After two years I have finally let go and stopped fighting for this guy. I had to realize that he was just a user and no good for me. I blocked him on all social media, and changed my phone number so he has no contact with me anymore. Life is too short to chase after someone who doesn’t want you
NotYourAverage999 Staying busy helps a lot. Put all your focus into school,work or a hobby. Also remember why you broke up and try to focus on all the negative parts of the relationship lol. Sometimes I miss the person But I remember how they treated me and made me feel and I know I made the right decision.
I gave him so many chances to change his ways and loved him with all my heart and it took 7 months to finally realize I can’t change him he has to be the one to want to change for himself. It hurts like hell 💔 but it was so not healthy I kept breaking up with him and kept going back it was hard
Then I realised I couldnt change him, he told me to block him and delete his number. I got my closure and I'm never going back. I hope one day he calls back so I can explain my hurt and how he made me feel but I will never go back
Some people refuse to give the other person closure in order to torture them or keep stringing them along. In this case, you have to give it to yourself. Closure is disinterest, disrespect, inconsistency, infidelity, or whatever the violations were.
Exactly... I have been through this and it's over a year now, and i still find myself crying and overthinking it.... Since he was the first guy I ever truly liked but... he didn't seem to like me with the same intensity. Never got my closure... never wanted to see me again at least for a walk in the park to discuss to hug each other since the break up was so messy. He would pop up with messages once in two months.... in the night, asking to meet for hooking up, always reminding me that it doesn't mean he wants to get back together... Never understood how disrespected and hurtful those messagesa made me feel... It still breaks me a little...
@@cristin8er96 Girl you are not alone. I know how shitty it feels. I'm in a similar situation but I wouldn't necessarily call him an ex since we were in a situationship. He never asked me to become his girlfriend and he knew exactly which buttons to push. I sent him a long text about deciding to end and walk away from that situationship and this dude sends me a picture of him saying if I don't really want that meaning him. Effin narcissist...plus this guys was 16 years older than me. Im 26....it was a 10 month toxic cycle. I decided to walk away for good. I wasted 10 months hoping he would give me a a gf title but never. I hate myself for being so naive. Im so fed up with these guy games.
@@cynthiaurugutia736 oii Cynthia, i am so sorry to hear girl :(. I am glad we empathize with each other though :( and with some many other women out there. What to do. It's good we realized it's not worth it. Some people waste years sadly... let's hope we will find someone who loves us with the same intensity we will put into them. Or at least someone who is sure about us and ready yo commit and fight just as we do ❤️ Stay strong
1. Make your decision to get over them. 2. Get closure. 3. Accept that is over. 4. Disconnect from them. (Dont get even and dont indirect them on social media.) 5. Write down what you dislike about them. 6. Change their name on your phone. 7. Set boundaries. (Get away from him for a while, protect your heart. If its done, let it be done) 8. Missing someone is part of letting go. (Just because you miss them that doesn’t mean you need them in your life. ) 9. Surround yourself with good people. (Friends and/or family who loves you) 10. Refocus your attention to YOU. (Be a goal getter, best revenge is success) 11. Self love is the best medicine for a broken heart. (We rely on people who give us what we should be giving ourselves.) (give yourself the attention and love that you want. ) (You are more than enough, be loyal to you, ride or die FOR YOU) 12. write down all the things that you want your future to have. (Even if you dont deserve them yet, I said yet because you do deserve them. )
Don’t remember about the good moments : remember how many time you’ve cried , when he has been rude , when he was hiding you . Personally it’s at that moment that I’ve written my list of requirements what my future hubby should look like , based on exact opposite characteristics held by my ex .
I actually try to be my ex's friend and yes I blame myself for that pain that comes afterwards. They keep coming back and I'm the blame for that.....I have began my process of detachment and letting go but this one Ex of mine I keep hurting myself for being his revolving door.... Remember the song by Lauryn Hill "The Ex Factor".....I have over looked a lot just for him but I know now he's gotta go because he's gonna hurt me again....for him I'm like his something to pass the time until he finds the one he really wants and I can't grieve this process anymore!! You're right Self Love is the BEST LOVE!!
I love this!! I just want to add “FORGIVENESS IS CLOSURE!” Meeting the potential ex is not always a good idea, especially if he’s a MANIPULATIVE NARCISSIST!!
^^ This. I made the mistake of agreeing to speak with my ex after over two weeks of separation and his constant attempts to contact me. The entire time, he refused to listen to me and turned every issue I mentioned back onto my shoulders where I literally began to redoubt my view and my worth and spent the next few days in depression after I had just began to feel mostly recovered before agreeing to meet. Just don't do it. The only way I found closure was accepting that they're never going to listen to your side no matter how you present it. I've tried yelling out of frustration and showing them I'm not a pushover, I've tried being calm since yelling isn't a healthy form of communication, I've tried being sympathetic by focusing on their issues and dropping my own, I've tried eliciting sympathy through informing them of the daily affect this has on my health. I tried every angle and had to come to terms that it had nothing to do with what I said or how I said it: they didn't think they did wrong and you're not going to change that about them. Accepting that is the best kind of closure. Especially for me, cause like said, I went into depression thinking I did everything wrong and that I let my emotions get the better of me and I was asking too much of them. In the end, I had to accept that yes I could have done things better for the sake of doing the right thing. And that that statement can be true while also accepting that, in this scenario, it never would have made a difference. They were already decided that they weren't going to listen to my side before the conversation began.
Since I started listening to the Soul Surgery Series, I have been reflecting on my single life because literally my exes are popping back up in my life and I am analyzing each of them as to why it didn't work out in the first place. And what I discovered was it was more toxic than good and I attract Narcissists! I am checking my list and checking it twice, definitely not good to re-date an ex period!
I remember someone said to me one day when I had split from my 15 year relationship, they said one day you won’t care less about what he’s doing. That gave me a major panic attack but literally years later I couldn’t care less about them.
Damn Christmas must be popular for a lot of guys. The guy I’ve been talking to the past few months disappeared on me when Christmas came around. His excuse was its holiday season it’s busy. Then he went on to say we’re not together we’re just friends. I said I know but we used to speak everyday, you were calling me baby and now your acting like my feelings are irrational. A couple hours later I woke from a nap and saw a text from him saying “sorry”. I didn’t respond and still trying not to respond because this guy knows I fell in love with him. We did a lot together. He kept asking me what do I want for Christmas weeks before Christmas but he never gave me a gift. ...I could Go on and on but I want to save the grief...🙄😔
I’m about to watch this, I was about to send my ex a nasty message before the new year on a fake Facebook account cause he blocked my other one. I was feeling hurt and I wanted to say some mean things to him but when I logged on the fake account I saw his Facebook post, cause some of his post are public then I saw him being happy and stuff trying to change and posting stuff about relationships. Idk if the post have anything to do with me or not and I wanted to know but I decided to just let it go because it doesn’t matter and I just need to move on❣️
And look at that! You mentioned reaching 100k and here it is 2019 and your nearly to 200k! The growth is all the proof you need. Keep touching peoples hearts and spreading the word😚
This video literally just saved my life! I was so tired of crying and trying to push everything to the side for this guy, and you made me realize that. Now I can say that I am never going to go back to him. Thank you!!!!
Boundaries....man that’s the best advice in this video! Women don’t understand the power they have when they set boundaries because all you have to do is be firm in what you need and the space you need to heal. ♥️♥️
I was with my boyfriend since I was 14 until I was 21. Now I’m 22 and my world fell apart last year when he told me been cheating for the past two years and me being “in love” I wanted to stick around to see him change so we could get back together eventually. I stuck around him almost a year while I was single to see this change. Long story short, he did not change and didn’t want to, he did the complete opposite and I ended up being burned badly over and over again. Eventually I made a CHOICE to let him go because I’m so young and I deserve so much more respect! thank you! @Breeny Lee
me and my ex live next door to eachother in a 'dorm-room style' apartment. i can hear EVERYTHING. when his friends are round, when he's taking a piss. literally everything.please pray for my recovery people xDDD swear if i hear a chick next door getting it on.... i might unleash a personality i didnt know existed - trying to get over it before that day comes :|
Big hair looks good on you too. So far every look I've seen has looked good on you, but the hair with the most texture looks the best on you (like this big curly fro and the faux locs).
10. Refocusing you attention is very important. It is also important to find the right things to focus on and Breeny Lee, you said right. Re discover your hobbies, your goals, your desires, the things that you always planned on doing. You now have so much time to dedicate to yourself and devote to your own GLO up. By the end of that journey, you'll have find a new joy in your life FOR YOURSELF, IN YOURSELF, AND BY YOURSELF!!!! #Self-love creates a standard for others to follow on how they should be treating you and it will tell you who to invest your time in and who to avoid.
When you said I have to see him at least once a week, I got so happy because I felt like I was the only one who had to deal with breaking up with someone in their social circle and have to see at least once a week. I wish people talked about how to act in that situation.
I have a hard time trusting myself. I can say “I’m going to do this for good and end it” but then, days later, I’m convinced to unblock and restart all over again, to just block again and again. It’s like I have 2 people. 1 is me, the other is something else. I can’t trust myself to stick with a decision because whenever I do, I always fail it. I fail myself everytime. And it hurts because I want to trust myself to not fall into a pit of dark. It hurts. Sometimes people go back because they like the “high” or “thrill” they get with it. But it’s not worth being hurt everyday. Even if they make it seem like they’ve changed, they haven’t. It hurts. It makes it hard to progress new relationships with other people. I just pray everyone else has an easy time, because it’s hard. Much love to everyone.
I just ended a relationship that ended long ago bt I ddnt wanna face it coz i was afraid of being single and lonely....I'm sad and happy at the same time.i knw I will get over it. Thanks for this awesome video☺☺
How do i make the decision to get over him if i still have thoughts he might come back a changed man and can't let go of this hope? (I'm the one that left him)
What you are saying is true but it’s very difficult if you have a kid with him and he was with another girl while he was with you, now they are happy together and you are struggling with a baby, he don’t want to pay child support and instead helping his new girlfriend raise her child from another man. It’s easier said than done.
mumof2 TV - Most definitely easier said than done but what else can you do???! You need to empower yourself in the best way you can. God has not left you without help. You can take care of your child, don't watch what he is doing, it will bring you down. You are strong sis and you can do it. I'm praying for YOU ❤️
I went through the same thing but it empowered me. I had very rough days where I felt like giving up. My husband left me when my Daughter was 1 years old. He said it’s easier to not try then try...🤔you can’t force anyone to be a parent let alone a man. My daughter is now 10 and I have a career job. I could complains about some things but honestly what motivates me is remembering my daughter and I were abandoned and I pulled through it. Women are the true warriors! We can persevere through anything because we are amazing! We are nurturers! I wish you the best! I’m a year late on this comment but I’m sure your doing amazing things! ❤️much love from one mother to the next
Thank you so much, Breeny! This helps me a lot I’m having trouble moving on and accepting the fact that he is gone with someone new and will never come back. I’m tired mopping around. This video made me cry because i wanted to be out of this misery so much that can’t wait to be over it.
The way that this video was needed like seriously this really helped me because I’ve been going through quite a bit with my emotions and this was low key the honest truth I needed to hear, thanks x
I'm so happy that this is back.. I'll forever be waiting on your book. Today I've been deep in my feelings and I came on UA-cam and seen that you've uploaded 2 soul surgeries.. and they're both on topics that have been on my mind.. thank you for the light xx
This amazing and perfect timing you have no clue. I’m going to watch this everytime my heart feels down and I miss that person. You should work on writing a book. The way you convey your thoughts are powerful
Breeny, your soul surgery series are so helpful. And now I feel the strength to let go of that toxic relationship, that toxic man that doesn't see any value in me. I believe that there is a better man out there, the one that God wants me to have. I see so much of myself in your life and what you have been through, especially the lonely part of my life. But now I have a completely different mindset after listening to you, with God all things are possible
2018 is a new upgrade for me Breeny. This video is spot on, another key reminder. Your wisdom is on a new level and I can’t wait for 2018, your so blessed. & Btw this lip combo 😍❤️❤️❤️
I agree with everything you said ☝🏽EXCEPT: the gifts thing. I’m not giving the gifts and the bills paid back and I will *still* let.him.go. 👏🏽Com 👏🏽plete 👏🏽lyyyyy sisSs. No ma’am. Those things are mine. And I won’t feel a thing looking at them or wearing them around my 🗣Next!
Di Wi : I agree. A gift or financial support is exactly that. It’s not conditional on a relationship’s status. The ONLY gift/s that should be returned are items that clearly ARE conditional to a long-term legal commitment (MARRIAGE). If YOU break an engagement, you should return your engagement ring and/or any other gifts given as an engagement or wedding gift. If your fiancé breaks things off, the ring and other gift/s are YOURS TO KEEP. It’s compensation for your lost time. It’s also appropriate to return any gifts that have significant sentimental value to the man’s family, such as heirloom jewelry or estate pieces. Anything else is yours.
I'm so blessed that I found this video. I've been in a relationship where in the person was scared to level up our relationship. That person realized that he still love and miss his ex so he broke up with me and went back to his ex. But he always tell me that within that short period of time he really loved me but he was scared. I loved him deeply and invested my heart and soul to him. That break up really hit me hard last year. But now I realized that I really need to love myself big time! Thanks for reminding me Breeny!! ❤❤❤
I was dumped about 3 weeks ago..I couldn’t let him go so I latched on and continued talking to him every day..he said he wanted to be friends and for a while I accepted it but I realised I was getting hurt more and more each time we talked and I feel like if I let him go I’ll hurt more and I’ll have to go over the process of the breakup all over again or I keep him in my life and continue hurting…I feel doomed both ways and it’s so godamn hard..I don’t want to feel this shit anymore 😣
I just recently got out of a toxic relationship and it’s really taken a toll on me but watching your videos seriously made me feel way better, i feel like I’m not alone. I’m so grateful for you and your channel Breeny, Thank you💖 I went cold turkey on my ex because I knew I wouldn’t be able to deal with what he would respond with, it’s been almost 4 days now and I’m fighting so hard not to go back and message.. it hurts.
@@Iamchristaelaine 3 years later, I’m thriving, i spent time doing all the things he restricted me from, working my dream job now and just still healing so i don’t fall back into choosing a situation like that again out of the comfort of being used to/only knowing that treatment, never thought I’d get here while i was hurting but i did!
I can't tell you how much I appreciate you and your videos. I've been going through a breakup w that back and forth bullshit and I'm finally done. I felt like I had my shit together but you really have verbally held my hand through this and have helped me empower myself. You're an angel. Thank you so much 💕
I'm watching this now and it couldn't have come at a better time. This is exactly what I needed to hear. Every tip you have pinpointed everything I want doing. Thnx Breeny ❤️
Well we Have to Level up. & hold them financially Responsible for the Children they Planted/help create. Go dwn to courthouse. Fill out form forchild support. Asap!$!$! So we dont have enitire Financial burdens. Also. Open up a Affordable Insurance policy. Just in case anything happens to him your child*dren recieve 200,000.-500,000. Long term insurance. & or Open a bank Account with Child Support put $5. Bucks or $2. Into a Stash, Acorn or Robinhood App...Put them on Child Support. Go to SheraSeven1 Level Up Group. Shera & bff Micki is Empowring us too. As well As Paastor R.C. Blakes & Purchase Father Daughter TALK!
Place them In the Hands of the Financial Court he Is the Parent that Chooses to be Absent or Disrespect to u & UR CHILD BY NOT BEING A GOOD OR BETTER PROVIDER- FOOD . CLOTHES . SHELTER/Home. WHEN the parent takes care of u. They Love u by providing Food clothes Shelter. Put them ****Next ting u Kno he gets the next one Prego & U dont get 1st dibs or 2nd dibs Nor 3rd dibs...percentage Gets Extremely Low. Get Child Support.help Hold the $$$ Burden off ur Shoulders. Ur Baby Deserves It. You Deserve Help$$$. Next thing u kno u dont get no Child support if he makes more babies. & otger ladies put him on b4 you...Purchase Book from. Im Not Religious. Any more. And Pastor R.C. Black Books- Father Daughter TALK & QueenOlogy. Coach Shera71- Too pretty 2 Pay Bills Book. & mentally Level up Group.
I can't wait to see more soul surgery episodes I love everything you have to say this is exactly what I needed to hear for such a long time thank you so much leveling up in 2019 😍😍
You are amazing! Your energy is so captivating, I love it!! Thank you for this, I really needed to hear this and change my perspective in loving myself in all of me. Thank you 💜
I freaking love you! I just started following you and your authenticity and genuinity radiates. You’ve inspired me to be more sure in myself and not be afraid to be me. God bless you sis! I support you and I’m excited to see all that God will do in your life. 🤗
Take it one step at a time . Make a positive mental note to yourself everyday. You will get by , just work on you and fall in love with yourself all over again .
This is your best video yet Breeny!!! "Man's rejection is God's protection" 😭👌
Khafi Kareem so true!!
I hope it's true
I don’t believe in god 😫 but I am spiritual so maybe it’s my spirit guides protection
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After two years I have finally let go and stopped fighting for this guy. I had to realize that he was just a user and no good for me.
I blocked him on all social media, and changed my phone number so he has no contact with me anymore. Life is too short to chase after someone who doesn’t want you
ypm 123 - Exactly, proud of you sister ❤️
How do you get over it? My ex left me cos we always argue but I can’t stop thinking about him day and night x
NotYourAverage999 Staying busy helps a lot. Put all your focus into school,work or a hobby. Also remember why you broke up and try to focus on all the negative parts of the relationship lol. Sometimes I miss the person But I remember how they treated me and made me feel and I know I made the right decision.
Amen YPM
I wish I seen this video before I got pregnant
I gave him so many chances to change his ways and loved him with all my heart and it took 7 months to finally realize I can’t change him he has to be the one to want to change for himself. It hurts like hell 💔 but it was so not healthy I kept breaking up with him and kept going back it was hard
@Shokaria KAMALI SAME IT TOOK ME A YEAR AND 5 MONTHS
Then I realised I couldnt change him, he told me to block him and delete his number. I got my closure and I'm never going back. I hope one day he calls back so I can explain my hurt and how he made me feel but I will never go back
Same
Hi
Some people refuse to give the other person closure in order to torture them or keep stringing them along. In this case, you have to give it to yourself. Closure is disinterest, disrespect, inconsistency, infidelity, or whatever the violations were.
Exactly... I have been through this and it's over a year now, and i still find myself crying and overthinking it.... Since he was the first guy I ever truly liked but... he didn't seem to like me with the same intensity.
Never got my closure... never wanted to see me again at least for a walk in the park to discuss to hug each other since the break up was so messy.
He would pop up with messages once in two months.... in the night, asking to meet for hooking up, always reminding me that it doesn't mean he wants to get back together...
Never understood how disrespected and hurtful those messagesa made me feel... It still breaks me a little...
@@cristin8er96 Girl you are not alone. I know how shitty it feels. I'm in a similar situation but I wouldn't necessarily call him an ex since we were in a situationship. He never asked me to become his girlfriend and he knew exactly which buttons to push. I sent him a long text about deciding to end and walk away from that situationship and this dude sends me a picture of him saying if I don't really want that meaning him. Effin narcissist...plus this guys was 16 years older than me. Im 26....it was a 10 month toxic cycle. I decided to walk away for good. I wasted 10 months hoping he would give me a a gf title but never. I hate myself for being so naive. Im so fed up with these guy games.
@@cynthiaurugutia736 oii Cynthia, i am so sorry to hear girl :(. I am glad we empathize with each other though :( and with some many other women out there. What to do. It's good we realized it's not worth it. Some people waste years sadly... let's hope we will find someone who loves us with the same intensity we will put into them. Or at least someone who is sure about us and ready yo commit and fight just as we do ❤️
Stay strong
This happened to me too
1. Make your decision to get over them.
2. Get closure.
3. Accept that is over.
4. Disconnect from them. (Dont get even and dont indirect them on social media.)
5. Write down what you dislike about them.
6. Change their name on your phone.
7. Set boundaries. (Get away from him for a while, protect your heart. If its done, let it be done)
8. Missing someone is part of letting go. (Just because you miss them that doesn’t mean you need them in your life. )
9. Surround yourself with good people. (Friends and/or family who loves you)
10. Refocus your attention to YOU.
(Be a goal getter, best revenge is success)
11. Self love is the best medicine for a broken heart. (We rely on people who give us what we should be giving ourselves.) (give yourself the attention and love that you want. ) (You are more than enough, be loyal to you, ride or die FOR YOU)
12. write down all the things that you want your future to have. (Even if you dont deserve them yet, I said yet because you do deserve them. )
7 dont change name, just throw the whole # away🤷🏽♀️💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯
Sarah Castelar thank you😂
So right I am going through right now
3. I change his name to "Do NOT answer" lol so every time he calls I have that reminder not to pick up the phone.
Delete and block!💯
Some times your closure is just simply moving forward without that person in your life.
Tralisa Love And what’s great about this is time passes without you even trying 💕
No closure is the closure
Especially if he’s narcissistic
Missing someone is not a reason to text them. Missing someone is not a reason to get back with them.
THANK YOU, I really needed that.
Missing 👏🏽 someone 👏🏽 is apart 👏🏽 of letting 👏🏽go - best advice I’ve heard & also having friends that actually have a heart that comforts you
Best decision I made in 2019 *subscribed to Breeny Lee*
ME TOO sis
Same!!
Me to😍
Same here!
That part👐
God sent me to your page
Antonio Egyptian King - Praise God ❤️
I had it bad looking for love in the wrong person so I pushed myself away from love because I pushed and Shelter myself I forgot how to love other
Same
i dumped a foo cause he wasnt treating me right but i still miss him and this video made me realize HE AINT SHIT BOY BYE !!! thank you for this advice
we're all this together! Thank you Next! My petty list went up to 25 things and all i could do was laugh
@@ninaemonde1726 my petty list was long asf too! thank you for all your helpful videos girl
I'm on the same boat... Oh My God! The video does help though !
Don’t remember about the good moments : remember how many time you’ve cried , when he has been rude , when he was hiding you .
Personally it’s at that moment that I’ve written my list of requirements what my future hubby should look like , based on exact opposite characteristics held by my ex .
An "ex" is an "ex" for a reason......
godschosenbaby he's "ex" pired.
godschosenbaby
PREACH!
Marian Nimoh
I like that.
I actually try to be my ex's friend and yes I blame myself for that pain that comes afterwards. They keep coming back and I'm the blame for that.....I have began my process of detachment and letting go but this one Ex of mine I keep hurting myself for being his revolving door.... Remember the song by Lauryn Hill "The Ex Factor".....I have over looked a lot just for him but I know now he's gotta go because he's gonna hurt me again....for him I'm like his something to pass the time until he finds the one he really wants and I can't grieve this process anymore!! You're right Self Love is the BEST LOVE!!
I love this!! I just want to add “FORGIVENESS IS CLOSURE!” Meeting the potential ex is not always a good idea, especially if he’s a MANIPULATIVE NARCISSIST!!
Tish Cody totally agree with you
Tish Cody yes I agree
^^ This. I made the mistake of agreeing to speak with my ex after over two weeks of separation and his constant attempts to contact me. The entire time, he refused to listen to me and turned every issue I mentioned back onto my shoulders where I literally began to redoubt my view and my worth and spent the next few days in depression after I had just began to feel mostly recovered before agreeing to meet.
Just don't do it. The only way I found closure was accepting that they're never going to listen to your side no matter how you present it. I've tried yelling out of frustration and showing them I'm not a pushover, I've tried being calm since yelling isn't a healthy form of communication, I've tried being sympathetic by focusing on their issues and dropping my own, I've tried eliciting sympathy through informing them of the daily affect this has on my health. I tried every angle and had to come to terms that it had nothing to do with what I said or how I said it: they didn't think they did wrong and you're not going to change that about them. Accepting that is the best kind of closure.
Especially for me, cause like said, I went into depression thinking I did everything wrong and that I let my emotions get the better of me and I was asking too much of them. In the end, I had to accept that yes I could have done things better for the sake of doing the right thing. And that that statement can be true while also accepting that, in this scenario, it never would have made a difference. They were already decided that they weren't going to listen to my side before the conversation began.
rawrafied so relatable!! It’s been a week for me and we have a son. Not easy!!
@@lemotheemonemo you literally just saved lives with this comment 💗 sending gratitude and so much love to you!
at 3:54 " Man's rejection is God's protection" 👏👏 #words#of#wisdom#Breeny 👌
Facts I agree Gods protection
I cried when I heard that. So real
Since I started listening to the Soul Surgery Series, I have been reflecting on my single life because literally my exes are popping back up in my life and I am analyzing each of them as to why it didn't work out in the first place. And what I discovered was it was more toxic than good and I attract Narcissists! I am checking my list and checking it twice, definitely not good to re-date an ex period!
So today was the end of a 1 yr and 2 month relationship.... really feeling down and I’m glad I found this video!
Neyri Duarte how are you doing now?
TELLYJPG i was just gonna ask the same question! you have a good heart for caring ❤️
@Anahi Orozco hope ur doing ok now
jus got broken up with after a year and 8 months, its really hard and this video helped
I remember someone said to me one day when I had split from my 15 year relationship, they said one day you won’t care less about what he’s doing.
That gave me a major panic attack but literally years later I couldn’t care less about them.
Myra House love this
Yet your here ? 🤔
Watching this in 2019.
I honestly feel like you’re an older sister I never had. Thank you. I don’t feel so alone in this battle anymore. ♥️
Im sorry but when ahe said even if yo ex has passed away 😂😂😂😂 well hell thats enough closure for me CLOSED CASKET 😂 goodbye luv 😘
Snootyfox hahha 😅😂😂
😂😂😂😂😂♥️🤗🌚
Breeny thank you for being the big sister I never had ... I'm really grateful for your videos ... Sending love from Jamaica 🌴🌺🌸
Nella Bella - Lots of love sis ❤️
trust your intuition!❤️
Definitely 👍
i stay watching these types of videos even though I've been single all my life.
😂😂😂
Lmaooo
Save yourself keep watching, heart break is the devil🤦🏾♀️🤷🏽♀️😣 i was once like u till o hot cuaght up😣
RIGHT ON TIME !!!! Lord😩😩😩😩
Neeq Dillard yessss 🙏
Lmfaoo yes she was right on time !!! 😩😩❤️❤️❤️
I am so late..but love it..especially the petty part #5..
I got dumped on Christmas so this is what I need lol
Alexa Marie - You will be fine sis. He didn't dump you, he released you to go onto bigger and better things sis ❤️
Alexa Marie This year I got dumped on Christmas three times before this
Damn Christmas must be popular for a lot of guys. The guy I’ve been talking to the past few months disappeared on me when Christmas came around. His excuse was its holiday season it’s busy. Then he went on to say we’re not together we’re just friends. I said I know but we used to speak everyday, you were calling me baby and now your acting like my feelings are irrational. A couple hours later I woke from a nap and saw a text from him saying “sorry”. I didn’t respond and still trying not to respond because this guy knows I fell in love with him. We did a lot together. He kept asking me what do I want for Christmas weeks before Christmas but he never gave me a gift. ...I could
Go on and on but I want to save the grief...🙄😔
Breeny Lee A lot of boys dump on Christmas because they can't afford a beautiful present as you are 😂😘😘😘
baby i got dumped on vals day still not over him.Been good 1 yaer i still not over it
Man's rejection is God's protection.......
Needed this. Perfect timing with the new year coming up
same sis
Breeny, I’ve been going thru a 19 year relationship break up. You lift me!!
Sending love 😍😍😍
Oh my goodness and I thought I was going to die trying to get over this 5 year 19 years I couldn't imagine
❤❤❤❤❤❤❤🤗
🗣SAY IT LOUDER FOR THE PEOPLE IN THE BACK!
I’m about to watch this, I was about to send my ex a nasty message before the new year on a fake Facebook account cause he blocked my other one. I was feeling hurt and I wanted to say some mean things to him but when I logged on the fake account I saw his Facebook post, cause some of his post are public then I saw him being happy and stuff trying to change and posting stuff about relationships. Idk if the post have anything to do with me or not and I wanted to know but I decided to just let it go because it doesn’t matter and I just need to move on❣️
Kira Lu - Well done sis ❤️
Stay strong sis.❤
I hope you're doing splendid
So true. Women over-look so much. Lol I am that woman haha
And look at that! You mentioned reaching 100k and here it is 2019 and your nearly to 200k! The growth is all the proof you need. Keep touching peoples hearts and spreading the word😚
Too much self love has me broke ooo taking myself out on these dates but thank you for this message ❤️
idaraxo - haha better to be broke than broken babe 😘❤️
idaraxo ME LMAO
Lol, all things in moderation ❤
Lmfaoooo 😂
????then chase a great carreer, dont get feeling envlove & just live💃🏽🤷🏽♀️🤔this comment is confusing.
I finally found a female that thinks just like me. 👧👧 whoop whoop!!
agreed
I know ,right
true
This video literally just saved my life! I was so tired of crying and trying to push everything to the side for this guy, and you made me realize that. Now I can say that I am never going to go back to him. Thank you!!!!
I’m currently going through a breakup right now and it says you wrote this 2 years ago! please tell me it gets better
Boundaries....man that’s the best advice in this video! Women don’t understand the power they have when they set boundaries because all you have to do is be firm in what you need and the space you need to heal. ♥️♥️
I was with my boyfriend since I was 14 until I was 21. Now I’m 22 and my world fell apart last year when he told me been cheating for the past two years and me being “in love” I wanted to stick around to see him change so we could get back together eventually. I stuck around him almost a year while I was single to see this change. Long story short, he did not change and didn’t want to, he did the complete opposite and I ended up being burned badly over and over again. Eventually I made a CHOICE to let him go because I’m so young and I deserve so much more respect! thank you! @Breeny Lee
me and my ex live next door to eachother in a 'dorm-room style' apartment. i can hear EVERYTHING. when his friends are round, when he's taking a piss. literally everything.please pray for my recovery people xDDD
swear if i hear a chick next door getting it on.... i might unleash a personality i didnt know existed - trying to get over it before that day comes :|
Hey Hun, Let me know how its going? I'm in the same boat.
Lol, move baby, move. Yeah, I know, it's easier said than done
Lol. You got this
Lord
Omg I hope you're doing well now❤
Big hair looks good on you too. So far every look I've seen has looked good on you, but the hair with the most texture looks the best on you (like this big curly fro and the faux locs).
Thank you for your kind comment :)
10. Refocusing you attention is very important. It is also important to find the right things to focus on and Breeny Lee, you said right. Re discover your hobbies, your goals, your desires, the things that you always planned on doing. You now have so much time to dedicate to yourself and devote to your own GLO up. By the end of that journey, you'll have find a new joy in your life FOR YOURSELF, IN YOURSELF, AND BY YOURSELF!!!! #Self-love creates a standard for others to follow on how they should be treating you and it will tell you who to invest your time in and who to avoid.
Pure fire! 💥🔥Happy you've got your new studio and can't wait for more of your videos! Let's get you to 100k! 😎😎😎
Khafi Kareem - thank you beautiful ❤️
Hey Khafi❣️
When you said I have to see him at least once a week, I got so happy because I felt like I was the only one who had to deal with breaking up with someone in their social circle and have to see at least once a week. I wish people talked about how to act in that situation.
I have a hard time trusting myself. I can say “I’m going to do this for good and end it” but then, days later, I’m convinced to unblock and restart all over again, to just block again and again. It’s like I have 2 people. 1 is me, the other is something else. I can’t trust myself to stick with a decision because whenever I do, I always fail it. I fail myself everytime. And it hurts because I want to trust myself to not fall into a pit of dark. It hurts. Sometimes people go back because they like the “high” or “thrill” they get with it. But it’s not worth being hurt everyday. Even if they make it seem like they’ve changed, they haven’t. It hurts. It makes it hard to progress new relationships with other people. I just pray everyone else has an easy time, because it’s hard. Much love to everyone.
You’re right, my ex was very shallow... he didn’t deserve me.
Your energy is out of this world. I love it!!
I just ended a relationship that ended long ago bt I ddnt wanna face it coz i was afraid of being single and lonely....I'm sad and happy at the same time.i knw I will get over it. Thanks for this awesome video☺☺
Loving that hair, it really looks good on you.
Janet Thompson - thank you sweetness xx
Came here Feb 2020 and i needed this. A black queen helping another fix her crown ❤ thanks hun
How do i make the decision to get over him if i still have thoughts he might come back a changed man and can't let go of this hope? (I'm the one that left him)
Idk how you know what I need exactly when I need it but I wholeheartedly appreciate it
Bria D - Love sis ❤️
What you are saying is true but it’s very difficult if you have a kid with him and he was with another girl while he was with you, now they are happy together and you are struggling with a baby, he don’t want to pay child support and instead helping his new girlfriend raise her child from another man. It’s easier said than done.
mumof2 TV - Most definitely easier said than done but what else can you do???! You need to empower yourself in the best way you can. God has not left you without help. You can take care of your child, don't watch what he is doing, it will bring you down. You are strong sis and you can do it. I'm praying for YOU ❤️
Thanks for the message I appreciate ❤️
Damn, keep grinding for you and your baby. I am sorry you had to go through that!
I went through the same thing but it empowered me. I had very rough days where I felt like giving up. My husband left me when my
Daughter was 1 years old. He said it’s easier to not try then try...🤔you can’t force anyone to be a parent let alone a man. My daughter is now 10 and I have a career job. I could complains about some things but honestly what motivates me is remembering my daughter and I were abandoned and I pulled through it. Women are the true warriors! We can persevere through anything because we are amazing! We are nurturers! I wish you the best! I’m a year late on this comment but I’m sure your doing amazing things! ❤️much love from one mother to the next
I feel so bad reading this. I’m sorry you’re going through something like this. I hope you happiness you deserve
"Get your petty on" cracked me uppppp. I am sis. I overlooked his facial features and his bratty traits. His stinginess.
hahaha mine had bogus ass teeth!!!! lmaoooo we overlook alot
Don't indirect them! Major to do for me. Thank you
Man rejection is Gods protection 💯
Thank you so much, Breeny! This helps me a lot I’m having trouble moving on and accepting the fact that he is gone with someone new and will never come back. I’m tired mopping around. This video made me cry because i wanted to be out of this misery so much that can’t wait to be over it.
The way that this video was needed like seriously this really helped me because I’ve been going through quite a bit with my emotions and this was low key the honest truth I needed to hear, thanks x
Gap Tooth Diaries - You're welcome sis ❤️
PREACHHHH BREENY!!!!! This was an amazing video sis! extremely helpful💕
You speak alot of truth.
My dear, two of my exes keep comin by my house. The last one dumped me cuz "i'm selfish" (his words) via text so why then does he keep bothering me?
I'm so happy that this is back.. I'll forever be waiting on your book. Today I've been deep in my feelings and I came on UA-cam and seen that you've uploaded 2 soul surgeries.. and they're both on topics that have been on my mind.. thank you for the light xx
I have never fangirled over someone as much as I have for you ❤️😭
This amazing and perfect timing you have no clue. I’m going to watch this everytime my heart feels down and I miss that person. You should work on writing a book. The way you convey your thoughts are powerful
pheww “mans rejection is god’s protection” GEMS in every vid 💎
Breeny I think this applies to (getting over crushes as well)I really wish you would do a video about that too. Plus you're bae😍😂
That hair 😍
THIS VIDEO WAS NEEDED! Thank you so much Breeny, defo going to put these practical tips to the test
A man that values you will never hide you. Ugh! That hit hard.
Yessss Breeny need to hear that! So excited for the next episodes of the Soul surgery!! Love ❤️
2018 #knowyourworth
Breeny, your soul surgery series are so helpful. And now I feel the strength to let go of that toxic relationship, that toxic man that doesn't see any value in me. I believe that there is a better man out there, the one that God wants me to have. I see so much of myself in your life and what you have been through, especially the lonely part of my life. But now I have a completely different mindset after listening to you, with God all things are possible
I really like this lady. God sent her to me. I relate to her in everyway. Now I need that personality to rub on me
2018 is a new upgrade for me Breeny. This video is spot on, another key reminder. Your wisdom is on a new level and I can’t wait for 2018, your so blessed. & Btw this lip combo 😍❤️❤️❤️
Loretta Laughs - thank you so much for your continued support ❤️❤️❤️
Looking like a snaaaack🤷♀️ not been in a relationship but this video will probably help me for the future so thank you xo
Can’t wait for the self love videos😭glad you’re helping out all these people in this video 😌
Thanks always for the bible reference.
Same thing I was thinking❤
I agree with everything you said
☝🏽EXCEPT: the gifts thing. I’m not giving the gifts and the bills paid back and I will *still* let.him.go.
👏🏽Com 👏🏽plete 👏🏽lyyyyy sisSs. No ma’am. Those things are mine. And I won’t feel a thing looking at them or wearing them around my 🗣Next!
Di Wi : I agree. A gift or financial support is exactly that. It’s not conditional on a relationship’s status.
The ONLY gift/s that should be returned are items that clearly ARE conditional to a long-term legal commitment (MARRIAGE). If YOU break an engagement, you should return your engagement ring and/or any other gifts given as an engagement or wedding gift. If your fiancé breaks things off, the ring and other gift/s are YOURS TO KEEP. It’s compensation for your lost time.
It’s also appropriate to return any gifts that have significant sentimental value to the man’s family, such as heirloom jewelry or estate pieces.
Anything else is yours.
Love this video 😚😚😚😚😚😚😚😚😚😚😚😚😚😚😚😚😚😚😚😚. Also pray,when in doubt pray.
I'm so blessed that I found this video. I've been in a relationship where in the person was scared to level up our relationship. That person realized that he still love and miss his ex so he broke up with me and went back to his ex. But he always tell me that within that short period of time he really loved me but he was scared. I loved him deeply and invested my heart and soul to him. That break up really hit me hard last year. But now I realized that I really need to love myself big time! Thanks for reminding me Breeny!! ❤❤❤
I was dumped about 3 weeks ago..I couldn’t let him go so I latched on and continued talking to him every day..he said he wanted to be friends and for a while I accepted it but I realised I was getting hurt more and more each time we talked and I feel like if I let him go I’ll hurt more and I’ll have to go over the process of the breakup all over again or I keep him in my life and continue hurting…I feel doomed both ways and it’s so godamn hard..I don’t want to feel this shit anymore 😣
I know of a man who could help you restore back your relationship either your ex or soulmate
He was the one who helped me in restoring back my ex partner three days ago without delay
Whtsaap him"**
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you are a lifesaver dear!!! every word which comes out your mouth is a therapy, thank you so much!
I just recently got out of a toxic relationship and it’s really taken a toll on me but watching your videos seriously made me feel way better, i feel like I’m not alone. I’m so grateful for you and your channel Breeny, Thank you💖
I went cold turkey on my ex because I knew I wouldn’t be able to deal with what he would respond with, it’s been almost 4 days now and I’m fighting so hard not to go back and message.. it hurts.
How are you now?
@@Iamchristaelaine 3 years later, I’m thriving, i spent time doing all the things he restricted me from, working my dream job now and just still healing so i don’t fall back into choosing a situation like that again out of the comfort of being used to/only knowing that treatment, never thought I’d get here while i was hurting but i did!
I can't tell you how much I appreciate you and your videos. I've been going through a breakup w that back and forth bullshit and I'm finally done. I felt like I had my shit together but you really have verbally held my hand through this and have helped me empower myself.
You're an angel. Thank you so much 💕
I'm watching this now and it couldn't have come at a better time. This is exactly what I needed to hear. Every tip you have pinpointed everything I want doing. Thnx Breeny ❤️
I honestly needed this right now!! Breeny this is so good thanks girl ❤️❤️❤️❤️
Yasss GIRL. What advice would you give if you have a child with an ex ? Love you Girl
Well we Have to Level up. & hold them financially Responsible for the Children they Planted/help create. Go dwn to courthouse. Fill out form forchild support. Asap!$!$! So we dont have enitire Financial burdens. Also. Open up a Affordable Insurance policy. Just in case anything happens to him your child*dren recieve 200,000.-500,000. Long term insurance. & or Open a bank Account with Child Support put $5. Bucks or $2. Into a Stash, Acorn or Robinhood App...Put them on Child Support. Go to SheraSeven1 Level Up Group. Shera & bff Micki is Empowring us too. As well As Paastor R.C. Blakes & Purchase Father Daughter TALK!
Place them In the Hands of the Financial Court he Is the Parent that Chooses to be Absent or Disrespect to u & UR CHILD BY NOT BEING A GOOD OR BETTER PROVIDER- FOOD . CLOTHES . SHELTER/Home. WHEN the parent takes care of u. They Love u by providing Food clothes Shelter. Put them ****Next ting u Kno he gets the next one Prego & U dont get 1st dibs or 2nd dibs Nor 3rd dibs...percentage Gets Extremely Low. Get Child Support.help Hold the $$$ Burden off ur Shoulders. Ur Baby Deserves It. You Deserve Help$$$. Next thing u kno u dont get no Child support if he makes more babies. & otger ladies put him on b4 you...Purchase Book from. Im Not Religious. Any more. And Pastor R.C. Black Books- Father Daughter TALK & QueenOlogy. Coach Shera71- Too pretty 2 Pay Bills Book. & mentally Level up Group.
Thank you for the advice. I know with God all things are possible. Only God can heal my heart. Be strong ladies 🙏🏾❤️
LOOKUNG LIKE CHOCOLATE A BAR
How do you deal with an ex that messes with your friends to get her on your mind again
I can't wait to see more soul surgery episodes I love everything you have to say this is exactly what I needed to hear for such a long time thank you so much leveling up in 2019 😍😍
U Gorgeous 😍👑
This was uploaded the day after I dumped my bf. Awesome timing 💜
Love you lady Soo Inspiring!!!!
lots of love from India proud to have a person like u in this whole world...❤
Anyways His Problem... Hope he has a Good Life im finalizing..... Im not To Blame. Yup lots of PAIN Staying Away Avoiding... Lol
You are amazing! Your energy is so captivating, I love it!! Thank you for this, I really needed to hear this and change my perspective in loving myself in all of me. Thank you 💜
I freaking love you! I just started following you and your authenticity and genuinity radiates. You’ve inspired me to be more sure in myself and not be afraid to be me. God bless you sis! I support you and I’m excited to see all that God will do in your life. 🤗
I am in a toxic relationship and its difficult to let go because I still love him, I guess its time to love myself.
Take it one step at a time . Make a positive mental note to yourself everyday. You will get by , just work on you and fall in love with yourself all over again .
lutendo netshikweta I just got off one that I was in for 9 damn years . So it’s doable . Just keep your chin up .
Motivated to stay strong! 💪🏾 Thank you!! ❤️
I love your teachings and your vibes. Thank you soo much for being real!
sometimes getting closure leads to issues and they try to pull u back into it. certain/toxic situations dont need closure, you get it yourself period.
Brent you are so inspiring, I love all your videos. I have a similar channel too on UA-cam and I must say self love is everything.