Get Craig's help personally: www.askcraig.net/take-action/ Coach Craig talks about blaming yourself for how you behaved both before and after a break up.
He convinced me I was to blame! Put the blame on me and I felt so guilty! I soon have learned thanks to Craig , too sides to this story! He’s had so many experiences with relationships that failed! I am done and not concerned about anyone hooking up with him! He’s a fool! I loved him to the depths. I gave him myself and my heart! I have to protect myself!
I’ve had a huge problem with beating myself up and feeling so guilty, but my best friend keeps telling me that this didn’t happen in a vacuum. It takes two. It’s hard but I’m trying not to blame either of us and learn from this.
Just 8 minutes, and im starts crying. Thanks craig, thanks for the comfort, thanks for the validation to our feeling, thanks for understand these deeply and want to teach us to grow. Seriously, im not even good at english (im indonesian) but i learn english everyday so i could understand your lesson and hopefuly can work with your workbook. Idk, i just want to tell u how much i appreciate u and margaret. Thank you, good bless you.
Thank you so much for this one, Coach Craig! You are so genuine, and it's no wonder why people trust you so much. I struggled with blaming myself so much after my breakup. I beat myself up for a solid year. It's so easy to lose sight of what the other person did to drive us to these insane moments. Your insight has been SO helpful to me. I was with an avoidant for 5 years, and I am anxious. I felt so starved for physical and emotional intimacy. I knew something was off, and I never understood our dynamic until I found your channel. I literally felt like if I had a need in the relationship that he caught onto, he went out of his way NOT to meet it. Now, looking back, it all makes PERFECT sense. But hindsight is too harsh of a judge, and I find this video to be very comforting in that regard. Had I known then what I know now, it would have been different without a doubt... but I'm thankful to find resolve in understanding that I wasn't "crazy." Although I wish so much that I would have had the insight about attachment styles during my relationship, I know I will be in a healthy relationship in the future thanks largely to all of your advice. The next guy will get a healthier version of me, and I know I'm a better person because of all I have learned. I have Skyped with you 3 times, and you did remember me each time, even though months passed in between each session. You're the best! I want you to know that you have been a HUGE part of my healing process since I discovered your channel back in January, and I want you to know that I am a better person because of you. Thanks for all you do!! Sincerely, Rachel - the editor in Texas :)
Coach Craig Kenneth I have some questions for you because I've been doing further research and really want to bring this thing to fruition. I will be emailing you soon!
I have been just listening to you since I found you in September and just listening to you has helped. I’m doing this on my own - genuinely have no one - kind strangers yes- Getting thru listening to you and a discovery of ytube tarot readers - Craig I’m not a young woman, near 60 -never been thru anything like this before - so much emotion upheaval - heartache- shock exit by 5 year partner - one nite stand in a foreign country - then flew back - sold all his things and flew back in a week to live with a women he meet the week before and can’t speak English . His home - trying to start a whole new life - said he is retiring their now. Just a shock descision - flip on a coin . Hurts more as was another woman half his age - my self esteem bad - if I didn’t know about the women taking my place - it would of being easier. He won’t return .
I am sorry that you are going through this. I have done it and it has been done to me too. I was in a 13 years relationship, the last 1-2 years were really bad (fights etc) we grew apart. I didn't want to have sex with her or even see her it was mostly a routine. I went in a business trip and met a coworker which I fell in love with her the very first moment I saw her. We were together on the 3 day. I walked away and never looked back in my old relationship that should have ended years earlier. 1.5 years later I was so obsessed with this new woman I was with and living after 4 months that I lost myself to the relationship (I needed her to be ok, like an addict). She stuck it out for months of me been like this and she fell out of love and lost all respect for me. She found a replacement before dumping me. I have lived both ends of the coin.
Thank you thank you ! I lashed out responding to his making me anxious calling his ex to meet him.... And telling me there's so many girls in the Air... And shouting at me nonstop telling me I ruined his function cos the train was late... And telling me he has no time for me..... And telling me to jump.in the lake. Yeah I'm not crazy and then he told me that I caused him to break up.
Sometimes it is your fault! I was jelous, i was selfish, i had anxiety, i did not seek therapy for years , this pushed ger away , my negativity my BS ruined it all! I am to blame we had a great relationship and i see it now, i told her i should go back to the gym, see my friends, codependent and weak, i could not even seek therapy! I am now but have i done it back then i could have changed it all
My ex fiancé said to her friends that she’ll probably never find anyone that loves her as much as I do.. yet she still decided to leave for another guy.
My ex was abused by her step dad in a few different ways. She felt I was different and I am but then my insecurities and my own issues made her feel that I wasn't what she wanted long term. She is back with a guy she dated a year ago for two weeks and I believe he is like her step dad. He tried forcing himself on her one night when they were hanging out behind my back and he told her just really creepy things about himself when we first started dating. Trying to work on myself and hopefully we can try again someday.
Coach Craig Kenneth Glad your back coach. I believe that vacation was well deserved. And now you are back imparting your wisdom and knowledge, thanks boss.
Hello Craig! I’ve seen so many of your videos and I love them! But I have yet to see one for my situation. I had to break up with the man I still love because he still had this huge wall up between us. Did the no contact and he contacted me to blame me that one day I would regret throwing away what we had. I said if you want to talk it’s fine but I’m done with this texting back and forth. We agreed to meet then he just said “let’s cancel” the night before I said ok wished him the best and said goodbye. Please help, I’m close to getting your one on one coaching because you’re just the best! Thank you.
Craig I have a full on story I was in a LDR It would be gd too hear a vid on that topic Your pricing for coaching is far too expensive I know your worth it But it’s far too dear!
Hi Craig .. I like your work and want a coaching session . I want to book one but it doesn’t show avaliblity first it shows pay first? Also I’d like to send you an email summary first so you have a picture of my situation before we speak ..is this possible..
You make your payment and then you will get a calendar yo choose a date. I chose Margaret, and I was able to find a date 3 days forward. Craig may be more busy, dont know. You can then email them about your situation
Mine broke up with me like the 2nd email. She was crying to me on facetime that her sister was picking on her over the holiday's. Then she flipped out on me about a facebook post. She hung up the phone on me. I was asking her if she was okay, and she kept being cold, and getting colder. Finally I had enough, and I explained my value to her. She then blocked me without even saying this is over. A few weeks later she's already into a new relationship and she reaches out to me from time to time. It's confusing, but that's relationships I guess.
My ex got mad about pictures I "liked" of my friends on fb. But I "liked' them years before I even knew my ex. She went through my profile and looked for these "likes".
I recently went trough a break up (7 days ago) and I'm currently in no contact period. She has always loved me a lot (it was a long distance relationship but we already made plans on going to live together in 1-2 years) and she kept saying how she needed me to feel good and happy and that without me she was nothing etc.... We already broke up once but 2 days later she came back and she wanted to try to remain friends. I said I was ok with that and had a really good time with her and laughed a lot. 3 days after that she told me crying that she missed me and wanted to try again. We came back together but now she broke up with me again. Do I still have another chance? I really hope to get her back because we loved each other a lot and she just blocked me everywhere and doesn't want to talk with me. I really hope she comes back so that I can show her how much I have changed...
I was with my ex for 5 yrs we've been separated for 4 months. I haven't spoke to him for 3 months. He blocked me on fb & also blocked me from emailing him. Any suggestions
Hi Craig it's Noel Thomson I have lost everything my girlfriend my job and home we had a pub together and never done it before and the stress was so high she kicked me out I am on my mums couch now with nothing I am so upset I don't know what to do . I met yesterday and she was so nasty and said she was scared off me I never done anything I don't know what to do
Hey Coach, Can you do a video on unsettled grief? Like why is it a bad idea to get into a relationship right after your old one ended (and is the excuse, "I have been falling out of love," a valid excuse to get into a relationship so quickly)?
I feel very guilty...he's moved on and wants nothing to do with me. I don't think I'll ever get closure...the pain is real. I'm living in the world he left behind.
@@mayphoenix4725 I feel you.how have you been?been 7 months for me and I still cry at times.the path towards healing is not a straight one.i felt responsible for the breakup but I already forgave myself.i don't think he has forgiven me.i didn't fight for him and other issues...we have been on LDR and distance was never an issue.i already took accountability for it and sincerely apologized.there are times I beat myself up about it but that thought is fleeting unlike the first few months.the initial sting is gone but it's less now.
@@schuylerwednesday4679 +I'm fine physically but emotionally its draining. I'm too much of a people pleaser and I have a habit of feeling guilty all the time. When I was little I got blamed for a lot of stuff even when it wasn't my fault and had lots of fear that I was going to punished because I was a bad person for some reason. I was brought to care for others and put myself last. I think because of my background I became this way also I'm very empathetic with people so I already felt the need to fix things. I'm not sure how to forgive myself, I've forgiven others, but I'm stuck in the past. It's easier said than done.
@@mayphoenix4725 yea..i understand.i got low self-esteem and tend to think others are better than me.and it is really true.i just broke my no contact streak again a few minutes ago.my LDR ex called me first.the convo went ok he was acting like his usual self.then we hung up then I decided to ask for his time since I felt bad of what he said.he wasn't receptive at all and went cold on me.i foolishly asked him what he wants for us to happen in the future and he said nothing.i kind of blame myself again that I lost emotional control and made things worse between us.
@@mayphoenix4725 I have been trying meditation videos about letting go and forgiveness especially Buddhist Guide meditation.i am a beginner.i am also trying meditations on letting go.i am just going to continue with this.
Hey guys they are still looking for people! Reach out! Are you in an emotional crisis from a recent breakup and don't know where to turn? A few select individuals responding to this posting can receive free help from a group of relationship experts as part of a video presentation for a proposed reality program dealing with relationships and social behavior. You will be asked to tell your story as it is recorded so the experts can evaluate if the background meets the criteria for the above mentioned presentation. Then, If selected, you will be scheduled for a single counseling session with 3 or 4 leading experts on breakups and relationships. The content will be recorded (video and audio) via Skype and used as part of a presentation in marketing the program. The content will not be broadcast on conventional television or cable. If interested please respond to: skypeaudition1@gmail.com
“I only want what I need from someone who can’t give it to me.” Profound and so sad.
He convinced me I was to blame! Put the blame on me and I felt so guilty! I soon have learned thanks to Craig , too sides to this story! He’s had so many experiences with relationships that failed! I am done and not concerned about anyone hooking up with him! He’s a fool! I loved him to the depths. I gave him myself and my heart! I have to protect myself!
I’ve had a huge problem with beating myself up and feeling so guilty, but my best friend keeps telling me that this didn’t happen in a vacuum. It takes two. It’s hard but I’m trying not to blame either of us and learn from this.
You make a great difference in people's lives...Peace Brother
Hey buddy! Miss ya. Hope you're doing well
Coach Craig makes the best videos for us
Literally got the notification whilst thinking about my previous relationship. Thank you!
Just 8 minutes, and im starts crying.
Thanks craig, thanks for the comfort, thanks for the validation to our feeling, thanks for understand these deeply and want to teach us to grow.
Seriously, im not even good at english (im indonesian) but i learn english everyday so i could understand your lesson and hopefuly can work with your workbook.
Idk, i just want to tell u how much i appreciate u and margaret.
Thank you, good bless you.
Your videos are great. I cannot afford your coaching but your manner of video is the easiest to listen to.
Thank you so much for this one, Coach Craig! You are so genuine, and it's no wonder why people trust you so much. I struggled with blaming myself so much after my breakup. I beat myself up for a solid year. It's so easy to lose sight of what the other person did to drive us to these insane moments. Your insight has been SO helpful to me. I was with an avoidant for 5 years, and I am anxious. I felt so starved for physical and emotional intimacy. I knew something was off, and I never understood our dynamic until I found your channel. I literally felt like if I had a need in the relationship that he caught onto, he went out of his way NOT to meet it. Now, looking back, it all makes PERFECT sense. But hindsight is too harsh of a judge, and I find this video to be very comforting in that regard. Had I known then what I know now, it would have been different without a doubt... but I'm thankful to find resolve in understanding that I wasn't "crazy." Although I wish so much that I would have had the insight about attachment styles during my relationship, I know I will be in a healthy relationship in the future thanks largely to all of your advice. The next guy will get a healthier version of me, and I know I'm a better person because of all I have learned. I have Skyped with you 3 times, and you did remember me each time, even though months passed in between each session. You're the best! I want you to know that you have been a HUGE part of my healing process since I discovered your channel back in January, and I want you to know that I am a better person because of you. Thanks for all you do!! Sincerely, Rachel - the editor in Texas :)
Thank you Rachel! You are the best! When are we doing our interview ;)
Coach Craig Kenneth I have some questions for you because I've been doing further research and really want to bring this thing to fruition. I will be emailing you soon!
I have been just listening to you since I found you in September and just listening to you has helped. I’m doing this on my own - genuinely have no one - kind strangers yes- Getting thru listening to you and a discovery of ytube tarot readers - Craig I’m not a young woman, near 60 -never been thru anything like this before - so much emotion upheaval - heartache- shock exit by 5 year partner - one nite stand in a foreign country - then flew back - sold all his things and flew back in a week to live with a women he meet the week before and can’t speak English . His home - trying to start a whole new life - said he is retiring their now. Just a shock descision - flip on a coin . Hurts more as was another woman half his age - my self esteem bad - if I didn’t know about the women taking my place - it would of being easier. He won’t return .
I am sorry that you are going through this. I have done it and it has been done to me too. I was in a 13 years relationship, the last 1-2 years were really bad (fights etc) we grew apart. I didn't want to have sex with her or even see her it was mostly a routine. I went in a business trip and met a coworker which I fell in love with her the very first moment I saw her. We were together on the 3 day. I walked away and never looked back in my old relationship that should have ended years earlier. 1.5 years later I was so obsessed with this new woman I was with and living after 4 months that I lost myself to the relationship (I needed her to be ok, like an addict). She stuck it out for months of me been like this and she fell out of love and lost all respect for me. She found a replacement before dumping me. I have lived both ends of the coin.
Yes!! i am Learning and improving myself for the future.
Thank you very much Coach Craig... ❤️
Thank you thank you !
I lashed out responding to his making me anxious calling his ex to meet him....
And telling me there's so many girls in the Air...
And shouting at me nonstop telling me I ruined his function cos the train was late...
And telling me he has no time for me.....
And telling me to jump.in the lake.
Yeah
I'm not crazy and then he told me that I caused him to break up.
Sometimes it is your fault! I was jelous, i was selfish, i had anxiety, i did not seek therapy for years , this pushed ger away , my negativity my BS ruined it all! I am to blame we had a great relationship and i see it now, i told her i should go back to the gym, see my friends, codependent and weak, i could not even seek therapy! I am now but have i done it back then i could have changed it all
My ex fiancé said to her friends that she’ll probably never find anyone that loves her as much as I do.. yet she still decided to leave for another guy.
So good!!
My ex was abused by her step dad in a few different ways. She felt I was different and I am but then my insecurities and my own issues made her feel that I wasn't what she wanted long term. She is back with a guy she dated a year ago for two weeks and I believe he is like her step dad. He tried forcing himself on her one night when they were hanging out behind my back and he told her just really creepy things about himself when we first started dating. Trying to work on myself and hopefully we can try again someday.
actually that i feel today
any chance on a video of being dumped twice by the same woman and how to handle it, im heartbroken
finally, thank U Coach:)
have a nice day everone! !! :*
I was on a short vacation and didn't return until late last night
Coach Craig Kenneth Glad your back coach. I believe that vacation was well deserved. And now you are back imparting your wisdom and knowledge, thanks boss.
He abandoned me and my sweet dog! Moved 5 hours away, he did.
Hello Craig! I’ve seen so many of your videos and I love them! But I have yet to see one for my situation. I had to break up with the man I still love because he still had this huge wall up between us. Did the no contact and he contacted me to blame me that one day I would regret throwing away what we had. I said if you want to talk it’s fine but I’m done with this texting back and forth. We agreed to meet then he just said “let’s cancel” the night before I said ok wished him the best and said goodbye. Please help, I’m close to getting your one on one coaching because you’re just the best! Thank you.
In which other videos do you discuss problems with individuating from parents?
Craig
I have a full on story
I was in a LDR
It would be gd too hear a vid on that topic
Your pricing for coaching is far too expensive
I know your worth it
But it’s far too dear!
Hi Craig .. I like your work and want a coaching session . I want to book one but it doesn’t show avaliblity first it shows pay first? Also I’d like to send you an email summary first so you have a picture of my situation before we speak ..is this possible..
You make your payment and then you will get a calendar yo choose a date. I chose Margaret, and I was able to find a date 3 days forward. Craig may be more busy, dont know.
You can then email them about your situation
Mine broke up with me like the 2nd email. She was crying to me on facetime that her sister was picking on her over the holiday's. Then she flipped out on me about a facebook post. She hung up the phone on me. I was asking her if she was okay, and she kept being cold, and getting colder. Finally I had enough, and I explained my value to her. She then blocked me without even saying this is over. A few weeks later she's already into a new relationship and she reaches out to me from time to time. It's confusing, but that's relationships I guess.
She fell out of love within a month of saying it. What the fuck is love.
My ex got mad about pictures I "liked" of my friends on fb. But I "liked' them years before I even knew my ex. She went through my profile and looked for these "likes".
I recently went trough a break up (7 days ago) and I'm currently in no contact period. She has always loved me a lot (it was a long distance relationship but we already made plans on going to live together in 1-2 years) and she kept saying how she needed me to feel good and happy and that without me she was nothing etc.... We already broke up once but 2 days later she came back and she wanted to try to remain friends. I said I was ok with that and had a really good time with her and laughed a lot. 3 days after that she told me crying that she missed me and wanted to try again. We came back together but now she broke up with me again. Do I still have another chance? I really hope to get her back because we loved each other a lot and she just blocked me everywhere and doesn't want to talk with me. I really hope she comes back so that I can show her how much I have changed...
Yeah I am in the same situation. I just want to feel okay. Hope you have been able to resolve your issues.
I was with my ex for 5 yrs we've been separated for 4 months. I haven't spoke to him for 3 months. He blocked me on fb & also blocked me from emailing him. Any suggestions
Well done William. She better see you soon with 38 pounds off
Nicole Alizio hope you feeling better
William Bauer how did it go ?
update ??
Ok @5:25 ....very deep
Hi Craig it's Noel Thomson I have lost everything my girlfriend my job and home we had a pub together and never done it before and the stress was so high she kicked me out I am on my mums couch now with nothing I am so upset I don't know what to do . I met yesterday and she was so nasty and said she was scared off me I never done anything I don't know what to do
Hey Coach,
Can you do a video on unsettled grief? Like why is it a bad idea to get into a relationship right after your old one ended (and is the excuse, "I have been falling out of love," a valid excuse to get into a relationship so quickly)?
There is one on rebound relationships
I'm losing the point in attempting relationships
Let them go get Married. It's lifetime
Then they will wonder lifetime about you.
I 100% blame myself for this breakup!!
I feel very guilty...he's moved on and wants nothing to do with me. I don't think I'll ever get closure...the pain is real. I'm living in the world he left behind.
@@mayphoenix4725 I feel you.how have you been?been 7 months for me and I still cry at times.the path towards healing is not a straight one.i felt responsible for the breakup but I already forgave myself.i don't think he has forgiven me.i didn't fight for him and other issues...we have been on LDR and distance was never an issue.i already took accountability for it and sincerely apologized.there are times I beat myself up about it but that thought is fleeting unlike the first few months.the initial sting is gone but it's less now.
@@schuylerwednesday4679 +I'm fine physically but emotionally its draining. I'm too much of a people pleaser and I have a habit of feeling guilty all the time. When I was little I got blamed for a lot of stuff even when it wasn't my fault and had lots of fear that I was going to punished because I was a bad person for some reason. I was brought to care for others and put myself last. I think because of my background I became this way also I'm very empathetic with people so I already felt the need to fix things. I'm not sure how to forgive myself, I've forgiven others, but I'm stuck in the past. It's easier said than done.
@@mayphoenix4725 yea..i understand.i got low self-esteem and tend to think others are better than me.and it is really true.i just broke my no contact streak again a few minutes ago.my LDR ex called me first.the convo went ok he was acting like his usual self.then we hung up then I decided to ask for his time since I felt bad of what he said.he wasn't receptive at all and went cold on me.i foolishly asked him what he wants for us to happen in the future and he said nothing.i kind of blame myself again that I lost emotional control and made things worse between us.
@@mayphoenix4725 I have been trying meditation videos about letting go and forgiveness especially Buddhist Guide meditation.i am a beginner.i am also trying meditations on letting go.i am just going to continue with this.
Hey guys they are still looking for people! Reach out!
Are you in an emotional crisis from a recent breakup and don't know where to turn?
A few select individuals responding to this posting can receive free help from a group of relationship experts as part of a video presentation for a proposed reality program dealing with relationships and social behavior.
You will be asked to tell your story as it is recorded so the experts can evaluate if the background meets the criteria for the above mentioned presentation. Then, If selected, you will be scheduled for a single counseling session with 3 or 4 leading experts on breakups and relationships. The content will be recorded (video and audio) via Skype and used as part of a presentation in marketing the program. The content will not be broadcast on conventional television or cable.
If interested please respond to: skypeaudition1@gmail.com
Coach Craig Kenneth count me in!
Is this offer still available?
Coach Craig Kenneth I need help but ant afford it
LOL sound like my Ex.