Love your definition. I think it is important that such men understand themselves in the way you defined them. They need to be OK with women also making more more than them and that the expectation is their confidence, integrity, and security in themselves will lead to a compatible relationship
Not married, understands female anatomy, not overly burying themselves in drugs and alcohol, self-reflection, no mansplaining/gaslighting/projecting/blaming, cognitively alive, a verifiable record of integrity, welcoming friends and family, interesting projects, and optimistic or realistic view on most things.
@@hireaheadhunter4265 Great list! Thanks for sharing your thoughts. From the things you mentioned, what do you think are the top 1-3 things that most men lack?
Agreed! We need more Lila Talks! Thanks for making poignant points in a very digestible way that leaves space for interpretation, but also providing a perspective, that is more open-minded and less restricted on the roles men and women can play but more importantly on the nuances around what people are looking for. I love the point on men who are centered in their identity and know where they’re going.
I feel like a high value man is full of integrity and honesty. A man who is truthful and transparent in his actions and words. Someone who is emotionally intelligent and aware. Respectful and kind. Confident without the arrogance. Plans for our future and encourages my aspirations while I do the same for him. Has to have great communication skills engaging in meaningful conversations with me. Most importantly someone who is CONSISTENT!
@@krystalgrant-w7j yes, yes, and yes! Thank you Krystal! I agree with all your points. I think someone that is supportive and builds you up is a super plus. Thanks for watching and sharing your thoughts!
Welcome back Lila Talks, your videos and commentary have been missed within the UA-cam sphere! I think this is an interesting topic and I am going to slightly change the term “High Value Man” to Good Man, as I feel High Value is subjective whereas Good Man is universal. Good Men should be self reflecting often on their actions, interactions and their overall value to the world.. Are they bringing positivity, and do their actions help make the world a better place, if they date, are they helping their significant other become better. Next I’d add account accountability, are they responsible for their actions and behaviors and willing to accept when they’ve missed the mark, and seek to be better in future endeavors. Lastly, the ability to have difficult conversations is becoming a rare art within our world. Ghosting and avoiding conversations are both mere symptoms of fear and avoidance vs taking the time to just speak your peace, even if that means momentarily hurting someone with the truth that they need. I didn’t mention money or success, because these qualities are exhibited by good human beings, and that’s the goal to me, to be a good resident of the planet.
@@roybrown1097 yes, yes, and yes!!! Love your comments and I totally agree. A good man should be perceived as “high value”. Women should value these qualities you mentioned and men should aspire to achieve these characteristics. Too many times, I meet men who say they have to make a certain amount of money before working on themselves in these areas and I find that very sad. Because! These qualities would help their career or met their financial goals. Thanks for your thoughtfulness and warm welcome back! What other video subjects should I cover?
@@LilaTalks So I’d love to see you cover as a natural follow up to this video “So, you think you’re ready for High Value”, where you can address how difficult it is to date and be in relationships with successful/good/HV people. How they challenge your behaviors and actions while holding you accountable in ways maybe past partners haven’t. Cover the difficulties that presents to most as we are not typically used to being challenged towards betterment and aren’t usually positively responsive to such.
I tend to agree with most of what you said. The value of a man for me personally does not depend on how much money he makes or what he can do for me, but the morals and values he lives his life with. The way he treats me, the level of respect he has for himself and the people around him, the way he holds himself and his determination are all key factors. Good talk LILA! ❤
You had to add "to be a Gentleman" thats the highest value. But yes everything you mentioned shows the value so keep it going waiting for more videos from you. Ps there's plenty of possitivity 😊
Love your definition of a HVM. It’s indeed not about how much they make and all about their character, aura, emotional intelligence and everything you mentioned. Can you do a video on what a HVW is?
Thank you! Yeah I’m thinking about doing a high value woman video. What would you say that is? I feel men and woman have different ideas of what a high value woman is. Thoughts?
Our value systems are often shaped by our experience and, as a result, there will certainly be some women who value financial security (or something completely different like a partner’s faith for example) above many of the characteristics that you listed but, generally speaking, I think you hit the nail on the head in terms of identifying what most women would like to see in an admirable partner! Great video!!
@@emjay6108 thanks for sharing your thoughts and I agree. This is why I concluded with the video about knowing your own personal values and aligning them with your desired partner. There is nothing wrong with women seeking financial security, I just think it’s overly stated in society that a man MUST have money as the foundational quality woman need (which is a traditional model), and I think that alone it’s not guiding people towards a fulfilling and happy situation. People don’t realize that with lots of money often times comes with huge egos, power imbalance and other unwelcoming qualities. Again, whatever floats someone’s boat. Thanks for watching!
@@anwion thank you. I just do a lot of self-reflection and have very honest conversations with the women in my life, whether they are single, just dating or married. It’s interesting as people mature their list of “must haves” in a partner evolves. I just hope I can give people some things to reflect on how they move in this world and what a “high quality” or a good woman would want from a good man. ☺️
I would agree that financial stability in itself is important. I would however also add that income levels do play a big role once you start thinking about raising a family. Does this include a house, how many children, does the woman want to take a break from her career for the early years? Do both parents work, and does that mean childcare or private schooling, depending on your location? I would fully agree with you as long as it is just a couple we're talking about.
Great points! I think the key to everything you mentioned is the emphasis on couple, partnership and unity. If you have the right partner, I believe the things you mentioned with be worked out with both parties understanding there will be give and take throughout the course of the relationship. Also, I want to mention that yes income may play a factor in the type of lifestyle you can offer your children, but I think the character development of your child is more important and sharing that task with a great partner to me is more important than the exposure money may provide a child. In my opinion, children just need love and security. Thanks for watching and sharing your thoughts.
Being comfortable in your identity and who you are is very important. I really dislike the term "high value" and its association with money. It really has caused chaos and division. There is so much more that goes into adding value to somebody else's life.
I totally agree! I think it's good that more men see this video and the comments section to know what women with depth are looking for in a partnership. Thanks for watching!
As the saying goes, 'One person's trash is another person's treasure.' Similarly, there is no universal standard for a 'high-value man.' Your own self-worth and values significantly influence who you find attractive and desirable in a partner. By cultivating a deep sense of self-love and appreciation, you'll naturally attract and perceive relationships that align with your own internal standards. Ultimately, the men you consider 'high-value' are a reflection of the value you place on yourself.
I am a high value 62 year old man.. I really don't care what other people want from me (women included); wanting is free. What do you bring to the table that enhances my life? Why would I want you in my life?
Hey am so glad I found your channel. I am a married (happily) woman with 3 kids. I am afraid Iam raising my children the way you were raised. White dominant area, sheltered by default, active in sports, christian kids going to private school. Though I like it to some degree, I do have some concerns for their future life. Looking at you, your confidence, not putting yourself in one culture ( just to fit in) reassured me that I am doing alright. However I could be wrong, for the issues I might cause emotionally. I really do not worry about not immersing them in Ethio- Eritrea upbringing. I want them to grow, feeling Americans with African roots. What do you advise parents 🤔 raising 1st generation childre ? Are you happy with the way you were raised, or would you rather be raised like some ...
@@tsionmekm1764 oh I love the way I was raised! I was exposed to so many cultures. I started traveling abroad at the age of 11 and it really shaped my perspective on the world. I didn’t really connect with my Habesha people until after college. I always had a deep set of Habesha values (respecting your elders, hospitality, etc), but the social aspect wasn’t there until I was older. I am very proud to be Ethiopian and Eritrean. I love giving back to my community when I can. I also appreciate my American mindset of being aggressive with my career, education and overall goals. I think it’s important to have a balance of cultures and never forget your roots because it fundamentally shapes you as a person. Thanks for commenting and feel free to watch other videos on my channel. Thank you!
You are talking about what should be versus what is actually happening. Financial stability is subjective. All those attributes you mentioned mean nothing if she doesnt find you pysically attractive or if your income doesn't match what she deems as "financially stable". Say your minimum income requirement instead of beating around the bush. Anyone can be financially stable and responsible if they lived within their means lol.
Well, I hear you, but in my world these attributes I explain are not sure but are the reality for those seeking depth and meaning in relationships, not superficial check boxes that eventually leave women feeling lonely, unappreciated, and disappointed. To be fair, you are right, there are limits to how little someone can make or how unattractive they can be in order to be considered high value to some women. But the main point is that those things are not absolutely necessary or at the forefront when women with substance look for a partner. When it comes to the level of attractiveness or wealth a women's perspective evolves over the years through life and relationship experiences.
Apart from me finding this video superficial and without any clear meaning why wouldn’t you make a video about high value women first being a woman yourself before allowing yourself to judge how men have to be to have a “high value”?!
Interesting perspective. I think it would only be fair for men to speak on what they want from a high value woman, similar to how I can only express what I think a high value man represents. I'm curious, what part of the video did you find superficial?
@@abinetadela1084 If you want to watch serious topics feel free to watch my documentary on rape victims in Ethiopia during the civil conflict or my video on human trafficking. And what’s wrong with talking about men? There are videos out there for everyone’s appetite. Hopefully you find things you enjoy whether on my channel or others.
Love your definition. I think it is important that such men understand themselves in the way you defined them. They need to be OK with women also making more more than them and that the expectation is their confidence, integrity, and security in themselves will lead to a compatible relationship
I think culture plays a key role in that statement... just subbed by the way.
Thank you! Do you mind elaborating on how culture plays a key role? Are you talking about in the US (North versus South) or US versus abroad?
Not married, understands female anatomy, not overly burying themselves in drugs and alcohol, self-reflection, no mansplaining/gaslighting/projecting/blaming, cognitively alive, a verifiable record of integrity, welcoming friends and family, interesting projects, and optimistic or realistic view on most things.
@@hireaheadhunter4265 Great list! Thanks for sharing your thoughts. From the things you mentioned, what do you think are the top 1-3 things that most men lack?
You just forgot one thing : He has to earn a lot of money !
You want a simp. Got it
@@SportsLiveInTheAtlhigh value woman 😂 heaux please 😂
@@sealedindictment 😂 I would like to think I exist 😂
Very interesting subject!
@@Mark-AnthonyTynes haha, what do you think, what’s your opinion on the subject? ☺️
Great video! Enjoyed watching it.
Thanks for watching Bilen!
Very well put!
Thanks for watching!
Love this! Great video ❤😊
@@getemtk2733 thank you! I’m glad you enjoyed it!
It's about the aura (the quality generated by the person), indeed. :)
Agreed! We need more Lila Talks! Thanks for making poignant points in a very digestible way that leaves space for interpretation, but also providing a perspective, that is more open-minded and less restricted on the roles men and women can play but more importantly on the nuances around what people are looking for. I love the point on men who are centered in their identity and know where they’re going.
@@DrDemessie Thank you so much for your thoughtful comment!
I feel like a high value man is full of integrity and honesty. A man who is truthful and transparent in his actions and words. Someone who is emotionally intelligent and aware. Respectful and kind. Confident without the arrogance. Plans for our future and encourages my aspirations while I do the same for him. Has to have great communication skills engaging in meaningful conversations with me. Most importantly someone who is CONSISTENT!
@@krystalgrant-w7j yes, yes, and yes! Thank you Krystal! I agree with all your points. I think someone that is supportive and builds you up is a super plus. Thanks for watching and sharing your thoughts!
Welcome back Lila Talks, your videos and commentary have been missed within the UA-cam sphere! I think this is an interesting topic and I am going to slightly change the term “High Value Man” to Good Man, as I feel High Value is subjective whereas Good Man is universal. Good Men should be self reflecting often on their actions, interactions and their overall value to the world.. Are they bringing positivity, and do their actions help make the world a better place, if they date, are they helping their significant other become better. Next I’d add account accountability, are they responsible for their actions and behaviors and willing to accept when they’ve missed the mark, and seek to be better in future endeavors. Lastly, the ability to have difficult conversations is becoming a rare art within our world. Ghosting and avoiding conversations are both mere symptoms of fear and avoidance vs taking the time to just speak your peace, even if that means momentarily hurting someone with the truth that they need. I didn’t mention money or success, because these qualities are exhibited by good human beings, and that’s the goal to me, to be a good resident of the planet.
@@roybrown1097 yes, yes, and yes!!! Love your comments and I totally agree. A good man should be perceived as “high value”. Women should value these qualities you mentioned and men should aspire to achieve these characteristics. Too many times, I meet men who say they have to make a certain amount of money before working on themselves in these areas and I find that very sad. Because! These qualities would help their career or met their financial goals. Thanks for your thoughtfulness and warm welcome back! What other video subjects should I cover?
@@LilaTalks So I’d love to see you cover as a natural follow up to this video “So, you think you’re ready for High Value”, where you can address how difficult it is to date and be in relationships with successful/good/HV people. How they challenge your behaviors and actions while holding you accountable in ways maybe past partners haven’t. Cover the difficulties that presents to most as we are not typically used to being challenged towards betterment and aren’t usually positively responsive to such.
I tend to agree with most of what you said. The value of a man for me personally does not depend on how much money he makes or what he can do for me, but the morals and values he lives his life with. The way he treats me, the level of respect he has for himself and the people around him, the way he holds himself and his determination are all key factors. Good talk LILA! ❤
Great points! Thanks for sharing your thoughts!
You had to add "to be a Gentleman" thats the highest value. But yes everything you mentioned shows the value so keep it going waiting for more videos from you. Ps there's plenty of possitivity 😊
@@AmalindoKepi thanks for your feedback!! I appreciate it!
Love your definition of a HVM. It’s indeed not about how much they make and all about their character, aura, emotional intelligence and everything you mentioned. Can you do a video on what a HVW is?
Thank you! Yeah I’m thinking about doing a high value woman video. What would you say that is? I feel men and woman have different ideas of what a high value woman is. Thoughts?
Our value systems are often shaped by our experience and, as a result, there will certainly be some women who value financial security (or something completely different like a partner’s faith for example) above many of the characteristics that you listed but, generally speaking, I think you hit the nail on the head in terms of identifying what most women would like to see in an admirable partner! Great video!!
@@emjay6108 thanks for sharing your thoughts and I agree. This is why I concluded with the video about knowing your own personal values and aligning them with your desired partner. There is nothing wrong with women seeking financial security, I just think it’s overly stated in society that a man MUST have money as the foundational quality woman need (which is a traditional model), and I think that alone it’s not guiding people towards a fulfilling and happy situation. People don’t realize that with lots of money often times comes with huge egos, power imbalance and other unwelcoming qualities. Again, whatever floats someone’s boat. Thanks for watching!
I'm soaking this in 4sure 🤔 this 101 right here 💯
@@anwion yay! I’m glad to hear you find this helpful! ☺️
@@LilaTalks All day must admit you're persuasive you got somethin special 💯 lots of experience
@@anwion thank you. I just do a lot of self-reflection and have very honest conversations with the women in my life, whether they are single, just dating or married. It’s interesting as people mature their list of “must haves” in a partner evolves. I just hope I can give people some things to reflect on how they move in this world and what a “high quality” or a good woman would want from a good man. ☺️
I would agree that financial stability in itself is important. I would however also add that income levels do play a big role once you start thinking about raising a family. Does this include a house, how many children, does the woman want to take a break from her career for the early years? Do both parents work, and does that mean childcare or private schooling, depending on your location?
I would fully agree with you as long as it is just a couple we're talking about.
Great points! I think the key to everything you mentioned is the emphasis on couple, partnership and unity. If you have the right partner, I believe the things you mentioned with be worked out with both parties understanding there will be give and take throughout the course of the relationship. Also, I want to mention that yes income may play a factor in the type of lifestyle you can offer your children, but I think the character development of your child is more important and sharing that task with a great partner to me is more important than the exposure money may provide a child. In my opinion, children just need love and security. Thanks for watching and sharing your thoughts.
Spot on! They also need to be who they are behind closed doors to their girlfriend/family, not just to show or present themselves to the world.
@@rahelmesg1 Thank for watching! That’s a good one! 👌🏾
Agreed, centered in their identity. This takes difficult and honest conversation with self.
Thank you for watching! It’s great to hear a high value man’s perspective of this topic. Thanks Dawit!
Spot on!
@@luarniebermudo3882 Thanks for watching!
Being comfortable in your identity and who you are is very important. I really dislike the term "high value" and its association with money. It really has caused chaos and division. There is so much more that goes into adding value to somebody else's life.
I totally agree! I think it's good that more men see this video and the comments section to know what women with depth are looking for in a partnership. Thanks for watching!
As the saying goes, 'One person's trash is another person's treasure.' Similarly, there is no universal standard for a 'high-value man.' Your own self-worth and values significantly influence who you find attractive and desirable in a partner. By cultivating a deep sense of self-love and appreciation, you'll naturally attract and perceive relationships that align with your own internal standards. Ultimately, the men you consider 'high-value' are a reflection of the value you place on yourself.
Very well said! I agree with you. Thanks for watching 😊
I am a high value 62 year old man.. I really don't care what other people want from me (women included); wanting is free. What do you bring to the table that enhances my life? Why would I want you in my life?
Absolutely! I think everyone should be posing those same questions when considering a partner. Thanks for your comment!
Hey am so glad I found your channel.
I am a married (happily) woman with 3 kids. I am afraid Iam raising my children the way you were raised. White dominant area, sheltered by default, active in sports, christian kids going to private school. Though I like it to some degree, I do have some concerns for their future life. Looking at you, your confidence, not putting yourself in one culture ( just to fit in) reassured me that I am doing alright. However I could be wrong, for the issues I might cause emotionally. I really do not worry about not immersing them in Ethio- Eritrea upbringing. I want them to grow, feeling Americans with African roots.
What do you advise parents 🤔 raising 1st generation childre ? Are you happy with the way you were raised, or would you rather be raised like some ...
@@tsionmekm1764 oh I love the way I was raised! I was exposed to so many cultures. I started traveling abroad at the age of 11 and it really shaped my perspective on the world. I didn’t really connect with my Habesha people until after college. I always had a deep set of Habesha values (respecting your elders, hospitality, etc), but the social aspect wasn’t there until I was older. I am very proud to be Ethiopian and Eritrean. I love giving back to my community when I can. I also appreciate my American mindset of being aggressive with my career, education and overall goals. I think it’s important to have a balance of cultures and never forget your roots because it fundamentally shapes you as a person. Thanks for commenting and feel free to watch other videos on my channel. Thank you!
How do Ethiopian women feel about older men?
You are talking about what should be versus what is actually happening. Financial stability is subjective. All those attributes you mentioned mean nothing if she doesnt find you pysically attractive or if your income doesn't match what she deems as "financially stable". Say your minimum income requirement instead of beating around the bush. Anyone can be financially stable and responsible if they lived within their means lol.
Well, I hear you, but in my world these attributes I explain are not sure but are the reality for those seeking depth and meaning in relationships, not superficial check boxes that eventually leave women feeling lonely, unappreciated, and disappointed. To be fair, you are right, there are limits to how little someone can make or how unattractive they can be in order to be considered high value to some women. But the main point is that those things are not absolutely necessary or at the forefront when women with substance look for a partner. When it comes to the level of attractiveness or wealth a women's perspective evolves over the years through life and relationship experiences.
High-value man is a rich man, that's it !
@@4SChris okay that’s what most people say online, which is saying women highly value a rich man. Then, I’m curious, what’s a high value woman?
I agree completely!
Lila expresses an absolute truth in a very clear and simple way, well done!
@@TizianoSiggillino-g5i thank you for watching and sharing your thoughts!
Apart from me finding this video superficial and without any clear meaning why wouldn’t you make a video about high value women first being a woman yourself before allowing yourself to judge how men have to be to have a “high value”?!
Interesting perspective. I think it would only be fair for men to speak on what they want from a high value woman, similar to how I can only express what I think a high value man represents. I'm curious, what part of the video did you find superficial?
2024 this woman is still talking about men. What do you do for a living? Do you ever have sthing serious to talk about
@@abinetadela1084 If you want to watch serious topics feel free to watch my documentary on rape victims in Ethiopia during the civil conflict or my video on human trafficking. And what’s wrong with talking about men? There are videos out there for everyone’s appetite. Hopefully you find things you enjoy whether on my channel or others.
She thinks she's all that, she is desperate large sized women and over 40 looking for attention.
She's bit large woman and desperate over 40 looking for sugar daddy that's all
She's desperate and over 40 looking for attention and sugar daddy
She's desperate over 40 looking for attention. Hate Ethiopian men's she's thinks she is all that's.
Very interesting subject!
Thanks for watching!