WHAT DO NARCISSISTS FEEL INSIDE?

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  • @vilistoyanov6099
    @vilistoyanov6099 9 місяців тому +2

    One of the best videos about narcissism I've ever watched. Thank you .

  • @soliel8999
    @soliel8999 Рік тому +13

    "The wicked flee when no man pursues."

  • @theraven1850
    @theraven1850 3 роки тому +58

    Bitter, resentful, angry, depressed, spiteful, delicate, twisted and desperate.

    • @mariasophialopez9249
      @mariasophialopez9249 Рік тому

      I agree 1000%.they're so disgusting, repulsive, ugly,.racist, jealous, envious. The most miserable scumbags you'll ever encounter in life. Yes, they will destroy your reputation. I have to put my faith in God, because if I let my emotions get the best of me it will be so ugly that I can't imagine what will happen. I've said it before I am grateful I am not infected with the disease of narcissism. There is no cure.

    • @AlastorTheNPDemon
      @AlastorTheNPDemon Рік тому +4

      Welp, that's pretty much half of my inner landscape. The other half is envy, panic, paranoia, boredom, pain, victimhood, confusion, and cynicism.

    • @ukchris64
      @ukchris64 5 місяців тому

      @@AlastorTheNPDemon Damn, it seems like you guys know me so well

    • @chellotrevino7323
      @chellotrevino7323 3 місяці тому

      @@AlastorTheNPDemonu ain’t no damn narcissist u better humble yo self boss

  • @gabrielamartiniuc6322
    @gabrielamartiniuc6322 Рік тому +22

    That dark inner wolf is themselves. Their own evil behavior is what they’re projecting onto others. The answer to this narcissism is to start treating others how THEY would want to be treated. They know how they want to be treated !! They need to stop hurting others, that’s why they feel so terrible!

    • @Job.Well.Done_01
      @Job.Well.Done_01 Рік тому +3

      This.
      It’s projection for desperate need of attention!

  • @chrisgorski1656
    @chrisgorski1656 2 роки тому +23

    What an amazing job you did in this video! Every person who thinks they can love a Narcissist should watch this. My narc did not even get peace in her sleep. Frequent angry fight outbursts most nights with twitches, kicks and angry “F you!” Shouts.

    • @Job.Well.Done_01
      @Job.Well.Done_01 Рік тому +1

      Wow! I saw the narcissist do all of this. I wonder now if those inner-sleeping outbursts were dreams of power and control ?

  • @wendalljohnson
    @wendalljohnson 3 роки тому +19

    The analogy about the supermarket made perfect sense in reference to narcs persistent anger.

  • @allisonbaxter6439
    @allisonbaxter6439 2 роки тому +33

    My narcissist ex explained his inside to me as "soulless" "exposed" "I don't exist" "i was sacrificed" "I lost the house to my mind"
    Lots of compassionate for him. But it was the most unhealthy thing I have been through.

    • @ellamatthews8077
      @ellamatthews8077 Рік тому +2

      That's crazy. Do you think some people are just born without souls?

    • @Kellometics
      @Kellometics Рік тому +8

      My narc ex told me “Im a narcissist” before I even knew what that was, I payed him no mind. Then he told me “ I hear voices”, then he tole me “ someone else lives inside of me” after the very first time he raged and came to apologize. I left him after it got so bad and unhealthy for myself. A year later from when I left him, he was found dead, no foul play. Now im so confused about everything.

    • @andrewsmith3257
      @andrewsmith3257 Рік тому

      ​@@Kellometics :(

    • @susanparker9877
      @susanparker9877 Рік тому +2

      ​@@Kellometics Yes, that would be confusing. Wishing for you to find your peace, even when there are no answers.

    • @tathe3786
      @tathe3786 Рік тому +2

      I think if this energy inside of them gets out of control they are out of control! And I think they try to find people that could handle this wolf energy!!! To have a little bit of normal live!!! With some rest!

  • @jmfs3497
    @jmfs3497 3 роки тому +14

    I sense a frenetic, angry insecurity from my narcissistic manager. A desperate sense of FOMO (fear of missing out) that anyone gets any attention without their permission. They seek constant outside stimulus to drown out their own inner monologue, clutching at others lives to keep themselves from falling into their own void. Words are like puzzles in an escape room to them, and they will piece together phrases that trigger different responses that make them feel like they have some sort of control... that if they can just manipulate the situation perfectly they can stand upon the mangled bodies of those they chaotically throw under them... but there is never a finish line. I began Gray Rocking, and went from the scapegoat, to noticing other people in our organization voice frustration and confusion with the narcissist's new pursuit of supply.

  • @gloriadonahue7241
    @gloriadonahue7241 Рік тому +6

    The impression I got from your story about the person who felt there was a wolf after them. The impression I got was that the wolf represents narcissism itself. And that they recognized had this problem but they didn't understand what narcissism is or was not able to admit to that part of it.

  • @marciahammond9735
    @marciahammond9735 2 роки тому +16

    My friend called his 'internal creature ' a bear.
    He also spoke about the "abyss inside' as well as saying to me "my mind is as deep as the deepest ocean and no one can swim. It broke my heart and I had to distance myself from him before I got hurt.
    He said that he is a rock that I may shelter against but that I must "not dive in deeper or you will break yourself" his exact words.😢

    • @Job.Well.Done_01
      @Job.Well.Done_01 Рік тому +1

      I had a friend who spoke in this manner.
      The friend would actually DO things and set things up that the friend knew I did NOT feel comfortable with like triangulation with other people. I ended up telling the fried that I no longer see our relationship continuing and that I wish them well.
      The friend then doubled down like trying to get the last droplets of supply from me by turning up the heat in those things that I couldn’t stand them doing.
      So annoying.

    • @nopereradicator
      @nopereradicator Рік тому

      Amazing. How did you manage to get that level of insight out of them? Mine never talked about himself. Not in 30 years.

  • @executiveassistantkettleshiner
    @executiveassistantkettleshiner 3 місяці тому +3

    I'm a vulnerable narcissist, sort of. Not diagnosed, but I have enough traits to qualify, I identify a lot with how many narcs speak about themselves (when they're being candid and vulnerable about it anyway) and it explains things that, until I found out about it, weren't explained at all.
    Now, I'm also a schizoid (not as strange an overlap as it seems), so I live in my head a lot, and I have a lot of time to introspect very deeply, so I'm very self-aware. A few comments I wanna make (because I feel seen and I wanna share stuff, and yes of course it's going to be all about me) :
    What I mean by all that is, that's a good video and it feels...fairly accurate ? Fairly accurate, and I want to explain how I relate to it.
    -Shame :
    I feel mine, a lot. I'm excruciatingly aware of it. I'm ashamed of myself basically 24/7. I can feel shame about literally anything I do. My body language alone communicates how much I cringe away from others just for being perceived, and how uncomfortable I am just existing. On a bad day being outside just makes me feel withered and upset.
    -Paranoia :
    I'm paranoid of what others think and most importantly feel about me. Less than I used to be, because I've done a lot of work on it, but god is it scary not knowing other people's minds. I gather information pathologically because I need to know their opinions of me are not secretly turning.
    -Black hole :
    That's close to how I describe myself. I'm a ring of fragments orbiting a...nothing. Just a core of nothing. I have so little going on inside me, and other people are my life support. In a bad way ! In a pretty bad way. I cling onto others all day, trying to borrow their sense of meaning and esteem and appreciation for life. On my own I feel so little. Don't have a Wolf though.
    - "Can't ever sit and relax"
    Yeah...totally. Always on edge in some way. If I'm not feeling threatened, or jealous, then I'm wanting, lacking, I'm hungry and I need to go latch onto somebody for sustenance. It's a rare moment that I feel content with myself. As I get better I feel it a little more often, though.
    - "That they don't even understand the fullness of your existence"
    It's funny, but not only do I feel other people as objects, I feel myself as an object, too. And on top of that, I also love fusion, dis-individuation ? Because I'm alienated and, deep down, I feel like everyone belongs to me, is a part of me, or like we're actually one being, and it hurts sometimes to think about how we're all separate individuals. I hate it, really, it feels very lonely. I wish humanity was just a perfect hive mind, so I could just be a permanent part of everyone else.

  • @tathe3786
    @tathe3786 Рік тому +4

    This wolf analogy is real! The one said I need my lonesome Wolfes days. And He needs this days the hole summer long… (And in his status is a hole🕳️and the commend off! )
    I think he feels like he musst chase people that will love them… he needs this energy to survive! And in the summer( he is in my opinion a somatic one) he attracts with his body and gets supply with it! He told me he has to stay thin and have to have worked out body to be adorable!!! That’s the Funktion of his body!
    For me that all was tracique!!! His rage I often got, when I told him my truth, was so immens he literally destroyed so much stuff in this raging times, that he had to quit the relationship cause he felt like he would harm me or himselfes when he stayed in it. And I can understand this, cause I feel he is right with his beleave!!! This dark hole and this attention hungry never satisfied wolf inside him pushes him to go on and on. And someone like me who tried to fix him to make him calm and loving, is like a wall that he has to beak trough, cause he couldn’t stop doing what he did… casing around and collecting love energy. This rage of trying to stop this wolf inside is so immens, it’s power is absolut unstopable! That’s how I feel about it!!!!
    Inside me there is a big big resonance to this explanation how they work!!! 🎉wow

  • @denisemangan1413
    @denisemangan1413 Рік тому +9

    Such a well explained video on the perspective of the narcissist. My sister has a lot of these hallmarks. She is paranoid about her grandchildren & gets offensive & defensive with them for minor reasons. She was a very angry & paranoid child. If things don’t go her way she bursts forth with anger & rage. Her rage is tied up with her feeling lack of control. I think she has deep shame because she was not the golden child & sexually abused. However I was abused too.
    My mother was a narcissist & she would rage, punch & slap.
    My sister didn’t even bat an eyelid when she told me I couldn’t go to her wedding- she lost my trust and loyalty. Now her grown children have issue with her, so I try to give my niece & her children love & support🇦🇺

  • @soniashukla7945
    @soniashukla7945 2 роки тому +14

    I love your example of the grocery store. That really helped to put myself in their shoes...and not just dismiss them as crazy. You're doing a great job here btw. 🙌

    • @LookingBehindtheMirror
      @LookingBehindtheMirror  2 роки тому +3

      Thank you!

    • @soniashukla7945
      @soniashukla7945 2 роки тому +4

      @@LookingBehindtheMirror could you please do a video on narcissists and the impact the pandemic had on them? So many narcissists became extra abusive during the lock down and many relationships ended as a result.

  • @soliel8999
    @soliel8999 Рік тому +5

    "The belly of the wicked shall want."

  • @lozziepoppy
    @lozziepoppy Рік тому +6

    He’s so desparate to be me, that’s why he stalks and tries to hack.

  • @matollsen2523
    @matollsen2523 Рік тому +2

    For the first time i hear this explenation. Make perfect sense!

  • @apontutul
    @apontutul 2 роки тому +6

    You described everything quite perfectly. Thanks for the heads up

  • @ionlycompetewiththewomaniw5429

    Trying to suck something out of the external world....if THAT isn't Trying to excrete Narcasistic Suppply, then IDK what is....Of all the videos that I've seen on Narscasism, this has got to be the most easily broken down, and relatable. I'm going reference this video when create my video about it.

  • @MaryamAli-vd1xv
    @MaryamAli-vd1xv Рік тому +4

    Your video is abundantly helpful.

  • @JJJJ-he8bz
    @JJJJ-he8bz 2 роки тому +10

    I feel like I’m a narcissist based on my research. I used to hold on to people but now I just let whatever happens happens. I’ve pretty much accepted my fate. The black hole thing is definitely there unfortunately. I’m lucky enough to have a hobby I enjoy that doesn’t effect or hurt anyone. I’m alone but I’ve taken advantage of the fact that I’m free to at least finish my bucket list before I die. I’m happy at least this was figured out in my late 20s and not later in life so now I can avoid the pit falls. Probably won’t risk getting in a relationship. I have a few close friends but I keep them at a distance. I told my mother I think I’m a narcissist and she pretty much laughed in my face and wouldn’t listen so I’m like whelp ok.

    • @FindYourFree
      @FindYourFree Рік тому +2

      yes the best thing sadly for narcissists is that they isolate. it is too dangerous for the rest of society

  • @spiritgurl1111
    @spiritgurl1111 2 роки тому +6

    this is a fantastic video-the way you explain things really helps thank you

  • @timtebow4516
    @timtebow4516 2 роки тому +36

    A demon. You're talking about a demon. They are possessed by a demon.

    • @j.creekmore6668
      @j.creekmore6668 2 роки тому +6

      I was thinking the same thing!!!

    • @allisonbaxter6439
      @allisonbaxter6439 2 роки тому +6

      My narc ex called it/them demons. Also said he was sacrificed to the devil.

    • @ionlycompetewiththewomaniw5429
      @ionlycompetewiththewomaniw5429 Рік тому

      Wow!!!!!
      That wolf story further solidifies my belief that Narcasism is the Scientific name for Demonic Possession. I feel like growing up with a Narcasistic Mother, and dealing with them briefly as an Adult, has lead me to have the equivalent of an Associates Degree in Phycology, and from what I've studied as far as Demonic Possession, and how a Narcasist becomes a Narcasist, I am CONVINCED that they are one in the same thing....minus the Theatrical Hollywood version with the head spinning, and foaming at the mouth, (although honestly, on an unseen realm, where this Entity exists inside of them, and observing their behavior when they rage over the most meaningless, and imagined "attacks" that the head spinning, and foaming at the mouth on some level is probably accurate).

    • @andrewsmith3257
      @andrewsmith3257 Рік тому +10

      I used to think that was silly but then I lived with one. No matter how nice you are they will treat you badly! Demons yes

    • @sonjal.3704
      @sonjal.3704 Рік тому +4

      definitely, my ex told me that he started to see nightmares about demons and shadow figures as a child.

  • @sindust150
    @sindust150 2 роки тому +4

    This is te best explanation of how they feel

  • @allisonbaxter6439
    @allisonbaxter6439 2 роки тому +6

    Great video 💗 thank you!

  • @vanessa7783
    @vanessa7783 Рік тому +4

    my narc ex share with me that he feel that inside he have someone living , like other he but evil , that’s make me laugh at that time but now I can understand

  • @pursuingvirtue
    @pursuingvirtue Рік тому +2

    The cookies example is so helpful! Thank you! But how can they survive the self-centeredness of a toddler? Isn't it crushing to be an adult with all of this childish self-centeredness?

    • @LookingBehindtheMirror
      @LookingBehindtheMirror  Рік тому +2

      Probably. But as actual adults, it is their responsibility to learn how to work through that without harming the people around them.

  • @bhabi7071
    @bhabi7071 Рік тому +4

    Your metaphors are pure gold
    Green hair, 2 foot hat, wolf, wheels
    Thank you.
    🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏

  • @demianriley121
    @demianriley121 3 роки тому +8

    Really good! Maybe the best. I like your insights

  • @deehumbled3526
    @deehumbled3526 3 роки тому +6

    If they no room to consider your existence, then why do they latch on to you? Weird!

    • @LookingBehindtheMirror
      @LookingBehindtheMirror  3 роки тому +5

      They are latching on to what you provide for them. When a lion eats a zebra, they are focused on the zebra, but at the same time they are not considering the life of the zebra. Does that make sense?

    • @astoriacub
      @astoriacub 2 роки тому +6

      because they want what you have and can provide them, they don't care about you as a person or who you are. It's ALWAYS about them in some way.

  • @liquidboss2719
    @liquidboss2719 Рік тому +11

    The description provided almost sounds like they're possessed.

    • @mammabear4334
      @mammabear4334 Рік тому +4

      I believe they are, they need deliverance

  • @julieverelst1685
    @julieverelst1685 3 роки тому +7

    Victims of abuse can also be left with what your describing due to what they have suffered and the mental, physical, emotional and sexual abuse has impacted on their perception and experience of the world. So how do you separate a narcissist from a victim? I ask because i would not want a victim of abuse to feel or think they are the cause and take the shame and blame because to me that is true narcissism. Hurting another then causing them to think its their fault because this is a sign of submission on the abused part in hope the abuser will stop and the body going into shut down.

    • @LookingBehindtheMirror
      @LookingBehindtheMirror  3 роки тому +3

      That’s unfortunately a really common problem. I have a whole video on when you think you might be the narcissist. I think a good rule of thumb is… if you think you might be the narcissist, it’s very unlikely that you are. Another thing is that narcissists feel like this permanently for their entire adult lives. Abuse victims might feel this way after or during an abusive relationship. It isn’t their “normal”.

    • @julieverelst1685
      @julieverelst1685 3 роки тому +2

      @@LookingBehindtheMirror Thank you for clarifying that. I haven't always felt like that and I did question if I was natsassistic but what made me realise I am not is I was abused and if I was abused because I'm narsassistic then what does that make them for abusing me. I have never abused anyone, I've spoken out about abuse and spoken up for people who have been abused or neglected. I used to feel bad for saying No I now regonise that's because I was never allowed to say No or even when I did it didn't stop or change anything.

  • @Ice1000-m4x
    @Ice1000-m4x Рік тому +1

    I'm in very tough spot ..I have nobody to talk to..

  • @daledavis5062
    @daledavis5062 29 днів тому

    i love these. Thank you ❤

  • @danovangrinnell4479
    @danovangrinnell4479 2 роки тому +2

    Scared n rightly so am not done yet

  • @slim-yin
    @slim-yin Рік тому +3

    They are crazy

  • @koset
    @koset Рік тому +1

    The cookie example is a bullseye

  • @GingerHater1231
    @GingerHater1231 2 роки тому +9

    Does it make others feel better about themselves to point out the inner turmoil that narcissistic people endure?
    Honestly it’s an extremely sad existence, even when you have family and friends and loved ones around you. Everyone deserves happiness, even those who have gone through trauma and have developed personality disorders and are willing for change.

    • @westcoast747
      @westcoast747 Рік тому +5

      In my experience personality disorders are for life. Permanent and they never ask for help, as they don’t believe that anything is wrong due to the ego dysfunction.

    • @gabrielamartiniuc6322
      @gabrielamartiniuc6322 Рік тому +4

      Expressing facts about narcissism and you’re offended. That’s pretty chilling. Maybe because you’re the perpetrator? And you’re defending yourself?

    • @Ehuff
      @Ehuff Рік тому +7

      They have the opportunity to get help…. But “nothing’s wrong with them and it’s everyone else’s fault” so they create their own hell. We all have trauma. Trauma doesn’t give someone the right to inflict this kind of torture. Not once. Not twice. OVER AND OVER AND OVER.
      It’s a cop out. They’re effin possessed.

    • @Ehuff
      @Ehuff Рік тому +1

      @@gabrielamartiniuc6322 THANK YOU! 🙌🏼 Narcs trolling

  • @blove2023
    @blove2023 Рік тому +1

    ❤ I love your content but the music 🎶🎵 is very distracting.

  • @tamimchoudhury4285
    @tamimchoudhury4285 Рік тому

    Gosh! My husband is a narcissist, I had a dream that a man covered in hair top to bottom like a wolf, facial hair standing as I came out of the bathroom, this was all in my dream.

  • @lindatallon9217
    @lindatallon9217 3 місяці тому

    Like feeding a tumor...

  • @AlbaHistory
    @AlbaHistory 3 місяці тому

    Everyone hates on narcissists what about the people who made them the way they are AKA the bullys or abusive people everyone hates on narcissists but where is the compassion

    • @LookingBehindtheMirror
      @LookingBehindtheMirror  3 місяці тому +1

      I’m not hating on them. I’m describing them. You’re the one who’s hating on them if you think my description of them is disparaging.

    • @AlbaHistory
      @AlbaHistory 2 місяці тому

      @@LookingBehindtheMirror I'm not hating on them I'm saying that by making all narcissists out to be bad why would anyone who might think they're a narcissist who watches your video or any of the other videos on here want to seek help when most people on UA-cam and other platforms make it seem like they are evil/ chose to be the way they are.

  • @sindust150
    @sindust150 2 роки тому +4

    Wow😮this is horrible

  • @SoniaProteau-cj6tk
    @SoniaProteau-cj6tk 11 місяців тому

    😂😂😂😂😂😂