. You can't agree to disagree. Everyone has an opinion. Some present opinions as facts. It's all uncalled and draining. I stay off of it as often as possible. Keeps me less stress and less worked up over things that have little to no significance in my day to day.
S P yeah I really need to take a break
@@LukeAlexander Do it!!! Please! it's deserved! You are more than doing a good job here on UA-cam. Breaks to quiet the noise is necessary.
I’m on there for the dogs
S P omg i totally get whatchu mean, i have to be off twitter for at least a week or two sometimes, it can be such a toxic app.
I barely look at my timeline cause I don’t like seeing political talk on there. Cause the way some people come across doing it is downright nasty or unappealing. Can they just be respectful of it and not bash at people who don’t agree with them?
Me: *about to make a comment*
Luke: finish the whole video before you comment
Me: oh
Sam hah it’s more so for people who r gonna make a statement before I make my point
Luke Alexander yeah now I know who you were talking to😂 people are too quick to jump to conclusions
@@LukeAlexander The type of people who would do that are the type of people who wouldn't watch it in its entirety even if you asked.
I love seeing you like this. You have a strong opinion and are not afraid to say what you think. But, you're also mature enough to see where you're wrong
Fien Mankor thank you❤️
Totally agree that Thomas was acting immature etc.
But “did you get the likes? Did you get the engagement? Did you get the house? Did you get the man?” Is HILARIOUS
maggie o. vlogs exactly!! 😂
I'm not a fan of Thomas but when you start a comment with "ummm" and end it with a passive aggressive "u do u sis", that's IS very rude and NOT constructive. It shuts the recipient off to any actual critique because it is a straight attack and causes people to be defensive.
If you simply said "I dont think it's right to make merch off of depression" that's different.
I dont believe you should be getting any hate either way. Btw found your videos recently. I quite enjoy them.
Yes that rubbed me the wrong way as well. Also I didn’t like how he couldn’t admit that he was wrong in the actual twitter conversation... like I get it, it’s hard to backtrack but I think it’s weird how he’s so adamant that he’s so good with taking criticism and owning up to his mistakes but in this situation obviously couldn’t.
If you had simply not said anything you would’ve actually felt better. But no you have to be a cocky little bitch with the last word. See now we’re the same WOOOOO. See these comments go no where fuck off and live your life.
Me: removing my like from this vid
Deanna I mean yeah he did come across p rude but the point is still still valid 😐
*PLEASE* all I ask is that you listen to what I have to say before leaving a comment. Thank you all and plz check the description box❤️
Luke Alexander I love your videos and personality. I know your responses to Thomas meant no harm and I knew exactly where you was coming from. You were mature, honest, and even owned up to a different perspective. Love you and your videos 💗💗 plus it’s funny when you critique😂
Nani thank you❤️
I love your content, so mature and honest, I think we all understand your point on Twitter, love you soooo much, I would've reacted the same way. ❤️
It is true that the fact that Twitter only allows a limited amount of characters influences the way we message people. Your comment, for someone who probably is used to getting attack, might seem a little agresive. I do think you should have informed yourself a better before making that comment. However, Thomas, in my opinion, could have solved this situation with a simple no offensive response. But he chose to make a big deal about it on purpose, which is not right at all. This shouldn't have escalated to that level. I understand where you were coming from with your comment and I do not believe that you had bad intentions with it. (Sorry for my english).
i definitely agree with the fact that influencers can’t see the difference between constructive criticism and hate. he definitely should have responded better but he also should have understood that this proves that he has viewers all over the world! so if someone who doesn’t live where he does and most of his fan base, they might not understand the culture or references in my opinion
This is besides the Point buttt your skin is looking flawless 👏🏽😍
Azul Blu thank you but I am wearing make up in this
Luke Alexander you still look great sis🧖🏻♀️
@@LukeAlexander I wish looking that good with make up on lmao
I read that wrong at first as "your butt skin is looking flawless" 😆
the points you're making are absolutely valid, nevertheless i do think your intial tweet was worded quite standoffish and might have been part of the reason why thomas tried his damnest to answer with some kind of clap back.
communication via text is so prone to misunderstandings and misreadings in tone, but it's all made worse when people try to save face when confronted with criticism by reacting immaturely/rudely; especially on twitter, which is known as a breeding ground for drama and petty arguments over virtually nothing.
i agree with previous comments saying you could've taken a somewhat kinder approach in critiquing thomas (more along the lines of how you paraphrased your tweet in this video) or could've made it clear you weren't aware this sad boi thing was a character, but the way some of his followers tried to turn things around on you by accusing you of profiting off your video about mental illness is downright ridiculous- you said it yourself, the money you make from yt by producing content is nothing like selling an actual product to your followers.
calico thank you for spelling critiquing right. You must be one of a kind.
Most UA-camrs really only apologize because they get caught or because they’re losing fans. They never really feel sorry
Let them know, Luke!!! These UA-camrs today are a MESS!
I totally agree with what you said BUT your comment on Twitter was shady, you gotta admit that
wait what was shady about it? *just genuinely curious*
Anna Everett which one?
Luke Alexander I think she was referring to the original tweet. At least I thought that your first tweet was a bit shady.
It’s great that you stood up against romanticising mental illness. However, ‘you do you sis’ could’ve been taken as sarcastic/snarky. At least that’s how I took it.
People just sensitive and read thing in their heads in the wrong way. Even if it sounded shady, I personally would've been like it's a character not a Emma Chamberlain rip off or trying to profit off mental illness and moved on with my day
Andrea Mota Yeah. Luke might not have meant it that way but maybe the influencer took it as rude. Either way, they acted immature so unnecessarily and Luke took it well.
Finally the video has come. I kept on seeing hints and what not on your stories. Btw I love your videos and can you do please some more vids on mental illness
I totally agree with you on the main point of the video.
BUT, your first comment on his merch was not just based on disinformation (which is fine, you understood that and it happens to everybody), but it was also sassy. He was immature, no doubt about that, but you have to admit that the opinion you had about him has influenced the wording of your critique. Try to immagine: someone you don't know express an opinion you think it's not valid (because it's based on the wrong premises) and it is also kinda of rude and cheeky and self-promoting. I get that your first instict is to use sarcasm.
With that being said, that doesn't excuse everything that came after.
Agreed 👍
Monica Ritter See this a comment I can agree with. I can see both the sides of the situation
you didnt sound so polite and innocent in your responses, saying "ummm" and "you do you sis" come off as pretty petty when youre critiquing something. You also also made it a public issue when you decided to tweet thomas instead of just opening a private dialogue in the DMs.
I see Luke Alexander, I click. You keep it real. Thanks for posting!
Personally I think it would've still been nice to hit Harbert up as soon as you realized it was a character. And saying "you do you" to a stranger is sassy so you should expect some back. BUT, with that being said, I do wonder if Halbert has the rights to the Sad Boys character and why he couldn't just be polite/come up with something original for merch. That's like you making merch of spongebob :/ just wtf
I like that he's matture enough to take constructive critisism as it is... For making ya better.
Ly
you absolutely did the right thing. he and his followers were obviously immature. i love how appreciative you are with your followers. you are completely different from most youtubers and i appreciate and look up to that. you’re very mature for a 19 year old! :) I’m only 16 but i look up to you and you are amazing! thank you for being very positive and caring about the people like me.
Loproti thank u❤️
We love honest people like you in times when people have become so fake
I agree with you 100%. Sadly, influencers on instagram are super rude when you criticize their photo or place an opinion that isn't "omg LOVE this photo!!"
This. “Outdoor” influencers get so butthurt when you tell them they should be visually modeling their own leave no trace principles to be a good example for others to follow. I’ve seen so many pictures in which they just be trampling some fragile ecosystem or native plants and they block you for pointing it out lmao
This video came out at the perfect time because I’m in a huge fight with one of my ‘friends’. This was helpful because he’s been so immature about it and this showed that being the bigger person says a lot about you. Thanks!
you and Blair walnuts are literally my favorite UA-camrs like god finally REALS
Sophia Aiello thank you❤️
no offense, i mostly agree with you but your first comment definitely came off as rude and i don’t see how you could have thought it sounded polite. other then that i see your point and i like your videos (:
I wish that people would be classier when having a disagreement, even when the opinions are very different. UA-cam used to be a fun place to watch videos but I can’t scroll through the home page without seeing some kind of new drama. I’m not saying a few years ago there was no drama at all, it just didn’t seem to happen every damn week. I wish people could just get attention the right way by just focusing on themselves by creating what they are passionate about rather than using petty arguments to get clout. (Not saying Luke is doing this, I love him and his channel and social media has just become extremely toxic this way♥️)
Thank you! I've thought this for months/years now and it's refreshing to see someone speak out about it
How dOes your skin look so damn good like? how???
Aleksandra Janković I’m wearing makeup
TBH I DIDNT KNOW SAD BOY WAS A THING.
I binge watch all your commentary videos and was so happy when I saw that you uploaded a new one! Love how passionate, well informed and well researched you always are. Keep them coming!
I love how you take criticism and you learn from your mistakes, but he didn't so that's his loss. Love you 💕
I love how even if you give youtubers criticism they just think you’re bulling them.
Finally an influencer that actually influences their followers in a good way. Good for you, babes 👏🏼 I’m proud.
Most UA-cams get very offended when getting criticism if anything the criticism could help them be a better influencer
tbh it's nice that you're so authentic in your videos. we need more people like this!
You were so mature in the situation...thank u for making a video about this and spreading your message across💗
Ugh, I fucking love you, dude. Keep up the phenomenal work!
I truly support your content LuKe. We need more youtubers like you that speak up the truth about these ignorant inmature influencers that all they care about is money and fame.
love how you take the time to correct people while at the same time correct yourself. Kudos! :)))
Luke you speak the truth. I know it now. Some influencers really are immature. I don't like to watch them acting like a teenager going through puberty. Your explanation was good and satisfactory. I'm happy I found your channel. Love from Turkey 💛
im so glad that someone is making this video. I really love how you say your opinion w/out bs-ing anything. So many "influencers" are so entitled and arrogant and they don't realize that some people actually look up to them so they need to be smart about the things they do and what they say to people.
i totally agree! also, i love seeing these types of videos from you, you are so well-spoken, open-minded and you are able to make very interesting points on whichever topic you talk about. i love it!♥️
Thank you for being one of the only genuinely honest UA-camrs. You really are a role model and actually realise and own up to when you are wrong. Thanks for being mature and addressing this issue because it is so apparent that this is always happening. I think we all just need to understand situations better and be more mature.
Ahhhhh. Never thought I would ever get noticed. I been watching your videos for so long and thanks for being so real.
I love how hot the tea is this year , but ily more mate stay rad 🤙
I truly admire how you are one of the few people who can own up to their mistakes and try to fix whatever you did wrong :))
Bravo Luke, for someone so young you are mature beyond your age and really show that you don't need drama and unnecessary bullcrap to make an entertaining video and content. I loved the way you explained the situation and showed us where you maybe went wrong and that there are ways to deal with these things without overreacting and causing a massive ruckus.
I love your videos soo much luke!! And your personalityy!!! And thoughtts!! I just came back from school and watching the rest of it. I've been watching for half a year now. And people like you are what make this world bearable, ugh there's too many people who don't understand what the word influence entails. It's not just a status, it's responsibility and you gott WORK TO KEEP IT IN LINE. Kids really dont understand who good influencers are ( their opinions may vary). I always comment under your videos and sometimes i get a reply back and i'm sure its the same for everyone. I love how you actually the time out of your hectic life to read OUR thoughts too, please never stop being this real even when you blow up on youtube. You've been through alot but you use your experiences to educate people in such a fun quirky way ( occasionally hitting the woah when things get too heated😂😂😂). You're gonna get everything you need if you stay true to yourself❤❤❤❤ please NEVER change. ❤
preach it. SO much respect for you x
Laur Medley thanks Laur❤️
You're one of the few people that makes me want to make a channel bc I feel so comfortable listening your opinions and thoughts - idk if sounds stupid but I feel like we're friends and you're talking to me so thank you for this amazing content and don't change 🥺
I seen this on your Twitter I agree with you influencers are so defensive all they want are yes ppl. I know all about Thomas he's supposedly changed and grew up since his cancellation but I see old habits die hard! Love you Luke keep being true to yourself and secure about who u are 💕
My mum works with people who have mental health issues along with people who have disabilities. I can’t STAND when people act like it’s a joke or it’s taken not seriously. I appreciate you a lot! You can educate people rather than *spilling the tea*
Am I the only fan of Luke who thought this video did end up coming across as very whiny and... idk. Like a twitter rant in video form basically. I watched to the end just in case there was a point that I thought really warranted it since he said there was, but I didn’t see it.
I like how you just get it right. You get to the point and mention true and important facts which is really not common these days. You make sure we get what you mean and that you explain everything you say wich makes it even better. Great guy. Great youtuber👍🏼
and this ladies and gentlemen is one of the reasons I love Luke Alexander: HE IS SOO MATURE
I appreciate that all you do is try to get your point across. That’s so important and it’s admirable. You’re honestly so incredible Luke. You’re very smart, opinionated, fair and realistic. Stay true ❤️
You are one of the most genuine UA-camrs ever. You always speak about problems without being over dramatic and rude. I really hope that your Account gets big because you really deserve it!
Christina G thank u❤️
I think this type of people when seeing their follower numbers rising they believe “oh, I’m so popular everybody loves me and I’m ALWAYS right”. When someone like you appear to tell them “hey maybe this is not as right as you think” they instantly feel attacked and start using derogatory things to say to you because it makes them feel better. I mean 10000 does not tell others you’re an incredible person, compassionate and more sh*t. Followers only help to inflate egos, there I said it. It’s so sad when they act so immature, jeezz! Great video as always (and I hope you’re taking a beautiful cup of coffee 😁)
No you’re so right
it's so hard to have a mature conversation / constructive argument with people these days, especially on twitter. certain individuals are quick to get defensive when they don't like what other people got to say 😒😒😒
yUs- I love this commentary type of videos you do and I live for how honest you are
I recently found your channel & binge watched a LOT of your videos I honestly think that you deserve more recognition because the message you put out is really important & the quality of your videos is bomb
I love that you stick with your opinion, and if you’re wrong, you accept it , you’re so genuine
Bri Whittembury thank u❤️
I just hope that this is the end of the drama and I'm really glad that you're not so petty that you deliberately instigate conflict because this definitely could have been blown so much more out of proportion.
Clicked so fast can't wait ❤
That video about romanticizing mental illness was the first one of yours that I watched...and I SUBSCRIBED 👏🏾
I especially like this community you've created because we're all able to help each other out. In my opinion offering different perspectives and being considerate of each other is showing you care more than blindly supporting someone always.
Louise Rentier exactly, thank u❤️
I've been binge watching ur videos , so glad I found your channel I've been becoming bored of the normal anonymous "spilling tea" channels
Twitter arguments are exhausting... Hope you're feeling better, Luke, and glad that you had your followers at your back, too!!! ~Much love
I just came across your channel yesterday and I’ve been binge watching your videos since! Your content is so refreshing and funny and insightful man. Keep up the awesome job 💖
In reference to jasoline Hernandez who said “hey maid, I see you wearing your maid outfit like you always do”. Lmao
i know you said to not comment before video ended. but halfway through I already agree 100% I hate this "clout" term first off all, sounds like a disease second, now no influencer cant do anything without it being "for clout". please never change. please don't ever let UA-cam fame get to you. we need souls like you to stay on this channel. ❤
I love how mature and honest you are, keep up the good work ❤
I think your only mistake was linking the vid. maybe if you would of thrown a "made a video on this topic recently" he might not of reacted in that way. I'm guessing he thought you linked for 'likes and engagement' off his merch post. either way, love ya.
t. lass yeah those weren’t my intentions but I do regret that I said that
Finally the videos out can’t wait to watch
Dude I’m a fan and I agree with the message that mental health issues are being wrongly profited from and that it needs to stop, but this was hard to watch. He shouldn’t have responded so harshly - it’s childish - but you doing this and picking apart every little word he said and justifying what you said is childish too. This drama should have stayed on Twitter, I didn’t sub for drama; I subbed for some comedy (like those coachella and met gala vids) as well as some deep-dives (like the original mental health in media video).
Blue Cunningham I understand where ur coming from but I hope you can see the bigger picture and how this more an example that I’m using to make a commentary about how influencers can’t take criticism
i haven't been on twitter for a long time and my god aren't i glad of it. so much happier
Just subscribed half way through the video. I believe in your pure intentions and I’m sad this happened to you! I also find your videos funny but just haven’t subscribed yet. I like that you can take criticism and change and you know that doesn’t make you a bad person for changing!
It's always hard talking to people who always look for negative intent in very ambiguous situations.
I had a roommate, I love her so much but she always attacked before explaining her side to people and she always came across as a very immature and aggressive person. Now that we're older I think she understands that you can't "win" when you react the way she did.
I love that you acknowledged the fact that you didn't understand what "sad boy" meant and I can see how it can easily be mistaken for "the romanticizing of mental illness" and also the whole Twitter bio. How he and the "sidekick" reacted was really: 😬.
Anyway, well done. 👌🏼
I am obsessed with your channel !!!! Worth a subscription
Accountability for your actions important, like you probably wouldnt get this irl. The internet doesn't really set a good example on how to be a decent human, I'm sorry you've gone through this. :(
Always keepin it real! Its sad that you're one of the few ones who address criticism maturely.
Your so honest! And your points are very well articulate...
Haely Flores thank u❤️
Omg I’m early for once 😔👉🏻👈🏻
I honestly love these types of videos you post because I always thought it wasn’t good to let out your opinion but you made me realize it’s ok to have an opinion lol
Much love ❤️!
Ygpeaches this comment makes me so happy❤️
Luke Alexander
thank you for taking the time to reply to me it means a lot, you’re one my favorite UA-camrs! ☺️❤️
Ok so i watched the whole video....NOW i feel that what you did was totally your fault
You didnt do your research and being overly critical how can u expect him to be nice. It was ur duty to do your research before you go on a rant.
mona barathi I agree but just because someone comes at you doesn’t mean you should do it back. I think in a way they were both immature and none of it is acceptable since you should turn the other cheek.
so crazy how these "influencers" are out there influencing their followers when they can't even take constructive criticism and get influenced by others themselves
I can literally see you climbing your way to a million subscribers.. you have a unique style of videos and when you speak you sound knowledgeable and fluent its nice to relate with someone on UA-cam who doesn’t make you feel dumb for watching them lol, just wait it’s gonna happen by next year watch I’m calling it now
Yesss I’m here for it 👏🏻!
im finally early!!
edit: i love your vids ❤️
another edit: ahhhhhh Luke ❤️ my comment 😆😆
i definitely understand why you thought it was romanticizing depression (although i do disagree with that and achknowledge that you also changed ur opinion on that) but maybe if you had critiqued him more respectfully he wouldn't have reacted so defensively (he was def wrong for doing that). idk u preached a lot abt respectful constructive criticism at the end of the video but imo i don't think your comment was THAT respectful :/ i'm not defending him cuz idrk him or anyone involved in yt dramas and shit but that's just how i view this whole debacle
I’m binge watching your channel. I love how unique you are and your UA-cam channel are different from the rest.
Love your videos! Getting the tea and having a bonus brownie lmfao
I agree with you on most of the points you make, but I think the fact that you sort of were passive aggressive/dismissive sounding in your constructive criticism(ie but you do you sis)and that caused him to have a stronger reaction rather than just politely saying it was a character and you might have misunderstood. I do agree if he was more mature he would have still responded in a polite manner to criticism but obviously not everyone can. I myself try to be good at taking constructive criticism, or even if I disagree, have a civil discussion but it can still come off as defensive. So yes, I agree he comes off as entitled influencer but I think there’s a better way of presenting criticism where it’s constructive rather than just pointing out flaws. Just some constructive criticism for your constructive criticism -sincerely a art major (where your soul and reason for being is constantly subjectively criticized 😂)
Can we take a minute and appreciate a few things-
1. It's pretty early in the morning and his dedication to get this video up
2. How transparent and honest he is..cheers mate ✌️
Nish 0356189 thank u❤️
i restarted watching you tonight, and you post it? jesus man, you are awesome
Can we just take a moment and appreciate that clear skin?
Luke You’re So Wise 🙏🏻❣️
I’m so hype that your channel is growing and it’s growing rapidly and you’re getting the proper recognition and support for your amazing, creative, honest, intellectual content and I’m vv happy for you ♥️
iris aw thank u❤️
this is why i like u, i didn't think that it was profiting off of mental illness in the first place but i appreciate your opinion. i followed thomas for a while but unfollowed since he started getting in to drama. i like the creators i look up to to take criticism and not just build a career around pettiness and unnecessary drama. great vid as always!