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  • @TheGbelcher
    @TheGbelcher 29 днів тому +610

    I had ED for years until I realized I had the wrong partner. After I met my person, no issue.

    • @trainwreck5973
      @trainwreck5973 29 днів тому +12

      How does a certain person change that?

    • @pauldavies917
      @pauldavies917 29 днів тому +74

      Chemistry

    • @NEWFIEBULLET1497
      @NEWFIEBULLET1497 28 днів тому +1

      ​@@trainwreck5973guess the second one was pretty

    • @johnurban7333
      @johnurban7333 27 днів тому +69

      That’s exactly right. The wrong woman can really mess with your head. Thought I had ED until I met someone who knew how to enjoy having sex.

    • @SuperReasonabledoubt
      @SuperReasonabledoubt 27 днів тому +30

      Facts...the right person

  • @SafeAndEffectiveTheySaid
    @SafeAndEffectiveTheySaid 22 дні тому +91

    My humble advice is to avoid drinking alcohol beforehand

  • @Cujo5
    @Cujo5 Місяць тому +101

    The first one is basically performance anxiety. Happens often in sports or anything that requires coordinated output on command.

    • @Kiddro22
      @Kiddro22 27 днів тому +6

      He’s stressing himself about living up to a spectacular performance. That’ll make you go gummy QUICK!

  • @KrzysztofDąbrowski-n6i
    @KrzysztofDąbrowski-n6i Місяць тому +95

    Wow what You've said about adult industry is the most amazing summary of its essence. Thank You

    • @mariomicallef7142
      @mariomicallef7142 25 днів тому

      I do not agree on the porn industry. Those guys taking part do really have large attributes. And in the real world it is the same. Without a decent size, one is not performing.

  • @im4udevco
    @im4udevco 29 днів тому +152

    It’s amazing how some people still look at porn videos and think that penis size should look like that. Social media has changed so many people’s perception of reality. I’m glad I’m still living on real world earth.

    • @marcusmoore1235
      @marcusmoore1235 28 днів тому +7

      Baby penile symptom is strong with this one.

    •  28 днів тому +3

      Are you just repeating things? First you say porn then social media. Reprogram robot.

    • @DonaldGerbino
      @DonaldGerbino 27 днів тому +3

      Yours dosent??

    • @ifyagotajaburadumsheep1752
      @ifyagotajaburadumsheep1752 22 дні тому +1

      Mine does

    • @Average_American0
      @Average_American0 10 днів тому +1

      What? Mine is larger than 90% of the ones I've seen on video

  • @CedroCron
    @CedroCron Місяць тому +182

    To the guy that has the erection problem. It happens buddy, don't let anyone tell you different. Rena is bang on. I'm 43 and I've had intermittent issue with this since I was in my 20's. I now take medication for it. Nothing to be ashamed about. It's extremely common.

    • @JordanBernard-r6w
      @JordanBernard-r6w Місяць тому +13

      It’s only performance anxiety. This can be treated with boxing or jogging in the mornings.

    • @CedroCron
      @CedroCron Місяць тому

      @@JordanBernard-r6w There is more to it than that but glad you found something that works for you.

    • @mrBDeye
      @mrBDeye Місяць тому +17

      Everyone knows that Canadian men have small size. Their ancestors are French.

    • @CedroCron
      @CedroCron Місяць тому +7

      @@mrBDeye We aren't all french and we are mainly British. Second I'm the family of immigrants so I have no french background so you have no idea what is in my pants.

    • @grazz7865
      @grazz7865 Місяць тому +7

      Performance anxiety or you’re just not comfortable with the person you’re with at that moment. In my 20s, I would get woodpeckers when the bus went over railroad tracks! 😂 “isn’t this your stop? Yeah, I’m just going to ride a little more until everything clams down “. And yet there were times I was with someone that I really wasn’t 100% comfortable with and I was softer than cotton! Just proves that a woodpecker is over 95% mental, not physical.

  • @anthonydipaola1401
    @anthonydipaola1401 Місяць тому +205

    You are a treasure. First woman I've seen that is plain talking the most intimate issue for men. Bravo!

    • @Hey_OverHere
      @Hey_OverHere Місяць тому +9

      Please don’t S. I. M. P. Bro. It’s a bad look for you.

    • @DanielFlores-ru4ij
      @DanielFlores-ru4ij 29 днів тому +3

      I'd like to sum up what anyone thinks. No you can't make your tool any bigger than what your born with. Now with that said. Yes you can add girth. Slight length but it's temporary. Very temporary. Like less than 24 hrs. My personal advice i use a pump everyday for at least 30min. I know it sounds crazy but I've got my tool to another level. Length at least half an inch. Girth. Well that's crazy. It almost always doesn't fit lets put it that way. Now its a constant 24/7 routine. It's dedication. Its like working out. You have to keep going. Soon as you stop you'll loose your gains pretty quickly. Anyway anyone havw any questions or advice you can just send me a reply. I don't know anything scientifically im not a doctor but this is what I've done for 2 yrs straight

    • @frankieparton5122
      @frankieparton5122 28 днів тому +6

      ​@Hey_OverHere
      How is he simping please elaborate

    • @teddyzamba1396
      @teddyzamba1396 27 днів тому +1

      @@DanielFlores-ru4ij you are clueless; where penis enlargement is concerned. You know nothing, but you will have to take my word on it.

    • @TheHammer70
      @TheHammer70 26 днів тому +1

      Well she is also an expert😂

  • @Peter_gorge
    @Peter_gorge Місяць тому +61

    Dr. Malik, your video on male sexual health and erection issues is truly enlightening and a much-needed discussion in today’s world. Your ability to address such sensitive topics with clarity, compassion, and expertise is inspiring. Thank you for being a voice of knowledge and reassurance for so many.
    I’d also like to seek your guidance on a specific concern-how can one improve erections during rear intercourse? Your insights would be invaluable. Thank you again for your incredible work!

    • @seang.829
      @seang.829 29 днів тому

      See your urologist about the injectable drug know as Trimix/Alprostadil. Works awesome if you don't mind giving yourself an injection directly to the side of your penis. It was a little scary at first but the results were Amazing! Rock hard for over an hour, like I was 18 again!

  • @brettbarager9101
    @brettbarager9101 Місяць тому +56

    Im 62 and have no problem getting and keeping an erection. I focus on her and use communication to ensure she is my focus. Get out of your head and talk to her! Ask her if she is enjoying what you are doing, what she would like and how. Communication is paramount.

    • @brentsaddress
      @brentsaddress 29 днів тому +6

      Never conducted a survey during sex... Do you keep a record??

    • @headslapping100
      @headslapping100 29 днів тому +4

      Do you like that? Shall I move on to the other one?

    • @taxi9554
      @taxi9554 28 днів тому

      Dirty talk…..just tell her nasty things you will do next with her

    • @tigerskone2945
      @tigerskone2945 27 днів тому +2

      Try it a room full people with the cameras and lights on you trying to perform. It's not s easy no matter what you take.

    • @sl3839
      @sl3839 17 днів тому

      Like Alan Partridge?

  • @toddtheisen8386
    @toddtheisen8386 Місяць тому +33

    Always enjoy Dr. Malik's professional yet caring demeanor when discussion any medical topic.

  • @DesiMinnesotan
    @DesiMinnesotan Місяць тому +250

    Fellas, find a woman who isn’t blown out and has realistic expectations. If she can’t be satisfied unless it is big, it’s her problem

    • @ADub-oy6jh
      @ADub-oy6jh Місяць тому +10

      👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👍🏽

    • @cali2468
      @cali2468 Місяць тому +6

      If that makes you feel better, bro. 😂😂

    • @DesiMinnesotan
      @DesiMinnesotan Місяць тому +45

      @@cali2468 I mean it’s common sense.. if average can’t satisfy her, that’s a her problem

    • @MrLove-666
      @MrLove-666 Місяць тому +28

      @@DesiMinnesotan I've plenty of girl "friends" that told me you're correct. As an average myself with 16.5cm, there are some girls that I hit their cervix and it hurts them.
      So yeah, even a four inches can do.. to a smaller vagina.
      Men rejoice; all you have to do is find the right fit! Don't hesitate to try lots of them out!

    • @cali2468
      @cali2468 Місяць тому +4

      @@DesiMinnesotan @DesiMinnesotan Common sense tells me you’re just small.

  • @majorrgeek
    @majorrgeek 27 днів тому +43

    erectile dysfunction has a lot to do with the woman partner - some women can produce a much bigger sexual arousal in you than others but you may find they are difficult to live with on long term whereas a perfect partner may stimulate you less sexually but you find you get along much better with her, the ultimate choice is yours

    • @jonathanrayne
      @jonathanrayne 22 дні тому +1

      Yep!!!

    • @JohnSmith-xx9th
      @JohnSmith-xx9th 20 днів тому

      Good point!

    • @tjbes
      @tjbes 19 днів тому +3

      This is possibly the most ignorant comment on here. What you’re describing is not erectile dysfunction. You’re just describing not being into your partner. Those aren’t the same thing. Erectile dysfunction is in no way the fault of the woman. It’s not the fault of the man either. It’s a medical condition. But it’s definitely not the fault of the woman.

  • @hihaters2004
    @hihaters2004 Місяць тому +75

    This happens to me but once I get things going I’m back to normal. It’s about regaining confidence.

    • @FriendBears
      @FriendBears Місяць тому +1

      Dr. What’s is your view of naturism?

  • @jasperlachance6211
    @jasperlachance6211 Місяць тому +69

    2 things... first it's psychological (most of the time)
    Can also be how u feel about ur partner (emotional and psychological attraction and connection is key)

  • @PSA78
    @PSA78 Місяць тому +507

    Of course it's not real in those films, who gets a plumber to come over right away. 🤷🏼‍♂️

    • @artyfhartie2269
      @artyfhartie2269 Місяць тому +14

      I'm on my way

    • @kurtdeschepper2631
      @kurtdeschepper2631 Місяць тому +15

      😂😂😂

    • @Okaybob
      @Okaybob Місяць тому +16

      Yeah but you can get the pizza guy to show up in 45 mins 😂

    • @PSA78
      @PSA78 Місяць тому +2

      @Okaybob Not where I live. 😏Though the odds is probably better for me as a man, who's only into women, I have trouble picturing a 6' blond working as a plumber. 💃

    • @Maynardd
      @Maynardd 29 днів тому +2

      😂

  • @briansmith4368
    @briansmith4368 Місяць тому +11

    Really great content in your videos. Appreciate your straight forward, clinical and fact based approach to men's sexual health issues.

  • @fireteammichael1777
    @fireteammichael1777 2 дні тому

    Never had any sort of ED type issues, and then after being on certain medications known for such a side effect for years and also being alone by choice for same years, I didn't even think it worked anymore.
    And then I met the woman I love, love of my life, and then.. "what issue?"
    That "part of my physiology" comes to life, more than I'd like even, for her without fail!

  • @VicOrlando
    @VicOrlando 29 днів тому +7

    If you're healthy it's mental, if if you're not healthy you're not in good shape and if you're older it could be everything including even low testosterone.
    Stay healthy fellas. Your woman will always thank you 🎉

  • @JDuke-uw3fk
    @JDuke-uw3fk Місяць тому +161

    "Don't cross the streams." Egan Spengler

  • @maxhames499
    @maxhames499 29 днів тому +84

    I'm in my late 50s. Once I started dating a 20 year old my intrest is sex went way up.

    • @greeneyesfromohio4103
      @greeneyesfromohio4103 28 днів тому +21

      We’re talking about real partners here, not escorts old man river.

    • @youaresoft-ee4ub
      @youaresoft-ee4ub 25 днів тому +8

      @@greeneyesfromohio4103 that was mean af

    • @rhambrick320
      @rhambrick320 24 дні тому +2

      Shes no ho. I believe in you Max.

    • @janarusbyrd9992
      @janarusbyrd9992 18 днів тому

      Crazy wow 😂😂😂😂​@@greeneyesfromohio4103

  • @francisdashwood1760
    @francisdashwood1760 29 днів тому +9

    A good book on navigating split streams is ''Yellow River'', by I. P. Freely.

    • @mikeboyd3225
      @mikeboyd3225 28 днів тому +1

      Or” Under the grandstands” by Seymour Butts.

  • @beowulfwadd
    @beowulfwadd Місяць тому +14

    Hi Doctor Malik, many thanks for differentiating real sex from pornography Adult industry has an overwhelming effect over men all over the world. Unfortunately people believe in what they see on these videos, in spite of the unreal, untrue, deceitful aspect of them.

  • @fumblerooskie
    @fumblerooskie Місяць тому +42

    Performance anxiety seems like something that would be fairly common. My advice is to focus on you partner's pleasure and forget about your own.

    • @kurtlee6608
      @kurtlee6608 29 днів тому +2

      i agree with you 100 percent.

    • @seands650
      @seands650 21 день тому +5

      What? No, that advice is exactly backwards and is what causes Performance anxiety. If anything, you need to focus on your own pleasure and arousal, because it's literally required for an erection.
      You need to stop focusing on pleasing your partner and minimize thinking overall. You need to be less in your head, and more present in the moment and your own body, doing and feeling what feels good to you.

  • @paulatk44
    @paulatk44 Місяць тому +225

    A very fascinating video, this brings back painful memories which i have been enduring. My relationship of 6 years ended 3 months ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her .

    • @JohnWicked-fx3cs
      @JohnWicked-fx3cs Місяць тому +3

      Parting ways with someone you deeply cherish is an agonizing experience. I understand firsthand, having encountered a parallel situation at the end of my 7-year relationship. Driven by an unyielding determination, I explored every avenue to salvage our bond. Seeking guidance from a spiritual counselor proved pivotal, as their intervention played a crucial role in rekindling our love

    • @paulatk44
      @paulatk44 Місяць тому +1

      That's fascinating! How did you come across a spiritual counselor, and what's the best way for me to contact her?

    • @JohnWicked-fx3cs
      @JohnWicked-fx3cs Місяць тому

      Meet Suzanne Ann Walters, an outstanding spiritual counselor with the power to restore your relationship with your ex.

    • @paulatk44
      @paulatk44 Місяць тому

      I'm grateful for this valuable information; I've just taken a moment to find her online.

    • @neilrupright8728
      @neilrupright8728 Місяць тому +2

      We wish you the very best in whatever results you may find. Hang in there and we all know it's so difficult.

  • @DaveIrish66
    @DaveIrish66 29 днів тому +7

    Insulin resistance can be part of the cause, correct?

  • @ButchFaust
    @ButchFaust 23 дні тому +14

    Who was the comedian that said " all porn films should be titled " Things that will never happen to you "

  • @stephenc2527
    @stephenc2527 Місяць тому +53

    For the guys, If you are concerned with size, I heard a very popular adult actress say she like all sizes, just the bigger ones are better on camera. Unless you are planning a career in adult entertainment, you should be good with whatever you are loaded with.

    • @BeauQuillen
      @BeauQuillen Місяць тому +2

      Ron Jeremy has advice for you then.

    • @johneta7665
      @johneta7665 27 днів тому

      Very true. I’m 46 and I’ve been with over 75 women. Only 2 have hinted that I wasn’t enough. Women enjoy being penetration by different sizes. That’s part of their enjoyment. Rock on Fellas!

    • @BondJFK
      @BondJFK 27 днів тому

      ​​​​​​​@@johneta7665 The trick is in action not size, fast piston like motion from end to end of the canal in every stroke.
      The only thing you should take care of is your mental stress levels.
      I have a small size the only time I face issues is when I had a high stress level due to job related issues and fear of visiting hookers place before my marriage.

    • @codenamekidnextdoor6575
      @codenamekidnextdoor6575 26 днів тому +1

      🕺🕺🕺🤣🤣

    • @f61band69
      @f61band69 26 днів тому

      ​@@BeauQuillenyes he does
      When you work in a pizza shop you shouldn't eat pizza for dinner
      To break that down
      You get paid to have sex with hot women don't grape women

  • @3DJapan
    @3DJapan Місяць тому +112

    I recently saw an interview with a adult actress where they asked if the males use medication and she said "every time" and mentored it's usually a pill but sometimes the injection.

    • @rafaelrp07
      @rafaelrp07 Місяць тому +38

      I'm from Brazil and some porn stars here said the same thing in an interview. But they also said that in order to become a porn star, men must not only have a bigger penis but also hard, long-lasting erections. Medications, pills or injections is because it's a job. They stand in front of the camera and a large crew, not doing what gives them pleasure, but what the directors tell them to do. They also say that some scenes take hours (some scenes take 2 to 4 hours on set). That's why they use medication. A major porn producer said that 8-9 out of 10 men they test don't meet their requirements. Half of them couldn't get ready in front of the whole crew, lol!

    • @judd0112
      @judd0112 Місяць тому +13

      Cocaine is a helluva drug

    • @WXUZT
      @WXUZT Місяць тому

      I believe an injection of Papaverine and Phentolamine is used.

    • @garyanderson9467
      @garyanderson9467 Місяць тому

      @@judd0112 Cocaine is not conducive to good sex.

    • @ivandrago1527
      @ivandrago1527 Місяць тому +2

      PT-141

  • @jimlongley9531
    @jimlongley9531 Місяць тому +6

    And sometimes the split stream is the result of a stone. We pass small stones quite often, it's stones that don't make it out of the kidney or bladder when they are small that cause the BIG problems, small stones usually wash right through but sometimes are just large enough to slightly occlude the urethra.
    I have long been an advocate of teaching your boys to sit to pee.

  • @ALF782
    @ALF782 Місяць тому +8

    At 61 25mg of Sildenafil never fails and gives me added confidence.
    Otherwise it's hit and miss depending on mood.

  • @streetwiseguitar5113
    @streetwiseguitar5113 Місяць тому +48

    You really should do a show with Hink, recognize and learn from the PE community.

    • @lazarus8447
      @lazarus8447 Місяць тому +2

      Hink is the man. So knowledgeable.

  • @ReadEyeland
    @ReadEyeland 29 днів тому +2

    For the first guy: it’s you don’t have a certain level of trust built, you’re going to be self-conscious. Sex is a vulnerable thing. Build trust/relationship. It’s pretty simple. Your body is doing what it’s meant to do-if there isn’t relationship there, your bodies going to reject the act.

  • @Farmboy007
    @Farmboy007 Місяць тому +28

    Diet is everything. Reduce your carbs folks. As carbs become a larger and larger percent of our diet all hell breaks loose in our body. For many men high carb diets kills testosterone levels and the ability to maintain erections. I am 54 and slowly started having these issues many years ago. Went carnivore 16 months ago and its been life changing in many ways but especially hormonally for me and my wife who went carnivore at the same time. Sex is better than its ever been for both of us. Absolutely no issues for us now at all.

    • @scottgrasher5387
      @scottgrasher5387 Місяць тому

      What other benefits besides sexual have you experienced?
      I am the same age & have been considering that diet as well.

    • @Farmboy007
      @Farmboy007 Місяць тому +5

      @ even energy all day everyday, better sleep, no snoring or breathing issues, less sinus problems, 6-7 hrs of sleep max, feel 25 years younger, testosterone levels have doubled, blood pressure normal, A1C below 5.5, triglycerides under 100, no aches and pains, massive reduction of inflammation in my body, no more skin issues, no more sunburning, bowel problems, life long constipation issues gone, swollen prostate and small pee stream gone, peeing three times a night gone, a bladder i can fill up again, back to my 18-20 year old weight of 178. I am 6 feet. Zero medications. The long term health problems from eating 80-90% daily calories from carbohydrates is killing humans. Go get a resting insulin test. If it is not below 10 you are getting too many carbs. My wife and i cannot explain the change in our lives for the better. It has changed our outlook on life headed into retirement. Do it 90 days. You will be very pleased. We will never go back.

    • @scottgrasher5387
      @scottgrasher5387 Місяць тому +2

      @ Congrats on the positive transformation you have made. I appreciate the reply
      I will definitely get that resting insulin test.

    • @Hellbentbiker
      @Hellbentbiker Місяць тому +3

      I was going to say this exact thing. Most problems for most men can be alleviated by changing diet.
      Carnivore for 1 1/2 years and my libido and erection quality is better than it was in my 20s. Best mental and physical health in my life!

    • @Farmboy007
      @Farmboy007 Місяць тому +3

      @ and it goes for women as well. My wife is 59 and it has been a game changing for her hormonal health. Sex drive and orgasms way better. Also, no need for lubrication. She is like she was when she was 30 yrs old.

  • @adnankhalid66
    @adnankhalid66 28 днів тому +2

    Thanks for being so informative in plain language. Unfused infra-meatal part of the glans of the penis can also result in spraying of urine and possible soiling of clothes. This can be either congenital (like MMIP syndrome) or post surgery for Hypospadias. Though, these causes are likely to have been picked up in childhood but missed too, sometimes.

  • @BillSchlichting
    @BillSchlichting Місяць тому +6

    One thing about peeing off to the side that Rena didn't mention that's happened to me, being uncircumcised: Sometimes the foreskin partially blocks the outlet causing the stream to go one way or another. No ma'am, I didn't mean to miss the toilet! I finally straightened out the stream when I pulled back the skin.

  • @bryan-todd
    @bryan-todd 28 днів тому +43

    Under 40 diagnosis: porn addiction, lack of physical fitness, antidepressants.

    • @drozdych
      @drozdych 22 дні тому +3

      Also, significant general anxiety

    • @scarred10
      @scarred10 18 днів тому +1

      Theres no such thing as porn addiction and porn doesnt affect erections anyway

    • @PYSADA
      @PYSADA 15 днів тому

      @@scarred10it affects too much
      Am 24 and am suffering

    • @scarred10
      @scarred10 15 днів тому

      @PYSADA change the woman

    • @anamegoeshere
      @anamegoeshere 9 днів тому

      please go play in traffic

  • @gerrymcintosh4477
    @gerrymcintosh4477 Місяць тому +6

    I have cardiovascular disease, 3 strokes, recently had a pacemaker. Ejection fraction of 23%. I’m almost 65 and was very fit, or so I thought, until the first stroke. I have difficulty achieving an erection. Is my love life permanently impaired? I have improved tremendously since my last stroke late last year. Had the pacemaker last month. Is there anything I can do? Thank you in advance Rena. 🇨🇦💝🇺🇸🥰

    • @nerychristian
      @nerychristian 28 днів тому +1

      Serrapeptase, nattokinase, pine bark extract, berberine, squats

    • @mikemassino
      @mikemassino 27 днів тому

      See a urologist like her

  • @chrisr4482
    @chrisr4482 Місяць тому +5

    The suggestion on medication for psychogenic ED worked for me. I had brain trauma and a toic relationship right around when it began, so we thought TBI induced. W/ my new partner, we moved slowly w/ open communication, but my ED was hit or miss. When I tried tadalafil for a month, my ED was gone, I regained confidence, and wasn't hyper-focused on performance. Eventually, I didn't even need medication, and I have a half used bottle going to waste.

    • @chrisbarnett5303
      @chrisbarnett5303 Місяць тому

      Tadalafil is amazing.

    • @adamm6329
      @adamm6329 Місяць тому

      Didn't help me. To truly counter psychogenic ED, you can't be consciously aware you needed that pill to perform, at least for me. Just knowing the pill is what did it for me ensured that when I don't take one, I can't perform.

    • @chrisbarnett5303
      @chrisbarnett5303 29 днів тому +1

      @ I just take daily low dose tadalafil.

    • @chrisr4482
      @chrisr4482 29 днів тому +3

      @adamm6329 See, for me, it was like dang, this is gonna be great! Perhaps b/c I trusted it would help, it did. Every so often still, I get in my head about taking too long to climax (bummer, right?), and I'll lose it. But overall, I think just having that safety net of 5mg tadalafil gave me reassurance and reminded me of what is possible.

  • @wacky.racoon
    @wacky.racoon Місяць тому +14

    Those average measurements are from the pubic bone, not the fat pad, which is huge on a lot of people, especially office sitters.

    • @adamm6329
      @adamm6329 Місяць тому +5

      I heard about a guy that if he lost 100 lbs he'd be over 9". Like bro... I'd be at the gym daily. 🤣

  • @OctoberOmicron
    @OctoberOmicron Місяць тому +4

    I'm 43 and have been in a relationship that's lasted just over 17 years now. I can count the times I've had erectile issues performing on one hand. That being said, I've noticed these last couple of years that I can maintain 100% capacity for the first few minutes, but then go down to 90-95% the remainder of the time. I'm more convinced than not that it's a mental thing for me, and even that small of a difference makes me sad. Also can't seem to finish as quickly as I'd like, which also sucks and also makes me feel that the real issue for me is declining excitement.

    • @taochi100
      @taochi100 Місяць тому +1

      I'm in the same boat. One thing that has helped me is I get happy when I help her out over trying to help myself out. That keeps my mind off of me. More focused on her enjoying it. She gets mad for me not cumming sometimes but I make sure she understands I don't care about me. As long as she's happy. I'm semi out of shape. 44 and been married for 24 years.
      She does more for me then anyone else could ever. So I make sure I make her explode at least 2 times every time.

    • @taochi100
      @taochi100 Місяць тому

      Yes being older and in your head doesn't help. Try and find that one trigger that keeps you in the moment at the moment. Focus on pleasure rather then you finishing. Try and stop caring about finishing and just say next time.

    • @grazz7865
      @grazz7865 Місяць тому +3

      It might be because the sex becomes routine. I’ve had this conversation many times with my coworkers and one guy said, I bet if there was some young hot girl in the room with you, you’d be harder than Chinese algebra

    • @ludwig7974
      @ludwig7974 29 днів тому +1

      Familiarity breeds contempt, you need some strange, new, younger if it's an issue. With everything, over time things lose it's desire, excitement, etc.

    • @paulvickers9978
      @paulvickers9978 29 днів тому +1

      I think that trying so hard to last longer when I was younger, came back too haunt me. Now, it takes forever to finish. Sometimes going at it for hours.

  • @wmgthilgen
    @wmgthilgen 29 днів тому +1

    ED is generally referred to as a physical issue. Whem it can also envolve a physicological aka mental issue as well. Though there is sometime's way's of getting around the physical aspect of ED. Getting past the physicological issue is to the N-th degree considerably, excuse the pun, Harder.

  • @vermontsownboy6957
    @vermontsownboy6957 Місяць тому +4

    To the guy with the erection matter, as others have said and I agree, it happens. Period. No shame. But I also say this: I propose you let your mind switch-up from concern about making it perfect for your partner to making it enjoyable for YOU, while also remaining mindful and generous towards your partner. You also enjoying yourself is also a highly worthy outcome too.

  • @mariocalderon8703
    @mariocalderon8703 Місяць тому +19

    Jim Carrey Effect in the movie 🎬 "Me, Myself & Irene" 😅😅😅😅😅

  • @themightiestgooch
    @themightiestgooch 24 дні тому +1

    I got prescribed Tadalifil for pulmonary hypotension.
    It’s glorious lol.

  • @WrestlingInYourHouse
    @WrestlingInYourHouse Місяць тому +13

    Mami, in the 90s we learned more from Scope, Hustler and Penthouse magazines than anything they have today ...

  • @jantayraho
    @jantayraho 21 день тому

    Highly Appreciated Nice Post

  • @ken_9359
    @ken_9359 21 день тому

    They can use different lenses such as wide lense, etc. Or even video after effects.

  • @devonlengacher3403
    @devonlengacher3403 28 днів тому +4

    She is a very lovely person ❤❤❤

  • @thebrianchannel9890
    @thebrianchannel9890 29 днів тому +2

    German men don't sit to pee. In general. I developed my paruesis in Germany. My first trigger was in a German bathroom and a guy made fun of me for not using the urinal. A german dude. In general, German bathrooms offer far more privacy, and peeing in an ally is fine. But German men don't sit to pee usually. Swedes I think?

  • @ds5651
    @ds5651 Місяць тому +2

    You are in charge. Instead of focusing on yourself focus on directing them. Say on your knees, hands behind your back with your chin up. You will be so focus on their next move you will not think about anything but that.

  • @joelmccoy9969
    @joelmccoy9969 Місяць тому +7

    Female bodybuilders have a high probability of developing Clitoromegaly (big clitorises) if they have been using hormonal PED's. Does this work for men? Which types should be avoided to not cause clitoral androgenation?

    • @briandaniel4937
      @briandaniel4937 Місяць тому

      Almost all PED’s are male hormones besides gross hormone and clenbuterol would be the only ones that wouldn’t have masculine effects

    • @briandaniel4937
      @briandaniel4937 Місяць тому +1

      Growth

    • @michaelangelo5783
      @michaelangelo5783 Місяць тому

      Only if taken in small doses during puberty/adolescence. High T = larger peen. Natural boosters are not being overweight, high t boosting foods like egg yolks, broccoli, beef, liver, pumpkin seeds, etc. If you have a son and want him to grow healthy stick with the above.

    • @artyfhartie2269
      @artyfhartie2269 Місяць тому

      That's a mouthful

    • @joelmccoy9969
      @joelmccoy9969 Місяць тому

      @@briandaniel4937 Have you seen clitoromegaly? It turns into a small penis.

  • @marcuschisolm3470
    @marcuschisolm3470 19 днів тому +1

    At 24, I had trouble keeping it down!

  • @sullivan2339
    @sullivan2339 21 день тому

    Dr Malik- is Quite Unique. She can talk clearly- to the point- about anything! Thank you Dr.

  • @RichardsWorld
    @RichardsWorld Місяць тому +2

    Thanks doctor. You have been helping keep me be harder and stronger. Me and Little Buddy love you.

  • @artrogers3985
    @artrogers3985 Місяць тому +3

    I’m not sure why but, I like your channel. 🎸

  • @benhodson610
    @benhodson610 Місяць тому +4

    I actually had a urethral stricture (blocked urethra). I underwent a super invasive surgery called urethroplasty about 9 months ago. Been great since.

    • @andrebobson-sesay4605
      @andrebobson-sesay4605 28 днів тому +1

      The same here, I had one just about a month ago.

    • @benhodson610
      @benhodson610 28 днів тому

      @ oh wow! Was yours a buccal graft or anastomosis?

  • @pst702
    @pst702 Місяць тому +234

    In the adult industry, the women, on average are relatively very small as well as the guys. The industry had taller men in the 70's and 80's. Today's male performers are shorter in height. It's a camera trick.

    • @mashaanguy5210
      @mashaanguy5210 Місяць тому +9

      I was shocked

    • @ShaneBoy
      @ShaneBoy Місяць тому +16

      Girls also usually have super small hands. It a lot easier to spot the proportions and get an ide of real size when viewing in VR

    • @lyfandeth
      @lyfandeth Місяць тому +27

      ​@@ShaneBoy So the videographers have learned from the food advertising industry. Where big burger chains have used small hand models for fifty years, so the burgers they hold up look way larger.

    • @ShaneBoy
      @ShaneBoy Місяць тому +7

      @@lyfandeth did not know they did it, but makes total sense that they will do it.

    • @chrisbarnett5303
      @chrisbarnett5303 Місяць тому +15

      SO many 4'11-5'3" women in porn.

  • @ifixeditmyself1926
    @ifixeditmyself1926 15 днів тому

    Definitely stay away from stress. Stress will not allow you to have a wonderful experience.

  • @juancolon887
    @juancolon887 18 днів тому

    I had performance anxiety in my younger years. It happened a couple one night stands. When I was in a relationship I had no issues. I think for me it's about connecting with the woman and having an emotional attachment rather than no attachment at all. I need to feel comfortable with the woman and lead up to sexual intimacy. I may be in the minority but that's just me. BTW- been married now for 30 years so I don't have to deal with performance anxiety ever again, lol

  • @fhowland
    @fhowland 15 годин тому

    Ever since I took Prozac for a few months five years ago, my libido and erections have never been the same.

  • @vishalrane4449
    @vishalrane4449 Місяць тому +1

    Wat is kgoal kegel exerciser? Benefits? Harm?

  • @stevenpurdy2235
    @stevenpurdy2235 15 днів тому

    When I was 24 I never had an ED issue. Maybe a low sperm count or low testosterone is the reason. It also could be completely mental.

  • @charlo17
    @charlo17 Місяць тому +14

    Very informative!

  • @manzchello4752
    @manzchello4752 Місяць тому +47

    I was a shut down not working right ED guy from abstinence for too long and had to do sex practice with my Girlfriend who was also abstinent for too long. You have to use it or you lose it. Thats my experience. Now we are like clock work

    • @nerychristian
      @nerychristian 28 днів тому +1

      True. That's why it's so important for couples to have regular sex.

  • @joshuabowman7698
    @joshuabowman7698 8 днів тому

    Urethral Strictures are a cause of deviated flow

  • @Kiddro22
    @Kiddro22 27 днів тому

    I’m about to eat some pumpkin seeds on a empty stomach this early in the morning. So I can be ready by this afternoon/evening. Pumpkin seeds over Slidenifil. Slidenifil gave me a headache

  • @xhonatankurti8515
    @xhonatankurti8515 26 днів тому +2

    Sincerely, I had some skeptical questions about adult industry about larger and bigger penis now I have the answer, thanks

  • @jpgrdnr
    @jpgrdnr 15 днів тому

    good circulation and being about 190lbs-200lbs and 6 feet tall

  • @lavelezjr
    @lavelezjr 29 днів тому +1

    I am 49 so I have erectile problems, and use meds. to get an erection. According to what you said I could be into porn if I wanted to...since I am larger than normal, but I am not that kind of person. Always wondered why the stream sometimes comes out split, or all over the place. As always I am glad you post these videos that most wouldn't even try to, and hope you helped a lot of men in the world with some of their problems.

  • @4ortytoon
    @4ortytoon 21 день тому +1

    the person asking about enhancement should strongly consider that these males are often cherry-picked for their physical attributes. the fact that they tend to stay in the business up to a decade or more, while women in the industry change significantly sooner, helps highlight how rare such endowments really are.

  • @jiji7688
    @jiji7688 6 днів тому

    In winter i can't find it😮?

  • @bakhtswati
    @bakhtswati Місяць тому +2

    Nice informative video

  • @jasonn5196
    @jasonn5196 28 днів тому +2

    Find a female you are actually interested in, and that is actually interested in you.
    most of what’s easy these days probably isn’t that interesting when it comes down to the nitty gritty.

  • @hansgrubber5753
    @hansgrubber5753 28 днів тому +4

    Dr Malik, I suffer from ED until I watch your videos. I can’t help but stay rock hard watching you and listening to your voice.

  • @avmelidor
    @avmelidor Місяць тому +1

    Always illuminating

  • @zombine7103
    @zombine7103 Місяць тому +18

    I dont know why we are supposed to make it big.

  • @magneto25
    @magneto25 Місяць тому +3

    Thank you, this was very informative. For a friend of course. Poor guy…

  • @swafflemanish
    @swafflemanish 28 днів тому +12

    Combating ED is easy if you don't have a physical issue behind it.
    1: stop masturbating for a while
    2: don't watch porn
    3: take supplements that support blood flow, maybe even some tadalafil for a while.
    Bonus:
    4: exercise, cardiovascular and weight
    5: stop smoking
    I had ED for a while. Doing the above made me a complete MONSTER.

    • @lahirubastian6404
      @lahirubastian6404 23 дні тому +1

      Thank you for your advice

    • @thinline8504
      @thinline8504 20 днів тому

      you know what I tried this. I was masterbating 3-4 times a day at one point to porn.. I stopped after I found a partner, and realized I had issues. I tried a viragra pill last week for the first time. this is after I stopped watching porn all day, and masterbating. last week I tried viagra, and instantly thought was penis was gonna explode.. so it might just do it's trick..

  • @kloassie
    @kloassie Місяць тому +9

    5:46 thanks for crushing my self confidence 😞

    • @jaffarbaqi
      @jaffarbaqi Місяць тому

      I think she meant the averages in porn videos, not across the globe.

    • @FelixMuk
      @FelixMuk 28 днів тому +2

      If that crushed your confidence, then I doubt you had any to begin with.

  • @paulmitchell4544
    @paulmitchell4544 Місяць тому

    Not forgetting prescribed medications can cause ED problems. Blood pressure meds in particular!

  • @Kingme1337
    @Kingme1337 28 днів тому +2

    Does semen retention have benefits? Will it make my sperm potent?

  • @bpsitrep
    @bpsitrep Місяць тому +5

    Definitely the 'heart' and the rest of the body are connected. Make sure your heart is healthy !!!! A healthy body and a calm mind and like minded partner are what's best for good sex.

  • @ManguKing
    @ManguKing 12 днів тому

    I actually tend to have the opposite problem. Without changing in diets or daily chores my sleep schedule goes down and up, and the more days I have of proper sleep the more I have the issue of a certain someone being hard at times when it shouldn't be hard, and staying that way for longer than it ought to be.
    I at times would also have the issue of not ejaculating. To quote some shortie back in 2012, " my jaw is growing tired, am I not doing it well?"
    What's going on?
    On some other instance it was the opposite, i had ED and felt like shit cause it is very prideful to last long with a girl, and to then loose that with only an uncontrolled sleep schedule or a change of girls blow my my mind.

  • @RobertM-h4p
    @RobertM-h4p 28 днів тому

    Can certain underware cause shrinkage. I notice I'm hung without blood flow several days then a few days its like what happen

  • @tx49er956
    @tx49er956 Місяць тому +1

    Black macca powder, and black seed oil help me wake up with my member at full salute. I'm 42. Been taking for about 2 years.

    • @shayn4220
      @shayn4220 29 днів тому

      Can u share u take it daily or how u take it ,

  • @markgrayson7514
    @markgrayson7514 Місяць тому +3

    I want to ask you about using a p.nis plug for a distal stricture instead of or until I can get meatotomy surgery with a buccal graft. A screw in plug made for long term use can be left in, maybe for three weeks, to form the stricture over the plug but remove the plug before it shapes too exactly. I intend to use two different plugs, leave it out sometimes, and continue intermittent self dilation. This is not documented anywhere I can find. Can I ask you more specifically about it, and share information I can't write on here? Do I need a membership to ask a question? Cheers.
    When I manage to keep a plug in, it feels great for both functions and keeps my flas sid p.nis stretched and looking great on the nud. beach, eliminating pain I didn't realize everyone else doesn't feel.

  • @dlbracer56
    @dlbracer56 Місяць тому +1

    Thanks for the information.

  • @jdc1978
    @jdc1978 16 днів тому

    Measuring from were?

  • @shakeelahmed-so5gm
    @shakeelahmed-so5gm 2 дні тому

    How would I get girth, length and hardness?

  • @dominionn09
    @dominionn09 Місяць тому +6

    Split stream has only happened to me when the opening is not opening all the way

    • @dariusowens1060
      @dariusowens1060 7 днів тому

      I never had split stream but
      I have had to one where
      It goes outside of the
      Toilet

  • @Total_Body_Fitness_USA
    @Total_Body_Fitness_USA 28 днів тому +9

    Sex induced anxiety is the number one reason we HEALTHY men lose an erection OR can't get an erection. Be confident and don't think about it and nature will take you to the finish line. This comes from a PhD in human physiology with over 3 decades of training.

  • @HinesEdventures
    @HinesEdventures Місяць тому +1

    I have had this issue for over 30 years

  • @maxwellmccloud5325
    @maxwellmccloud5325 28 днів тому

    Yes these are all things I've wondered

  • @ThadudetheycallG
    @ThadudetheycallG 14 днів тому

    I use the fisheye lenses

  • @ጠበሳ
    @ጠበሳ 2 дні тому

    Thank You

  • @shawnbowen6833
    @shawnbowen6833 28 днів тому

    My stream is always split for the first second or 2. Pretty annoying as one stream goes straight down. I have what i think is a pretty large urethra opening and the center always sticks together for a second while urinating causing the split.

  • @janeordway4841
    @janeordway4841 29 днів тому

    What about this salt under the Tongue trick does it really ?

  • @nevisjackson
    @nevisjackson 24 дні тому +1

    I read a story one time about asparagus children and they were subconscious about how their pee smelled.

  • @kevinparks3041
    @kevinparks3041 29 днів тому

    Back in my single dating days performance anxiety would sometimes get ahold of me during first couple of times I was with a woman I was crushing on hard. My doc said it was in my head and prescribed me Viagra. Worked wonders to keep my mind focused on her instead of me… After 1 or 2 times it wasn’t needed anymore (for that woman anyway).

  • @towag
    @towag Місяць тому +6

    I once had a girlfriend who was relieved to find that I came in the normal average range... Her previous boyfriend was large in length & girth, which she always found painful which ended the relationship... She thought my endowment was comfortable ... Unfortunately for her she was looking for marriage which I wasn't ready for... We still remained as friends... Never mind the size, feel what's really important.... 👐