I honestly believe that if a man truly values you, he’ll listen to everything you’re complaining about and work on fixing that. Sometimes we can’t force things. If someone wants you, they’ll show you.
The hardest part is knowing that truth and acting on it when you still love the guy. Breaking up because you chose yourself when you still have feelings is the worst😭 I literally just had a dream last night of him and I together resolving our issues. It's been a month and it's been tough 💔. I see why sometimes people don't leave toxic relationships.
@@nontokozombatha9182 keep going girl ! My sister is staying in an abusive relationship & its not good , if you love yourself & your not needy you will get out of a non healthy relationship
That's not natural for men to make you happy.You have to be happy with yourself.Men responsibility is to provide and protect and be responsible.for comfort in marriage.Modern women want men to be their friend.That's not our job as husbands.
Not going through a break up but I'm here to learn and place myself first regardless... Sometimes in a relationship it's soo freaking easy to prioritize the other and leave ourselves behind.. Stay committed to you!
@olufunsho Ayodele she said priotize the other and leave ourselves behind... Not the same as what you're talking about. It is immature unhealthy to put others infront of yourself and forget about taking care of yourself. There is a reason the air hostess always tell you to put on your oxygen first. You can't effectively help others if you can't help yourself
How to guard your heart women, is to not fantasize about that person in your head when you guys just started talking. A lot of times we create these fantasies about that person, which creates an emotional soul ties. The person who cares the least has the most power, never forget!
@@Amexblackcard it's just a thought I have had for the last month that on top of physical celibacy I need to guard my heart and mind by not being available for emotional situationships. I guess true celibacy encompasses that but I have only been physically celibate. I need to have that emotional detatchment as well, to protect myself.
faaacccctttttttts I NEEDED TO READ THIS!!!!! I've been talking to a guy at work who hasn't even asked me out to get a drink yet and I'm planning our wedding like WTF.
Im getting over a situationship, even though we were never together i still feel sad because i think of what could have been but remember ladies….. if he wanted to he would
I learned that lesson the hard way at 17..I became heartbroken over it because he told me he didn't see himself being in a r/ship until after highschool. Well, he found himself in a r/ship 3 months later (while still in highschool). It's been 6 years and I haven't been in any other situationships or r/ship
Oh my god Breeny! You're describing the situation im going through right now. This guy ghosted and i really thought he was my soulmate, i told everyone, including my family that he was the one. Im like one week post break up and now i look back at certain situations and i see how much i over exaggerated him in my head just because i wanted him to love me as much as i loved him. It’s crazy that distortion you can create in your mind. Difficult times tho.
@@louieamsterdam5152 for me it's been 7months and it hurts and the worst thing we leave in the same estate I constantly meet with him or his brother: me and his brother are okay we say hi though but dang it's sooo painful I just want to move.
@@valerieshinia8526 girl. Use that to your adventage. LEVEL UP!! GLOW UP! Squat! Take care of your hair. Make him regret! And never take him back. Move on to something better sis. You got this! 💕
I just want to point some old Breeny advice back to Breeny. I loved the girl who sat in her car back in 2018 and told us "know your worth, and then add tax". She looked like she knew what she wanted her life and immediate circle to look like. And I try to apply that moto in my everyday life.. So in short what I'd say is try your hardest to keep your individuality in the relationship. We were our own person with hobbies and likes before we got together with someone, and it stays like that even after going steady. Of course we look after them and have different priorities but we shouldn't forget what makes us, us.
I feel like someone's telling my breakup story! thank you breeny. Psalm 34:18 "the Lord is near to the broken hearted and saves the crushed in spirit." 😊😊
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Your break-up coincidentally began when mine took place too,so I feel like we are going through this together Breeny. Thank you for sharing. We love you❤️💝🌸🌸
The problem is us women are in love with the potential imagination of the person but its not actually the person! You have to understand that successful women attracted narcissist's, they only date you for their narssisistic supply and to make them look good, not for a meaningful relationship to you both. I personally love doing things that make my spouse happy, I find it very odd if someone is doing something just to get something himself.
A next one is, some of us women just like the feeling of being "special" when in reality, we have to be special to our selves rather and accept respect. Cause when someone gets to comfortable,they fck up gotta sharpen those boundaries
Me personally,i think we all do it, " to get something for ourselves". As women ,like u said we fall for our potential imagination of the person instead of the actual person, cause we are thinking of what we want. We want something from the person,so we visualize them as we want and not who they truly are...
@Helesius Im not talking about that Im talking about intimacy and companion like a normal person wants. There is a difference between a narssisistic person and a normal person, narssistic person only uses you for his benefit and doesn't care about yours nore intimacy.
Right now I’m in the neutral clarity stage. I see things for what they are, however, parts of me still yearn for that person because of how much I idolized them. 5 days I will be strong and okay but 2 days I’ll be upset and even wanting to reach out. I’m actively trying to break the pattern of “hopeful” and “putting them on a pedestal”.
Thank you for sharing just be kind to yourself and understand grieving after a break up doesn’t have a time set so when you’re feeling these emotions be easier on yourself
God is the only one who can break this soul tie and help comfort and heal your heart. I went through this because when you love someone bc true love is unconditional that’s what Gods love is it’s hard to walk away from someone you invested so much love in. But you got this put yourself first and do everything you’ve always wanted to do! You got this girl! Every time you find yourself thinking of that person just watch a funny movie, start reading a self growth book…understand that letting go of that person is a step to learning how to love yourself unconditionally. Try reading a book such as the power of positive thinking ! God bless you you can get through this ! Trust me you will heal but you won’t forget and that’s okay but every time you find yourself dwelling in the past, change those thoughts and start to dwell in your future!
I'm in exactly the same stage right now. Like, I understand things such as why the relationship didn't work out and why I shouldn't pursue him but for a couple days in a week, I'd be yearning for him even when I know that we'll never be together again. It's hard but let's get through this stage sister.
This is comforting. My grandmother passed away a year ago to cancer, a month later my aunt passed away, and a few days later my ex and I broke up. He was also a narcissist. Less than a year later he got engaged to someone he told me was just a friend after promising to marry me. This is not easy an easy journey but God reveals his truth and gives us the strength we need to move forward. Thank you for this and sharing your story 💕
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WHEW, this was right on time. I dreamed of my ex and woke up in shambles. The hardest part is that the relationship didn't end on bad terms he wasn't a bad person, but the relationship no longer served me. But this helped so much. This next season in my life will be a great one, and I'm speaking that over myself.
Affirmations are a good way of rewiring our brains from what we have once believed in our lives! Damn those dreams feel so real...but thank God you woke up and it was just a dream. Having the strength to walk away when something no longer serves us is a super power in itself. Rooting for you over here!
I totally agree with you! I was in a relationship for 17 years since I was 14. We broke up a few months ago. At first I felt lost because I didn’t feel like I knew who I was on my own as me. It was difficult to start with but I worked on myself and I’m so much happier ☺️ and I feel like I’m getting to know myself more xx
There's this verse in the bible where Jesus is talking about people pretending to be something they're not and He ends by saying: you shall know them by their fruits because a good tree will ALWAYS produce good fruits and a bad tree, bad fruits. And I love that because 1. You can know what kind of a person someone is by observing the fruits of their lives ie what they bring out of you and out of others. 2. It takes a while before fruits appear and that tells me that people will not always present their true character to you initially so you have to be patient for their true selves to shine through. 3. They can only pretend so long because a bad tree has no choice but to produce bad fruit in the end because the problem is at the roots and sometimes even in the soil it's planted in. And you thought a 3000 year old book wasn't applicable in modern life.
This was exactly what I needed to read this morning! I’m trying to drag myself out of bed to go to work but I’m so broken and sad over my breakup and I’m the one who broke up with him. I just feel so hurt and disappointed. But there were no good fruit coming from the tree. He pretended at first but after that he could not hide his true character.
As a man, I went through the exact same thing as you. I was always treading on eggshells & if she’s meant to be my happy place but yet being negative. I’d rather be alone. Like you said invest and love yourself. Put God first !! 🙏🏿 Know you’re a Queen. Rooting for you!!
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Needed this! The part where you said your feelings are yours he didn’t leave with it, that hit home. As much as it hurts I think God put you through this to help others. With pain comes purpose 😉 You were put on this earth for great things girl! Your ex will realise what he lost sooner or later ♥️
when you started speaking at 11:04 it reminded me of this one strategy I like to use- get a notebook from the dollar store for each person you date and don't tell anyone about it. I write in green any 'green' flags (including words and actions, or lack thereof), in red any 'red' flags, and black anything neutral. I do my best to write in this notebook each day/week after any interactions. Try to pray beforehand with the intention to write as objectively as possible, and as if I'm doing this for my best friend whom I love and respect with everything in me. If something about them bothers me- I write what it is in red, even if it's just my gut/intuition and I can't pinpoint it (yet). How I feel with them and about them is often a good indicator too....Do I feel empowered, loved, respected, cherished, safe, protected...or do I feel sad, disappointed, hurt etc Am I proud to be with this person, would I advise my dearest friend to stay away from or be with a man with his character...does he/has he earned my respect.... I review the notebook at least once or twice a month and visually can see whether there are green or red flags literally. That way, I can take a step back from the 'frame' and see things for what they are hopefully.
This sounds like a really good idea. I was with a narcissist for 5years and almost forgot all the nasty things he said and done to me. Part of it was gaslighting too however I’m yet to find someone else. When I do this is definitely something I will be doing x
This is a very great advice here. I may say that it avoid many headaches.. I May add that, at 6 months or so, you can review the notebook and see where you are with the redflags, and maybe end the relationship the Lady knows that it will not be it
@@blessedtobless. exactly, and if there's less green flags and/or more red flags at any point , it's probably a good idea to pause, dial back and address the issue(s)
Wow. Such a great idea!! This should be highlighted. Would save alot people the heartache. This method can be applied to ANY relationship. Thanks for sharing!!!👍🤗
Hey girl! I can relate to this completely. I started researching narcissism and found a lot of these qualities for the men I was dealing with. It gave me so much understanding on how they play these games!
Yess Breeny Healing girl summer! I love the honesty because that’s really how it is the progress isn’t just linear there are moments where you go back a bit but as you say it doesn’t make you less it’s just grieving a loss
If u have high standards as a woman , expect the most in a partner to date . Don’t give excuses for people , let people show you who they are , if u realise it’s not the ideal person u desire in ur head , don’t try to change any one just leave people alone There is some one for all of us , u just have to get with some one who has proved to be ur TYPE , not some one u have to make excuses for .
I swear I was meant to find this video. I broke up with my now ex, two days ago because he directly told me he does not see a future with me. He made me feel like I am not enough. He was my first love, my first everything. I thought he loved me too but he did not. There is nothing as painful as unrequited love, my world is turned upside down. The mornings are the worst for me, it is so hard getting out of bed. I overwork myself during the day so it will be easier to ignore all this. I understand its part of growth.
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Im at the beginning stage. We haven’t officially broken up but his actions are enough. We went from talking about marriage to wanting to be friends. He has a lot if issues that he is dealing with and he does need yo focus but the only person he is acting funny towards is me. I was there and supportive but after a while i wasn’t happy anymore. So im focused on me. Ive been reading a book called codependent no more. It is so good. We all have codependency issues some more extreme then others but it really effects me in relationships. Me and this guy should’ve never happened do im taking a look at me so i can make better choices and know when to walk away. Im the shit I need to start acting like it
END all communication with him. First he says he loves you...now he wants to be Friends?? Don't do it. It's actually Insulting. Move on my darling. You don't need his Friendship!
I had a breakup 2 months ago now, I remember the exact moment I knew I had to end it. I brought up something he had done that upset me and he ignored me, then I went downstairs where for the first time I had felt empowered because I had spoken my truth. He stomped/sprinted down the stairs, slammed open the door and screamed I HATE MYSELF and proceeded to blame me for this. There was no love in his eyes. I felt scared and was shaking. I ended it that night and the weird thing was while I had sad moments within a week I felt happier than I had in a year. If you are in an unhappy relationship just know you will be ok, trust yourself to figure it and and you will be stronger for it. Love you Breeny, your vids have been so helpful in this process!
I kind of went through something similar. I felt so terrible one night after having a call with him that the following morning, I told him if he doesn't do anything about it (the situation), I'm breaking up. And he suggested to take a 6 month break where we can hook up with others (wHAT), so I was like bye. He came over to bring me back some things and I didn't even let him inside. He kept apologizing constantly, something he would rarely do in the relationship. For the first time in a good while, I finally had some control over how he affected me. A few days after the breakup, I also started feeling generally happier than when I was in the relationship (I used to cry a few times per week, now I haven't cried for a good while). Just goes to show it was meant to end.
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Thank you for this video. I am currently in bed for the 8th day in a row, crying over a 3 year long relationship with a man I was prepared to get engaged to by the end of the year. My world was him, everything was him. But, after listening to what you said, when did he ever put in actual effort? When did he come to you and do something for you when the time was not convenient? My answer to that is NEVER.
You re going to be ok! Time heals, i promise you. If you dont feel ok, act as if, and give it time. Eat well, get out of bed! Go running or cycling, or do squats in the gym! Come on girl!
@@louieamsterdam5152 Not good… negative thoughts are on my mind every single day, especially since I keep chasing him and he is not giving me effort in return. I don’t go a day without this emptiness feeling in my chest and these negative thoughts.
Girl i ended mine and 9 mos later he has a baby. I am HURT. Im like dang but now i have a guy who is all about me but i still think about the ex and i hate that.
Girl is going through a breakup and placing à product?? I'm here for it!!! Secure the bag sis! You don't need to sit around and cry over a failed relationship x I had 2 kids so might need that tape now 😅😅😅
Wow it’s so scary how many parallels I see with the guy I dated and your ex. I also overlooked red flags because he was good in the beginning and I wanted the fantasy to keep going. He also gave me the bare minimum, including not helping me move! May we all find the one who cares for us unconditionally and shows it
I love you so much Breeny Lee, divorced my husband 6 years ago, the best I could have done for myself and my son. I am Celibate and currently not dating. I am so focused on me, my son and running my business. I have a very strong relationship with God, I have so much peace in my life. Going to church cleanses your soul. 😊🙏😊
I went through a narcissistic relationship myself and am still dealing with the damage from it in so many ways. But I'm so happy you're moving forward. You seem more like your confident self in this video.
Hi, get help from Dr osas who helped me reunite my 5 years broken relationship, he can make your ex come back to you begging you for a second chance, I will advise you seek his help now thanks.
Came back to say, this comment section is so powerful and I love seeing the vulnerability and honestly from all these ladies 🥺❤️ We are all in this together 🥰🤗❤️
Thank you Breeny. break ups are so so hard, so you even coming to share your experience is a very bold step. I am a young girl that just turned 20 and you don't know how much you've impacted my life and the idea I have around dating. love you so muchhh.
I love how breeny is authentic and that she’s been about self love and knowing your worth and not only does she preach it but she also practices it and this whole video in its self is a testimony to that! Team Breebree! Ayyyy!
I really needed this video!! I broke up with my ex boyfriend on Tuesday and I’ve been going through it. Having break downs at work and not having an appetite. But I’ve been working on my relationship with God and myself. I’m starting to feel better 😊 Thank you for being so transparent and real! I really appreciate everything that you’re doing
Very similar experience Breeny. My biggest lesson from my experience is when we exalt something to the level/magnitude of God, God will remove it. Thanks for sharing Breeny ✨ praying for you!
"everybody does it" yeassss!! Breenie I adore your honesty. We need your honesty and your vulnerability. You help us be honest with ourselves and others, and as a result not to be ashamed of actions which are pretty damn normal to the human race.
He sounds like he was actually almost miserly to be honest and had no initiative in taking charge of the relationship. It is possible he was no longer interested in the relationship for a while.
"The reason why the relationship was fun for me is because I'm fun". Facts. Me too! Every bit of happiness in it is what I created because I wanted to be happy in my chaos . So I wouldn't tell him anything. I would write my complaints on my phone notes which I still have and vent then around him I'd be acting ok!
Breeny, thank you! I’m still healing from my breakup that happened over a month ago. I’m not crying everyday like I used to. I know it’s best to feel those feelings but, girl, I HATED it. It was necessary though instead of holding them in. I was happy before I met him and I’m relearning how to get back to that place of happiness because I already had it. I guess I gave him a bit of my happiness you know. I think I’m finally getting through the healing process. I just keep myself busy, practicing my skateboarding and learning tricks, learning new skills, about to change my career….. yeah I’m doing the thing lol. The best thing I’ve learned is to keep busy and to NOT, I repeat, NOT check his social media accounts or even talking about him with friends or family. Just by speaking about him is giving him energy and takes the healing process longer to get through…Like drop it, he’s gone. That’s what’s working for me. I figure 4 months is enough time for healing for me because it was a short relationship. In the meantime, I’m hitting up my therapist and spending time with friends and family and focusing on switching careers etc. I’m loving this series so far!! We’re in this together 💕
This^ My ex was insecure and sought validation through sex. Since I was also insecure, I gave in, which led to him taking advantage of me sexually for 2 years. Please love yourself and make sure the other person loves themselves too.
Thank you for this. I'm going through a break up right now and I can relate a LOT to what you've mentioned in this video. I was also the one who broke up even though I didn't want to, because I realized after he moved out that the relationship was toxic. Taking care of myself has been extremely beneficial in moving on. Things like meditation, working out, picking up old hobbies, and especially spending time alone to appreciate how calm it is after the big ass storm I went through. Realizing that I can be happy alone is just... I can't put into words how much relief I feel (especially since I was scared to have depression if I broke up). It's been a month and a half and I don't cry about it anymore, but I do still think about the good times every day. Once school starts next week though, I think I'll be too busy to care anymore about my past. This was my longest relationship yet (2 years and a half), but it's also the fastest grieving period I've gone through after a breakup (because I took care of myself this time). Oh, also, stick to no-contact, I can't thank my past-self enough for blocking him right away.
"I magnified my relationship and thought I was getting an ocean when all I was getting was a drop"!!!!! This was me for 7 years!!! And when one lie surfaced, suddenly all the puzzle pieces started being put together. One revelation after the other - it's amazing. My whole relationship was one-sided. This relationship taught me about boundaries and red flags - big time! And I realise now that the only reason my ex got me in the first place was because I had no boundaries and could not identify red flags! I was very codependent and feel a bit lost now because my life revolved around someone who is no longer there. On those in-between days that are sad, I've also realised I'm mourning someone who never really existed, so this helps - there's no point. And I know my person is out there :) I forgot who I am - but I remember now - so watch out world - I'm BACK!!
grieving expectations makes the process so much harder! thank u for bearing ur heart to ur subscribers, u don't know how many women ur helping. it is well with ur soul, B. enjoy the journey of coming back home to urself
Hi, get help from Dr osas who helped me reunite my 5 years broken relationship, he can make your ex come back to you begging you for a second chance, I will advise you seek his help now thanks.
Not going through a breakup I’m here first to support you sis and to learn we can learn from everything and everyone situation. Thank you for being true and vulnerable this request a real strength! Sending you much love and light sis ✨💙
A bad breakup is God getting your attention. I did stop praying and going to Church after I married my husband, on Sunday we stay in and/ or have friends over. I honestly know deep down inside you will be okay, the first year will be tough, but you are strong, get lost in your purpose (your work), spend more time with friends and family, they probably miss you anyway. Sending you Love and Light Breeny Lee. 😊🙏😊
I think I had mentally checked out of the relationship a long time ago so it has been so much easier for me to heal. Of course I do miss being in a relationship, most of the time I do feel lonely but I am HAPPIER. And I will take my happiness over anything everytime! Cheers to finding ourselves again 🥂 💗
I’m loving this content from you. I always love your transparency regarding your life and experiences. I think women tend to lose themselves in relationships and don’t even realize it while on the quest to please their partners. It almost comes natural and it isn’t always a good thing when the person on the receiving end isn’t worthy of that sacrifice. I appreciate you for making a video like this and I look forward to more videos of this kind from you.
It’s him finding the audacity to try and shame you to your best friend for me…so sorry you had to endure all of this Breeny. Thank you for always being transparent!
I went through a similar journey. I learned that : 1- waiting is not healing. A saying says that time heals all wounds but the reality is that if you do not put in the work to actually dig deep into your story, your trauma etc. No matter how long you will take a break from dating, as soon as you will be back, you'll most likely go back to the same person with another name and another face 2- A good hunter knows how to get his prey. When you went through Something bad, if you're not healed, bad people will know how to get to you , to have what their want. Also stay away from dating app, they will break your confidence that is already affected by the break up. Don't rush into going back to the game. 3- ask your friends Your friends can be a huge asset to help you know where is the problem, your pattern what you need to work on. Be careful to the yes man friends. If you feel like you need to distract yourself, it is in fact the sign that this is where you need to look at.
This is so, so true. I haven't worked through my trauma, and I went for someone who pretty much exactly the same as my ex, who hurt me deeply... Now I'm broken hearted with a lot of inner work to do. My heart is in a million pieces 💔.
I am with you. It's gonna be OK. I just started hypnotherapy to heal it is intense but so worth it. I hope it would translate in my life too. Much love ❤
Every one needs time alone to go through it , recording this experience may be good for the audience But take some time for you to go through it , there is no short cut / destruction to pain . Sending love ❤️
3:50 seconds in and I just want to appreciate Breeny for being confident with the before and after tape bra esp after Breeny shared with us her about her insecurities ❤️!!! Aaargh! I love this lady! What a blessing.
@@Wayde-ec1he I doubt any boyfriend/girlfriend relationship can go on for years without sex. Unless it’s marriage. Marriage requires a lot more than sex. That’s why most truly celibate couples get married quickly, because it’s pointless seeing someone for years without marriage unless sex is involved.
@@Wayde-ec1he I don’t know if she’s a liar or not. I do know that if you’re a celibate female but not a virgin, a man who is not also genuinely celibate will find it difficult to tolerate that you’ve freely given your body to other men before him but, you’re making him wait. This could cause friction in the relationship. Especially when the man doesn’t intend to marry you.
It’s called a smear campaign, when a narcissist tries to turn people against you 😩 I’m so glad you made this video I’m literally going thru all this same stuff
I can relate to putting someone on a pedestal who didn't deserve it. Sometimes we want to believe that it can become what we want and we end up staying way too long. We have to take things exactly how they are and remain level headed. So glad you got out that relationship sis 🙏🏽💯
Good morning real good man will sacrifice too make you happy n also ask what ‘s your future plans , ask what ‘s you need help with by actions . A real good man will send you roses , help with bills , make should you have gas in your car , communications is the key n also going protect give his best toward you . A lots men do a lots of talking but no actions . A real man going prove you wrong m be by your size !
Who else looks forward towards Breeny’s videos? I honestly do because when I’m done watching ANY of her videos, I’m left feeling like I’ve learnt such valuable lessons
Im going through my first break up and it’s tough. I’m just learning to love yourself and finding my identity. I’m using this time to invest in myself. The best investment you can do is invest in yourself. Love comes when you least except it. God has a plan and the way your life is going is according to god. As you once said, us women are nurtured, we’ve got this. We’ve got to keep our head up high ❤️
Breeny, this mountain showed up in your life, so you can help those of us climbing a similar mountain...You are telling my story. I stand with you in sister-hood. 🙏🏾💞
I’m going through a breakup now and literally first thing I’ve done today morning is watch this video. It happened yesterday and I feel like you saved me lots of sadness and tears with what you explained here. It’s time for me, myself and I. Thank you x
My ex came back to me few days ago ❤️ I got help from a Relationship Restorer Who was able to mend back my broken relationship. He can bring your ex back
"The person that I was missing, wasn't the person that he was now". I really felt you on this one, because that's exactly what I felt. The last months of my relationship were really hard I just missed how my bf was during the first year and a half of our relationship. Going through a breakup with someone you saw a future is really hard but it does get better day by day. We got this Breeny 🥺❤❤
Hi, get help from Dr osas who helped me reunite my 5 years broken relationship, he can make your ex come back to you begging you for a second chance, I will advise you seek his help now thanks.
I 100% relate to this. I romantized a relationship with someone who I put in so much for but he never went out of his way or schedule for me. When I needed him the most he was just watching me suffer. Best lesson. Dating guys with money is mostly overrated. You actually better off dating someone who isn't rich cos you'll just focus on yourself more than the false sense of comfort. Lots of love Breeny you a solid! ❤️
Exactly this. Date someone with the same values as you or ones that compliment you and then watch them in action. We all talk a great game but can we play a good one?
When I had to wear a bikini at my highest weight and survived and thrived, I realised that all the historic insecurity of when I was actually slimmer was pointless because the body is just the body. To really win, we must love we regardless of where the body story is.
Oh I felt that when you said you put him on a pedestal and spoke highly of him. Can relate. Kudos to you for severing ties. It’s not easy while you’re in it.
"The person that I was missing was the person I was with when there were good times in the relationship" I felt that and that's the only thing I miss and think about. But I also constantly feel like I betrayed myself for tolerating such treatment from him not physically but emotionally to a point that as much as there was a voice in me that said "Leave him" I couldn't because of the love I was consumed by for him. I feel like I really have lost myself into that relationship as I was so committed to it but unfortunately he wasn't but I'm however glad he freed me as hurting as it is fully investing yourself to someone and finding out that he wasn't to you in the first place💔
Mihlali I totally understand you. You have this voice telling you to leave him but your heart remembers those little moments of happiness in the past. Only for you to fall back into that sinking hole of pain and depression But we will be strong one day. ❤
I had to heal and it wasn't because of a man but I recognized I did not love myself. It took 1 year and some months to finally love myself. I have to make sure I am prioritizing myself so I don't over exaggerate every interaction I have with a man. I desire to come across a decent man and be in a relationship then I have to make sure I am not getting carried away.
Breeny you seem like a really lovely person with depth and grace. First, I am very sorry about your Grandmother. That's a difficult type of grief to go through. Dare I say where your relationship with your ex is concerned, you may have started to put it on a pedestal. We (me included) can get so caught up with the mechanics of being in a relationship. You're obviously taking out the time you need to heal which takes time amidst what else life has thrown at you. I pray you find comfort in God.
Having such a ugh day and then I saw this upload! I screamed. Yes we need this! Breeny, you are saving us all. You didn't disappoint nobody, you have and will always continue to elevate yourself and us in your journey 💗
Hi big sis👋🏽 Look at you still giving us stellar content despite what you're going through. You're a real one. Time to reclaim Breeny and remember what an awesome human being she is! 👏🏽
You’re so sweet and genuine, it just projects through. You have a positive influence on society even though you may not realise the extent to which you have. Keep up the good work honestly 💕
I love your strength. To be able to recognize your needs and refocus and make yourself a priority again is something we all need to be doing. Thank you for this vulnerable video. 🤎
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These lessons apply even in friendships.Usually when we are in it ,we easily can't see objectively that the bare minimums are typically seen as larger than life , only for us to later wake-up and finally realize that we played ourselves, unconsciously.I know Breeny and all of us healing will healthily heal.God never forsakes those who call on Him.Blessings
Hello, I recommend you to Dr Ezekiel, he was the one who helped me restore my 6 years broken relationship, he can make your ex come back to you begging you for a second chance. Also, Dr Ezekiel always keep to his promise. I will advice you seek his help thanks.
This video is powerful, honest and exactly what I needed to hear after still grieving a relationship that died 2 years ago..I appreciate you,thank you beautiful woman...
Currently getting over a nearly 5 year relationship. There was so many red flags + abuse but I’ll be honest, the fear of being alone kept me in that relationship. Now I am 32, single and I’m kinda worried it’s “too late”. I have so much love to give, my heart is so pure I’m just hoping one day, a man will come along and the love is reciprocated. 🙏🏾
It hurts when they run the smear campaign on you frfr it makes you go crazy but in the end them lies don’t even matter because when you let go of the illusion of him/her things get so much better 💯
I honestly believe that if a man truly values you, he’ll listen to everything you’re complaining about and work on fixing that. Sometimes we can’t force things. If someone wants you, they’ll show you.
Right!
The hardest part is knowing that truth and acting on it when you still love the guy. Breaking up because you chose yourself when you still have feelings is the worst😭 I literally just had a dream last night of him and I together resolving our issues. It's been a month and it's been tough 💔. I see why sometimes people don't leave toxic relationships.
no joke 👸🏽princess real talk a man has to understand the real values of a genuine person 💯✨
@@nontokozombatha9182 keep going girl ! My sister is staying in an abusive relationship & its not good , if you love yourself & your not needy you will get out of a non healthy relationship
That's not natural for men to make you happy.You have to be happy with yourself.Men responsibility is to provide and protect and be responsible.for comfort in marriage.Modern women want men to be their friend.That's not our job as husbands.
Not going through a break up but I'm here to learn and place myself first regardless... Sometimes in a relationship it's soo freaking easy to prioritize the other and leave ourselves behind.. Stay committed to you!
@olufunsho Ayodele love pours into each other. u dont put no one before yourself at all. he gives. you give and you both strenghten each other.
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Same!
@olufunsho Ayodele she said priotize the other and leave ourselves behind... Not the same as what you're talking about. It is immature unhealthy to put others infront of yourself and forget about taking care of yourself. There is a reason the air hostess always tell you to put on your oxygen first. You can't effectively help others if you can't help yourself
@olufunsho Ayodele He wasn’t reciprocating.
The fact that you are still making videos and encouraging us after all that you've been through. Thank you so much Breeny
Exactly!!
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Yeah
Literally an earth angel ♥️😩♥️
Sending positive great energy to all and that we continue to uplift one another❤️
How to guard your heart women, is to not fantasize about that person in your head when you guys just started talking. A lot of times we create these fantasies about that person, which creates an emotional soul ties. The person who cares the least has the most power, never forget!
Absolutely agree! 👏🏾👏🏾
emotional celibacy is a thing. a thing I need to practice.
@@chrishnah what is emotional celibacy? cause girl I NEED THAT!
@@Amexblackcard it's just a thought I have had for the last month that on top of physical celibacy I need to guard my heart and mind by not being available for emotional situationships. I guess true celibacy encompasses that but I have only been physically celibate. I need to have that emotional detatchment as well, to protect myself.
faaacccctttttttts I NEEDED TO READ THIS!!!!! I've been talking to a guy at work who hasn't even asked me out to get a drink yet and I'm planning our wedding like WTF.
Im getting over a situationship, even though we were never together i still feel sad because i think of what could have been but remember ladies….. if he wanted to he would
In the same boat as you !! && YESS facts thanks girl !! 😭♥️
Don’t catch feelings unless they show commitment.. rookie error
Sometimes situationships can be more difficult to get over because you are mostly grieving what could have been. That's the worst. Strongs sis.
I learned that lesson the hard way at 17..I became heartbroken over it because he told me he didn't see himself being in a r/ship until after highschool. Well, he found himself in a r/ship 3 months later (while still in highschool). It's been 6 years and I haven't been in any other situationships or r/ship
@Moonpie Ouch! But I needed to hear this
Oh my god Breeny! You're describing the situation im going through right now. This guy ghosted and i really thought he was my soulmate, i told everyone, including my family that he was the one. Im like one week post break up and now i look back at certain situations and i see how much i over exaggerated him in my head just because i wanted him to love me as much as i loved him. It’s crazy that distortion you can create in your mind. Difficult times tho.
Hugs
Don't force anyone to love you. You deserve to be ADORED!
Going through the same thing right now. Totally ghosted on me. Worst experience ever. I hope over a month or two it wont hurt anymore
@@louieamsterdam5152 for me it's been 7months and it hurts and the worst thing we leave in the same estate I constantly meet with him or his brother: me and his brother are okay we say hi though but dang it's sooo painful I just want to move.
@@valerieshinia8526 girl. Use that to your adventage. LEVEL UP!! GLOW UP! Squat! Take care of your hair. Make him regret! And never take him back. Move on to something better sis. You got this! 💕
I just want to point some old Breeny advice back to Breeny. I loved the girl who sat in her car back in 2018 and told us "know your worth, and then add tax". She looked like she knew what she wanted her life and immediate circle to look like. And I try to apply that moto in my everyday life.. So in short what I'd say is try your hardest to keep your individuality in the relationship. We were our own person with hobbies and likes before we got together with someone, and it stays like that even after going steady. Of course we look after them and have different priorities but we shouldn't forget what makes us, us.
I feel like someone's telling my breakup story! thank you breeny.
Psalm 34:18 "the Lord is near to the broken hearted and saves the crushed in spirit." 😊😊
You shouldn't be dating as a Christian anyway. There's a thing called courtship
Well, i can date however i want anyway. Peace ✌
Amen 🙏🏾😪
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*"The bravest thing I ever did was continuing my life when I wanted to die."* Juliette Lewis
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Wow that’s a beautiful quote
Your break-up coincidentally began when mine took place too,so I feel like we are going through this together Breeny. Thank you for sharing. We love you❤️💝🌸🌸
Me too ❤️🩹
SAME!
Me too
Me too
Glad I'm not alone 🥺
The problem is us women are in love with the potential imagination of the person but its not actually the person!
You have to understand that successful women attracted narcissist's, they only date you for their narssisistic supply and to make them look good, not for a meaningful relationship to you both.
I personally love doing things that make my spouse happy, I find it very odd if someone is doing something just to get something himself.
A next one is, some of us women just like the feeling of being "special" when in reality, we have to be special to our selves rather and accept respect. Cause when someone gets to comfortable,they fck up gotta sharpen those boundaries
Me personally,i think we all do it, " to get something for ourselves". As women ,like u said we fall for our potential imagination of the person instead of the actual person, cause we are thinking of what we want. We want something from the person,so we visualize them as we want and not who they truly are...
You are absolutely right 🙌🏾
Wish I knew this before I got with my last 2 ex's
@Helesius Im not talking about that Im talking about intimacy and companion like a normal person wants.
There is a difference between a narssisistic person and a normal person, narssistic person only uses you for his benefit and doesn't care about yours nore intimacy.
Right now I’m in the neutral clarity stage. I see things for what they are, however, parts of me still yearn for that person because of how much I idolized them. 5 days I will be strong and okay but 2 days I’ll be upset and even wanting to reach out. I’m actively trying to break the pattern of “hopeful” and “putting them on a pedestal”.
exactly what i’m going thru. On the borderline here
@@PriyaKandru it’s honestly so frustrating and at the end of the day comes down to will power
Thank you for sharing just be kind to yourself and understand grieving after a break up doesn’t have a time set so when you’re feeling these emotions be easier on yourself
God is the only one who can break this soul tie and help comfort and heal your heart. I went through this because when you love someone bc true love is unconditional that’s what Gods love is it’s hard to walk away from someone you invested so much love in. But you got this put yourself first and do everything you’ve always wanted to do! You got this girl! Every time you find yourself thinking of that person just watch a funny movie, start reading a self growth book…understand that letting go of that person is a step to learning how to love yourself unconditionally. Try reading a book such as the power of positive thinking ! God bless you you can get through this ! Trust me you will heal but you won’t forget and that’s okay but every time you find yourself dwelling in the past, change those thoughts and start to dwell in your future!
I'm in exactly the same stage right now. Like, I understand things such as why the relationship didn't work out and why I shouldn't pursue him but for a couple days in a week, I'd be yearning for him even when I know that we'll never be together again. It's hard but let's get through this stage sister.
This is comforting. My grandmother passed away a year ago to cancer, a month later my aunt passed away, and a few days later my ex and I broke up. He was also a narcissist. Less than a year later he got engaged to someone he told me was just a friend after promising to marry me. This is not easy an easy journey but God reveals his truth and gives us the strength we need to move forward.
Thank you for this and sharing your story 💕
Just be glad you dodged a bullet. Heaven only know what he is putting this girl through. Take care of yourself & get help if you need it.
I went through the same thing. Im just sitting quietly watching the viedo.
@@beewest5704 Yes! Thank you ❤️
@@Shanaevaz Girl! It’s not the easiest thing to process through but you’ve got this!
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WHEW, this was right on time. I dreamed of my ex and woke up in shambles. The hardest part is that the relationship didn't end on bad terms he wasn't a bad person, but the relationship no longer served me. But this helped so much. This next season in my life will be a great one, and I'm speaking that over myself.
I woke up from a dream about my ex too . You’re next season WILL be great, love . You deserve it 🦋
Affirmations are a good way of rewiring our brains from what we have once believed in our lives! Damn those dreams feel so real...but thank God you woke up and it was just a dream. Having the strength to walk away when something no longer serves us is a super power in itself. Rooting for you over here!
@@yourcoachcorinax7087 thank you 🥺🥺
Same!!! Literally
I totally agree with you! I was in a relationship for 17 years since I was 14. We broke up a few months ago. At first I felt lost because I didn’t feel like I knew who I was on my own as me. It was difficult to start with but I worked on myself and I’m so much happier ☺️ and I feel like I’m getting to know myself more xx
I'm soo happy for you Girl now that u can get to know yourself better and you are happier ☀️☀️☀️ have a nice day!!
@@lisabir225 thank you hun 🙏🏽 have a good day x
You give me hope sis❤️❤️
@@andrialex9454 i even recorded my progress and posted it on my channel which i was so nervous about but got so many nice messages 💕
Was yall married?
There's this verse in the bible where Jesus is talking about people pretending to be something they're not and He ends by saying: you shall know them by their fruits because a good tree will ALWAYS produce good fruits and a bad tree, bad fruits. And I love that because
1. You can know what kind of a person someone is by observing the fruits of their lives ie what they bring out of you and out of others.
2. It takes a while before fruits appear and that tells me that people will not always present their true character to you initially so you have to be patient for their true selves to shine through.
3. They can only pretend so long because a bad tree has no choice but to produce bad fruit in the end because the problem is at the roots and sometimes even in the soil it's planted in.
And you thought a 3000 year old book wasn't applicable in modern life.
Whew !!!! Thank you for sharing this 🙌🏾
This was exactly what I needed to read this morning! I’m trying to drag myself out of bed to go to work but I’m so broken and sad over my breakup and I’m the one who broke up with him. I just feel so hurt and disappointed. But there were no good fruit coming from the tree. He pretended at first but after that he could not hide his true character.
@@tab_b praying for you lovely! Xx
This is amazing, thank you for your message!
Love this!!!
As a man, I went through the exact same thing as you. I was always treading on eggshells & if she’s meant to be my happy place but yet being negative. I’d rather be alone.
Like you said invest and love yourself.
Put God first !! 🙏🏿
Know you’re a Queen.
Rooting for you!!
Amen putting God first really places a foundation fr
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Needed this!
The part where you said your feelings are yours he didn’t leave with it, that hit home.
As much as it hurts I think God put you through this to help others. With pain comes purpose 😉 You were put on this earth for great things girl! Your ex will realise what he lost sooner or later ♥️
when you started speaking at 11:04 it reminded me of this one strategy I like to use- get a notebook from the dollar store for each person you date and don't tell anyone about it. I write in green any 'green' flags (including words and actions, or lack thereof), in red any 'red' flags, and black anything neutral. I do my best to write in this notebook each day/week after any interactions. Try to pray beforehand with the intention to write as objectively as possible, and as if I'm doing this for my best friend whom I love and respect with everything in me.
If something about them bothers me- I write what it is in red, even if it's just my gut/intuition and I can't pinpoint it (yet). How I feel with them and about them is often a good indicator too....Do I feel empowered, loved, respected, cherished, safe, protected...or do I feel sad, disappointed, hurt etc Am I proud to be with this person, would I advise my dearest friend to stay away from or be with a man with his character...does he/has he earned my respect....
I review the notebook at least once or twice a month and visually can see whether there are green or red flags literally. That way, I can take a step back from the 'frame' and see things for what they are hopefully.
This sounds like a really good idea. I was with a narcissist for 5years and almost forgot all the nasty things he said and done to me. Part of it was gaslighting too however I’m yet to find someone else. When I do this is definitely something I will be doing x
This is a very great advice here. I may say that it avoid many headaches.. I May add that, at 6 months or so, you can review the notebook and see where you are with the redflags, and maybe end the relationship the Lady knows that it will not be it
@@blessedtobless. exactly, and if there's less green flags and/or more red flags at any point , it's probably a good idea to pause, dial back and address the issue(s)
Wow. Such a great idea!! This should be highlighted. Would save alot people the heartache. This method can be applied to ANY relationship. Thanks for sharing!!!👍🤗
Great idea. I will try this with my next date.
Hey girl! I can relate to this completely. I started researching narcissism and found a lot of these qualities for the men I was dealing with. It gave me so much understanding on how they play these games!
Yess Breeny Healing girl summer! I love the honesty because that’s really how it is the progress isn’t just linear there are moments where you go back a bit but as you say it doesn’t make you less it’s just grieving a loss
Love healing girl summer too!💖
If u have high standards as a woman , expect the most in a partner to date .
Don’t give excuses for people , let people show you who they are , if u realise it’s not the ideal person u desire in ur head , don’t try to change any one just leave people alone
There is some one for all of us , u just have to get with some one who has proved to be ur TYPE , not some one u have to make excuses for .
I swear I was meant to find this video. I broke up with my now ex, two days ago because he directly told me he does not see a future with me. He made me feel like I am not enough. He was my first love, my first everything. I thought he loved me too but he did not. There is nothing as painful as unrequited love, my world is turned upside down. The mornings are the worst for me, it is so hard getting out of bed. I overwork myself during the day so it will be easier to ignore all this. I understand its part of growth.
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Omg sis I exactly went through what you've been through, it feels like everything is out of my hands and I can't help myself
Im at the beginning stage. We haven’t officially broken up but his actions are enough. We went from talking about marriage to wanting to be friends. He has a lot if issues that he is dealing with and he does need yo focus but the only person he is acting funny towards is me. I was there and supportive but after a while i wasn’t happy anymore. So im focused on me. Ive been reading a book called codependent no more. It is so good. We all have codependency issues some more extreme then others but it really effects me in relationships. Me and this guy should’ve never happened do im taking a look at me so i can make better choices and know when to walk away. Im the shit I need to start acting like it
Marriage now Friends? That's insulting. Move on. He doesn't deserve your Friendship because you were never friends.
Wow are you my clone?? How can we be living the same life
END all communication with him. First he says he loves you...now he wants to be Friends?? Don't do it. It's actually Insulting. Move on my darling. You don't need his Friendship!
Can I ask who the other of that book is?
@@Beandrea32 Melody Beattle, I bought the workbook that goes with it too off of Amazon
I had a breakup 2 months ago now, I remember the exact moment I knew I had to end it. I brought up something he had done that upset me and he ignored me, then I went downstairs where for the first time I had felt empowered because I had spoken my truth. He stomped/sprinted down the stairs, slammed open the door and screamed I HATE MYSELF and proceeded to blame me for this. There was no love in his eyes. I felt scared and was shaking. I ended it that night and the weird thing was while I had sad moments within a week I felt happier than I had in a year.
If you are in an unhappy relationship just know you will be ok, trust yourself to figure it and and you will be stronger for it. Love you Breeny, your vids have been so helpful in this process!
I’m literally so happy for you love💙 anyone getting out of a bad or toxic relationship deserves that happiness and peace again.
I kind of went through something similar. I felt so terrible one night after having a call with him that the following morning, I told him if he doesn't do anything about it (the situation), I'm breaking up. And he suggested to take a 6 month break where we can hook up with others (wHAT), so I was like bye. He came over to bring me back some things and I didn't even let him inside. He kept apologizing constantly, something he would rarely do in the relationship. For the first time in a good while, I finally had some control over how he affected me. A few days after the breakup, I also started feeling generally happier than when I was in the relationship (I used to cry a few times per week, now I haven't cried for a good while). Just goes to show it was meant to end.
@@kikisworld2111 Thank you!🥰❤
@@Capybaragee Wow! Such a similar reaction, good on you for trusting yourself and happy you are happy❤❤
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I’m glad you covered this topic. We lose so much of ourselves we don’t even realize!!
Thank you for this video. I am currently in bed for the 8th day in a row, crying over a 3 year long relationship with a man I was prepared to get engaged to by the end of the year. My world was him, everything was him. But, after listening to what you said, when did he ever put in actual effort? When did he come to you and do something for you when the time was not convenient? My answer to that is NEVER.
You re going to be ok! Time heals, i promise you. If you dont feel ok, act as if, and give it time. Eat well, get out of bed! Go running or cycling, or do squats in the gym! Come on girl!
I really recommend reading the surrendered wife by Laura Doyle for what you’re going through
I swear we are living the same lives😭
How r u doing? Hope ur a bit better..
@@louieamsterdam5152 Not good… negative thoughts are on my mind every single day, especially since I keep chasing him and he is not giving me effort in return. I don’t go a day without this emptiness feeling in my chest and these negative thoughts.
This is so on time! I’m holding back tears because I ended it so he thinks it’s easy for me, but it still hurts.
Girl i ended mine and 9 mos later he has a baby. I am HURT. Im like dang but now i have a guy who is all about me but i still think about the ex and i hate that.
@@TheNatscrat prolly cuz you're not over him completely
@@TheNatscrat ^
@@KI-wz7pr uggghhh i want to be. 😔
This
Girl is going through a breakup and placing à product?? I'm here for it!!! Secure the bag sis! You don't need to sit around and cry over a failed relationship x I had 2 kids so might need that tape now 😅😅😅
Wow it’s so scary how many parallels I see with the guy I dated and your ex. I also overlooked red flags because he was good in the beginning and I wanted the fantasy to keep going. He also gave me the bare minimum, including not helping me move! May we all find the one who cares for us unconditionally and shows it
I love you so much Breeny Lee, divorced my husband 6 years ago, the best I could have done for myself and my son. I am Celibate and currently not dating. I am so focused on me, my son and running my business. I have a very strong relationship with God, I have so much peace in my life. Going to church cleanses your soul. 😊🙏😊
I went through a narcissistic relationship myself and am still dealing with the damage from it in so many ways. But I'm so happy you're moving forward. You seem more like your confident self in this video.
Don’t worry Breeny💕 you will get married soon and it will be a great marriage ❤️🔥🤞🏽
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Came back to say, this comment section is so powerful and I love seeing the vulnerability and honestly from all these ladies 🥺❤️ We are all in this together 🥰🤗❤️
Thank you Breeny. break ups are so so hard, so you even coming to share your experience is a very bold step. I am a young girl that just turned 20 and you don't know how much you've impacted my life and the idea I have around dating. love you so muchhh.
I love how breeny is authentic and that she’s been about self love and knowing your worth and not only does she preach it but she also practices it and this whole video in its self is a testimony to that! Team Breebree! Ayyyy!
The imagination bit really resonates with me 🧡 I needed to hear that.
went through the worst breakup last summer. thank god i’m in a place now where i can internalize this information 🙏🏼thank God
I really needed this video!! I broke up with my ex boyfriend on Tuesday and I’ve been going through it. Having break downs at work and not having an appetite. But I’ve been working on my relationship with God and myself. I’m starting to feel better 😊 Thank you for being so transparent and real! I really appreciate everything that you’re doing
Lol no thanks… It’s was within Gods plan for us not to be together and I’d like to keep it that way.
Very similar experience Breeny. My biggest lesson from my experience is when we exalt something to the level/magnitude of God, God will remove it. Thanks for sharing Breeny ✨ praying for you!
"everybody does it" yeassss!! Breenie I adore your honesty. We need your honesty and your vulnerability. You help us be honest with ourselves and others, and as a result not to be ashamed of actions which are pretty damn normal to the human race.
He sounds like he was actually almost miserly to be honest and had no initiative in taking charge of the relationship. It is possible he was no longer interested in the relationship for a while.
So true
@V A 💯
"The reason why the relationship was fun for me is because I'm fun". Facts. Me too! Every bit of happiness in it is what I created because I wanted to be happy in my chaos . So I wouldn't tell him anything. I would write my complaints on my phone notes which I still have and vent then around him I'd be acting ok!
Breeny, thank you! I’m still healing from my breakup that happened over a month ago. I’m not crying everyday like I used to. I know it’s best to feel those feelings but, girl, I HATED it. It was necessary though instead of holding them in. I was happy before I met him and I’m relearning how to get back to that place of happiness because I already had it. I guess I gave him a bit of my happiness you know. I think I’m finally getting through the healing process. I just keep myself busy, practicing my skateboarding and learning tricks, learning new skills, about to change my career….. yeah I’m doing the thing lol. The best thing I’ve learned is to keep busy and to NOT, I repeat, NOT check his social media accounts or even talking about him with friends or family. Just by speaking about him is giving him energy and takes the healing process longer to get through…Like drop it, he’s gone. That’s what’s working for me. I figure 4 months is enough time for healing for me because it was a short relationship. In the meantime, I’m hitting up my therapist and spending time with friends and family and focusing on switching careers etc. I’m loving this series so far!! We’re in this together 💕
Congrats. Keep going !
I feel that the person that I choose has to be comfortable in their skin before they can be with me. Insecurities affect both parties.
This^ My ex was insecure and sought validation through sex. Since I was also insecure, I gave in, which led to him taking advantage of me sexually for 2 years. Please love yourself and make sure the other person loves themselves too.
Love how you’re there to help us LEVEL UP in our own shit and become better and grow 💖 We need more of this energy in the world. Thank you
"Let love find you"...great advice🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
Thank you for this. I'm going through a break up right now and I can relate a LOT to what you've mentioned in this video. I was also the one who broke up even though I didn't want to, because I realized after he moved out that the relationship was toxic. Taking care of myself has been extremely beneficial in moving on. Things like meditation, working out, picking up old hobbies, and especially spending time alone to appreciate how calm it is after the big ass storm I went through. Realizing that I can be happy alone is just... I can't put into words how much relief I feel (especially since I was scared to have depression if I broke up). It's been a month and a half and I don't cry about it anymore, but I do still think about the good times every day. Once school starts next week though, I think I'll be too busy to care anymore about my past. This was my longest relationship yet (2 years and a half), but it's also the fastest grieving period I've gone through after a breakup (because I took care of myself this time). Oh, also, stick to no-contact, I can't thank my past-self enough for blocking him right away.
"I magnified my relationship and thought I was getting an ocean when all I was getting was a drop"!!!!! This was me for 7 years!!! And when one lie surfaced, suddenly all the puzzle pieces started being put together. One revelation after the other - it's amazing. My whole relationship was one-sided.
This relationship taught me about boundaries and red flags - big time! And I realise now that the only reason my ex got me in the first place was because I had no boundaries and could not identify red flags! I was very codependent and feel a bit lost now because my life revolved around someone who is no longer there. On those in-between days that are sad, I've also realised I'm mourning someone who never really existed, so this helps - there's no point. And I know my person is out there :)
I forgot who I am - but I remember now - so watch out world - I'm BACK!!
grieving expectations makes the process so much harder!
thank u for bearing ur heart to ur subscribers, u don't know how many women ur helping.
it is well with ur soul, B.
enjoy the journey of coming back home to urself
“All these small things that we see as big deals are actually the bare minimum” well said👏🏾💯
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‘LET LOVE FIND YOU..’ this is it!! Do not chase, vibrate high, heal and you will inevitably attract the right love.
You've got this Queen! Your testimony and story is inspirational!
Not going through a breakup I’m here first to support you sis and to learn we can learn from everything and everyone situation. Thank you for being true and vulnerable this request a real strength! Sending you much love and light sis ✨💙
Yess!!!
Wow, the beauty and timing of this is incredible. You are helping so many people by being transparent.
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I remember this period of my life. It’s tough but it makes you so much stronger and helps you understand your next moves in life.
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This is so transparent, it’s refreshing
A bad breakup is God getting your attention. I did stop praying and going to Church after I married my husband, on Sunday we stay in and/ or have friends over. I honestly know deep down inside you will be okay, the first year will be tough, but you are strong, get lost in your purpose (your work), spend more time with friends and family, they probably miss you anyway. Sending you Love and Light Breeny Lee. 😊🙏😊
I really enjoyed watching this, genuine Breeny. It’s real to the bone, it’s hard out here on these streets😅🤎
I think I had mentally checked out of the relationship a long time ago so it has been so much easier for me to heal. Of course I do miss being in a relationship, most of the time I do feel lonely but I am HAPPIER. And I will take my happiness over anything everytime! Cheers to finding ourselves again 🥂 💗
girl big up to you breeny...i never thought i would single at 30 ... but here i am.. sending blessing to all the single women out there
I’m loving this content from you. I always love your transparency regarding your life and experiences. I think women tend to lose themselves in relationships and don’t even realize it while on the quest to please their partners. It almost comes natural and it isn’t always a good thing when the person on the receiving end isn’t worthy of that sacrifice. I appreciate you for making a video like this and I look forward to more videos of this kind from you.
It’s him finding the audacity to try and shame you to your best friend for me…so sorry you had to endure all of this Breeny. Thank you for always being transparent!
I went through a similar journey. I learned that :
1- waiting is not healing.
A saying says that time heals all wounds but the reality is that if you do not put in the work to actually dig deep into your story, your trauma etc. No matter how long you will take a break from dating, as soon as you will be back, you'll most likely go back to the same person with another name and another face
2- A good hunter knows how to get his prey.
When you went through Something bad, if you're not healed, bad people will know how to get to you , to have what their want. Also stay away from dating app, they will break your confidence that is already affected by the break up. Don't rush into going back to the game.
3- ask your friends
Your friends can be a huge asset to help you know where is the problem, your pattern what you need to work on. Be careful to the yes man friends. If you feel like you need to distract yourself, it is in fact the sign that this is where you need to look at.
how can I work through trauma etc?
Girl, #2 is spot on
This is so, so true. I haven't worked through my trauma, and I went for someone who pretty much exactly the same as my ex, who hurt me deeply... Now I'm broken hearted with a lot of inner work to do. My heart is in a million pieces 💔.
I am with you. It's gonna be OK.
I just started hypnotherapy to heal it is intense but so worth it. I hope it would translate in my life too.
Much love ❤
‘Magnified the relationship’ this hit home! I’ve done that as well and now I am trying to break away from him and the relationship.
Every one needs time alone to go through it , recording this experience may be good for the audience
But take some time for you to go through it , there is no short cut / destruction to pain .
Sending love ❤️
3:50 seconds in and I just want to appreciate Breeny for being confident with the before and after tape bra esp after Breeny shared with us her about her insecurities ❤️!!!
Aaargh! I love this lady! What a blessing.
Dear Breeny...the secret is picking the RIGHT person that matches and improves who you are.🥰👌
Sometimes it's starts off good and ends up badly
Is breeny celibate?
@@Wayde-ec1he I doubt any boyfriend/girlfriend relationship can go on for years without sex. Unless it’s marriage. Marriage requires a lot more than sex. That’s why most truly celibate couples get married quickly, because it’s pointless seeing someone for years without marriage unless sex is involved.
@@Thatiswhatitismadefor is breeny a liar? Because she claims she is celibate for a long time
@@Wayde-ec1he I don’t know if she’s a liar or not. I do know that if you’re a celibate female but not a virgin, a man who is not also genuinely celibate will find it difficult to tolerate that you’ve freely given your body to other men before him but, you’re making him wait. This could cause friction in the relationship. Especially when the man doesn’t intend to marry you.
We all learn everyday. Don't beat yourself up for your mistakes. Sending you loads of love.
His loss ! Your amazing big sis ❤️❤️ stay beautiful
It’s called a smear campaign, when a narcissist tries to turn people against you 😩 I’m so glad you made this video I’m literally going thru all this same stuff
I can relate to putting someone on a pedestal who didn't deserve it. Sometimes we want to believe that it can become what we want and we end up staying way too long. We have to take things exactly how they are and remain level headed. So glad you got out that relationship sis 🙏🏽💯
Good morning real good man will sacrifice too make you happy n also ask what ‘s your future plans , ask what ‘s you need help with by actions . A real good man will send you roses , help with bills , make should you have gas in your car , communications is the key n also going protect give his best toward you . A lots men do a lots of talking but no actions . A real man going prove you wrong m be by your size !
@@rashawntaylor4316 you're absolutely right
Who else looks forward towards Breeny’s videos? I honestly do because when I’m done watching ANY of her videos, I’m left feeling like I’ve learnt such valuable lessons
Im going through my first break up and it’s tough. I’m just learning to love yourself and finding my identity. I’m using this time to invest in myself. The best investment you can do is invest in yourself. Love comes when you least except it. God has a plan and the way your life is going is according to god. As you once said, us women are nurtured, we’ve got this. We’ve got to keep our head up high ❤️
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Breeny, this mountain showed up in your life, so you can help those of us climbing a similar mountain...You are telling my story. I stand with you in sister-hood. 🙏🏾💞
So badly needed to hear this love your honesty and how you handle every set back in life and come back stronger.
this. came just in time!!! i really needed this, love you breeny
sending hugs
I’m going through a breakup now and literally first thing I’ve done today morning is watch this video. It happened yesterday and I feel like you saved me lots of sadness and tears with what you explained here. It’s time for me, myself and I. Thank you x
My ex came back to me few days ago ❤️ I got help from a Relationship Restorer Who was able to mend back my broken relationship. He can bring your ex back
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"The person that I was missing, wasn't the person that he was now". I really felt you on this one, because that's exactly what I felt. The last months of my relationship were really hard I just missed how my bf was during the first year and a half of our relationship. Going through a breakup with someone you saw a future is really hard but it does get better day by day. We got this Breeny 🥺❤❤
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I 100% relate to this. I romantized a relationship with someone who I put in so much for but he never went out of his way or schedule for me. When I needed him the most he was just watching me suffer. Best lesson. Dating guys with money is mostly overrated. You actually better off dating someone who isn't rich cos you'll just focus on yourself more than the false sense of comfort. Lots of love Breeny you a solid! ❤️
Exactly this. Date someone with the same values as you or ones that compliment you and then watch them in action. We all talk a great game but can we play a good one?
When I had to wear a bikini at my highest weight and survived and thrived, I realised that all the historic insecurity of when I was actually slimmer was pointless because the body is just the body. To really win, we must love we regardless of where the body story is.
The hardest part is realizing the person that meant so much to you is now becoming a stranger
Oh I felt that when you said you put him on a pedestal and spoke highly of him. Can relate. Kudos to you for severing ties. It’s not easy while you’re in it.
“When has he sacrificed for you that was not convince for him?” - Key!
"The person that I was missing was the person I was with when there were good times in the relationship" I felt that and that's the only thing I miss and think about. But I also constantly feel like I betrayed myself for tolerating such treatment from him not physically but emotionally to a point that as much as there was a voice in me that said "Leave him" I couldn't because of the love I was consumed by for him. I feel like I really have lost myself into that relationship as I was so committed to it but unfortunately he wasn't but I'm however glad he freed me as hurting as it is fully investing yourself to someone and finding out that he wasn't to you in the first place💔
Mihlali I totally understand you. You have this voice telling you to leave him but your heart remembers those little moments of happiness in the past. Only for you to fall back into that sinking hole of pain and depression
But we will be strong one day. ❤
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I went an bought the push up tape as soon as I saw your before and after pics on here, you sold it so well
You look ahhmazing!!!! .... "LET LOVE FIND YOU..." I believe in that 10000%
I had to heal and it wasn't because of a man but I recognized I did not love myself. It took 1 year and some months to finally love myself. I have to make sure I am prioritizing myself so I don't over exaggerate every interaction I have with a man. I desire to come across a decent man and be in a relationship then I have to make sure I am not getting carried away.
Breeny you seem like a really lovely person with depth and grace. First, I am very sorry about your Grandmother. That's a difficult type of grief to go through. Dare I say where your relationship with your ex is concerned, you may have started to put it on a pedestal. We (me included) can get so caught up with the mechanics of being in a relationship. You're obviously taking out the time you need to heal which takes time amidst what else life has thrown at you. I pray you find comfort in God.
Having such a ugh day and then I saw this upload! I screamed. Yes we need this! Breeny, you are saving us all. You didn't disappoint nobody, you have and will always continue to elevate yourself and us in your journey 💗
If you are reading this, keep going, keep believing in yourself. You are exactly where you need to be 💠🙏💖
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Hi big sis👋🏽 Look at you still giving us stellar content despite what you're going through. You're a real one. Time to reclaim Breeny and remember what an awesome human being she is! 👏🏽
You’re so sweet and genuine, it just projects through. You have a positive influence on society even though you may not realise the extent to which you have. Keep up the good work honestly 💕
I love your strength. To be able to recognize your needs and refocus and make yourself a priority again is something we all need to be doing. Thank you for this vulnerable video. 🤎
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These lessons apply even in friendships.Usually when we are in it ,we easily can't see objectively that the bare minimums are typically seen as larger than life , only for us to later wake-up and finally realize that we played ourselves, unconsciously.I know Breeny and all of us healing will healthily heal.God never forsakes those who call on Him.Blessings
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This video is powerful, honest and exactly what I needed to hear after still grieving a relationship that died 2 years ago..I appreciate you,thank you beautiful woman...
Currently getting over a nearly 5 year relationship. There was so many red flags + abuse but I’ll be honest, the fear of being alone kept me in that relationship. Now I am 32, single and I’m kinda worried it’s “too late”. I have so much love to give, my heart is so pure I’m just hoping one day, a man will come along and the love is reciprocated.
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Over fantasizing relationships hit so hard. Thank you for sharing the rawness of grieving a dead relationship with us. God bless you! 🤗❤
It hurts when they run the smear campaign on you frfr it makes you go crazy but in the end them lies don’t even matter because when you let go of the illusion of him/her things get so much better 💯
Hardly a smear campaign in comparison to one sided monetized youtube videos
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Going through the same thing girl. It’s like a rollercoaster; some days better than others. Stay strong.