@@Cash_Rizz Please, remember this channel only welcomes good vibes and support. I am not 'begging' for likes in any way, I just want people to show how much they appreciate Liz through my comment. Moreover, people choose to like or not, I did not beg anyone. Thanks for commenting under my comment tho.
I would like to add something else about a toxic person. There is a type who treats you with great friendliness at times, and at other times he ignores you completely, and when he sees that you have crossed him or ignored him as well or forgotten him, whatever it is, he continues to use the trick to win you over. After that, he leaves you and leaves you stuck in your thoughts.
In my culture we say „forgetting is betrayal“ If you forget about the bad things that have been done to you you betray yourself. It’s as simple as that. It doesn’t mean to complain all the time til the end of our life. It’s purely for you to stay true to yourself.
Liz it is so sad we have survived so much. I just cut off everyone including my spouses side of family they have abused my kindness for weakness, been coming together with ppl to try to hurt me while smiling in my face…I am healing now and he chose me…he understands once you start a family that’s who it is about…they are ALL REBUKED to the pits of hell they came from…I was their only slice of Heaven…the Lord told me to stop letting ppl take take take from me emotionally and physically. I love you, you empowered me ❤I’m praying for your success and thank you for praying for mine.
Dear, please elaborate, I'm loosing my best friend, I love her a lot, her words depicts that she thinks me as a toxic friend, and i have also started believing that may be I am or I was actually toxic. Please tell me what you have realised after words, it's a worst phase I'm even crying while writing this text ,the screen is also blur due my tearful eyes. 💔😭
@@chanchalbhati7220 ok I am here to help. So what I mean is that, when you are around toxic people, they make u feel like a total toxic to hide their actual intention and mark You as a bad person. Recently I met a person, she was nice, helping and acted like a good friend. So I eventually started trusting her. But then I noticed that why do that make Me insecure about myself or make Me feel bad about myself while molding her words like she was helping me. In a matter of time I realized that it was not me who had the problem, but that girl who spread hers. Later on I went to her, I and talked amd cleared things up. And I also heard that girl telling hr friends that I am THE TOXIC ONE, while I was hearing all of that from a corner.
@@chanchalbhati7220 If u feel like someone is bringing you down, you don't feel right around that person, that try to work the right way. Because eventually YOUR FEELINGS MATTER!
i’m such a lover girl and my natural instinct is to trust and see the good in people but after being let down so many times, i’ve had to learn detachment to protect myself. it’s not how i’d like to live but in this world, i’m forced to if i want to preserve my sanity. 😔
The way SHE become emotional with HER words at the end of the video. It Shows that how much SHE had been through and how much SHE had to work on to get out from those situations and things We should feel proud that we have a WOMEN who actually wants us to grow and glow . Bless to have to in our life LIZZ🫀
Its your loving nature that makes u feel guilty. You are an empathatic soul that's y you feel for them bt for a sec rewind and think how could they have done this to you or think that if you were in their position would you do that. You will get your answer. Stay strong love ❤ 😊
Same, I just remind myself that I need to think of myself first because no one else will. We do owe others kindness, respect etc but you owe yourself all of those things more.
That last comment liz made about thanking us for saving her life almost brought me to tears. I think i speak for a lot of people when i say that liz has done the same for so many people, millions of times over. Thank YOU liz for helping all of us.
Timestamps 🖤🌹 0:00 Intro 1:15 You will never feel like you know them 2:37 Everything is about them 4:51 They care more about how they look than how they are 6:32 You do not like who you become around them 8:56 These people have constant drama in their lives 11:26 They only apologise with words 14:26 They will not reciprocate effort 16:22 They have no loyalty towards you 17:53 They will always play the victim 19:15 These people have no ambition 20:38 They want you to stay small 22:29 You are never appreciated
there are actually two benefits to watching this video. first, you obviously get to realize the toxic people surrounding you and are able to cut them off. but there's something else too, it helps in making ME a better person. maybe I've been adopting some of these toxic traits unknowingly because of things that happened to me, but this video helps me in recognizing them and being a better human than I was. I'm truly grateful to Liz for how much she has helped me grow.
Yess I was literally thinking abt this! I've hung around so many toxic people my whole life, I've become toxic as well, and I don't want to bring that negativity into other people's lives because they don't deserve that. I'm hoping that I'll improve and become more positive. 🤍
That's true yaa ...I'm thinking the same while listening to her I was like These traits are literally speaking about Me......but after reading ur comment I think I should also look for it in good perspective where it helps me to be a better person ....❤
I also want to add, that not all those who share little about themselves are not necessarily manipulative or liars. They're reserved and not comfortable with sharing info about themselves. It's on a case-to-case basis. Also, I think we should be cautious with what info we share about ourselves bc people will often use that as a bullet to use against you.
@@AngelicShineI do agree, I believe in God but he is not this wonderful do-gooder holy man, and the Bible tells us this! Idk where people got this "oh God made life so precious and sweet" delusion, we obviously did not read the same bible! Earth was cursed when Satan fell, Satan is really the guy that made this vicious food chain along with hell. Him and the fallen angels kind of rule over earth, I just don't get why God doesn't kill the sweet talking son of a bitch if he really is all that powerful. Adding to a latter statement, one thing we forget is that the government translated most versions of the Bible, there's bound to be tweaking in here
@@AngelicShine If you would have watched this video you would see what it means to give something and get it back equally. So you just aligned with my point. When you take care of a dog he will love you and show the love. But he will never talk our language because he can’t so we can’t talk their language. God didn’t allow them to talk to us and ofc God created animals. As humans murder cows for food so do animals. Also if you look into the DNA of animals you will see how similar we are to them. Before arguing please do simple research 💞🙏🏻
It's sad because the non-toxic person actually is one of the few people that care about the toxic person yet they ironically become the toxic person's biggest rival. It's something so twisted..
100%, me and my mother, her mother (my grandma) was also like that with her, it sucks because I try to help her but she never changes, then she goes on about how she "needs help" and how "she's the problem" like yes bitch you are! Now do something about it
I have been watching Liz for a year now and let me tell you that this video is the realest. It’s full of nothing but sheer truth. This made me realize that I did nothing wrong by cutting off the people who did not and never learned to treat me well. Thank you Liz for everything. Gonna have this video tattooed on my mind.
It’s people like us that always attract the selfish & narcissistic ppl with the gaslighting. They love our energy and feed off of it while trying to keep us weak & dependent. It is then up to us to take our power back & avoid dealing with these ppl from Day 1.
Felt you being emotional at the end which is totally normal and acceptable my dear sister. You know what, we actually are your tribe. You are not alone, neither anyone of us is. I love you 💓, i appreciate you & and i value your presence and words Liz. Thank you so much 🧿💎
Yeah i find it hard to forgive myself for all the time that i spend on people who have shown me the extra effort that they don't want me, who don't hesitate a second to abandon, betray and hurt me
Your words truly resonate with the importance of self love and healing thank you for creating such a safe face for girls to reconnect with themselves your messages empowering and deeply needed🥰🥰🥰🥰
‘You are the person they want to blame everything on - because if they cannot blame it on you they will have to look at themselves’ This is so true for people who lash out at you for no reason and gets defensive when they see you doing good…
"Believe people when they show you how they feel about you " That line hurts me a lot cause I really refuse to believe there reality even after the whole drama
that is the hardest lesson because as Jordan peterson says you realise there is real malevolence in the world and you integreate it and have to realise you are capable of evil as well but it is part of your journey and you cannot truly be good without knowing evil
I would also add to the list “they will constantly trauma dump on you “. I had a friend who CONSTANTLY shared her trauma with me, it took a tool on my mental health. Mainly because they were similar to my trauma. But to her it didn’t matter, as long as she talked about it. She was also only ever talking about herself, never listening to me, and many things from your list as well. Distancing myself from her was the best thing I ever did.
Literally went through the same. had a friend just like that that I’ve know for almost my whole life and her venting constantly has taking a tool on my mental health also. She never asked about me either, just always talked about her self and always fishing for compliments. Cut her out of my life just 3 days ago and already feel better but gosh it was hard
@@sofie.luvsleepI'm also like this at first. I have childhood traumas that have deep shame in it so i protect myself by numbing and always need validation. I always fish for compliments but i never get it. It never worked for me. It only make things worse So i decided to feel all the pain shame hurt and suffering that i went through.. The pain is extremely painful But it gets better everytime. The pain is less and less everytime i recall the painful memories. I was be able to feel shame for the first time and boy, now i realized how much deep shame i have. Then i realized i don't have to shield myself from shame. I don't need it. My emotions are there to help me heal. I don't have to be afraid of it. I love all my emotions after this. I don't want to be dissociated anymore. Me always needing validation and constant fishing for compliments are my toxic traits and I'm fixing it
The energy Liz brings in this video is undeniable. It honestly felt like she was speaking directly to me, and I couldn't resonate more with what she said. Toxic people hurt others to feel better about themselves, feeding off their own lack of self-love. Thank God I learned my lesson and cut them out of my life. The moment I left, their lives started falling apart. Thank you, Liz! I truly love and find you so inspiring. May Allah bless you with even more happiness, wealth, and beauty than you already have!
This woman is a blessing, she has completely changed my mindset, in turn changing my life. I want to thank you liz. You are truly inspiring and motivating.❤
This was a wake up call for me. I can relate to some of these toxic traits, I'd become a selfish manipulative person and it took a huge amount of self reflection and healing to even acknowledge my toxic behavior. I have been awful to myself lately but the last few words you mentioned in the video makes me feel more motivated to grow and learn. I want my future kids/partner/even friends; to be loved by me and not experience the toxicity i went through in my childhood. I feel more positive and I will put more effort into healing myself to become a better version of myself. Thank you for this liz
Hey Liz, i'm a 16 y/o girl and i used to have an alcoholic mother. My dad abused our little family of 3 a lot. My mom struggles a lot with her bipolar disorder and it's been hard for me to grow up in an environment like this. i'm glad i'm not the only one who think this way about creating a family and i totally wish you the best. you'd be such a great mother, because you know how it feels for a kid to grow up that way!
I can't say much because of my limited English, but I want to thank you so much for your enlightening video on toxic relationships. I have been there. I am also someone who is religious, so it is easy for me to let people who have hurt me back into my life because of religious teachings like not holding onto anger and always being full of love. These things often lead me to make the same mistakes and repeat the same patterns. But now I have gained new insights on this. Thank you so much."
I feel like kids should be required to view this. We deal with toxic friendships and relationships early in life, and knowing what to look for in behavior could help free so many young minds and hearts. My mother never explained any of this to me, and now I have to parent her and help her release the traumas she’s accumulated in her life. If she had known this growing up, would she have been as hurt? And, in turn, would she have passed that pain down?
@UserGirly-c7c exactly, especially because when it comes to the malignant narcissist, you can spot them right away,but the VULNERABLE ones are hard since they hide behind the victims facade
True, I am going to pray to Jesus that she sees the light and turns to him. Jesus Christ is your saviour and the only one who can rescue you from this situation.
Jesus indeed was a great prophet of God, but he (peace be upon him) was not God. Only the 1 true creator is the saviour and can forgive or save his creation. Jesus was his messenger (peace be upon him) Please read more about who Jesus was, he even put his head on the ground and prayed to God asking God for help (peace be upon isa Jesus the messenger of God)
thank you so much for this video liz, this just confirmed how i felt about others and also taking accountability of my own toxicity. i see boundaries now with people I love clearly, that what i'm doing is valid. basically, if you are mistreated it is valid to feel mistreated and set a high boundaries and not conform to what other people see correct or right thing to do. it is our emotions who get violated, it is us who dictate on how we cope about abuse and mistreatments. others' comments and opinions do not matter.
You described me from beginning to the end. I no longer stretch myself for others. I treat people the way they treat me. I no longer have any expectations. I cut off lots of people and family members. I only answer the phone when I want to. I live life within my own terms, and it's been lonely but peaceful. I no longer fall for manipulation, disrespect and gaslighting. I reject everything and everyone that's phony. I literally just left a toxic job. I recently was offered a great job with a very good base pay, I turn it down because I saw the chaos. I value my peace so much and would not entertain anyone that wants to disrupt it. I also know when someone is trying to get a reaction out of me. I don't bother to even entertain it! I forgave them for my own peace. I finally learn to love myself more than any other human being.
Dido u get stronger them then. Conquer devil. They give u strength light outweighs the dark fight it off like a warrior hair short fuck it get health better than tbem... work on you do u... and when ready and powerful u control them because your rose up and they just fall harder
@@angelfilms_ well I also did cut off because it was sucking my energy and like I was not liking myself when I was with her. So I started hating myself and getting insecure because of it. But now that I don't have that person in my life I feel so much free and happy than before. I'm not having that best friend type of stress . But now I'm thinking that am I just being insensitive and selfish because I'm thinking about how I feel and like my emotions am I actually doing right . Because I think it takes efforts from both the sides and everytime me crushing me self respect was not a solution. I mean she is an introvert but like if you call me your bsf you should communicate why always I have to be there and like talk to you even when you ignore me and make faces around me like I irritate you.
Liz, I wanted to tell you that I’ve just recently come to know about you a month or two ago but the way you’ve helped me develop a healthy mindset is just insane and unexplainable in words. I cannot and shall never be able to thank you enough for what you’re slowly transforming me into. Ever since I started watching you, I’ve realised a great lot of things which I would’ve missed otherwise. Things about people, things about me. You taught me how to be grateful for what I already have in life instead of sulking over what I don’t because maybe God has better plans for me. I’ve learned and am still learning so much from you. I admire how you light up everytime you talk about how happy you become when you make someone happy or when you see someone feeling good about themselves. But, I feel equally bad and sad when you talk about how your efforts are not reciprocated or at least appreciated. It’s just heartbreaking to see people can behave that way to someone who’s been helping them right, left and centre. I don’t know what to say further because I’m not very good with words but I truly, truly appreciate everything you do for all of us. I wish you all the love you rightfully deserve. I could hug you right now just to tell you that it’s all gonna be okay and you’ll find someone who really cares for you but unfortunately I can only hug my ipad at the moment :( Sending virtual hugs anyways xx
The end of your video just felt so deep and I teared up when you said: "You know one day I'm gonna become a mother. I'm gonna create a beautiful family for myself. And I don't want my children to have a father figure that wasn't consistent or wasn't good to me. I saw that growing up and that completely destroyed me. I want to create a family where Love is something that they know. Where they know that 'Oh, my parents love each other, my parents love us.' I don't want them to go through the same struggles as me so I need to do things differently." My parents are divorced, they got divorced when I was 10yo but throughout those 10 years it was pretty toxic and did affect me so this is sad but resonates with me too.
Look at her being so humble and down to earth that she is thanking her viewers for saving her life and listening to her when she has saved millions of people lives and is a real life hero💕
thank you so much liz , I really needed this. My old friends would treat me like a dog in the dirt. And they wouldn't even hesitate to drop me or argue with me. So thank you very much and may god bless you
I did not realize how much I really needed this until I heard the truth. I am really holding back tears because I can’t let my brain hide what I was truly feeling anymore. Thank you so much for this video because I really cannot explain how grateful I am that you made this and do the things that you do! You do exactly what I dream to do in my future. I feel like every thing, every word you said in this video I relate to, but maybe not as bad as you. I sincerely appreciate this help, and I hope that you see my comment❤❤❤
i relate to this, having a big heart in this world is difficult, but yet a blessing. it will be a privilege to your kids to have you as a mother Liz. Keep showing up for your self, for everyone reading this
Thank you, Liz. I can relate to everything you said, your words literally made me cry because I realized how much I used to betray myself by constantly forgiving abusive people. You are truly one of the most beautiful souls in the world to me, I hope you know how much you are helping some of us out there. Sending you so much love❤
I recently went through a tough breakup. My 7 year relationship ended a month ago, and it's been really hard for me. I still love my ex so much and can't stop thinking about him. I've tried everything to win him back, but nothing has worked. It's frustrating, and I can't imagine being with anyone else. I've been trying to move on, but I can't seem to get him out of my mind. I know it might sound strange to share this here, but I miss him a lot and just can't stop thinking about him.
I understand the pain of letting go of someone you love. I went through a similar situation when my 12 year relationship ended. I couldn't just let him go, so I did everything I could to win him back. I sought the help of a spiritual counselor, and their guidance ultimately helped me to bring him back into my life.
Liz you literally changed my life. God bless you. God bless you. Before i watched your videos i was a girl with severe depression, huge foodie, insecure about my body, never reading a single book, always depending on people of my happiness, waking up late and so on. But when i discovered you, my life totally changed. I am whole different person now because of you. You are such an angel, love you🥺
A toxic person who was in my life made me feel like I was at fault all the time. I was always was walking on eggshells around them and after I blocked them on everything they managed to reach out and ask what they had done for me to block them. They had a victim complex and called me over-dramatic for blocking them. I told them that I wished them the best but they needed to move on, by calling me over-dramatic and diminishing my feelings like that i knew i had done the right thing. Thank you Liz for this video
Thank you I'm literally crying not because of weakness but realizing that my thoughts wasn't my imagination it's the reality so really really thanks to you ♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️
Your videos stopped me from going back to a guy who was emotionally abusing me. We were together for 5.5 years and I was addicted to the dynamic but honestly I needed a reality check about how things would end up if I did not leave
Girl, I resonate with what You are going through so much in this constant isolation, that it feels like You are the friend that GETS IT. Thank You. I don't even know how to find people like that.
I'm so glad more women are sharing the view that not everyone deserves our forgiveness. And yes, it's so common that toxic folks and vampires usually want you all to themselves andShared with nobody else , not even platonically.
My dad's side of family really brainwashed me, traumatised my mom since I handled my consciousness, betrayedmy dad... and we almost overcome it, we moved out and started living separately... now what? We're living a peaceful, good life... andThey're still in the same place they were a decade ago...
The part where she talks about a friend being in a toxic rs. I heavily resonate with that. Had to cut her off tbh and never felt better. It's extremely unfair for people to make you go through the same pain they're going through but they never take any action to improve their situation. It's so draining. And I used to think I was a bad friend for feeling this way.
I have a shitty family and have dealt with sewer slide for years, but I'd never leech like alot of people do, when I had issues I bettered myself and gave back to the people that helped. Nowadays people think everybody owes them and needs to feel their pain
I teared up watching this 😢 this is so healing and uplifting, because i can relate to every single thing you said Liz! I deserve better! And I can’t keep learning the same lessons God is trying to teach me. I have given love unapologetically and I deserve the same too!
As an emotional person, I spent years enduring the pain of my narcissistic sister's behavior. I constantly forgave her, tried to help her, and hoped to change her ways. However, she was determined to sabotage my life and turn my family against me. This caused me immense stress and emotional exhaustion.Finally, after years of suffering, I made a crucial decision: to prioritize my own well-being and mental health above all else. I began to distance myself from my sister's negativity and focus on creating a life that nurtured my happiness and peace of mind.
I feel you, I see you. I myself gone through this toxic relationship. I got to the realization that I deserve better so I got divorced last year. He was a person who literally did everything you mentioned like isolated me, make me wrong, playing victim, and having me around in public just to look good. I had never lonely, hurt and abused by him emotionally, and mentally. Having said that, I'm so impressed that you're able to talk about it in public. I must say you're a warrior. I'm a life coach and introvert, and yet still can't talk about it publicly.
@purpledragon7130 I’m glad you see that he’s an abusive man! You deserve better life is non-quantifiable. I’m glad you have your mother is there for you! It’s very helpful. I thank myself everyday that I’m free and inspire others to give up their struggles and pain! 💕💪🙌🎉
Big sis, you hit the nail with this one. I have been releasing all toxic people in my life, and that strongly included family members, fake friends 🧡 this has been a very rough year for me, and still I know God will not let me fall. I needed this, thank you Liz 😢
Oh Liz I can feel you are really hurt. You have a pure heart and bad people try to misuse it, even those not bad ones turn bad when they notice someone really nice. May God protect you and make you meet genuine people. I was having the same problem as you, so I made a sincere intention and asked God to meet me with genuine people. Today I am surronded by such people for real
Liz you are strong and brave to put it in such helpful words to help us which are also encounter the same situation. Thank you so much. We appreciate your existence truly. Love you
We are here for you to always support and listen ❤️ Thank you so much for everything you are doing for us, we are a big big family that is breaking the old patterns and healing together.
The first point about revealing everything can be tricky. I've had bad experiences after I revealed about myself. Either they took it as way to exploit me or to judge me as someone who is "strong" so they assumed I wouldn't get hurt no matter what they do. I've become highly selective with sharing about myself.
Many people are hesitant to disclose information about themselves for many different reasons! Most commonly its because the person has trust issues from being wronged by a lot of people in the past, however toxic people also tend to have this trait but not for a good reason
@@ievazidkova9893 Toxic people reveal to conceal. They give information in a way that highlights them as the victim and they also give information out of context..often, you realize how much they have edited or completely altered the truth of what actually happened. Yes, so they do reveal but to manipulate to their own advantage.
Same i struggle with opening up to people anymore because of all the time that I've shared my feelings w someone and they react very badly and judged me or made fun of it now i am very selective as well and will never share abt myself without observing the person well first and be sure that I'm able to reveal myself to them safely
This is why I couldn’t stand the haters saying “ohh Liz cut off her boyfriend for NO reason” clearly you don’t listen to her. She’s told us before she doesn’t always share personal details in her life. I knew that there were reasons or intuitions she had for leaving possibly even abuse. People need to stop judging you!! Love you❤
I really need this video, especially this year. I have begun to notice some of my friends’ behavior over the years that they belittle me. I thought it was their personality, but should I really accept it just because it is their personality? I was suppressing my feelings and disappointment towards them and I gave them many excuses. All of this was at the expense of my mental health. Until I blamed my hormones. I decided to put more effort into loving myself than trying to accommodate feelings that don't even exist
Stand up for yourself, if they over react then you will know for sure, toxic people can't stand being criticized or put in their place and one of the only ways to confirm is by putting your foot down
When you said pour into people who pour into you the same way,girl you made me realised so much about my situation i will be forever grateful to you for knocking some sense into me.I Love You Liz,from the bottom of my life i wish i had a friend like you,God Bless You !
The last part really spoke to my SOUL, THANK YOU SO MUCH LIZ I REALLY NEEDED IT! this really made me not go back into this cycle, I thank that I clicked your video, may God keep using you to change to the lives of so many people. Exactly when I needed it, thank you!
i actually cried when she thanked us at the end of the video, she never take anything for granted and i think that this thing is one of her biggest strenghts. love you liz, thank you for everything
Hey Liz, Growing up in a chaotic household put me in a situation where I needed to say that I’m done with this era, completely left my past behind, including family members and friends, to move on. As u said these people as anchors, always holding me back from achieving my dreams. To fulfill my greatest version of life, I had to completely let them go, and it wasn't easy, but I did it because I know we all deserve the best in this world. So chin up, girl! You’ve got this. God put you in an uncomfortable situation to prepare yourself and soul to receive something bigger meant just for you. Remember, God always wants the best for us. I love you, Liz. You’re not alone 💗🫶
You are such an angel. I was just dealing with toxic relatives over and over this past weekend and this video came up. Thank you so much Liz. I thought why am I only dealing with toxic people around me? Because of the culture of the country where I grew up But when I learned that people from all over the world and from different cultures experience the same thing, it made me realize that we just need to understand ourselves whether we really want to get out of a toxic relationship or not. If the answer is yes. We can do it. Thanks to Liz and the comments I feel so much more confident that I can do it for myself.
I got trust issues from such people & also don't believe on words, I feel like him my twin flame but I don't trust him anymore, despite of introvert I confess my feelings for him but he don't think I even deserve a direct response. ❤ I feel like I am listeningy elder version, I am just like you Liz Di. ❤
I was in the mall with a "friend". She arrived 30 minutes late because she slept in. (what a good excuse) I thought about telling her to not bother to come after 15 minutes passed but I waited because maybe we would have fun. I felt so unappreciated. I don't like feeling unappreciated. Nobody does. She tried to apply for jobs while we were at the mall. I thought it would be fine but she didn't really want to hang out with me I think. Also, I felt like a bad version of myself. I was literally a little angry for no reason and I wasn't myself. Another person joined us after like an hour. This person was even worse because they would complain about a lot of things which lead to me complaining about things. Also, they were kinda perverts. I didn't know they were like that. They would make perverted jokes. I even became a little bit of a pervert around them. I've been trying to get better from my porn addiction since like almost a year already. That environment was so bad for me. She offended stores. If you don't like the store, don't go in it. I asked my "friend" if they're usually late for things. They said that if they can't be late, they are not late. So that means she didn't care about me to show up on time. I'm not even so sad about it. I'm so happy for her telling me what a toxic person she is. Thank you so much! I'll never meet with you again. Thanks for reading!
just seems disrespectful, you deserve better. if they have been a good friend to you in the past then you can consider talking it out wit them, but if this is how they always are with you, then good riddance!
Oh Liz, you are so right. I'm in my sixties and I gave and gave. My whole life. But the persons don't see it, don't value it and at least don't do that to me. I' m not able to ask for it because I don't want to be seen as someone who is complaining. But sometimes I feel really sad about all this. And what you say about family is also so true. My husband didn't love me and so my children grew up with a mother who has not been respected at all. Looking back it is sad. I'm so happy that I left him. All the young ladies they should only marry a guy who truly values them!!!!! Your message is so important!!! Thank you so much for doing what you do and greetings from Germany 🍀
@@mollesmartme too.. I don't put with any bullshit. I have the most beautiful soul and the most precious soul in my life and that is me and if those people can't see it then ciao! I block them! No toxic people in my life are allowed! I have me and I'm fine with being forgotten and rejected. I no longer care what other people view me and think of me
I was once like you. I care about what other people think and feel about me I fake myself to get people to be impressed by me and like me and love me. I also don't do things that i love because i don't want people to think badly of me But then one day i realized that those people have different souls. They have different lenses. They will always view me differently as i view myself. Faking myself to get their approval takes a huge amount of effort and a little reward. Even if i managed to convince them to think a certain part of me like i convince them that I'm likeable, they will always view things according to their own lenses. There will always going to be misunderstanding. It's not worth it. These people are not worth keeping. I realized i don't want these people. These people don't want me. I find out that most souls in the planets are not worth having. So i learned to let people go their own way while i pursue my own path and destination.
If i were you, i will ask it because I'm not afraid of what other people think of me. I'm not afraid to be seen as complaining. But i found out that why do i need to ask people and bed people to love me? The fact that i need to ask means I'm with the wrong person. The person can't even give it to me naturally meaning he naturally don't want me.. So why should i want him? I'm with the wrong person. So I'll block him and choose me. I will only allow the people who choose me and respect me to be in my life
Thank you for this video! It's come at a time when I really needed it...I recently cut off contact with my mom, and that was a long process of realizing that she's just a toxic person, as is the whole family household really. I agree with so many of the points you mentioned. I think you are incredibly strong and give me courage, because I have learned through you that I deserve better and that I am growing and learning to love myself more and more without contact with my family.
21:44 - 22:00 and 22:35 - 23:54 are just beeeef, so relatable to my situation, I mean this is what I needed, and what I wanted to hear, really. Thank you LIZ, you are THE best therapist.
Honestly I cried so hard. Your words are so real and it relieves me that somebody understands and validates how im feeling. This video, like almost all of them, came to me when I most needed it. It saddens me how sometimes I think that loving or caring deeply and then not receiving reciprocation, means Im in the wrong, and that I should change, but you showed me that it is a valid and worthfull personality and that I can make peace with it and change the people i care for instead of changing myself. Its a daily struggle but you help me being strong Liz
I truely see u as my elder sister thank you so much ....all the things you told about your ex was exact same as my ex HE was too toxic and ruined my LIFE but you helped me in healing and coming over it 🥺🌷LOVE YOU
Really appreciated every single words what you say , Liz... Your words feel me like a strong little woman when I'm broke. Your words can heal me,real.❤
Dear world, protect this woman.
Ameen
AMEN
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Amin❤️
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Treat this as a "Liz Helped me" button.
She is real! ❤always come with a video that we all need to hear
Why u begging for likes!?💀
@@Cash_Rizz u dont know this person please dont settle hate where it could be love
@@luuukgs bruh Ik her from last 7 months and Ik she is an angel she teaches us good things I'm not giving hate that person is only begging for likes💀
@@Cash_Rizz Please, remember this channel only welcomes good vibes and support. I am not 'begging' for likes in any way, I just want people to show how much they appreciate Liz through my comment. Moreover, people choose to like or not, I did not beg anyone. Thanks for commenting under my comment tho.
I would like to add something else about a toxic person. There is a type who treats you with great friendliness at times, and at other times he ignores you completely, and when he sees that you have crossed him or ignored him as well or forgotten him, whatever it is, he continues to use the trick to win you over. After that, he leaves you and leaves you stuck in your thoughts.
Literally what I'm going through right now.
That person is giving you mixed signals. Indeed that person is toxic
keeping this in mind
OKAY ANG ACCURATE
Triggered.
" At this point forgiving you means betraying myself " THIS !!!
Finally someone who isn't forcing us to forgive people who did us wrong
@@jinhub2175Literally. So many people say that you need to forgive everyone, but sometimes that can hurt us even more
@@Onyxx_star THIS
In my culture we say „forgetting is betrayal“
If you forget about the bad things that have been done to you you betray yourself. It’s as simple as that. It doesn’t mean to complain all the time til the end of our life. It’s purely for you to stay true to yourself.
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Thank you Liz button🎀🩷
Thanks liz 💗
thank you liz 🙋♀️
Liz it is so sad we have survived so much. I just cut off everyone including my spouses side of family they have abused my kindness for weakness, been coming together with ppl to try to hurt me while smiling in my face…I am healing now and he chose me…he understands once you start a family that’s who it is about…they are ALL REBUKED to the pits of hell they came from…I was their only slice of Heaven…the Lord told me to stop letting ppl take take take from me emotionally and physically. I love you, you empowered me ❤I’m praying for your success and thank you for praying for mine.
Literally wish I had a clone pop up in my room to change my thoughts
Thank you Liz
“I am growing constantly”
“I’ve never stopped growing in my life”
“I am constantly evolving”
These words are literally stucked in my head 💕
Same 😊
"they can go argue with a wall"
Me too
I swear. Every topic she puts out is exactly what I need, _when I need it._
she frl manifesting for us all❤
IKR it’s actually insane
The timing is just ❤❤
samee!!
That’s what manipulation is 😂
I once started to believe that I was "a toxic friend", but then i realized the reality
Same ....
Dear, please elaborate, I'm loosing my best friend, I love her a lot, her words depicts that she thinks me as a toxic friend, and i have also started believing that may be I am or I was actually toxic.
Please tell me what you have realised after words, it's a worst phase I'm even crying while writing this text ,the screen is also blur due my tearful eyes. 💔😭
@@chanchalbhati7220 ok I am here to help. So what I mean is that, when you are around toxic people, they make u feel like a total toxic to hide their actual intention and mark You as a bad person. Recently I met a person, she was nice, helping and acted like a good friend. So I eventually started trusting her. But then I noticed that why do that make Me insecure about myself or make Me feel bad about myself while molding her words like she was helping me. In a matter of time I realized that it was not me who had the problem, but that girl who spread hers. Later on I went to her, I and talked amd cleared things up. And I also heard that girl telling hr friends that I am THE TOXIC ONE, while I was hearing all of that from a corner.
@@chanchalbhati7220 If u feel like someone is bringing you down, you don't feel right around that person, that try to work the right way. Because eventually YOUR FEELINGS MATTER!
@@dsyshubhi Thankyou dear💕
DETACHMENT IS THE KEY TO MENTAL PEACE 👏🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻
i’m such a lover girl and my natural instinct is to trust and see the good in people but after being let down so many times, i’ve had to learn detachment to protect myself. it’s not how i’d like to live but in this world, i’m forced to if i want to preserve my sanity. 😔
@@girlinthehazeI still can't detach bruh🥲🥲
The way SHE become emotional with HER words at the end of the video.
It Shows that how much SHE had been through and how much SHE had to work on to get out from those situations and things
We should feel proud that we have a WOMEN who actually wants us to grow and glow .
Bless to have to in our life LIZZ🫀
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I've experienced this toxicity from all my "friends"and let me tell you I am so glad I cut them off, and now I appreciate and love myself more.
I recommend everyone to find the forbidden book titled Women’s Magic Truths on Borlest. It goes deep into all of this, and it changed my life.
Thank you ❤
What is Borlest can anyone tell me is it an app ?
Thank you sis
@@Yukiliftsxoxo it is a website xx
After I cut off toxic people in my life I always feel so bad and so guilty, even if I know it's for the best. I just start overthinking
I do the same, but one day the right people will come around.
I did the same but i learned not to
Its your loving nature that makes u feel guilty. You are an empathatic soul that's y you feel for them bt for a sec rewind and think how could they have done this to you or think that if you were in their position would you do that. You will get your answer. Stay strong love ❤ 😊
"Selfish people win put your always first , think about your own needs first than anybody's "
Same, I just remind myself that I need to think of myself first because no one else will. We do owe others kindness, respect etc but you owe yourself all of those things more.
That last comment liz made about thanking us for saving her life almost brought me to tears. I think i speak for a lot of people when i say that liz has done the same for so many people, millions of times over. Thank YOU liz for helping all of us.
youre so right
Liz has saved my life and guided me out of a dark place.
Timestamps 🖤🌹
0:00 Intro
1:15 You will never feel like you know them
2:37 Everything is about them
4:51 They care more about how they look than how they are
6:32 You do not like who you become around them
8:56 These people have constant drama in their lives
11:26 They only apologise with words
14:26 They will not reciprocate effort
16:22 They have no loyalty towards you
17:53 They will always play the victim
19:15 These people have no ambition
20:38 They want you to stay small
22:29 You are never appreciated
Doing God's work, I see?
thank you 🙏🏻
Thankyou❤
Some signs sound like what a narcissist is like
Ever single one of these 10000000000000 literally exactly.
there are actually two benefits to watching this video. first, you obviously get to realize the toxic people surrounding you and are able to cut them off. but there's something else too, it helps in making ME a better person. maybe I've been adopting some of these toxic traits unknowingly because of things that happened to me, but this video helps me in recognizing them and being a better human than I was. I'm truly grateful to Liz for how much she has helped me grow.
Yess I was literally thinking abt this! I've hung around so many toxic people my whole life, I've become toxic as well, and I don't want to bring that negativity into other people's lives because they don't deserve that. I'm hoping that I'll improve and become more positive. 🤍
That's so true😭💕
Love this post so much 🥰🫶💕 we ALL have work to do
That's true yaa ...I'm thinking the same while listening to her I was like These traits are literally speaking about Me......but after reading ur comment I think I should also look for it in good perspective where it helps me to be a better person ....❤
The best comment i have seen today
I also want to add, that not all those who share little about themselves are not necessarily manipulative or liars. They're reserved and not comfortable with sharing info about themselves. It's on a case-to-case basis. Also, I think we should be cautious with what info we share about ourselves bc people will often use that as a bullet to use against you.
I agree
Also with animals. God didn’t allow them to talk because they show their love to us with actions and not with words. 💞🙏🏻
thank u, i love this
AMEN.
That’s beautiful
@@AngelicShineI do agree, I believe in God but he is not this wonderful do-gooder holy man, and the Bible tells us this! Idk where people got this "oh God made life so precious and sweet" delusion, we obviously did not read the same bible! Earth was cursed when Satan fell, Satan is really the guy that made this vicious food chain along with hell. Him and the fallen angels kind of rule over earth, I just don't get why God doesn't kill the sweet talking son of a bitch if he really is all that powerful. Adding to a latter statement, one thing we forget is that the government translated most versions of the Bible, there's bound to be tweaking in here
@@AngelicShine If you would have watched this video you would see what it means to give something and get it back equally. So you just aligned with my point. When you take care of a dog he will love you and show the love. But he will never talk our language because he can’t so we can’t talk their language. God didn’t allow them to talk to us and ofc God created animals. As humans murder cows for food so do animals. Also if you look into the DNA of animals you will see how similar we are to them. Before arguing please do simple research 💞🙏🏻
It's sad because the non-toxic person actually is one of the few people that care about the toxic person yet they ironically become the toxic person's biggest rival. It's something so twisted..
100% agree
Yeah, good vs. evil
100%, me and my mother, her mother (my grandma) was also like that with her, it sucks because I try to help her but she never changes, then she goes on about how she "needs help" and how "she's the problem" like yes bitch you are! Now do something about it
The toxic people like that are just so cowardly…
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I have been watching Liz for a year now and let me tell you that this video is the realest. It’s full of nothing but sheer truth. This made me realize that I did nothing wrong by cutting off the people who did not and never learned to treat me well. Thank you Liz for everything. Gonna have this video tattooed on my mind.
It’s people like us that always attract the selfish & narcissistic ppl with the gaslighting. They love our energy and feed off of it while trying to keep us weak & dependent. It is then up to us to take our power back & avoid dealing with these ppl from Day 1.
Soo true 💯
We are their supply. We have everything that they don't have and they're bitter resentful and angry about it
She literally looks so radiant!!! oh my word
When I cut toxic people out of my life I also glowed up harddd!
Felt you being emotional at the end which is totally normal and acceptable my dear sister.
You know what, we actually are your tribe. You are not alone, neither anyone of us is.
I love you 💓, i appreciate you & and i value your presence and words Liz.
Thank you so much 🧿💎
liz is really the only person i would listen to on this type of topic
It's mindblowing how much we go through because of low self esteem. Forgiving ourselves for this wasted time is definitely the hardest part.
you said a really good thing actually it helped me figure myself out ❤
Yeah i find it hard to forgive myself for all the time that i spend on people who have shown me the extra effort that they don't want me, who don't hesitate a second to abandon, betray and hurt me
Your words truly resonate with the importance of self love and healing thank you for creating such a safe face for girls to reconnect with themselves your messages empowering and deeply needed🥰🥰🥰🥰
‘You are the person they want to blame everything on - because if they cannot blame it on you they will have to look at themselves’ This is so true for people who lash out at you for no reason and gets defensive when they see you doing good…
"Believe people when they show you how they feel about you "
That line hurts me a lot cause I really refuse to believe there reality even after the whole drama
that is the hardest lesson because as Jordan peterson says you realise there is real malevolence in the world and you integreate it and have to realise you are capable of evil as well but it is part of your journey and you cannot truly be good without knowing evil
i quite love how it feels like at the same moment you talk to us, it also looks like you're talking to yourself, and that is powerful
So true in my last relationship I got uglier and physically sick as well. Now I have never felt or looked better in my life.
I would also add to the list “they will constantly trauma dump on you “.
I had a friend who CONSTANTLY shared her trauma with me, it took a tool on my mental health. Mainly because they were similar to my trauma. But to her it didn’t matter, as long as she talked about it.
She was also only ever talking about herself, never listening to me, and many things from your list as well.
Distancing myself from her was the best thing I ever did.
Literally went through the same. had a friend just like that that I’ve know for almost my whole life and her venting constantly has taking a tool on my mental health also. She never asked about me either, just always talked about her self and always fishing for compliments. Cut her out of my life just 3 days ago and already feel better but gosh it was hard
Damn i had a friend JUST like that. Distancing myself fron her has literally been the best decision ever
Thank you so much for this 🙏🏼
@@mariamsaad you’re welcome🩷
@@sofie.luvsleepI'm also like this at first. I have childhood traumas that have deep shame in it so i protect myself by numbing and always need validation. I always fish for compliments but i never get it. It never worked for me. It only make things worse
So i decided to feel all the pain shame hurt and suffering that i went through.. The pain is extremely painful
But it gets better everytime. The pain is less and less everytime i recall the painful memories. I was be able to feel shame for the first time and boy, now i realized how much deep shame i have.
Then i realized i don't have to shield myself from shame. I don't need it. My emotions are there to help me heal. I don't have to be afraid of it. I love all my emotions after this. I don't want to be dissociated anymore. Me always needing validation and constant fishing for compliments are my toxic traits and I'm fixing it
The energy Liz brings in this video is undeniable. It honestly felt like she was speaking directly to me, and I couldn't resonate more with what she said. Toxic people hurt others to feel better about themselves, feeding off their own lack of self-love. Thank God I learned my lesson and cut them out of my life. The moment I left, their lives started falling apart. Thank you, Liz! I truly love and find you so inspiring. May Allah bless you with even more happiness, wealth, and beauty than you already have!
I adore you and thank you for helping me push myself to better my own life.
This woman is a blessing, she has completely changed my mindset, in turn changing my life. I want to thank you liz. You are truly inspiring and motivating.❤
It made me cry over my messed up life because of toxic people I love and fool myself into thinking they aren't.
This was a wake up call for me. I can relate to some of these toxic traits, I'd become a selfish manipulative person and it took a huge amount of self reflection and healing to even acknowledge my toxic behavior. I have been awful to myself lately but the last few words you mentioned in the video makes me feel more motivated to grow and learn. I want my future kids/partner/even friends; to be loved by me and not experience the toxicity i went through in my childhood. I feel more positive and I will put more effort into healing myself to become a better version of myself.
Thank you for this liz
Hey Liz, i'm a 16 y/o girl and i used to have an alcoholic mother. My dad abused our little family of 3 a lot. My mom struggles a lot with her bipolar disorder and it's been hard for me to grow up in an environment like this. i'm glad i'm not the only one who think this way about creating a family and i totally wish you the best. you'd be such a great mother, because you know how it feels for a kid to grow up that way!
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I can't say much because of my limited English, but I want to thank you so much for your enlightening video on toxic relationships. I have been there. I am also someone who is religious, so it is easy for me to let people who have hurt me back into my life because of religious teachings like not holding onto anger and always being full of love. These things often lead me to make the same mistakes and repeat the same patterns. But now I have gained new insights on this. Thank you so much."
Man...this woman saved my life and changed my mindset completely!!!...I'm grateful to ya liz!!..
i felt it when you said "i want my children to know love" 💕
I know right❤
I feel like kids should be required to view this. We deal with toxic friendships and relationships early in life, and knowing what to look for in behavior could help free so many young minds and hearts. My mother never explained any of this to me, and now I have to parent her and help her release the traumas she’s accumulated in her life. If she had known this growing up, would she have been as hurt? And, in turn, would she have passed that pain down?
*she just described a narcissist*
*a VULNERABLE narcissist if I might add*
So true. And there are so many
EXACTLY what I thought
@UserGirly-c7c exactly, especially because when it comes to the malignant narcissist, you can spot them right away,but the VULNERABLE ones are hard since they hide behind the victims facade
@@elisabethcharbonneau6243 me also
Darn I've never seen her this stressed or sad. Those people actually drained her energy I'm glad she left. Stay strong Liz ❤
True, I am going to pray to Jesus that she sees the light and turns to him. Jesus Christ is your saviour and the only one who can rescue you from this situation.
Jesus indeed was a great prophet of God, but he (peace be upon him) was not God. Only the 1 true creator is the saviour and can forgive or save his creation. Jesus was his messenger (peace be upon him)
Please read more about who Jesus was, he even put his head on the ground and prayed to God asking God for help (peace be upon isa Jesus the messenger of God)
Amen. Glory to Jesus @@mollesmart
@@allthingsmumlifeUKJesus is the true creator. Hallelujah! Glory to Jesus
@@mollesmartshe is christian, and she has turned to jesus. however, this does not mean she cannot work on herself without depending on a god.
thank you so much for this video liz, this just confirmed how i felt about others and also taking accountability of my own toxicity. i see boundaries now with people I love clearly, that what i'm doing is valid.
basically, if you are mistreated it is valid to feel mistreated and set a high boundaries and not conform to what other people see correct or right thing to do. it is our emotions who get violated, it is us who dictate on how we cope about abuse and mistreatments. others' comments and opinions do not matter.
You described me from beginning to the end. I no longer stretch myself for others. I treat people the way they treat me. I no longer have any expectations. I cut off lots of people and family members. I only answer the phone when I want to. I live life within my own terms, and it's been lonely but peaceful. I no longer fall for manipulation, disrespect and gaslighting. I reject everything and everyone that's phony. I literally just left a toxic job. I recently was offered a great job with a very good base pay, I turn it down because I saw the chaos. I value my peace so much and would not entertain anyone that wants to disrupt it. I also know when someone is trying to get a reaction out of me. I don't bother to even entertain it! I forgave them for my own peace. I finally learn to love myself more than any other human being.
Dido u get stronger them then. Conquer devil. They give u strength light outweighs the dark fight it off like a warrior hair short fuck it get health better than tbem... work on you do u... and when ready and powerful u control them because your rose up and they just fall harder
Had to cut the cord on a toxic ‘best’ friend I’ve had for like my whole life, needed this validation/confirmation
So you're actually cutting it off?
This is actually exactly what I’m going through and this video convinced me to block them and finally do what’s right
@@angelfilms_ well I also did cut off because it was sucking my energy and like I was not liking myself when I was with her. So I started hating myself and getting insecure because of it. But now that I don't have that person in my life I feel so much free and happy than before. I'm not having that best friend type of stress . But now I'm thinking that am I just being insensitive and selfish because I'm thinking about how I feel and like my emotions am I actually doing right .
Because I think it takes efforts from both the sides and everytime me crushing me self respect was not a solution. I mean she is an introvert but like if you call me your bsf you should communicate why always I have to be there and like talk to you even when you ignore me and make faces around me like I irritate you.
I'm sorry you guys have to face this !! Stay strong 💗
@@NaishaJindal yeah after all they did I choose peace.
Liz, I wanted to tell you that I’ve just recently come to know about you a month or two ago but the way you’ve helped me develop a healthy mindset is just insane and unexplainable in words. I cannot and shall never be able to thank you enough for what you’re slowly transforming me into.
Ever since I started watching you, I’ve realised a great lot of things which I would’ve missed otherwise. Things about people, things about me. You taught me how to be grateful for what I already have in life instead of sulking over what I don’t because maybe God has better plans for me. I’ve learned and am still learning so much from you. I admire how you light up everytime you talk about how happy you become when you make someone happy or when you see someone feeling good about themselves. But, I feel equally bad and sad when you talk about how your efforts are not reciprocated or at least appreciated. It’s just heartbreaking to see people can behave that way to someone who’s been helping them right, left and centre.
I don’t know what to say further because I’m not very good with words but I truly, truly appreciate everything you do for all of us. I wish you all the love you rightfully deserve. I could hug you right now just to tell you that it’s all gonna be okay and you’ll find someone who really cares for you but unfortunately I can only hug my ipad at the moment :(
Sending virtual hugs anyways xx
The end of your video just felt so deep and I teared up when you said: "You know one day I'm gonna become a mother. I'm gonna create a beautiful family for myself. And I don't want my children to have a father figure that wasn't consistent or wasn't good to me. I saw that growing up and that completely destroyed me. I want to create a family where Love is something that they know. Where they know that 'Oh, my parents love each other, my parents love us.' I don't want them to go through the same struggles as me so I need to do things differently."
My parents are divorced, they got divorced when I was 10yo but throughout those 10 years it was pretty toxic and did affect me so this is sad but resonates with me too.
Look at her being so humble and down to earth that she is thanking her viewers for saving her life and listening to her when she has saved millions of people lives and is a real life hero💕
thank you so much liz , I really needed this. My old friends would treat me like a dog in the dirt. And they wouldn't even hesitate to drop me or argue with me. So thank you very much and may god bless you
I listened to every word you said. Thank you for being vulnerable and honest. You never know how many people's lives you saved in turn!
A good quote on not taking people on their word, Dr. John Deloney always says “behavior is a language”
I did not realize how much I really needed this until I heard the truth. I am really holding back tears because I can’t let my brain hide what I was truly feeling anymore. Thank you so much for this video because I really cannot explain how grateful I am that you made this and do the things that you do! You do exactly what I dream to do in my future. I feel like every thing, every word you said in this video I relate to, but maybe not as bad as you. I sincerely appreciate this help, and I hope that you see my comment❤❤❤
i relate to this, having a big heart in this world is difficult, but yet a blessing. it will be a privilege to your kids to have you as a mother Liz. Keep showing up for your self, for everyone reading this
You can’t do the work for others!!!! You can’t take away their karmic lessons. Thank you for this video!
YES THANK YOU LIZ. FINALLY I FEEL LIKE IM NOT GOING CRAZY DEALING WITH THESE TOXIC PEOPLE
Thank you, Liz. I can relate to everything you said, your words literally made me cry because I realized how much I used to betray myself by constantly forgiving abusive people. You are truly one of the most beautiful souls in the world to me, I hope you know how much you are helping some of us out there. Sending you so much love❤
It's sad that these toxic people are actually people from our own families as well....
True
And i won't hesitate to block them. I don't care if I'm alone. Yess alone, alone and free!
@@natural3362 I feel u
@@natural3362 As you should!
@@Wize_Muse we all have the power to be free and choose us! I'm choosing me! For the first time! So glad to see you on this journey too
I recently went through a tough breakup. My 7 year relationship ended a month ago, and it's been really hard for me. I still love my ex so much and can't stop thinking about him. I've tried everything to win him back, but nothing has worked. It's frustrating, and I can't imagine being with anyone else. I've been trying to move on, but I can't seem to get him out of my mind. I know it might sound strange to share this here, but I miss him a lot and just can't stop thinking about him.
I understand the pain of letting go of someone you love. I went through a similar situation when my 12 year relationship ended. I couldn't just let him go, so I did everything I could to win him back. I sought the help of a spiritual counselor, and their guidance ultimately helped me to bring him back into my life.
Amazing! How did you find a spiritual counselor, and how can I contact them?
His name is Fatherabulu, and he is a great spiritual counselor who can help restore your relationship with your ex.
Thanks for sharing this valuable information. I just looked him up online and I'm impressed.
Liz you literally changed my life. God bless you. God bless you. Before i watched your videos i was a girl with severe depression, huge foodie, insecure about my body, never reading a single book, always depending on people of my happiness, waking up late and so on. But when i discovered you, my life totally changed. I am whole different person now because of you. You are such an angel, love you🥺
A toxic person who was in my life made me feel like I was at fault all the time. I was always was walking on eggshells around them and after I blocked them on everything they managed to reach out and ask what they had done for me to block them. They had a victim complex and called me over-dramatic for blocking them. I told them that I wished them the best but they needed to move on, by calling me over-dramatic and diminishing my feelings like that i knew i had done the right thing. Thank you Liz for this video
Thank you I'm literally crying not because of weakness but realizing that my thoughts wasn't my imagination it's the reality so really really thanks to you ♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️
Sign of toxic person:
You don't like who you become around them.
They can trigger you.
Those point ain't they force you out of character
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Your videos stopped me from going back to a guy who was emotionally abusing me. We were together for 5.5 years and I was addicted to the dynamic but honestly I needed a reality check about how things would end up if I did not leave
Mother is "mothering" . Thank you Liz . You are saving us❤❤❤
Thank you much liz for tell me where I am the victim and where I am toxic. This gave me double perspective of my personality
Girl, I resonate with what You are going through so much in this constant isolation, that it feels like You are the friend that GETS IT.
Thank You.
I don't even know how to find people like that.
I'm so glad more women are sharing the view that not everyone deserves our forgiveness. And yes, it's so common that toxic folks and vampires usually want you all to themselves andShared with nobody else , not even platonically.
My dad's side of family really brainwashed me, traumatised my mom since I handled my consciousness, betrayedmy dad... and we almost overcome it, we moved out and started living separately... now what? We're living a peaceful, good life... andThey're still in the same place they were a decade ago...
I relate to your words so much
The part where she talks about a friend being in a toxic rs. I heavily resonate with that. Had to cut her off tbh and never felt better. It's extremely unfair for people to make you go through the same pain they're going through but they never take any action to improve their situation. It's so draining. And I used to think I was a bad friend for feeling this way.
I have a shitty family and have dealt with sewer slide for years, but I'd never leech like alot of people do, when I had issues I bettered myself and gave back to the people that helped. Nowadays people think everybody owes them and needs to feel their pain
I teared up watching this 😢 this is so healing and uplifting, because i can relate to every single thing you said Liz! I deserve better! And I can’t keep learning the same lessons God is trying to teach me. I have given love unapologetically and I deserve the same too!
As an emotional person, I spent years enduring the pain of my narcissistic sister's behavior. I constantly forgave her, tried to help her, and hoped to change her ways. However, she was determined to sabotage my life and turn my family against me. This caused me immense stress and emotional exhaustion.Finally, after years of suffering, I made a crucial decision: to prioritize my own well-being and mental health above all else. I began to distance myself from my sister's negativity and focus on creating a life that nurtured my happiness and peace of mind.
❤keep going buddy
If i were you, i block her and go no contact with her. No toxic people are allowed in my life. That is my non negotiable standard and boundaries!
I feel you, I see you. I myself gone through this toxic relationship. I got to the realization that I deserve better so I got divorced last year. He was a person who literally did everything you mentioned like isolated me, make me wrong, playing victim, and having me around in public just to look good. I had never lonely, hurt and abused by him emotionally, and mentally. Having said that, I'm so impressed that you're able to talk about it in public. I must say you're a warrior. I'm a life coach and introvert, and yet still can't talk about it publicly.
@purpledragon7130 I’m glad you see that he’s an abusive man! You deserve better life is non-quantifiable. I’m glad you have your mother is there for you! It’s very helpful. I thank myself everyday that I’m free and inspire others to give up their struggles and pain! 💕💪🙌🎉
Big sis, you hit the nail with this one. I have been releasing all toxic people in my life, and that strongly included family members, fake friends 🧡 this has been a very rough year for me, and still I know God will not let me fall. I needed this, thank you Liz 😢
Oh Liz I can feel you are really hurt. You have a pure heart and bad people try to misuse it, even those not bad ones turn bad when they notice someone really nice. May God protect you and make you meet genuine people. I was having the same problem as you, so I made a sincere intention and asked God to meet me with genuine people. Today I am surronded by such people for real
Liz you are strong and brave to put it in such helpful words to help us which are also encounter the same situation. Thank you so much. We appreciate your existence truly. Love you
We are here for you to always support and listen ❤️ Thank you so much for everything you are doing for us, we are a big big family that is breaking the old patterns and healing together.
“I’m the only person I have. Time and time again God has shown me that he brings me back to myself.” Never settle ❤️
The first point about revealing everything can be tricky. I've had bad experiences after I revealed about myself. Either they took it as way to exploit me or to judge me as someone who is "strong" so they assumed I wouldn't get hurt no matter what they do. I've become highly selective with sharing about myself.
Many people are hesitant to disclose information about themselves for many different reasons! Most commonly its because the person has trust issues from being wronged by a lot of people in the past, however toxic people also tend to have this trait but not for a good reason
yeah, it's about how you interpret it. just know it's toxicity when it feels off to you.
@@ievazidkova9893 Toxic people reveal to conceal. They give information in a way that highlights them as the victim and they also give information out of context..often, you realize how much they have edited or completely altered the truth of what actually happened. Yes, so they do reveal but to manipulate to their own advantage.
Narcissists commonly do this. Anything you tell them is used as a weapon against you later. They’re always taking inventory of you
Same i struggle with opening up to people anymore because of all the time that I've shared my feelings w someone and they react very badly and judged me or made fun of it now i am very selective as well and will never share abt myself without observing the person well first and be sure that I'm able to reveal myself to them safely
This is why I couldn’t stand the haters saying “ohh Liz cut off her boyfriend for NO reason” clearly you don’t listen to her. She’s told us before she doesn’t always share personal details in her life. I knew that there were reasons or intuitions she had for leaving possibly even abuse. People need to stop judging you!! Love you❤
I really need this video, especially this year. I have begun to notice some of my friends’ behavior over the years that they belittle me. I thought it was their personality, but should I really accept it just because it is their personality? I was suppressing my feelings and disappointment towards them and I gave them many excuses. All of this was at the expense of my mental health. Until I blamed my hormones. I decided to put more effort into loving myself than trying to accommodate feelings that don't even exist
Stand up for yourself, if they over react then you will know for sure, toxic people can't stand being criticized or put in their place and one of the only ways to confirm is by putting your foot down
We are on the same boat
When you said pour into people who pour into you the same way,girl you made me realised so much about my situation i will be forever grateful to you for knocking some sense into me.I Love You Liz,from the bottom of my life i wish i had a friend like you,God Bless You !
The last part really spoke to my SOUL, THANK YOU SO MUCH LIZ I REALLY NEEDED IT! this really made me not go back into this cycle, I thank that I clicked your video, may God keep using you to change to the lives of so many people. Exactly when I needed it, thank you!
I'm so happy for you, shes such a huge inspiration❤❤❤
The timing is divine 💗🤌
i actually cried when she thanked us at the end of the video, she never take anything for granted and i think that this thing is one of her biggest strenghts.
love you liz, thank you for everything
this topic has resonated a lot to me, I feel liberated and understood. Thank you Liz, you're an angel 🤍
liz trust me, u r god sent, the timing of your videos , matching what i go thru. It's unbelievable.
I literally cannot emphasise how much of an eye opener this video was. So grateful Liz. Thank you❤
Hey Liz, Growing up in a chaotic household put me in a situation where I needed to say that I’m done with this era, completely left my past behind, including family members and friends, to move on. As u said these people as anchors, always holding me back from achieving my dreams. To fulfill my greatest version of life, I had to completely let them go, and it wasn't easy, but I did it because I know we all deserve the best in this world.
So chin up, girl! You’ve got this. God put you in an uncomfortable situation to prepare yourself and soul to receive something bigger meant just for you. Remember, God always wants the best for us. I love you, Liz. You’re not alone 💗🫶
You are such an angel. I was just dealing with toxic relatives over and over this past weekend and this video came up. Thank you so much Liz. I thought why am I only dealing with toxic people around me? Because of the culture of the country where I grew up But when I learned that people from all over the world and from different cultures experience the same thing, it made me realize that we just need to understand ourselves whether we really want to get out of a toxic relationship or not. If the answer is yes. We can do it. Thanks to Liz and the comments I feel so much more confident that I can do it for myself.
She's such a strong lady with class and pride. Oh i love the way she is🩷
I got trust issues from such people & also don't believe on words, I feel like him my twin flame but I don't trust him anymore, despite of introvert I confess my feelings for him but he don't think I even deserve a direct response. ❤ I feel like I am listeningy elder version, I am just like you Liz Di. ❤
I was in the mall with a "friend". She arrived 30 minutes late because she slept in. (what a good excuse) I thought about telling her to not bother to come after 15 minutes passed but I waited because maybe we would have fun. I felt so unappreciated. I don't like feeling unappreciated. Nobody does. She tried to apply for jobs while we were at the mall. I thought it would be fine but she didn't really want to hang out with me I think. Also, I felt like a bad version of myself. I was literally a little angry for no reason and I wasn't myself. Another person joined us after like an hour. This person was even worse because they would complain about a lot of things which lead to me complaining about things. Also, they were kinda perverts. I didn't know they were like that. They would make perverted jokes. I even became a little bit of a pervert around them. I've been trying to get better from my porn addiction since like almost a year already. That environment was so bad for me. She offended stores. If you don't like the store, don't go in it. I asked my "friend" if they're usually late for things. They said that if they can't be late, they are not late. So that means she didn't care about me to show up on time. I'm not even so sad about it. I'm so happy for her telling me what a toxic person she is. Thank you so much! I'll never meet with you again.
Thanks for reading!
just seems disrespectful, you deserve better. if they have been a good friend to you in the past then you can consider talking it out wit them, but if this is how they always are with you, then good riddance!
"people need to learn there lesson on there own" so real🙇🙇🙇
Oh Liz, you are so right. I'm in my sixties and I gave and gave. My whole life. But the persons don't see it, don't value it and at least don't do that to me. I' m not able to ask for it because I don't want to be seen as someone who is complaining. But sometimes I feel really sad about all this. And what you say about family is also so true. My husband didn't love me and so my children grew up with a mother who has not been respected at all. Looking back it is sad. I'm so happy that I left him. All the young ladies they should only marry a guy who truly values them!!!!! Your message is so important!!! Thank you so much for doing what you do and greetings from Germany 🍀
I did leave my husband when he started the disrespect. You should never put up with disrespect.
@@mollesmartme too.. I don't put with any bullshit. I have the most beautiful soul and the most precious soul in my life and that is me and if those people can't see it then ciao! I block them! No toxic people in my life are allowed! I have me and I'm fine with being forgotten and rejected. I no longer care what other people view me and think of me
I was once like you. I care about what other people think and feel about me
I fake myself to get people to be impressed by me and like me and love me.
I also don't do things that i love because i don't want people to think badly of me
But then one day i realized that those people have different souls. They have different lenses. They will always view me differently as i view myself. Faking myself to get their approval takes a huge amount of effort and a little reward. Even if i managed to convince them to think a certain part of me like i convince them that I'm likeable, they will always view things according to their own lenses. There will always going to be misunderstanding.
It's not worth it. These people are not worth keeping. I realized i don't want these people. These people don't want me. I find out that most souls in the planets are not worth having. So i learned to let people go their own way while i pursue my own path and destination.
If i were you, i will ask it because I'm not afraid of what other people think of me. I'm not afraid to be seen as complaining.
But i found out that why do i need to ask people and bed people to love me? The fact that i need to ask means I'm with the wrong person. The person can't even give it to me naturally meaning he naturally don't want me.. So why should i want him? I'm with the wrong person. So I'll block him and choose me. I will only allow the people who choose me and respect me to be in my life
Be extremely happy that you left him. You're free from the person who doesn't want you and has shown you the extra effort that they don't want you
Thank you for this video! It's come at a time when I really needed it...I recently cut off contact with my mom, and that was a long process of realizing that she's just a toxic person, as is the whole family household really. I agree with so many of the points you mentioned. I think you are incredibly strong and give me courage, because I have learned through you that I deserve better and that I am growing and learning to love myself more and more without contact with my family.
21:44 - 22:00 and 22:35 - 23:54 are just beeeef, so relatable to my situation, I mean this is what I needed, and what I wanted to hear, really. Thank you LIZ, you are THE best therapist.
Honestly I cried so hard. Your words are so real and it relieves me that somebody understands and validates how im feeling.
This video, like almost all of them, came to me when I most needed it. It saddens me how sometimes I think that loving or caring deeply and then not receiving reciprocation, means Im in the wrong, and that I should change, but you showed me that it is a valid and worthfull personality and that I can make peace with it and change the people i care for instead of changing myself.
Its a daily struggle but you help me being strong Liz
I truely see u as my elder sister thank you so much ....all the things you told about your ex was exact same as my ex HE was too toxic and ruined my LIFE but you helped me in healing and coming over it 🥺🌷LOVE YOU
Really appreciated every single words what you say , Liz... Your words feel me like a strong little woman when I'm broke. Your words can heal me,real.❤