If she’s tired and still wants round two, that means you did good. If she’s full of energy and asks for round two, that means you didn’t actually satisfy her in the first round (and she’s likely being sweet to try to arose you).
For me, it has always been a case of the first one is the appetiser, the second one is the main meal and sometimes the third is the sweets. The main meal does take between 30min and 1 hour to prepare. The main thing for me is to live a healthy life with a good frame of mind. Love the channel.
This was me also, up until my 40s. You nailed it exactly though. First was a mini O, then it started all over for the main course, then started over for three and sometimes four which was dry fire.
Glad you posted this. I was once told by a psychologist/therapist that ejaculation was orgasm. No matter how I argued from personal experience, my point was not accepted.
Finally, thank you, someone explains sexuality,. I'm 68 and I remember conversations I had with my mother when I was 20. In my experience, young people learned their sexuality from porn movies, I had the chance to have a GF who teach me female sexuality; I have known women, 50+ years, having children, and not knowing what is an orgasm. So really thank you for what you do, I hope it will teach people not to hurt each other and find pleasure.
Dr. Malik. I appreciate your relaxed style of delivery when you speak in colloquial terms like "Get it back Up Again" It sounds better than "Re-establish a Fully Functional Erection" Take Care and have a Great Weekend...Why? Because YOU'RE WORTH IT!
someone told me that "if she wants more but is too tired, then you've satisfied her... if she wants more and ISN'T tired, you've got a lot of work to do..."
As a man the refractory period is also beneficial for mental health. Testosterone is driving urge and release of sexual tension. If that desire remained after orgasm I may go mad constantly requiring release which would unobtainable.
Yeah but going through a primary orgasm with 10 to 30 ejaculation spasms, then the 3 to 10 minute period of frustration while continuing, followed by the second orgasm / ejaculation pairing is much more satisfying than a simple go at it.
I can go multiple times. But that depends on few things I've noticed. 1. Desire for the woman 2. The amount of hassle I have to go through to go again and again. Meaning If she's a complainer well it's just not worth the effort. I'll just move on.
If you have a woman who irritates you it's difficult to do it once but if have woman who likes to make you happy buy wearing stockings or nurse costume you can get up and go again
Important to note: In men, erection, ejaculation, and orgasm are not always coincident. All 8 states (yes/no, for each of the 3) are possible; some of those combinations are much more difficult to achieve than others. Perhaps the rarest, is orgasm with neither of the other 2. Easiest is quietude; none of the 3. (Except maybe in your teens, when erections are rampant.) 2nd easiest is erection only. Thanks, Dr. Malik, for another highly informative video! Fred
Thnk you bro for that contribution. It bothers me that people normally dont differentiate the 3. Orgasmic state is possible all over the body when the nerve endings are superexcited. Ejaculation may accompany orgasm or come as a result of it and usually it is more likely to come from a engorged penis being stimulated, but as ejaculation is mainly a prostate function, the prostate can also be stimulated directly without involving the penis. Unfortunately male sexuality is overfocussed on the penis when there is a lot more erotic spots available, just like in females, like scrotum, perinium, anus , breast, feet, hands, neck ears, head etc. Since orgasm is a nervous system state, male and female share the same nervous system design, so what teases a female should tease a male too. If you get over your cultural inhibitions and just look at the biology.
I never had an orgasm without ejaculation. I've tried edging and other things and it's literally impossible for me. I'm highly skeptical when people claim to have a bunch of orgasms without ejaculation.
@@manuelsilva6244 It is a real, but uncommon thing, and I believe it's highly age-dependent. The one time I did it, I was in my mid-50s. I'm sure I could never have managed it at 20 or 30. It was a tutorial session in Tantra, I was following the session leader's instructions, and I was amazed at the result. Most amazingly, it wasn't even a sexual response; but it definitely had that unmistakable orgasmic sensation to it, and as MJ Checksfield says, it happened all over the body. Fred
I really love the way you explain very serious/important valuable things in extremely simple way.Accordingly anybody from varous intellectual capacities can easily absorb your teachings.i have no doubt whatsoever that your students should be the luckiest people on this planet
Had a lot of them in my teens through 20s. Now in 50s nope but if she wants more rounds there’s other ways to get it accomplished. It’s about communication and desire to please.
@@deetee4403 - lol, I wasn't talking about the literal fruit. There's other ways to please your woman in the bedroom, like savoring her "fruit"........ 😻
I’m 30 and as long as we don’t stop I’m good to go. If I finish and she’s okay with working with a half limp member for about 20 mins I can get back up but I last wayyyyy longer. Sometimes I don’t get to finish the second time but it’s still fun and she enjoys it. Everyone’s different, communication helps
Very interesting video, people like to comment their experiences, but for me the refractory period can be in average 20minutes to an hour. Ever since I started exercising , I have experienced multiple orgasms but also strengthening all muscles down there, combined with increased stamina, after the fact I sleep extremely well
@@novogratvzmichael5545 does nugenix work or there was a sex medication for men called Noxitril I'm very careful cause ethnicity does play a factor. U can't just take anything off the counter
I know a guy who told me he is a frequent 2 rounders. He said while it's very important to stay in good shape, have enough rest so your body don't mind the extra rounds, the main thing for him is emotional. He always cuddles and has fun and naughty talks with his girl after the first round ends, and after 5 to 10 minutes of sweet time his body will be ready for action again and he claims sometimes he can go up to 3 or 4 rounds in a night, as long as they're willing to stay awake late. I don't know if he's lying, but he and his girl appear to be very happy together indeed.
He's lying. His motivation is wanting respect from you; the fact you wrote a paragraph in the comments indicates he's been hitherto successful. Narcissists have a bad rep but they're actually great to have around. They tend to be really helpful when (appreciatively but not desperately) asked to help with stuff.
I doubt he’s lying and it seems Dan doesn’t know what he’s talking about. I’ve had days where I have nothing else to do and decided to just enjoy sex for the day and have had dozens of times where I’ve had at least 5-8 orgasms/ejaculations (all basically dry after the first 2-3). There’s almost always a refractory period in between but if I stay engaged then it’s no more than 5-10 minutes at most and I’m up and going again just like before. On two or three occasions in my life in my 30s and 40s, I’ve had multiple orgasms/ejaculations with almost no refractory period (I didn’t fully lose my erection) and on one of those occasions I didn’t lose it at all, I managed to ejaculate twice without stopping about 5 minutes apart. Those occasions were on purpose and took an extraordinary amount of concentration and effort to achieve, and they’re definitely outliers because most of the time I can’t even come close to that even if I’m trying to. But I can assure you that 2-4 rounds in a night is not impossible at all. I can also tell you that after a marathon day, you’re going to be done for several days while your body recovers, because that much activity takes a physical toll and things need to recover and heal before they’re ready to go again. The people who tell you that isn’t possible or who find it questionable, I feel sorry for, because I’ve always been this way. Unless something is wrong or I’m just in a bad way mentally or emotionally, there pretty much aren’t any days where I couldn’t have sex at least 4-5 times a day. Now I don’t actually _do_ that on a regular basis because I still have a life to live and a job to do and bills to pay and other interests in life besides sex, but it’s very easy for me to do if I want to. What actually shocks me is that it wouldn’t be possible for so many men.
I turned 40 last October and started to have multiple Os about a year and a half ago out of nowhere. Even after a full on ejaculation most times it just takes a little stimulation and we're right back in the game
The rest time is to allow you to cuddle and tell your partner how beautiful they are 💕 Or if you’re married it allows your partner time to tell you how you are doing it all wrong 😟 Or if you’re going solo it allows you time to have another beer 🍺
Good video.. age certainly plays a part but I have found exercise, diet, good healthy living all play a part in recovery... Eliminating stress from the moment is a must...
I've usually had short breaks for round 2 depending on the partner, the thing is that round 2 can take a lot longer to finish, which can be good or bad. Depending on the partner, mutual oral, either 69 or sequential, for round one can be a great way to make sure my partner and I are both satisfied.
Giving you thumbs up before the start of the video cos so far I've not come across even one video which is not informative, gives all useful information within a span of 10 mins on the subject! 👍
Currently 24 - I don’t think the refractory period is a thing for me. Many times after ejaculation I just stick it back in and keep going. This is a blessing because it doesn’t break the mood - there’s no downtime so it’s just back to the game.
I am so glad for you. I used to be able to do this in my solo mastubations long before puberty, having tons of consecutive orgasms in same mastubation session with same erection without the need to stop at all. Unfortunately I lost that ability through changes in puberty.
I find the repeat performance better But I think the recipient of your desire has a lot to do with it . Onwards and upwards and bit sidwarded if you're feeling fruity 🤕👍 Be happy ☀️
Since I quit all refined sugar and started IF/OMAD/KETO lifestyle ... I go go as often as I like ... have near zero refractory and my stamina is several hours if I so choose ... I am age 55 and am like back in high school performance wise!!!
Based on my experiences a man can continue to have an erection and multiple orgasms after ejaculation as long as there is continued stimulation and you work through the sensitivity. but there will be little to no ejaculation subsequently
You can get rid of the hyper-sensitivity entirely, every now and again it may say hello but not be as bad as originally which makes it much easier to retain it. Definitely less during the second orgasm, but not none.
I'm vulva owner, that's a 2019 XC90, I picked it up in Sweden and drove it around Europe for a month before I shipped it back to the United States. but what does that have to do with sexual refractory.?
CORRECTION: You mean "Volvo" owner when talking about cars & "vulva" when talking about a female's private parts. People should know the difference. After all, it's normal & natural to lick, suck, smell & caress a vulva or two. But if you try doing that to any Volvo, it will void the factory warranty. 😮
I want to keep going… I hate all of the ads that show up about testosterone killing food with no actual information with out spending $ on a subscription….Usually last between 5 and 10 minutes. If it’s been a few days - minutes…. But attaining arousal when she’s still ready to rock and roll, does add mental stress and doesn’t help getting you heads in the game.
Thank you for the video. These topics are interesting even though they can be uncomfortable. For some reason, the idea of using a stopwatch to time the refractory period seems both humorous and disconcerting. For those of us who are older and have suffered severe health issues, timing the refractory period is better done with a calendar than a stopwatch. I also wonder how many of the studies use self-reporting versus laboratory testing. If a study tried to use some kind of laboratory measurements, I wonder whether that would really reflect the entire population. I think there would be a very specific personality type that would be willing to be part of that testing, and I don't know whether those men and women would represent the population as a whole. Years ago, there was a movie called "There's Something About Mary." One scene in that movie was roughly based on the idea of a refractory period although they obviously didn't discuss the issue in scientific terms. I didn't care for the movie, but everyone else in the world thought it was hilarious. This discussion reminds me of the discussion in the movie.
Dr Malik you should also consider making the Colgate tooth paste commercials, your teeth are so white, so long, so aligned, perfect smile! Your're so hired!
I have to say, chemistry is pretty amazing. Once my exGf and I managed 9x in less than 24 hours, which was exceptional. The chemistry was off the charts, and I was in my 50s, she was in her 40s. I definitely hope to find that level of chemistry again.
My wife of 55 years and I had a busy sex life and I had a fast response for years as she could excite me. That obviously slowed over time and in recent years libido was decreased by heart medication to control BP. That medication to has been reduced by 75% this year and sex is fun again three or four times a week. I’m 75 now and hoping it lasts awhile longer.
This surely varies a lot. For a man, this can differently be described as: how many ejaculations on a single erection. So, one has to be careful about the notion of "refractory period" - it does not need to include loss of a full erection. When I was in my twenties, for me that number of ejaculations in a single erection was two, almost all of the time and in just a few minutes, and sometimes three - also in less than 20 minutes. I have never had an orgasm without an ejaculation - although the volume obviously decreases with number of ejaculations.
Here is my "study"... refractory period in older men (age 50+) is a function of the age of their partner (or visual stimulus such as a picture, video...). Around same age = 100% of "normal" refractory period. Subtract about 2% of that for each 1 year less the female is of age. So for example, a 50 year old man who is normally used to a 50 year old woman, but then watches a video of a 40 year old woman, that should make his refractory period drop to 80% of the normal time (so if normal was 24 hours, then 80% would be 19.2 hours). 50 year old watching a video of a 30 year old female, perhaps 60% of 24 hours = 14.4 hours. This is just a guideline, not a rule. Men are "programmed" to respond better to younger females. 50 year old man watching two 18 year old females "go at it", perhaps down 90% to 2.4 hours "recharge" time.
I read a study some time back that sperm quantity also increases as much as 3 fold if with an especially hot lover. I think the PDE-5's could be replaced by using the natural pre-programmed method you've just described. Peace.
Totally disagree. Not all men are programmed for younger women. There are so many younger men liking older women. What you are saying is your perception and not a rule of thumb applicable to all men in the world because each one of us is different.
@@muraliseetharaman1908 I didn't say all men, I said men, meaning generally speaking. There are some men that like other men so your point about exceptions is already obvious even before you stated it. I stated a general rule of thumb. Why do you think most women try to make themselves look younger? Did you ever see a commercial advertisement for a face cream or hand cream that makes a woman look older? A cream that gives you more wrinkles? I rest on your face... errr.. I rest my case.
You mentioned Dopamine. I'm 46 and have parkinsons and take sinemet. I was just to my urologist less than 2 weeks ago and was asking him about bladder issues (hard to urinate and not completely emptying sometimes). I wish I would have known about this. I would really love to have more info about this. As always great information!
Back in the day, I dated a girl who was multi-orgasmic… I was 31 and she was 26. We never “worried” about a Refactory Period, we just enjoyed each other all.night.long… Sad to say, we both went our separate ways, but just thinking about her gets me hard…
One way i got round 2 is to never stop. My little dude stays hard after, and if it keeps going, round 2 will happen. It just takes a while for it to happen.
Hey, Doctor, I really like your content and appericate the effort and quality you deliver to us regularly. Would love to see a video about the differences between male and female ejaculation, male and female orgasm types, explanation of what we call an orgasm.
Thanks to you, Dr Malik, I learned about Folic Acid & its effect on sex activity. I make a juice of fresh spinach & broccoli & take it daily. (That REALLY helps!)🥰
Thank God my man is younger. I am older and I feel like our energies are matching as I want it more now than I did when I was younger, and he hasn't hit his peak yet. *Older woman/younger man* Ladies: Kegels, pineapples, and slippery elm, pilates/yoga and not using over using sex toys; Men: Nitric oxide, pineapples, folic acid, hitting the gym, and not watching porn and frequent masturbation.
@@seanpatrick7497 Maybe true or not. There are some older men that have drive and stamina. When I was in my mid 30s, my partner was 50. He had no issues with drive, stamina, and being ready for the next round within less than an hour or so of each encounter. I realize that he was pretty good for being that age and able to keep it going like that.
What is this? I am a 50+ man, and I have never felt any need for a ”refractory period. 2-3 ejaculations without break is no problem, I only need to slow down the tempo slightly in between. On the other hand, after such a session I am usually soaked with sweat and quite exhausted : )
I've also made this experience. After edging I can have 1 or 2 additional ejaculations, just gotta keep going (at somewhat reduced pace and pressure in between). It's amazing! However, afterwards I'm totally exhausted. Well, I'm already 48..
My Dear Doctor Malik..................I am 67 yrs old and a avid gym nut and fitness instructor part time. My wife is about 32 years younger then me. I have no problem with multiple ejaculation and never have my entire life. I guess I am one of those one in a thousand blessed. It is no problem for me to go 3 - 4 rounds without tiring, or the use of sexual stimulants. I am sure I am not alone but must admit this is probably far and few between. Love your vlogs ! Keep up the factual science of your profession. I have learned a lot of valuable information I never knew.................William
so crazy. I just happened to have 4 orgasms/ejaculations this week. Two were back to back, and a few days later, two more back to back. I was kind of amazed. Then, I see this post from Rena. I feel kind of lucky. I'm 47 years old, and I still have the energy to go round after round. Thank God I had a vasectomy.
@@user-jo5fz8iw3b sorry if my comment wasn't clear. I had an orgasm with ejaculation, then about 5 minutes later, I had another orgasm and ejaculation. About 3 days later, I did the same. It just surprised me that I could do it. I wasn't really planning on it. Then, I saw this video on refractory period.
It's definitely possible for most all men to learn how to have multiple orgasms. It involves learning how to clench the pelvic floor (Kegel exercises) as soon as the orgasm starts so that you don't ejaculate. For some men this will prevent the refractory period, but not all. I'm one of the unfortunate ones that even after learning how to prevent ejaculation I'd still have a refractory period after orgasm, though I could orgasm multiple times in short succession before the refractory period started. Luckily, my refractory period has always been pretty short, and now in my late 30s I can still go again within about 15-20 minutes.
Great topic. This one is really illuminating. As a life long premature ejaculator, I can identify with the long refractory period. After my under a minute finish, I'm completely and totally spent. The evenings festivities are over! Lol
I was surprised that my suspicion wasn’t one of the possibilities that were researched by Dr Malik or that she looked and didn’t find it. I’m talking about a huge depletion of testosterone during orgasm. The more testosterone a person produces the sooner you can come back. Even those with more than average testosterone levels will experience decline of it as they age. Even if later than others, it’s a matter of time.
I think it depends how hot the attraction is. Lets put it like this, if you just hooked up with someone you really have the hots for chances are big you will want more than just a little sex so you will be motivated for more rounds or longer sessions. If you have been married for a good long time or are in an older relationship, you might just want a little top up bonding and then its sleep well honey, or back to social media time.
Dr malik. Im 44yrs old, very decent shape for the most part. In my case, I'm usually sexually excited more than I should be in a day, but there are days that my organ wants action but physically I don't. Then there are times I want to my organ dosen't respond like normal. Could that be more psychological or age?
@@richardpauly1635 naw, im not on any pills. And for the most part everything works fine. It's just some days I'm really and the mood, things stand at salute excellent, even when I don't want to I still get really good erections. Then there are days when I want to but the blood don't rush like I'm used to having it. Or days when I can go forever 1hr or more then days when I just want to get in and get out. But my girlfriend likes to orgasm everytime so it take some time, more time than I'm willing to give
For Guys who want to try Multiple, try half ejaculation. So let your body do the first one without you aiding the contractions. Pulling out and taking slow breaths helps. Then, go at it now and try to force the contractions yourself. It's like how stopping a piss mid-way seems impossible, but some (not all) can do it.
I’ve read that the refractory period for male lab mice is much shorter when a new/novel sexual partner is introduced into their cage as compared to continued access to the same partner. It may not have been tested in humans, but I wouldn’t be surprised if the result were the same.
All those stock shots of extremely frustrated people, sitting awake in bed at night, are super funny because they are so over-emphasizing the point. Also, I find it interesting that the refractory period is put in a negative/undesirable context through these shots, when many people will be very content and happily cuddling after sex during this period!
I have had as many as 6 in a 4-5 hour period. It helps to have a partner you're very passionate about that shares the same feeling.... and you're both willing to do what it takes to keep that feeling alive. I'm 46 btw.
Congratulations! I'm very happy for you. I'm 47, in my 40s I've been sexually deprived from sex, famine! My 20s and 30s was the great but 40s is the worse. Im doomed 😂😂.
Dr. Malik, please do a video discussing orgasm intensity. I think this has a large impact on sex lives but is almost never discussed. Here's my point - I cannot explain this clinically but anecdotally I think most people would agree not all orgasms are alike. In my younger more vigorous days, like around age 21, there were sessions where there could be as many as 3 orgasms. Part of this was due to length of session (a couple of hours), so refractory period could be half an hour or so. But part of it, to be blunt, was that although the orgasms were pleasurable, they weren't super intense and thus were easier to recover from. There have been other sessions, on the other hand (maybe not the best choice of words?), maybe where some edging had occurred and climax was delayed, such that when orgasm was finally reached it was so intense as to almost cause one to pass out. I really think most people would agree that not all orgasms are of the same intensity. I would think this would apply to women as well. I wish there were studies addressing this. Here's why - many women report being disappointed in their lovers who "as soon as he finishes he just rolls over and falls asleep but I'm still ready to keep going and he just leaves me hanging." My guess is that the reason he's completely wiped out is he's just had an extremely intense orgasm, not just a mildly pleasurable one. I also think that although women have a shorter refractory period than men and are thus thought of as more likely to be multi-orgasmic, part of it is just that they may not be having orgasms as intensely as men and can therefore recover more quickly. Again, this is only from observation and not from scientific data, but I have actually seen women orgasm so deeply that they were completely wiped out. There was no "multi-orgasmic" happening, they were done. My guess is that a) this level of intensity happens for men much more frequently than women and b) if it happened more frequently for women then they might be more willing to engage in activity with their partners more frequently and have fewer "headaches". Just a theory though.
Dr. Malik, thank you for this video. Your videos are always very comprehensive (and very watchable due to your personality and delivery) and you answered all of my long standing questions. I've always been a "one and done" kind of guy, with a lack of physical/mental desire and/or ability to "repeat" for many hours after one orgasm, but I remember a sexual encounter with a Swedish girl I was dating during which I had three orgasms (and ejaculations) within about one hour, which was due to her "other worldly" ability to vary the pressure in her vagina by contracting the surrounding muscles. I remember saying that she did Kegel exercises on a regular basis, but I'm pretty sure she invented the exercises! (unfortunately, she didn't work on her mental stability as much as her vaginal muscle tone and the relationship ended. 😆)
I'm with you-a life long member of the "one and done" club. Lucky you getting to have that experience with the Swedish lady. It's too bad that the relationship didn't last longer.
Hi, Dr. Malik, I just started watching the video and came (no pun intended) across the phrase "spinal ejaculatory center." Now, I was born with spina bifida and had a full spinal realignment--as I was also born with severe scoliosis (multiple curvatures in my spine of 60+ degrees)--when I was about 9 years old. This was in 2004, so I'm 26 now, if that information changes my question. I was wondering if that disconnect from my birth defect (for reference, the place where my spine didn't fully form was near the pelvis, so I am a paraplegic, I can't walk, but I have full motor function of my arms and chest) affects the ejaculation cycle. At the risk of giving too much information, I do ejaculate quite a lot (as in a high volume, not necessarily often), and I never feel like I fully "empty" myself. I also have a very quick cooldown period, which I always have attributed to being young. My last partner would remark how tired she would get but I'd still be up, and I could/can ejaculate 2-3 times before being "done." Is there any advice you'd be able to offer for me to achieve a more complete ejaculation, or do I just have the best curse a man of my age could want and I just have to deal with it? Thank you for reading and taking the time to respond, if you can, Dr. Malik. I really appreciate the sexual education, because sexual health is the part of my life I feel the dumbest about asking for help with. Thank you for helping me to remove the shame from having my sexual identity intrinsically linked to my disability in my mind.
For me. Viagra was much more effective for multiple pops in a session. Cialis was less effective for multiples. For a normal one and done night I couldn't tell much difference between the two.
Refractory period is important to lower the excitement and stress buildup. Some rodent males who mate multiple times non stop , they die of Starvation and fatigue. The build up of stress hormones during tis event can prove fatal if it's not allowed to stabilize for sometime
I guess I am weird as I have been told many times, but early on I focused on holding until my partner had at least one orgasm. Looked into Tantra and other means of doing so. With this I found that a minute or two and I was ready again. Two was common, three or four happened often. And this held until my late forties when I went celibate for other reasons. I use to joke that anything less than four hours was foreplay, but over the years I did have one or two partners that preferred quicker and I did accommodate them. I always looked at sex as being about making my partner happy first and foremost rather than a selfish act. Masturbation was for selfish time. Not sure what it would be now with BHP and twenty years alone. I guess my point is that the variations can be very wide depending upon goals and mental state.
I figured out long ago that sometimes women do not want to be used as a body to constantly prove my prowess. LOL If we only have 10 minutes in the bathroom because of the kids we were outta luck! And nobody wanted the massage table treatment. More than once, that is.
You are not weird bro, just into tantra. That tends to be a game changing move when it comes to understanding sexuality. I got to really enjoy my sexuality when I opened up to the realisation that nearly the whole body is potentially orgasmic or can be involved in pleasure. Wherever there are nerve endings pretty well, they can be stimulated and excited OR used to calm you down. I do heaps of massage too including Thai, Swedish, Tapping and reflexology and pressure points. Sex and massage equals a lot of pleasure and relaxation for the body and therefore good health.
@@spicyd6213 you would be right there about most of the women I got to know. The female species is not culturally brought up generally to see sexual pleasure as something they can do for a long time or get more powerful orgasms via edging etc. Still they mostly want it done as soon as possible and think they are engaging in it predominantly as a favour to their men or husbands. Although I still loved my long term spouse, sexually we have never been compatible.
I Love that feeling when she's smiling and asks for round 2, you know you have done a satisfactory damn good job.
Means you are a bad dude, and you run with some bad boys.
Dog not allowed ect
@@michaelhawkes6492 suicide not allowed
If she’s tired and still wants round two, that means you did good. If she’s full of energy and asks for round two, that means you didn’t actually satisfy her in the first round (and she’s likely being sweet to try to arose you).
I will satisfy my future wife in first round 🌚🌚
For me, it has always been a case of the first one is the appetiser, the second one is the main meal and sometimes the third is the sweets. The main meal does take between 30min and 1 hour to prepare. The main thing for me is to live a healthy life with a good frame of mind. Love the channel.
Haha I like the way you worded this, first one is definitely the appetizer.
This was me also, up until my 40s. You nailed it exactly though. First was a mini O, then it started all over for the main course, then started over for three and sometimes four which was dry fire.
Glad you posted this. I was once told by a psychologist/therapist that ejaculation was orgasm. No matter how I argued from personal experience, my point was not accepted.
Because there is a HUGE difference between mere ejaculation and an orgasm.
If you never separated them, I suggest reading "The multi orgasmic men".
It is possible and you are missing out.
Finally, thank you, someone explains sexuality,. I'm 68 and I remember conversations I had with my mother when I was 20. In my experience, young people learned their sexuality from porn movies, I had the chance to have a GF who teach me female sexuality; I have known women, 50+ years, having children, and not knowing what is an orgasm. So really thank you for what you do, I hope it will teach people not to hurt each other and find pleasure.
Dr. Malik. I appreciate your relaxed style of delivery when you speak in colloquial terms like "Get it back Up Again" It sounds better than "Re-establish a Fully Functional Erection" Take Care and have a Great Weekend...Why? Because YOU'RE WORTH IT!
Her videos present contents that are highly researched besides her style of presentations is unmatched. Great job👍👍
I remember being a teenager and having a refractory period of about 1 second or less. Ahhh… those were the days. Definitely changes with age.
1 second? Wtf????
@@bagahbread hard again a second later.
@@christopherkelly9153 oh oh well nvm
No lies told...
Usually for young people it’s normal to have sex multiple times all these due to hormones and well being
someone told me that "if she wants more but is too tired, then you've satisfied her... if she wants more and ISN'T tired, you've got a lot of work to do..."
We'll I dress up and leave as flash!!!
easy to not be tired if you lay there like a starfish....
Shut up bruv, trynna be all philosophical and that
That's why I make her do a 20 min plank before the "workout" 😅
@@alter-ego- 😂😂
As a man the refractory period is also beneficial for mental health. Testosterone is driving urge and release of sexual tension. If that desire remained after orgasm I may go mad constantly requiring release which would unobtainable.
Damn you’re right
Testosterone levels are not affected by orgasm by any significant amount.
Yeah but going through a primary orgasm with 10 to 30 ejaculation spasms, then the 3 to 10 minute period of frustration while continuing, followed by the second orgasm / ejaculation pairing is much more satisfying than a simple go at it.
@@RyanMcIntyre testosterone drives the hormones ,desire and sperm production not the orgasm itself ..
That makes me crazy.
I can go multiple times. But that depends on few things I've noticed.
1. Desire for the woman
2. The amount of hassle I have to go through to go again and again. Meaning If she's a complainer well it's just not worth the effort. I'll just move on.
If you have a woman who irritates you it's difficult to do it once but if have woman who likes to make you happy buy wearing stockings or nurse costume you can get up and go again
women don't complain lol
@@AntiDoctor-cx2jd then you haven't been with enough people or just found a really good match
@@-SimonRiley Fairly certain that he was being facetious.
Important to note: In men, erection, ejaculation, and orgasm are not always coincident. All 8 states (yes/no, for each of the 3) are possible; some of those combinations are much more difficult to achieve than others.
Perhaps the rarest, is orgasm with neither of the other 2.
Easiest is quietude; none of the 3. (Except maybe in your teens, when erections are rampant.)
2nd easiest is erection only.
Thanks, Dr. Malik, for another highly informative video!
Fred
Thnk you bro for that contribution. It bothers me that people normally dont differentiate the 3. Orgasmic state is possible all over the body when the nerve endings are superexcited. Ejaculation may accompany orgasm or come as a result of it and usually it is more likely to come from a engorged penis being stimulated, but as ejaculation is mainly a prostate function, the prostate can also be stimulated directly without involving the penis. Unfortunately male sexuality is overfocussed on the penis when there is a lot more erotic spots available, just like in females, like scrotum, perinium, anus , breast, feet, hands, neck ears, head etc. Since orgasm is a nervous system state, male and female share the same nervous system design, so what teases a female should tease a male too. If you get over your cultural inhibitions and just look at the biology.
I never had an orgasm without ejaculation. I've tried edging and other things and it's literally impossible for me. I'm highly skeptical when people claim to have a bunch of orgasms without ejaculation.
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@@manuelsilva6244 It is a real, but uncommon thing, and I believe it's highly age-dependent. The one time I did it, I was in my mid-50s. I'm sure I could never have managed it at 20 or 30.
It was a tutorial session in Tantra, I was following the session leader's instructions, and I was amazed at the result. Most amazingly, it wasn't even a sexual response; but it definitely had that unmistakable orgasmic sensation to it, and as MJ Checksfield says, it happened all over the body.
Fred
@@ffggddss how to get rid of hyper sensitive penis,because of this i ejaculate before entering the vagina.Any idea sir.
Thx Dr.Malik.
Your passion, sincerity, thought, & excellent delivery are always appreciated.
I really love the way you explain very serious/important valuable things in extremely simple way.Accordingly anybody from varous intellectual capacities can easily absorb your teachings.i have no doubt whatsoever that your students should be the luckiest people on this planet
Love this woman, so much information. One of the best on UA-cam. Thank you so much!
Had a lot of them in my teens through 20s. Now in 50s nope but if she wants more rounds there’s other ways to get it accomplished. It’s about communication and desire to please.
There's nothing like eating some 🍍 .
That's the job.
@@higiniomorales459 why pineapple?
@@deetee4403 - lol, I wasn't talking about the literal fruit. There's other ways to please your woman in the bedroom, like savoring her "fruit"........ 😻
@@higiniomorales459 lol. Ok, I know what you mean now....and I agree
I’m 30 and as long as we don’t stop I’m good to go. If I finish and she’s okay with working with a half limp member for about 20 mins I can get back up but I last wayyyyy longer. Sometimes I don’t get to finish the second time but it’s still fun and she enjoys it. Everyone’s different, communication helps
While a bit overwhelming with all this information, I found it very interesting!
Very interesting video, people like to comment their experiences, but for me the refractory period can be in average 20minutes to an hour. Ever since I started exercising , I have experienced multiple orgasms but also strengthening all muscles down there, combined with increased stamina, after the fact I sleep extremely well
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@@novogratvzmichael5545 nervousness it's very good to relax. Weird when women squirt u see this in porn. But kind of nasty
@@novogratvzmichael5545 does nugenix work or there was a sex medication for men called Noxitril I'm very careful cause ethnicity does play a factor. U can't just take anything off the counter
Love your videos, thank you for the professional way you have these conversations.
I know a guy who told me he is a frequent 2 rounders. He said while it's very important to stay in good shape, have enough rest so your body don't mind the extra rounds, the main thing for him is emotional. He always cuddles and has fun and naughty talks with his girl after the first round ends, and after 5 to 10 minutes of sweet time his body will be ready for action again and he claims sometimes he can go up to 3 or 4 rounds in a night, as long as they're willing to stay awake late. I don't know if he's lying, but he and his girl appear to be very happy together indeed.
He's lying. His motivation is wanting respect from you; the fact you wrote a paragraph in the comments indicates he's been hitherto successful.
Narcissists have a bad rep but they're actually great to have around. They tend to be really helpful when (appreciatively but not desperately) asked to help with stuff.
@@ChemEDan I guess so. We like the guy, nice guy and all for the most part. Some bullshit here and there won't matter if it's small thing like this.
@@gn0015 True, just keep it in mind and don't let it effect the expectations you have for yourself
He’s a liar or gay !
I doubt he’s lying and it seems Dan doesn’t know what he’s talking about. I’ve had days where I have nothing else to do and decided to just enjoy sex for the day and have had dozens of times where I’ve had at least 5-8 orgasms/ejaculations (all basically dry after the first 2-3). There’s almost always a refractory period in between but if I stay engaged then it’s no more than 5-10 minutes at most and I’m up and going again just like before. On two or three occasions in my life in my 30s and 40s, I’ve had multiple orgasms/ejaculations with almost no refractory period (I didn’t fully lose my erection) and on one of those occasions I didn’t lose it at all, I managed to ejaculate twice without stopping about 5 minutes apart. Those occasions were on purpose and took an extraordinary amount of concentration and effort to achieve, and they’re definitely outliers because most of the time I can’t even come close to that even if I’m trying to. But I can assure you that 2-4 rounds in a night is not impossible at all.
I can also tell you that after a marathon day, you’re going to be done for several days while your body recovers, because that much activity takes a physical toll and things need to recover and heal before they’re ready to go again.
The people who tell you that isn’t possible or who find it questionable, I feel sorry for, because I’ve always been this way. Unless something is wrong or I’m just in a bad way mentally or emotionally, there pretty much aren’t any days where I couldn’t have sex at least 4-5 times a day. Now I don’t actually _do_ that on a regular basis because I still have a life to live and a job to do and bills to pay and other interests in life besides sex, but it’s very easy for me to do if I want to. What actually shocks me is that it wouldn’t be possible for so many men.
What a doctor! God bless you.
OMG.OMG you are only one so far to Say the Name of MASTERS & JOHNSONS, the great Dr couple of our times,with high knowledge of human Intimacy👏👏👏👏👏💯
I turned 40 last October and started to have multiple Os about a year and a half ago out of nowhere. Even after a full on ejaculation most times it just takes a little stimulation and we're right back in the game
Congratulations…I wonder what brought that on ? Consider yourself lucky !
Was there a change in diet, sleep, or what? Asking for a friend ofc haha
Sounds like it could be associated with achieving tip-top (or just greater) physical fitness?
Fred
@@RSuave545 😜😜
That's not multiple orgasms, that's just the time you need to come back being lower.
The rest time is to allow you to cuddle and tell your partner how beautiful they are 💕 Or if you’re married it allows your partner time to tell you how you are doing it all wrong 😟 Or if you’re going solo it allows you time to have another beer 🍺
Lol 😆 perspective seems to be a matter of the least investment nessecary.
Nah m8, it's to allow you to get out before her boyfriend gets home. 8)
Spot on Aussie!
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
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It’s good to know that exactly what’s going on.. .
Thank you Dr. Malik 🙏
Good video.. age certainly plays a part but I have found exercise, diet, good healthy living all play a part in recovery... Eliminating stress from the moment is a must...
I've usually had short breaks for round 2 depending on the partner, the thing is that round 2 can take a lot longer to finish, which can be good or bad. Depending on the partner, mutual oral, either 69 or sequential, for round one can be a great way to make sure my partner and I are both satisfied.
Giving you thumbs up before the start of the video cos so far I've not come across even one video which is not informative, gives all useful information within a span of 10 mins on the subject! 👍
Currently 24 - I don’t think the refractory period is a thing for me. Many times after ejaculation I just stick it back in and keep going. This is a blessing because it doesn’t break the mood - there’s no downtime so it’s just back to the game.
same here at 37 . i can stay hard after round 2 ,but cant blow 3 shots only 2
after a good nut,i have NEVER been able to keep it up...............But they are REALLY GOOD ones !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I am so glad for you. I used to be able to do this in my solo mastubations long before puberty, having tons of consecutive orgasms in same mastubation session with same erection without the need to stop at all. Unfortunately I lost that ability through changes in puberty.
Lol bro thx you it must be only 2 of us that's still on top of our game
Yep. Same. Well done, sirs. Figured it out. And the ladies love it too, am I right? 🍻👍🏻
When it comes to Dr. Rena's videos...I have no problems keep on going...
I find the repeat performance better
But I think the recipient of your desire has a lot to do with it .
Onwards and upwards and bit sidwarded if you're feeling fruity 🤕👍
Be happy ☀️
I don’t think there’s too much research done on them young fella’s . From my memories it was,whamb bam thank ya mam
You and your videos are very informative and interesting, thank you
Since I quit all refined sugar and started IF/OMAD/KETO lifestyle ... I go go as often as I like ... have near zero refractory and my stamina is several hours if I so choose ... I am age 55 and am like back in high school performance wise!!!
Please guide youngsters sir
So no sugar ?
Based on my experiences a man can continue to have an erection and multiple orgasms after ejaculation as long as there is continued stimulation and you work through the sensitivity. but there will be little to no ejaculation subsequently
You can get rid of the hyper-sensitivity entirely, every now and again it may say hello but not be as bad as originally which makes it much easier to retain it. Definitely less during the second orgasm, but not none.
It helps when you're emotionally open and connected to the woman.
Wow...you sound like my guy lol.... He is exactly how you described it!!!!
20 November 2022: Rena is a talented and pretty Indian~American woman that is very knowledgeable. She talks with ease about men's body parts
I'm vulva owner, that's a 2019 XC90, I picked it up in Sweden and drove it around Europe for a month before I shipped it back to the United States. but what does that have to do with sexual refractory.?
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CORRECTION: You mean "Volvo" owner when talking about cars & "vulva" when talking about a female's private parts. People should know the difference. After all, it's normal & natural to lick, suck, smell & caress a vulva or two. But if you try doing that to any Volvo, it will void the factory warranty. 😮
I want to keep going… I hate all of the ads that show up about testosterone killing food with no actual information with out spending $ on a subscription….Usually last between 5 and 10 minutes. If it’s been a few days - minutes…. But attaining arousal when she’s still ready to rock and roll, does add mental stress and doesn’t help getting you heads in the game.
Awesome information, Doctor.
Basically, allow the body the time necessary to recharge.
I agree it works
" Take care f urself as coz u r worth of it."
Thanks for the precious advice. It made me realised my importance to me❤
I am 60 and it goes very well twice a day ❤️, anyways doctor your videos are very informative. Thanks for sharing your knowledge.
Go hard son 💪 good work
You're lucky. Is that without pills?
@@xrfa7422 of course without any pills 👍🏻
Good on ya
best wang channel out there. tons of useful advice :) keep it up!
Thank you for the video. These topics are interesting even though they can be uncomfortable. For some reason, the idea of using a stopwatch to time the refractory period seems both humorous and disconcerting. For those of us who are older and have suffered severe health issues, timing the refractory period is better done with a calendar than a stopwatch.
I also wonder how many of the studies use self-reporting versus laboratory testing. If a study tried to use some kind of laboratory measurements, I wonder whether that would really reflect the entire population. I think there would be a very specific personality type that would be willing to be part of that testing, and I don't know whether those men and women would represent the population as a whole.
Years ago, there was a movie called "There's Something About Mary." One scene in that movie was roughly based on the idea of a refractory period although they obviously didn't discuss the issue in scientific terms. I didn't care for the movie, but everyone else in the world thought it was hilarious. This discussion reminds me of the discussion in the movie.
Dr Malik you should also consider making the Colgate tooth paste commercials, your teeth are so white, so long, so aligned, perfect smile! Your're so hired!
I have to say, chemistry is pretty amazing. Once my exGf and I managed 9x in less than 24 hours, which was exceptional. The chemistry was off the charts, and I was in my 50s, she was in her 40s.
I definitely hope to find that level of chemistry again.
Forgive me if I am too rude or bold, but why is a woman like that an ex ? Was there no "chemistry" outside the bedroom ?
Yaaaaaaah oooookaaaaay ??🤣🤣
That was my thought too??!!
Yaaaaaah oookaaaaay ??
Hi Rena , thanks for sharing. Very interesting information. I really like your videos , they are very informative.
My wife of 55 years and I had a busy sex life and I had a fast response for years as she could excite me. That obviously slowed over time and in recent years libido was decreased by heart medication to control BP. That medication to has been reduced by 75% this year and sex is fun again three or four times a week. I’m 75 now and hoping it lasts awhile longer.
Damn man im happy for you. Reading this comment made me feel like i could reach your age with someone i love as well. Stay strong bro
i am shootin for 4 times a year and i am only 71............
Damn man, you're having sex three to four times a week at the age of 75? Are you superman or something? Lol
Most excellent
Great to hear that! 👍Old dude, go on! 👍👍👍
I will do further research.
This surely varies a lot. For a man, this can differently be described as: how many ejaculations on a single erection. So, one has to be careful about the notion of "refractory period" - it does not need to include loss of a full erection. When I was in my twenties, for me that number of ejaculations in a single erection was two, almost all of the time and in just a few minutes, and sometimes three - also in less than 20 minutes.
I have never had an orgasm without an ejaculation - although the volume obviously decreases with number of ejaculations.
Yeah, I was thinking about that too. Orgasm refractory period for me is about an hour or more, but hardness, refractory period is 0
Thanks for the lecture, it was quite enlightening.
Here is my "study"... refractory period in older men (age 50+) is a function of the age of their partner (or visual stimulus such as a picture, video...). Around same age = 100% of "normal" refractory period. Subtract about 2% of that for each 1 year less the female is of age. So for example, a 50 year old man who is normally used to a 50 year old woman, but then watches a video of a 40 year old woman, that should make his refractory period drop to 80% of the normal time (so if normal was 24 hours, then 80% would be 19.2 hours). 50 year old watching a video of a 30 year old female, perhaps 60% of 24 hours = 14.4 hours. This is just a guideline, not a rule. Men are "programmed" to respond better to younger females. 50 year old man watching two 18 year old females "go at it", perhaps down 90% to 2.4 hours "recharge" time.
I read a study some time back that sperm quantity also increases as much as 3 fold if with an especially hot lover. I think the PDE-5's could be replaced by using the natural pre-programmed method you've just described. Peace.
Totally disagree. Not all men are programmed for younger women. There are so many younger men liking older women. What you are saying is your perception and not a rule of thumb applicable to all men in the world because each one of us is different.
@@muraliseetharaman1908 I didn't say all men, I said men, meaning generally speaking. There are some men that like other men so your point about exceptions is already obvious even before you stated it. I stated a general rule of thumb. Why do you think most women try to make themselves look younger? Did you ever see a commercial advertisement for a face cream or hand cream that makes a woman look older? A cream that gives you more wrinkles? I rest on your face... errr.. I rest my case.
@@davidjames1684 Stop talking crap and hold on to your perceptions and dwell on it.
@@muraliseetharaman1908 A ha ha ha.
Round 2,3, & 4 are easy. It 5+ that gets difficult for me and the wife loves it!
You mentioned Dopamine. I'm 46 and have parkinsons and take sinemet. I was just to my urologist less than 2 weeks ago and was asking him about bladder issues (hard to urinate and not completely emptying sometimes). I wish I would have known about this. I would really love to have more info about this. As always great information!
Try Cabergoline.
get your b vitamins tested once. you might have low b12
@@voicevy3210 on 6/14/22 my vitamin b12 was tested and was 411, this past week I started taking a B12 supplement.
@@MONSTERXC70 cool, my was 142 🤦🤦. got few shots immediately
I was lucky to have a hand full of times being able able to go a second round, but now I'm fine with going one round.
Back in the day, I dated a girl who was multi-orgasmic… I was 31 and she was 26. We never “worried” about a Refactory Period, we just enjoyed each other all.night.long… Sad to say, we both went our separate ways, but just thinking about her gets me hard…
You are cringe.
One way i got round 2 is to never stop. My little dude stays hard after, and if it keeps going, round 2 will happen. It just takes a while for it to happen.
Hey, Doctor, I really like your content and appericate the effort and quality you deliver to us regularly. Would love to see a video about the differences between male and female ejaculation, male and female orgasm types, explanation of what we call an orgasm.
She has a video about female ejaculation on her chanel
I’m just gonna say it since none y’all are!😊 hey Doc? I need you period 🤦♂️ love the expressions and complete knowledge of you omg lol!
Thanks to you, Dr Malik, I learned about Folic Acid & its effect on sex activity. I make a juice of fresh spinach & broccoli & take it daily. (That REALLY helps!)🥰
So spinach and broccoli juice made you multi-orgasmic?
A baloney sandwich and reading the sports page has an equal effect and shortens the refractory period.
@@RLTtizME Good point! The nitrate content in baloney is the active ingredients
Really 😯😦😧😮😲😱???
Does peanut butter and jelly sandwich work ??🤔
Thank You for sharing. Have a fantastic day
How does having a vasectomy play in with the Refractory Period? I can occasionally do it twice within a few hours, but not very often.
Would also be interested in this since I’m considering a vasectomy.
No difference. Get the snip.
Question: what is the reason sexual sensation decreases post radiation of prostate for prostate CA.,,,and how can sensation be reestablished ???
Thank God my man is younger. I am older and I feel like our energies are matching as I want it more now than I did when I was younger, and he hasn't hit his peak yet. *Older woman/younger man* Ladies: Kegels, pineapples, and slippery elm, pilates/yoga and not using over using sex toys; Men: Nitric oxide, pineapples, folic acid, hitting the gym, and not watching porn and frequent masturbation.
This is probably true as I'm well into my 50s and I'm sure that I couldn't keep up with your pace.
Please, what's the age difference between you and your partner?
@@seanpatrick7497 Maybe true or not. There are some older men that have drive and stamina. When I was in my mid 30s, my partner was 50. He had no issues with drive, stamina, and being ready for the next round within less than an hour or so of each encounter. I realize that he was pretty good for being that age and able to keep it going like that.
@@falowotemitayo586 9 years.
@@nishani3 I'm fortunate to still have the drive and working equipment but lasting power and ability to go additional rounds is where I come up short.
If I focus and force myself, 2nd round will be before 1 hour. Before 30 mins sometimes.
MAN I MISS MY 20s. I WAS A BEAST 💪 NOW IN MY EARLY 40s 😅
What is this? I am a 50+ man, and I have never felt any need for a ”refractory period. 2-3
ejaculations without break is no problem, I only need to slow down the tempo slightly in between. On the other hand, after such a session I am usually soaked with sweat and quite exhausted : )
I've also made this experience. After edging I can have 1 or 2 additional ejaculations, just gotta keep going (at somewhat reduced pace and pressure in between). It's amazing! However, afterwards I'm totally exhausted. Well, I'm already 48..
My Dear Doctor Malik..................I am 67 yrs old and a avid gym nut and fitness instructor part time. My wife is about 32 years younger then me. I have no problem with multiple ejaculation and never have my entire life. I guess I am one of those one in a thousand blessed. It is no problem for me to go 3 - 4 rounds without tiring, or the use of sexual stimulants. I am sure I am not alone but must admit this is probably far and few between. Love your vlogs ! Keep up the factual science of your profession. I have learned a lot of valuable information I never knew.................William
so crazy. I just happened to have 4 orgasms/ejaculations this week. Two were back to back, and a few days later, two more back to back. I was kind of amazed. Then, I see this post from Rena. I feel kind of lucky. I'm 47 years old, and I still have the energy to go round after round. Thank God I had a vasectomy.
Whats back to back mean? How many hours between ??
@@user-jo5fz8iw3b sorry if my comment wasn't clear. I had an orgasm with ejaculation, then about 5 minutes later, I had another orgasm and ejaculation. About 3 days later, I did the same. It just surprised me that I could do it. I wasn't really planning on it. Then, I saw this video on refractory period.
I'm 91 and still go two time sometimes three !!
wtf
Dyslexic?
Great content and very informative👌
It's definitely possible for most all men to learn how to have multiple orgasms. It involves learning how to clench the pelvic floor (Kegel exercises) as soon as the orgasm starts so that you don't ejaculate. For some men this will prevent the refractory period, but not all. I'm one of the unfortunate ones that even after learning how to prevent ejaculation I'd still have a refractory period after orgasm, though I could orgasm multiple times in short succession before the refractory period started. Luckily, my refractory period has always been pretty short, and now in my late 30s I can still go again within about 15-20 minutes.
Why does it need it to be a protective mechanism? It's simple desensitisation in the nervous system?
Great topic. This one is really illuminating. As a life long premature ejaculator, I can identify with the long refractory period. After my under a minute finish, I'm completely and totally spent. The evenings festivities are over! Lol
I was surprised that my suspicion wasn’t one of the possibilities that were researched by Dr Malik or that she looked and didn’t find it. I’m talking about a huge depletion of testosterone during orgasm. The more testosterone a person produces the sooner you can come back. Even those with more than average testosterone levels will experience decline of it as they age. Even if later than others, it’s a matter of time.
I think it depends how hot the attraction is. Lets put it like this, if you just hooked up with someone you really have the hots for chances are big you will want more than just a little sex so you will be motivated for more rounds or longer sessions. If you have been married for a good long time or are in an older relationship, you might just want a little top up bonding and then its sleep well honey, or back to social media time.
You got it right MJ
I agree
Good video.
Did not know there was a study.
I've know my wife 30 plus
Year .Now I see why so many
headaches. Stress.🤔
Dr malik. Im 44yrs old, very decent shape for the most part. In my case, I'm usually sexually excited more than I should be in a day, but there are days that my organ wants action but physically I don't. Then there are times I want to my organ dosen't respond like normal. Could that be more psychological or age?
I say age and health if your on pills
@@richardpauly1635 naw, im not on any pills. And for the most part everything works fine. It's just some days I'm really and the mood, things stand at salute excellent, even when I don't want to I still get really good erections. Then there are days when I want to but the blood don't rush like I'm used to having it. Or days when I can go forever 1hr or more then days when I just want to get in and get out. But my girlfriend likes to orgasm everytime so it take some time, more time than I'm willing to give
This channel is awesome. 💯👋
At age 73 and after prostate removal my refractory period is 7 days.
Hello Dr Malik I’m your avid fan where is your clinic located…,
For Guys who want to try Multiple, try half ejaculation. So let your body do the first one without you aiding the contractions. Pulling out and taking slow breaths helps. Then, go at it now and try to force the contractions yourself. It's like how stopping a piss mid-way seems impossible, but some (not all) can do it.
I have tried that before (stop n start method), as soon as i begin the second time, i explode shortly thereafter - soo it doesnt work for me
It’s called Edging, I do it all the time, and my girlfriend and I are able to go more and longer!
@@ponokunishima1 edging dont work
@Weed Lover when im gonna bust, im gonna bust and nothing gonna stop it . . ..
You can edge just before the "point of no return" but after the point, well, there is no return as the contractions are involuntary
I've found that hydration is key.
I’ve read that the refractory period for male lab mice is much shorter when a new/novel sexual partner is introduced into their cage as compared to continued access to the same partner. It may not have been tested in humans, but I wouldn’t be surprised if the result were the same.
That’s true for me 😂
Definitly true
Agree, results would be exact same
It's something new, something different, that curiosity spikes interest and adrenaline, it's something exciting cuz it's new and different
@@davefurion382 Hence the expression, “get some strange”.
Thank you very much for making sucha awesome video
Sounds like the people with shortest refraction period, are people who are in good physical shape. Maybe this is the key.
The Medical Community refers to the term as the "Sexual Refractory Period". The rest of us just call it Post-Nut Clarity.
That magical time where you find out if she’s a keeper or not.
Lol well, most of us believe in science. But, I don't see how that's different anyway. Definitely worth knowing if she's a keeper or not.
Some of us call it sleep.😴
Haha.I've like to see this vlogger.She's beautiful and I like to listen her pronunciation(the way she talk).And she is base on evidences by science.
If we did not have a refractory period, we would never stop having sex.
Can anything be done to increase sensitivity in men?
All those stock shots of extremely frustrated people, sitting awake in bed at night, are super funny because they are so over-emphasizing the point. Also, I find it interesting that the refractory period is put in a negative/undesirable context through these shots, when many people will be very content and happily cuddling after sex during this period!
Well it depends on if she's feeling satisfied or wanted more
Helpful video. Thank you Doctor 😊
I have had as many as 6 in a 4-5 hour period. It helps to have a partner you're very passionate about that shares the same feeling.... and you're both willing to do what it takes to keep that feeling alive. I'm 46 btw.
Yaaaaah ooookaaaaay ??🤣
Sounds like you have an amazing relationship. Good for you. 👍
Congratulations! I'm very happy for you. I'm 47, in my 40s I've been sexually deprived from sex, famine! My 20s and 30s was the great but 40s is the worse. Im doomed 😂😂.
Dr. Malik, please do a video discussing orgasm intensity. I think this has a large impact on sex lives but is almost never discussed.
Here's my point - I cannot explain this clinically but anecdotally I think most people would agree not all orgasms are alike. In my younger more vigorous days, like around age 21, there were sessions where there could be as many as 3 orgasms. Part of this was due to length of session (a couple of hours), so refractory period could be half an hour or so. But part of it, to be blunt, was that although the orgasms were pleasurable, they weren't super intense and thus were easier to recover from. There have been other sessions, on the other hand (maybe not the best choice of words?), maybe where some edging had occurred and climax was delayed, such that when orgasm was finally reached it was so intense as to almost cause one to pass out. I really think most people would agree that not all orgasms are of the same intensity. I would think this would apply to women as well.
I wish there were studies addressing this. Here's why - many women report being disappointed in their lovers who "as soon as he finishes he just rolls over and falls asleep but I'm still ready to keep going and he just leaves me hanging." My guess is that the reason he's completely wiped out is he's just had an extremely intense orgasm, not just a mildly pleasurable one. I also think that although women have a shorter refractory period than men and are thus thought of as more likely to be multi-orgasmic, part of it is just that they may not be having orgasms as intensely as men and can therefore recover more quickly. Again, this is only from observation and not from scientific data, but I have actually seen women orgasm so deeply that they were completely wiped out. There was no "multi-orgasmic" happening, they were done. My guess is that a) this level of intensity happens for men much more frequently than women and b) if it happened more frequently for women then they might be more willing to engage in activity with their partners more frequently and have fewer "headaches". Just a theory though.
Dr. Malik, thank you for this video. Your videos are always very comprehensive (and very watchable due to your personality and delivery) and you answered all of my long standing questions. I've always been a "one and done" kind of guy, with a lack of physical/mental desire and/or ability to "repeat" for many hours after one orgasm, but I remember a sexual encounter with a Swedish girl I was dating during which I had three orgasms (and ejaculations) within about one hour, which was due to her "other worldly" ability to vary the pressure in her vagina by contracting the surrounding muscles. I remember saying that she did Kegel exercises on a regular basis, but I'm pretty sure she invented the exercises! (unfortunately, she didn't work on her mental stability as much as her vaginal muscle tone and the relationship ended. 😆)
Lol, idk why the crazy ones are unforgettable experiences!... Sadly that high is rarely found again, not in a keeper anyway.
I'm with you-a life long member of the "one and done" club. Lucky you getting to have that experience with the Swedish lady. It's too bad that the relationship didn't last longer.
@@seanpatrick7497 Thanks, man.
What supplement can decrease the refractory period in 38-year-old men. thank you.
Hi, Dr. Malik, I just started watching the video and came (no pun intended) across the phrase "spinal ejaculatory center." Now, I was born with spina bifida and had a full spinal realignment--as I was also born with severe scoliosis (multiple curvatures in my spine of 60+ degrees)--when I was about 9 years old. This was in 2004, so I'm 26 now, if that information changes my question. I was wondering if that disconnect from my birth defect (for reference, the place where my spine didn't fully form was near the pelvis, so I am a paraplegic, I can't walk, but I have full motor function of my arms and chest) affects the ejaculation cycle. At the risk of giving too much information, I do ejaculate quite a lot (as in a high volume, not necessarily often), and I never feel like I fully "empty" myself. I also have a very quick cooldown period, which I always have attributed to being young. My last partner would remark how tired she would get but I'd still be up, and I could/can ejaculate 2-3 times before being "done." Is there any advice you'd be able to offer for me to achieve a more complete ejaculation, or do I just have the best curse a man of my age could want and I just have to deal with it?
Thank you for reading and taking the time to respond, if you can, Dr. Malik. I really appreciate the sexual education, because sexual health is the part of my life I feel the dumbest about asking for help with. Thank you for helping me to remove the shame from having my sexual identity intrinsically linked to my disability in my mind.
Soo as a paraplegic, you have feeling and control over your erections??
@@user-jo5fz8iw3b Yes, I do, though I think I'm a rarity among those in my camp.
@@therocknrollmillennial535 camp ??
@@user-jo5fz8iw3b It's a turn of phrase, meaning "people who have the same condition or ways of living." Are you done scrutinizing me?
@@therocknrollmillennial535 no just learning
Very interesting. I think your spot on.
For me. Viagra was much more effective for multiple pops in a session. Cialis was less effective for multiples. For a normal one and done night I couldn't tell much difference between the two.
Refractory period is important to lower the excitement and stress buildup. Some rodent males who mate multiple times non stop , they die of Starvation and fatigue. The build up of stress hormones during tis event can prove fatal if it's not allowed to stabilize for sometime
I guess I am weird as I have been told many times, but early on I focused on holding until my partner had at least one orgasm. Looked into Tantra and other means of doing so. With this I found that a minute or two and I was ready again. Two was common, three or four happened often. And this held until my late forties when I went celibate for other reasons. I use to joke that anything less than four hours was foreplay, but over the years I did have one or two partners that preferred quicker and I did accommodate them. I always looked at sex as being about making my partner happy first and foremost rather than a selfish act. Masturbation was for selfish time. Not sure what it would be now with BHP and twenty years alone. I guess my point is that the variations can be very wide depending upon goals and mental state.
I figured out long ago that sometimes women do not want to be used as a body to constantly prove my prowess. LOL If we only have 10 minutes in the bathroom because of the kids we were outta luck! And nobody wanted the massage table treatment. More than once, that is.
You are not weird bro, just into tantra. That tends to be a game changing move when it comes to understanding sexuality. I got to really enjoy my sexuality when I opened up to the realisation that nearly the whole body is potentially orgasmic or can be involved in pleasure. Wherever there are nerve endings pretty well, they can be stimulated and excited OR used to calm you down. I do heaps of massage too including Thai, Swedish, Tapping and reflexology and pressure points. Sex and massage equals a lot of pleasure and relaxation for the body and therefore good health.
@@spicyd6213 you would be right there about most of the women I got to know. The female species is not culturally brought up generally to see sexual pleasure as something they can do for a long time or get more powerful orgasms via edging etc. Still they mostly want it done as soon as possible and think they are engaging in it predominantly as a favour to their men or husbands. Although I still loved my long term spouse, sexually we have never been compatible.
But shouldn't your partner think the same way? Shouldn't they please you first and not be selfish?
@@mjchecksfield914 your hole body can make you feel good but not orgasm. It's totally different.