Every time my mental health starts to deteriorate and I get these thoughts in my head I’m automatically reminded of school bullies and the lack of action taken at home, like him. People really seem to have no idea how much school bullies can affect children AND adults - it’s one of my biggest fears about having my own children.
Wow, that's a really great interview, and he's so good at explaining it for people who don't know, or don't have experience with it. My ex-husband has BPD, but refuses to engage about it in spite of my many gentle and kind invitations, and promises to be by his side. It's really devastating, and after 5 years of chaos, I just had to step away for both our peace. I am glad Joe raises awareness, so that people just know about it, and hopefully things change for the better in the future that people get proper treatment, but that we can also avoid it developing in families in the first place. Love to everyone who deals with BPD issues, both people having it and the loved-ones.
BPD here - Thank you Joe. @ Dr.- Florence - It's very interesting to me that your ex wouldn't deal with his borderline. My experience is exactly the opposite. I have tried over and over again to explain my disorder to my family and I get shut down every time. They DO NOT WANT TO KNOW. It seems they would prefer to think that I'm just a malicious, stupid a#*hole. It's just more and more invalidation, everywhere I turn.
I was only diagnosed with EUPD in 2016 after being sectioned in 2016 I was 46 of age but been on medication since early teens! It was only when I took a Miro test and others that finally I got my answers!!! Finally I was diagnosed!!! Now when you recall stomach ache as a child I was often in the nurses room with extreme stomach pains!! This is because of our extreme anxiety and it's the only way our body can cope!!!! I get everything in your interviews! I will state I did not abuse drugs but YES alcohol did become a medicine to escape!!! What people do not understand this is a permanent mental health nightmare!!! I call it living HELL!!! How I am still here is a miracle? It's challenges is most days depending on what your mind wants to think!! There is the DEVIL on your shoulders and it takes huge strength to throw the bastard off!!! Look luck Joe with your book and making people aware what a fucked up existence it is for us with EUPD!! x
Absolutely. It is hell having this diagnosis. We ourselves suffer and then so do those closest to us although we don't intend on it. Then we face brutal stigma and discrimination which alienates us further. Our normality is the default of "suicide is the answer to everything" or at least speaking for myself. But it clearly isn't. It's a brutal existence. Treated so awfully by the people who are meant to help us. It seems, even according to research, females with BPD are treated worse. Like in the olden days women were labelled as hysterical. It's just a terrible illness to suffer from. I hope we can all get through it.
Omg I'm on the waiting list for dual diagnosis mental health n addiction issues, after yet another suicide attempt ....I feel exactly like you. Seeing you on Lorraine this morning, then looking on here you're amazing and have made me feel less alone or crazy . Thanks so much for being a inspiration.🙏🙏🙏 ✌n❤
My daughter has personality disorder, she does the push pull thing regularly. She’s either all in with the family and pushes away. It’s had a profound effect on us all, especially her younger brothers. We have had endless suicide attempts, self harm needing hundreds of stitches, eating disorders, addiction to alcohol. We are all exhausted. Thank you for speaking out. Absolutely get the texting it calls. We were expected to answer immediately! If we don’t there’s pure venom. It’s hard for her but has a detrimental affect on her family too. Her inner voice was Peter.
I am living to die. Soon as my kids are old enough. I’m off. Everyday I fantasise about dying. How beautiful and peaceful it is compared to this daily painful struggle
I have eupd and its so hard to be in relationships, people always leave me, i was in hospital all my teen years and some of my 20s wasted my life and I'm still struggling in my 30s i always think people are better off without me and ill end up alone,
Taking my life is not allowed I’d rather go from one end of the country to the other side . Nature and l learning othe areas can be a help towards keeping that feeling of no use in society
Secular treatment only results in this, living with the misery. But with Jesus there is true freedom, I have BPD and though I struggle with handling stress, I no longer feel depressed or suicidal and I get along much better with others. No more fear of abandonment or petty revenge
Bpd folk and their friends and family need to look at other information rather than nhs, media and people who know better. Firstly, look at, 'bpd mri scans brain abnormalities '. Once you have done that you can realise that bpd people have brain damage. A major thing to look at is that as a child the bpd amygdala has either not grown proportionally or atrophied later on in life, maybe ages between 5 and 12. Many parts of the brain have demonstrative affects on it and therefore more people, drs,nurses,mental health folk and the government need to react rather than criminalise, embarrass and demonise real numan beings who are genuinely very loving and exceptionally empathetic people
Every time my mental health starts to deteriorate and I get these thoughts in my head I’m automatically reminded of school bullies and the lack of action taken at home, like him. People really seem to have no idea how much school bullies can affect children AND adults - it’s one of my biggest fears about having my own children.
I was diagnosed with EUPD on Thursday. Thank you, Joe.
I can confirm having BPD is a literal nightmare...
Wow, that's a really great interview, and he's so good at explaining it for people who don't know, or don't have experience with it. My ex-husband has BPD, but refuses to engage about it in spite of my many gentle and kind invitations, and promises to be by his side. It's really devastating, and after 5 years of chaos, I just had to step away for both our peace. I am glad Joe raises awareness, so that people just know about it, and hopefully things change for the better in the future that people get proper treatment, but that we can also avoid it developing in families in the first place. Love to everyone who deals with BPD issues, both people having it and the loved-ones.
BPD here - Thank you Joe. @ Dr.- Florence - It's very interesting to me that your ex wouldn't deal with his borderline. My experience is exactly the opposite. I have tried over and over again to explain my disorder to my family and I get shut down every time. They DO NOT WANT TO KNOW. It seems they would prefer to think that I'm just a malicious, stupid a#*hole. It's just more and more invalidation, everywhere I turn.
I simply love Joe and he’s definitely saved lives ❤
So bloody powerful. Enormous thanks Joe.
I was only diagnosed with EUPD in 2016 after being sectioned in 2016 I was 46 of age but been on medication since early teens! It was only when I took a Miro test and others that finally I got my answers!!! Finally I was diagnosed!!! Now when you recall stomach ache as a child I was often in the nurses room with extreme stomach pains!! This is because of our extreme anxiety and it's the only way our body can cope!!!! I get everything in your interviews! I will state I did not abuse drugs but YES alcohol did become a medicine to escape!!! What people do not understand this is a permanent mental health nightmare!!! I call it living HELL!!! How I am still here is a miracle? It's challenges is most days depending on what your mind wants to think!! There is the DEVIL on your shoulders and it takes huge strength to throw the bastard off!!! Look luck Joe with your book and making people aware what a fucked up existence it is for us with EUPD!! x
Absolutely. It is hell having this diagnosis. We ourselves suffer and then so do those closest to us although we don't intend on it. Then we face brutal stigma and discrimination which alienates us further. Our normality is the default of "suicide is the answer to everything" or at least speaking for myself. But it clearly isn't. It's a brutal existence. Treated so awfully by the people who are meant to help us. It seems, even according to research, females with BPD are treated worse. Like in the olden days women were labelled as hysterical. It's just a terrible illness to suffer from. I hope we can all get through it.
I have bpd, thankyou for this 😊
Was told by doctors that I have chronic p.d. Listened to joes song called grow. Very powerful and he sings it great! I was hipnotised
Omg I'm on the waiting list for dual diagnosis mental health n addiction issues, after yet another suicide attempt ....I feel exactly like you. Seeing you on Lorraine this morning, then looking on here you're amazing and have made me feel less alone or crazy . Thanks so much for being a inspiration.🙏🙏🙏 ✌n❤
My daughter has personality disorder, she does the push pull thing regularly. She’s either all in with the family and pushes away. It’s had a profound effect on us all, especially her younger brothers. We have had endless suicide attempts, self harm needing hundreds of stitches, eating disorders, addiction to alcohol. We are all exhausted. Thank you for speaking out. Absolutely get the texting it calls. We were expected to answer immediately! If we don’t there’s pure venom. It’s hard for her but has a detrimental affect on her family too. Her inner voice was Peter.
Sorry it's so hard for you and your family. As one who struggles daily with BPD, I can assure you that it's much worse for your daughter.
I am living to die. Soon as my kids are old enough. I’m off. Everyday I fantasise about dying. How beautiful and peaceful it is compared to this daily painful struggle
I wish you wouldn't. It's a life sentence for the people you leave behind.
@misstype7992 - I completely understand.
I have eupd and its so hard to be in relationships, people always leave me, i was in hospital all my teen years and some of my 20s wasted my life and I'm still struggling in my 30s i always think people are better off without me and ill end up alone,
wow thank you i felt alone
Taking my life is not allowed I’d rather go from one end of the country to the other side . Nature and l learning othe areas can be a help towards keeping that feeling of no use in society
It really is a Nightmare I was diagnosed in 2010 I Sing and I Smoke. I love Hollyoaks and I loved him in that. Xxxx
Secular treatment only results in this, living with the misery. But with Jesus there is true freedom, I have BPD and though I struggle with handling stress, I no longer feel depressed or suicidal and I get along much better with others. No more fear of abandonment or petty revenge
Bpd folk and their friends and family need to look at other information rather than nhs, media and people who know better. Firstly, look at, 'bpd mri scans brain abnormalities '. Once you have done that you can realise that bpd people have brain damage. A major thing to look at is that as a child the bpd amygdala has either not grown proportionally or atrophied later on in life, maybe ages between 5 and 12. Many parts of the brain have demonstrative affects on it and therefore more people, drs,nurses,mental health folk and the government need to react rather than criminalise, embarrass and demonise real numan beings who are genuinely very loving and exceptionally empathetic people
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Time to go……
We're all lost bro