🔴Things That Hurt And Break A Narcissist's Heart More Than 'No Contact' | Narcissism | NPD
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Are you grappling with a narcissist, and you're curious about what can truly wound them? I understand you might believe that a narcissist can be hurt by indifference, but I am about to reveal something that will inflict even more pain on them.
So, let's delve into four elements that will cause more discomfort to a narcissist than the 'No Contact' approach. It's a widely accepted notion that 'No Contact' deeply wounds the narcissist, isn't it? But let's examine what actually fuels a narcissist's psyche. Because to comprehend what can hurt a narcissist, we must first unravel what drives a narcissist, okay?
A narcissist is an individual who derives their worth from external validation. They lack an inherent sense of self-worth, leaving them feeling utterly hollow on the inside, as if a metaphorical black hole resides within them. This creates a feeling of perpetual hunger, a suffocating sensation akin to being deprived of air or oxygen. This constant state of survival mode dictates that they must seek their oxygen - or validation - from people, from you, or from the world outside.
Unfortunately, this inner void is incapable of retaining anything; it's an abyss that can never be filled. It's an endless emptiness that they desperately want you to fill, but doing so only leaves you drained, while they remain in a state of constant hunger or gasping for breath. This destructive cycle repeats itself indefinitely, leaving you feeling utterly depleted, as if your soul has been vacuumed out of you, while they continue to starve. This relentless cycle perpetuates, and that's the harsh reality of dealing with a narcissist.
"Disclaimer: The information provided in this video is for educational purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. If you suspect you or someone you know may be involved with a narcissist, or are dealing with any psychological issues, please consult a qualified healthcare professional. This content is shared to offer insights and perspectives and should not be considered as professional or medical counsel."
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Who cares what hurts them more than no contact, before we separated all I thought about was the pain I felt.
Thank you for sharing your perspective. It's absolutely valid to prioritize your own feelings and wellbeing, especially after experiencing pain. The focus of discussions about what hurts a narcissist is often more about understanding their reactions and behaviors rather than causing them harm. Continue prioritizing your healing and self-care. Stay strong.
Thank you for your response, I understand what the discussion was about, I've never been a revengeful or vindictive person, however I can say I went through a period when I didn't give a damn about what happened to him. He didn't care about my feelings, that's how angry I had become. Healing has a lot to do with my attitude shifting, however I don't want anything to do with him period.
@@josephinefaison5849You are right I don't want anything to do with my ex either let him sort his evil attitude out with his new supply I'm very happy now he's gone for 16 months peace and quiet in my life again but I'm still struggling with my attitude because I'm always in defence mode with other people after all the abuse I went through with him and over sensitive 😢
Ty I needed to hear this bc it was hard for me to break away from my husband but I finally found the strength to walk away. I filed for my divorce and I'm healing and moving forward. They hurt u and make you feel as low as they are. But I had to learn my worth
You are a Narcissist. Of course you feel and are thinking about your pains. After someone has Finally taking it passed, just ignoring you. Feel the burn Narcissist.😭
The narc’s abyss will become your abyss. When you realize you are with a narcissist leave if you can and never look back.
Thank you for your insightful comment. Your advice about recognizing a narcissist and making the decision to leave is extremely valuable. Stay strong and continue sharing your wisdom.
My thought is, do they really care if they’ve been dating and sleeping with random people? I find it hard to believe their feelings can be hurt. They never had feelings but their own the whole entire time of the relationship. My feelings never mattered, so why should I bother or care about what they think or how they feel? I’ve never felt so repulsed against anyone like I have him. There’s no way they can endure the pain they caused and left us with.
I care deeply about others, but this type of person made me prejudice against them. No thank you, I wish I never met him
Thank you for sharing your personal experience and feelings. It's clear that you've been through a lot of pain. It's understandable to feel repulsed and not want to care about someone who seemed to not care about your feelings. It's important to focus on your own healing and well-being. Stay strong and continue to care for others as you do. You're not alone in this.
No, I don’t cause those poor women they’re gonna be so disappointed. He was always afraid of picking up some random woman, and not being able to perform and have them put it out in the streets that he was no good. He was very cautious before he met me who he slept with, that’s why he had rebound exes to go have sex withvery seldom anyone knew he didn’t trust them
Just want them out of my life. I dont want to continue to hurt anyone. I pray God fixes them . None of us are saints.
Thank you for sharing your feelings. It's commendable that, despite your experiences, you're showing empathy and not wishing harm upon anyone. The focus of discussions about what hurts a narcissist is often more about understanding their reactions and behaviors rather than causing them harm. Stay strong and keep moving forward.
Keep your focus on yourself, this is why no contact is important. Give yourself some empathy and kindness. Ask God for understanding, he will answer. Your only concern should be on your healing and moving forward.
I just got dumped by a narcissist. She had been my friend for over 5 years. I put up with many disrespectful, cruel insults and put downs from her and a friend of hers throughout our friendship. When I finally had had enough mental and emotional abuse and tried to set a boundary to let her know I would no longer allow her or her good friend to continue treating me this way. She reacted by ending the friendship. Seems she would rather do that than start treating me as a friend should.
I'm sorry to hear about your experience. It's important to remember that you've taken a crucial step in setting boundaries and standing up for yourself. It's tough to lose a long-time friend, but your mental and emotional well-being always come first. Stay strong and take care of yourself.
I have broke up with my narcissist,it's only been 3 days..reading your experience is like my own almost down to a tee.They must all be from the same tree of lies.
Forgive and forget for yourself. Take time to heal and reflect on what you will allow from people moving forward. You are number one, two, and three, don't you ever forget that. Let her abuse someone else.
LOL they all go to Narcc. University, I'am so glad she is gone, the worst experience ever for me.@@GigiTorres-mz8ox
I just broke up with my narcissist bf because. I caught him cheating on me. I met him on a dating app, and that's where he connects with other women's. I screenshot his profile and wrote a liar and cheater across his face. I was done! I blocked him first and changed my number today! These are some bad people...
I'm so sorry to hear about what you've been through. It takes a lot of strength and courage to walk away from such a toxic relationship, and you should be proud of yourself for taking that step. Remember, it's important to take care of yourself and seek support if you need it during this time. You're not alone, and there are many people who have gone through similar experiences and can offer understanding and guidance. Stay strong and continue to prioritize your wellbeing. Thank you for sharing your story; it could potentially help others facing similar situations.
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Gooood for you!!! You just dodged a lifetime of hate. KEEP STRONG 💪🏾 NEVER EVER GO BACK!! 🙌🏾🙌🏻🙌🏿
Narcissists dont have a heart to break.
Thank you for your comment. It can indeed feel like narcissists lack emotional depth or empathy, which is a challenging aspect of their personality.
For several months I tried to understand certain behaviours . Initially I would be fraught, angry and very frustrated . Then I started to notice just how vulnerable these people were during their predictable abusive moments. It was like flicking a switch .
As time passed their ways became more insidious as their true identity would rear its ugly head.
Yes they are extremely self righteous and selfish to the point of disbelief. They are users , complete reliant users. They are like children using at times very obvious manipulation . Everything is about them .
Of course they can seem personable but they are selective as to who and when. Again to suit their needs , never yours.
They are people astute , they home in on your mood and that is when their abuse becomes worse. Or you become an inconvenience due to ill health for example . Any aspect that does not suit the narcissist enables them to trigger their abusive behaviour .
They have no loyalty whatsoever . If they can gain elsewhere they will cause you pain . They are fickle to the extreme . They would rather assist a stranger because this gives them heightened validation .
They use and abuse continuously . They are aware of their wrongs however they perceive to truly not care and Initially you don’t tend to believe this , you just think oh they are having a childish strop !
As time passes you then start to realise that when they state they don’t care , this is the only truth you will get from the narcissist because they truly do not.
You start to wonder is this person for real ???
Oh they are very real and the longer you entertain them the longer the abuse continues and they become far more insidious .
In the end I walked away with nothing but pity for them.
These toxic people are weak having to feed off others they cannot be alone . What a frightening existence . As the years passed I desensitised towards their patterns of abuse …
After 6 years I walked away feeling only pity for them and heightened relief to not have to be subjected too or witness such a sick illness that caused nothing of hope or authenticity
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Thank you for sharing your story with such openness and detail. It sounds like you've been through an incredibly challenging journey of understanding, coping with, and ultimately distancing yourself from a very toxic relationship. Recognizing the patterns of abuse and the true nature of the person you were dealing with takes a lot of strength and insight. It's heartbreaking to see someone so entangled in their own issues that they continuously hurt others, but it's also a powerful step to be able to walk away with compassion rather than anger. Your ability to feel pity instead of holding onto resentment shows remarkable resilience and emotional growth. I'm relieved to hear you've found peace and relief from that situation. Your experience is a testament to the importance of self-care and setting boundaries. Wishing you continued strength and healing. Sending support from across the miles.
@@NarcPedia I feel like doing it this way too
Excellent points and all true!!
I had to end a 5 month relationship that left me emotionally and mentally broken. I was living on breadcrumbs and was beyond distraught. The red flags were there from the first date but his words and "hard life" stories kept me hanging on because I truly cared and didn't want to abandon and hurt him like the others in his life. Most of my relationships have been controlling or abusive so I was familiar and used to the chaos. I was in a major trauma bond but always would hope things would change and if I was good enough, he would accept and love me forever. To everyone else he was a hero but as time passed by, the constant criticisms and lack of any empathy led me to a state of confusion, sadness and frustration. I did everything for him and he gave me the bare minimum. He spoke about marriage way too fast and we were making plans for him to move in with me in February but I decided to hold off, hoping things would get better. The irony is that I normally don't go for guys like him but his "kind, humble" and goofy persona led me to believe he was a nice and good guy that just couldn't catch a break. I thank God for the strength He gave me in order to leave and block this toxic relationship. And as I am trying to heal, I've been educating myself with videos on this subject and the reality of just how manipulative, self entitled and cruel these people can be. I'm so thankful for your story and that you were able to leave. I wish you the best. Please take care and many blessings to you 🙏🏽
Absolutely spot on analysis 🤙
Bewarey of someone who "just presents information" on what can hurt another person. This video is a clear example of the us versus them way of thinking that causes even more pain in the world. My opinion opinion
Thank you for sharing your perspective. The intention behind the video is not to promote harm but rather to provide insights into the complexities of narcissistic behavior. It's important to understand these dynamics to better protect oneself and navigate relationships with such individuals. I appreciate your concern and will keep it in mind when creating future content. Your input is valuable to this community.
My partner belittled me in public spaces
When ever I asked him why he's doing this he denied everything. To that extent I end up feeling bad
Thank you for sharing your personal experience. I'm really sorry to hear that you're going through this. It's important to remember that everyone deserves respect and kindness, especially from their partner. Please consider seeking support from trusted friends, family, or professionals. Stay strong and take care of yourself. You're not alone in this.
Implying that the age of my Narc mum as one year further ELDERLY than her accurate age CAUSES her evil head to spin like a spinning toy top!
Thank you for sharing your personal experience. It sounds like you've been dealing with a difficult situation. Remember, your feelings and experiences are valid. Stay strong and take care of yourself. We're here to support and understand each other.
They don’t have hearts. Anything that’s hurts their ego hurts them
It's indeed tough dealing with situations where it feels like empathy and understanding are lacking. The focus on ego over emotional connection can be challenging and painful. Remember, it's important to protect your own emotional well-being in such situations. Surround yourself with supportive people and don't hesitate to seek professional help if needed. Keep fostering kindness and empathy within yourself. Stay strong and take care.
When people asked my ex what happened why weren’t we together anymore? They saw what I did for him for five years. He turned it around, playing the victim saying I was toxic too damaged and he couldn’t deal with me. I was too much I hope by now they see it was a lie.
I'm sorry to hear about your painful experience. It takes a lot of courage to share your story, and I commend you for it. Remember, it's not your responsibility to convince others about the truth. Those who are truly supportive will believe and stand by you. Your focus should be on healing and growing from this experience. Thank you for sharing your journey with us. It's by sharing stories like yours that we can help others who might be going through similar situations. Stay strong and take care of yourself.
After the discard, I moved away three weeks later to family where I stayed for six months clear across the state I got into therapy because I really thought I was losing my mind on the second visit. My therapist asked me to write down the 10 most memorable moments with him, I sat there staring at an empty piece of paper. I had one that came to mine instantly, so I wrote it down as I was thinking about the rest of the time for years I struggled to even think of a whole good day a whole good week a whole good month even a whole good year and there wasn’t any. I had one good day and 4 1/2 years. I just started crying.
I'm deeply sorry that you've had to go through such a harsh experience. It's truly commendable how you've sought help and started your journey to recovery. Healing from narcissistic abuse can be a long process, but please remember, you're not alone. It's okay to have moments of sadness and grief. They are a part of the healing process. Your strength and resilience are inspiring. Thank you for sharing your story. It's by voicing experiences like yours that we can help others who might be in similar situations. Please continue to take care of yourself and lean on your support system. Stay strong.
I posted a video on my IG page dancing with a girl that looks just like her but younger, hotter, sweeter and a better dancer.
She stopped posting IG stories admiring herself for validation and has been MIA since.
Even though she blocked me, I know she secretly checks up on me with fake accounts.
Thank you for sharing your experience. It's interesting to see how people react when they perceive a potential threat to their self-esteem. It's important to focus on your own happiness and well-being, and not to let others' actions affect you. Keep moving forward and staying positive.
Great video, I visited one during christmas ,didn't know before I went there. Well she was left with nothing to say when I finished with her, told her no one bullys,or dictates to me, a tyrant without respect, I told her. I walked out, she was saying to me ,oh it doesn't have to be this way. I never looked back, or will I ever.
Thank you for sharing your personal experience. It's commendable that you showed courage in standing up for yourself and setting boundaries. Walking away from a toxic situation can be challenging, but it's often a crucial step towards prioritizing your own well-being. Your story will undoubtedly inspire others navigating similar situations. I'm glad you found the video useful, and I appreciate your contribution to this community. Stay strong!
@@NarcPedia I must give credit to my father rip,who stood up for me many moons ago,was being bullied,pushed/shoved while fishing at the river,he never said a word but when we got home,he starting talking about what was done to me should me how to defend myself, next meeting I did just what dad showed me, that ended that. That suitation gave me strength,courage, power, no one is better than me. Thanks to you for your great work.
He’s a local entertainer singer on stage. He’s all that once he comes off that stage, he can’t even hold up to what he projects himself to be on stage off stage
It sounds like you've had a difficult experience with this person. Public personas can often be very different from who someone truly is, and it can be heartbreaking when the reality doesn't match the image. Remember, it's important to prioritize your own well-being and distance yourself from negativity. Keep empowering yourself and others with your insights. Thank you for sharing your perspective, it's valuable to this community. Take care!
First one: double-edge knife. If they perceive your new relationship has a problem, they may try to hoover you. Moreover, you may switch a narcissist for another (or something even worse).
Second one: also a double-edge knife. They may rely on their flying monkeys to keep their image intact (when it comes to a grandiose narcissist, for example, it's even worse). Besides, they may use it as a weapon or an excuse to smear your reputation.
Third one: most of these situations are unavoidable, like aging. However, sometimes, situations like the loss of financial status, for example, are caused by a higher level of narcissist (or sociopath, psychopath, dark empath).
Fourth one: another double-edge knife. It may work on some cases, but the more skilled narcissists may rely on their flying monkeys.
Thank you for your thoughtful and detailed summary. You've accurately captured the complexities and challenges that can arise when dealing with narcissists.
Your summary brings valuable insight to the conversation, and I'm sure it will help others better understand these dynamics. Thank you for taking the time to share your thoughts and contribute to this community. I appreciate your engagement and look forward to more insightful comments from you.
Thank you for this great video with such important information. Protect your well-being and avoiding them to get under your skin anymore this is the video you better take in consideration because those energy vampires are relentless in their cruelty dealing with you.
Thank you for your kind words and support. I'm glad you found the video informative and helpful. Your comment underscores the importance of protecting one's well-being when dealing with 'energy vampires'. I appreciate your endorsement and contribution to this community, and I hope the content continues to provide valuable insights for you.
@@NarcPedia My pleasure.
He walked away from me because I called him out for playing me and another supply
I'm sorry to hear about your experience. It takes a lot of courage to stand up for yourself, and I commend you for that. Remember, you deserve respect and honesty in all your relationships. This may be a challenging time, but it's also an opportunity for growth. Stay strong, and remember you're not alone. Thank you for sharing your story with us; it helps others who might be in the same situation.
I finally brought him to his knees by mirroring him for a month than embarrassing him in public into if people that made him look like the loser he is I was fed up at that point so I went for it that’s the night he threw me out screaming at me about his ego pride and public image was tarnished and that I embarrassed him not even asking me why I did what I did. It was all about his freaking pride to this day. He has no idea what led me to take such extreme action. He threw me out 18 months ago today and we’ve never seen each other since after four years of being together and living togetherbecause it was always about him. The façade that he puts on Hass to be flawless in public. He looks like a pathetic, aging, broken 60-year-old now trying to be that 27-year-old player.
I'm really sorry to hear that you had to go through such a tough experience. It sounds like you've been through a lot and I admire your courage for standing up for yourself. Remember, it's important to surround yourself with positive influences and focus on self-care during this time. There's no shame in seeking professional help either. Keep moving forward and don't let this past experience define you. You're much stronger than you know. Thank you for sharing your story, it might be a source of strength for others going through something similar. Stay strong and take care.
no contact is a protection it is not done to hurt them. it is not healthy or for a person who is abused by a natcs immediately get a superior supply. unlike the narcissist we want true connection.
Thank you for sharing your perspective. You're absolutely right. No contact is a form of self-protection and self-care, not a means to hurt the other person. It's about creating a healthy boundary that enables healing and recovery. It's crucial to remember that everyone deserves true and meaningful connections, free from manipulation and abuse. Your words are powerful and will surely resonate with many who are in similar situations. Thank you for contributing to this discussion.
They have a heart to break??🤔
Indeed, it's hard to comprehend when you've been on the receiving end of a narcissist's behavior. The key is to remember to protect your own heart and emotional well-being. Thanks for your comment!
My ex lost $500.000 on his love scammer last year and he couldn't care less he told me when we were still talking he's got another supply now so he's happy in his own way good luck to her she wouldn't have a clue what he's really like she'll find out in the long run 😊
Thank you for sharing your personal experience. It's unfortunate to hear about the situation your ex is in. It's important to remember to focus on your own healing and growth, even when it's tough to see someone else potentially going through a similar experience. Stay strong and keep moving forward.
I really disagree with the idea of causing them anything. It just is one way emeshment. Who cares?
Thank you for your comment. It's important to have diverse perspectives in this discussion. You're absolutely right, focusing on causing any harm or distress to the narcissist can lead to further entanglement and detract from the healing process. The priority should always be on self-care and moving forward. Your viewpoint adds a valuable angle to our understanding of dealing with narcissists. I appreciate you sharing your thoughts.
Why are you referring us to narcissistic supply we aren’t narcissist smh fix your automated voice I discarded the narc and divorcing that demon no contact that devil just has to sign the divorce papers that’s all I care about
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Thank you for your comment and feedback. I apologize if any part of the video caused confusion. The term 'narcissistic supply' is often used to describe the attention that narcissists seek from others. The goal of my content is to provide understanding and support for those dealing with narcissistic abuse, not to label anyone as a narcissist. I'm sorry to hear about your difficult situation, but it's commendable that you're taking steps to protect yourself. Stay strong and take care.
They are Demons, hands down.