Revenge is aba - ad bad news / suggestion my friend. Give these guys, what they - what they are playing on you, they will hate it / themselves. Yes, yes they actually want to lose you for good, since their tactics back fire! So you'll be the winner / them, the loser. Try it@davidyardley512 it does work, even if i n a long shot, but it does work!
When the narcissist is “hurt” she either pouts or gets angry! 🤯 Most often all hell breaks loose and she gets verbally abusive….🤮 it’s happening right now as I’m writing this!!!! 🤮
There's nothing better than not giving the Narc any kind of response. Block them, ignore them, and smile every damn time they rear their ugly heads around you. Their immaturity will never disappoint you....soul less shallow entities.
I do smile as I lie down on the couch and hear him complaining etc... then I pray for forgiveness from Jesus. I should not find enjoyment in his, over dramatized, but I do.
I’ve been in no contact, silent treatment and blocked her and everyone in her family everywhere for 6 weeks and her son sent me a text today. Now the flying monkeys have started. I left my ex to save myself. Never going back.
@@NickRivers-bk2ni I hope whatever "she" tries doesn't budge you from your resolve. We are the only ones to save ourselves and you have started that process. Stay strong and remember You are worth it. My realization was , when I love myself more than he does that's a problem. I took care of those I love often putting myself last on the list. All I ask is for him to give me what I have given him over the years ( Compassion, care, love, forgiveness and equal respect). Since he can not do that nor stop using the past to verbally attack, I stay on the couch with my dog until I, my son and dog can move. It's not easy but the situation is what it is so I will do the best I can. Good luck to you 🙏❤️🙏
When YOU ghost THEM they stalk you, but they do it because they have a narcissistic injury. My violent sister stalked me incessantly for 15 years after I went full no-contact in 1994. Since then, she has only stalked me occasionally - last time she came to my door was in 2021 - I didn't answer the door, BTW
oh! I get it! He ghosts me bc he knows I will b distressed and reach out a lot until he graces me with his attention. Thank you. I needed to understand this so I will never reach out to him when he plays these baby games,
They hate criticism rather than have an adult conversation they will blow up with narc rage and then you get the word salad. The last encounter I had with a narcissistic friend she actually turned violent and poked me in the face, I slapped her only lightly but it was enough to shock her into stopping. They are insane dangerous people and it’s best to stay away from them.
I've turned the table on a narcissist, 180 degrees. They both hated that. Yes, yes they began to give me the silent treatment & to brush me off too. I murrmerd quietly to myself, ha - haahh, I won,you two lost, You guys wont bother me again, since don't want to communicate with me? That was one regrettable mistake I did.Ithervize, I wcould of / & would of have lost them. Thank you for thetips Anoushka.
Understanding a narcissistic personality is akin to deciphering a complex puzzle. Beneath the layers of arrogance lies a fragile self-esteem that constantly needs validation.
I had to stop this @ 1:42, right after you related that question about hurting the narcissist to ask, WHY CARE about someone who has done nothing but bring pain, misery, and degradation into your life? WHY???!!! I just locked the abuser out less than 12 hours ago. I am soooo done, and anyone involved with one of those soul-less devils needs to allow some righteous indignation (aka- anger) to fuel that final step to freedom. I do not know what I'm going to do next, but @ 65, I'm going to take that chance.
This hits hard. My wife would never accept any responsibility or accountability for anything in all the time we were together, It was beyond painful and frustrating, the icing on cake she would go to her favourite torture tool and preferred method of punishing me, the dreaded “silent” treatment, often for weeks and months at a time. I didn’t know anything regarding this narcissistic behaviour then, God has since opened my eyes. I’m thankful to be free of it now, never again will I allow someone to manipulate me in such away ever again.
God bless you. My ex narc would never take any accountability and apologize. She was terrible at communicating and she cheated. So glad she is gone and I'm doing no contact. Don't miss her, she can go ruin her next relationship bc that is exactly what she is doing!😂
@@Jay_Z. I empathise with you brother, my wife constantly emotionally cheated on me, devoid of ALL empathy! I don’t know if she did physically but with all the horror I’ve been though, the woman I fell in love with simply doesn’t exist, anything is possible. I pray the Lord heals you and we both can learn from this terrible experience and grow from it. God bless you
My live-in 83 year old narcissist mother-in-law was captured on my bedroom security camera rummaging through my business records, specifically the daily financials. My wife and I decided not to confront her about this because it would have led to a complete meltdown and unhinged rage from her. Instead, we ensured our papers were properly hidden and I installed proper door locks to our bedroom. This did not go unnoticed by this narcissist. After a night of playing cards, the narcissist subtly kept saying me and my card’s partner were “liars”. I finally said to my partner, “kettle calling the pot black”, at which time I glanced up and saw the narcissist looking at me with those evil eyes as she warned me to “be careful”. I took the bait and let her know, “yes Julie, I have caught you in several lies”. Now she began her assent into full blown out of control rage. I managed to let her know I’ve got her on video before she totally lost it and began the insults and yelling and of course the silent treatment for the next few weeks. I personally love her silent treatments as it gives us a reprieve from her constant complaining and criticisms.
No one will 'get it' unless they have been through it. I have been through it. it is maddening. I told friends that it was like aliens took my wife and replaced her with this thing. It does get better. @bensiddons-bevis3158
Yes, I indeed hurt him. I was being set up through triangulation with new supply, I stopped reaching out, I swatted back against the hoover, declared my independence, and silence ever since. I forgave him and resolved to live my own life since he took off for someone else. He does not accept that and that is his choice. He can harbor the resentment and spite. I am free and that is an injury he inflicts upon himself. For me, confirmation he isn't worthy of my compassion or empathy. His problems are not mine anymore and he can no longer create or instigate problems for me.
My wife retaliated by telling me she was living with another man who wasn't a family member. Before she finished, I hung up on her. I have since blocked her. This happened after I told her "no", she couldn't come over. I'm moving forward 1 day at a time
Speaking your mind to a narcissist after all their years of abuse is a sweet victory. Dunno how badly they might feel--probably not at all--but I feel better after saying it.
When I started questioning his aggressive behavior, the eye rolls, how he wouldn't even sit down & look at me, ect..he would disappear back to his apartment & barely text for days & make a million excuses not to come over. Toward the end of the relationship, he was just completely disappearing for a week at a time. If there was a conversation, he would talk in circles of blame & shame. It was exhausting & causing nothing but confusion in my household. My children were even affected because he was completely unreliable & his negative energy made all of us uncomfortable. I finally went no contact after 4yrs of this constant disrespect. Best decision ever. My home is a peaceful place again.
If I disagree I’m automatically being accused of stating a row. It’s like I’m not allowed to have my own opinions. It’s always someone else’s fault with a narcissist. They know better than anyone else!
That's the entitlement aspect of narcissism. You not being allowed your own (separate and individual) thoughts. It's the ol' "if I want your opinion I'll give it to you!" Okey doke 😂
“You really hurt my FEELINGS!!!” She had a total blowout and I just said that’s the way it’s going to be. She LOST it!! I just calmly responded that it wasn’t my intention to hurt her feelings this is just the way it is. So BETTY BAR THE DOOR, she didn’t get the response she wanted, set me up for a fall and STILL hasn’t figured out that I knew she’d do this. My mother is a narcissist and these people forget I had to live with her for 17 years. The head games don’t work anymore. And yes, silence is golden! Praying for ALL of us!!!
Don’t say never. There are different kinds of narcissists. I learned not to tell my ex anything. He would figure out how to use that information against you. And then there is Future Faking. “Stay with me and someday…”
Loving a narcissit is nothing but a life of bitter truth: they can't feel love and don't return it. Ultimately the more you try to reach these people, the more likely they are to feel hurt... a never ending cycle of hoplesness. Be warned.
It’s easy to see when you are detached. If you get something in a text you will be able to see it verbatim. Emotional exchanges aren’t as easily remembered and harder to see it. Narcissists have to be in control at all cost. People are in their lives because they want something from them. They are skilled at extracting whatever it is from the unsuspecting. Image is everything to them.
Ty Anoushka.❤ I blocked a narc that I gave a chance two months. I enjoyed the person. It was definitely a one way situation ship. I'm staying strong but being strong sucks sometimes. At least I'm happier w/ out the narc
I just went through this. I held my ground and the relationship ripped apart in front of my eyes. My positive take away was that I was not in deep enough to be destroyed by it. Yes, it was extremely painful but it's better to know sooner than later. Huggz Everyone, stay focused.
My ex was the same way. I would try to have serious talks with her, and she would change the topic or manipulate my interest towards sex to deflect the conversation.
My first thought when I seen the title was anger, silent treatment and lobbying every thing right back at you. There is never a conclusion to any conversation with them, then they act like nothing happened or was ever said, cause it doesn’t fit in their narrative of them and how they are. Which is they are perfect even when they’re not.
Went to contact with me ex narc didn't see or hear from her in a year, she would try to get a reaction out of me on Social Media I stayed no contact no reaction she showed up at my kids school had a angry rant, assaulted me, I took every punch in silence, she then threatened to blow my brains out, I pressed charges and was issued a restraining order against her, so who knows what's next
@Emmm777 I will, I have to go to court Tuesday I don't understand why she popped up after a year! When she's been flaunting her new relationship in my face, I never responded or anything, if she's so happy as she says online why bother me?
@@ncfire51Keep going no contact. The best thing is to move on with your life and try and ignore her. The narcissist is never happy. It's an illusion. They seek to make others as unhappy as they are. they suck the energy out of others. Don't allow it. Be happy.
@Emmm777 that's what I plan to do, I just really hate to face her in court, with criminal charges and a restraining order it can affect her the rest of her life and that's not what I want for her, at the same time I have to stand up for myself I want her to have a happy life she has alot of potential, I hate to see her throw it away for a mistake she made, I don't even know why she done what she did!!
I could always tell when my ex suffered a narcissistic injury because her eyes would almost turn black! It was a scary sight. She was very good at not openly displaying how she truly felt but her eyes would look cold, dead, and almost evil.
The Narcissist I upset has disappeared !!! I have never seen him for years !!! I laughed at him when he was angry and told him he was Stupid. It Worked !!!
@@zandatee If you think I am going to be nice to a bitter man who idolizes Adolf Hitler, and has a Hitler Moustache, and he hates everyone and says old people and unmarried Mothers should be sent to the Gas Chambers. He's a coward who runs everyone down behind their backs. And you think he isn't a Narcissist !!!
De opfører sig som små børn der altid vil give skylden på andre og ikke tager ansvar for deres handlinger,jeg har jo sagt en gang døren er lukket. God aften Anouska 🙂
The best video you have ever done- after 5 years with the wrong person, you have hit the nail on every head. 👏🏽 I never cheated, lied and the word salad bit is perfect
I really liked it as I have faced such signs many times...What you said is right. Such people never change in positive ways as they are delusional & can't face the reality...❤
Your hair looks fabulous A!! Your content has helped me stay strong on NC since last May despite the exnarc STILL leaving voicemails despite being blocked. He's gone so far as to claim he's "basically homeless" to try to get a rise out of me. ZERO RESPONSE. Thanks for always driving home the need for SILENCE!!!
Idk why your videos showed up in my feed but so far the two I’ve watched speak almost directly to what I’ve been going through. I want to thank you again for posting these as they feel almost cathartic, it’s just crazy that they started showing up!
There are narcissists that don’t drink, or aren’t physically or verbally abusive. They won’t mind that you’re with friends or colleagues, they aren’t jealous. They’re not your typical “movie” narcissists. They’ll leave a trail of honey for you to follow - so that when the relationship inevitably ends, you’ll realise that the other person didn’t force you to do anything - you did it all yourself.
I get the silent treatment when hes feeding a new supply I live my own life an everything i do he puts down i never rise to it he bullys me calls me names i call him out all the time just wonder if anyone else goes threw this Love yer channel.its help me understand so much ❤
The only reason he is staying around is he’s getting something from you. They are vampires and parasites. Leave as quick as possible. I know it’s hard. I couldn’t, had to take the discard route. It’s been 3 and a half years. Still hurts. But I have grown. I try to push forward every day. You can do it ❤
Anoushka you hit every nerve in my being this morning....I was laughing from my belly...everything you have said is 100 percent true. Much respect to you for helping so many people.
Excellent video! Excellent explanation and articulation of the dynamics of how a narcissist processes feelings and actions. I just want to thank you for providing clear concise information that really does help us understand that which I find un-understadable and baffling because quite frankly their behavior never made sense to me. But now after hearing you articulate this behavior it starting to make sense although I still find it extremely incredible that any sensible individual would ever think like that. Maybe that is where I have gone wrong, thinking that these were sensible, reasonable individuals, when in reality these are highly self-absorbed individuals whom ultimately only care about themselves!
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Yep a simple comment….. very honest simple comment… would lead to raised voices …. Storming off … a barrage of texts projecting on to me then ghosting blocking me for days or weeks!
Hello, it's the first week-end that i not seeing my narcissit!!! it will go like this, i never want to see her again-it's a non winning battle while she never ever change!!! i still love her, i want her to be happy, i know she's in great pain -that makes me very sad, but i need to protect me!!! so long Petra, i wish you the best !!!!! 🥰🥰😇😇😥😥😢😢🙏🙏🙏
If they lose over a long period of time and have no hope of touching you and doing bad compared to you, they may get physically sick. Doctors can’t find any illness. But they will literally get sick to the point they are dying
Acc to this - I have been tapdancing on my husbands nerves which I figured, however ty for reminding me that IS the way they show hurt. For a second there I was feeling like a confused yoyo. Situationally Im in 1 where the narc is blatently doing all she states, its infuriating after a while. To have someone who outright refuse and argue to show you respect WHILE in that same breath they demand YOU to respect them wholly. You could be ballin tears down your face rivers and your state of being isnt a factor to them, may see a tiny bit of guilt cross their expressions but dont try acting on it will end with you just hearing from them in response something thats designed to render emotional pain -straight up and coldly- and guarenteed to piss you off. To be treated like a useless child and made soully responsible for both problems and changes they are exempted from all the time. ..Honestly it does and doesnt surprise me that they get away with it. My guy looked good, spoke sane the whole time seriously dating - 4 hours after I Do - Boom different person towards problems. Wtf 😢 Not many talk about the fact alcoholism basically makes people narcissistic, the dependancy enables many to get into the habit and have no real coping skills and all during a period where there is no doubt they have impared judgment. So if you want to avoid them, safe bet is cross off anyone who drinks 😅 Ive heard from another professionals channel that 1 out of 6 people are narcissistic; May the odds be ever in your favor ❤😂😅😢
anoushka you know what I did, I actually felt bad and sensed that I hurt their feelings, and I apologized to them for everything that I might have done wrong it was super hard for me to do but it made me feel better, it has helped me move on so much more, now they are left with their own moral responsibility and I have no weight on their life anymore, which allows me to separate myself from this toxic person
this type of person I can't imagine would bring up any wrong doings because it makes them look confrontational so I had to bring it up and it wasn't easy but almost seemed necessary.
I have no hope of ever getting back them or them ever telling me the truth. That’s why narcissists people should be treated the same way they treat others. But the more you try anything with them, they go for your throat and you’re left with even more anger because they think you’re trying to get them.
If I didn’t agree with something my ex friend would say about a certain person, he would say “Well your not on my side then” while glaring angrily at me” it only got worse. I’ve one no contact at all. I occasionally have to pass him but I have to just totally ignore him as I’m happier now that I’m not being controlled & raged at for god knows what, I’m never going back to that abuse !
You probably dont understand maturity. No one have to be on your side. Everyone has individual thoughts, preferences, teams, favorite sports, holiday destinations, foods and culture. No is is obligated to follow you or to be on your side. Go and find your self and accept reality. Weik up from the lie you are living, you are lieing to yourself. Is like you was living all your life with a wife who loved another and you was dreaming that you can make yourself loved. What you did instead-jealousy? Probably because is bettter than to get your shoes and accept reality .
This was so helpful! My ex daughter in law projects so badly upon me, she blames me for things she is doing, like withholding contact from her children- twice now she has suddenly pulled visitations from their father without notice when she heard I would be at the visit. But she blames me for not having seen them in months. In violent terms. When I identified what she is actually doing, backed up by quotes of her texts, she offered a “not apology” again blaming me for “misunderstanding” her words. When I identified that her “not apology” did not actually involve her owning her previous abuse of me, she has now blocked and is in the silent treatment mode. It breaks my heart that she uses her children as pawns in her games, as she is hurting them the most, but I cannot do anything about her actions and it is not me that is hurting them.
When I told the "Veterinarian" that she was wrong about a Cat's weight, she flew into a rage. "Don't you EVER correct me in front of the client ever again!!!!!!, She screamed. She blame shifted, Gaslit, and went on and on of how superior and great she was, she was more wrong more times I could count. The Veterinary Technician, and Office manager told me she was crazy and arrogant and entitled. This psycho was the biggest most worthless Narcissist. She was also a very bad veterinarian who misdiagnosed several times.
I totally had to deal with people like this, but the worst, most recent, it was a female about my age who exposed all the signs you showcased in this video. I couldn't believe how childish she would behave when I was trying just to have a normal professional conversation about how we could manage our daily tasks! She wouldn't let me talk, but constantly interrupt me and deflect and then make a word salad ... it made me wonder if she actually knew how to speak or she was just pretending to know, as I found out from a similar person that she had some 'big people in the company' behind her and would be unwise to confront her... say what? Also she made up remarks about my mental health and made sure to shout it out loud when the customers were around and then made sure, or actually even forcing customers to give her the best review for her 'service' literally taking their phone and writing a nice review about herself. She would always want to be in control but was never able to actually prove she was. When the lack of experience would be so obvious, and would realise she lost the support of other staff members, she would start calling from her personal mobile and leave the building during the working hours, going to see her 'friends' to complain and gossip about our team. That was the most ridiculous set of behaviours I'd ever encountered I thought, but then if I looked at my past experiences, there were so many people I met who displayed some of those traits. There is something about these 'people', you can feel their malicious energy that they want to hide it behind a fake smile or a bossy attitude. If you pay attention to your instincts you will feel it right from the 1st encounter. Run or ignore them as much as you can, they are the real life vampires. On the other side, if you feel bad for them because of their childhood, maybe try just to pray for their soul without having any contact with them. These people are suffering and you may feel their pain in a way, but stay away from them at any costs. Unless you're a professional psychologist and that's your job.
Oh the narcissist is very vulnerable if you find that little bitty slit to be able to get under their skin, they become great big babies and throw their tantrums that no one but you get to see then usually thunder straight out the door thinking they are leaving you to suffer after ghosting you in this way. 😊
He acused me of being with someone else so I said yes, he got very upset because I wouldn't tell him the name of the restaurant hug up on me and I blocked him, when I called him back he blocked me,best thing he could've done,
Exact again. Muss less communication, never ever wanting to show vulnerability to the contrary, saying something like I love, then no follow up? What is that, or what do I say, how can I return I love you, after seeing some silent treatment, only more coming. Never ever going to have a conversation, not going to happen, this is their power at all times.
I did figure out for myself what she says here, that there can be no conversation because they can't show or admit they were hurt by you, that's vulnerability, and mine is just Joe Cool. So thus it would seem there is no fixing it, you can't say you are sorry, because, 'it didn't happen'. While it is just between the two of you anyway. Funny they would be better off talking to you, for there is stress on both sides of it, and we all have to get relief, and will end up talking about it to others, exactly what the narc would not want! They are so afraid, don't reason well.
My soon to be x would get angry out of the blue over really odd stuff. I’m originally from PA, and he would tell me to go back to PA; we had 2 places and he would stomp off saying he was going to the other place. He didn’t know how to have a discussion if we didn’t agree etc. no matter how minor. Boggled my mind- until I finally figured it out.
I had absolutely NO IDEA I HURT him. Lol. I did ask him a year after the accident. Are you mad becuz you were kicked out of nursing school and haven’t spoken to your daughter since the accident. He brushed it off and said. Babe, the accident is becuz I was kicked out of nursing school. The 9 months when I was dating you I didn’t pass becuz I didn’t do my homework twice prior. That was fair, but oh boy deep down I did hurt him in his eyes. I saved him from years of jail, but they don’t look at it like that. They have childish secretive behaviors that I didn’t know even existed. The silent treatment. He laid that on even harder after I went non contact a year and a half after the accident. I think I blocked and saved his number as head case. It’s all just the weirdest thing I have ever been through in my dating life. I had never seen this before.🤯👈🏻
I don't know what to think .... is the behaviour of a Narcissist sick or is it very sad ? My reason for asking is that my neighbour, who's behaviour and antics fits all the criteria for Narcissism, she watches me, she watches when my friends come to my house .
while I love the video, and what you do...... I'm starting to think that even wondering if you've hurt them is giving them a power of you that is only hurting you and not them. My favorite saying is resentment is like drinking poison and hoping the other person gets sick from your actions. 100% agree with everything you say in this video, I@m just really tired, as soon as my father died, and they said they didnt think I wanted them at the funeral because I didn't act the right way the day before...... I knew, but I fought for another year, and is a year I'll never get back...... any point point I made, they brought up everything I ever did wrong, and not just me, my best friend didn't act right towards her at the funeral, cause he'd lost his mom a few months beforehand, so then he clearly hated her...... my daughter from a previous relationship was always a problem..... so once my dad died, was the perfect exit, but kept me in the back pocket..... as I said, wasted the last year holding out we could have a proper conversation, drove me nuts to the point I'd lose it, she'd talk about losing a phone, and how hard it was on her, I'd try be nice..... wouldn't ask once how my mom was doing, after she was very good to her for years...... I'd eventually say something..... big mistake.......once you know, just drop them and move on..... it'll hurt, like hell, but we all make mistakes, pick yourself up, and move on as quickly as possible
5:44 when you really spot that, when you really see the defense mechanism impose itself... it's like suddenly you see the emptiness, the complete void. Everything they said was a mimic of something, their most inner core is corrupted and there's nothing under. Sometimes in some particular moments, a vague moment of clarity, but any little thing will trigger immediately the imposing imaginary self back up. It's like the person doesn't exist, that imaginary self takes over period. it's like a puppet
The end for my ex was when I threw her out. I have no doubt that I hurt her…but as she attacked my daugther I did exactly what was needed. She went silent and I called her and finally ended the relationship. I have not contacted her since…not once 😊 She tried to contact me 1,5 years later where I only gave her 1 Word before I Cut the Call. The one Word was Goodbye
I offered friendship. The narcissist/s wanted more-no sin there. However, assuming mutual interest is highly narcissistic. They don't pay attention to cues. They hate when you have your own preferences, likes, and attractions, which are not to them. Their delusion can potentially become a violation of your boundary, which to them is akin to "meanness." How dare you not be interested in me!-malignant, delusional narc. m.o. Don't tolerate ridiculous behavior. P.S. I only have frank conversations with those I don't believe are narcs. Mantra: "don't try to reason with unreasonable people."
When I have covered this topic based on my own experience and education, I tend to say you have hurt the Narcist when they whine and play the victim role. This is for the obvious overt narcist, the people who are really domineering, patronizing etc. If you get them to complain how you wronged them you should walk away, because "this probably is as good as it gets", and this is usually just a way of them trying to guilt trip and manipulate you using a more covert ploy or styled approach.
She told me to never contact her or my daughter again(24 year story behind that)…. so I didn’t, 2 years almost to the day she sent me a picture of me from the 70’s…. that was actually mine taken by a friend on my camera, I ignored it completely, she had deleted all her previous foul comments that I triggered, I refuse to block her, that would only indicate too her she had had an impact on me
Leave them ALONE! Forever
Karma never loses an address. That they have to live with themselves while you now live in calm, peace and freedom is all the revenge you need.
Revenge is aba - ad bad news / suggestion my friend. Give these guys, what they - what they are playing on you, they will hate it / themselves. Yes, yes they actually want to lose you for good, since their tactics back fire! So you'll be the winner / them, the loser. Try it@davidyardley512 it does work, even if i n a long shot, but it does work!
And, as it is, said, the karma police never sleep.
@@peterknyk1942this is what you get when you
mess with us
Sometimes she's slow, sometimes she's fast, but ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS reliable!
@@maryj7950 yes, and she never forgets anyone….
When the narcissist is “hurt” she either pouts or gets angry! 🤯 Most often all hell breaks loose and she gets verbally abusive….🤮 it’s happening right now as I’m writing this!!!! 🤮
Record it and post on your channel
Second amendment rights. They’ll leave you alone. I promise.
Walk away, they will only ruin your life more and more
I just went through it myself a few minutes ago as well. Narcs are crazy!
plan your escape before that snowball gets even heavier! Good luck!
There's nothing better than not giving the Narc any kind of response. Block them, ignore them, and smile every damn time they rear their ugly heads around you. Their immaturity will never disappoint you....soul less shallow entities.
Going full no-contact is the only way to win
I do smile as I lie down on the couch and hear him complaining etc... then I pray for forgiveness from Jesus. I should not find enjoyment in his, over dramatized, but I do.
it is wonderful without a narc in your life
I’ve been in no contact, silent treatment and blocked her and everyone in her family everywhere for 6 weeks and her son sent me a text today. Now the flying monkeys have started. I left my ex to save myself. Never going back.
@@NickRivers-bk2ni I hope whatever "she" tries doesn't budge you from your resolve. We are the only ones to save ourselves and you have started that process. Stay strong and remember You are worth it.
My realization was , when I love myself more than he does that's a problem. I took care of those I love often putting myself last on the list. All I ask is for him to give me what I have given him over the years ( Compassion, care, love, forgiveness and equal respect).
Since he can not do that nor stop using the past to verbally attack, I stay on the couch with my dog until I, my son and dog can move. It's not easy but the situation is what it is so I will do the best I can.
Good luck to you 🙏❤️🙏
When they ghost you you've made a huge narcissistic injury, let them be gone dont chase because that's why they do it...
When YOU ghost THEM they stalk you, but they do it because they have a narcissistic injury.
My violent sister stalked me incessantly for 15 years after I went full no-contact in 1994. Since then, she has only stalked me occasionally - last time she came to my door was in 2021 - I didn't answer the door, BTW
oh! I get it! He ghosts me bc he knows I will b distressed and reach out a lot until he graces me with his attention. Thank you. I needed to understand this so I will never reach out to him when he plays these baby games,
3 signs u have hurt a Narcissist
1. Trigger
2. Silent treatement
3. Projecting
Outraged 👇
Oo so I’ve accomplished all 3! Nice!
@@kdub3288You defeated them!
4. They discard you.
Get ur facts right
Its always like that...😢
They hate criticism rather than have an adult conversation they will blow up with narc rage and then you get the word salad. The last encounter I had with a narcissistic friend she actually turned violent and poked me in the face, I slapped her only lightly but it was enough to shock her into stopping. They are insane dangerous people and it’s best to stay away from them.
I can't get the facial expressions out of my mind.They were insane.
I’ve let the narcissist hurt themself … I
didn’t play the game and remained authentic .Thank you Anoushka 🙏🏻
Perfect strategy 👏👏👏
100% same.
Super power . you go!
I was authentically mirroring his bs. I'm disappointed with myself. :(
I've turned the table on a narcissist, 180 degrees. They both hated that. Yes, yes they began to give me the silent treatment & to brush me off too. I murrmerd quietly to myself, ha - haahh, I won,you two lost, You guys wont bother me again, since don't want to communicate with me? That was one regrettable mistake I did.Ithervize, I wcould of / & would of have lost them. Thank you for thetips Anoushka.
Understanding a narcissistic personality is akin to deciphering a complex puzzle. Beneath the layers of arrogance lies a fragile self-esteem that constantly needs validation.
They dont need validation. They need obedience and service from others.
It's not that complicated. You just explained it in the second sentence.
Look at it in the abstract……they hurt themselves every minute they breathe, they don’t need us for that😉
EXACTLY 🎉 I completely agree
Excellent well put point.its a keeper
I had to stop this @ 1:42, right after you related that question about hurting the narcissist to ask, WHY CARE about someone who has done nothing but bring pain, misery, and degradation into your life? WHY???!!!
I just locked the abuser out less than 12 hours ago. I am soooo done, and anyone involved with one of those soul-less devils needs to allow some righteous indignation (aka- anger) to fuel that final step to freedom. I do not know what I'm going to do next, but @ 65, I'm going to take that chance.
This hits hard.
My wife would never accept any responsibility or accountability for anything in all the time we were together, It was beyond painful and frustrating, the icing on cake she would go to her favourite torture tool and preferred method of punishing me, the dreaded “silent” treatment, often for weeks and months at a time.
I didn’t know anything regarding this narcissistic behaviour then, God has since opened my eyes.
I’m thankful to be free of it now, never again will I allow someone to manipulate me in such away ever again.
God bless you. My ex narc would never take any accountability and apologize. She was terrible at communicating and she cheated. So glad she is gone and I'm doing no contact. Don't miss her, she can go ruin her next relationship bc that is exactly what she is doing!😂
@@Jay_Z. I empathise with you brother, my wife constantly emotionally cheated on me, devoid of ALL empathy!
I don’t know if she did physically but with all the horror I’ve been though, the woman I fell in love with simply doesn’t exist, anything is possible.
I pray the Lord heals you and we both can learn from this terrible experience and grow from it.
God bless you
My live-in 83 year old narcissist mother-in-law was captured on my bedroom security camera rummaging through my business records, specifically the daily financials. My wife and I decided not to confront her about this because it would have led to a complete meltdown and unhinged rage from her. Instead, we ensured our papers were properly hidden and I installed proper door locks to our bedroom. This did not go unnoticed by this narcissist. After a night of playing cards, the narcissist subtly kept saying me and my card’s partner were “liars”. I finally said to my partner, “kettle calling the pot black”, at which time I glanced up and saw the narcissist looking at me with those evil eyes as she warned me to “be careful”. I took the bait and let her know, “yes Julie, I have caught you in several lies”. Now she began her assent into full blown out of control rage. I managed to let her know I’ve got her on video before she totally lost it and began the insults and yelling and of course the silent treatment for the next few weeks. I personally love her silent treatments as it gives us a reprieve from her constant complaining and criticisms.
No one will 'get it' unless they have been through it. I have been through it. it is maddening. I told friends that it was like aliens took my wife and replaced her with this thing. It does get better. @bensiddons-bevis3158
No one can ever beat me if they are playing a game of silent treatment!
Its bye-bye!!
In the workplace, the narcissist boss will elevate weak but selfish people and put down efficient ones.
The weak ones follow and do everything the boss says. The boss is allowed to overstep boundaries.
I have experienced this phenomenon first hand.
Got that right. Ahe couldn't handle me and people like me
Absolutely experienced this!
Yes, I indeed hurt him. I was being set up through triangulation with new supply, I stopped reaching out, I swatted back against the hoover, declared my independence, and silence ever since. I forgave him and resolved to live my own life since he took off for someone else. He does not accept that and that is his choice. He can harbor the resentment and spite. I am free and that is an injury he inflicts upon himself. For me, confirmation he isn't worthy of my compassion or empathy. His problems are not mine anymore and he can no longer create or instigate problems for me.
Beautifully said!
I want to be this strong 😢
My wife retaliated by telling me she was living with another man who wasn't a family member. Before she finished, I hung up on her. I have since blocked her. This happened after I told her "no", she couldn't come over. I'm moving forward 1 day at a time
Speaking your mind to a narcissist after all their years of abuse is a sweet victory. Dunno how badly they might feel--probably not at all--but I feel better after saying it.
When I started questioning his aggressive behavior, the eye rolls, how he wouldn't even sit down & look at me, ect..he would disappear back to his apartment & barely text for days & make a million excuses not to come over. Toward the end of the relationship, he was just completely disappearing for a week at a time. If there was a conversation, he would talk in circles of blame & shame. It was exhausting & causing nothing but confusion in my household. My children were even affected because he was completely unreliable & his negative energy made all of us uncomfortable. I finally went no contact after 4yrs of this constant disrespect. Best decision ever. My home is a peaceful place again.
If I disagree I’m automatically being accused of stating a row. It’s like I’m not allowed to have my own opinions. It’s always someone else’s fault with a narcissist. They know better than anyone else!
My life right now. He was looking for his baseball bat tonight, I fled the house and am staying at my mom’s. Will face him when he’s sober.
@@jackieblack6248if that’s what he was looking for don’t go anywhere near him on your own
That's the entitlement aspect of narcissism. You not being allowed your own (separate and individual) thoughts. It's the ol' "if I want your opinion I'll give it to you!" Okey doke 😂
All of this! These people are so toxic & abusive! Dont waste years of your life,They only change for the worse!
Yep once they hit about 70 they become downright Demonic. Most them end up with Dementia.
“You really hurt my FEELINGS!!!” She had a total blowout and I just said that’s the way it’s going to be. She LOST it!! I just calmly responded that it wasn’t my intention to hurt her feelings this is just the way it is. So BETTY BAR THE DOOR, she didn’t get the response she wanted, set me up for a fall and STILL hasn’t figured out that I knew she’d do this. My mother is a narcissist and these people forget I had to live with her for 17 years. The head games don’t work anymore. And yes, silence is golden! Praying for ALL of us!!!
You sound like a narc
Don’t say never. There are different kinds of narcissists. I learned not to tell my ex anything. He would figure out how to use that information against you. And then there is Future Faking. “Stay with me and someday…”
They're void of insight or empathy yet arrogant enough to blame the match after They 🔥 burn the bridge.😮
Loving a narcissit is nothing but a life of bitter truth: they can't feel love and don't return it. Ultimately the more you try to reach these people, the more likely they are to feel hurt... a never ending cycle of hoplesness. Be warned.
It’s easy to see when you are detached. If you get something in a text you will be able to see it verbatim.
Emotional exchanges aren’t as easily remembered and harder to see it. Narcissists have to be in control at all cost. People are in their lives because they want something from them. They are skilled at extracting whatever it is from the unsuspecting. Image is everything to them.
Believe them when they show you who they are!!
Ty Anoushka.❤ I blocked a narc that I gave a chance two months. I enjoyed the person. It was definitely a one way situation ship. I'm staying strong but being strong sucks sometimes. At least I'm happier w/ out the narc
❤ yup been there it hurts
You will grow from here and be wiser x
I just went through this. I held my ground and the relationship ripped apart in front of my eyes. My positive take away was that I was not in deep enough to be destroyed by it. Yes, it was extremely painful but it's better to know sooner than later. Huggz Everyone, stay focused.
They get hurt over the stupidest things!!!! And they let you gravel knowing they will not see eye to eye
It isn't worth wearing one's self out for a self-absorbed narcissistic individual.
My foster dad is a covert narcissist. I hurt him and exposed who he is and now he avoids me like a plague. Thank God for that!
She totally ignored me cause I told her we don’t how to communicate with each other. She was rude and I have been no contact.
Sounds like my ex narc! She was terrible at communicating, don't miss that! No contact either, and I plan to keep it that way. 😂
My ex was the same way. I would try to have serious talks with her, and she would change the topic or manipulate my interest towards sex to deflect the conversation.
It's like you are the only one who understands me rather than all those people, thank you so much Anoushka. You're very mature and intelligent 😊
My first thought when I seen the title was anger, silent treatment and lobbying every thing right back at you. There is never a conclusion to any conversation with them, then they act like nothing happened or was ever said, cause it doesn’t fit in their narrative of them and how they are. Which is they are perfect even when they’re not.
Went to contact with me ex narc didn't see or hear from her in a year, she would try to get a reaction out of me on Social Media I stayed no contact no reaction she showed up at my kids school had a angry rant, assaulted me, I took every punch in silence, she then threatened to blow my brains out, I pressed charges and was issued a restraining order against her, so who knows what's next
Record every conversation, every communication. Video cameras on your place. Threats are serious.
@Emmm777 I will, I have to go to court Tuesday I don't understand why she popped up after a year! When she's been flaunting her new relationship in my face, I never responded or anything, if she's so happy as she says online why bother me?
@@ncfire51Keep going no contact. The best thing is to move on with your life and try and ignore her. The narcissist is never happy. It's an illusion. They seek to make others as unhappy as they are. they suck the energy out of others. Don't allow it. Be happy.
@Emmm777 that's what I plan to do, I just really hate to face her in court, with criminal charges and a restraining order it can affect her the rest of her life and that's not what I want for her, at the same time I have to stand up for myself I want her to have a happy life she has alot of potential, I hate to see her throw it away for a mistake she made, I don't even know why she done what she did!!
I could always tell when my ex suffered a narcissistic injury because her eyes would almost turn black! It was a scary sight. She was very good at not openly displaying how she truly felt but her eyes would look cold, dead, and almost evil.
I have noticed the Eyes there is no life in them , very strange !✨💖✨
The Narcissist I upset has disappeared !!! I have never seen him for years !!! I laughed at him when he was angry and told him he was Stupid. It Worked !!!
Sorry but it sounds more like you have been emotionally violent. Narcissists dont react the way you described. They dont just leave in such situation.
@@zandatee If you think I am going to be nice to a bitter man who idolizes Adolf Hitler, and has a Hitler Moustache, and he hates everyone and says old people and unmarried Mothers should be sent to the Gas Chambers. He's a coward who runs everyone down behind their backs. And you think he isn't a Narcissist !!!
You’re the narc..
De opfører sig som små børn der altid vil give skylden på andre og ikke tager ansvar for deres handlinger,jeg har jo sagt en gang døren er lukket. God aften Anouska 🙂
Exactly they behave emotionally immature … yes 🙌🏽
I know the feeling. They just don't get it. Only so much damage can be done, only so many lies can be told before one just shuts down mentally.
The best video you have ever done- after 5 years with the wrong person, you have hit the nail on every head. 👏🏽
I never cheated, lied and the word salad bit is perfect
I really liked it as I have faced such signs many times...What you said is right. Such people never change in positive ways as they are delusional & can't face the reality...❤
Your hair looks fabulous A!! Your content has helped me stay strong on NC since last May despite the exnarc STILL leaving voicemails despite being blocked. He's gone so far as to claim he's "basically homeless" to try to get a rise out of me. ZERO RESPONSE. Thanks for always driving home the need for SILENCE!!!
I just get the silent treatment!!! Lol
Me too.
I just delete their number now!@@Yash0030
😂 experienced 2 sadly .never again .Ghosting is such childish behaviour as is the silent treatment ...
Can someone done please make a Time Machine so I can back to to visit my younger self and tell him to run a frickin mile from that person
Idk why your videos showed up in my feed but so far the two I’ve watched speak almost directly to what I’ve been going through. I want to thank you again for posting these as they feel almost cathartic, it’s just crazy that they started showing up!
Narcissists employ silent treatment? And do "what?" after that? Think we miss them? Good one.
Yes they actually think u will feel guilty. Many do! One ca be too kind. Don’t be that person
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Excellent, perfect and precise. Thank you so much. ❤
There are narcissists that don’t drink, or aren’t physically or verbally abusive. They won’t mind that you’re with friends or colleagues, they aren’t jealous. They’re not your typical “movie” narcissists. They’ll leave a trail of honey for you to follow - so that when the relationship inevitably ends, you’ll realise that the other person didn’t force you to do anything - you did it all yourself.
I get the silent treatment when hes feeding a new supply
I live my own life an everything i do he puts down i never rise to it he bullys me calls me names i call him out all the time just wonder if anyone else goes threw this
Love yer channel.its help me understand so much ❤
Constantly. Get out a soon as you can.
The only reason he is staying around is he’s getting something from you. They are vampires and parasites. Leave as quick as possible. I know it’s hard. I couldn’t, had to take the discard route. It’s been 3 and a half years. Still hurts. But I have grown. I try to push forward every day. You can do it ❤
🎯 Deflecting Responsibility 🎯🙏
Postponing for Power
Well. I can't see these signs as I have dumped all the narcissists from my life long ago.
Anoushka you hit every nerve in my being this morning....I was laughing from my belly...everything you have said is 100 percent true. Much respect to you for helping so many people.
You hit the nail in the head with this one, lol 😊
Excellent video! Excellent explanation and articulation of the dynamics of how a narcissist processes feelings and actions. I just want to thank you for providing clear concise information that really does help us understand that which I find un-understadable and baffling because quite frankly their behavior never made sense to me. But now after hearing you articulate this behavior it starting to make sense although I still find it extremely incredible that any sensible individual would ever think like that. Maybe that is where I have gone wrong, thinking that these were sensible, reasonable individuals, when in reality these are highly self-absorbed individuals whom ultimately only care about themselves!
Yep. I hit the Trifecta.
Thank you for this video.
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She is spot on.
Yep a simple comment….. very honest simple comment… would lead to raised voices …. Storming off … a barrage of texts projecting on to me then ghosting blocking me for days or weeks!
I will never stoop to a narcissist. I will demolish his lies. Obey the liar. No way.
You say it so beautiful and in an elegant manner.
Hello, it's the first week-end that i not seeing my narcissit!!! it will go like this, i never want to see her again-it's a non winning battle while she never ever change!!! i still love her, i want her to be happy, i know she's in great pain -that makes me very sad, but i need to protect me!!! so long Petra, i wish you the best !!!!! 🥰🥰😇😇😥😥😢😢🙏🙏🙏
If they lose over a long period of time and have no hope of touching you and doing bad compared to you, they may get physically sick. Doctors can’t find any illness. But they will literally get sick to the point they are dying
That's an interesting concept. Noticed the same from a position of absolutely NC - for no reason.
What illness can they find from a lier? A narcissist will always say other things than reality.
@@Potencyfunction man that’s a sobering comment, even for me who thought i have got these people figured out
Acc to this - I have been tapdancing on my husbands nerves which I figured, however ty for reminding me that IS the way they show hurt. For a second there I was feeling like a confused yoyo.
Situationally Im in 1 where the narc is blatently doing all she states, its infuriating after a while. To have someone who outright refuse and argue to show you respect WHILE in that same breath they demand YOU to respect them wholly. You could be ballin tears down your face rivers and your state of being isnt a factor to them, may see a tiny bit of guilt cross their expressions but dont try acting on it will end with you just hearing from them in response something thats designed to render emotional pain -straight up and coldly- and guarenteed to piss you off.
To be treated like a useless child and made soully responsible for both problems and changes they are exempted from all the time.
..Honestly it does and doesnt surprise me that they get away with it. My guy looked good, spoke sane the whole time seriously dating - 4 hours after I Do - Boom
different person towards problems. Wtf
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Not many talk about the fact alcoholism basically makes people narcissistic, the dependancy enables many to get into the habit and have no real coping skills and all during a period where there is no doubt they have impared judgment.
So if you want to avoid them, safe bet is cross off anyone who drinks 😅 Ive heard from another professionals channel that 1 out of 6 people are narcissistic; May the odds be ever in your favor ❤😂😅😢
I can only control my behaviour , nobodiy else s. Your attitude is the only option.
They don't tell you and never will. But, boy, do they show you. They flip. The rage is off the scale.
anoushka you know what I did, I actually felt bad and sensed that I hurt their feelings, and I apologized to them for everything that I might have done wrong it was super hard for me to do but it made me feel better, it has helped me move on so much more, now they are left with their own moral responsibility and I have no weight on their life anymore, which allows me to separate myself from this toxic person
this type of person I can't imagine would bring up any wrong doings because it makes them look confrontational so I had to bring it up and it wasn't easy but almost seemed necessary.
I have no hope of ever getting back them or them ever telling me the truth. That’s why narcissists people should be treated the same way they treat others. But the more you try anything with them, they go for your throat and you’re left with even more anger because they think you’re trying to get them.
If I didn’t agree with something my ex friend would say about a certain person, he would say “Well your not on my side then” while glaring angrily at me” it only got worse. I’ve one no contact at all. I occasionally have to pass him but I have to just totally ignore him as I’m happier now that I’m not being controlled & raged at for god knows what, I’m never going back to that abuse !
You probably dont understand maturity. No one have to be on your side. Everyone has individual thoughts, preferences, teams, favorite sports, holiday destinations, foods and culture. No is is obligated to follow you or to be on your side. Go and find your self and accept reality. Weik up from the lie you are living, you are lieing to yourself. Is like you was living all your life with a wife who loved another and you was dreaming that you can make yourself loved. What you did instead-jealousy? Probably because is bettter than to get your shoes and accept reality .
Omg .this is mind blowing.
This explains my entire 19year situationship😢
I'm convinced there put curses on people 😮
Yessss!! 😳
This was so helpful! My ex daughter in law projects so badly upon me, she blames me for things she is doing, like withholding contact from her children- twice now she has suddenly pulled visitations from their father without notice when she heard I would be at the visit. But she blames me for not having seen them in months. In violent terms. When I identified what she is actually doing, backed up by quotes of her texts, she offered a “not apology” again blaming me for “misunderstanding” her words. When I identified that her “not apology” did not actually involve her owning her previous abuse of me, she has now blocked and is in the silent treatment mode. It breaks my heart that she uses her children as pawns in her games, as she is hurting them the most, but I cannot do anything about her actions and it is not me that is hurting them.
Narcissistic word salad is so confusing, they make no sense. I just shake my head and laugh.
When I told the "Veterinarian" that she was wrong about a Cat's weight, she flew into a rage. "Don't you EVER correct me in front of the client ever again!!!!!!, She screamed. She blame shifted, Gaslit, and went on and on of how superior and great she was, she was more wrong more times I could count. The Veterinary Technician, and Office manager told me she was crazy and arrogant and entitled. This psycho was the biggest most worthless Narcissist. She was also a very bad veterinarian who misdiagnosed several times.
I totally had to deal with people like this, but the worst, most recent, it was a female about my age who exposed all the signs you showcased in this video. I couldn't believe how childish she would behave when I was trying just to have a normal professional conversation about how we could manage our daily tasks! She wouldn't let me talk, but constantly interrupt me and deflect and then make a word salad ... it made me wonder if she actually knew how to speak or she was just pretending to know, as I found out from a similar person that she had some 'big people in the company' behind her and would be unwise to confront her... say what? Also she made up remarks about my mental health and made sure to shout it out loud when the customers were around and then made sure, or actually even forcing customers to give her the best review for her 'service' literally taking their phone and writing a nice review about herself. She would always want to be in control but was never able to actually prove she was. When the lack of experience would be so obvious, and would realise she lost the support of other staff members, she would start calling from her personal mobile and leave the building during the working hours, going to see her 'friends' to complain and gossip about our team. That was the most ridiculous set of behaviours I'd ever encountered I thought, but then if I looked at my past experiences, there were so many people I met who displayed some of those traits. There is something about these 'people', you can feel their malicious energy that they want to hide it behind a fake smile or a bossy attitude. If you pay attention to your instincts you will feel it right from the 1st encounter. Run or ignore them as much as you can, they are the real life vampires. On the other side, if you feel bad for them because of their childhood, maybe try just to pray for their soul without having any contact with them. These people are suffering and you may feel their pain in a way, but stay away from them at any costs. Unless you're a professional psychologist and that's your job.
Oh the narcissist is very vulnerable if you find that little bitty slit to be able to get under their skin, they become great big babies and throw their tantrums that no one but you get to see then usually thunder straight out the door thinking they are leaving you to suffer after ghosting you in this way. 😊
What they really hate is when someone gets them fired without ever saying a word to them.
He acused me of being with someone else so I said yes, he got very upset because I wouldn't tell him the name of the restaurant hug up on me and I blocked him, when I called him back he blocked me,best thing he could've done,
This Narcissist wife is doing exactly that!! More willing to do her own things
Exact again. Muss less communication, never ever wanting to show vulnerability to the contrary, saying something like I love, then no follow up? What is that, or what do I say, how can I return I love you, after seeing some silent treatment, only more coming. Never ever going to have a conversation, not going to happen, this is their power at all times.
I did figure out for myself what she says here, that there can be no conversation because they can't show or admit they were hurt by you, that's vulnerability, and mine is just Joe Cool. So thus it would seem there is no fixing it, you can't say you are sorry, because, 'it didn't happen'. While it is just between the two of you anyway. Funny they would be better off talking to you, for there is stress on both sides of it, and we all have to get relief, and will end up talking about it to others, exactly what the narc would not want! They are so afraid, don't reason well.
The narcissist hurt themselves all i need to do is stand by and watch. Definitely not get in the way .
Yeah, if you are aware of the games and manipulation, they ghost)
This is so true and just in time again lol many thanks
Guess I hit lots of her nerves 🙋🏻♂️🤗🤣 because I could check off all 3 boxes.
My soon to be x would get angry out of the blue over really odd stuff. I’m originally from PA, and he would tell me to go back to PA; we had 2 places and he would stomp off saying he was going to the other place. He didn’t know how to have a discussion if we didn’t agree etc. no matter how minor. Boggled my mind- until I finally figured it out.
I had absolutely NO IDEA I HURT him. Lol. I did ask him a year after the accident. Are you mad becuz you were kicked out of nursing school and haven’t spoken to your daughter since the accident. He brushed it off and said. Babe, the accident is becuz I was kicked out of nursing school. The 9 months when I was dating you I didn’t pass becuz I didn’t do my homework twice prior. That was fair, but oh boy deep down I did hurt him in his eyes. I saved him from years of jail, but they don’t look at it like that. They have childish secretive behaviors that I didn’t know even existed. The silent treatment. He laid that on even harder after I went non contact a year and a half after the accident. I think I blocked and saved his number as head case. It’s all just the weirdest thing I have ever been through in my dating life. I had never seen this before.🤯👈🏻
I don't know what to think .... is the behaviour of a Narcissist sick or is it very sad ?
My reason for asking is that my neighbour, who's behaviour and antics fits all the criteria for Narcissism, she watches me, she watches when my friends come to my house .
It's sad af. Once you understand what it actually is
I will uncover my current situation to serve so many people
I can't clearly point out things about some people I meet, but after a while I get some anxiety and feel exhausted.
Yeah I have gotten the silent treatment for 3 days but I am mirroring him.
while I love the video, and what you do...... I'm starting to think that even wondering if you've hurt them is giving them a power of you that is only hurting you and not them.
My favorite saying is resentment is like drinking poison and hoping the other person gets sick from your actions.
100% agree with everything you say in this video, I@m just really tired, as soon as my father died, and they said they didnt think I wanted them at the funeral because I didn't act the right way the day before...... I knew, but I fought for another year, and is a year I'll never get back...... any point point I made, they brought up everything I ever did wrong, and not just me, my best friend didn't act right towards her at the funeral, cause he'd lost his mom a few months beforehand, so then he clearly hated her...... my daughter from a previous relationship was always a problem..... so once my dad died, was the perfect exit, but kept me in the back pocket..... as I said, wasted the last year holding out we could have a proper conversation, drove me nuts to the point I'd lose it, she'd talk about losing a phone, and how hard it was on her, I'd try be nice..... wouldn't ask once how my mom was doing, after she was very good to her for years...... I'd eventually say something..... big mistake.......once you know, just drop them and move on..... it'll hurt, like hell, but we all make mistakes, pick yourself up, and move on as quickly as possible
5:44 when you really spot that, when you really see the defense mechanism impose itself... it's like suddenly you see the emptiness, the complete void. Everything they said was a mimic of something, their most inner core is corrupted and there's nothing under. Sometimes in some particular moments, a vague moment of clarity, but any little thing will trigger immediately the imposing imaginary self back up. It's like the person doesn't exist, that imaginary self takes over period. it's like a puppet
The end for my ex was when I threw her out. I have no doubt that I hurt her…but as she attacked my daugther I did exactly what was needed. She went silent and I called her and finally ended the relationship.
I have not contacted her since…not once 😊
She tried to contact me 1,5 years later where I only gave her 1 Word before I Cut the Call. The one Word was Goodbye
I offered friendship. The narcissist/s wanted more-no sin there. However, assuming mutual interest is highly narcissistic. They don't pay attention to cues. They hate when you have your own preferences, likes, and attractions, which are not to them. Their delusion can potentially become a violation of your boundary, which to them is akin to "meanness." How dare you not be interested in me!-malignant, delusional narc. m.o.
Don't tolerate ridiculous behavior.
P.S. I only have frank conversations with those I don't believe are narcs. Mantra: "don't try to reason with unreasonable people."
My ex narc ran away when she saw me, after I called her out!😂
When I have covered this topic based on my own experience and education, I tend to say you have hurt the Narcist when they whine and play the victim role. This is for the obvious overt narcist, the people who are really domineering, patronizing etc. If you get them to complain how you wronged them you should walk away, because "this probably is as good as it gets", and this is usually just a way of them trying to guilt trip and manipulate you using a more covert ploy or styled approach.
Yes, I am also experiencing my partner's reaction now.
She told me to never contact her or my daughter again(24 year story behind that)…. so I didn’t, 2 years almost to the day she sent me a picture of me from the 70’s…. that was actually mine taken by a friend on my camera, I ignored it completely, she had deleted all her previous foul comments that I triggered, I refuse to block her, that would only indicate too her she had had an impact on me
And the fourth sign is that red stuff pouring from their forehand 😊