“If following your heart leads you away from your peace, it’s time for you to TAKE your heart, and follow your peace AWAY from the person who is making you choose between the two.” This is SO hard but was what I needed to hear.
"Threshold for Grace" gives a term for what I've observed in someone I know who is suffering. They do not like who they have to be to protect their heart with the significant other. Harshness has developed where it previously had no place. "Not who I want to be". Thanks, , Derek.
I 100% agree with you on your views on casual dating. Hence why I don’t date at all and I’ve been single since end of 2013. I’m not in a hurry. I’d rather it be right than rushed.
I understand now you don't have to try and break his pride so I just keep it 💯 I need my energy matched I'm not excepting anything less my energy is sacred like my love I'm not just giving anything to anyone who is not doing the work period it's hard and I understand universe law and my spirit team is not playing about me .
I have left two twenty year or more relationships. I still love both of them very much. I left because my peace was more important to me than staying with them.
The internet is the pardox of choice. Transactional and expendable. There are many wounded and screwed up men on the internet that are looking for casual relationships. Best to meet people organically and hardball on the first meeting. Casual is mediocrity. For disposable people.
Its IMP to know that if you experience one of these four discussed is enough its time to GO. You don't be necessarily need all four. If your needs aren't ubeing bet met, and you've discussed and been dismissed, that's a big sgn. 3 strikes and you're out is a good boundary to enforce.
Hey Derrick I appreciate all that you do so I'm going to throw this out Here while it's on my mind you talk about evolve men have you every thought about getting your own evolved dating site your smart and has lots of wisdom u feel it would be a success then again these are just my thoughts again I really appreciate all that you do
It must have taken me long to end the relationship but we were not building each other but mostly hurting each other by being together. I had to call it quits as this was emotionally draining me. I love the statements he really nailed it
I completely agree with everything you’re saying but what do I do if he says he wants to work things out but he doesn’t put any effort in. Everytime he gets mad at me he starts talking down to me ,insults me,puts me down and believes I made him do it by insulting him first. Which is not true. He considers me insulting him by not calling him when he want me to or not texting him back when he wants me to or by me walking away from him being disrespectful he considers that being me insulting first.
Detrick, always on point. Be discerning focused on compatibility. Date like a Power Ranger. You've got to be your own detective.. Don't collect red flags or dealbreakers. Love needs logic. 2:pdfs The Gift of Fear by Gavin De Becker.and Why Does He DoThis? by Lundy Bancroft The book Non Violent Communication is for conflict resolution skills. Many people are in the wrong relationships.
Every time I ask my partner for time and he has children that are young for them to go to bed so we can spend time together it’s always an argument we can’t be alone without someone attorney does when I ask I have to ask for six he turns me down is it time to leave
I let him go were ok but suddenly his ignoring me that I’m not exist he does like a pattern I asked him he ignoring me till now is the worst feeling 😢😢 I a
"Hey @unkolawdio, I'm really sorry to hear that you're going through a tough time right now. Remember, it's okay to feel the way you're feeling and it's important to take care of yourself during times of struggle. Just know that you're not alone and there are people who care about you. If you ever need someone to talk to or guidance on navigating relationships, don't hesitate to reach out. Also, I have a new master class that might be helpful for you - you can check it out in the description below. Take care, my friend."
When it’s starts depleting your energy it’s time to go!!!
Yes! ❤️👏
“If following your heart leads you away from your peace, it’s time for you to TAKE your heart, and follow your peace AWAY from the person who is making you choose between the two.”
This is SO hard but was what I needed to hear.
Thank u for those words
Beautifully said❤
Derrick, your language is ,spot on...Thank you.
I needed this 7 yrs ago... heck I needed it when I started dating! Great info, thanks Jaxn!
"Threshold for Grace" gives a term for what I've observed in someone I know who is suffering.
They do not like who they have to be to protect their heart with the significant other.
Harshness has developed where it previously had no place.
"Not who I want to be".
Thanks, , Derek.
I 100% agree with you on your views on casual dating. Hence why I don’t date at all and I’ve been single since end of 2013. I’m not in a hurry. I’d rather it be right than rushed.
💯
What's the point of casual?!
Complete waste of time & energy, safety risk, etc!
Lady you don't have a lifetime, so guys u want going to start looking at younger women
Thank you for all the validation. You do my heart so much good. ❤
I understand now you don't have to try and break his pride so I just keep it 💯 I need my energy matched I'm not excepting anything less my energy is sacred like my love I'm not just giving anything to anyone who is not doing the work period it's hard and I understand universe law and my spirit team is not playing about me .
I have left two twenty year or more relationships.
I still love both of them very much. I left because my peace was more important to me than staying with them.
The internet is the pardox of choice. Transactional and expendable. There are many wounded and screwed up men on the internet that are looking for casual relationships.
Best to meet people organically and hardball on the first meeting. Casual is mediocrity. For disposable people.
I guess its time to go if they get really upset and can't talk .thank you for the message. Stay blessed and your family .
This really hit home. Thank you brother
Dang you nailed it. Courting is soooo different. Focus Focus Focus!
“Threshold for grace” I hear you👍🏾
I'm greatful for this channel. I have learned so much from it. I just wish I had access to this 10 yrs ago
My whole point. He has built us tremendously. He's a brother.
I could of used this 20 years ago. Glad to have it nonetheless.
You’re speaking to me, Derrick 😢God bless you ❤
Thank you king I appreciate you and everything you teach us.
I wish I hadn't stayed 'till my dark side came out 😢 wish I'd left much much sooner. Hard lesson learnt
I don't want to compete i just want to leave
Im going to send this to my friend she going through it
Thank you for giving us this valuable information
That's Right...Let's TALK....
We ALL Grown..Say It Bro.❤
“Their feelings inspired their manahgomy not their principles or commitment. What happens when the relationship hits hard times…thank you Derrick.
Grand rising beautiful reflection hope everyone is doing amazing ❤️
You Are So Wise ~
Lord help this evil
Its IMP to know that if you experience one of these four discussed is enough its time to GO. You don't be necessarily need all four. If your needs aren't ubeing bet met, and you've discussed and been dismissed, that's a big sgn. 3 strikes and you're out is a good boundary to enforce.
Thank you very much, Derrick! I needed to hear this.
I am facing this exact predicament right now. My 30 year relationship is at this exact crossroad 🥺
Thank you so much!!
Maybe just the fact we are watching this video is the main sign it is time to leave 🥺
Yup I agree 😢
I needed this one, Derrick. Thanks.
Hey Derrick I appreciate all that you do so I'm going to throw this out Here while it's on my mind you talk about evolve men have you every thought about getting your own evolved dating site your smart and has lots of wisdom u feel it would be a success then again these are just my thoughts again I really appreciate all that you do
No you are a hater she had a valid point!!
You’re amazing. Bless you. 🙏🏻
It must have taken me long to end the relationship but we were not building each other but mostly hurting each other by being together. I had to call it quits as this was emotionally draining me. I love the statements he really nailed it
Ok this is gold. Thank you.
Your unbelievable
Yeah I’m disgusted he still has a following.
@@user-bv4sg1ui3nwhat did he do?
Thank you
I should have left him a long time ago. He destroyed my mental health a long time ago.
Great Truth
You are talking to the right one!
That part! Facts! Thank you! 🤩💪🏽🙏🏽💯💗
I completely agree with everything you’re saying but what do I do if he says he wants to work things out but he doesn’t put any effort in. Everytime he gets mad at me he starts talking down to me ,insults me,puts me down and believes I made him do it by insulting him first. Which is not true. He considers me insulting him by not calling him when he want me to or not texting him back when he wants me to or by me walking away from him being disrespectful he considers that being me insulting first.
Detrick, always on point. Be discerning focused on compatibility. Date like a Power Ranger. You've got to be your own detective.. Don't collect red flags or dealbreakers. Love needs logic.
2:pdfs The Gift of Fear by Gavin De Becker.and Why Does He DoThis? by Lundy Bancroft
The book Non Violent Communication is for conflict resolution skills.
Many people are in the wrong relationships.
Absolutely
Loved this video
Really your telling people about relationships.
Experienced people are the best advisers💪🏻🕊🙏🏻
@@melluques8475for real
Well yes he is
Great job
I'm praying to figure out how to go
SMH
Thank you❤
i m not force anything
Thank you ❤
Thank God we have Derrick as humans. His target audience tends to be women, but really, it's both genders. If you're not growing, you're slowing.
Facts 💯
What do I do with the statement, I I don’t agree”, and I don’t like to argue” and ….”in a relationship, there “should be no conflicts”
Yeah. Mine has taken away my peace. Been nothing but a wreck for 15 years. Good times but too much water under the bridge
Thank yu ❤
Every time I ask my partner for time and he has children that are young for them to go to bed so we can spend time together it’s always an argument we can’t be alone without someone attorney does when I ask I have to ask for six he turns me down is it time to leave
Amen
Exactly. I didn't want his sex or nothing! I can't even stand to hear his voice.
Thank s elot
I have to guard my peace
Derrick you are one high value gentleman with high moral values. I commend and admire you. God Bless you.
High moral value ???
🤦🏾♂️
@@brandenrobinson4881
SMDH
Leave before ypu get high blood pressure
No repair
Monogamy ….🧐 …..I have serious doubts about this specially in America . Men are not truly monogamous after they getting married …..
Do you do individual sessions through the phone? I will pay. !!!!!!!!!
I need to know als
Me to king
I'm so tried of being used
I let him go were ok but suddenly his ignoring me that I’m not exist he does like a pattern I asked him he ignoring me till now is the worst feeling 😢😢 I a
This is the answear.
💯💯💯
I hear you 💙
🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹
Now
"Hey @unkolawdio, I'm really sorry to hear that you're going through a tough time right now. Remember, it's okay to feel the way you're feeling and it's important to take care of yourself during times of struggle. Just know that you're not alone and there are people who care about you. If you ever need someone to talk to or guidance on navigating relationships, don't hesitate to reach out. Also, I have a new master class that might be helpful for you - you can check it out in the description below. Take care, my friend."
Pot meet kettle🤔🤷🏽♀️
Me 👋
👌💕👌
🙌🏼🤔💪🏽🫡
Talking to me 😢
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Learned the hard way huh Derick?
Stop lying . you should implemnet what you are preaching first😏
Just because he doesn't implement it doesn't mean he's lying
@@gcwalisile932right!!!!!!
The only people who watch you are single mother's
The only people that watch him are desperate women.
Nah it’s gotta be those feminine men..
How you doin’ 😩
You must be one of them
What's wrong with being a single mother? Should I kill my children because my relationship ended?