Emma, I never see any other true crime channel or outlet pointing out the issue with blaming horrific, violent behavior on drug addiction. As an opiate addict with 11 years clean and also having lost my very sweet, gentle older brother and younger sister also to opiate addiction, I really appreciate you saying how most addicts are not violent and it’s not a reason for someone to commit this type of act. I wish more channels would take up this advocacy for addicts because it’s a very harmful yet largely untrue stereotype that prevents addicts from getting the help and support they so desperately need.
Absolutely agree. Not all addicts will rob their granny for dru§ money, not all addicts will lose all their morals to the addiction. From my personal experience and IMHO. Oh and well done on 11 years opiate free. That's quite an accomplishment - the slang term "devil's dandruff" is 100% fitting and accurate to describe the most popular street opiate. It's a subtle and insidious substance in how it gains control over a person and I'm very sorry you lost your loves ones to the awful stuff 😔
@@WakeyWakeyEggsandBakey thank you for the kind words! I won’t say I never did anything illegal during my addiction- just taking my drug of choice every day was illegal but I will say I have zero criminal record and both of my siblings died also with zero criminal record. Most addicts do have criminal records at some point but the large majority are for petty theft and possession, not violent crimes. Thanks again for your insight and empathy 💖
Addiction is a hell of a disease… but I agree with you. Many props to you for pulling out, standing for yourself and your siblings (now that they can’t, so sorry for your loss), and being honest about the dark. I hope you know that you ARE and prove the light. Stay strong. For every one of us SAYING we support you, there are 100 others who read this and are silently supporting. Don’t forget that when you might need a reminder….
I’m sobbing already and haven’t even started watching yet 😢 I worked with Claire, she was such a beautiful person and so devoted to little Robbie. Thank you for covering her story and showing what an evil rat that monster is! ❤
I had a friend murdered and her husband was a suspect...yeah, he got away with it. Living his best life free as a bird. She was beaten to death, 2 little boys left in the house to find her body. I would give anything to see a judgement like this. I'm sorry for all in this, except him, all of you who have lost her. Keep her safe in your heart.
Like I’ve said Emma doesn’t get the sponsors like other lazy UA-camrs give Emma her flowers she’s constantly putting work in and only just had a baby and still giving us this amazing in detail content amazing Emma
As a woman affected by domestic violence from 3 husbands and men friends with several attempts to take my life, I understand completely how easy it is for a woman in particular, to be manipulated and sucked in at the beginning with 'love bombing'. I didn't die, but through one of my husband being a 'narcissist', I have been abandoned by my three children. I ran away overseas only to have more abuse from Nigerian men who conned me out of all my money ($120,000+). Because I didn't lie and was always honest, I thought everyone else was too, especially if they were Vietnamese or African. I am now out of dreamland, but now suffering the consequences of PTSD, in many ways. However, I am now at peace and it will not happen again, as I cannot really walk now and so do not have friends and keep to myself. My joy in life is studying Creative Writing and use my experiences in fictional stories and poetry etc. Thank you for your expertise and sensitivity in your podcasts. You are my favourite. Cheers, Elizabeth.
Abusers don't change! Their violence only escalates until you're either murdered or are certain your going to be! I left mine after five horrible years back in 2005 and I'm safe, happy and loved. Don't Stay! You deserve happiness and kindness! TY Emma, you are awesome as usual! I love you all!❤
Emma thank you for explaining coercive control in such an easy to recognise way. I wish I had heard this at 21 - you are bob on and I recognised my younger self. I still hadn’t understood how insidious the controller was until I watched this, 30 years later. Claire’s parents remind me of my own and I didn’t realise how they were seeing the situation. You’re saving lives Emma ❤❤
This one was so very hard for me to get through. I had to repeatedly rewind over and over because this story was so close to what I went through in my early 20s. No one understands that this doesn't happen overnight. Men like him have a way of even after hitting and hurting you making YOU feel sorry for HIM. What he did and how he was was so close to my abuser. The difference was that a 12 year old boy that lived close to me called the police the night I needed it most. It was bad. He got 20 years for what he did to me it was really bad. He only actually did 12 years and they let him out without telling me and he showed up at my home. I was supposed to be told if and when he got out but I wasn't and was blindsided. He sent some woman to my door to try and get me out thank God I recognized him sitting in the car . The police couldn't do anything because my protective order was only good for five years. I didn't know he was out. He never came back but I still after 26 years have nightmares. They just sneak up on me. Poor Claire. My granddaughters name is Claire. This brought back painful memories.
This was a hard one. At 18, I was Claire. You described perfectly how abusers lure in people who only want their love to change and help. By the time the blinders come off, they are living in a hell they have no clue how to leave, isolated from anyone who wants to help them. I got really lucky and managed to get out, but it cost me years of my life in therapy finding the person I was again. Your advice to look beyond your feelings and into their actions is spot on! There were so many red flags that I ignored thinking I was the one who could change everything for the better. Please, if anyone reading this is in this type of relationship, get out as quickly and safely as you can!! You will not change them and it will cost you more than you have in you if you stay and could cost you your life. 😢
Oh sweetheart, I'm sorry you went through this. I've had a relationship that quickly turned violent but I was lucky in that his friends made sure he'd stay away and then I had another relationship and had a baby with someone who was very abusive though would push and shove me and keep me from leaving the room to attend to our baby. Unfortunately he was in our lives for a few years and made our lives hell. I really hope you are in a good place now and know that he was a predator and you are a good person who just believes in the good of people and absolutely did not deserve any of that. ❤
@@anniej1834 Thank you! It was a long time ago, I am 59 now and went on to find an amazing man who has been my husband for 28 years, and have a son and a bonus daughter that are now amazing adults in healthy relationships. I still get so very sad hearing about those you did not have that outcome. I have volunteered over the years helping in women’s shelters. It is such an awfully hard road to escape and so misunderstood by those who haven’t experienced it. Merry Christmas to you also and have a very blessed New Year!
@@mystifiedmargot1970 thanks! I am now 59, happily married to an amazing man for 28 years and have 2 amazing kids and their partners! It’s been a great life after therapy and perhaps it all had to happen to get where I am now. I help DV victims and have for years as I know exactly how it feels and that has blessed me probably as much as those I have been able to help. He was a predator and he knew how to pick his prey well! I am grateful I didn’t have children in the mix, that had to be even more terrifying as I can’t imagine my children in danger also!!
Thank you for the extra episode! But seriously, don’t overwork yourself. You are amazing and your work is fantastic, but I hope you’re getting rest too.
I watched your video Emma and can I just say of all the videos out there this one was accurate and done so well . Thank you for taking the time to make this and get the message out to people . Maybe just maybe someone will watch this and recognise themselves or someone in their lives and get help before something dreadful happens to them It is too late for Claire but people like yourself Emma we are eternally grateful to for highlighting her case and just how quickly a perpetrator can change someone's life around Yes he should never walk the streets again he is a danger to women and was a time bomb waiting to go off RIP Claire 💜💜
I have no words to soothe or heal, I want to say how evident your love for your daughter shines through. How your little grandson is now also going to have your love and protection. The bonds of mother love connect through her grandmother, you, your beautiful daughter and the legacy in her son. I feel sad that she is gone. I am in awe of your warrior spirit to fight and be her voice. I know these are just words from a stranger but I do wish you all as a family strength to keep fighting for her memory.
You're the biggest Empath I have ever had the pleasure to listen to..some things hit home hard but I am grateful 🙏 My heart breaks for the whole family 💔💔
Damn Emma Marie, putting in overtime all over the place. Have you gone and cloned yourself? Excellent, AS ALWAYS. Thank you for being the best educated, best researched, with the best skillset, to deliver the quality your deliver week after week. You hard work never goes unnoticed. Sorry I have been absent from KCC recently, CRPS and Oregon winters are most unpredictable. You are appreciated. XX
really struggled with this one, horribly close to home, well done again Emma, your'e such a natural story teller, and your compassion for the victim always shines through. xx
I remember watching the drama Merdered by My Boyfriend that you mentioned. Very powerful drama and I know of a couple of girls who left their relationships because of it which very likely saved their lives. You did Claire justice Emma. ❤
This was hard to listen to, thank you for the real anger, sadness you show us and all emotions that this has provoked in you, you give the victims a voice that is fair and just - the judge was f’kin amazing, his insight, and words must have helped her parents, friends and relatives. May every day of his 23 years contain, pain, torture, humiliation, hard beatings and abject fear to even leave your cell. I’m so sorry Clare and Clare’s family, especially your little boy 😢
Thanks for bringing coverage to this case! I’ve never heard about Claire before ❤ May she rest in heaven and only have peace from now on. Not enough is done anywhere around the world for domestic abuse/violence
Absolutely tragic story. I broke down when I first heard about this as I used to live next door to Claire. My son is a few months older than hers, when we lived there we had regular garden play dates. She was such a pleasant lady, an amazing mum and just a really nice person. When I think about what she went through, my heart breaks even more. Thank you for covering this story, Emma, I’m just so sad that you had this story to cover. I am very glad that scum is behind bars, where he deserves to be. I know her little boy will make his mummy proud as he grows up ❤
Two way conversations...like when shes talking to herself ? 😅 im just joking..Miss Em is amazing and gives me a giggle when she has these two way conversations lol
Nice to see you covering this, I live nearby and it's such a tragic case. Minor point of correction I don't think Stirling is Scotland's smallest city anymore as Dunfermline was recently given city status.
I love your channel I rarely miss an episode. I’ve had a couple of narcissistic relationships (obv I am still alive) but they cause absolute devastation that I wouldn’t wish in anyone. You explain really well how these relationships work and it’s really educational for the people who have not experienced it and validating for the people that have. I’m pretty sure I’d never fall into this horrific trap with anyone else.
You really gave this poor girl legacy Emma ..thank you for all the hard work you put in.My heart is broken for Claire and her family ..i hope that vile excuse for a human never sees the outside world again
I really appreciate your composure in this case Emma. I'd have been much worse. Thank you for covering this case I haven't heard of it before. Rest in peace Claire ❤️
Thanks again. Emma ❤Hope he rots behind bars! RIP Claire. You deserved to live life & feel safe. I am so sorry the vile monster took your life 💔thoughts & prayers go to your family & loved ones 🙏🏻
Your way of covering horrific cases is so respectful and satisfying. Standing up for victims including their loved ones is beautiful. I also ALWAYS agree with your ideas of possible ways to sentence/punish the low life perpetrators! I just wanted to add a little comment to this particular perpetrator. The image of him in the water in his bathing suit with his arms up like he has something to brag about, I think this might bring some insight into why he was so angry and had to pick on people that couldn’t defend themselves against him. He’s a tiny man and it really shows in that swimsuit pic…..barely. I’ll just leave it at that. 😉 Rest in peace, beautiful Claire .
'you can't judge someone based on your feelings towards them, you have to judge them based on their actions' 👏👏 Very well put. I wish someone had told me this when I was younger. It is so difficult, especially when you are young and a good person, but you have to let your logic take a front seat in those situations bc predators, abusive people use your emotion as a weapon against you. It shouldn't be that way, but it is, and putting your feelings aside to assess the real life situation could literally save your life.
Emma you are so professional and compassionate at what you do I always find my self looking away when you show the defendant I will definitely see you again on Sunday
I haven't got to the end yet, but I remember the case in the news. Firstly, why was this man allowed out in the first place, and secondly, he should NEVER be let out EVER.
My heart goes out to Claire, her baby boy and family 💔🙏🏾 R.I.P Claire❤️ glad this evil b&stard got life and justice has been served! I hope he never gets out It's sad that there will be more cases of these awful abusive killers😓
Every time I watch one of your videos, it helps heal another small piece of me, it helps me realise what I've survived. Thank you for helping me heal. Xx
Thank you for your efforts, dear Em. I wish you and your loved ones a wonderful Christmas time. The most beautiful present lies kicking beside the tree, your Christmas angel Etta-Blue with big shining eyes. Merry Xmas ❤❤❤🎄🎁🌟🎄🎅
Emma, we so so so appreciate you. Your efforts to go into full detail and how so truthful you are on your own feelings are amazing! I’ve been watching you for many many years including tv. I grew up wanting to become a lawyer helping victims including children. You make that even more important in my life! Thank you so much for amazing content and such full explanations on everything you cover! Wish you a fantastic 2024❤️❤️❤️
I Love the way that you approach each and every tragic case. You humour is also Brilliant, tinged with Entertaining sarcasm! You are Simply The Best! ❤️
I realize this is an old post but it touched me so much! Great job Emma! This is such a horrible example of a male-centric society who put so little value on the lives of women that acts like this happen over and over! It's such important information to get out to teenage girls because these kind of men can come into a girls life at any point! I sent this link to my 17 year old granddaughter. I can't imagine her becoming involved with such a man! Thank you so much for doing this work❤
I love your attitude towards these animals,rugby team 👍 I like it ! Me and my daughter came to see your show in Leicester,you are amazing,and teach us a lot ,thank you 💗
I worked with a vile woman; two faced, judgmental, loved to gossip, etc. it was written all over her face. She once told us an anecdote where she was flying somewhere. As the guards checked her passport, one nudged the other and they looked at her photograph and started laughing. Those people see literally thousands of passports, yet they actively laughed at her. Of course, I’m so stupid, I thought the best of her. Silly me 🙄!
Emma, I wish I'd known about coercive control 55yrs ago when I met my bully. He was 6'1" and I was 4'11" so I didn't stand a chance against him . The threats and bullying started within 2wks of meeting him. I was 18 and very naive, still a kid really, and out fear I married him. Had 2 lovely kids and became really submissive and afraid. Eventually started drinking to cope and addicted to tranquilizers, and after 16yrs was able to leave him, but because I was so unwell I had to leave the kids with him. Oh the agony!! I'm now 70 and clean and sober for 37yrs. 😊 . My son and daughter have nothing to do with him, haven't for yrs, and the bully is now on his 3rd marriage and from what I've heard he's controlling her too. My heart hurts for all the women in these terrible situations. RIP Claire and much love to her grieving family.❤
She seems like the sort of soul who thought and saw the best in everyone she met...this is such a hard thing to happen to such a beautiful girl who had everything to live for and he destroyed her.. so sad for her family and her friends and mosty her poor son...what avway to lose such a wonderful mother 💔
I agree. She saw the best in people & was incredibly loyal & forgiving. Exactly the qualities in a woman that those sort of reprehensible violent bastards are attracted to.🥺
12.33 am here. Super excited for another brilliant deep dive. Will listen as i fall asleep. Then again tomorrow morning ❤. Thanks beautiful Em for working so hard on your content. ❤
Thank you for giving this case the spotlight needed. So many women and men are living in coercively controlling relations and they might just recognise themselves here. ❤
It's very disheartening that Claire knew all she knew & felt a foreboding but still went on to have a relationship with this being..it's VERY difficullt not to victim blame her a bit.. especially her bringing this" guy" around her son!!😨 if despite all the alarm signals this happened what hope do we have for the safety of our kids??😥😥😵💔
Thank you for this video Emma - quality as always! I know you are always on the look out for new deep dive cases to research and investigate. The tragic case of Darcey Freeman, an innocent little girl, who's ' Father ' threw her off the 70 metre high, Westgate Bridge, in Melbourne Australia, to punish the mother! Beyond human, Beyond belief. I thought this very worth, mentioning to you. Kindest thoughts 👍
Thank you for this Emma you truly show the standards to set and the behaviour to be aware of and tolerate for woman as a whole. This will serve so many young woman I commend your so talking about this horrific case with such passion and dignity. I wish I had seen this type of video as a young woman. Thank you again and my deepest sympathy with the family.
A coercive controlling relationship is so hard to understand the workings. You don't see it when you are in it. You don't see the red flags. If you could, it wouldn't succeed.
Very sad case , just goes to show how beautiful young ( an older ) woman can be controlled, despicable! I also agree that not all people who have traumatic childhoods murder .. such a compassionate delivery Emma for this beautiful young woman thank you 💜
Very sad 😢 case heartbreaking. I am so relieved that her son was staying with Claire's parents that night. Hopefully he was never physical abused by him. Heartbreaking 😢 hopefully her son gets the support he needs from the Grandparents & extending family.
12:40 Emma, I have watched every single one of your videos and I want to thank you. You helped me to realize that I was in a coercively controlling relationship and I am out of it now ❤ thank you.
Thank you as always Emma for such a deep detailed analysis of Claire’s case the minute that any criminal (or even suspected criminal) has a violent past or any past that could pose a threat they should not be bailed to any address they should have bail hostels to make sure they are supervised and adhering to conditions of their bail. That girl deserved so much more from life and the only person responsible for her not being here today is him. More needs to be done to protect people from violent offenders and Humza won’t be around long, we in Scotland were deeply affected by losing a strong first minister in Nicola Sturgeon yes she had some faux pas but she was definitely not someone who passed the buck. My condolences to Claire’s family and friends xx
Hi Emma, i just read about the case of David Stutt, of Wade Street, Bristol. He has just been sentenced for life after decades of sexually abusing his victims. Are you going to cover his case? I am especially interested as i live in Bristol, but somehow, i never heard of him till now. Love your videos, you do an amazing job at giving a real feel of the individuals and their families too on top of all the facts. Keep up the great work you do ❤
I was in a relationship like this for 6 years I ended up on a ventilator for 3 months .. I got out but had to go back to my Rez to keep him away .. rest in absolute peace Claire fly high beautiful girl ❤❤❤
I read about this, in the local news, as I am a few miles from Stirling. Thanks for covering it. It's something that should have received more national coverage, as it's an education for people, who are in these controlling relationships, male or female. This area is very much still in an era, where men are the bosses. Not making excuses for him at all but there's still loads of this attitude about. Time that changed!
A heartbreaking story, but sadly one that we hear more and more often. My heart goes out to claire's family and son. Our system needs changing, too many violent offends are allowed to be out in society to abuse and kill. TIME FOR CHANGE
There is no way he should be let out. He is a real danger to society 100%. What I think of this is that poor child has now lost two parents, so hopefully his grandparents will take him in and give him a loving home. RIP Clare ❤
We have Kinship of her son and he is living his best life as he can without her we are making sure of that and Claire's sister and her partner love him so much as well and he loves them too
You are amazing Emma and husband! You are so inspiring to all at your work ethics! Thank you for all you do esp for the voiceless and telling their stories! I now am proactive and my children as well. I am very careful esp with new people who love bomb! I watch a lot! I observe a lot! Due to you and husband and these cases! 🙏🙌🏼🥰
Having been a victim of coercive control and multiple physical assaults due to domestic violence in 2022 this rings home a lot. If I hadn't managed escape out my sitting room window this could so easily have been a video of how my psycho ex killed me like he had sworn he was going to do. My heart goes out to Claire's family and friends. May she rest in peace.
I would love to have you as my therapist, Emma. i dont have any, cos i am actualy afraid that i will find them stupid and not understanding.. You are very good in understanding human minds. No one can understand fully, as there is no way as per my opinion only. but you are good. I enjoy your videos and appreciate your consistensy. ) Thank you
@@HiNickCares I once sold it too I dated dealers. We were as addicted as our friends who bought it. We are both clean now ..me and my ex. i went to college got my degree and I work as a paralegal, i have a 6 yr old and my life is amazing now. It was once hell. Your past doesn't always dictate your future. It's easy to judge if you've never been there
I really enjoy your sarcastic humor. I love that you call out the government and police on their mistakes that cost lives. You are also extremely caring and it shows how much you care about the victims of the cases you cover.
It’s so very sad how girls/women find and stay with their abusers… Often makes me wonder if the said mentioned had a Dad who would swing for them. Also, when will the law change, that family and friends can press charges against abusers, without permission from the abused. It’s frustrating let alone dangerous, seeing and hearing what abuse someone goes through, just being there for them, really doesn’t help ….. To all women/MMEN watching, you are not the one who can these monsters, speak out and get out ❤
@@fionainglis603So very sorry for your loss. I hope your grandson is doing as well as he can be. Sorry for what you’ve been put through. Sending big love 💗 🙏🏽
Well I had a terrible childhood, I didn't drink or take drugs, and I certainly haven't killed anyone. NO EXCUSE for being a total evil selfish scumbag. This makes my piss boil !!!! Please excuse my language, Emma I don't know how you keep your cool x
Emma have you heard the case of Tristan & Blake Barrass, because I NEED your deep dive on it- it's absolutely bizarre and it happened in England! Never heard of it and I'm only across the water in Ireland.
I wanted to stop watching this multiple times. It was so painful to listen to and to know what Claire went through is extremely heartbreaking. Her child is now an orphan and that monster has robbed a whole family of something irreplaceable. How can someone do something like this? & then for him to laugh? It's enraging and beyond disgusting. There is no excuse for doing that to another person, that man is simply an evil soul. I'm so sorry for Claire, I'm so so sorry this happened to her. May she rest in eternal peace.
Emma, I never see any other true crime channel or outlet pointing out the issue with blaming horrific, violent behavior on drug addiction. As an opiate addict with 11 years clean and also having lost my very sweet, gentle older brother and younger sister also to opiate addiction, I really appreciate you saying how most addicts are not violent and it’s not a reason for someone to commit this type of act. I wish more channels would take up this advocacy for addicts because it’s a very harmful yet largely untrue stereotype that prevents addicts from getting the help and support they so desperately need.
Absolutely agree. Not all addicts will rob their granny for dru§ money, not all addicts will lose all their morals to the addiction. From my personal experience and IMHO.
Oh and well done on 11 years opiate free. That's quite an accomplishment - the slang term "devil's dandruff" is 100% fitting and accurate to describe the most popular street opiate. It's a subtle and insidious substance in how it gains control over a person and I'm very sorry you lost your loves ones to the awful stuff 😔
My condolences for the loss of your siblings.
Congratulations to your sobriety 🎉 I'm so sorry for the loss of your siblings ❤❤
@@WakeyWakeyEggsandBakey thank you for the kind words! I won’t say I never did anything illegal during my addiction- just taking my drug of choice every day was illegal but I will say I have zero criminal record and both of my siblings died also with zero criminal record. Most addicts do have criminal records at some point but the large majority are for petty theft and possession, not violent crimes. Thanks again for your insight and empathy 💖
Addiction is a hell of a disease… but I agree with you. Many props to you for pulling out, standing for yourself and your siblings (now that they can’t, so sorry for your loss), and being honest about the dark.
I hope you know that you ARE and prove the light. Stay strong. For every one of us SAYING we support you, there are 100 others who read this and are silently supporting. Don’t forget that when you might need a reminder….
I’m sobbing already and haven’t even started watching yet 😢 I worked with Claire, she was such a beautiful person and so devoted to little Robbie. Thank you for covering her story and showing what an evil rat that monster is! ❤
Peace, love and prayers sent to you and her family💔💔
I had a friend murdered and her husband was a suspect...yeah, he got away with it. Living his best life free as a bird. She was beaten to death, 2 little boys left in the house to find her body. I would give anything to see a judgement like this. I'm sorry for all in this, except him, all of you who have lost her. Keep her safe in your heart.
Sorry for the loss of your friend.
Heartfelt sympathy 2 all who knew Claire ❤
She picked him.
Like I’ve said Emma doesn’t get the sponsors like other lazy UA-camrs give Emma her flowers she’s constantly putting work in and only just had a baby and still giving us this amazing in detail content amazing Emma
I don’t sub bc Emma going on as though she’s talking to a 3rd person . If there is nothing else in YT or Netflix I watch .
As a woman affected by domestic violence from 3 husbands and men friends with several attempts to take my life, I understand completely how easy it is for a woman in particular, to be manipulated and sucked in at the beginning with 'love bombing'. I didn't die, but through one of my husband being a 'narcissist', I have been abandoned by my three children. I ran away overseas only to have more abuse from Nigerian men who conned me out of all my money ($120,000+). Because I didn't lie and was always honest, I thought everyone else was too, especially if they were Vietnamese or African. I am now out of dreamland, but now suffering the consequences of PTSD, in many ways. However, I am now at peace and it will not happen again, as I cannot really walk now and so do not have friends and keep to myself. My joy in life is studying Creative Writing and use my experiences in fictional stories and poetry etc.
Thank you for your expertise and sensitivity in your podcasts. You are my favourite. Cheers, Elizabeth.
Abusers don't change! Their violence only escalates until you're either murdered or are certain your going to be! I left mine after five horrible years back in 2005 and I'm safe, happy and loved. Don't Stay! You deserve happiness and kindness! TY Emma, you are awesome as usual! I love you all!❤
Inis look like already died this is combo meal deal murder? 😭
Emma thank you for explaining coercive control in such an easy to recognise way. I wish I had heard this at 21 - you are bob on and I recognised my younger self. I still hadn’t understood how insidious the controller was until I watched this, 30 years later. Claire’s parents remind me of my own and I didn’t realise how they were seeing the situation.
You’re saving lives Emma ❤❤
This one was so very hard for me to get through. I had to repeatedly rewind over and over because this story was so close to what I went through in my early 20s. No one understands that this doesn't happen overnight. Men like him have a way of even after hitting and hurting you making YOU feel sorry for HIM. What he did and how he was was so close to my abuser. The difference was that a 12 year old boy that lived close to me called the police the night I needed it most. It was bad. He got 20 years for what he did to me it was really bad. He only actually did 12 years and they let him out without telling me and he showed up at my home. I was supposed to be told if and when he got out but I wasn't and was blindsided. He sent some woman to my door to try and get me out thank God I recognized him sitting in the car . The police couldn't do anything because my protective order was only good for five years. I didn't know he was out. He never came back but I still after 26 years have nightmares. They just sneak up on me. Poor Claire. My granddaughters name is Claire. This brought back painful memories.
Remember ur a survier your so brave ❤ don't let that bastard take anymore sending lots of love❤
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This was a hard one. At 18, I was Claire. You described perfectly how abusers lure in people who only want their love to change and help. By the time the blinders come off, they are living in a hell they have no clue how to leave, isolated from anyone who wants to help them. I got really lucky and managed to get out, but it cost me years of my life in therapy finding the person I was again. Your advice to look beyond your feelings and into their actions is spot on! There were so many red flags that I ignored thinking I was the one who could change everything for the better. Please, if anyone reading this is in this type of relationship, get out as quickly and safely as you can!! You will not change them and it will cost you more than you have in you if you stay and could cost you your life. 😢
Oh sweetheart, I'm sorry you went through this. I've had a relationship that quickly turned violent but I was lucky in that his friends made sure he'd stay away and then I had another relationship and had a baby with someone who was very abusive though would push and shove me and keep me from leaving the room to attend to our baby. Unfortunately he was in our lives for a few years and made our lives hell. I really hope you are in a good place now and know that he was a predator and you are a good person who just believes in the good of people and absolutely did not deserve any of that. ❤
First off well done 4 getting out keep living your best life your a warrior ❤️ and merry Christmas
@@anniej1834 Thank you! It was a long time ago, I am 59 now and went on to find an amazing man who has been my husband for 28 years, and have a son and a bonus daughter that are now amazing adults in healthy relationships. I still get so very sad hearing about those you did not have that outcome. I have volunteered over the years helping in women’s shelters. It is such an awfully hard road to escape and so misunderstood by those who haven’t experienced it. Merry Christmas to you also and have a very blessed New Year!
@@mystifiedmargot1970 thanks! I am now 59, happily married to an amazing man for 28 years and have 2 amazing kids and their partners! It’s been a great life after therapy and perhaps it all had to happen to get where I am now. I help DV victims and have for years as I know exactly how it feels and that has blessed me probably as much as those I have been able to help. He was a predator and he knew how to pick his prey well! I am grateful I didn’t have children in the mix, that had to be even more terrifying as I can’t imagine my children in danger also!!
Don't stay for money. don't stay for kids sake. Just get out get the courts involved if you yave to. Just get out.
This is in my community. Absolutely shocking so it was. Well done Emma, you’ve done it justice xx
Falkirk?
Thank you for the extra episode! But seriously, don’t overwork yourself. You are amazing and your work is fantastic, but I hope you’re getting rest too.
I watched your video Emma and can I just say of all the videos out there this one was accurate and done so well .
Thank you for taking the time to make this and get the message out to people .
Maybe just maybe someone will watch this and recognise themselves or someone in their lives and get help before something dreadful happens to them
It is too late for Claire but people like yourself Emma we are eternally grateful to for highlighting her case and just how quickly a perpetrator can change someone's life around
Yes he should never walk the streets again he is a danger to women and was a time bomb waiting to go off
RIP Claire 💜💜
I have no words to soothe or heal, I want to say how evident your love for your daughter shines through. How your little grandson is now also going to have your love and protection. The bonds of mother love connect through her grandmother, you, your beautiful daughter and the legacy in her son. I feel sad that she is gone. I am in awe of your warrior spirit to fight and be her voice. I know these are just words from a stranger but I do wish you all as a family strength to keep fighting for her memory.
Very good episode this Emma , so sad , poor woman , and her little boy left with no parents , I hope he never has a days peace in jail that vile man
You're the biggest Empath I have ever had the pleasure to listen to..some things hit home hard but I am grateful 🙏 My heart breaks for the whole family 💔💔
Damn Emma Marie, putting in overtime all over the place. Have you gone and cloned yourself? Excellent, AS ALWAYS. Thank you for being the best educated, best researched, with the best skillset, to deliver the quality your deliver week after week. You hard work never goes unnoticed. Sorry I have been absent from KCC recently, CRPS and Oregon winters are most unpredictable. You are appreciated. XX
And then she also has a baby And she always looks beautiful too
And she's a new mum at 50 am fucked after a days work tda 37
Hi Sara, I echo your every words. Emma is amazing and very much appreciated. What a great channel. ❤
Being a total pedant... Did you see on the opening credits that it had Shanti's name at the bottom... You just can't get the staff Emma 😂❤
Literally she always delivers yet she’s working on a book raising a baby and her boys and a wife she’s so amazing
Not heard of this case! Thank you for the informative video Emma 😊
really struggled with this one, horribly close to home, well done again Emma, your'e such a natural story teller, and your compassion for the victim always shines through. xx
I remember watching the drama Merdered by My Boyfriend that you mentioned. Very powerful drama and I know of a couple of girls who left their relationships because of it which very likely saved their lives. You did Claire justice Emma. ❤
This was hard to listen to, thank you for the real anger, sadness you show us and all emotions that this has provoked in you, you give the victims a voice that is fair and just - the judge was f’kin amazing, his insight, and words must have helped her parents, friends and relatives. May every day of his 23 years contain, pain, torture, humiliation, hard beatings and abject fear to even leave your cell. I’m so sorry Clare and Clare’s family, especially your little boy 😢
This is one I knew of but not in as much detail as Queen Kenny tends to give on every case. Thank you for the content ❤
Thanks for bringing coverage to this case! I’ve never heard about Claire before ❤ May she rest in heaven and only have peace from now on. Not enough is done anywhere around the world for domestic abuse/violence
Absolutely tragic story. I broke down when I first heard about this as I used to live next door to Claire. My son is a few months older than hers, when we lived there we had regular garden play dates. She was such a pleasant lady, an amazing mum and just a really nice person. When I think about what she went through, my heart breaks even more. Thank you for covering this story, Emma, I’m just so sad that you had this story to cover. I am very glad that scum is behind bars, where he deserves to be. I know her little boy will make his mummy proud as he grows up ❤
Such a sad case,rip Clair. Thank you Emma for doing these videos 😊
How awful, 😞 . Cheers for the special upload! Been scrolling for the past twenty mins just before the upload on what to watch . Emma K it is xx
Once again, great content.
Not heard of this case but you definitely have gave it justice! As always love your sarcasm and two way conversations xx
Two way conversations...like when shes talking to herself ?
😅 im just joking..Miss Em is amazing and gives me a giggle when she has these two way conversations lol
Wow, Emma, you did serve her well with your passionate detail, I hope he gets justly dealt with in prison.
Nice to see you covering this, I live nearby and it's such a tragic case. Minor point of correction I don't think Stirling is Scotland's smallest city anymore as Dunfermline was recently given city status.
Actually, Scotland's smallest city is Kirkwall, in Orkney. So small its always forgotten about, but it has indeed got City status.
@@joygowland7810thanks, that wouldn't have occurred to me, got to admit I was thinking of the mainland only
I love your channel I rarely miss an episode. I’ve had a couple of narcissistic relationships (obv I am still alive) but they cause absolute devastation that I wouldn’t wish in anyone. You explain really well how these relationships work and it’s really educational for the people who have not experienced it and validating for the people that have. I’m pretty sure I’d never fall into this horrific trap with anyone else.
I absolutely adore you Em!! I never get notified this soon!! Yayyyy ❤
You really gave this poor girl legacy Emma ..thank you for all the hard work you put in.My heart is broken for Claire and her family ..i hope that vile excuse for a human never sees the outside world again
I really appreciate your composure in this case Emma. I'd have been much worse. Thank you for covering this case I haven't heard of it before. Rest in peace Claire ❤️
Thanks again. Emma ❤Hope he rots behind bars! RIP Claire. You deserved to live life & feel safe. I am so sorry the vile monster took your life 💔thoughts & prayers go to your family & loved ones 🙏🏻
Thanks so much Emma for all your hard work xx
Your way of covering horrific cases is so respectful and satisfying. Standing up for victims including their loved ones is beautiful. I also ALWAYS agree with your ideas of possible ways to sentence/punish the low life perpetrators! I just wanted to add a little comment to this particular perpetrator. The image of him in the water in his bathing suit with his arms up like he has something to brag about, I think this might bring some insight into why he was so angry and had to pick on people that couldn’t defend themselves against him. He’s a tiny man and it really shows in that swimsuit pic…..barely. I’ll just leave it at that. 😉
Rest in peace, beautiful Claire .
'you can't judge someone based on your feelings towards them, you have to judge them based on their actions' 👏👏 Very well put.
I wish someone had told me this when I was younger. It is so difficult, especially when you are young and a good person, but you have to let your logic take a front seat in those situations bc predators, abusive people use your emotion as a weapon against you. It shouldn't be that way, but it is, and putting your feelings aside to assess the real life situation could literally save your life.
Yeeeeessss thank you Em, we appreciate you and your hard work so much ❤️ xxx
Thanks em. Stay safe everyone wherever you are in the world.
I know this case well as it’s local to me, such an absolute devastating blow to the community and her family 💔
Emma you are so professional and compassionate at what you do I always find my self looking away when you show the defendant I will definitely see you again on Sunday
I haven't got to the end yet, but I remember the case in the news. Firstly, why was this man allowed out in the first place, and secondly, he should NEVER be let out EVER.
My heart goes out to Claire, her baby boy and family 💔🙏🏾 R.I.P Claire❤️ glad this evil b&stard got life and justice has been served! I hope he never gets out
It's sad that there will be more cases of these awful abusive killers😓
Every time I watch one of your videos, it helps heal another small piece of me, it helps me realise what I've survived.
Thank you for helping me heal. Xx
Struggling to see what she saw in him looks wise but add in his criminal past makes him even WORSE especially as she had a little boy at home 😢
Extra episode? Always a happy surprise. Thanks Em 💚
Members get first viewing on a Wednesday episode ;) xx
Thank you for your efforts, dear Em. I wish you and your loved ones a wonderful Christmas time. The most beautiful present lies kicking beside the tree, your Christmas angel Etta-Blue with big shining eyes. Merry Xmas ❤❤❤🎄🎁🌟🎄🎅
Emma, we so so so appreciate you. Your efforts to go into full detail and how so truthful you are on your own feelings are amazing!
I’ve been watching you for many many years including tv.
I grew up wanting to become a lawyer helping victims including children. You make that even more important in my life!
Thank you so much for amazing content and such full explanations on everything you cover!
Wish you a fantastic 2024❤️❤️❤️
Emma, You know what I would love to see? How you do your research, how long it takes etc...
I Love the way that you approach each and every tragic case. You humour is also Brilliant, tinged with Entertaining sarcasm! You are Simply The Best! ❤️
I realize this is an old post but it touched me so much! Great job Emma! This is such a horrible example of a male-centric society who put so little value on the lives of women that acts like this happen over and over! It's such important information to get out to teenage girls because these kind of men can come into a girls life at any point! I sent this link to my 17 year old granddaughter. I can't imagine her becoming involved with such a man! Thank you so much for doing this work❤
I haven't heard of that one 😮Thank you Emma, you are titan of work👍💪
I love your attitude towards these animals,rugby team 👍 I like it !
Me and my daughter came to see your show in Leicester,you are amazing,and teach us a lot ,thank you 💗
I know this is very judgemental, but I swear, sometimes people DO actually look the way they are inside on the outside.
That's all the time.
Well said. It's true in some cases.
@@gailhickman743 Some cases?
I worked with a vile woman; two faced, judgmental, loved to gossip, etc. it was written all over her face. She once told us an anecdote where she was flying somewhere. As the guards checked her passport, one nudged the other and they looked at her photograph and started laughing. Those people see literally thousands of passports, yet they actively laughed at her. Of course, I’m so stupid, I thought the best of her. Silly me 🙄!
Thanks for covering this case my lovely Emma thanks also for all your amazing hard work and superb videos .. u are a legend ..
Emma, I wish I'd known about coercive control 55yrs ago when I met my bully. He was 6'1" and I was 4'11" so I didn't stand a chance against him . The threats and bullying started within 2wks of meeting him. I was 18 and very naive, still a kid really, and out fear I married him. Had 2 lovely kids and became really submissive and afraid. Eventually started drinking to cope and addicted to tranquilizers, and after 16yrs was able to leave him, but because I was so unwell I had to leave the kids with him. Oh the agony!! I'm now 70 and clean and sober for 37yrs. 😊 . My son and daughter have nothing to do with him, haven't for yrs, and the bully is now on his 3rd marriage and from what I've heard he's controlling her too. My heart hurts for all the women in these terrible situations. RIP Claire and much love to her grieving family.❤
Emma I'm from Falkirk I know people who know this girl so sad thanks for covering ❤
She seems like the sort of soul who thought and saw the best in everyone she met...this is such a hard thing to happen to such a beautiful girl who had everything to live for and he destroyed her.. so sad for her family and her friends and mosty her poor son...what avway to lose such a wonderful mother 💔
I agree. She saw the best in people & was incredibly loyal & forgiving. Exactly the qualities in a woman that those sort of reprehensible violent bastards are attracted to.🥺
@@brendarigotti843Absolutely spot on, men like that are always on the lookout for women who are lovely like Claire.
Yes she saw the good in everyone .Just so sad that she even met this maniac .Claire is missed every minute of every day 💜
12.33 am here. Super excited for another brilliant deep dive. Will listen as i fall asleep. Then again tomorrow morning ❤. Thanks beautiful Em for working so hard on your content. ❤
Thank you for giving this case the spotlight needed. So many women and men are living in coercively controlling relations and they might just recognise themselves here. ❤
It's very disheartening that Claire knew all she knew & felt a foreboding but still went on to have a relationship with this being..it's VERY difficullt not to victim blame her a bit.. especially her bringing this" guy" around her son!!😨 if despite all the alarm signals this happened what hope do we have for the safety of our kids??😥😥😵💔
Can't agree more.
I just found your channel toad and love it. I love your honest opinion on the criminal and your sense of humour
Thank you for this video Emma - quality as always!
I know you are always on the look out for new deep dive cases to research and investigate. The tragic case of Darcey Freeman, an innocent little girl, who's ' Father ' threw her off the 70 metre high, Westgate Bridge, in Melbourne Australia, to punish the mother! Beyond human, Beyond belief.
I thought this very worth, mentioning to you. Kindest thoughts 👍
Who picked the father?
Thank you for this Emma you truly show the standards to set and the behaviour to be aware of and tolerate for woman as a whole. This will serve so many young woman I commend your so talking about this horrific case with such passion and dignity. I wish I had seen this type of video as a young woman. Thank you again and my deepest sympathy with the family.
A coercive controlling relationship is so hard to understand the workings. You don't see it when you are in it. You don't see the red flags. If you could, it wouldn't succeed.
Very sad case , just goes to show how beautiful young ( an older ) woman can be controlled, despicable! I also agree that not all people who have traumatic childhoods murder .. such a compassionate delivery Emma for this beautiful young woman thank you 💜
Emma you are amazing ❤ make sure you give this lady a like 👍 she deserves it 😊
Very sad 😢 case heartbreaking. I am so relieved that her son was staying with Claire's parents that night. Hopefully he was never physical abused by him. Heartbreaking 😢 hopefully her son gets the support he needs from the Grandparents & extending family.
12:40 Emma, I have watched every single one of your videos and I want to thank you. You helped me to realize that I was in a coercively controlling relationship and I am out of it now ❤ thank you.
I’m from Dunblane and know people who knew Claire, it’s such a tragedy! 😢💔
Emma ,thank you for sharing, the empathy, understanding for these beautiful women who love the men who kill them ❤
Thank you as always Emma for such a deep detailed analysis of Claire’s case the minute that any criminal (or even suspected criminal) has a violent past or any past that could pose a threat they should not be bailed to any address they should have bail hostels to make sure they are supervised and adhering to conditions of their bail. That girl deserved so much more from life and the only person responsible for her not being here today is him.
More needs to be done to protect people from violent offenders and Humza won’t be around long, we in Scotland were deeply affected by losing a strong first minister in Nicola Sturgeon yes she had some faux pas but she was definitely not someone who passed the buck. My condolences to Claire’s family and friends xx
Absolutely heartbreaking rip Claire. 😢 Thank you Emma 🙏💜
Emma is the best always ,so hardworking and caring giving a voice for the victims. Monsters like him need calling out..Rest sometimes Emmax
Hi Emma, i just read about the case of David Stutt, of Wade Street, Bristol. He has just been sentenced for life after decades of sexually abusing his victims. Are you going to cover his case?
I am especially interested as i live in Bristol, but somehow, i never heard of him till now.
Love your videos, you do an amazing job at giving a real feel of the individuals and their families too on top of all the facts.
Keep up the great work you do ❤
You’ve done clair proud in telling of her tragic loss
The end message is amazing 👍🏻👏 ,loud and clear 💚
I was in a relationship like this for 6 years I ended up on a ventilator for 3 months .. I got out but had to go back to my Rez to keep him away .. rest in absolute peace Claire fly high beautiful girl ❤❤❤
Is this a bonus episode? Isn’t it always on wednesdays and sundays? Crime and consistency 😘
I read about this, in the local news, as I am a few miles from Stirling. Thanks for covering it. It's something that should have received more national coverage, as it's an education for people, who are in these controlling relationships, male or female. This area is very much still in an era, where men are the bosses. Not making excuses for him at all but there's still loads of this attitude about. Time that changed!
Hi Emma it's Sam Moore here just to say hi and i really enjoy your show please let me know and to say hi back take care 😊
Hi Sam x
I just LOVE you❤ You should have been an attorney….or maybe a Judge! Love Love Love your work in True Crime❤
A heartbreaking story, but sadly one that we hear more and more often. My heart goes out to claire's family and son. Our system needs changing, too many violent offends are allowed to be out in society to abuse and kill. TIME FOR CHANGE
There is no way he should be let out. He is a real danger to society 100%. What I think of this is that poor child has now lost two parents, so hopefully his grandparents will take him in and give him a loving home.
RIP Clare ❤
We have Kinship of her son and he is living his best life as he can without her we are making sure of that and Claire's sister and her partner love him so much as well and he loves them too
@@fionainglis603really glad to hear this! :)
You are amazing Emma and husband! You are so inspiring to all at your work ethics! Thank you for all you do esp for the voiceless and telling their stories! I now am proactive and my children as well. I am very careful esp with new people who love bomb! I watch a lot! I observe a lot! Due to you and husband and these cases! 🙏🙌🏼🥰
Having been a victim of coercive control and multiple physical assaults due to domestic violence in 2022 this rings home a lot. If I hadn't managed escape out my sitting room window this could so easily have been a video of how my psycho ex killed me like he had sworn he was going to do. My heart goes out to Claire's family and friends. May she rest in peace.
Emma always gets into the details and tells it how it realy iz!!!!!!
I would love to have you as my therapist, Emma. i dont have any, cos i am actualy afraid that i will find them stupid and not understanding.. You are very good in understanding human minds. No one can understand fully, as there is no way as per my opinion only. but you are good. I enjoy your videos and appreciate your consistensy. ) Thank you
Love your work , respect🤜🏽🤛🏽💯
As an ex heroin addict, most dealers are addicts themselves and ive known many who are good people but got caught up in that lifestyle
😅😂😅😂😅😂
@@HiNickCares I once sold it too I dated dealers. We were as addicted as our friends who bought it. We are both clean now ..me and my ex. i went to college got my degree and I work as a paralegal, i have a 6 yr old and my life is amazing now. It was once hell. Your past doesn't always dictate your future. It's easy to judge if you've never been there
@@adrialee8149 You make a lot of bad decisions.
@@HiNickCareshow is this funny please la?
@@alfredwilson4224 it's like a snowball rolling down a hill of woman moments.
Again told with the upmost respect to Clair & her family & with great passion thank you Emma xx
Home town tragedy very harrowing for the community 😢 RIP Claire 🖤
How the hell do these dickheads find girlfriends in small towns.
So sad 😞 rip Claire. As always wonderful job emma
I really enjoy your sarcastic humor. I love that you call out the government and police on their mistakes that cost lives. You are also extremely caring and it shows how much you care about the victims of the cases you cover.
Awww Emma I just love how you tell us these crimes
It’s so very sad how girls/women find and stay with their abusers… Often makes me wonder if the said mentioned had a Dad who would swing for them. Also, when will the law change, that family and friends can press charges against abusers, without permission from the abused. It’s frustrating let alone dangerous, seeing and hearing what abuse someone goes through, just being there for them, really doesn’t help …..
To all women/MMEN watching, you are not the one who can these monsters, speak out and get out ❤
There is a programme on BBC IPlayer about this case I have now realised. Her parents are so lovely and so utterly devastated. 😞😥
Thank you
Our hearts have truly been ripped out .Claire was our daughter but she was just lovely 💜
@@fionainglis603So very sorry for your loss. I hope your grandson is doing as well as he can be. Sorry for what you’ve been put through. Sending big love 💗 🙏🏽
Well presented
Well I had a terrible childhood, I didn't drink or take drugs, and I certainly haven't killed anyone. NO EXCUSE for being a total evil selfish scumbag. This makes my piss boil !!!! Please excuse my language, Emma I don't know how you keep your cool x
Emma have you heard the case of Tristan & Blake Barrass, because I NEED your deep dive on it- it's absolutely bizarre and it happened in England! Never heard of it and I'm only across the water in Ireland.
I agree ..I was reading about this case the other night but as always Emma's perspective on this case would be invaluable
I just read about it, finding out the parents where awful siblings just added to the sickening of what they done!🤮
Very odd people!
I wanted to stop watching this multiple times. It was so painful to listen to and to know what Claire went through is extremely heartbreaking. Her child is now an orphan and that monster has robbed a whole family of something irreplaceable. How can someone do something like this? & then for him to laugh? It's enraging and beyond disgusting. There is no excuse for doing that to another person, that man is simply an evil soul. I'm so sorry for Claire, I'm so so sorry this happened to her. May she rest in eternal peace.
Thank you 💜
Love your show just putting it out there Garth
New to your channel and content.. I thought Elizabethan was my fav now you are ❤