What is Emotional Switching with Borderline Personality Disorder?
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- Опубліковано 20 лип 2018
- This video answers question: What is emotional switching with borderline personality disorder? When we talk about the term emotional switching with borderline personality disorder we're talking about changing emotional states from positive to negative or from negative to positive. We would refer to changing within a type of emotional state (like negative to negative or positive positive) as simply emotional changing. Borderline personality disorder is a Cluster B personality disorder (dramatic, emotional, and erratic cluster). It's in the same cluster as antisocial, narcissistic, and histrionic personality disorders. There are nine symptom criteria for borderline personality (only five have to be met for diagnosis) including frantic efforts to avoid abandonment, unstable and intense relationships, identity disturbance, impulsivity, suicidal behavior, affective instability, chronic feelings of emptiness, inappropriate intense anger or a difficulty controlling anger, and paranoid ideation. We can see how a number of these symptom criteria could be connected to this concept of emotional switching. Again, changing emotions within the same polarity is not emotional switching. I'll just refer to this as emotional changing and the most common emotional changes that have been observed in the research are anxiety - sadness sadness - anxiety and anxiety - anger. All of these changes are within the negative polarity, so they're all moving from one negative emotional state to another negative emotional state. The probability that somebody would go from negative to positive or positive and negative in terms of emotional state is referred to as switching propensity. The size of the change is referred to as switching distance. Research has shown that emotional propensity is the same for those with BPD and those without it, but emotional distance is greater for those with BPD.
It's this trait which makes partners of people with BPD leave. Sudden explosions of rage over nothing in the middle of a perfectly normal conversation.
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My husband has Borderline, I sent him this video so he may understand what I mean by “your switch flipped.” Thanks for all your videos
DizzyDollie7 my husband has borderline but I’m afraid to send him anything since he recently got diagnosed and I’m not sure the therapist has told him I know. 😩
@@GloriaSol If he doesn't know that he has BPD I would maybe start with a different video to show him. I have BPD, and I know that a big part of the problem is that we aren't aware of the differences between what we are doing and what other people usually do. We know something is wrong usually because other people don't act the same or understand our feelings, but we don't know what is exactly wrong. It's a lack of awareness. Dr Daniel fox has a bunch of really good videos (He specializes in BPD) and maybe I would start by showing him those videos first. A big part of recovering from BPD (you can recover from it) is becoming self-aware which is what I am trying to do.
@Gakheira Why shouldn't the therapist reveal it to him? Mine told me that I have BPD
I think this study is absolutely correct. Switching abruptly from positive to negative, especially when the switching includes intense anger and/or violence, is what differentiates BPD from other disorders, in my opinion. I've never witnessed a diagnosed BPD person abruptly switch from negative to positive. This could indicate that the cause of BPD switching is not mood instability, but rather it is barely controlled chronic anger that can erupt at the slightest provocation.
I have BPD, I can switch both ways but it is definitely more rare to switch from negative to positive but sometimes I do that. Usually it just takes longer for that to happen than for it to go the other way
I never heard of emotional switching until this video.
I have BPD and aspergers traits ... I have only been diagnosed few months ago with my BPD. My levels of empathy were much higher when I was younger. I am in my early 40s now and as I went through life with its so many disappointments and hurts, I found that my affective empathy has reduced dramatically. My cognitive empathy is not affected however the ability to feel and sympathize is greatly reduced. I might add that in some situations I will have some affective empathy but in others I would not really have any. I am trying to see if there is any pattern in these situations. I know for a fact that this reduced empathy had become as a defensive mechanism so I am no longer getting hurt or disappointed from previous relationships or work situations. The lack of empathy is either with people I know or not know .
I am unfamiliar with this term in relation to Borderline Personality Disorder. Watching this video has introduced me to new information!
Thank you for your video. It just helped me in a very DARK family situation ❤️
My anger is towards myself and internal instead of blowing up
But every other single symptom I have especially the emptiness and lack of identity
Anyone else?
Great talk...Your videos give me further insight to my BPD...
Thanks
You’re welcome!
It was interesting that the borderline personality disorder control group showed switching distance only when there was emotional switching .
This was very interesting to learn, I was not aware that this was something done.
Fascinating! I have definitely experienced this w an X. I seem to attract these types as my Mother/Brother are in the same personality disorder cluster. I wish to stop attracting these types of people and do not know how. Thanks for your work!
Identification is helpful. 💙
You're explanation is really simililar like my emotional nemesis
Excellent video! Would really love it if you did a video on borderline and the feeling of emptiness too!
I will add your idea to the production list. Thank you!
This video provides clarity with explanation of the differences between emotional changing v switching, the general negative affect associated with switching, and the factors of propensity v distance.
I very much appreciate these videos. I have BPD, diagnosed as a child, and don't have access to appropriate treatment, and general therapists aren't equipped for things like this. I've never really been told much at all about BPD and this is very much helping and opening my eyes up to how my mind may work. Thank you!
I believe there is an inexpensive workbook you can order to help you with your BPD, which is supposed to be very effective, but can't remember what it's called!
fascinating Dr Todd, I think I,m fairly knowledgeable about bpd, but this term was new to me
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I would really appreciate it if you could include the sources if you mention any research. I’m a university student with bpd traits and complex ptsd. I have access practically any information. I just need the first author and the name of the study. Obviously a lot of what you explain is your own knowledge and wisdom as a clinician. I really appreciate that. The most difficult part of learning about anything in mental health is that not enough research exists to “prove” really important concepts are valid. There isn’t enough funding for basic research. Personality is a developmental issue. Therefore BPD is a developmental issue. I’ve only been able to find one longitudinal study. The research will never catch up to reality.
My mother becomes a child, positive, negative.. to singing to stomping and abandons me. But she is unloving as well... sometimes she may rub my feet and say how much she loves me. Yet is never there for me. I suspect borderline and have for a while and narcissism. Unsure how she got it. I’m hurting and developed codependency where I depend on her for emotional fulfilment, food, clothing and transport. She childifies me with stuffed animals too.
Im so sorry thats happening to you. I can relate somewhat.
Thank you Dr Grande 🙏
Thanks Dr. Grande. You mentioned limitations of this study, and on that point, there was another paper by Houben et al (The Specificity of Emotional Switching in Borderline Personality Disorder in Comparison to Other Clinical Groups, Personal Disord., 2016, Vol 7(2), 198-204), published shortly after the one you are referring to (I am guessing that it is Emotional Switching in Borderline Personality Disorder: A Daily Life Study, Pers. Disord., 2016, Vol. 7(1), 50-60) , where in addition to a BPD clinical group, they investigated a PTSD, bulimia and depression groups, all in comparison with each other and in comparison to healthy controls. The findings of the more recent paper are in some conflict with the earlier one, namely indicating the these switching measures are not BPD-specific among the four clinical groups. Also, the newer study found, in addition to the larger switch distance for the clinical groups, also a higher propensity to switch for all clinical groups compared with the healthy controls, which is a more intuitively clear than no differences. I checked mathematically that the reported differences in propensity, when expressed in actual probabilities (and not some statistical intercept values), are not too large in both papers, while the differences in the distance seem to be a "legit" finding.
I will pull this article and read it, thank you so much!
Awesome Video
It would be great if you composed a condensed reference pamphlet from your videos on Borderline PD.
I have BPD, and i feel like 2 different people. I don't have DID. I can't find any answers.
I honestly think the only reason there are more women borderline diagnosis is is because men are categorize more as narcissistic. Men hide their emotions more. People on the outside looking in would just think my husband and narcissist. They don’t see him for who he really is when he lets his guard down. I thought that he was a narcissist at first, but while he fit so many of the criteria, there was just so much that didn’t fit him. One of the big ones was cheating, and the ability to overcome morals if it benefits them.
I’m not an expert, but I’ve done so much research in the past three years trying to figure out and fix what was happening in my marriage.
Pride is a big thing for them to overcome, which in turn hurts the marriage because they won’t let their guard down and that causes them to look un-empathetic
Please do a video on borderline switching and personality states VS dissociative personality states/alters.
No one has and many with bpd and DID and osdd and unnecessarily confused
I feel identity disturbance has a role, good and bad are subjective and if the way u perceive urself changes so does wat u consider good or bad(not just consciently) so the way something affects u changes as well
Negative emotional states I believe in my circumstance is provoked
Married to a BPD. It is such an emotional stressful life!! It’s been over thirty years! Because I have no one to count on because of my bad health I’ve got no choice in the matter! I’ve got horrible health I feel as if my stress has added or caused every health problem I have! In flight or or fight
Mode 24 seven! Not sure but o think it is what literally caused most of my health concerns! Fibromyalgia, interstitial cystitis Unami it! I’ve got no where eles To go. I think I’ve been depressed my whole life.bpd individuals don’t have a clue as to what the people around them feel! Walking on eggshells the norm.
Dr. Grande can you have B.P.D. if the anger isn't there.? Thanks Lov
Was this study a “self reported” type of emotional evaluation and data collection? If so, that would throw off your data set as people with borderline personality disorder many times do not have the insight to know which state they are in.
Never heard of it before
*Thanks for teaching a valuable life lesson* - one must ask themselves, 'is something worth BEING ENRAGED, and losing a neighbor / maintenance worker' out of it or not... (( How NOT TO CONFRONT after witnessing an ITEM such as a 21 speed Bicycle being 'Relocated' from one end of a Property in order to fix a BROKEN FENCE POST.)) === Maybe I could of CHOOSE TAKING THE WRONG INITATIVE and assumed the worst. === Instead, I decided to get on with Fixing my Flatmate his lunch.
when switching from negative to positive, or other way around, does one, with BPD, experiences dissociation?
Yes
@@starisesun7692 Really? I have BPD and I switch really fast and intensely between the 2 but i'm not sure if im dissociating in between
The black background is very cool
I dont know what i have anymore im fuvking crazy
I feel the same way
My daughter all her life is negative. She projecting everything on me. Now she stop calling me , I can't see my grandson. I am going through he'll ! She doestn goes for help. I don't know what to do . all her problems She is always blaming me. Who can help ? The only family member I have
Dr Grande your videos are interesting...serious question though, do you ever smile? Even just a little?
When he sees the size of your check after a psych session, he smiled broadly 😉
🤣🤣😂
Dr. Grande can you please do a video on people who enjoy hunting wild animals? I don't understand how people can enjoy killing innocent animals!
I keep watching videos and none of them offer solutions for dealing with somebody with BPD
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I was Diagnosed with DDD because my frickin Psychiatrist doesn’t believe anything I tell him. FML I should have just lied. Why would someone with DDD have to do DBT? Why can’t something just be a Spiritual thing?
Maybe it’s real to Spiritualists but crazy to frickin Psychiatrists who don’t listen, judge and can’t even just try to see a different perspective.
I split in a different way I think. I could see my body while looking at my body as my soul flew away. Suddenly I threw my lifeless body into the backseat of my car then suddenly realized I was in my bed wide awake. It could be Astral Projecting or an Out if Body Experience. It only happened once. Another time I seen all of me in the past and future stretched beside me like a hologram and suddenly time was an illusion and the truth about oneness was no longer we are all one but ourselves are all one past, future and now . All just trying to distract from the truth of Death.l
Brielle Hunter this is more religious and metaphysical state. For that you would have to turn to God , most humans don't know much to that regard. Mental sciences is fairly new as well too and bias is a hard to dodge crux
Stay off drugs kids
Why do I keep hearing Borderline Personal Dinosaur? Instead of Borderline Personality Disorder? I’m just saying anyone else hear the mispronunciations?? It it 1am could be exhausted lol Great video nonetheless
My brother switched so he can pretend whatever he had done was done innocently.
Was what he did because of a percieved hurt by you or someone else? Generally that is why people with BPD lash out (I have BPD.) However, part of getting better is taking responsibility for your own actions, words etc. Maybe he perceived something wrong? I do that all the time, where I perceive things to be extremely bad or negative about myself when really the other person didn't mean it the way I perceived it. I think talking through what happened when you are both calm is a good way to resolve it
Where did borderline personality disorder get the name? Borderline what? Borderline tolerable to be around?
Maybe like being on the borderline of a board to go into a shark invested water...
It was believed to be in the borderline between neurosis and psychosis.
I’m attracted to truth and scientific proof or evidence. You really have my attention. I want to understand why some professionals take God out of psychology and take psychology out of theology when there is definitely a supreme creator. Can you answer my question?
Jusdfy 1056 because they know it’s the truth
Yeah I wanted to hear it from a professional. It’s a secret supposedly. They’re under oath to not talk about that.
Amber Heard.
Emotional switching is a manipulative strategy used by one with borderline personality disorder.
Not everyone with bpd is manipulative
The manipulation is typically a survival strategy, not an actual malicious desire to manipulate others. And in my experience, the switching is involuntary. The emotions are being felt strongly and extremely, so some compassion should be used in dealing with borderlines and especially people going thru switching
Brandon Babbitt they are not an all powerful villain like u try to imagine
Brandon Babbitt it’s people like you who make people with BPD not want to seek help.
way to stigmatize