This is good discussion and I’ve been really tired of hearing I don’t love myself enough. No- I think that I’m a good catch and can’t see why they can’t see that. I’m already critical enough of myself, too. I’ve taken accountability, consciously, and I’m not going to blame myself for all that went wrong. Now I just need to ask myself: what do I want? Certainly not someone who can’t see my worth. It’s definitely been a testament to how much I cared. I hoped they would see that.
They will see that, eventually. Sadly, for us, they don't see it soon enough to save it. I wish you all the best and I pray that the right person will come into your life and see everything you are and have to offer. As hard as it is, one thing Derrick said is so very true, we can't force it to work out, we can't force them to see what they refuse to see, I know, I've tried,.and it ended up just hurting me more in the end. Keep taking care of yourself, learn from mistakes, hold your head up high and wait for that one special person to walk into your life and treat you the way you deserve to be treated and is able to love you the way you deserve to be loved!!
My thought process exactly. I’ve been telling myself in the mirror that there is so much to love about me and the right person will be able to see that (clearly he isn’t that person).
I had to realize that it was hard to let him go because I really didn't want to let him go! I really wanted him to be in my life. I have to figure out if the problem that I'm having is actually ME. Am I coming from a place inside of me that makes me someone that is hard to deal with. Am I creating a problem where there is none? Have I been alone for so long that 'Alone' is what I'm comfortable with? I'll figure that out...
Sometimes God removes somebody from your life because not everybody that comes into your life is meant to stay. Some are only there for a season. Know your worth and value. If God removes them let them go because God sees things we do not and He has a plan for your life. Rejection is Gods protection so do not question nor fight the process. LET HIM GO.
This was a word from the good Lord. The deeper the love the deeper the grief. I will dig and find out why and what I can’t accept. I grew and he stayed stagnant refused to grow with me. Then walked away and abandoned me. I truly truly love him. I know I need to let go and through therapy I have learned this is a process and because I truly loved him and was devoted faithfully for 10 years time, God, acceptance, and distance will slowly heal my deep wounds. Thank you this was good spot on what I was praying for!
It's the rejection for me. I understand that I have separation issues. I going to work on that. I'm holding on to something that is very much passive aggressive.
A lot won't let go because they truly want that person & they know it'll hurt to see them with someone else (they're invested & don't want someone else reeking any so called benefit they see to having that person, even tho they're no good for them). That's whr the self love comes into play because that's not loving yourself right (& they know it because they're loving their self more than they love YOU). No you can't turn the REAL love for them off, internally, but you have to be strong enough to physically save YOURself. The longer you stay the less respect they'll have for you anyway. Let them go & show them they didn't break you (& do not go to them when temptation/loneliness arises...fill that space with something that brings VALUE to your life). 🙏🏾
I left his butt. 30 1/2 years. Dealing with the flashback's of some of the crap he did n said( hurtful crap!!). N dealing with forgiving myself for allowing myself to be played, I can see him sooo clear now, damn it😝😜. I'm using my tool's. Nit looking for a relationship, well I am, with myself. N the help of you, I got this. Ur a old soul youngman. Peace n Blessing's🙏🎊💝🌸🌼🌈🙏
I needed this. I’m kinda struggling. I have good days n bad ones as well. But the work has to come within. If I’m not 100 I can’t give u anything. Idk but this sucks🙁
Hey you, I hope things are getting better for you and that today is easier than yesterday. I can relate to your post. I have good days and not so good days. He is right, real love don't listen. I am seriously struggling as well. Just finished crying to be honest. I pray these feelings pass for us both.
Wow, dang..... sure gave me alot to think about.. that moment when you know you just heard some truth that you didnt really wanna accept..... Love doesn't listen, and it doesn't just turn off.... pure truth!
& this be the only truth that we learned that will now set us free! Thank you Derrick. It was never about loving myself. It was about a REAL investment
Hi. Honestly it has not been a struggle. I was with him for 20 years the last seven of those 20 I let him go emotionally. I only miss the laughter not the pain. I am better without him.
Wow, you are clearly a very strong woman. 20 years? I can't even imagine. You being able to say what you did and feel the way you do is a inspiration to all of us! Thank you!!
@@joleencox5900 too much pain was involved for me to keep living a half life. He never appreciated me and always played the victim. I could go on and on but I will NOT give him no more of MY precious energy. ☺️💙
I remember when this channel got a lot of crap but I still watch it and it's really helpful. This is where I'm at right now I was in a two-year relationship and we moved in together and try to come by and families it didn't work. So we moved out and try to stay in a relationship and it's still not working but we can't seem to let each other go even though we both want to.
I love the part when u said it's not about the bubble bath it's ur love was real That's great food 4 me to let go the path journey and not to be bitter toward the person best revenge is happiness
Skipping to affirmation before processing acceptance is dangerous to your meaningful transformation process. Creating new experiences after not accepting the experience you just had is called rebounding. We all know about it. Waste of your time and deepens the wound in obscurity, so it festers from a deep place which will take longer to heal because it’s still open and festering.
its actually harder for him to let me go and him cryin for me to stay every time he "mess up" and i just feel bad for makin him feel that way only to continue to accept his "mistakes"
Wow. This made me think about some things today. I haven’t been with this ex since the early 2000s. What am I not accepting? I’m struggling with that part but would really like the clarity. I wanna put this to bed.
I am so over him. 5 years ✅ done. What I can’t get over is you youngman😚😌🥰😍😘😝😗😋! I am waiting for the experience and experiences with you.🥳. I am brand new all over 😉. Real Love 💗 @ Mary J. Blige kinda love ❤️😁✨.
It’s been two years and I still cry almost daily. I truly love my ex.
Are you ok now? I hope you found someone else 💖
This is good discussion and I’ve been really tired of hearing I don’t love myself enough. No- I think that I’m a good catch and can’t see why they can’t see that. I’m already critical enough of myself, too. I’ve taken accountability, consciously, and I’m not going to blame myself for all that went wrong. Now I just need to ask myself: what do I want? Certainly not someone who can’t see my worth. It’s definitely been a testament to how much I cared. I hoped they would see that.
They will see that, eventually. Sadly, for us, they don't see it soon enough to save it. I wish you all the best and I pray that the right person will come into your life and see everything you are and have to offer. As hard as it is, one thing Derrick said is so very true, we can't force it to work out, we can't force them to see what they refuse to see, I know, I've tried,.and it ended up just hurting me more in the end. Keep taking care of yourself, learn from mistakes, hold your head up high and wait for that one special person to walk into your life and treat you the way you deserve to be treated and is able to love you the way you deserve to be loved!!
@@joleencox5900 thank you so much for these kind words. 🤍 Absolutely right back at you!
My thought process exactly. I’ve been telling myself in the mirror that there is so much to love about me and the right person will be able to see that (clearly he isn’t that person).
@@xoashley8402 it's heartbreaking. I'm sorry 💔
Real love don’t listen👏👏👏👏👏that’s right👌
I had to realize that it was hard to let him go because I really didn't want to let him go! I really wanted him to be in my life. I have to figure out if the problem that I'm having is actually ME. Am I coming from a place inside of me that makes me someone that is hard to deal with. Am I creating a problem where there is none? Have I been alone for so long that 'Alone' is what I'm comfortable with? I'll figure that out...
Same
Sometimes God removes somebody from your life because not everybody that comes into your life is meant to stay. Some are only there for a season. Know your worth and value. If God removes them let them go because God sees things we do not and He has a plan for your life. Rejection is Gods protection so do not question nor fight the process. LET HIM GO.
wish it was as easy as that even though you are so correct.
No, I wish God never introduced me to them in the first place. I would have been better off.
This was a word from the good Lord. The deeper the love the deeper the grief. I will dig and find out why and what I can’t accept. I grew and he stayed stagnant refused to grow with me. Then walked away and abandoned me. I truly truly love him. I know I need to let go and through therapy I have learned this is a process and because I truly loved him and was devoted faithfully for 10 years time, God, acceptance, and distance will slowly heal my deep wounds. Thank you this was good spot on what I was praying for!
Praying you find healing. When you love someone it's hard to let go the pain is heavy 💕
It's the rejection for me. I understand that I have separation issues. I going to work on that. I'm holding on to something that is very much passive aggressive.
Because you dont think you deserve or can get someone who treats you with love and respect
A lot won't let go because they truly want that person & they know it'll hurt to see them with someone else (they're invested & don't want someone else reeking any so called benefit they see to having that person, even tho they're no good for them). That's whr the self love comes into play because that's not loving yourself right (& they know it because they're loving their self more than they love YOU). No you can't turn the REAL love for them off, internally, but you have to be strong enough to physically save YOURself. The longer you stay the less respect they'll have for you anyway. Let them go & show them they didn't break you (& do not go to them when temptation/loneliness arises...fill that space with something that brings VALUE to your life). 🙏🏾
This is on time cause I know I'm better than this.💞
I left his butt. 30 1/2 years. Dealing with the flashback's of some of the crap he did n said( hurtful crap!!). N dealing with forgiving myself for allowing myself to be played, I can see him sooo clear now, damn it😝😜. I'm using my tool's. Nit looking for a relationship, well I am, with myself. N the help of you, I got this. Ur a old soul youngman. Peace n Blessing's🙏🎊💝🌸🌼🌈🙏
I needed this. I’m kinda struggling. I have good days n bad ones as well. But the work has to come within. If I’m not 100 I can’t give u anything. Idk but this sucks🙁
Hey you, I hope things are getting better for you and that today is easier than yesterday. I can relate to your post. I have good days and not so good days. He is right, real love don't listen. I am seriously struggling as well. Just finished crying to be honest. I pray these feelings pass for us both.
Wow, dang..... sure gave me alot to think about.. that moment when you know you just heard some truth that you didnt really wanna accept..... Love doesn't listen, and it doesn't just turn off.... pure truth!
Excellent job Derrick. Finally, someone is telling the real truth.👏🏽👏🏽💕❤️✌️
& this be the only truth that we learned that will now set us free! Thank you Derrick.
It was never about loving myself. It was about a REAL investment
I really needed to listen to this.... I keep trying to forget about this person, but Im stopping myselft from dealing with those emotions...
Thanks
Yes, you have to heal first💯
Hi. Honestly it has not been a struggle. I was with him for 20 years the last seven of those 20 I let him go emotionally. I only miss the laughter not the pain. I am better without him.
Amen 🙏 truth
Very well said
Wow, you are clearly a very strong woman. 20 years? I can't even imagine. You being able to say what you did and feel the way you do is a inspiration to all of us! Thank you!!
@@joleencox5900 exactly perfectly written
@@joleencox5900 too much pain was involved for me to keep living a half life. He never appreciated me and always played the victim. I could go on and on but I will NOT give him no more of MY precious energy. ☺️💙
I don't do misery. I detach quick
I remember when this channel got a lot of crap but I still watch it and it's really helpful. This is where I'm at right now I was in a two-year relationship and we moved in together and try to come by and families it didn't work. So we moved out and try to stay in a relationship and it's still not working but we can't seem to let each other go even though we both want to.
I like that too..."real love don't listen..."
It's hardheaded.
Wow wow wowww. This exactly how i feel. Makes so much sense! This truly helped me. Thank you!!
It took a break from him, then back and nothing changed in him
God bless you and your family Bro🙏🏼
You can't change anyone,they have to want to accept they need to change and do so.If they can't then set them free.....
Thank you so much for making this video.
Yes thanks for sharing I needed to hear this
Well said.
Derrick you are so wise! I wanted to hug you that you understood and validated my experience. Thank you.
Very well spoken truth!
I love the part when u said it's not about the bubble bath it's ur love was real
That's great food 4 me to let go the path journey and not to be bitter toward the person best revenge is happiness
Wow, so on point!!!
Thank you for new point of real truth
Nailed it …. I really needed to hear this
Oh D, every time my Brutha , it's the confirmation fa me 🎯💯
I needed this wisdom…🙏🏽♥️
He was a wonderful person and he just dropped me
Skipping to affirmation before processing acceptance is dangerous to your meaningful transformation process. Creating new experiences after not accepting the experience you just had is called rebounding. We all know about it. Waste of your time and deepens the wound in obscurity, so it festers from a deep place which will take longer to heal because it’s still open and festering.
Thank you.
Facts👍🏽
Perfect timing
I needed to really hear this
So True!
Derrick we appreciate you coming back and speaking from experience
Thanks for the facts
I love you so much Derrick ❤️❤️
Yeah, Chiron in Taurus!!♉️♉️🐂 They truly accept and own their pain.
Thank you 💖🙏
What a beautiful way to look at love 😇
I love you guys so much ❤️❤️
Such a true statement Derrick about love and letting go.
Thank you
It’s a energetic connection
I think 🤔 it's a soul tie especially if they slept with them.
I agree 100% I had his baby too.
Soul ties are do real cuz it felt so ......good
Had to watch this again to drill it into my head
😊❤ Thanks 👍🙏
God Bless you, I so needed to hear that Derick. You have no idea just how much!!!
AWESOME!!!
I totally 💯 agree
Spot on
DJ! Greetings!
Its been two years today nd here i m crying at 3pm.. this helplessness this pain..i hope someday I'll not feel same about this situation nd him
Real love don't listen 💯
its actually harder for him to let me go and him cryin for me to stay every time he "mess up" and i just feel bad for makin him feel that way only to continue to accept his "mistakes"
Exactly!!!!!
Thank you, I needed this!! I appreciate you!!
FACTS❤
Wow. This made me think about some things today. I haven’t been with this ex since the early 2000s. What am I not accepting? I’m struggling with that part but would really like the clarity. I wanna put this to bed.
replace lost love with acceptance YES
Amen!
Reason #2 here 🙋😔😭
With somebody that does drugs okay that's why I'm saying now you get me
It wasn't me that was the problem.
*Message 👉🏽 **1:04* 🎤 ❤
Amen
I love listening 2 u...ty
Lord knows 🙏 😫
❤️
O emmmmm geeeee !!!!
I am so over him. 5 years ✅ done. What I can’t get over is you youngman😚😌🥰😍😘😝😗😋! I am waiting for the experience and experiences with you.🥳. I am brand new all over 😉. Real Love 💗 @ Mary J. Blige kinda love ❤️😁✨.
❤️❤️
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SO you R Back?
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Soooooo true!! C’mon Derrick. Speak. Drop these jewels!!
You guys break up?
What about if he is the father of your child ?
Let him go too
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They're WEAK THATS WHY THEY CAN'T LET GO
Thank you