Why it’s hard to go again... | The science of the Sexual Refractory Period
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- The refractory period is the time immediately after orgasm and ejaculation, where a man is either physiologically unable to be erect, psychologically disinterested in sex, or both. Watch until the end to know how to get to round 2!
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I Love that feeling when she's smiling and asks for round 2, you know you have done a satisfactory damn good job.
Means you are a bad dude, and you run with some bad boys.
Dog not allowed ect
@@michaelhawkes6492 suicide not allowed
I remember being a teenager and having a refractory period of about 1 second or less. Ahhh… those were the days. Definitely changes with age.
1 second? Wtf????
@@bagahbread hard again a second later.
@@christopherkelly9153 oh oh well nvm
No lies told...
Usually for young people it’s normal to have sex multiple times all these due to hormones and well being
Her videos present contents that are highly researched besides her style of presentations is unmatched. Great job👍👍
someone told me that "if she wants more but is too tired, then you've satisfied her... if she wants more and ISN'T tired, you've got a lot of work to do..."
We'll I dress up and leave as flash!!!
easy to not be tired if you lay there like a starfish....
Shut up bruv, trynna be all philosophical and that
That's why I make her do a 20 min plank before the "workout" 😅
@@alter-ego- 😂😂
Love your videos, thank you for the professional way you have these conversations.
Love this woman, so much information. One of the best on UA-cam. Thank you so much!
Thx Dr.Malik.
Your passion, sincerity, thought, & excellent delivery are always appreciated.
Hi Rena , thanks for sharing. Very interesting information. I really like your videos , they are very informative.
I really love the way you explain very serious/important valuable things in extremely simple way.Accordingly anybody from varous intellectual capacities can easily absorb your teachings.i have no doubt whatsoever that your students should be the luckiest people on this planet
It’s good to know that exactly what’s going on.. .
Thank you Dr. Malik 🙏
Thank you for another great video! As always, very informative and you always seem to answer the questions I wanted to ask.
best wang channel out there. tons of useful advice :) keep it up!
What a doctor! God bless you.
While a bit overwhelming with all this information, I found it very interesting!
Finally, thank you, someone explains sexuality,. I'm 68 and I remember conversations I had with my mother when I was 20. In my experience, young people learned their sexuality from porn movies, I had the chance to have a GF who teach me female sexuality; I have known women, 50+ years, having children, and not knowing what is an orgasm. So really thank you for what you do, I hope it will teach people not to hurt each other and find pleasure.
Giving you thumbs up before the start of the video cos so far I've not come across even one video which is not informative, gives all useful information within a span of 10 mins on the subject! 👍
You and your videos are very informative and interesting, thank you
For me, it has always been a case of the first one is the appetiser, the second one is the main meal and sometimes the third is the sweets. The main meal does take between 30min and 1 hour to prepare. The main thing for me is to live a healthy life with a good frame of mind. Love the channel.
Haha I like the way you worded this, first one is definitely the appetizer.
This was me also, up until my 40s. You nailed it exactly though. First was a mini O, then it started all over for the main course, then started over for three and sometimes four which was dry fire.
Helpful video. Thank you Doctor 😊
Good video.. age certainly plays a part but I have found exercise, diet, good healthy living all play a part in recovery... Eliminating stress from the moment is a must...
Dr. Malik. I appreciate your relaxed style of delivery when you speak in colloquial terms like "Get it back Up Again" It sounds better than "Re-establish a Fully Functional Erection" Take Care and have a Great Weekend...Why? Because YOU'RE WORTH IT!
Excellent inf “clear like spring water”Sometimes it is very relative, it depends on many circumstances.
We have to learn to know ourselves to lead a proper sexual life.
Thanks Dr: Rena 💐
Thanks for the lecture, it was quite enlightening.
Thank You for sharing. Have a fantastic day
Very informative, thank you.
Glad you posted this. I was once told by a psychologist/therapist that ejaculation was orgasm. No matter how I argued from personal experience, my point was not accepted.
Because there is a HUGE difference between mere ejaculation and an orgasm.
After I'd been on spironolactone and estradiol for a while, I started having multiple orgasms and stopped ejaculating. Sometimes, a very small amount of clear fluid seeps out in the minutes after the final orgasm, but nothing comes out during orgasm.
If you never separated them, I suggest reading "The multi orgasmic men".
It is possible and you are missing out.
The rest time is to allow you to cuddle and tell your partner how beautiful they are 💕 Or if you’re married it allows your partner time to tell you how you are doing it all wrong 😟 Or if you’re going solo it allows you time to have another beer 🍺
Lol 😆 perspective seems to be a matter of the least investment nessecary.
Nah m8, it's to allow you to get out before her boyfriend gets home. 8)
Spot on Aussie!
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
🍺🍺🍺
Always educational.
Thank you for the video. These topics are interesting even though they can be uncomfortable. For some reason, the idea of using a stopwatch to time the refractory period seems both humorous and disconcerting. For those of us who are older and have suffered severe health issues, timing the refractory period is better done with a calendar than a stopwatch.
I also wonder how many of the studies use self-reporting versus laboratory testing. If a study tried to use some kind of laboratory measurements, I wonder whether that would really reflect the entire population. I think there would be a very specific personality type that would be willing to be part of that testing, and I don't know whether those men and women would represent the population as a whole.
Years ago, there was a movie called "There's Something About Mary." One scene in that movie was roughly based on the idea of a refractory period although they obviously didn't discuss the issue in scientific terms. I didn't care for the movie, but everyone else in the world thought it was hilarious. This discussion reminds me of the discussion in the movie.
As a man the refractory period is also beneficial for mental health. Testosterone is driving urge and release of sexual tension. If that desire remained after orgasm I may go mad constantly requiring release which would unobtainable.
Well said
Damn you’re right
Testosterone levels are not affected by orgasm by any significant amount.
Yeah but going through a primary orgasm with 10 to 30 ejaculation spasms, then the 3 to 10 minute period of frustration while continuing, followed by the second orgasm / ejaculation pairing is much more satisfying than a simple go at it.
@@RyanMcIntyre testosterone drives the hormones ,desire and sperm production not the orgasm itself ..
Thank you very much for making sucha awesome video
Great content and very informative👌
I find the repeat performance better
But I think the recipient of your desire has a lot to do with it .
Onwards and upwards and bit sidwarded if you're feeling fruity 🤕👍
Be happy ☀️
I've usually had short breaks for round 2 depending on the partner, the thing is that round 2 can take a lot longer to finish, which can be good or bad. Depending on the partner, mutual oral, either 69 or sequential, for round one can be a great way to make sure my partner and I are both satisfied.
Very interesting. I think your spot on.
Well explained and interesting
I turned 40 last October and started to have multiple Os about a year and a half ago out of nowhere. Even after a full on ejaculation most times it just takes a little stimulation and we're right back in the game
Congratulations…I wonder what brought that on ? Consider yourself lucky !
Was there a change in diet, sleep, or what? Asking for a friend ofc haha
Sounds like it could be associated with achieving tip-top (or just greater) physical fitness?
Fred
@@RSuave545 😜😜
That's not multiple orgasms, that's just the time you need to come back being lower.
Important to note: In men, erection, ejaculation, and orgasm are not always coincident. All 8 states (yes/no, for each of the 3) are possible; some of those combinations are much more difficult to achieve than others.
Perhaps the rarest, is orgasm with neither of the other 2.
Easiest is quietude; none of the 3. (Except maybe in your teens, when erections are rampant.)
2nd easiest is erection only.
Thanks, Dr. Malik, for another highly informative video!
Fred
Thnk you bro for that contribution. It bothers me that people normally dont differentiate the 3. Orgasmic state is possible all over the body when the nerve endings are superexcited. Ejaculation may accompany orgasm or come as a result of it and usually it is more likely to come from a engorged penis being stimulated, but as ejaculation is mainly a prostate function, the prostate can also be stimulated directly without involving the penis. Unfortunately male sexuality is overfocussed on the penis when there is a lot more erotic spots available, just like in females, like scrotum, perinium, anus , breast, feet, hands, neck ears, head etc. Since orgasm is a nervous system state, male and female share the same nervous system design, so what teases a female should tease a male too. If you get over your cultural inhibitions and just look at the biology.
I never had an orgasm without ejaculation. I've tried edging and other things and it's literally impossible for me. I'm highly skeptical when people claim to have a bunch of orgasms without ejaculation.
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@@manuelsilva6244 It is a real, but uncommon thing, and I believe it's highly age-dependent. The one time I did it, I was in my mid-50s. I'm sure I could never have managed it at 20 or 30.
It was a tutorial session in Tantra, I was following the session leader's instructions, and I was amazed at the result. Most amazingly, it wasn't even a sexual response; but it definitely had that unmistakable orgasmic sensation to it, and as MJ Checksfield says, it happened all over the body.
Fred
@@ffggddss how to get rid of hyper sensitive penis,because of this i ejaculate before entering the vagina.Any idea sir.
Fascinating information!
Great as always, Thank you. What are the defining factor and differences between ejactulations and Orgasms? (I’m sorry if I missed this if you have already covered in another video.) Be Well and Good Journey Richie.
Orgasm is the hormonal release that makes you feel good, ejaculation is just where the semen comes out reflexively. One tends to accompany the other, but they do not have to
This protects the heart
Hey, Doctor, I really like your content and appericate the effort and quality you deliver to us regularly. Would love to see a video about the differences between male and female ejaculation, male and female orgasm types, explanation of what we call an orgasm.
She has a video about female ejaculation on her chanel
I will do further research.
OMG.OMG you are only one so far to Say the Name of MASTERS & JOHNSONS, the great Dr couple of our times,with high knowledge of human Intimacy👏👏👏👏👏💯
Since I quit all refined sugar and started IF/OMAD/KETO lifestyle ... I go go as often as I like ... have near zero refractory and my stamina is several hours if I so choose ... I am age 55 and am like back in high school performance wise!!!
Please guide youngsters sir
Had a lot of them in my teens through 20s. Now in 50s nope but if she wants more rounds there’s other ways to get it accomplished. It’s about communication and desire to please.
There's nothing like eating some 🍍 .
That's the job.
@@higiniomorales459 why pineapple?
@@deetee4403 - lol, I wasn't talking about the literal fruit. There's other ways to please your woman in the bedroom, like savoring her "fruit"........ 😻
@@higiniomorales459 lol. Ok, I know what you mean now....and I agree
Good video.
Did not know there was a study.
I've know my wife 30 plus
Year .Now I see why so many
headaches. Stress.🤔
I don’t think there’s too much research done on them young fella’s . From my memories it was,whamb bam thank ya mam
You mentioned Dopamine. I'm 46 and have parkinsons and take sinemet. I was just to my urologist less than 2 weeks ago and was asking him about bladder issues (hard to urinate and not completely emptying sometimes). I wish I would have known about this. I would really love to have more info about this. As always great information!
Try Cabergoline.
get your b vitamins tested once. you might have low b12
@@voicevy3210 on 6/14/22 my vitamin b12 was tested and was 411, this past week I started taking a B12 supplement.
@@MONSTERXC70 cool, my was 142 🤦🤦. got few shots immediately
Very interesting video, people like to comment their experiences, but for me the refractory period can be in average 20minutes to an hour. Ever since I started exercising , I have experienced multiple orgasms but also strengthening all muscles down there, combined with increased stamina, after the fact I sleep extremely well
Hi
@@novogratvzmichael5545 nervousness it's very good to relax. Weird when women squirt u see this in porn. But kind of nasty
@@novogratvzmichael5545 does nugenix work or there was a sex medication for men called Noxitril I'm very careful cause ethnicity does play a factor. U can't just take anything off the counter
Great job like always TY
Very useful topic.
I’m 30 and as long as we don’t stop I’m good to go. If I finish and she’s okay with working with a half limp member for about 20 mins I can get back up but I last wayyyyy longer. Sometimes I don’t get to finish the second time but it’s still fun and she enjoys it. Everyone’s different, communication helps
Awesome information, Doctor.
Basically, allow the body the time necessary to recharge.
I agree it works
THANKS FOR THE INFO
" Take care f urself as coz u r worth of it."
Thanks for the precious advice. It made me realised my importance to me❤
I can go multiple times. But that depends on few things I've noticed.
1. Desire for the woman
2. The amount of hassle I have to go through to go again and again. Meaning If she's a complainer well it's just not worth the effort. I'll just move on.
If you have a woman who irritates you it's difficult to do it once but if have woman who likes to make you happy buy wearing stockings or nurse costume you can get up and go again
women don't complain lol
@@AntiDoctor-cx2jd then you haven't been with enough people or just found a really good match
@@-SimonRiley Fairly certain that he was being facetious.
Great topic. This one is really illuminating. As a life long premature ejaculator, I can identify with the long refractory period. After my under a minute finish, I'm completely and totally spent. The evenings festivities are over! Lol
Great info
This channel is awesome. 💯👋
Dr. Malik, thank you for this video. Your videos are always very comprehensive (and very watchable due to your personality and delivery) and you answered all of my long standing questions. I've always been a "one and done" kind of guy, with a lack of physical/mental desire and/or ability to "repeat" for many hours after one orgasm, but I remember a sexual encounter with a Swedish girl I was dating during which I had three orgasms (and ejaculations) within about one hour, which was due to her "other worldly" ability to vary the pressure in her vagina by contracting the surrounding muscles. I remember saying that she did Kegel exercises on a regular basis, but I'm pretty sure she invented the exercises! (unfortunately, she didn't work on her mental stability as much as her vaginal muscle tone and the relationship ended. 😆)
Lol, idk why the crazy ones are unforgettable experiences!... Sadly that high is rarely found again, not in a keeper anyway.
I'm with you-a life long member of the "one and done" club. Lucky you getting to have that experience with the Swedish lady. It's too bad that the relationship didn't last longer.
@@seanpatrick7497 Thanks, man.
I know a guy who told me he is a frequent 2 rounders. He said while it's very important to stay in good shape, have enough rest so your body don't mind the extra rounds, the main thing for him is emotional. He always cuddles and has fun and naughty talks with his girl after the first round ends, and after 5 to 10 minutes of sweet time his body will be ready for action again and he claims sometimes he can go up to 3 or 4 rounds in a night, as long as they're willing to stay awake late. I don't know if he's lying, but he and his girl appear to be very happy together indeed.
He's lying. His motivation is wanting respect from you; the fact you wrote a paragraph in the comments indicates he's been hitherto successful.
Narcissists have a bad rep but they're actually great to have around. They tend to be really helpful when (appreciatively but not desperately) asked to help with stuff.
@@ChemEDan I guess so. We like the guy, nice guy and all for the most part. Some bullshit here and there won't matter if it's small thing like this.
@@gn0015 True, just keep it in mind and don't let it effect the expectations you have for yourself
It’s normal…You must be use to dealing with lame beta males
He’s a liar or gay !
I was lucky to have a hand full of times being able able to go a second round, but now I'm fine with going one round.
Luv the way u explain it😇
I am 60 and it goes very well twice a day ❤️, anyways doctor your videos are very informative. Thanks for sharing your knowledge.
Go hard son 💪 good work
You're lucky. Is that without pills?
@@xrfa7422 of course without any pills 👍🏻
Good on ya
My wife of 55 years and I had a busy sex life and I had a fast response for years as she could excite me. That obviously slowed over time and in recent years libido was decreased by heart medication to control BP. That medication to has been reduced by 75% this year and sex is fun again three or four times a week. I’m 75 now and hoping it lasts awhile longer.
Damn man im happy for you. Reading this comment made me feel like i could reach your age with someone i love as well. Stay strong bro
i am shootin for 4 times a year and i am only 71............
Damn man, you're having sex three to four times a week at the age of 75? Are you superman or something? Lol
Most excellent
Great to hear that! 👍Old dude, go on! 👍👍👍
love u deardr. rena god give u long life
Good info
I'm in my early 50s and I am usually ready to go again within 10-15 minutes. However, it does take me a little longer to finish.
The refractory period with Dr. Rena : 15 seconds !
Hello, thank you for your content. I learn a lot. I am curious if you could differentiate orgasm and ejaculation for a man. Are they the same or two different things? Thank you
Nope never wondered. I am always up for round 2-3 or 4!!
Back in the day, I dated a girl who was multi-orgasmic… I was 31 and she was 26. We never “worried” about a Refactory Period, we just enjoyed each other all.night.long… Sad to say, we both went our separate ways, but just thinking about her gets me hard…
You are cringe.
MAN I MISS MY 20s. I WAS A BEAST 💪 NOW IN MY EARLY 40s 😅
Sort of an "extension" to this topic, could you share an episode discussing POIS syndrome?
Hello Doctor, Enjoying your informative videos. What is the time for female sexual refractory period? I saw the you have done a great job focusing on the male sexual refractory time but not the female ….. or did I miss something? Thanks
Based on my experiences a man can continue to have an erection and multiple orgasms after ejaculation as long as there is continued stimulation and you work through the sensitivity. but there will be little to no ejaculation subsequently
You can get rid of the hyper-sensitivity entirely, every now and again it may say hello but not be as bad as originally which makes it much easier to retain it. Definitely less during the second orgasm, but not none.
It helps when you're emotionally open and connected to the woman.
Wow...you sound like my guy lol.... He is exactly how you described it!!!!
The Medical Community refers to the term as the "Sexual Refractory Period". The rest of us just call it Post-Nut Clarity.
That magical time where you find out if she’s a keeper or not.
Lol well, most of us believe in science. But, I don't see how that's different anyway. Definitely worth knowing if she's a keeper or not.
Some of us call it sleep.😴
Knowledge is the key
Good informations
Thanks to you, Dr Malik, I learned about Folic Acid & its effect on sex activity. I make a juice of fresh spinach & broccoli & take it daily. (That REALLY helps!)🥰
So spinach and broccoli juice made you multi-orgasmic?
A baloney sandwich and reading the sports page has an equal effect and shortens the refractory period.
@@RLTtizME Good point! The nitrate content in baloney is the active ingredients
Really 😯😦😧😮😲😱???
Does peanut butter and jelly sandwich work ??🤔
It's definitely possible for most all men to learn how to have multiple orgasms. It involves learning how to clench the pelvic floor (Kegel exercises) as soon as the orgasm starts so that you don't ejaculate. For some men this will prevent the refractory period, but not all. I'm one of the unfortunate ones that even after learning how to prevent ejaculation I'd still have a refractory period after orgasm, though I could orgasm multiple times in short succession before the refractory period started. Luckily, my refractory period has always been pretty short, and now in my late 30s I can still go again within about 15-20 minutes.
I’m just gonna say it since none y’all are!😊 hey Doc? I need you period 🤦♂️ love the expressions and complete knowledge of you omg lol!
Round 2,3, & 4 are easy. It 5+ that gets difficult for me and the wife loves it!
If one has had the Rezume procedure and no longer ejaculate does it change the refractory period?
“Spinal Ejaculatory Center” sounds like a place that would take my Insurance/FSA card 😂 Seriously, thanks for the information.. it makes sense.
Sounds like a place that is open to men to go and publicly beat their meat together in a groups setting 🤣 like a meat beating party . . .......
Thanks so much Dr
so crazy. I just happened to have 4 orgasms/ejaculations this week. Two were back to back, and a few days later, two more back to back. I was kind of amazed. Then, I see this post from Rena. I feel kind of lucky. I'm 47 years old, and I still have the energy to go round after round. Thank God I had a vasectomy.
Whats back to back mean? How many hours between ??
@@TomMcDonaldatYahooDotCom sorry if my comment wasn't clear. I had an orgasm with ejaculation, then about 5 minutes later, I had another orgasm and ejaculation. About 3 days later, I did the same. It just surprised me that I could do it. I wasn't really planning on it. Then, I saw this video on refractory period.
Currently 24 - I don’t think the refractory period is a thing for me. Many times after ejaculation I just stick it back in and keep going. This is a blessing because it doesn’t break the mood - there’s no downtime so it’s just back to the game.
same here at 37 . i can stay hard after round 2 ,but cant blow 3 shots only 2
after a good nut,i have NEVER been able to keep it up...............But they are REALLY GOOD ones !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I am so glad for you. I used to be able to do this in my solo mastubations long before puberty, having tons of consecutive orgasms in same mastubation session with same erection without the need to stop at all. Unfortunately I lost that ability through changes in puberty.
Lol bro thx you it must be only 2 of us that's still on top of our game
Yep. Same. Well done, sirs. Figured it out. And the ladies love it too, am I right? 🍻👍🏻
All those stock shots of extremely frustrated people, sitting awake in bed at night, are super funny because they are so over-emphasizing the point. Also, I find it interesting that the refractory period is put in a negative/undesirable context through these shots, when many people will be very content and happily cuddling after sex during this period!
Well it depends on if she's feeling satisfied or wanted more
Dr Malik you should also consider making the Colgate tooth paste commercials, your teeth are so white, so long, so aligned, perfect smile! Your're so hired!
Well, thank you.
I think it depends how hot the attraction is. Lets put it like this, if you just hooked up with someone you really have the hots for chances are big you will want more than just a little sex so you will be motivated for more rounds or longer sessions. If you have been married for a good long time or are in an older relationship, you might just want a little top up bonding and then its sleep well honey, or back to social media time.
You got it right MJ
I agree
Thank you Rena. Your videos remind us that WE ARE HUMAN , Watching you makes me think of how much SEX EDUCATION is needed in schools. Do you know that probably 95 plus percent of young people NEVER have a sexual conversation with ANY grownup BEFORE they engage in sex. Talk to your colleagues for ideas.
Things Definitely Change With Age Because Yes As A Teen And In My 20's I Was Able To Regroup Pretty Quickly 👍🏿👌🏿
Thanks dr!
This surely varies a lot. For a man, this can differently be described as: how many ejaculations on a single erection. So, one has to be careful about the notion of "refractory period" - it does not need to include loss of a full erection. When I was in my twenties, for me that number of ejaculations in a single erection was two, almost all of the time and in just a few minutes, and sometimes three - also in less than 20 minutes.
I have never had an orgasm without an ejaculation - although the volume obviously decreases with number of ejaculations.
Yeah, I was thinking about that too. Orgasm refractory period for me is about an hour or more, but hardness, refractory period is 0
At age 73 and after prostate removal my refractory period is 7 days.
20 November 2022: Rena is a talented and pretty Indian~American woman that is very knowledgeable. She talks with ease about men's body parts
yes, yes, its the best way to know she is comfortable, and overall exited