How to Let Go Even if You Believe You Can't (7 TIPS)

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    Letting go is extremely easy when we let it be easy, but also letting go is extremely hard if we believe letting go is hard.
    Now in this video I want to show you the seven tips that have made letting go so much easier for me, even at times when I believed letting go was impossible.
    First tip with this is to become aware of what attachment you have and how that's helping you to avoid feeling certain emotions.
    So this is an interesting part of the process is a lot of times what we do is we may have an attachment, maybe that attachment is to a belief about ourselves, maybe it's to a person, maybe it's to someone in your past, maybe the attachment is to people thinking about you in a certain way or what other people think about you.
    And what happens is these attachments we think are there because we need whatever that is. The belief is if I have that person, then I'll be enough, then I'll be happy.
    If these people feel this way about me and they give me the validation or approval or whatever it is, then I will finally feel enough and I can feel safe. The challenge with this is that if that's the belief, then of course it's hard to let go.
    It's hard to let go when you believe somebody else has your eternal happiness, when you believe someone else has a part of you that you need. And the thing that makes all the difference in the world is when you become aware that the attachment you have is simply a distraction from feeling certain emotions.
    And they say that a lot of times these emotions are either a mix of fear, grief or anger. So at a certain level, there may be an avoidance of looking at anger. Let's think about this and the whole nice guy persona thing.
    Some people, especially empathic people, may identify as being a nice guy or a people pleaser. Normally under a nice guy or a people pleaser, what's happening is there's this fake facade that's (indistinct) up, the facade is, I'm gonna be very nice, and this also gets back to manipulation.
    I read this book recently and it talked about manipulation and it uses words to understand the deeper meaning of it. Now think of it like this, think of like a nice guy who was once a baby, who was given the nipple of the mom and that was the source of everything.
    That was the source of comfort, the source of nurturing, the source of nutrients. And then at a certain point, the nipple went away or it wasn't around.
    And what happens is in order for some people to get their needs met, what they do is is they
    manipulate, manipulation, manipulate other people so that they can get the teat, they can get the nipple.
    And what they're doing is they're going over to people and they're like, "Are you the nipple? Are you the nipple?" And then other people feel that needy energy and they're like, get away from me, find your source within yourself.
    And that's why that journey is normally you must be the source of your own happiness and let go of the belief, the attachment that everyone else become the teat.
    So it's kind of a metaphor there, it's kind of a funny metaphor. But nonetheless, that's what a lot of times people pleasers and nice guys manipulation, man-nipple-asian they want the nipple in everything and they're looking for the source outside of themselves.
    So the attachment is the belief, the attachment is the awareness. And a lot of times the attachment is a distraction from feeling your own emotions.
    So the key to this is to actually, and this is something I've been doing recently when it comes to looking at any attachment I have and honestly feeling the patterns in my body that come from childhood and allowing myself to feel it, to heal it.
    Because as you bring awareness into presence, that allows the energy to leave your body from the childhood dynamics.
    Because here's an interesting thing, and this is the second one that I wanna share with you when it comes to the tip to letting go.
    It's understanding that there really is no outside, there really even when you look at the triggers in your life, your friend not calling you back, somebody else saying something to you that ticks you off, somebody else showing up late.
    Whatever the trigger is in your life, you think that it has to do with them. You might think there's a story there. People always do this to me, people are always late. Whatever the story is, the story is a reflection of an energy signature of an energy.
    And the key is realizing that that energy, the story is not true. And the story, whatever the trigger is, that's a messenger.

КОМЕНТАРІ • 469

  • @AaronDoughty44
    @AaronDoughty44  Рік тому +55

    the more you let go, the more you vibration naturally raises! ➡ whatsmyvibration.com/

    • @UniversalManifest
      @UniversalManifest Рік тому +1

      aaron doughty i doing school cumalmitng asignment about vaction there can you tell me about sedona

    • @danmahalo
      @danmahalo Рік тому +3

      When you said: ' are you the nipple? ' made me crack up laughing. but yeah: great video.

    • @gonzo2335
      @gonzo2335 Рік тому

      @@alldayalchemy-jenm. I believe so... 🤔

    • @graceren
      @graceren Рік тому

      @@UniversalManifest 😊😊😊😊😊😊😊s❤

    • @somethingnice9800
      @somethingnice9800 Рік тому

      It's LANGUAGE not LENGUAGE.

  • @Maxhindle
    @Maxhindle Рік тому +358

    I was homeless in Mexico couch surfing since coming back and after being clear on what I wanted, I let go of the stress and manifested the perfect house with everything I wanted for cheaper than I wanted 🤯🤯🤯🤯

    • @DTRMtunes
      @DTRMtunes Рік тому +5

      🙏

    • @ligerllama
      @ligerllama Рік тому +1

      Nifty

    • @sll110
      @sll110 Рік тому +1

      wow

    • @thecurlorista
      @thecurlorista Рік тому +5

      Congratulations! Getting a home after being displaced is such a big blessing! I've been in my place for a year and a half & am still overcome with gratitude for it all the time! So happy for you! 😁👏🏽💓

  • @86Kera
    @86Kera Рік тому +250

    My challenge with letting go is accepting that they will also let me go. I’m hating the experience and the process but the outcome will be worth it. Healing is always worth it.

    • @plantmama7442
      @plantmama7442 Рік тому +40

      You deserve to have someone in your life who wants you in their life as much as you want them in yours:). Let them go… once the pain is processed you can make space for even greater energy ✨

    • @plantmama7442
      @plantmama7442 Рік тому +35

      Also in my experience once I completely let them go and accepted never seeing them again… they came back! But by then you’re so happy & have moved on you don’t even care 😂😂 Life’s a trip.

    • @86Kera
      @86Kera Рік тому +3

      @@plantmama7442 lol that has happened before but thanks for the kind words 😂 and I’m a plant Mama too 😄

    • @grays13371
      @grays13371 Рік тому

      be like whore , think money, have 50 partners a day who cares ? 😂

    • @michelle14548
      @michelle14548 Рік тому +2

      Male nipple lastion 😂 I'm sure that's what I heard

  • @nseriously2704
    @nseriously2704 11 місяців тому +60

    Make a list of wrongs what this person did to u, read it in the morning, during the day, before bed. Everyday. Every day. Every day. Don’t drown in illusions, help yourself… I cried one month everyday, now feel better. Ex is not your entire life, it’s just some part of it. Hugs for everyone! Pain will pass, I promise. Help yourself, support yourself, cry as much as it feels. Respect yourself ❤

    • @xdvriuss
      @xdvriuss 10 місяців тому +1

      Thank you for this ❤️

    • @1970anfield
      @1970anfield 2 місяці тому

      I'll do that thank you ❤

    • @keaunpatterson
      @keaunpatterson Місяць тому

      I needed this

    • @nicole11823
      @nicole11823 22 дні тому

      You're right. Thank you

    • @Jen-K-2024
      @Jen-K-2024 6 днів тому

      I'm crying everyday from him ghosting me for 4 months now. I messaged him I was hurting because of his lack of action when he just kept giving me words for 9 months. Ya his mom got sick as passed away in January but even after she passed he would keep telling me things and never acting on them. So I finally spoke up for myself. And in return after all I did for him and his sick mom, is ignoring me. I want the pain and tears to stop

  • @user-yg5yz9zt7l
    @user-yg5yz9zt7l 9 місяців тому +32

    Just watched this video 3 days ago,I realised I was doing something wrong, I was letting go so that they come to me- Manipulation and I used to get overwhelmed when they don't act the way I thought it.
    This video along with your other videos have been a big help,I set out to be the source of my own happiness and its going so verrrry well ,now I don't care wether he comes back or not ,am enough ,I can be a source of my own happiness 😊

    • @terrijones1167
      @terrijones1167 8 місяців тому +2

      I otally get where you are coming from....yes....letting go as a form of manipulating outcomes❤❤

  • @TwoStepPete567
    @TwoStepPete567 9 місяців тому +19

    So basically, I've been afraid of loosing someone and being attached to that fear of abandonment has kept me from letting go..when In reality, the person and situation is already gone. And obviously, I survived and didn't need it anyway. So knowing now that there's nothing to fear because it's already happened, means I can choose to accept it and let it go. Why fear a storm that's already passed over!! Thanks, I've binged your letting go videos several times over the last few years..and the sad part is, it's always because of the same avoidant person......

  • @sam.144
    @sam.144 Рік тому +18

    I figured out last week that Ive been avoiding sadness and grief for 35 years

  • @aztradescrypto
    @aztradescrypto 7 місяців тому +20

    You have NO IDEA how many people you are helping with this information!!! I’m going through codependency attachments. Going through divorce and it’s like I have lost my identity without him. I was super strong and independent before him, I cannot recognise myself after him. I need him to be happy all the time. Now he’s gone I feel like he’s taken my happiness with him 😢

    • @NinaDewone
      @NinaDewone 5 місяців тому +4

      Noooo!!!! Your happiness is up to you! You have to find it Deep within your innermost being. Its too many GOOD MEN IN THIS BIG WORLD....DON'T LET JUST THAT ONE HAVE THAT KINDA POWER OVER YOU....THE DEVIL IS LIER!!! YOU ARE A QUEEN! GOD CREATED YOU TO BE JUST THAT. NOW STRAIGHTEN UP YOUR CROWN BE HAPPY QUEEN!! READ SCRIPTURES, PRAY, PRAISE AND TRUST THAT GOD CAN AND SAY....GOD WILL GIVE ME BACK MY HAPPINESS WITHOUT HIM. BELIEVE IT AND CONTINUE TO SPEAK IT!!!
      YOU ARE STRONGER THAN YOU THINK!!! Praying for you.

  • @angelinasamson6996
    @angelinasamson6996 Рік тому +37

    Emotional attachment is what I am attached too
    I’m working on finding my own emotional fulfilment .. ❤

  • @Starlight-qr7cq
    @Starlight-qr7cq Рік тому +88

    16:46 (Tip 5# Feel the Trigger) "...Until you feel it, you will continue to attract it. All the outer reality is, is a reflection of the inner emotional state..." Thankyou Aaron, so powerful, life changing 🙏🙏

    • @joev7014
      @joev7014 Рік тому +2

      I don’t get it

    • @jessicalong6011
      @jessicalong6011 8 місяців тому

      I believe he is saying that until you recognize the unhealthy feelings, traumas, experiences, or emotions that you have inside, why they are there, and actually feel them (shed light on them); you will not be able to heal them. A lot of times they are there and you do not know it and it comes on in many ways. When you become aware of why you are doing, feeling, believing, thinking, and living the way that you do because of bad past experiences, you will show up for yourself and become different by healing those places and others will be able to see this change on the outside. You do it so that you can live a better more peaceful loving life and give that to others rather than the bad that you had inside. It’s like, you feel sick. The doctor tells you that you have a disease but does not tell you what it is. How will you heal it if you don’t know what it is? They will have ask questions, run analysis, dive deep, discover when the symptoms occurred and where the disease ( came from) etc. in order to correctly provide a solution or cure. Idk… That’s what I think…

    • @karmasutra4774
      @karmasutra4774 3 місяці тому

      We need all the tips outlined like this

  • @RealTalk-mq2ug
    @RealTalk-mq2ug Рік тому +12

    Please God help me to always remember these 4 things when it comes to my friendship with him...
    1) This is about HIM. HIS BEAHVIOR. This does not reflect in any way, whatsoever, on my own worth.
    2) My self esteem needs boosting and healing; this is why the loss of him, leaves me so despaired.
    3) I'm in the driver's seat. It's not just up to him to dictate how this is going to go!
    4) I need to be with myself, invested in my self, present with me.

  • @janenuss6
    @janenuss6 Рік тому +119

    This channel is so high value. Thank you for breaking this information down 🙏🏻

    • @shjh798
      @shjh798 Рік тому +4

      He's one of the best on here :) Helped me so much...

    • @ollieewin4757
      @ollieewin4757 Рік тому +3

      Yeah letting go is pretty insane, feels like dying while I simultaneously start feeling more and more like myself, the more I do that the more cool things start to happen and The more I enjoy life too, also I’ve got a bunch of comedy skits on my channel about this sort of thing that you might like too! 😈🎉💪👍🔥🕺🏻🏋️‍♂️💥☯️

  • @prior2915
    @prior2915 Рік тому +11

    finding this channel has begun to change my life.
    i moved to Seattle a month ago after years of feeling like i was stuck. shortly after moving i realized that no matter where i went, there i was. Sure i was better because of the change in environment but somewhere in my mind i had an unrealistic expectation that if i moved to the place i wanted to live in i would automatically align to the person i always wanted to be. And thats just not how it works, i quickly realized i was still the exact same person, and although i took one huge leap there is so much work to be done. i am excited and terrified at the same time but there is nothing scarier than staying the same as the person you don’t like being. i don’t want the past to continue interfering with my life. (another scary part is that i recognize all the people i attract are the exact same people/type of people)
    to anybody that is feeling stuck i want you to know that you are one choice away from changing everything, believe me. take care!
    and thank you aaron for helping us out, this video was a necessary 10 out of 10

    • @santabala6314
      @santabala6314 7 місяців тому +1

      Same, i attracts the same people event they looks physically too, how can i change that pattern, i don’t want to be hurt again and again!

  • @imyourwifesbigdsidepiece5048
    @imyourwifesbigdsidepiece5048 8 місяців тому +5

    Found your channel only a week ago, after watching countless “breakup” channels (bc I was dumped) your way of thinking changed everything for me. Especially the analogy of her being just a cameo in my life, not the other way around.

  • @SCnative64
    @SCnative64 2 місяці тому +2

    My counselor even told me that my Ex GF was also somewhat of a Mother figure (the teat) because she was so nurturing and giving. Aaron is correct. And I was avoidant. I'm working on myself. I did have CPTSD and learned the wrong lesson about what love is.
    But she had it hard too, like she was forced to take care of her Mom and her brothers and Sisters. Didn't even have time to do her High School homework. Then she moved away to be a Nanny, met her abusive husband and had 3 kids.
    Still, she was able to be there for them as a single Mom, and she was able to show up, for me.
    This one is hard to let go. Really hard.
    And at the end of the day, we aren't together having Sunday dinner and movie together. And in the morning there's no texts. It's just me crawling in my skin (sorry Linkin Park) inside a massive void that is my life now.

  • @aribarragan3680
    @aribarragan3680 Рік тому +40

    This was so powerful and spot on! Thank you.
    I realized I kept attracting the same experiences to relieve the trauma cause there was painful memories unsolved and not processed pain. 💯❤️🔥✨

  • @ninetta_k
    @ninetta_k 9 місяців тому +11

    7 is when I lost my mom.. im 42 now going thru all the healing from my whole life.. I treated myself so horribly..things I've went thru, put myself thru, allowed myself to go thru I can write books..
    I now see it all.. had a SA 7 weeks ago and been working on my heart, grief, guilt, pain ,all of it.. im doing meditations and letting myself feel all those pains.. crying like a baby and purging.. and I'm already feeling so much better.. honoponopono has been a game changer.. also doing guided meditations and all the visions (also seen my mom, was insane!) And yoga ... my life's changing for thr better soon quick!!. ❤

    • @biatae2713
      @biatae2713 6 місяців тому +1

      What you’ve written is so powerful. I hope you’re doing well now that it’s been a couple of months since your comment. Praying for healing and blessings to you.

    • @karmasutra4774
      @karmasutra4774 3 місяці тому

      I just learned about that practice recently and have been trying the guided meditations

  • @jaimehoneybunny7462
    @jaimehoneybunny7462 5 місяців тому +7

    Its so hard to let go. I dont deserve to be abandoned.

  • @she_noob_4_life241
    @she_noob_4_life241 Рік тому +4

    This is another way of saying allowing change, sometimes we are in circumstances thats not healthy but still in fear of change.
    Started to allow feelings be my guidance system and accept all spectrum of feelings.

  • @davidc.2878
    @davidc.2878 8 місяців тому +11

    I wonder if you could make a video about that kind of attachment where you are attached NOT to what you want, but to what you don't want: negative relationships, negative outcomes, negative self-concepts, etc. You usually talk about letting go of our desire for things we want (health, money, love), but a lot of us neurotic people pleasers are actually attached to outcomes and situations we don't want. How do we let go of these attachments? I'd appreciate your insights about this very much. I love your energy and insights! Thank you!!

  • @skamnaks
    @skamnaks Рік тому +3

    You dont know how much you have helped me... When ever i feel the fear i come and listen to your videos.. And then i can breath again. Thank you..

  • @Thefew12
    @Thefew12 Рік тому +11

    I love how he explains it because I crack up 😂 through my pain. It’s so true

  • @lamaelcharif1523
    @lamaelcharif1523 Рік тому +5

    Not getting attached to people is so hard.
    Especially when we really like them.
    I struggle with attachment too.
    I try to make sense of it all the time.
    You know what I found helpful, just giving up, on not getting attached.
    I accepted that I am going to get attached to certain people. It's natural. The trick is to get attached to someone, who can be fully available for me.
    They might be a kind and loving person but they might not be fully available for me. Choose who chooses you.
    You cannot fully resolve all your traumas on your own.
    Relational trauma is cured through relationships with others.
    Others who chose you, who can be fully there for you.
    Fear of abandonment can be fully resolved if you have a loving, caring, stable person in your circle.
    This video was so deep.
    Really therapeutic
    Thank you Aaron!
    Feel it to heal it!

  • @vikkinannenga738
    @vikkinannenga738 6 місяців тому +1

    I can't tell you how much you have helped me with my growth over the past few years! I have shared your podcasts with multiple people over the past 3 years. You are on the RIGHT path! Keep going!!

  • @debrabloch3003
    @debrabloch3003 Рік тому +4

    Very deep on this one
    I'm gonna listen to this twice.
    People pleaser to .anger....to loss... to grief...to heart break 💔

  • @aboorashi
    @aboorashi 7 місяців тому +3

    The day you decide finally to let her go, the tears will roll down your face and with it the pain. You need to let her go. It took me 90 days after breakup to make the heavy decision of letting her go.

  • @muziek121161
    @muziek121161 6 місяців тому +2

    Thank you, Aaron. You're one of the best. You explain things in a simple, clear and understandable way. ❤

  • @higher.frequency
    @higher.frequency 9 місяців тому +1

    Omg this video! Unbelievable, thank you! At the end, where he’s talking about not blaming and shooting the messenger, I realized I started doing this both when I decided to not complain anymore at all under any circumstances and when I learned everything in life is a lesson and the people who trigger you are your teachers. Something triggering happens, you immediately thank the universe for the lesson, and that stops all resistance and blaming and all the negativity that would normally ensue. Taking responsibility for ALL in your experience (ho’oponopono) is the key to everything, to true personal and spiritual growth. Thank Aaron for you time, knowledge and energy! God bless ✨

  • @imdvd
    @imdvd Рік тому +4

    Your videos are absolutely mind blowing. Im only 3 videos in and all I got to say is that I am grateful for you. Things changed inside of me the 1st evening I listened to your videos. Thank you blonde Jesus 😆

  • @pie-eyes
    @pie-eyes 4 місяці тому +1

    I had those EXACT dreams all through my early childhood and occasionally now as an adult. Thank you for this video, it is extremely relatable.

  • @DaisyAruba
    @DaisyAruba Рік тому +6

    I think that’s me too. Having ocd, adhd, & gad all anxiety based disorders. Growing up with a sick Mom as the youngest out of 4, but no guidance from my siblings or parents. I was essentially well I became the one who watched over our Mom, and so I realized during the last 3 years that being uncomfortable/fear is my lack of no control. I can’t control what I don’t know. I feel like ocd developed from thinking I would stop the sickness from my Mom, fighting parents, etc., completing my compulsions/impulsiveness. Despite not having a life with friends but instead being codependent with my mom and older sister who needed me. I didn’t understand codependency until 2022. I just didn’t get it until a therapist pointed it out.

    • @ollieewin4757
      @ollieewin4757 Рік тому

      Yeah letting go is pretty insane, feels like dying while I simultaneously start feeling more and more like myself, the more I do that the more cool things start to happen and The more I enjoy life too, also I’ve got a bunch of comedy skits on my channel about this sort of thing that you might like too! 😈🎉💪👍🔥🕺🏻🏋️‍♂️💥☯️

  • @fionaj_artgold4875
    @fionaj_artgold4875 Рік тому +33

    Being a survivor of a narcissist ex husband, I healed enough to let go and put myself first. The hardest is letting go of my family, including my mother, and 3 of my four adult children who have been alienated by him. However, not having contact and not being retraumatised gives me peace.🥰

    • @gonzo2335
      @gonzo2335 Рік тому +2

      A narcissist always puts themselves first 🤣

    • @SA-px3ln
      @SA-px3ln Рік тому +2

      How did you heal of letting go narcissist family? I’m trauma bond had ex narc too.

    • @apoorvat4245
      @apoorvat4245 Рік тому +4

      @@SA-px3ln becoming aware of the story attached belief and the labels. Then accept it.and move ahead.healinh isn't linear...it's a wave hv up days and down days..I've healed though not totally

    • @SA-px3ln
      @SA-px3ln Рік тому +1

      @@apoorvat4245 pain abuse is story and they won’t stop abusing. How do I accept this? The story is they abusive and I can’t get them stop. So just keep taking it?

    • @apoorvat4245
      @apoorvat4245 Рік тому +3

      @@SA-px3ln change the label and belief.there will be a childhood inner child story tht would've attracted tht person to you..heal tht wound.. Aaron Doughty has an inner child meditation tht really works. Try out

  • @GenX19913
    @GenX19913 Рік тому +3

    We should always put ourselves first. Letting go is hard but once you realize you have those attachments and they're toxic as hell it gets easier. I was in a 25 year horrible marriage and kept telling myself it's love . But it was far from it. Narcissist don't really know how to love. I should know I had many of them in my life and cut them loose. Sadly one was even my stepdaughter who I raised since 1 years old.

  • @diananatsch2013
    @diananatsch2013 7 місяців тому +2

    I always come back to this video when I need it in my life. Thank you Aaron.

  • @AsheetingBull
    @AsheetingBull Рік тому +14

    Great metaphor for manipulation, I’ve never heard that one before. “Feel it to heal it”, another great one. This video is full of gems 💎 one of your best…

  • @ms.porsche8816
    @ms.porsche8816 Рік тому +20

    You always have the right words. Thank you for sharing this 💜

  • @SnowyRains
    @SnowyRains Рік тому +12

    People don’t do things because they don’t want to.. the sooner I learned to accept that the less disappointed I got

  • @VirtuallySpiritualP
    @VirtuallySpiritualP Рік тому +20

    This is a great addition to my therapy sessions 😂
    Thank you Aaron!

  • @tgray747
    @tgray747 Рік тому +9

    Wow, this was powerful!!! It made me think and reflect deeply. Still reflecting on it. So insightful! This could be a huge turning point for me now as a 50 something year old man. Whoa!!! Thank you Aaron! I am blown away right now.

    • @theoriginal7727
      @theoriginal7727 Рік тому +1

      44 here, been healing through 17 years in AA recovery. But the last couple of years, going much deeper after abusive relationships with personality disorder people. Looking much more deeply at these first 7 to 15 years and why I have so many subconscious patterns that I have kept creating so many problems in my life, when on the conscious level. I don’t want any of the crap this been happening in the past decade! However, old we get, deep change is still available. ❤🎉❤🎉❤🎉❤🎉

  • @natacouture
    @natacouture Рік тому +5

    Aaron being the best and getting me through all 2022! Thanks for your pearls of wisdom.

  • @TheMediumChannel
    @TheMediumChannel Рік тому +10

    All these tips and techniques are very helpful and appreciated. Mahalo..
    For me just being dedicated to my Presence practice and working with the frequencies of the heart have been the silver bullet and I know because a situation came up where in the past I would held on for months and obsess forever lol.... I've been able to let it go with ease, stay in the present..stay in my heart and thereby stay in my power. This for me is what makes all other techniques work. Blessings Aaron and community

    • @liv16851
      @liv16851 Рік тому

      A question, I would appreciate your answer, we attract through the heart or through the mind

  • @roseyred1010
    @roseyred1010 Рік тому +3

    You are changing my life. Thanks deeply! I haven’t found another who’s words resonate and teach me as much as yours.

  • @Nitronerd
    @Nitronerd Рік тому +5

    You showed me something. That is when I have an appointment or meeting, I'm almost always on time. Other's being late is a powerful and common trigger in me. I have literally broken off relationships because people "disrespected" my time.
    The trigger phrase is, "Sorry, something came up."
    That phrase, as I said, is intolerable. I have broken off relationships when they use that excuse.
    When I was a toddler, it's an excuse my mother used when she promised to come and see me and never showed. That happened multiple times.
    After one such episode, my grandmother told me, "She doesn't care about you, that you hurt. She only cares about herself."
    Now, I will feel that pain.
    Thank you.

    • @ollieewin4757
      @ollieewin4757 Рік тому

      Yeah letting go is pretty insane, feels like dying while I simultaneously start feeling more and more like myself, the more I do that the more cool things start to happen and The more I enjoy life too, also I’ve got a bunch of comedy skits on my channel about this sort of thing that you might like too! 🔥💪👍☯️🎉🕺🏻🏋️‍♂️😈

  • @j.m.b.greengardens968
    @j.m.b.greengardens968 7 днів тому

    I would add that for me, in addition to early childhood, adolescence was another particularly critical time of life for emotional trauma. I suspect it is for many other folks, based on my observation and reading. I would also add that shame is another extremely powerful emotion that can get very easily triggered. My experience so far (or rather my interpretation of my experience) tells me that feeling safe is the key to letting go. The more parts of ourselves, many from early childhood, as you point out, who do not feel safe, the more difficulty we will have in letting go of outcome. When any part of us does not feel safe in a particular situation, that part will want to have as much control in that situation as possible, hence be unwilling to let go of that control or desire for control, something that that part is usually quite willing to do once they feel safe. One of the techniques, or healing modalities, that I have used to do that is Internal Family Systems Therapy, developed by Dr. Richard C. Schwartz. It literally saved my life. You have spoken of healing your inner child in other videos - VERY important, and thank-you for helping to bring that to folks' awareness. Internal Family Systems Therapy is an expanded version of that.

  • @slackingoffagain
    @slackingoffagain 25 днів тому

    Ive been not listening yo you even tho you are all over my algorithm. I listened you this video ans now ive converted. You have real substance.

  • @desertrose111
    @desertrose111 Рік тому +14

    2023 motto: Stay away from Covid and Flu for physical health, stay away from lower vibrational people for mental health. Because mental health IS health. Practice detachment and stoicism is self-love. Choosing to adjust his absence than to be continuously frustrated by his presence IS self-love. Don't let your loneliness make you run back to someone who can only love you in your absence but not your presence.

  • @thesocialfox_
    @thesocialfox_ Рік тому +3

    I just started my own YoutTube channel 1 month ago and I am trying to let go of the outcome and just enjoy the process of making videos !

  • @Multiamono
    @Multiamono Рік тому +7

    THANK YOU SO MUCH! Your authenticity is so inspiring. The vibes you give off are total guru. You have really got to be vibing at a frequency to bring this video into your awareness. Anyways, I think a lot and I'm getting closer to letting that idea go. Your video is awesome. :)

  • @connyfrankfurt
    @connyfrankfurt 8 місяців тому +2

    Awesome!!!My favourite❤soooo helpful for empaths!Thank you!!!!!❤❤❤

  • @valeriev4465
    @valeriev4465 9 місяців тому

    Never thought that I will watch this type of video. Yes, came here after a hard attachment and now trying to fix myself, get into that harmony and peace with myself❤ thank you for your videos, I find them healers❤

  • @annastyles7445
    @annastyles7445 Рік тому +6

    Your videos are life changing ❤ thank you for being a source of knowledge and positivity 🎉 I admire your work and passion 🙏🏻 god bless you always

  • @yoursocialmediaassistant-d1827

    Cried and laughed during this video. So powerful and relevant, thank you

  • @Lililili-oz2ht
    @Lililili-oz2ht Рік тому

    It's striking how helpful it is even for someone who is grieving the loss of a loved one, or someone who is about to die, in one's family for example. I have noticed twice some helpful advice, one is this video is the metaphor of the phone and the attachment aka the story we put on it. That is helpful to transpose the object of the metaphor onto the dead person's belongings and memories that are triggering the sadness, and intense feelings derived from them. So let the emotion come, do not oppose resistance, and I would add to this that once you've done this : let go of (not get rid of) the object that reminds you the dead one once and for all and you will be giving birth to something new within yourself.
    Plutonic and maybe off topic comment but necessary to me and others I hope.

  • @shinons
    @shinons 2 місяці тому

    Im 54 years old. In therapy etc etc, Aaron ist the best, such a talent❤

  • @mistymenou6709
    @mistymenou6709 Рік тому +3

    Been on the “feel it to heal it” pretty hardcore lately!!! Thanks for everything AARON!!!! I’m forever grateful & putting you the next full moon ceremony prayer/money candles, incense for intentions, all the good witch shit. Nothing evil lol lmao

  • @saintchristy
    @saintchristy Місяць тому

    I love you Aaron 😘 You help me so much. Thank you. 🙏🏼 (it trips me out so much that you look just like my son! Lol) I think I've said this in comments like a few times now so I hope I'm not creeping you out! I just watch your videos often when I'm needing some guidance and wisdom! So thank you from the bottom of my heart. I appreciate you and what you're doing.

  • @Mary-hq2xb
    @Mary-hq2xb Рік тому

    I was married for 30 years at the time of my divorce. I decided to start dating about a year ago and in May 2022 I met someone and we dated for 7 months. We both have adult children and we are close to 60 years old. I have a physical challenge but to me it never has been a challenge. I took care of my home, laundry, raised 2 amazing children who are now responsible, successful people. My “challenge” did not seem to be an issue with this person until he visited his daughter. He developed an attitude, a rude tone, and basically was a jerk. I am having a hard time getting over this breakup and I don’t know why. But, after watching this video, I am letting go of that person and the relationship. I am working on me because I’m worth more than his treatment. Thank you for this video.

    • @Mary-hq2xb
      @Mary-hq2xb Рік тому

      @@noolie62 thank you very much!

  • @waliaxmed787
    @waliaxmed787 2 місяці тому

    Your good teacher there's no way I can pay you back by my side I just can say to you thank you 🙏 and GOD BLESS YOU 🙏 ❤❤GOD BLESS YOU

  • @thisverymomentmeditation
    @thisverymomentmeditation Рік тому +3

    Love the Trampoline in the back

  • @user-ch7os6es7z
    @user-ch7os6es7z Місяць тому

    I was made to believe that my feelings don't matter by my ex-husband, but when my ex bf broke up with me, I let out all my anger, frustration, and tears out. I have been working through all those feelings and I feel so much better. I come first!!

  • @marciamorgan5316
    @marciamorgan5316 Рік тому +5

    It does feel that when we let these triggers go and emotions, grief our identity has gone, it feels like we are looking for ourselves.

    • @JesusLovesEVERYTHING
      @JesusLovesEVERYTHING Рік тому

      When I had a nervous breakdown (it sucked at the time but it saved me from myself) when I came out of it and wanted to start going outside.. there was a loss of who I was. But it's true because I'm nowhere near being that same person.. although sometimes I do revert back out fear, that's why I watched this video lol

    • @marciamorgan5316
      @marciamorgan5316 Рік тому

      @@JesusLovesEVERYTHING ❤️

  • @SilverLining444
    @SilverLining444 Рік тому

    listening to you and Joseph Murphy is something I recommend everyone to do who wants to build a stronger mind

  • @jessl8475
    @jessl8475 8 місяців тому +1

    Thankyou for putting this in perspective. This video came to me at the right time.

  • @jesslaughs408
    @jesslaughs408 10 місяців тому +1

    Thank you for being so helpful ❤ i get interesting visions and insights when I meditate. One night I got “a UA-camr doesn’t always stay a UA-camr forever”
    I am not a UA-camr, but you are Aaron. You can be a UA-camr and someone that does live events, but it is probably time for that transition to move forward. If you want it, it’s yours.
    This video helped me a lot thank you !

  • @LeviAckerman-du5ch
    @LeviAckerman-du5ch Рік тому +1

    Feeling the emotion behind the story, that was the key for me

  • @aurorahaziri3240
    @aurorahaziri3240 Рік тому +6

    Thanks for this video Aaron, your videos have helped me a lot through a really turbulent time in my life.

    • @ollieewin4757
      @ollieewin4757 Рік тому

      Yeah letting go is pretty insane, feels like dying while I simultaneously start feeling more and more like myself, the more I do that the more cool things start to happen and The more I enjoy life too, also I’ve got a bunch of comedy skits on my channel about this sort of thing that you might like too! 😈🎉💪👍🔥🕺🏻🏋️‍♂️💥☯️

  • @nicoler7964
    @nicoler7964 Рік тому +8

    Aaron can you do a video on processing the emotions. I find it so difficult to feel the emotions because it so painful. The rejection and hurt becomes so unbearable.

  • @FennHerself
    @FennHerself Рік тому +3

    Literally teared up at the near end of this video. What you do is so impactful Aaron. Definitely hope to work with you one day!

    • @chibukun
      @chibukun 11 місяців тому

      Same ✌️

  • @morningstar3718
    @morningstar3718 Рік тому

    This video spoke tobme more than most others. I realize there are a lot of things from when i was a kid that im still allowing to affect my beliefs.

  • @ragegamer1642
    @ragegamer1642 3 місяці тому

    I did this yesterday!! Niw i can finally find myself again and be at peace!!!

  • @SuperKatdancer
    @SuperKatdancer 3 місяці тому

    This is good!!!! I deal with abandonment issues because of those early years in my life too. I became a people pleaser. The root is fear/anger. I get mad at the people now that use me because they know I’m a people pleaser. If I start the frame meditation will that help me stop this cycle from repeating? The saying yes, the giving to be used and abused!!! Then more anger and hurt. Over and over!!! I want it to end! All of these people are narcissist that do this too. Like my parents.

  • @tophercyphers369
    @tophercyphers369 Рік тому

    A thank you Aaron. I have a lot of past trauma with the way my parents have treated me and I have been running away from it my whole life.

  • @juleswest2898
    @juleswest2898 Рік тому +2

    Some really extraordinary nuggets of wisdom here today. Thank you 🙏🏻

  • @heathergibson5276
    @heathergibson5276 Рік тому +1

    I have that same driving dream at times when I'm not in control of my life. Actually had one last week after not having it for over a year

  • @louiegutierrez9042
    @louiegutierrez9042 Рік тому +2

    Thank you for saving my life brother

  • @Tamara-mr9he
    @Tamara-mr9he 10 місяців тому

    I believe the hardest thing for me with letting go of my ex is him moving on with out our son, my other kids and I. We had the family, we had the future planned out. 3 days before he ended it we were still talking about our future, even down to the animals we were going to have when we moved. He told me he loved me even after the break up. None of it makes sense with his reason for ending it, and because I’m an anxious attachment and an over thinker I can’t help but think he left me for someone else or cheated. I genuinely love him and our family.

  • @lautinajero
    @lautinajero Рік тому +2

    I like how you break it all down 🤯

  • @chibukun
    @chibukun 11 місяців тому +3

    How do you integrate the grief from the past childhood abandonment to let go of the anger and fear? I think this is what makes me anxious in my present day relationships.

  • @greenpoo72
    @greenpoo72 3 місяці тому

    I perceived him as an evil manipulating man, when he’s really just a sweet kind hearted guy, I let my past traumas project onto him. I would get angry out of fear, now I realize he was always kind, we were just in different head spaces. Either way we aren’t meant for one another. I hope he’s doing good and I hope he forgives me for my behavior. I miss him and I wish I could have seen him for who he really was. I love myself and I pour into myself.

  • @maryhuang5832
    @maryhuang5832 Рік тому +4

    Thank you Aaron for your profound message ❤️

  • @terraluna888
    @terraluna888 Рік тому +4

    Love the way you explain these concepts. Thank you🌈✨🌻🍄🪬🫶🏼

  • @juleha1
    @juleha1 Місяць тому

    how i managed to move on from my ex is to block everything. before that i always stalked him EVERYDAY EVERY LITTLE OF HIS DETAIL. and when i decided to stop for months, and when i came back to just checking him how he was, (he has a gf at that point) it’s not even painful anymore. i don’t really feel anything. ignorance is bliss. if i can do it, you should too. :)

  • @Librajen1004
    @Librajen1004 9 місяців тому

    This video is absolutely amazing and will help me beyond belief! Can’t wait to do the meditation!! Thank you so much 🙏♥️

  • @Wittylee8828
    @Wittylee8828 Рік тому +2

    I totally love your advices
    Am letting go of my ex he hurt me so much and now it's that time I moveon peacefully

  • @Purpledteams108
    @Purpledteams108 Рік тому +5

    So grateful for this video ❤❤❤❤

  • @abdulc5726
    @abdulc5726 Рік тому +5

    Thank you Aaron. Love your work x

  • @gadget1384
    @gadget1384 3 місяці тому

    I have anxious style attachment And just now realizing where it comes from. Thank you

  • @CobaltLobo
    @CobaltLobo Рік тому +3

    This popped up at such a good time, thank you Aaron 🙏 ❤

  • @huriheihei3522
    @huriheihei3522 11 місяців тому

    I've just realized I had an attachment to my mother who passed away when I was 4yrs old, has effected my relationships. I feel i can finally let go.

  • @zainabamadahy9918
    @zainabamadahy9918 11 місяців тому

    This has been so helpful. I understand what I'm experiencing so much better now. THANK YOU!

  • @cathygoltsoff9615
    @cathygoltsoff9615 Рік тому +2

    I want to accept the things I can not change. I also want to release with love and goodness.

    • @ollieewin4757
      @ollieewin4757 Рік тому

      Yeah letting go is pretty insane, feels like dying while I simultaneously start feeling more and more like myself, the more I do that the more cool things start to happen and The more I enjoy life too, also I’ve got a bunch of comedy skits on my channel about this sort of thing that you might like too! 😈🎉💪👍🔥🕺🏻🏋️‍♂️💥☯️

  • @dannycolwell8028
    @dannycolwell8028 11 місяців тому +2

    I wish I could afford a good therapist. There’s so much I need to talk about.

  • @mariburns8758
    @mariburns8758 9 місяців тому

    well that's eerie. I feel down an emotional hole recently over something not major. And I rememberc the last time was about 7 years ago.

  • @aspiemom6044
    @aspiemom6044 7 місяців тому

    I could not love this video more, thank you!! 🙏🏼

  • @nathalialuz1758
    @nathalialuz1758 Рік тому +3

    It’s always the bloody childhood..
    Triggers are blessings 🙏

  • @Lilwhitelily
    @Lilwhitelily Місяць тому

    This is great! It helps, I think I might have to rewatch the nipple analogy bc I can’t stop laughing 😂😂😂

  • @TravelMamaAnnaVon
    @TravelMamaAnnaVon Рік тому +1

    You got me Aaron. Signed up for another 21 day challenge. Ready to move some of this stuff out

  • @terrancemcclendon456
    @terrancemcclendon456 Рік тому +3

    Feel it to heal it

  • @evgeniyajangel4264
    @evgeniyajangel4264 9 місяців тому

    Aaron, thank you! You're helping me so much, I wish you the best❤

  • @winniewinkles
    @winniewinkles Рік тому +1

    Woop Aaron in da house! Super smart video dude, thank you.