@@unstoppablegirl8girl dont regret it you cant do anything about it anymore its done thats it, youre just hurting yourself by regretting, youre going to live with it and it wont matter that much in months, present is painful
the “get a life” part really gave me a reality check. it’s such a simple piece of advice but it is so true, sometimes when we get attached we open up so much space in our day to day lives to constantly talk to them. and then when they arent constantly talking like before, youre left with all this space you made in your day to day routine. never let someone change the original life/routine you had before you met them!!
This is true. I used to be obssesed with one person that im not even close with anymore and now that i started working on myself i dont think about them at all
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i dont think its coming from her, its look very scripted ! she look like she just want attention because these people are fake and do everything for catching attention and stoling normal people idea and make like its their idea ! look her she is full of surgery she look so insecure about her look and she dosnt look confident and confortable ! she just repeat word who she hear on someone in irl
the 'stop creating fantasies' part had me reflecting all of my relations and friendships. the way I had created fantasies about everyone and when they didn't meet the expectations, I got hurt and it was difficult to see that it was me who gave them that false image and not them who hurt me
She ate when she said “get a life”…like SO TRUE QUEEN!!! Cause when you’re focused on you and your growth, you genuinely dont have time to be stressing over what someone else is not giving you because you’re giving yourself the world🫶🏼
Liz kick started my self improvement journey. I’ll never be able to explain how much I respect you in words. I’ve changed my mindset because of you. Let’s go and get that knowledge and level up girls!
Is it only me who feel like writing every single thing she said in the notebook because every thing she said is so valuable and shouldn't be forgotten in the whole life?!
No not just you because this is so valuable and something that we need to drill into our heads . When we love someone we just let thel walk all over selves we don't even think or value ourselves and when we get too attached we end up getting sick or be drained
"you are put in This world to test again and again not to be blessed because this world is gona end one day and the world afterwords it gona last forever so be aware of what u do here cuz you gona answer each and everything there and that life is gona last forever forever where no death no fear in short heaven or hell .
I have a really bad habit of romanticizing everything and everyone. Then get disappointed when they do not meet my standards. This is something that I just realized. This year, I plan on operating from an abundant mindset and stop selling myself so short! I always shortchange myself for others and always get the bad end of the deal. This year will be a whole 180! Thanks Liz!
Same for me. I don't agree with Liz saying that people who get attached easily have no life, it's not that easy to explain. I do have a life, I constantly meet up with friends, go to events, restaurants, try out something new and I do have things I'm passionate about. I can be on my own and never get bored because I always find stuff to do. But I just tend to romanticize a lot. Especially because I've never been in a relationship, I just get excited when I like someone, wonder if they like me back, daydream about them and then get disappointed when they're not reciprocating my feelings the same way. I need to learn to not depend my emotional state so much on how that person is feeling about me.
Felt this I dilute myself into thinking that one day they will change and I romanticize them to the point where I actually think it is them so when I find out that they aren’t going to change and that the person inside of my head isnt them I get disappointed and upset, but I’m already attached so it’s hard to detach from the person that created in my mind. Because I want it to be them .
I finally understood. I became sick because I was way too attached to a fantasy I created in my head about who he should have been, what we should have become. It made me truly ill, physically, mentally, emotionally. And I can finally let go. I can go no contact. I can heal. This video was a happy slap on my face to know that I am not special, many people go through this, and I can change my situation.
@@samanwaya6388I went through that as well , ik how hard it actually is . I really do wish you the best , if i can advice u : do every single thing that you know you have to do for your own good , no matter how hard it looks /is. At the end you will always have to think and act for yourself cause your own happiness is your duty . Here's a quote that i really do appreciate ( hope it can help you even if you don't believe in God ... ) : " When a thing disturbs the peace of your heart , give it up " - the prophet ( ص ) . Hope my comment can help u in any kind of way :) .
@@profile1936 i’m so sorry for your loss Gunter.. life is not fair sometimes.. It’s okay to be angry.. and I hope you can find some peace with what you’re dealing with & see brighter days ahead 🙏🏼
@@profile1936 i'm a complete and total stranger but i hope the lessons you learned from your friendship and the experiences you had leave a positive impact on you and help you become a better person. i'm not just gonna lie and say i pity you or i'm so sorry for you, because pity never helped anyone, but i'm praying you find a healthy way to not only cope with your grief but to live your life to the fullest and most fulfilling it can be :). (i hope i don't sound insensitive, if i do just ignore this x_x)
It's insane how much anxiety she takes away and how good I feel everytime after I watched a video of hers, she just speaks such blunt facts so accurate and so much on point it's insane
Literally. This is the first video I watched of hers because of a Situation I’m currently in. The amount of anxiety and stress and sadness she just lifted feels like taking a bag of weights off. I’m really great full I found this video
It's crazy how is she talking about the exact things i needed to hear. I was creating those fantasies about this one guy in my head during 9 MONTHS, crying non stop because he never made any steps, and then i realized that my desperarion was my biggest mistake. You can not allow yourself to wait for some random guy to text you or talk to you for days and not be able to focus on anything else. I was always blaming myself that i'm not doing enough, i could be more funny or talk more or do more things to get his attention: excuse me WHAT? If anything was supposed to happen between us, it would FOR SURE, i would not have to rip myself into parts so that something happens. Now, i've completely realised that and i don't let myself to even think abt all of that, i just focus on myself and my life, on friends and family. So, just be 10000% sure, if something is meant to happen in your life, it will happen REGARDLESS, nothing can take something that was meant for you. Be ready and open to get all the blessings that are on your way and be grateful. Sending so much love to everybody❤
when u really get into these two mindsets "it is what it is" & "there is always someone or something better for me when it comes about ending things",your life really gets better. Edited: I didnt know that this has so many likes and some people are telling me that this is narcissistic but the truth is u have to work thru some things with ur someone but when they do hurt u intentionally you dont have to hold onto them anymore.I am not narcissistic I just got broken up by someone and im hurt rn as i should be but you have to let go of things which are not meant to be with you & there really are good people that u havent even met on this earth 🤍
@@rando7290like, life goes on regardless! Anything can happen, anything can make you happy when it comes to things ending. Detaching yourself, will help you believe that and it will do good for you! Never depend on someone for your own happiness
To anybody who's reading this, I pray that whatever is hurting you or whatever you are constantly stressing about gets better. May the dark thoughts, the overthinking, and the doubt , exit your mind. May clarity replace confusion. May peace and calmness fill your life ❤
"If God was done with you, you would not be alive." The power that this one line holds. I promise to work on myself from this very moment and not cry for worthless people anymore. I am going to be a better, happier and healed version of myself.
I wouldn't say that I am happy as much as I want to be but I definitely feel better than what I used to be like and am still a work in progress but also proud of myself for not giving up.@@ayamekkaoui2779 😇
Timestamps 👀: 1:32 - Realise you are operating from your ego 5:55 - Everyone in your life has a purpose 8:58 - Stop creating fantasies 9:33 - Have an "It is what it is." mindset 10:57 - Get a life 12:23 - Realise that you're operating from a lack mindset 14:07 - What is FOMO? 16:04 - You will never arrive to happiness 17:54 - Realise you will never leave you
@honey-lk4lj I remember I was in a Hospital, one doctor( that doctor was woman) told me to come to the restraining room where she and 8 male doctors will pummel me if I didn't come to the restraining room. She was a narcissistic doctor that just doesn't respect me nor my rights. And when they locked me in the restraining room, all the doctors told me that I was a jack@$$( They got triggered just because I was thinking different than them
as an overly emotional person and as a person who literally loves people unconditionally this was so important because I am completely sick and tired of people constantly taking advantage of my loyalty and love, thank you liz you literally are an angel edit: WHEN DID THIS GET SO MANY LIKES LMAOO but anyways to all the beautiful angels and amazing human beings who related to this, I just want to say that I'm so proud of you I'm so happy you came this far and did not decide to give up, and it shows that you are trying to do smth better for yourself (as you're watching the queen liz), so don't give up beautiful you got this and all of you strong and amazing individuals have my prayers
I'm watching this for probably the 250th time since getting my heartbroken in April 2024. Healing is not linear so yes I keep falling off. But I've been going gym and reading, watching my diet and just trying to improve myself. I won't chase again or forget myself for someone else. Yes its lonely but I'm learning to make something of it and working towards not needing anyone else.
Everyone here who's on your healing journey, remember what Liz said about fantasies. It applies to your healing as well. Do not fall into the trap of believing that you must heal by this certain time or in this certain way, so that you can do all the things you're "meant" to do and "be happy." If you're struggling right now, give yourself some love. Sit with yourself and ask yourself, "what's wrong?" You will get through this, and you are oh so beautiful.
Everything that comes out of Liz's mouth is pure gold. These are the things we all need to hear but we don't want to hear because its painful or because its too difficult to act on it. We are all meant for so much more. Radiate positivity, be kind, your turn is coming. We are all deserving.
"When you're not controlled by your ego, then you attract everything. You would not get attached to someone or something because you know you have abundance in your life." Thank you so much. I needed to hear it.
Excellent video. My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let him go i did all i could to get him back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring him back.
@@bartholetbayana9198no you missed the message of this video.. you need to detach yourself from that person like she said there's a reason it didn't epek out you were supposed to learn something from that relationship
Attachment usually occurs due to a limited mindset of a "limited" ambition or "limited" options. Have hobbies, goals, plan a daily routine for yourself, keep yourself busy, shower, workout, eat healthy, affirm, walk your daily steps, soak the sun for 10 minutes daily. And most importantly, KNOW YOUR WORTH. Like Liz said, anyone in your life is there to TEACH you. It's done by them either staying or by leaving so know that they can go and there are a ton of other people :)
@@chillpill2098 sure! We all serve a purpose in each other's lives. Think logically : love is just a hormone. A certain chemical which we crave, oxytocin. No one owes anything to anyone.
Exactly! You have not seen the world yet and are unaware of all the goodness waiting for you in abundance ! Don't despair. Everything happens for a reason and everyone enters your life to teach you. Have ambitions for yourself. Have daily must-do's like getting 10 min sun, walking 5000 steps, eating fruits once and showering. Other than that, invest in yourself. Expand your horizons. Learn a new word or language. Try reading or writing. Maybe dance on your fav song. Call a family member or friend to catch up with. Draw and paint like you did when you were a child. YOU DON'T HAVE TO BE PERFECT. Stop looking at the details. We are literally living on a petite planet earth. There is no such thing as "time" or past in the higher dimensions. What is time anyway ? When the earth rotates and revolves you call it seasons and time lol. Stop stressing over the small stuff. Come on, live a little. Cook yourself a nice healthy meal and watch a funny movie. Do a DIY facial, take 5 extra mins in the shower, moisturize your body and sleep like a God/goddess. YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL AND I AM SO PROUD OF YOU ❤
"The love that you are searching for outside is already within you" ... that's such a powerful thought, we need to remind ourselves that every single day.
I have noticed a toxic pattern I had, always getting attached to people I talked to or dated. I felt so anxious everytime they did not respond and I felt like I was literally dying when I knew they are going to end it with me. I gave a boy a second chance cause he apologized for his mistake and treated me so much better than before but guess what, he ended up hurting me again the same way like the first time. I got super attached to him since I had this boy back and now when I lost him the second time it felt like my world was ending. I cried nonstop and even told my parents about it. I don’t have any close friends that‘s why I felt super alone and I was wondering whether I can make it alive or not. Guys this is completely ridiculous, we all know it, but in that time, as a anxious attached person, it really does feel like that. I listened to several videos about it but always end up here. It feels amazing hearing your words Liz. I love that you humble me so much and thanks to you I feel so much better. I am aware of my feelings and that it has nothing to do with that one person who made me feel like that. At the end it is always you against you. Never stop respecting yourself, loving yourself, taking care of your body and mind. Everyone deserves a second chance in life but not in my life. That was my lesson. And I will make sure to become the highest version of myself and everything will start to work in my favor. The biggest revenge is no revenge. Have a good day and thank you for reading
You are very pretty.i Just saw your channel ❤.. don't worry everything will be fine ❤. You deserve all the happiness of the world ❤.I wish your life will be as pretty as your face 💕
I feel the same way and I just got hurted by a guy I so much invested to...and I am glad I found someone finally who is relatable to what I feel or what I do 😭 ( coz 10 min ago I was crying so much)
@@harshitasingh8944 it is okay to feel sad for a while but I can assure you it gets better with time!! Something that really helped me was a little note I wrote for myself to read when I got upset. After a week you‘ll start to feel a little better. There will still be days where you might get a little upset again but time heals every wound trust me!! Do something you loved doing before you met that guy.. a book you loved .. read it again.. draw something.. and exercise!! get back into ur routine and you will see it works!! ❤️
@@harshitasingh8944 I‘m so sorry honey :( 🩷 but I can really assure you that this phase will end some day. It‘s been 3 weeks since my ex broke up with me and I cried nonstop for 2 weeks and did not do anything since I constantly felt bad. I had this victim mindset. Asked myself questions like “How could someone do this to me? Where did everything go wrong? Why was I so stupid and naive?“.. and it really hurts going through this phase of constant sadness and regret. Now this 3rd week has been different. I am regularly going out, studying and changing my mindset. If it was true love would it hurt so much? Ask yourself this question. I‘m sure that you‘re a really sweet girl and you should know that it is his loss. Like literally who is this guy even? who is he to hurt you? It‘s his loss. Something is wrong with him for upsetting you like this. Start thinking that way and slowly the sadness will fade trust me. And after a few week you will start to feel the way you felt before you met that boy!!! I have experienced this so many times and I can‘t wait for feeling nothing at all anymore for a person who does not respect my feelings. ❤️
1:32 - Realise you are operating from your ego 5:55 - Everyone in your life has a purpose 8:58 - Stop creating fantasies 9:33 - Have an "It is what it is." mindset 10:57 - Get a life 12:23 - Realise that you're operating from a lack of mindset 14:07 - What is FOMO? 16:04 - You will never arrive at happiness 17:54 - Realise you will never leave you
This vid hits home for me. As someone who struggles with maintaining friendships, I realized a lot of the problems I had with them was because I was creating these unrealistic expectations in my head, and like Liz says it ends up never almost playing out how you want them to because its all just a fantasy.
Omg 😮you just put my thoughts in writing 😢I also struggle with it .Hope we find our dream freindship with ourselves and love ourselves first then other people ❤❤Good luck ❤
She has literally helped me get over a highly toxic, one-sided friendship which I was NEVER able to get out of. I tried so much for 2 years but couldn't get out of the trap and toxicity. She told me what I needed to hear. This. My best friend who recommended this channel to me really meant it when she said "it will change your life" and "she will heal you".
Funny how when you get rid of 1 toxic person, many more are revealed. It started with a best friend since childhood, then it was my dad, an aunt, and now the older brother. I'm just letting them all out.
It wasn't toxic for me but in our friendship we weren't the same, she always had the higher priority in our friendship and then she started treating me like shit and I had to get over it because she apologized and then we had to break apart and a couple of weeks after that she came to my college and had an argument with me infront of my classmates and I felt so vunerable. I depended on her at my lows and so I thought it was okay to have be on the giving end of the friendship. It hurts but it is for the best, really happy that it helped you. hope I look back at this and it doesn't hurt me anymore.
Liz we need a video called "social media" I feel like that's such an integral part of society today... You're the perfect person to simplify this in the best possible way and you're good with words I'm sure you can come up with relatable content on it... 🥰
I'm re-watching this video for the third time I guess and I just realised that how blessed I am that I can come and listen to her whenever I feel low in life or need some advice. I can't thank her enough for the way she's helping me and so many others through these videos.
I was so attached and clinged onto a man i knew for a few years. He absolutely drianed me. Disrespected me in every way, played with my head, drained my energy, broke my heart many times. However I was still so caught up with him. When I found your videos I realized and learned to let go of him and focus on me instead of him. My whole life and understanding of myself was based around him. It took me awhile and I am still learning more to be my own girl. Your videos have helped me so much in that realm and other realms of my life as well.
@@Ihavemadeit999 you go girls yes....being heterosexual and straight men and attracted towards women is a curse now for men.....Men do not want to date or marry women anymore because women would be the problem but play the victim card and blame men....It has a talent of women now....Men are slowing becoming mgtow as women bring sadness and suffering in men lives and there is no point in dating women......
Liz could you please make a video on how to set boundaries with people? I struggle with this so much as a people-pleaser because I always think that if I set clear boundaries, I will hurt the other person's feelings, so I end up prioritizing their comfort over mine. Thanks and ily!
You need to understand that telling those people your BOUNDARIES will not going to hurt them because you are telling them about your comfort zone and What triggers you or what not and if they really care about you they'll understand your BOUNDARIES and they'll not getting hurt by showing some Respect to your BOUNDARIES. At the end of they day You are showing respect to their comfort zone over yours. That's why YOU ARE ONLY HURTING YOUR OWN FEELINGS OVER THEM. THINK ABOUT IT☺️ ( STOP THINKING THAT YOU'LL GONNA HURT THEIR FEELINGS YOU ARE LITERALLY HURTING YOUR OWN FEELINGS HAVE MERCY ON YOURSELF.) (WHATEVER YOU ARE THINKING RELATING TO HURT SOMEONE FEELINGS OVER YOUR COMFORT ZONE IS JUST IN YOUR HEAD *THIS IS NOT HAPPENING*
This video really opened my eyes. Trying to detach yourself from a situation is not easy but the longer you hold onto whoever is hurting you it will start to control you. Personally, I’m glad for the people in my life good or bad because they brought to my attention what I really need to focus on in my life. I will detach from anybody, I will stop creating ideas in my head of people, I will focus on my life and goals, and most importantly I will love and put myself first before anybody. ❤️
"I am complete , I dont need anyone else to complete me. I can make myself happy, whatever he is doing is just extra" I really needed to hear this, thank you babe.
Liz, today I relapsed into depression. After watching this video, you INSTANTLY snapped me out of it. I just worked out, took an ice bath and now I am going to meditate I FEEL GREAT. You saved my life Liz, thank you.
16:36 “The happiness that you are searching for outside is already within you. The love that you are searching for outside is already within you.” WOW. Just the way she verbalized all of this clicked for me. Love you Liz ❤
Trust me, Liz, I’ve been abiding by these rules of detachment for the past 3 years and my life’s been drama free and stress free ever since. No one or situation controls me and nothing scares me anymore. I feel more independent and confident now 🖤
@@DearDaryana Ig when you’ve been hurt by multiple ppl in different situations, you toughen up and understand exactly why you should be self reliant when it comes to company and distant yourself from ppl. Talking to humans sometimes is nice but I’ve always been the type of person who loves being alone and these days, I rarely interact with ppl. The more I tried connecting with others, the more I realized I feel more comfortable and at peace when I’m alone. Not like I’m completely antisocial but I do love enjoying myself alone and ppl these days just tire me out. They come and go, nobody really stays but I’ll always have myself so that’s why i just don’t seek other ppl at all these days and I’ve been better than ever with myself. Plus, makes shit so much easier for an introvert like me 🖤
This is absolutely INSANE, I have been consistently telling God and trying to detach. I have been really starting to learn about the Law of Detachment the past 2-3 weeks and Liz comes out w this video...she's intuitive, empathic like me, and knows what we need. Kudos to you sister, thank you so much for helping me in my healing journey!
After a break up, I have watched dozens of videos on how to get through this and this is the only video that literally made me snap out of it with CLARITY and confidence. You really opened my eyes to a whole new way of thinking. Thank you
I broke up with my ex last night and yes I am sad but also really relieved to not have the stress and baggage from the relationship anymore. I am so grateful that I saw this video today and that I realized that I did not need him to feel valuable and that I made the mistake of attaching myself to him. Because I’m now just realizing that he made me feel insecure and he made me believe that we were going to get married and have kids and that everything was going to be perfect but looking back now I’m embarrassed and now I’m just miserable because I believed his lies and love bombing and now I have to face that and heal from it. I will heal from this and so will all of you going through heartbreak rn.
''If God was done with you, you would not be alive. He is not done with you yet''. this is literally so good man. And that one '' Stop creating fantasies''. This line hit hard because i always create fantasies about people im attached to, and when they dont meet my expectations, i get sad. No one is as good as i create them in my head. THANK YOU SO MUCH LIZ FOR OPENING MY EYES AND HELPING ME WITH MY ATTACHMENT ISSUES
After a deep anxiety attack yesterday, I found this video. I’ve gotten so attached to this person, or this situation or this certain lifestyle that I was always triggered when it seemed that they would leave me, and when things would change. I felt like I had no life outside of that. This video really changed my thought process and revealed why I was so triggered. I’m in the process of “getting my life” and I can’t thank Liz enough.
I swear, this video fell from heaven. I have had this problem for years and yesterday a big thing happened in my life that made me realize that owe much more to myself than to other people. I have been feeling down and this videos feels like it was sent to me because the timing is just so divine I can't explain it otherwise. Her videos seem to come into someones life when they are meant to be. I love her so much
for months I've been struggling to detach from a person, and her words are exactly what I needed to hear. id never seen her before and she popped up on my recommendations, this video definitely feels like it fell from heaven to help us
Caring less of what others think and not needing validation from others is the key to detachment. Validation should come from within. When you break the habit of looking for it on the outside your perspective will change. This lady’s message is tip-top.
i am an empath and being empath is both a strength and weakness but i also figured out that detachment is the key to fell less pain or be less emotional or less affected. Being strong mentally and emotionally is very difficult thing to do for an empath because as much as possible we want to be gentle and soft and give it all out but we also know giving it all away wont make us get what we deserve…. We can do this 💪🏻
Empaths don't exist...it's not even a true medical term. It comes from Star Trek. You're just emotionally in tune. And can read body language. Therapists aren't even allowed to use the word because it's seen as super unprofessional
Damn, you hit the spot. I feel so low today because the person I care about was talking with random girls online despite us being in a "relationship", which triggered my trauma of not being good enough to any men I was romantically involved with - both IRL and online. Then it hit me, I was attached to the idea of what they are in my head. Thank you so much for helping me realize this, even though I randomly found your video here. Romanticizing people and situations has been my problem (because they make me feel "secure" in some way, but it's not when reality strikes). Your video is like a slap from the Universe/God to me lol and I'm thankful for that.
Going through this exact same situation rn I cannot believe. And I do the same thing as you too. I romanticize everyone and everything so much. Well anyways you've got this! Love will find you 💕
I had a crush for about 5 years and he was my first love. I always tried to get close to him and I even confessed my feelings to him but he just ignored me and never accepted them. After a while, I started to hate him because he did not like me at all. Just now I realized that all this time I've been creating false fantasies about him in my head where he was a good and kind person but he never was, to me. He never had such a personality after all. He always treated me like shit and just took advantage of me but I turned those shitty moments into my own fantasies where he was a good person. I dont hate him anymore because he was what he was and nothing can change that. Thank you Liz for maling me realize this!❤️
I'm a guy and I'm seeing mostly women in this comment section but I'd still say it, this woman is a real bro. She is so transparent about the problem I'm facing and I now know my solutions too. Real good work liz
Today I have learned 8 things. Detachment saves you from heartbreak and betrayal with yourself. It saves you from Fantasies and give happiness in your reality. Detachment is so important because you should have your own power instead of relying on someone to make you feel good about yourself. I need to stop generating from my ego and whatever my ego tells me is not true and I deserve everything best and I am blessed. I don't care what leaves I care what is the more great thing has entered in my life. I don't care about the lives that I see on social media because I am creater of my own happiness. I go my own hobbies that define me as me.everyone has their purpose and I learn everything everyday life is so beautiful and I am blessed alhamdillah.
Hi it is true we need to work on our traumas. But it is best to work with people who already gone through this. I am a certified relationship coach who is trying to bring best out of people and to set healthy goals for themselves. Would you like a small session with me free of cost?
This hits, I love my boyfriend and he loves me and we can easily get too in our comfort zones together. However, we both have our own hobbies and we get a lot of space from each other. It’s so important for us to really focus on self love and not just love for the other person!
Liz has the next level knowledge about how to be happy and peaceful alone. I'm also like that. I enjoy my company. I eat at restaurants alone, I go to watch movies alone, I go to the park alone, I go to the office at night when all the people work during the day. There's a special type of charm and peace in being alone and enjoying your company. If anyone talks with me or gives me something it's extra value if I get nothing I'm still happy. I'm complete, and I don't need anything from these people out there. Only God can reward you with things so keep in touch with God and enjoy your ride.
1. if it leaves, i’m comfortable by thinking something better will ( _always_ ) come. because if i give this thing the power of making me happy or unhappy, i’m so powerless. it’s just an extra, because i don’t need anything or anybody to make me complete ! 3. we’re constantly being guided in our life, everything is meant to make us _wiser_ in some aspects. -> not “why is this happening to me?”, no. but “what is that _teaching_ me” is the mindset. once you realize that. you will begin to see the values in all of this 4. stop creating fantasies. just live in the present moment. 5. it will never be good enough. NEVER! so start appreciating EVERYTHING 6. don’t pass all the time in your head. don’t be too focused on being focused. 7. don’t have FOMO. = fear of missing out. if you don’t know what you’re missing out, you’re not missing out at all. that comes from no-comparison mindset, firsty. 8. “if i have this thing, i will be happy” FALSE. this is an attachment mentality. completely false! you have already your happiness within yourself. realise: you will never leave you. instead you wont have this specific thing forever. so it doesn’t come from that to have happiness. fuck, everything, i have me!!’ go to therapist, meditate, heal those things 9. “if god would been done with you, you won’t even be alive anymore”. you don’t need anyone, any situation to say : “oh hey, i got this thing now i’m valuable”. no. it is just because you’re alive, you’re breathing . you have everything you need within you and the faster you realize, the happier you’ll be. because all the people attached too much to something or someone will never be happy. you have to be happy and comfortable and confident and proud with your true self in order to get your dreams. even if someone appears to be literally perfect, they will NEVER be anything without this mentality. so be fucking proud of who you are, who you are becoming and who you could be. being happy with ourselves unconditionally is ALWAYS A WIN.
Omg! I just agreed with her on every sentence. She’s so on point. Stop creating fantasies about the other person becz they were never that person and the person your attached to is not them,but the one that you imagined to be him. Your in love with that imaginary person… So move on and give yourself chances to find that imaginary person that your heart desires…
i had a very close friend who suddenly stopped talking to me. this video made me realise how attached i was to the idea i made of them rather than the reality of the situation. i know now that me being attached to them only gives them more power over me and my emotions. thank you liz ❤
I realized that this close friend I had is no longer a part of my life anymore because I would always base my worth on her and at school, I would feel down when she was absent I based my worth on the attention she gave me. So I know everything happens for a reason ❤
This is arguably the best video regarding mental health that I have ever seen in my whole life. I have been depressed for some time and started seeing a therapist because of failed relationship that happened a long time ago. Liz just woke me the fudge up and it helped me made sense of things. From the bottom of my heart, thank you for all you do Liz. You made me realized I am truly blessed.
As a psycholigist, I'd only say that the ego part is not named correctly but everything else is so clearly and truthfully put. I wonder whats her source of inspiration and knowledge but either way I'm so happy that there are people like her putting such helpfup content for others. We have created such a lonely world, and we need more humans, more real talk, and more authenticity
She says "our ego makes us put others on a pedeastal and makes us obsess over them cos it makes us feel like we're not good enough". This description is rather of a low-self esteem. And indeed then this person would need others validation more and consequetly seek higer attachment as they don't feel enough on their own. When we manage to stop being obsessed with our ego, we actually accept ourselves more, and we are capable of accepting others too. Anyway, I didn't mean to go after a few of her sentences just wanted to respond to you :) Overall she is a nice fresh air on the internet and she seems to mean well
@@Evieran Actually I would say that she's right, with your ego and romanticising a person who is not good for you, it will definitely make you think better of them and unknowingly obsess over them, and then because of your growing obsession when the person isnt who you romanticize them to be and actually treats you like trash, you will begin to think your in the wrong. Its not neccessarily because you originally had low self esteem but because you put them on a pedestal on which they definitely dont belong on. sorry if this doesnt make sense.
I have a problem of getting attached and obsess over people that do not give me proper atention. And it sucks bc i know that it's wrong but it's so hard to stop this patern. This video is like receiving advice from a friend who knows how to comfort and care for me. Be blessed.
Liz, i literally have been into a guy since a few months, I idealized him, and realized that my mood depended on him. So I am working on myself to get over him and focusing on not to repeat the same situation with another guy. Your video is the thing that I needed rn. You're really helping me, and helping millions of people. Thank you, so, much. (My english isn't perfect, if I have mistakes, I apologize)
Heyyy, I feel what you’re saying so deeply. I’ve idolized a guy too for years actually and I’ve recently removed him from my life and it has been really hard because I still see that idealized version of him in my head. But I had to detached myself, and I’m trying really hard everyday to keep it that way 😊
If you’re watching her videos then you should know to not be sorry for not being good in a certain language especially if you can speak more than one language. Also, I wouldn’t have known English isn’t your language if you hadn’t mentioned it:) It’s good!
Omg same. I idolized him for two years despite him not deserving such attention. Nothing about him is remarkable and outstanding for me to be hooked on to him for this long 😭 Her videos literally woke me up from my delusions 😅😂
This might be so weird for you but what I do whenever I put people on a pedestal is I make a list of their flaws and red flags. Does he have a receding hairline, not laugh at your jokes etc. make a list and every time you think if this idealized version read it again and see them as they are.
Actually I am psychiatrist but Im always watching you , you are amazing, u give in each video a big lesson of life and im sure you helped so many people. RESPECT
@@user-du4gw First of all, I'm sorry you went through this. I'm sorry on behalf of anyone who caused you this. You will be Okay when you accept your pain as it is. say that despite you suffered this , it's okay you are still alive, this trauma did not kill you but made you strong. I recommend long-term hypnosis (every day and not just once a week). ( with simple deep breathing and there are so many hypnosis videos on youtube they will help you) . Don't give up I know you will get there to fight this disorder. Me i trust you. You should also to trust me and accept that u will be okay 💜
This morning as I was getting ready for work, I realized how damn miserable and empty I feel when I’m home or near my boyfriend. At first I was thinking I must be moody this morning but it just hit, he makes me angry, and physically, I always have a stomachache and headache when in the same area. I hate how I feel with him. I hate the world, I hate people, and I absolutely hate myself. I don’t get how dumb I can be when I’m college educated, have a nice job. I seriously hate myself for settling like this and I know the real me would never do this. I found this video and reading these comments is so refreshing. I’m fascinated that I’m not alone.
Girl, I needed this. I just went through a really rough situation with someone and you summed it up perfectly. I did create an idealized image of them that wasn't real. Social media allows people to curate only what they want the world to see of them. Outside of it, they'll treat their closest people like trash and for them, that was me. I ignored the abuse, ignored the red flags, even started considering rehoming my pets and going into inpatient mental health care as if I was going insane and was this awful evil person they were making me paint myself as. Of course I came to my senses and realized I was being manipulated but the problem with attachment is that even THEN, you want to go back and see if you can't fix it. Your video helped send it home that no, I can't and no one can. People like this know what they are and what they do. They also don't care. They like attention both long term and temporary and like being a victim and do anything possible to keep repeating their cycles regardless of what it does to other people. Thanks for the video. It helped me seal the deal and find the peace and strength to move on.
I watched this video already like 5 times. Whenever I am feeling, that I am falling apart, or I feel that somebody treated me the way I didn't deserve, I always come here and listen to this- when I shower, cook, clean... Everytime, when I forget my worth for 10 seconds, I come here to remind myself, who am I and how much I deserve, because I am enough. I am so grateful for your videos, thank you Liz. ❤ 🙏🏻 You have no idea, how many times, just listening to you, helped me irl. You are incredible. ✨
Currently I'm feeling down because that special person not giving me the attention that I want and not giving me the same energy that I was expecting. Then I watched this video and it hit me hard. Thank you so much Liz, I'll try to focus more on me and base my happiness on myself and not on anyone else.
Liz I watched all your videos entire day. I have lots of traumas from childhood and also the trauma from physically abusive relationship and my second relationship where a boy ghosted me forever and the last one where a boy cheated on me after 3 hours of sleeping with me. I was the top tier very gorgeous girl where all the boys from my university wanted to date me the most. But these 3 boys took me for granted and traumatised me for the rest of my life. I have the biggest hope that your videos are definitely going to help me. Thank you so much for being there for us.
I hope this might help you🙏🙏 0:00 - intro 0:21 - why is detachment so important 1:31- realize you are operating from your ego 5:55 - everyone in your life has a purpose 8:58 - stop creating fantasies 9:33 - have an " it is what it is" mindset 10:57 - get a life 12:23 - realize that you are operating from a lack of mindset 14:06- what is FOMO 16:04 - you will never arrive to happiness 17:55 - realize: you will never leave you
Crying while listening to this. I always end up attaching myself to people that come in my life and end up heartbroken. Edit: listened to this the night before and im completely detached. Thank you god and thank you Liz. (:
OMG HOWBDID MT COMMENT GET SO MANY LIKES 😭😭😭😭😭 also update, im still struggling with attachment but it’s gotten much better 🫶🏻 to all those who’ve commented here, i hope you guys are doing well
"YOU GET ATTACHED TO A FALSE REALITY OF HAPPINESS."
this hits me very hard.
this was me today I got attached to a false reality and now it hurts and I regret it.
@@unstoppablegirl8 don't regret it girl Learn from it :)
@@unstoppablegirl8girl dont regret it you cant do anything about it anymore its done thats it, youre just hurting yourself by regretting, youre going to live with it and it wont matter that much in months, present is painful
@@unstoppablegirl8you’re going to be okay - you are okay. You’ve got this, love ❤
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the “get a life” part really gave me a reality check. it’s such a simple piece of advice but it is so true, sometimes when we get attached we open up so much space in our day to day lives to constantly talk to them. and then when they arent constantly talking like before, youre left with all this space you made in your day to day routine. never let someone change the original life/routine you had before you met them!!
so true, I used to believe “the more you give, the more you receive” but I completely lose myself thinking people would do the same for me.
This is true. I used to be obssesed with one person that im not even close with anymore and now that i started working on myself i dont think about them at all
@@tayzzle omg yes. Yes. Yes. Yes.
same here. hits home, even my ex told me that ;/
That’s so true!!
"The love that you're searching for outside is already within you"
I will never forget this
reminder
Yess it's and always within me.
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was about to comment this
❤
“if i give my partner the power to make me happy or to make me unhappy then i’m so powerless” 🎯
That's statement alone has changed my whole life in a second!
“YOU THINK YOU CANNOT HAVE MORE, THAT IS THE ISSUE” that seriously hurt in the chest
deeptalkswithme.blogspot.com/2024/04/detachment.html
I'm honestly shocked because of how good this video is and how much it's taught me. Thank you.
💯
Same
i dont think its coming from her, its look very scripted ! she look like she just want attention because these people are fake and do everything for catching attention and stoling normal people idea and make like its their idea ! look her she is full of surgery she look so insecure about her look and she dosnt look confident and confortable ! she just repeat word who she hear on someone in irl
FR location didn’t change, nothing. she just spoke straight FACTS
She's a fugazi young man. A maneating gold digger. Watch yourself and don't thank a gold digging snake, run
Getting a life is so real. Be busy for your goals. Stay open, but be your priority. Always. You will never regret it.
Yess, be attached to your goals nothing else.
the 'stop creating fantasies' part had me reflecting all of my relations and friendships. the way I had created fantasies about everyone and when they didn't meet the expectations, I got hurt and it was difficult to see that it was me who gave them that false image and not them who hurt me
This is literally me🥲.
Me too.
That’s so relatable
Same
Me too....
That line '' If God was done with you, you would not be alive'' 🥺🧿
🙏🌙❤
God is great all the time and all the time God is great AMEN
@Dark Persona 💀
❤🌿🌈
i literally cried after hearing that line 😭😭
Liz sure is an intelligent woman with high moral standards. Each advice she gives is noteworthy.
Facts
frr
I'm literally taking notes during her videos, because every word she says is so meaningful.
she saved my freaking life
@@divineeyesight can you actually drop out at 14? and why would you just to help other ppl?
She ate when she said “get a life”…like SO TRUE QUEEN!!! Cause when you’re focused on you and your growth, you genuinely dont have time to be stressing over what someone else is not giving you because you’re giving yourself the world🫶🏼
Give this woman an award for saving us and for making us loving ourselves ❤️
You saved yourself
Thank you for guiding us and putting out this invaluable content FOR FREAKIN FREE !!!!
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Right, she's amazing and so straightforward
I'm going to listen to this everyday until it's engraved in my mind fr
frrr, just what i thought
Lol girl I feel you.
Did it work 😂
Sameee 😂I need to hear this
Doing the same
Liz kick started my self improvement journey. I’ll never be able to explain how much I respect you in words. I’ve changed my mindset because of you. Let’s go and get that knowledge and level up girls!
Sooo true🙏✨️✨️✨️
YESS ME TOO!!!!
It's crazy right? She is just amazing, I am so grateful to her
100%
Same, in liz we trust
Is it only me who feel like writing every single thing she said in the notebook because every thing she said is so valuable and shouldn't be forgotten in the whole life?!
No not just you because this is so valuable and something that we need to drill into our heads . When we love someone we just let thel walk all over selves we don't even think or value ourselves and when we get too attached we end up getting sick or be drained
literally took notes
"You are put on this Earth to be blessed." What a powerful statement.
"you are put in This world to test again and again not to be blessed because this world is gona end one day and the world afterwords it gona last forever so be aware of what u do here cuz you gona answer each and everything there and that life is gona last forever forever where no death no fear in short heaven or hell .
I have a really bad habit of romanticizing everything and everyone. Then get disappointed when they do not meet my standards. This is something that I just realized. This year, I plan on operating from an abundant mindset and stop selling myself so short! I always shortchange myself for others and always get the bad end of the deal. This year will be a whole 180! Thanks Liz!
why does this hit home.. i like romanticising places, experiences and music. people disappoint.
Same for me. I don't agree with Liz saying that people who get attached easily have no life, it's not that easy to explain. I do have a life, I constantly meet up with friends, go to events, restaurants, try out something new and I do have things I'm passionate about. I can be on my own and never get bored because I always find stuff to do. But I just tend to romanticize a lot. Especially because I've never been in a relationship, I just get excited when I like someone, wonder if they like me back, daydream about them and then get disappointed when they're not reciprocating my feelings the same way. I need to learn to not depend my emotional state so much on how that person is feeling about me.
Felt this I dilute myself into thinking that one day they will change and I romanticize them to the point where I actually think it is them so when I find out that they aren’t going to change and that the person inside of my head isnt them I get disappointed and upset, but I’m already attached so it’s hard to detach from the person that created in my mind. Because I want it to be them .
same i like to be delusional smh
@@saffy771 same but it’s so hard.. like i try not to have expectations or daydream avout someone i just met but i just cant help it
I feel like I’m at the point that I need to watch this everyday to remind myself
Let's all make a better version of ourselves!!
Same :)
Same 🤍
Same
Same
"The only person you are attached to is yourself."-This phrase explains everyone's self worth!
I finally understood. I became sick because I was way too attached to a fantasy I created in my head about who he should have been, what we should have become. It made me truly ill, physically, mentally, emotionally. And I can finally let go. I can go no contact. I can heal. This video was a happy slap on my face to know that I am not special, many people go through this, and I can change my situation.
startded the 0 contact today. It hurts but i'm glad to know we're not alone. Twins haha
@@asldfiwrn when i become independent he started contacting me
Remember you were doing just fine before you met him
@@samanwaya6388I went through that as well , ik how hard it actually is . I really do wish you the best , if i can advice u : do every single thing that you know you have to do for your own good , no matter how hard it looks /is. At the end you will always have to think and act for yourself cause your own happiness is your duty .
Here's a quote that i really do appreciate ( hope it can help you even if you don't believe in God ... ) : " When a thing disturbs the peace of your heart , give it up " - the prophet ( ص ) .
Hope my comment can help u in any kind of way :) .
Thank God your eyes are open. I am incredibly happy for you. Live your best life.
“if you are still alive, then God is not done with you” WOW! this was the EXACT message my preacher preached today 🙏🏼❤️
@@profile1936 i’m so sorry for your loss Gunter.. life is not fair sometimes.. It’s okay to be angry.. and I hope you can find some peace with what you’re dealing with & see brighter days ahead 🙏🏼
muslims believe this, its a very core value in islam its an absolutely beautiful concept
@@profile1936 head up man, god has a plan everything might seem unclear at the moment but just know you have an angel by your side.
@@profile1936 i'm a complete and total stranger but i hope the lessons you learned from your friendship and the experiences you had leave a positive impact on you and help you become a better person. i'm not just gonna lie and say i pity you or i'm so sorry for you, because pity never helped anyone, but i'm praying you find a healthy way to not only cope with your grief but to live your life to the fullest and most fulfilling it can be :). (i hope i don't sound insensitive, if i do just ignore this x_x)
yess I heard Steve Harvey say this a lot too ❤
It's insane how much anxiety she takes away and how good I feel everytime after I watched a video of hers, she just speaks such blunt facts so accurate and so much on point it's insane
it's my first time watching hee and I feel exactly as you describe :)
@@froufou100 same dudeee:") thanksss Liz
Anxiety is a gift
Literally. This is the first video I watched of hers because of a Situation I’m currently in. The amount of anxiety and stress and sadness she just lifted feels like taking a bag of weights off. I’m really great full I found this video
so true
It's crazy how is she talking about the exact things i needed to hear. I was creating those fantasies about this one guy in my head during 9 MONTHS, crying non stop because he never made any steps, and then i realized that my desperarion was my biggest mistake. You can not allow yourself to wait for some random guy to text you or talk to you for days and not be able to focus on anything else. I was always blaming myself that i'm not doing enough, i could be more funny or talk more or do more things to get his attention: excuse me WHAT? If anything was supposed to happen between us, it would FOR SURE, i would not have to rip myself into parts so that something happens. Now, i've completely realised that and i don't let myself to even think abt all of that, i just focus on myself and my life, on friends and family.
So, just be 10000% sure, if something is meant to happen in your life, it will happen REGARDLESS, nothing can take something that was meant for you. Be ready and open to get all the blessings that are on your way and be grateful.
Sending so much love to everybody❤
when u really get into these two mindsets "it is what it is" & "there is always someone or something better for me when it comes about ending things",your life really gets better.
Edited: I didnt know that this has so many likes and some people are telling me that this is narcissistic but the truth is u have to work thru some things with ur someone but when they do hurt u intentionally you dont have to hold onto them anymore.I am not narcissistic I just got broken up by someone and im hurt rn as i should be but you have to let go of things which are not meant to be with you & there really are good people that u havent even met on this earth 🤍
What
@@rando7290like, life goes on regardless! Anything can happen, anything can make you happy when it comes to things ending. Detaching yourself, will help you believe that and it will do good for you! Never depend on someone for your own happiness
@Rando it's really simple buddy! ❤
You don't have to feel bad about ending things! There's always something better for us no matter what.
yeah i’m still trying to get through this my head rn
@@lynnsusulynn peak narc statement
To anybody who's reading this, I pray that whatever is hurting you or whatever you are constantly stressing about gets better. May the dark thoughts, the overthinking, and the doubt , exit your mind. May clarity replace confusion. May peace and calmness fill your life ❤
thank you.
so needy words❤
Thank you so much. 💖
thankyouuu smm
thank you ♡
"If God was done with you, you would not be alive."
The power that this one line holds. I promise to work on myself from this very moment and not cry for worthless people anymore. I am going to be a better, happier and healed version of myself.
Amen suloka
How are you now you have started to ne happy
The “cry for worthless people” got me
amen to that
I wouldn't say that I am happy as much as I want to be but I definitely feel better than what I used to be like and am still a work in progress but also proud of myself for not giving up.@@ayamekkaoui2779 😇
Timestamps 👀:
1:32 - Realise you are operating from your ego
5:55 - Everyone in your life has a purpose
8:58 - Stop creating fantasies
9:33 - Have an "It is what it is." mindset
10:57 - Get a life
12:23 - Realise that you're operating from a lack mindset
14:07 - What is FOMO?
16:04 - You will never arrive to happiness
17:54 - Realise you will never leave you
thank you ✨
I LOVE it when people do this! THANK YOU!
What's the name of the book she mentioned ?
@@jeevithar8918 It is "Spirit Junkie by Gabrielle Bernstein" .
Thanks
The fact that nobody talks about the forbidden book Mareska Manipulation on Vexoner speaks volumes about how people are stuck in a trance
"you think that you cannot have more and that's the issue"
This hit home so hard to a point where I remained in my own thoughts for a while
Same I literally paused the video nd was like damn
I stop for a whole hour to reflect . . .
@honey-lk4lj I remember I was in a Hospital, one doctor( that doctor was woman) told me to come to the restraining room where she and 8 male doctors will pummel me if I didn't come to the restraining room. She was a narcissistic doctor that just doesn't respect me nor my rights. And when they locked me in the restraining room, all the doctors told me that I was a jack@$$( They got triggered just because I was thinking different than them
as an overly emotional person and as a person who literally loves people unconditionally this was so important because I am completely sick and tired of people constantly taking advantage of my loyalty and love, thank you liz you literally are an angel
edit: WHEN DID THIS GET SO MANY LIKES LMAOO but anyways to all the beautiful angels and amazing human beings who related to this, I just want to say that I'm so proud of you I'm so happy you came this far and did not decide to give up, and it shows that you are trying to do smth better for yourself (as you're watching the queen liz), so don't give up beautiful you got this and all of you strong and amazing individuals have my prayers
I can relate to this! Completely agree with you! xx
Same ❤
real
i relate to this so bad
Im with you all ❤ we gotta give ourselves some credit though, we have the most beautiful heart and souls ✨ Sending love to you all
Chilling in a hot bathtub on a Sunday, with candles and self care while listening to liz is what I call a perfect end of a week.
That sounds so cozy and nice.
sameeee
I'm watching this for probably the 250th time since getting my heartbroken in April 2024. Healing is not linear so yes I keep falling off. But I've been going gym and reading, watching my diet and just trying to improve myself. I won't chase again or forget myself for someone else. Yes its lonely but I'm learning to make something of it and working towards not needing anyone else.
Everyone here who's on your healing journey, remember what Liz said about fantasies. It applies to your healing as well. Do not fall into the trap of believing that you must heal by this certain time or in this certain way, so that you can do all the things you're "meant" to do and "be happy." If you're struggling right now, give yourself some love. Sit with yourself and ask yourself, "what's wrong?" You will get through this, and you are oh so beautiful.
this comment hit home. thank you ♥️
ty luv 🤍
Thank you for your beautiful comment! You are beautiful too. 💞✨
When i ask myself "what's wrong" suddenly- formation of river takes places from my eyes 😚
Thank you❤️
Everything that comes out of Liz's mouth is pure gold. These are the things we all need to hear but we don't want to hear because its painful or because its too difficult to act on it. We are all meant for so much more. Radiate positivity, be kind, your turn is coming. We are all deserving.
"When you're not controlled by your ego, then you attract everything. You would not get attached to someone or something because you know you have abundance in your life."
Thank you so much. I needed to hear it.
Except when you don’t have abundance
@jewelsessences what type of abundances do you believe you are lacking
Excellent video. My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let him go i did all i could to get him back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring him back.
Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach her/him?
Her name is Shelly renee white , and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive
@@bartholetbayana9198no you missed the message of this video.. you need to detach yourself from that person like she said there's a reason it didn't epek out you were supposed to learn something from that relationship
"im not looking for someone to complete me because i complete myself" SHE'S SO REALL
deeptalkswithme.blogspot.com/2024/04/detachment.html
Attachment usually occurs due to a limited mindset of a "limited" ambition or "limited" options. Have hobbies, goals, plan a daily routine for yourself, keep yourself busy, shower, workout, eat healthy, affirm, walk your daily steps, soak the sun for 10 minutes daily. And most importantly, KNOW YOUR WORTH. Like Liz said, anyone in your life is there to TEACH you. It's done by them either staying or by leaving so know that they can go and there are a ton of other people :)
Thank you for this comment reading this gave me a new perspective
@@chillpill2098 sure! We all serve a purpose in each other's lives. Think logically : love is just a hormone. A certain chemical which we crave, oxytocin. No one owes anything to anyone.
Nice one! Thank you for this.
Exactly! You have not seen the world yet and are unaware of all the goodness waiting for you in abundance ! Don't despair. Everything happens for a reason and everyone enters your life to teach you. Have ambitions for yourself. Have daily must-do's like getting 10 min sun, walking 5000 steps, eating fruits once and showering. Other than that, invest in yourself. Expand your horizons. Learn a new word or language. Try reading or writing. Maybe dance on your fav song. Call a family member or friend to catch up with. Draw and paint like you did when you were a child. YOU DON'T HAVE TO BE PERFECT. Stop looking at the details. We are literally living on a petite planet earth. There is no such thing as "time" or past in the higher dimensions. What is time anyway ? When the earth rotates and revolves you call it seasons and time lol. Stop stressing over the small stuff. Come on, live a little. Cook yourself a nice healthy meal and watch a funny movie. Do a DIY facial, take 5 extra mins in the shower, moisturize your body and sleep like a God/goddess. YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL AND I AM SO PROUD OF YOU ❤
@@darkspice6339Very true💯. Thank you for the kind words❤
girl you were meant to come in my life at this moment. thank you for creating this soul contract
TeXTMe_📩,,
It's a video relax mate, imagine a girl actually talked to you lol
@@raiontheone i don't think they meant it in the way you're interpreting.
"The love that you are searching for outside is already within you" ... that's such a powerful thought, we need to remind ourselves that every single day.
I have noticed a toxic pattern I had, always getting attached to people I talked to or dated. I felt so anxious everytime they did not respond and I felt like I was literally dying when I knew they are going to end it with me. I gave a boy a second chance cause he apologized for his mistake and treated me so much better than before but guess what, he ended up hurting me again the same way like the first time. I got super attached to him since I had this boy back and now when I lost him the second time it felt like my world was ending. I cried nonstop and even told my parents about it. I don’t have any close friends that‘s why I felt super alone and I was wondering whether I can make it alive or not. Guys this is completely ridiculous, we all know it, but in that time, as a anxious attached person, it really does feel like that. I listened to several videos about it but always end up here. It feels amazing hearing your words Liz. I love that you humble me so much and thanks to you I feel so much better. I am aware of my feelings and that it has nothing to do with that one person who made me feel like that. At the end it is always you against you. Never stop respecting yourself, loving yourself, taking care of your body and mind. Everyone deserves a second chance in life but not in my life. That was my lesson. And I will make sure to become the highest version of myself and everything will start to work in my favor. The biggest revenge is no revenge. Have a good day and thank you for reading
You are very pretty.i Just saw your channel ❤.. don't worry everything will be fine ❤. You deserve all the happiness of the world ❤.I wish your life will be as pretty as your face 💕
@@HemayalAmin thank you so much for your kind words !! you made my day ❤️
I feel the same way and I just got hurted by a guy I so much invested to...and I am glad I found someone finally who is relatable to what I feel or what I do 😭 ( coz 10 min ago I was crying so much)
@@harshitasingh8944 it is okay to feel sad for a while but I can assure you it gets better with time!! Something that really helped me was a little note I wrote for myself to read when I got upset. After a week you‘ll start to feel a little better. There will still be days where you might get a little upset again but time heals every wound trust me!! Do something you loved doing before you met that guy.. a book you loved .. read it again.. draw something.. and exercise!! get back into ur routine and you will see it works!! ❤️
@@harshitasingh8944 I‘m so sorry honey :( 🩷 but I can really assure you that this phase will end some day. It‘s been 3 weeks since my ex broke up with me and I cried nonstop for 2 weeks and did not do anything since I constantly felt bad. I had this victim mindset. Asked myself questions like “How could someone do this to me? Where did everything go wrong? Why was I so stupid and naive?“.. and it really hurts going through this phase of constant sadness and regret. Now this 3rd week has been different. I am regularly going out, studying and changing my mindset. If it was true love would it hurt so much? Ask yourself this question. I‘m sure that you‘re a really sweet girl and you should know that it is his loss. Like literally who is this guy even? who is he to hurt you? It‘s his loss. Something is wrong with him for upsetting you like this. Start thinking that way and slowly the sadness will fade trust me. And after a few week you will start to feel the way you felt before you met that boy!!! I have experienced this so many times and I can‘t wait for feeling nothing at all anymore for a person who does not respect my feelings. ❤️
This is so insightful. I'm a grandmother, and I'm still learning. I'm going to send this to my teen granddaughter. I hope she watches it. Thank you.
that's sweet
you’re a nice grandma for this
you’re a wonderful human
W grandma
that is so adorable
i’m crying rn and was feeling very worthless and vulnerable and you just pulled me out of that. thank you you’re amazing
you're not worthless bby ❤
"I make social media work for me. I don't work for social media." damn it hit me like a hard rock
Watching this video again, I am crying at this part, that “ you were always there for you, please acknowledge that, that was such a powerful thing . “
I cried too girl!
1:32 - Realise you are operating from your ego
5:55 - Everyone in your life has a purpose
8:58 - Stop creating fantasies
9:33 - Have an "It is what it is." mindset
10:57 - Get a life
12:23 - Realise that you're operating from a lack of mindset
14:07 - What is FOMO?
16:04 - You will never arrive at happiness
17:54 - Realise you will never leave you
Thank u!!
how do I get a life 😭
This is so very helpful 👍! Thank you so much.
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Thank you love ❤
This vid hits home for me. As someone who struggles with maintaining friendships, I realized a lot of the problems I had with them was because I was creating these unrealistic expectations in my head, and like Liz says it ends up never almost playing out how you want them to because its all just a fantasy.
Omg 😮you just put my thoughts in writing 😢I also struggle with it .Hope we find our dream freindship with ourselves and love ourselves first then other people ❤❤Good luck ❤
coming back to this video yet again for the 100th time, still a gem. wisdom that will never age!
She has literally helped me get over a highly toxic, one-sided friendship which I was NEVER able to get out of. I tried so much for 2 years but couldn't get out of the trap and toxicity. She told me what I needed to hear. This. My best friend who recommended this channel to me really meant it when she said "it will change your life" and "she will heal you".
Uss same thing happened to me I moved on last year
Us same.... It took me 4 year but she did help alot..
I am.going though this situation now and I just randomly scroll I found her video and now I feel bit relax
Funny how when you get rid of 1 toxic person, many more are revealed. It started with a best friend since childhood, then it was my dad, an aunt, and now the older brother. I'm just letting them all out.
It wasn't toxic for me but in our friendship we weren't the same, she always had the higher priority in our friendship and then she started treating me like shit and I had to get over it because she apologized and then we had to break apart and a couple of weeks after that she came to my college and had an argument with me infront of my classmates and I felt so vunerable. I depended on her at my lows and so I thought it was okay to have be on the giving end of the friendship. It hurts but it is for the best, really happy that it helped you. hope I look back at this and it doesn't hurt me anymore.
she's really out here making us our best versions with those powerful words
So true !!
Liz we need a video called "social media" I feel like that's such an integral part of society today... You're the perfect person to simplify this in the best possible way and you're good with words I'm sure you can come up with relatable content on it... 🥰
👌 I second this. A video on social media would be great!! 🙂💜🙏
Yes!! I haven’t thought of this but this is the perfect idea! She always mentions social media but it would be great if she went into depth about it.
THIS
Right! I totally agree
We really need this video
I'm re-watching this video for the third time I guess and I just realised that how blessed I am that I can come and listen to her whenever I feel low in life or need some advice. I can't thank her enough for the way she's helping me and so many others through these videos.
In Tears when you mentioned "You have you and if you believe in God, you have him as well". Needed this reminder today! God bless you, beautiful
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I was so attached and clinged onto a man i knew for a few years. He absolutely drianed me. Disrespected me in every way, played with my head, drained my energy, broke my heart many times. However I was still so caught up with him. When I found your videos I realized and learned to let go of him and focus on me instead of him. My whole life and understanding of myself was based around him. It took me awhile and I am still learning more to be my own girl. Your videos have helped me so much in that realm and other realms of my life as well.
You go girl ❤️🩹
YOU GO GIRLL🤍
You got this girl. You are not alone, same thing happened to me too. But we will detach & we will move on 🙏🏽❤️✨
There might be fault in you and not in men.i have seen many times girls would be the toxic ones but blame men for everything....
@@Ihavemadeit999 you go girls yes....being heterosexual and straight men and attracted towards women is a curse now for men.....Men do not want to date or marry women anymore because women would be the problem but play the victim card and blame men....It has a talent of women now....Men are slowing becoming mgtow as women bring sadness and suffering in men lives and there is no point in dating women......
Girl every single thing you said was what I needed to hear. And the passion and vigor in your voice is what I needed.
Liz could you please make a video on how to set boundaries with people? I struggle with this so much as a people-pleaser because I always think that if I set clear boundaries, I will hurt the other person's feelings, so I end up prioritizing their comfort over mine. Thanks and ily!
Yes please liz!
I have exactly the same problem.. I'm always scared to hurt other person's
Yess i agree
You need to understand that telling those people your BOUNDARIES will not going to hurt them because you are telling them about your comfort zone and What triggers you or what not and if they really care about you they'll understand your BOUNDARIES and they'll not getting hurt by showing some Respect to your BOUNDARIES. At the end of they day You are showing respect to their comfort zone over yours. That's why YOU ARE ONLY HURTING YOUR OWN FEELINGS OVER THEM. THINK ABOUT IT☺️ ( STOP THINKING THAT YOU'LL GONNA HURT THEIR FEELINGS YOU ARE LITERALLY HURTING YOUR OWN FEELINGS HAVE MERCY ON YOURSELF.) (WHATEVER YOU ARE THINKING RELATING TO HURT SOMEONE FEELINGS OVER YOUR COMFORT ZONE IS JUST IN YOUR HEAD *THIS IS NOT HAPPENING*
I struggle with that too
This video really opened my eyes. Trying to detach yourself from a situation is not easy but the longer you hold onto whoever is hurting you it will start to control you. Personally, I’m glad for the people in my life good or bad because they brought to my attention what I really need to focus on in my life. I will detach from anybody, I will stop creating ideas in my head of people, I will focus on my life and goals, and most importantly I will love and put myself first before anybody. ❤️
This girl is taking a shower and randomly decides to save us. What a queen!
"I am complete , I dont need anyone else to complete me. I can make myself happy, whatever he is doing is just extra"
I really needed to hear this, thank you babe.
Liz, today I relapsed into depression. After watching this video, you INSTANTLY snapped me out of it. I just worked out, took an ice bath and now I am going to meditate I FEEL GREAT. You saved my life Liz, thank you.
i hope u are doing well now
You got this!! Stay strong it’s gonna be okay
you got this baby! glad to read this... i hope u get better.
im so proud of you queen!!
give yourself credit, you did it all by yourself !! 🤍🤍 stay stronggg
16:36 “The happiness that you are searching for outside is already within you. The love that you are searching for outside is already within you.” WOW. Just the way she verbalized all of this clicked for me. Love you Liz ❤
We love a man that watches liz, respect 👏
@@cupcake7217Thank you 🥹 men and women, we all can learn from one another. 💜
"YOU will NEVER leave you. " Such true words, and this video is really what I needed in my life. Thanks for giving this perspective!
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I’ve been physically ill from being too attached to people. Taking medications I didn’t need. I just needed to heal within. This is healing!
Trust me, Liz, I’ve been abiding by these rules of detachment for the past 3 years and my life’s been drama free and stress free ever since. No one or situation controls me and nothing scares me anymore. I feel more independent and confident now 🖤
I'm happy for you! Glad you are doing well and I hope to achieve this level of detachment during this year
SLAY
Wow, How did you come to this?
@@maryn4150 omg thank you and I hope you get to achieve what you desire soon 🖤
@@DearDaryana Ig when you’ve been hurt by multiple ppl in different situations, you toughen up and understand exactly why you should be self reliant when it comes to company and distant yourself from ppl. Talking to humans sometimes is nice but I’ve always been the type of person who loves being alone and these days, I rarely interact with ppl. The more I tried connecting with others, the more I realized I feel more comfortable and at peace when I’m alone. Not like I’m completely antisocial but I do love enjoying myself alone and ppl these days just tire me out. They come and go, nobody really stays but I’ll always have myself so that’s why i just don’t seek other ppl at all these days and I’ve been better than ever with myself. Plus, makes shit so much easier for an introvert like me 🖤
This is absolutely INSANE, I have been consistently telling God and trying to detach. I have been really starting to learn about the Law of Detachment the past 2-3 weeks and Liz comes out w this video...she's intuitive, empathic like me, and knows what we need. Kudos to you sister, thank you so much for helping me in my healing journey!
me too, sis!
Me too
After a break up, I have watched dozens of videos on how to get through this and this is the only video that literally made me snap out of it with CLARITY and confidence. You really opened my eyes to a whole new way of thinking. Thank you
no fr she called my ass out LOL
@@louisaslibrarySAME 😂😂😂😂
Same
I broke up with my ex last night and yes I am sad but also really relieved to not have the stress and baggage from the relationship anymore. I am so grateful that I saw this video today and that I realized that I did not need him to feel valuable and that I made the mistake of attaching myself to him. Because I’m now just realizing that he made me feel insecure and he made me believe that we were going to get married and have kids and that everything was going to be perfect but looking back now I’m embarrassed and now I’m just miserable because I believed his lies and love bombing and now I have to face that and heal from it. I will heal from this and so will all of you going through heartbreak rn.
''If God was done with you, you would not be alive. He is not done with you yet''. this is literally so good man. And that one '' Stop creating fantasies''. This line hit hard because i always create fantasies about people im attached to, and when they dont meet my expectations, i get sad. No one is as good as i create them in my head. THANK YOU SO MUCH LIZ FOR OPENING MY EYES AND HELPING ME WITH MY ATTACHMENT ISSUES
After a deep anxiety attack yesterday, I found this video. I’ve gotten so attached to this person, or this situation or this certain lifestyle that I was always triggered when it seemed that they would leave me, and when things would change. I felt like I had no life outside of that. This video really changed my thought process and revealed why I was so triggered. I’m in the process of “getting my life” and I can’t thank Liz enough.
I swear, this video fell from heaven. I have had this problem for years and yesterday a big thing happened in my life that made me realize that owe much more to myself than to other people. I have been feeling down and this videos feels like it was sent to me because the timing is just so divine I can't explain it otherwise. Her videos seem to come into someones life when they are meant to be. I love her so much
for months I've been struggling to detach from a person, and her words are exactly what I needed to hear. id never seen her before and she popped up on my recommendations, this video definitely feels like it fell from heaven to help us
Caring less of what others think and not needing validation from others is the key to detachment. Validation should come from within. When you break the habit of looking for it on the outside your perspective will change.
This lady’s message is tip-top.
i am an empath and being empath is both a strength and weakness but i also figured out that detachment is the key to fell less pain or be less emotional or less affected. Being strong mentally and emotionally is very difficult thing to do for an empath because as much as possible we want to be gentle and soft and give it all out but we also know giving it all away wont make us get what we deserve…. We can do this 💪🏻
Sometimes the kindest thing we can do is stop ✋ offering unconditional kindness. Give it to your self ❤️
Empaths don't exist...it's not even a true medical term. It comes from Star Trek. You're just emotionally in tune. And can read body language. Therapists aren't even allowed to use the word because it's seen as super unprofessional
Right here with you
@@bostonb4kedbeans I believe an empath is an empathetic person
And naturally kind
Damn, you hit the spot. I feel so low today because the person I care about was talking with random girls online despite us being in a "relationship", which triggered my trauma of not being good enough to any men I was romantically involved with - both IRL and online. Then it hit me, I was attached to the idea of what they are in my head. Thank you so much for helping me realize this, even though I randomly found your video here. Romanticizing people and situations has been my problem (because they make me feel "secure" in some way, but it's not when reality strikes). Your video is like a slap from the Universe/God to me lol and I'm thankful for that.
Same. Trying to detach myself from this person
Going through this exact same situation rn I cannot believe. And I do the same thing as you too. I romanticize everyone and everything so much. Well anyways you've got this! Love will find you 💕
Same! Especially a slap from the Universe/God
The same thing just happened to me 🙌we are not alone
What to do in this situation?
I had a crush for about 5 years and he was my first love. I always tried to get close to him and I even confessed my feelings to him but he just ignored me and never accepted them. After a while, I started to hate him because he did not like me at all.
Just now I realized that all this time I've been creating false fantasies about him in my head where he was a good and kind person but he never was, to me. He never had such a personality after all. He always treated me like shit and just took advantage of me but I turned those shitty moments into my own fantasies where he was a good person.
I dont hate him anymore because he was what he was and nothing can change that. Thank you Liz for maling me realize this!❤️
It’s crazy how I relate to this, 100% Same situation
wtf same
something like that happened to me
I'm a guy and I'm seeing mostly women in this comment section but I'd still say it, this woman is a real bro. She is so transparent about the problem I'm facing and I now know my solutions too. Real good work liz
Today I have learned 8 things. Detachment saves you from heartbreak and betrayal with yourself. It saves you from Fantasies and give happiness in your reality. Detachment is so important because you should have your own power instead of relying on someone to make you feel good about yourself. I need to stop generating from my ego and whatever my ego tells me is not true and I deserve everything best and I am blessed. I don't care what leaves I care what is the more great thing has entered in my life. I don't care about the lives that I see on social media because I am creater of my own happiness. I go my own hobbies that define me as me.everyone has their purpose and I learn everything everyday life is so beautiful and I am blessed alhamdillah.
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"We were put on this earth to work on our traumas " This quote changed my whole mindset.
Hi it is true we need to work on our traumas. But it is best to work with people who already gone through this. I am a certified relationship coach who is trying to bring best out of people and to set healthy goals for themselves. Would you like a small session with me free of cost?
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This hits, I love my boyfriend and he loves me and we can easily get too in our comfort zones together. However, we both have our own hobbies and we get a lot of space from each other. It’s so important for us to really focus on self love and not just love for the other person!
Liz has the next level knowledge about how to be happy and peaceful alone. I'm also like that. I enjoy my company. I eat at restaurants alone, I go to watch movies alone, I go to the park alone, I go to the office at night when all the people work during the day. There's a special type of charm and peace in being alone and enjoying your company. If anyone talks with me or gives me something it's extra value if I get nothing I'm still happy. I'm complete, and I don't need anything from these people out there. Only God can reward you with things so keep in touch with God and enjoy your ride.
1. if it leaves, i’m comfortable by thinking something better will ( _always_ ) come. because if i give this thing the power of making me happy or unhappy, i’m so powerless. it’s just an extra, because i don’t need anything or anybody to make me complete !
3. we’re constantly being guided in our life, everything is meant to make us _wiser_ in some aspects.
-> not “why is this happening to me?”, no. but “what is that _teaching_ me” is the mindset.
once you realize that. you will begin to see the values in all of this
4. stop creating fantasies. just live in the present moment.
5. it will never be good enough. NEVER! so start appreciating EVERYTHING
6. don’t pass all the time in your head. don’t be too focused on being focused.
7. don’t have FOMO. = fear of missing out. if you don’t know what you’re missing out, you’re not missing out at all. that comes from no-comparison mindset, firsty.
8. “if i have this thing, i will be happy” FALSE. this is an attachment mentality. completely false! you have already your happiness within yourself.
realise: you will never leave you. instead you wont have this specific thing forever. so it doesn’t come from that to have happiness.
fuck, everything, i have me!!’
go to therapist, meditate, heal those things
9. “if god would been done with you, you won’t even be alive anymore”.
you don’t need anyone, any situation to say : “oh hey, i got this thing now i’m valuable”. no. it is just because you’re alive, you’re breathing . you have everything you need within you and the faster you realize, the happier you’ll be. because all the people attached too much to something or someone will never be happy. you have to be happy and comfortable and confident and proud with your true self in order to get your dreams. even if someone appears to be literally perfect, they will NEVER be anything without this mentality. so be fucking proud of who you are, who you are becoming and who you could be. being happy with ourselves unconditionally is ALWAYS A WIN.
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Omg! I just agreed with her on every sentence. She’s so on point. Stop creating fantasies about the other person becz they were never that person and the person your attached to is not them,but the one that you imagined to be him. Your in love with that imaginary person… So move on and give yourself chances to find that imaginary person that your heart desires…
i had a very close friend who suddenly stopped talking to me. this video made me realise how attached i was to the idea i made of them rather than the reality of the situation. i know now that me being attached to them only gives them more power over me and my emotions. thank you liz ❤
I'm literally going through the same situation. Realizing is everything.
I realized that this close friend I had is no longer a part of my life anymore because I would always base my worth on her and at school, I would feel down when she was absent I based my worth on the attention she gave me. So I know everything happens for a reason ❤
@@hafsasalman2489 for real.
me rn
ME RNNN:)
This is arguably the best video regarding mental health that I have ever seen in my whole life. I have been depressed for some time and started seeing a therapist because of failed relationship that happened a long time ago. Liz just woke me the fudge up and it helped me made sense of things. From the bottom of my heart, thank you for all you do Liz. You made me realized I am truly blessed.
As a psycholigist, I'd only say that the ego part is not named correctly but everything else is so clearly and truthfully put. I wonder whats her source of inspiration and knowledge but either way I'm so happy that there are people like her putting such helpfup content for others. We have created such a lonely world, and we need more humans, more real talk, and more authenticity
If it's not ego, what is it? Just curious
She says "our ego makes us put others on a pedeastal and makes us obsess over them cos it makes us feel like we're not good enough". This description is rather of a low-self esteem. And indeed then this person would need others validation more and consequetly seek higer attachment as they don't feel enough on their own. When we manage to stop being obsessed with our ego, we actually accept ourselves more, and we are capable of accepting others too. Anyway, I didn't mean to go after a few of her sentences just wanted to respond to you :) Overall she is a nice fresh air on the internet and she seems to mean well
@@Evieran Actually I would say that she's right, with your ego and romanticising a person who is not good for you, it will definitely make you think better of them and unknowingly obsess over them, and then because of your growing obsession when the person isnt who you romanticize them to be and actually treats you like trash, you will begin to think your in the wrong. Its not neccessarily because you originally had low self esteem but because you put them on a pedestal on which they definitely dont belong on.
sorry if this doesnt make sense.
@@Evieran ya that makes sense so basically liz meant that you are opertaing on poor self esteem right?
@@user-du4gw to me, yes, thats what this is about
"I don't need someone else to complete me because I am complete myself" that hit me hard 👌💆♂️
I have a problem of getting attached and obsess over people that do not give me proper atention. And it sucks bc i know that it's wrong but it's so hard to stop this patern. This video is like receiving advice from a friend who knows how to comfort and care for me. Be blessed.
“Everything happens for a reason and something better will come along for me” ❤
Literally can't explain how blessed and powerful she makes me feel after all the heartbreak I've gone through the past few weeks ...thank you Liz ..
I never knew I have attachment issues 😭 I clicked on this video accidentally.....I really needed this...thank you universe 💫💯💌❣️🙏🏻
Its ok everybody has some attachment in their lives be it people or pets or non living things
@@Hyperactive1101 true. Now I am getting over it and focusing on myself more..
Liz, i literally have been into a guy since a few months, I idealized him, and realized that my mood depended on him. So I am working on myself to get over him and focusing on not to repeat the same situation with another guy. Your video is the thing that I needed rn. You're really helping me, and helping millions of people. Thank you, so, much.
(My english isn't perfect, if I have mistakes, I apologize)
Heyyy, I feel what you’re saying so deeply. I’ve idolized a guy too for years actually and I’ve recently removed him from my life and it has been really hard because I still see that idealized version of him in my head. But I had to detached myself, and I’m trying really hard everyday to keep it that way 😊
If you’re watching her videos then you should know to not be sorry for not being good in a certain language especially if you can speak more than one language. Also, I wouldn’t have known English isn’t your language if you hadn’t mentioned it:) It’s good!
Girl no justifying! 🙅🏼♀️❤️ You owe nobody
Omg same. I idolized him for two years despite him not deserving such attention. Nothing about him is remarkable and outstanding for me to be hooked on to him for this long 😭 Her videos literally woke me up from my delusions 😅😂
This might be so weird for you but what I do whenever I put people on a pedestal is I make a list of their flaws and red flags. Does he have a receding hairline, not laugh at your jokes etc. make a list and every time you think if this idealized version read it again and see them as they are.
I cried last night and this morning because I felt like I worth nothing, this video IS exactly what I need ! Thank you Liz
you are worth so much more then you think. stay strong!
it's so crazy because i can not cry / feel sadness due to trauma and i also needed this:)
Actually I am psychiatrist but Im always watching you , you are amazing, u give in each video a big lesson of life and im sure you helped so many people.
RESPECT
hello doctor, quick question. what is your number 1 advise to those with ptsd (I have diagnosed ptsd) i was molested at 6 lol
@@user-du4gw First of all, I'm sorry you went through this.
I'm sorry on behalf of anyone who caused you this.
You will be Okay when you accept your pain as it is.
say that despite you suffered this , it's okay you are still alive, this trauma did not kill you but made you strong.
I recommend long-term hypnosis (every day and not just once a week). ( with simple deep breathing and there are so many hypnosis videos on youtube they will help you) .
Don't give up I know you will get there to fight this disorder.
Me i trust you.
You should also to trust me and accept that u will be okay 💜
This morning as I was getting ready for work, I realized how damn miserable and empty I feel when I’m home or near my boyfriend. At first I was thinking I must be moody this morning but it just hit, he makes me angry, and physically, I always have a stomachache and headache when in the same area.
I hate how I feel with him. I hate the world, I hate people, and I absolutely hate myself. I don’t get how dumb I can be when I’m college educated, have a nice job. I seriously hate myself for settling like this and I know the real me would never do this. I found this video and reading these comments is so refreshing. I’m fascinated that I’m not alone.
Girl, I needed this. I just went through a really rough situation with someone and you summed it up perfectly. I did create an idealized image of them that wasn't real. Social media allows people to curate only what they want the world to see of them. Outside of it, they'll treat their closest people like trash and for them, that was me. I ignored the abuse, ignored the red flags, even started considering rehoming my pets and going into inpatient mental health care as if I was going insane and was this awful evil person they were making me paint myself as.
Of course I came to my senses and realized I was being manipulated but the problem with attachment is that even THEN, you want to go back and see if you can't fix it. Your video helped send it home that no, I can't and no one can. People like this know what they are and what they do. They also don't care. They like attention both long term and temporary and like being a victim and do anything possible to keep repeating their cycles regardless of what it does to other people.
Thanks for the video. It helped me seal the deal and find the peace and strength to move on.
Stay strong ♥️
Your words 'treat like trash ' felt so close to me. You brought tears in my eyes. I was treated the same way. May God give you peace.
I watched this video already like 5 times. Whenever I am feeling, that I am falling apart, or I feel that somebody treated me the way I didn't deserve, I always come here and listen to this- when I shower, cook, clean... Everytime, when I forget my worth for 10 seconds, I come here to remind myself, who am I and how much I deserve, because I am enough. I am so grateful for your videos, thank you Liz. ❤ 🙏🏻 You have no idea, how many times, just listening to you, helped me irl. You are incredible. ✨
I’ll have to rewatch. Sigh…it’s like I already know it’s not sinking in. For over three decades I haven’t understood the concepts she mentions.
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100% no capping , no gate keeping wisdom and truth. preach! queen.
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Currently I'm feeling down because that special person not giving me the attention that I want and not giving me the same energy that I was expecting. Then I watched this video and it hit me hard. Thank you so much Liz, I'll try to focus more on me and base my happiness on myself and not on anyone else.
Liz I watched all your videos entire day. I have lots of traumas from childhood and also the trauma from physically abusive relationship and my second relationship where a boy ghosted me forever and the last one where a boy cheated on me after 3 hours of sleeping with me. I was the top tier very gorgeous girl where all the boys from my university wanted to date me the most. But these 3 boys took me for granted and traumatised me for the rest of my life. I have the biggest hope that your videos are definitely going to help me. Thank you so much for being there for us.
hey everything is gonna be alright, its not to late to change and start working on yourself :)
You will heal beautiful. Those people only show you you deserve so much better and you need to raise your standards.
I hope this might help you🙏🙏
0:00 - intro
0:21 - why is detachment so important
1:31- realize you are operating from your ego
5:55 - everyone in your life has a purpose
8:58 - stop creating fantasies
9:33 - have an " it is what it is" mindset
10:57 - get a life
12:23 - realize that you are operating from a lack of mindset
14:06- what is FOMO
16:04 - you will never arrive to happiness
17:55 - realize: you will never leave you
Real life angle
@@abhyasingh3864 hey we both have same names r u indian and where you live but different is that u r bts fan and i am not
10:25 - cat sighting
13:09 - extended cat sighting
thank you so much for this!
@@matthewlancellotti762 I love this comment as a cat lover 😂 ty
Crying while listening to this. I always end up attaching myself to people that come in my life and end up heartbroken.
Edit: listened to this the night before and im completely detached. Thank you god and thank you Liz. (:
We will be okie oneday ...God is here with us 🫂
Power to you girl I need to do the same.
Yupp now I feel so free
OMG HOWBDID MT COMMENT GET SO MANY LIKES 😭😭😭😭😭 also update, im still struggling with attachment but it’s gotten much better 🫶🏻 to all those who’ve commented here, i hope you guys are doing well