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  • @samanthaharper7472
    @samanthaharper7472 4 роки тому +4129

    Ok ya'll.. I commented on this video 8 months ago. I was going through s hard break up. I lost myself completely. I was watching break up videos and motivating videos everyday. I actually ended up finding my new boyfriend during these 8 months and starting my first year of college. Im a lot happier than I have ever been. So 8 months later... im here to tell you all that it gets better!! Focus on you and your goals and girl you got this!!! Im thankful for videos like this one.
    Edit: I should have mentioned that my boyfriend now treats me amazing, and I have definitely found my future husband. Keep your chin up, and think positive. I know its easier said then done, but I didnt find my boyfriend and my happiness over night. I decided to start to make productive goals for myself (like attend college) and sort out my mental health issues. This is when I started to see progress in my life, and I became happy with myself and started to love myself. Thats when I found my boyfriend. He showed me that I am an amazing person, with a purpose. I encourage you all to put YOU first, and let god do the rest

    • @alyssakeller8371
      @alyssakeller8371 4 роки тому +34

      Samantha Harper needed this

    • @colettepepping1922
      @colettepepping1922 4 роки тому +27

      Needed to hear this. Thank you!

    • @oeu3669
      @oeu3669 4 роки тому +42

      Damn... I needed this... I been hurting... I can’t even figure out if it’s a break up or not but he’s detached a lot.. it’s nice to hear what you did. Any other tips you have for healing please let me know

    • @Enielleday
      @Enielleday 3 роки тому +10

      Really needed this 🥺💞

    • @samanthaharper7472
      @samanthaharper7472 3 роки тому +36

      @@oeu3669 I just updated my comment with some helpful advice and what I did. Simply, I decided to put me first. Its so simple, yet a lot f us find it so hard to do. But trust me, its worth it in the end. Once I put myself first and found who I wanted to be, I was connected with a like minded person that I needed in this moment of my life. To give you some insight, I used to be very suicidal and after some really toxic behaviour over years. As well as toxic relationships. Once I decided it was time to take care of myself, god and the universe gave me what I always wanted. It takes time, but just hang in there and remember you are the most important person in your life, everyone else is second.

  • @simplyika7823
    @simplyika7823 5 років тому +8910

    Man's rejection is God's protection, yes Breeny, preach sis.

    • @Shidzable
      @Shidzable 5 років тому +6

      Ika's Musings amen

    • @rosegold973
      @rosegold973 5 років тому +4

      💯💯💯

    • @mrs.camillewarrenempress3115
      @mrs.camillewarrenempress3115 5 років тому +14

      Yess that's is all..

    • @F0reverblessed
      @F0reverblessed 5 років тому +29

      That’s right! Difficult to see at first, but once that cloud passes it’s all sunSHINE! 😉❤️

    • @cincin9275
      @cincin9275 5 років тому +2

      Say no more😩🙌🏾🙌🏾

  • @RobynBrie
    @RobynBrie 5 років тому +3788

    Yes!! God says, "You weren't rejected. I hid your value from them because they were not assigned to your destiny." God allowed him to walk away because you prayed for a good man and he wasn't it. Onward and upward!

  • @lisasiawild5816
    @lisasiawild5816 3 роки тому +1986

    “I’M LITERALLY GOING TO DIE” is my whole mood during this breakup 😭

    • @judithjulie4267
      @judithjulie4267 3 роки тому +1

      I know of a man who can attract back your ex within 48 hours hours....
      He was the one who brought back my ex within 48 hours, ever since I got back with my ex I have been enjoying my reunion with him.

    • @judithjulie4267
      @judithjulie4267 3 роки тому

      What''sapp him ;

    • @judithjulie4267
      @judithjulie4267 3 роки тому

      + 2 3 4 9 0 6 6 1 8 5 7 3 7:

    • @spanishlalaby2454
      @spanishlalaby2454 3 роки тому

      Tell me about it.....daaaamn!!!

    • @paulabelengonzalez7413
      @paulabelengonzalez7413 3 роки тому +8

      I feel you deep. It's what I'm going thru right now. We WILL make out alive and well 💪

  • @Danejamonique
    @Danejamonique 2 роки тому +224

    “LET HIM GO” are the words I’ve been saying to myself thru out the day.

    • @shatiyamacon8564
      @shatiyamacon8564 Рік тому

      Hey! Let me know if you need help in this area. I teach women how to bounce back after heartbreak with confidence, get unstuck, and embrace their new beginning, just as I did when that 19 year relationship ended last year. Let me know if you want more details to join my private group. Sending healing your way.

  • @moperson1
    @moperson1 5 років тому +514

    A breakup is God's way of saying he's not the right one.

    • @yaaau1
      @yaaau1 4 роки тому +6

      Mo Person not always

    • @moperson1
      @moperson1 4 роки тому

      @@yaaau1 Can you explain, dear lady?

    • @yaaau1
      @yaaau1 4 роки тому +18

      Mo Person sometimes God makes you to separate from your loved one for some time. It can be months, years just to grow as a person and realise that the person you had is what you really wanted.. . If it’s meant to be you’ll find a way to each other

    • @moperson1
      @moperson1 4 роки тому +13

      @@yaaau1 Dear Natalie, well said. Maybe: "...not the right person or time, or circumstance."
      Thank you, and good luck to you and your new or renewed relationship.

    • @SarahSASshow
      @SarahSASshow Місяць тому

      fr

  • @anjelinaayvazova9526
    @anjelinaayvazova9526 5 років тому +2023

    "Cry, but put your crown back on when you finish crying"❤️

  • @-qf6gv916
    @-qf6gv916 3 роки тому +679

    Omg I needed to hear this “he didnt leave you because there was something wrong with you. the reason he was with you in the first place is because he saw something amazing in you.you are amazing! Take care of yourself and protect yourself. Do not give that responsibility to others” Why are these simple concepts so fulfilling to hear?

    • @elle-uz8wp
      @elle-uz8wp 2 роки тому

      YES

    • @ashley_brown6106
      @ashley_brown6106 2 роки тому +1

      Sometimes people are just inconlatible, no matter how amazing they are...

  • @julietporfavor
    @julietporfavor 3 роки тому +1260

    As I’m writing this I’m in tears. I’ve never needed a video more than ever. You have NO idea the immense impact that this video just had on me. Thank you so much. You have given me the hope I lost.

    • @julietporfavor
      @julietporfavor 3 роки тому +21

      I’m watching this every single day.

    • @judithjulie4267
      @judithjulie4267 3 роки тому +1

      I know of a powerful man who can make your ex to come back to you begging you back for a second chance.
      He was the one who brought back my ex within 48 hours

    • @judithjulie4267
      @judithjulie4267 3 роки тому

      What sapp him

    • @judithjulie4267
      @judithjulie4267 3 роки тому

      + 2 3 4 9 0 6 6 1 8 5 7 3 7

    • @elia3020
      @elia3020 3 роки тому +1

      @@julietporfavor how are you now ? Sending you love 🤍

  • @annettejohn6829
    @annettejohn6829 5 років тому +2011

    My ex left me just weeks before my finals... couldn't study anything...was all over the place...I have one week in my hand now... please pray for me..that I have the strength and courage to study during this difficult time.. please

    • @Lora7890
      @Lora7890 5 років тому +53

      Please be strong..i also had my break up at 9th may..i am crying daily..everything is so dull and so painful for me..

    • @sophrm3712
      @sophrm3712 5 років тому +26

      Exactly thesame over here. Broke up with me, told me he wanted some time to think without contact to see what his life would look like without me in it.
      It has been 2 weeks now and I still haven’t heard from him.. I am so heartbroken, but getting better i guess

    • @Lora7890
      @Lora7890 5 років тому +10

      @@sophrm3712 it's 18days of my no contact..he called me today 2times..I didn't receive..and texted me "oh!u didn't love me..u loved only the good time of mine..now I am relaxed..take care"..is it emotional blackmail? I replied "I don't have to justify my self..so take care"

    • @Genes1s___
      @Genes1s___ 5 років тому +10

      Annette John I hope you passed all your finals!! I was in a similar situation where I was going through a breakup during finals a couple weeks ago... Any updates on how you are, because I feel lost and broken it’s been 5 days since she broke me.

    • @annettejohn6829
      @annettejohn6829 5 років тому +19

      @@Genes1s___ heyy...my results are yet to come...and I'm super stressed out because of that coz I was so heartbroken that I fell really sick during the exams and I was down with fever and vomitting...and my papers sucked... I'm really worried about my results..and my ex hasn't tried contacting me at all...if anything he's actually blocked me everywhere else..😭😭😭 my life is just going downhill..I don't think I can do this anymore... I have no hopes left from myself...it's been two months now..and I'm only getting worse...

  • @sydsaidsso3310
    @sydsaidsso3310 4 роки тому +1535

    “It’s even worse cause they’re not dead!” Thank you!!!! Lmaooooo😂

    • @phoenixrising8007
      @phoenixrising8007 3 роки тому +9

      It’s funny until it happens 😳

    • @salmakarimi4994
      @salmakarimi4994 3 роки тому +12

      Honestly this is how I feel it’s actually grief 😫 feels weird saying that..

    • @celestemariscal4360
      @celestemariscal4360 3 роки тому +2

      My therapist said the same thing it’s processing a death and a loss in away

    • @MA-yc7pz
      @MA-yc7pz 2 роки тому

      🤣🤣🤣

  • @tiarablount1602
    @tiarablount1602 2 роки тому +344

    When you said man’s rejection is God’s protection and God was protecting you from something, It warmed my heart.

  • @94foreveracirrehs26
    @94foreveracirrehs26 2 місяці тому +13

    Here in 2024 and still listening to her. Through every breakup😭

  • @anjyazoh-mbi5185
    @anjyazoh-mbi5185 5 років тому +1983

    God will NEVER take something away from you that you NEED #Word

    • @CrazyFai
      @CrazyFai 5 років тому +3

      Anjy Azoh-mbi 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

    • @itslive822
      @itslive822 5 років тому +7

      That does make sense.

    • @anjyazoh-mbi5185
      @anjyazoh-mbi5185 5 років тому +1

      @@itslive822 It does!

    • @nunya257
      @nunya257 5 років тому +2

      Good one Anjy

    • @FrankieGclark
      @FrankieGclark 4 роки тому +5

      AMEN! Love this so much!!!!

  • @user-sk3nq8er3x
    @user-sk3nq8er3x 5 років тому +2791

    she’s so much better than ALOT of the so called therapist 🌚

    • @Ladykhalifakhalif
      @Ladykhalifakhalif 5 років тому +11

      Agreed 😏😏😏

    • @user-sk3nq8er3x
      @user-sk3nq8er3x 5 років тому +5

      Aisha Ali girl we have the same name 🥰

    • @sunvavachi
      @sunvavachi 5 років тому +37

      She is good but therapy is for different things not just break ups lol. So we shouldn't bash therapists. :P

    • @user-sk3nq8er3x
      @user-sk3nq8er3x 5 років тому +15

      Sunethra I’m aware that there’s different therapy sessions for different things. And I’m not bashing them as a whole. I’m saying from MY experience that the advice I’ve gotten from her is much better than some of the therapists I’ve seen. So please don’t try to manipulate what I’m saying. Thankyou

    • @SR77736
      @SR77736 5 років тому +8

      @@sunvavachi she's better than my therapists so I'm gonna agree and bash then bc I can. You can't stop me. 😌

  • @nazay9986
    @nazay9986 10 місяців тому +72

    I just can't believe that 2 years with him has gone in seconds.
    I'm still so attached to him...

    • @sykkunostan1710
      @sykkunostan1710 4 місяці тому +3

      how are you doing?

    • @tanishatalley3313
      @tanishatalley3313 3 місяці тому +5

      I hope all is well. I’m going through the same thing. We were together 5 years and he got with someone else while we were in a relationship. 😩

    • @bougieb00
      @bougieb00 3 місяці тому

      @@tanishatalley331310 years and it’s like I don’t even know him anymore.

    • @tanyaramos7793
      @tanyaramos7793 2 місяці тому +1

      Same. June will be 2 years. He just broke up with me cuz feels like he’s pulling away and I’ve been getting insecure. Then I’ve started feeling suspicious of him. He broke up with me over the phone, like nothing. Cuz he’s tired of me not trusting him! I’m thrown!!!!
      My feelings exactly. 2 years done in minutes.
      How are you managing now????

    • @sykkunostan1710
      @sykkunostan1710 2 місяці тому +1

      in case anyone is still commenting here: i commented on this video two months ago and i was at the lowest point of my life. i struggled with suicidal thoughts and didn’t get out of bed for three weeks. what made everything worse was seeing my ex already experiment with other girls and post about how great her life was after completely abandoning me. i want everyone to know it gets better. time truly does heal, i’m finally feeling like myself again and it’s the most liberating feeling in the world. my biggest piece of advice is to start doing activities that you did before you met your ex. or hangout with friends you stopped hanging out with. you’ll remember day by day who you are and begin to realize YOU are the biggest comfort you can have, not your ex. you MUST detach to heal. i’m sending so much love to anyone going through this

  • @kayleeramirez4089
    @kayleeramirez4089 3 роки тому +312

    it’s been almost 3 months and i find myself coming back to this video, the pain comes back in waves but i hope it comes to an end soon.

    • @christabelhaneul4939
      @christabelhaneul4939 3 роки тому

      Hello lovely I can Introduce you to the same powerful relationship restorer who helped me recover back my ex. He can also help you to get back with yours with much love .

    • @christabelhaneul4939
      @christabelhaneul4939 3 роки тому

      What sapp him

    • @christabelhaneul4939
      @christabelhaneul4939 3 роки тому

      + 2 3 4 8 1 1 5 6 7 1 2 1 2

    • @leele2579
      @leele2579 Рік тому +2

      Omg really. I been married 14 years I thought it got easier

    • @abigailankrah3186
      @abigailankrah3186 Рік тому +1

      Hope you’re better now❤️

  • @ttaylor8631
    @ttaylor8631 5 років тому +726

    Heartbreak. It feels like someone died but they are not dead :-(

    • @ebonyw-s9142
      @ebonyw-s9142 4 роки тому +8

      That is called ambiguous loss. 😔

    • @gabbytalk4664
      @gabbytalk4664 4 роки тому +1

      Tylina Taylor that’s Right!!! That’s how I feel! 😭😭😭

    • @NeShops4U
      @NeShops4U 4 роки тому +3

      I feel this right now- birthday tomorrow with out my best friend 😒

    • @luc6284
      @luc6284 4 роки тому

      If she died maybe I would've died too I can't imagine how devastating that would've been. Maybe if someone dumped me and cheated on me that I would live up to the pain of death but my ex has always been very respectful and trustworthy and full of kindness. I will always have good memories of her. I just hope so bad that I don't compare my future girlfriend(s) to her too much if they do actually lie or say hateful things. I had such a deep, loving connection with her over a year and three months that honestly sounds stronger than my parent's relationship for like 25 years or so. I wish her the best :(

  • @natalieb3493
    @natalieb3493 5 років тому +862

    I’ve never felt so emotional about paper lol

  • @doreenwendi2290
    @doreenwendi2290 Рік тому +56

    Yesterday I broke up with my boyfriend who I have been with for about 5+ year. I am really finding it hard to move on and forgive myself for not being kind enough. I allowed him to manipulate me and use me, he disrespected me and he was never there for me. I gave my all but for him it wasn't enough.This video has really inspired me I will do better and I will come back here after 8 months or 1 year to share my progress with you guys. Kindly just pray for me because it's not an easy decision I made.

    • @li5043
      @li5043 7 місяців тому +6

      How did it go

    • @raznabegum5847
      @raznabegum5847 4 місяці тому

      U went back???

    • @doreenwendi2290
      @doreenwendi2290 3 місяці тому

      No I didn't go back. I started working on myself and realized that I used to give more to others than I did to myself. I started loving myself more, appreciating myself, manifesting positive things in my life and honestly speaking a lot changed.
      I used to miss him but this time I had to stand on business I never called or texted him. I decided to go in a no contact mood. After a few months, that's like 7 months he reached out to me begging me that we should give it a try, at that time I had lost all the feelings. I used to ignore the calls and texts, until one day I became honest with him because he was a manipulator and I told him all is done I have moved on, no feelings so stop calling and texting me, nothing will change. I told him he had a hundred chances but he wrecked them up. He should accept it has happened and move on too. Now I realized it's starting to hit him that "nice girl" he once was using has gotten some sense.
      He continued disturbing me until he got tired I didn't want to block his number because personally I felt that is not a step I should take in order for me to heal I just deleted it but never blocked it.
      I was so over him in less than 7 months this was after evaluating and weighing the good and the wrong he ever did me. It turned out the wrong were more I couldn't allow him in my life. Again I gave a try to another relationship and honestly speaking it's the best I have ever had. This man treats me as his first priority something I have never experienced before. He does what a man is supposed to do for his woman without me having to ask. He proposed to me. He was the first man to celebrate my birthday, he took me to his mum, introduced me to his whole family as the wife. His sister on a daily basis they call me to check up on me. Whenever I go to his workplace he always shows me off to his coworkers introducing me to them like "met my beautiful wife". I'm loved and it feels like heaven.
      He has been inspiring me to be a better woman every now and then he gives me ideas on how to make my own extra money, and goes to the extent of giving me capital to start my own business. He makes sure my nails, hair is done, dates planned. He's there emotionally, physically anytime I need hi. He takes me to his church every Sunday. He makes sure if there are things disturbing me he's there to listen and we always figure out, he knows how to deal with insecurities.
      I found what I have been missing he's just a green flag. All I pray is that whatever is happening let it not end in tears and hurt.

    • @tanyaramos7793
      @tanyaramos7793 2 місяці тому +2

      So, it’s been a year? How are you now?

    • @alsirah_
      @alsirah_ 2 місяці тому +1

      I hope you are doing well ❤️‍🩹

  • @isadora5826
    @isadora5826 2 роки тому +191

    I was here just like yall a few months ago. I was destroyed and I thought I'd never grow out of that pain. And here's the thing: you can't speed up healing. You can't make a checklist and follow steps that are going to make you feel okay. But trust me -- no matter how heartbroken you are now, you WILL feel better. I'm doing great, and I wouldn't trade my peace of mind for anything. And I don't want him back, after a year of grieving and praying he'd return.
    Find reasons to smile. Spend time with friends and family. Start a new hobby. Dance to loud music in your room. Scream out those break up song lyrics you relate to. Block them. Cry. And wake up the next day. Don't give up on yourself.

    • @okezieuche109
      @okezieuche109 2 роки тому

      I know of a man who could help you restore back your relationship either your ex or soulmate

    • @okezieuche109
      @okezieuche109 2 роки тому

      He was the one who helped me in restoring back my ex partner three days ago without delay

    • @okezieuche109
      @okezieuche109 2 роки тому

      Whtsaap him"**

    • @okezieuche109
      @okezieuche109 2 роки тому

      +17739168521⏩⏩⏭⏭

    • @patriciapatfamily6605
      @patriciapatfamily6605 2 роки тому

      Hello dear I know of a powerful man from POLAND who can make your ex to come back to you begging you for a second chance.
      He helped me to get back with my ex and we are living happily together so far.

  • @user-le3ij5py6q
    @user-le3ij5py6q 5 років тому +1397

    When she said "I give you permission to cry"..... girl I was already crying just typing into the search bar for a video like this, but thanks 😂😭😭😭😭

    • @1tundra11
      @1tundra11 5 років тому

      That was deep! 😞💝

    • @sabeenzafar9618
      @sabeenzafar9618 4 роки тому +3

      How are you now?

    • @natashaswagg6559
      @natashaswagg6559 4 роки тому

      jouska you are so beautiful..his lost..

    • @FrankieGclark
      @FrankieGclark 4 роки тому +4

      awwww please dont cry!! If this video helped check out mine too

    • @Ash.99
      @Ash.99 4 роки тому

      Same lol

  • @annaburns4262
    @annaburns4262 4 роки тому +749

    I just found out yesterday that my boyfriend cheated on me. I broke up with him. My worth is more important than his. I got this!!

    • @lidia4474
      @lidia4474 4 роки тому +19

      Yes! You are worth more. Remain strong 👍👍👍

    • @haleybain8915
      @haleybain8915 4 роки тому +8

      Yes baby girl. Keep going. I believe in you. You didn’t deserve that.

    • @smackinnon13
      @smackinnon13 4 роки тому +3

      Yaaaas Queen! ^^^^

    • @madelinegraygray9320
      @madelinegraygray9320 4 роки тому +1

      Good for you!! You got this fr

    • @makeitcount2985
      @makeitcount2985 4 роки тому +7

      Go girl, when they cheat its a deal breaker

  • @genesis9087
    @genesis9087 Рік тому +119

    I cried listening to this because it is very hard to deal with pain. It’s so hard sometimes to have that self worth because you know if you do, you have to walk away….

    • @loveadvice3145
      @loveadvice3145 Рік тому

      Dealing I have tired this so many times it didn't work seek solution from dr frank on getting back with your ex partner with much love and commitment and also get rid of third party inless than 48 hours of his service to you

    • @loveadvice3145
      @loveadvice3145 Рік тому

      Wʜᴀᴛ’sᴀᴘᴘ ʜɪᴍ for help🙏

  • @ewuramaampomaa
    @ewuramaampomaa 3 місяці тому +18

    Found this video whiles going through a breakup. Everything seemed so fine and never in my wildest dreams would I have wishes for a break up. But it happened. He lost interest. I want to come back here one day to tell y'all how much I've healed. Please pray for me 🙏😭

  • @wherecomesthesun442
    @wherecomesthesun442 5 років тому +554

    "God is protecting you from something" damn, I felt that!

    • @donnagee4183
      @donnagee4183 5 років тому +2

      Wow this really helped me...ty guys

  • @diraaaa
    @diraaaa 4 роки тому +1198

    I'm going to listen to this everyday until i truly let him go 😭

  • @mavisyarquah842
    @mavisyarquah842 Рік тому +14

    Its been 4 months and I still cry each day I’m soo broken that I’m scared I can never heal

  • @unknownuser4340
    @unknownuser4340 5 місяців тому +8

    He broke up with me today and i really needed this video. I revolved my whole world around him. It hurt so bad when he broke up with me and he even had a backup. But im okay, i need to let go and walk to the next open door. God did this for me for a reason. I blocked him on everything and im giving back all his things that he gave to me becase i don't need any memories of him. Remember guys, would you rather waste your whole life chasing him or life your life free and happy. This is day one of my breakup. I hope things get better for me. My life is in shambles as well but i have a lot of support and im very great ful for it

    • @harveenbanga2959
      @harveenbanga2959 Місяць тому

      Hi there, its been 3 months, how are you now?

  • @loiceyy
    @loiceyy 5 років тому +449

    "I asked God to deliver me from evil and he delivered me from you" 😭😭😭

    • @ellemarie406
      @ellemarie406 5 років тому +7

      I wish i could like this more than once 👏👏

    • @mahaliabarrow4334
      @mahaliabarrow4334 4 роки тому

      GIRL!!!! 💯

    • @loveandfaithfulness4479
      @loveandfaithfulness4479 Рік тому

      When you look to find a spouse, look for someone who strives to seek God in all they do. Cultural norms and traditions come and go, But the Word of the Lord endures forever. First, early in the relationship connection, express your desire to avoid premarital sex. When you express your desire to want to honor God with your sexuality before marriage, this won’t be a shock to a real Christian. That is just a basic biblical command all true Christians want to follow. Sexual intimacy is an expression of love that brings happiness and unity into a marriage. It is also the power by which married couples can “multiply, and replenish the earth” (Genesis 1:28). Intimacy is a blessing that can lead to the incomparable joy of children as part of the eternal family unit.
      1 Corinthians 6:18-20
      "Flee sexual immorality. Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body. Or do you not know that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God, and you are not your own? For you were bought at a price; therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God’s."
      But if you say this to someone who is just pretending to obey the Bible, they will leave you quickly because they will not be willing to wait until marriage for sex. Someone can deceive you with words. But when you see their obedience to the Lord that matches their words, then you know they are trustworthy. They need to be visibly producing the fruits of the Spirit because this is a mark of a true Christian. Anyone can claim to be a Christian. And we can’t know someone’s heart. So the Bible says we are to evaluate people by their actions. Christians will not be perfect, but they will be bearing fruit that is evidence of their true salvation.
      Galatians 5:22-26
      "But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control. Against such there is no law. And those who are Christ’s have crucified the flesh with its passions and desires. If we live in the Spirit, let us also walk in the Spirit. Let us not become conceited, provoking one another, envying one another."
      Hebrews 13:4
      "Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge."

  • @kjbrocky
    @kjbrocky 4 роки тому +590

    I have been through a lot of trauma in my life, and I mean A LOT. And NOTHING is as painful as not being loved back by the one you love. Nothing. Thank you

    • @buttaflysky2265
      @buttaflysky2265 3 роки тому +17

      💔 my exact feelings

    • @nicolecasey8839
      @nicolecasey8839 3 роки тому +15

      Me too, I’ve gone through things many people would literally say it’s as bad as it could get. But nothing none of those awful things compares to the feeling of loving someone and wanting someone to be your everything but them not feeling the same and letting go.

    • @womenwhowantmenbackakawwwm8232
      @womenwhowantmenbackakawwwm8232 3 роки тому +16

      Especially if you didn’t want this person in the first place but they just wouldn’t give up and then they were just so toxic later on that you had to break up with them and it’s just sickening now to think about them (and maybe you even have a kid now with them...) it’s just wow

    • @ugbajavera6167
      @ugbajavera6167 3 роки тому +2

      Plz my break up is up to a year now, am still feeling this way am so tired plz I need an advice on how to stop regretting everything, the guy stays close to my place how will I move on, I need to feel peace with my soul again, am so tired

    • @BevBelove
      @BevBelove 3 роки тому +1

      📢📢📢 Heavy on the NOTHING

  • @Misbehave11
    @Misbehave11 2 роки тому +67

    Still watching this two yrs after the terrible engagement breakup , this keeps me strong.

  • @Karlaxcruz1998
    @Karlaxcruz1998 2 роки тому +8

    Coming back when I find someone who values me and loves me. :(
    Healing journey starting now

  • @MrFlorani
    @MrFlorani 3 роки тому +1301

    It’s been 6 days since my boyfriend broke up with me and it still hurts so bad and I still catch myself crying when I wake up and when I go to bed. I just can’t wait for this to be over. I’m trying to stay strong but it’s so hard.

    • @ChristabellaKan
      @ChristabellaKan 3 роки тому

      🌷I know of a man who can help you bring back your ex within two hours without know delay💞💞

    • @ChristabellaKan
      @ChristabellaKan 3 роки тому

      Text Dr omos and he will help you whatever the problem maybe🌹🌺

    • @ChristabellaKan
      @ChristabellaKan 3 роки тому +1

      He helped me bring back my ex two days ago 🌹🌹🌹

    • @ChristabellaKan
      @ChristabellaKan 3 роки тому

      Whats'''app him 🥀🥀

    • @trahadbad
      @trahadbad 3 роки тому +7

      how are u?

  • @2teaze1
    @2teaze1 Рік тому +5

    You don't understand, I've watched this video almost 4 or 5 years ago.. n now im here back again.. but this video helps so much.. I cant talk to no one because I'm to sad right now.. im having bad dreams of him moving on so im afraid to sleep now, ..n waking up with a chest pain n a heart ache..it stings n it really is like some has died.. all I do now is stay in my bed in the dark crying all the time.. I need to stop looking at tarot card readers n start watching more of ur videos.. thank u soo much... xx

  • @chelseajones3626
    @chelseajones3626 Рік тому +11

    This helped so much, I've been with the father of my children for 7 years. We built a home & family together. He told me last week he doesn't love me anymore and no longer wants to be with me. I cant even look at this man in the face with out wanting to throw up or rip it off. Im trying so hard to be a stone for my children. I appreciate this video because I know things with time eventually will get better. But for the present it just hurts so damn bad.

  • @NiaMSnow
    @NiaMSnow 4 роки тому +1151

    I've been crying myself to sleep for days at night..
    Thank you, girl for making this. My heart hurts so bad.

    • @MylifeasMaya
      @MylifeasMaya 4 роки тому +5

      SunKissNicole how are you now?

    • @NiaMSnow
      @NiaMSnow 4 роки тому +67

      @@MylifeasMaya I'm alone but happy. I decided to love myself and to focus on me. I appreciate you, reaching out. 💛
      Even after that post, I kept trying to reach back out to my ex and then I began to have rebounds and I had to sit myself down and realize I had a pattern going on. That, my heart is way more important than a man..

    • @spicymchaggis7602
      @spicymchaggis7602 4 роки тому +6

      @@NiaMSnow I'm so proud and so happy for you! Onward and upward babe!

    • @breesarahbryan7117
      @breesarahbryan7117 4 роки тому +52

      I'm in the crying myself to sleep at night stage. I literally cry myself to sleep, and wake up and cry. It's so hardddd.

    • @spicymchaggis7602
      @spicymchaggis7602 4 роки тому +10

      @@breesarahbryan7117 We have all been there. You've got this. Cry it out as much and as long as you need to. It WILL end. Unfortunately it really does just take time.

  • @user-jn3gz6bo2y
    @user-jn3gz6bo2y 5 років тому +523

    The papers part broke my heart

    • @lisewagnac3623
      @lisewagnac3623 5 років тому +29

      Like I felt it man...

    • @Gorgeoustweaker
      @Gorgeoustweaker 5 років тому +14

      i immediately teared up

    • @violetzheng7608
      @violetzheng7608 5 років тому +5

      @@Gorgeoustweaker Legit, me too.

    • @Enielleday
      @Enielleday 5 років тому +8

      For real that part hurt me deadass, because it’s straight facts

    • @LupaBee
      @LupaBee 5 років тому

      Hach Nadia same 😭

  • @StarbucksYes
    @StarbucksYes 9 місяців тому +6

    I broke up with him on Friday knowing I finally had the closure that it was over since it was the second time. I still feel awful and have been bawling every single day and trying to pick out everything that is wrong with me and why he emotionally detached from me, blaming myself, telling myself I’m stupid for thinking we could try again and it doesn’t help at all that I don’t even know when he emotionally detached from the relationship. He just told me we’re better off without each other.

    • @kyluvsgyu
      @kyluvsgyu 9 місяців тому +4

      it’ll be okay ml i know it sucks right now but it will be okay

  • @maemilan2352
    @maemilan2352 2 роки тому +82

    4 things I love about this video! Your demonstration with the 2 pieces of paper glued together, your advice & reassurance, and your poem - you did that sis!!!

    • @alexnanny3217
      @alexnanny3217 2 роки тому

      Hi, get anyone you love or (SP) attracted to you. And also get your EX back coming to you begging you for a second chance through the help of Dr Steve, he helped me restore my 5 years broken relationship. Also Dr Steve always keep up with his words, I will advise you seek his help thanks.

    • @alexnanny3217
      @alexnanny3217 2 роки тому

      Message him on Whatsapp

  • @Lolobekeh
    @Lolobekeh 5 років тому +1040

    "what is yours will be yours". Breeny I live for your advices 👏

    • @FrankieGclark
      @FrankieGclark 4 роки тому +1

      So good!! I've just searched breakup video to find mine and found this one and oh my!! SUBBED!

    • @celestemariscal4360
      @celestemariscal4360 3 роки тому

      My pastor told me this !!!

  • @GERDxGANG
    @GERDxGANG 5 років тому +1162

    Unrelated but this hair colour is POPPIN 😍🔥

    • @JjBianca
      @JjBianca 5 років тому +15

      SHE'S ROCKING THIS HAIR COLOUR🔥

    • @UC_Nails
      @UC_Nails 5 років тому +5

      I swear it is

    • @52naturalhairstyles
      @52naturalhairstyles 5 років тому +1

      Facts!

    • @gabrielabrum6563
      @gabrielabrum6563 5 років тому +2

      Alicia omg I thought the same!!!!

    • @ladyjvlogs7463
      @ladyjvlogs7463 5 років тому +6

      @@gabrielabrum6563 me too..😍😍 May I ask what color is it..?? So pretty.

  • @Vanessa-he4jn
    @Vanessa-he4jn Рік тому +5

    I got broken up with last night, I needed this message and you. And I'll continue to replay this for as long as I need. He broke up with me in person and he fell out of love with me romantically. He needs to work on hustling and chilling and himself... It was the best and healthiest relationship I ever had. Thank you thank you thank you. I think I can get through work today :)

  • @dburtsinger23
    @dburtsinger23 Рік тому +41

    When you spoke about the part of them moving on so quickly, and how they checked out long before, and didn’t know why you said it. You said it for me. This video was posted 3 years ago, but I was meant to find it today. Messages are not bound by time. Thank you so much for this.

  • @maleenasangi9538
    @maleenasangi9538 5 років тому +301

    I cannot understand how the person who made me so happy that it’s not just happiness anymore is the very same person who made me feel so sad it’s not just sadness anymore.

    • @makhosazana7384
      @makhosazana7384 4 роки тому +9

      That's the part that I'm still trying to understand with my situation

    • @ehiggins360
      @ehiggins360 4 роки тому +6

      The same thing that makes you laugh makes you cry. Love can hurt so make sure of who you love.

  • @Zomiks202
    @Zomiks202 5 років тому +332

    Man's rejection is God's protection...can I hear an Amen!

  • @kianazd3144
    @kianazd3144 Рік тому +31

    Really needed this.Thank you so much 🙏🏼I was going crazy and wasted 3 weeks of my life crying and being angry at someone who didn’t deserve my love…
    God bless you sis❤️

    • @teetotee
      @teetotee 10 місяців тому

      Hope you're doing okay now❤

  • @ashleydavies3374
    @ashleydavies3374 2 роки тому +40

    I am going through (what feels like) the worlds worst breakup of my life with an 8 year long relationship. I am on day 4, have cried, starved myself due to lack of appetite and have felt nauseous and physically and mentally ill. I came across this video while I was crying and you gave me the power to block this man on everything. Although, I noticed only temporary - While watching your video, I actually feel my heart not hurting as bad. Your words of encouragement and real examples spoke to me and everything I am going through. I know this is so hard, the most difficult experience I have ever had to endure, but I am going to try my absolute best to push forward (I’m in nursing school) and watch your video every single day along with prayer. I am beyond broken and shattered into pieces but I know that in the end, this is a part of gods plan. thank you for helping me during this time. I’m praying for brighter days.

    • @estherjoes5903
      @estherjoes5903 2 роки тому

      Hi, get help from Dr Steve who can make your ex come back to you begging for a second chance. He was the one who helped me restore back my broken relationship of 3 years by bringing back my ex. Also Dr Steve always keep up with his words I strongly Advise you to seek help from him

    • @estherjoes5903
      @estherjoes5903 2 роки тому

      Message him on Whatsapp

    • @estherjoes5903
      @estherjoes5903 2 роки тому

      +2347030894892⏭⏭

    • @queenkavin5797
      @queenkavin5797 2 роки тому

      Don't be carried away by all this videos stop wasting your time here , I've tried this so many times and it didn't work until I met a powerful man👱who helped me bring back my ex who left me a 3 year ago and now we are back together through his help.

    • @queenkavin5797
      @queenkavin5797 2 роки тому

      Wh@tsApp him for help

  • @IrgendwasWieHelden
    @IrgendwasWieHelden 4 роки тому +704

    We broke up a little over a month ago. Been together for almost 3 years and he already has a new one.. I think this is the most painful part, because you are going through this shit alone while he has someone.

    • @estergraham2972
      @estergraham2972 4 роки тому +22

      Omg what I'm thru now

    • @cuteonlinewaifu
      @cuteonlinewaifu 4 роки тому +22

      literally exactly what i'm going through. it's so hard

    • @tesswakefield1420
      @tesswakefield1420 4 роки тому +43

      Yep my still husband fell out of love and is now moving in with he’s new girlfriend and my kids are meeting her soon my ex feels guilty and wants me to find someone but I’m not rushing I need to heal he met her though loneliness I’m learning to go though the pain and heal properly 16 years together so sad he made this choice 😭

    • @tesswakefield1420
      @tesswakefield1420 4 роки тому +14

      Yep me too he’s moved in with her know her 4 months rebound if u ask me but still cuts me to the core think a lot of men do this they don’t like being on there own x it’s slowing the healing process can’t cover it x

    • @tesswakefield1420
      @tesswakefield1420 4 роки тому

      Savannah Peters thank u sweetie I’m praying everyday it hurts so bad 😭

  • @sadafahmad4022
    @sadafahmad4022 5 років тому +331

    Reading through comments most are females! I hope we all heal and become a stronger person❤️

    • @ehiggins360
      @ehiggins360 4 роки тому +2

      Sadaf Rose us guys get dismissed and deceived too. My girl strung me along for over a year.

    • @GhettoMuva
      @GhettoMuva 4 роки тому +1

      E Higgins no offense but women deal with break up harder because we are super emotional beings. Men can just move on like nothing ever happened. Which sucks!

    • @taylorbrown6786
      @taylorbrown6786 4 роки тому +1

      @VeraRose False! Men usually don’t express their feelings as much as women, so maybe that’s why you think men get over it more easily but it’s not true... men are taught to bottle up their feelings (that’s why the suicide rate is way higher among men than women)

  • @divinebeing3172
    @divinebeing3172 Рік тому +3

    That poem/letter at the end was absolutely amazing. I felt every word. Loved it!

  • @shana-kaywilliams8353
    @shana-kaywilliams8353 Рік тому +3

    4 years later and your still helping hearts ❤

  • @mayajaratdao1100
    @mayajaratdao1100 3 роки тому +660

    came back to this video after six months :) I'm in a better place now and I want to tell everyone who's experiencing the heartbreak that it does get better. and always remember that everything happens for a reason. sending hugs to all of you, you will get through this!!

    • @ChristabellaKan
      @ChristabellaKan 3 роки тому

      🌷I know of a man who can help you bring back your ex within 2days without know delay💞💞

    • @ChristabellaKan
      @ChristabellaKan 3 роки тому +2

      He helped me bring back my ex few days ago 🌹🌹🌹

    • @ChristabellaKan
      @ChristabellaKan 3 роки тому

      Whats""app him🥀🥀

    • @ChristabellaKan
      @ChristabellaKan 3 роки тому

      +234=805=908=9310//###

    • @TylerTv.
      @TylerTv. 2 роки тому +7

      Thank you for sharing this 💕, glad u got past it , this is very encouraging.

  • @sorphear1975
    @sorphear1975 4 роки тому +191

    It’s true. I feel like I’m going to die the first week or 2. I just feel sick. I just basically try to sleep to forget the pain. But the pain was still in my dream.

  • @niquenique5700
    @niquenique5700 Рік тому +5

    I watched a lot of videos on this specific topic of breakups and moving on and narcissism and heartbreak , and honestly yours resonated with me most . Watching your video was the best one from the analogy of the paper to the scriptures and things you quoted ❤ . Thank you .

  • @blackroze1471
    @blackroze1471 2 роки тому +7

    Thank you breeny, I can’t believe how spot on and on time this is. Everything you said cry if you need to, I was crying. I swear you were laying in bed with me talking directly to me. This is everything I needed to hear

  • @simonesquared
    @simonesquared 3 роки тому +1357

    lol i want him to feel pain.

    • @sophiamp.3641
      @sophiamp.3641 3 роки тому +1

      Hello Dear😎 I know of a man who can help you to get back with your ex easily, he was the one who helped me to fix back my broken relationship of 3 years by making my ex come back to me

    • @sophiamp.3641
      @sophiamp.3641 3 роки тому

      WhatsApp him

    • @praisekane1493
      @praisekane1493 3 роки тому

      I know of a man who can bring back your ex within 2days without know Daley 💝🌹🥀

    • @praisekane1493
      @praisekane1493 3 роки тому

      Whats""app him🥀🥀

    • @arunalove8224
      @arunalove8224 3 роки тому +2

      Same lol

  • @kmk7367
    @kmk7367 4 роки тому +616

    Let him go, let it go, and guard your heart
    Clear him out of your system
    Time is a healer
    Man's rejection is God's protection - making room for something better to come into your life
    Do. Not. Rebound.

    • @taurielbilbo405
      @taurielbilbo405 3 роки тому

      Thank you very helpful strong

    • @thanyarachernixperezbarrei5919
      @thanyarachernixperezbarrei5919 3 роки тому +1

      My boyfriend just broke up with me over text.I love him and even though we didn’t end on bad terms I just feel like we could have been forever I waited for him and i can wait even more because I love him but he couldn’t and respect that.I just wanna move on and try to be happy but I can’t forget him.help me

    • @serynaho
      @serynaho 3 роки тому

      Thank you 😓♥️

    • @An_Gha_
      @An_Gha_ 9 місяців тому

      ​@@thanyarachernixperezbarrei5919how are you doing now?

  • @Beccayoung7428
    @Beccayoung7428 2 роки тому +3

    Every word of this was exactly what I needed to hear, and at the exact right time. I almost in your words “tried to comfort” him tonight, but I didn’t, and then I found your video. I can’t even thank you enough for this well thought out and brilliantly worded video. You are being a light to so many, I know it’s not just me. ❤️

  • @tiffanyfrisbie6130
    @tiffanyfrisbie6130 Рік тому +1

    This was so well spoken and made me have so much clarity. Thank you for reminding me that what I’m feeling is absolutely valid.

  • @kassandraposadas9285
    @kassandraposadas9285 4 роки тому +479

    After the breakup, I feel so lonely and I think that is what has been so difficult. I don't really have anyone to talk to and it's eating me up inside. Sometimes I just want to talk about my day to someone or just have a meaningful conversation. I get nervous reaching out to people. Instead, I reach out to God. God's words calm my nerves. Praying to God reliefs my mind and body. I am using this time to discover my faith, my trust in God. Sometimes, I have to remind myself this is a new beginning for myself and self-discoveries. A redemption. I will trust God's way because I know whether I see it as good or bad. God does not give me anything I can not handle. I will always get through it. God measures my strength. At least that's what I thought... When later on, little did I know... God's intent is to build up my strength. I am still in the process, but if I continue to trust God's way I will surely reach my fullest potential he has set out for me. I may feel empty and alone now. One thing I know for sure is God has a plan for all of us, he has a plan for me and He will always be with me.

  • @stephanieky1722
    @stephanieky1722 4 роки тому +359

    He used me to get over his ex... they got back together and they’re all happy and shit. Im still hurting tho

  • @09K3shia
    @09K3shia 2 роки тому +1

    Omg!! You made me cry happy tears and changed my whole perspective on my recent breakup. Even though I broke up with him, I'm still hurting. I actually called it off this morning! I'm glad I came across this video and I did subscribe and I will be tuning in and watching the rest!! Thank you so much!! ☺️

  • @fostertheweekend
    @fostertheweekend Рік тому +2

    Required watching for every woman. Thank you, always hits different every time I come back to it!

  • @MB-fw7mq
    @MB-fw7mq 3 роки тому +627

    17 years of marriage. He left last year I still cry every night. I feel so broken.

    • @ChristabellaKan
      @ChristabellaKan 3 роки тому +1

      🌷I know of a man who can help you bring back your ex within two hours without know delay💞💞

    • @ChristabellaKan
      @ChristabellaKan 3 роки тому +2

      He helped me bring back my ex two hours ago all thanks belongs to him 🌹🌹

    • @ChristabellaKan
      @ChristabellaKan 3 роки тому

      Whats'''app him 🥀🥀

    • @cjjohnson7969
      @cjjohnson7969 3 роки тому +11

      How are you feeling now?

    • @valerieshinia8526
      @valerieshinia8526 3 роки тому +4

      Hugs

  • @sarahjhm
    @sarahjhm 4 роки тому +407

    Trust me: You’re going to be fine and filled with love again ❤️☀️

    • @yoongis.tangerine
      @yoongis.tangerine 3 роки тому +1

      HOW? I FEEL LIKE I'M DYING EVERYDAY

    • @arlibgworl
      @arlibgworl 3 роки тому +2

      @@yoongis.tangerine me too girl. He/she/they were taken away for a reason. They obviously weren’t the one. And if it’s love, it will be back. But move on. Allow yourself time to Heal

    • @ddwow566
      @ddwow566 3 роки тому

      I trust Gods process but my ex blames me and hates me. I want to apologize I don’t want to be hated, especially by him. I know I did messed up shit at the time I thought it was okay. I was stupid. I’m blocked I can’t apologize. All I can do is go to his apartment but he said he just wants to move on. Idk what to do.

  • @honey77777
    @honey77777 3 роки тому +53

    I’m going through a break up now and that paper demonstration had me burst into tears. Thank you for sharing and I know I’ll get thru this- much love ❤️

  • @MsFyb2010
    @MsFyb2010 2 роки тому +6

    Thank you, I felt so alone. Praying every day. I needed to hear you video. Thanks again

  • @naz2113
    @naz2113 5 років тому +807

    can you start a podcast plsss

    • @lucressekansen576
      @lucressekansen576 5 років тому +18

      Nasra Hassan nooo then we can see her gorgeous face anymore 😍😍😍

    • @leab8488
      @leab8488 5 років тому +2

      I agree with Luu lafille ahahaha ❤

    • @lisewagnac3623
      @lisewagnac3623 5 років тому

      omg YESS!!!!

    • @lsbonnick
      @lsbonnick 5 років тому

      Compromise film podcast post on UA-cam! Yes Father !! 💕💖💥🔥

    • @DC_33
      @DC_33 5 років тому

      Yesssss!!!🙏🏽🙌🏽

  • @Snowmaiden
    @Snowmaiden 4 роки тому +167

    Sis, that paper illustration is WAYYYYY to REAL! Holy shit!!!

  • @makala6493
    @makala6493 3 роки тому +3

    This was genuinely the most HELPFUL advice I have ever come across with this situation and I have watched MANY of these videos. Thank you so much, you are a wonderful soul and a beautiful person.

    • @macka.macksk8
      @macka.macksk8 Рік тому +1

      I've never seen my name spelled the same way haha

  • @azwaan7274
    @azwaan7274 9 місяців тому +2

    Thank you so much for this video. The words you saying are things I knew in the back of my head but did not dare to say out loud. It has been almost three months and I am here, balling my eyes out because I miss this guy so much. It is almost embarressing how fast he moved on. It reallt hurts my ego and confidence. But the video keeps me going to stay strong.

  • @JaneyImaaniEmotionalAwareness
    @JaneyImaaniEmotionalAwareness 5 років тому +374

    Heartbreak is real ❤️
    So many of us beat ourselves up for being hurt after a heartbreak! Like we shouldn’t be feeling this way

    • @rosegold973
      @rosegold973 5 років тому +8

      This is true :( I still been having a hard time getting over my last relationship

    • @F0reverblessed
      @F0reverblessed 5 років тому +11

      It IS absolutely okay to be in your feelings after a break. A breakup causes a deep scar in our lives. What we shouldn’t ( and I say shouldn’t because it’s easier said than done) is dwell on it for too long.

    • @JaneyImaaniEmotionalAwareness
      @JaneyImaaniEmotionalAwareness 5 років тому

      Rose Gold trueee

    • @JaneyImaaniEmotionalAwareness
      @JaneyImaaniEmotionalAwareness 5 років тому

      D.E.Y.A yes, yes

    • @FrankieGclark
      @FrankieGclark 4 роки тому

      No!! Its totally normal! And we need to process the emotions or we become something we're not!!

  • @MNgirl077
    @MNgirl077 5 років тому +258

    Anybody else just feel empty? I feel so empty without him. He was my everything. We had a house, a dog, a life we built together and it just ended right at two years together. I am 27 and this is by far the hardest breakup mentally and emotionally ever. I woke up in my new apartment today and looked around and it’s all so empty. Just like my heart. 💔

    • @laylapinken1920
      @laylapinken1920 4 роки тому +5

      How are you now ?

    • @visionmyasia9466
      @visionmyasia9466 4 роки тому +2

      I would love to know that it has gotten better ... it could help people like us have hope

    • @laylapinken1920
      @laylapinken1920 4 роки тому +1

      Vision My'asia i know that my ex just did something crazy to me but I’m okay i can promise you he has played me so much i don’t even wanna go back when just 2 hours ago i was crying and waiting for him .. I’m completely done now

    • @laylapinken1920
      @laylapinken1920 4 роки тому +6

      Vision My'asia he will regret it don’t stress or cry he’s going to hate how he did you .. just know his karma will catch up to him and no matter how much it hurt if he come running back DO NOT TAKE HIM BACK don’t check his page delete his number and work on yourself it will all come together for you i promise

    • @MarisaMunoz0507
      @MarisaMunoz0507 4 роки тому +1

      :( I am going through the same thing. Just signed a lease got a kitten went on a vacation and became god parents all this year, just to break up ! Hope you’re hanging in there 😪❤️

  • @raesmith2335
    @raesmith2335 6 місяців тому +2

    I seriously needed this. I’m trying so hard not to blame myself for not being enough. Thank you.

  • @francesnicoledelacruz229
    @francesnicoledelacruz229 11 місяців тому +5

    I love you! I thought I was gonna cry again and be sad, but you gave me sass and the attitude instead. I feel a lot better knowing the person, the strong independent woman I used to be before falling in love and getting my heart broken once again. Thank you for being like the big sis I never had♥

  • @rangerjosecruz2520
    @rangerjosecruz2520 4 роки тому +285

    I’m a man watching this video, and it really help me out, that paper analogy had me crying. Thank you for this.

    • @psylentknight
      @psylentknight 4 роки тому +8

      Same, here. Though it's been well over a year after my breakup, there are still moments that sneak back in and say "You're healed where it matters most, but there's still some work to do." That's why even the paper analogy was on point. By now, I hope you're doing well in your healing, as we're proof that we all go through it in some form or another.

    • @Iam_ehizi
      @Iam_ehizi 2 роки тому

      How are you feeling now?

  • @52naturalhairstyles
    @52naturalhairstyles 5 років тому +371

    As you wisely stated before, “invest in yourself, you are your longest commitment!” ❤️🔥

  • @jasminm8160
    @jasminm8160 11 місяців тому +1

    I come back every now and again to gain perspective from this video, there's a lot of good points here ❤

  • @muskaanbedi8406
    @muskaanbedi8406 2 роки тому +3

    This woman is so pretty
    I love your style, personality and everything ❤️❤️❤️❤️

  • @hellensthelse3633
    @hellensthelse3633 4 роки тому +111

    One day you'll be sick of blaming yourself and thinking about the past. You will realise that for the wrong person you'll never be good enough but for the right one, even at your worse, they will still choose you. And then after maybe months of crying you will feel free again, the weight that your heart feels now will be finally lifted off... I got up one day, sick of feeling sad and angry from over analyzing everything. And then I decided I had to fight. It's been almost five months. I am not always good but slowly I am learning to love & forgive myself the way that I need to be loved. And it feels so healthy...

  • @jaquelinequezada3044
    @jaquelinequezada3044 4 роки тому +336

    I’m going through these exact feelings, like I can’t live without him and that I will never find anyone like him and this pain that I have I feel like imma die and I can’t breathe. I go through these panic attacks that are so hard at the moment and I start thinking about everything. Although I did the breaking up about 5 days ago bc it wasn’t a healthy relationship it hurts so much because I still love him with all my heart and I still tell myself that he might come back and he’ll change but the truth is he won’t come back to me at all. ugh having a broken heart is so painful.

    • @treestar8126
      @treestar8126 4 роки тому +38

      Hey. I'm going through something similar right now, and want to share a few things that may help. First, remind yourself that you did not take that decision lightly. If you need to, right down a list of reasons that relationship wouldn't have worked out and read it when you start to panic. Remind yourself that the love you poured into him was just a taste of the love you could have for (and receive from) someone who is truly meant for you. Be strong. You've gotten through everything you've been through before this, and you will get through this as well. I hope you have a good support system around you and that you get everything you deserve when you are ready 💛

    • @kyo04687
      @kyo04687 3 роки тому +11

      hi sis, I'm actually going through the same thing and relate 100%. I hope you're doing better now and that your heart is all fine again. You deserve way better and you should never feel bad or guilty to choose yourself and your own wellbeing before others wellbeing. Idk you but ilyvm I hope you're ok now, take care

    • @yasminaperez6415
      @yasminaperez6415 3 роки тому +4

      Sweet pie:(( I’m going through the same thing right now, the worst part is he is so happy with his life and me moving on will make him happy and he won’t care. I’m here for you x

    • @kayceecassady3999
      @kayceecassady3999 3 роки тому +10

      @@yasminaperez6415 it hurts worse when they seem like they are doing so well and you are still struggling. it gives me peace knowing that i will have a true love to look forward to though.

    • @poweidethompson7256
      @poweidethompson7256 3 роки тому +2

      You’ll be fine baby

  • @ashleysawyer9487
    @ashleysawyer9487 2 роки тому +3

    I feel so blessed that I found you Breeny!!! :,) Where have you been all my life?! I’ve been over here wallowing in heart broken pain for months. Your words, spirit, & energy in this video was like a bright light helping me resurrect from the grave. Lolol

  • @siennagalvez8671
    @siennagalvez8671 Рік тому +1

    This poem is amazing!!! Really spoke the words I needed to hear. Thank you!!!

  • @ellahansson2362
    @ellahansson2362 5 років тому +370

    You made me block my ex, thanks for giving me strength ❤️

    • @massagebroad
      @massagebroad 5 років тому +4

      I just did the same thing.

    • @aimees4990
      @aimees4990 5 років тому +6

      I blocked my ex too. Feels GOOD❤ Hope you are doing well love

    • @girlonline7825
      @girlonline7825 5 років тому +3

      I asked him to do it for me after trying multiple times and he did

    • @LS-cj8jd
      @LS-cj8jd 5 років тому +2

      I blocked him today

    • @LeilaLa1986
      @LeilaLa1986 4 роки тому

      Ella Hansson i did it as well. ❤️

  • @pollyl4313
    @pollyl4313 4 роки тому +170

    The papers ripping apart had me in tears immediately as soon as I heard the rips. Breaking up is hard. Thank you for this video. It only happened yesterday and it is so hard.

    • @patriciawarigia717
      @patriciawarigia717 4 роки тому +3

      How are u doing now sis

    • @pollyl4313
      @pollyl4313 4 роки тому +4

      @Patricia Warigia Wow hi sis. I'm doing just fine now. Its been two months and I feel sooooooooooo good now. The videos are amazing and keep me going 🥰

    • @youniquenails8206
      @youniquenails8206 3 роки тому +1

      Me too. I felt that in my heart. Like my soul ripped apart and he took it with him.

  • @kemigishacarol6443
    @kemigishacarol6443 3 роки тому

    I swear to God all of your videos are GAME CHANGERS!!!
    Blessings sis.
    You have helped me so much. Sometimes we need people like you in our lives. I'm sorry nope, not sometimes, Everytime!!!

  • @andrewsawdon2170
    @andrewsawdon2170 2 роки тому +1

    Of the many many vids I watched on breakups this has by far been the most helpful. You're not someone trying to sell a book. Your advice is genuinely good. "Short but deep" also explains my relationship to a T. I wish he would come back cause he left so fast.

    • @carlybradley6428
      @carlybradley6428 2 роки тому

      I know a man who can help you to get back your ex love to you without delay he was the one that help me to get back my love to me within 3 days

  • @Misscoolisthename
    @Misscoolisthename 4 роки тому +188

    "if something isnt working it just ISNT working" put that on a stone tablet

  • @maribelc4862
    @maribelc4862 5 років тому +682

    Going through a breakup with a guy I never had a relationship with HAH 😂

    • @favouro6344
      @favouro6344 5 років тому +42

      lol. I understand you.

    • @JR-kb1ve
      @JR-kb1ve 5 років тому +78

      Me too girl, hurts like hell 😂

    • @SR77736
      @SR77736 5 років тому +54

      Yeah but it hurts the same.

    • @tukwa52
      @tukwa52 5 років тому +23

      Same sis 😩😭
      😂

    • @ZERO-rj1xv
      @ZERO-rj1xv 5 років тому +27

      I'm in the same situation lol 😂

  • @KevinSchaeferify
    @KevinSchaeferify 2 роки тому +27

    I’m on day 16 after breakup and watching this almost every day helps so much. Thank you for helping me have confidence to not go back and move forward with my life. It’s getting worse before it gets better but I know I’m gonna come out stronger on the other end. 🙏

    • @adventureswithtee8974
      @adventureswithtee8974 Рік тому +1

      I’m on day 3 of my breakup & idk how to feel . I feel empty and I miss him! But I can’t beg nobody to love me and anybody who can go 2/3 days without saying ANYTHING isn’t for me . I’m hurt to .

  • @TEWMUCH
    @TEWMUCH Рік тому +5

    Love your paper example. Great pep talk.
    Also wanna say some of us never knew who we were. And that's what makes the break up hard...I can't remember someone I never knew.

  • @TheZingRoom
    @TheZingRoom 4 роки тому +213

    It’s been two weeks. The first 3 days I cried so much I felt dehydrated everyday. Barely slept. Sucky party is there was no one to blame.

    • @user-uu1ii2wg7p
      @user-uu1ii2wg7p 4 роки тому +1

      TheZingRoom do you need helped

    • @tracyctsl
      @tracyctsl 3 роки тому +4

      How are you today😘? Its been 5 days for me...I still cry 🥺

    • @TheZingRoom
      @TheZingRoom 3 роки тому +23

      Tracy Massa 2 months later I’m much better.. time heals

    • @ashleymarie5500
      @ashleymarie5500 3 роки тому +1

      How are you? 🥺

    • @rsanusha7536
      @rsanusha7536 3 роки тому +7

      It's been 10 days for me, I am still trying to accept the fact that he left

  • @pattydiaz6210
    @pattydiaz6210 4 роки тому +194

    This is the type of friend I need in my life. Someone logical, REAL, and no nonsense. I love her confidence. That’s what I’m working on. Thank you for everything.

  • @nmesomauchenna6646
    @nmesomauchenna6646 Рік тому

    I’m literally crying rn ,this is so hard but this video has made an impact in me thanks

  • @princessjoyce704
    @princessjoyce704 Рік тому +4

    Omg when you about the “rejection” i literally cried. I feel like God wanted me to hear that because this whole time i couldn’t understand why me and my ex broke up and i felt so little of myself. I finally realized he did it because he knew this situation was going to come and that my ex needs to heal from his personal issues but i need to also stop waiting him and move on and find love again ❤

  • @INTERESTEDINFORMEDINSPIRED
    @INTERESTEDINFORMEDINSPIRED 5 років тому +237

    That paper analogy 🤯 mind blown... so simple and yet so effective ❤️❤️❤️ Keep up these videos!! This is why I referenced you in one of my videos

  • @majormoku
    @majormoku 5 років тому +308

    Got broken up with 5 days ago. 4 years together.
    I'm gonna have this vid on repeat.

    • @charlotteh2280
      @charlotteh2280 5 років тому +3

      You can get through this ❤️❤️❤️

    • @ezelsenar663
      @ezelsenar663 5 років тому +1

      Michelle Sanchez how do you feel now?

    • @majormoku
      @majormoku 5 років тому +26

      @@ezelsenar663 I'll still check my emails and my phone to see if he reaches out. I go back and forth on wanting to hear from him. Crying has been less. In the meantime have been trying to heal inside, even from past hurt. I need to stop looking outside of me for comfort and fulfillment. That's on me and no one else. Meditation, therapy, self-help books... I'm learning to love myself for the first time. It's not easy, but I'm trying.

    • @ezelsenar663
      @ezelsenar663 5 років тому +5

      Michelle Sanchez that’s great news tho! The fact your focusing on trying to give yourself self love after all this time and you doing it for the first time. This is an amazing achievement keep at it. Sorry to ask but it’s because I saw this was after 1 month so I’d thought to ask as my boyfriend just broke up with me after 3 years yesterday so I was just wondering about others experiences. Do you think you could keep me updated on how your feeling? Don’t give up tho. Keep going

    • @majormoku
      @majormoku 5 років тому +4

      @@ezelsenar663 I'm sorry to hear that. I know it hurts, trust me. The hurt and the alone is so uncomfortable. I'm trying to get comfortable with it so that I can process it, accept it, and wholeheartedly let it go--not carry it with me for years at a time. Oddly enough, this breakup out things in perspective for me. He's not a bad guy, I know there was love there and I don't hate him by any means. We just weren't on the same page for as much as we wanted to be. Time doesn't stop so no time like the present to work on yourself. I'm really trying to stop/change old patterns/behavior. I hope time will give the calm and peace you need. Breakups suck, lol! Thanks for having asked... feel free to reach out. 💪🤞

  • @eevasdiaries7401
    @eevasdiaries7401 10 місяців тому +4

    Thank you for this uplifting video. Really needed it ❤️

  • @xxannxx87
    @xxannxx87 2 роки тому +5

    This video is helping me to realise he didn't give a shit about me, while I am crying my heart out for months. Even though I am the one who broke up, I am taking the blow. I wish I knew he would move on so easily before I got so far in. Always giving it my 100 for someone is taking its toll at some point. It takes all my discipline to not contact him everyday. Stupid heart took over my head and it is lying.. but this video is the best!