Don't Give Up
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- Опубліковано 3 лип 2018
- Don't Give Up. Throughout most of a break up, we feel hopeless. We feel like giving up. Quitting. We get depressed and feel like it's too late to get back with an ex. Often times situations are hopeless for a period of time, but if you quit on yourself and give up on personal growth, you are only hurting your chances. Craig and Margaret talk about staying positive and focusing on personal growth as the best option to improve your chance of getting an ex back.
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I think from now on I’m going to screenshot stupid comments and put them on my Twitter. Just added one lol
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Coach Craig Kenneth. So true my wife left me for someone else. Filed for a divorce. Now where talking again after a month. Dont give up...
Hope its not one of mine 😯😯
Coach Craig Kenneth my gf just broke up with me on tuesday Craig, I initiated no contact and let her know I loved her and thought we could work through our problems and not to hesitate to call if she has a change of heart. It's been 2 days and I'm dying already.
Kory Harris at this point its about u not her. In fact that's why u feel sad. By taking care of yourself u not only attract ur x but other potential dates. Love urself and everything will fall in place.
Kaeo Tyer I appreciate that. My last ex broke up with me almost a year ago to the week and I met my latest briefly after that. I had taken time to improve on myself. I had never been so happy to have been dumped because I met someone so amazing and was much happier. I just pushed this one away with my anxiety also just 2 weeks shy of our 1 year anniversary. So I'm beating myself up for ruining another relationship. I was aware of this material and this channel after discovering it during my last breakup.
My belief is that you can give up on your ex, give up on them coming back...but don’t give up on yourself!
I absolutely adore Margaret. I feel like she can make the whole world better
If I have to wait 8 months I'll be dead from anxiety first
thank you, i was not feeling well today DONT GIVE UP
What a wonderful video! Thank you from all of us, you two are truly making such a big difference in this world! Thank you
I needed this today. It was a hard day. Thank you.
Wow, what a story! I feel for this guy. So happy he’s happy. ☺️ I was super sad today. This video came right on time. Thank you, Coach Craig and Margaret. ✨🌸♥️
Sorry to hear that your sad! Hope u feel better!
This video came at the right time, love you guys. Thanks
I agree. Do not give up! Be the star of your own movie! This is your life. Fix yourself. All will fall into place! If a man went to the moon...I can have a healthy relationship!
❤️❤️❤️ Thanks for sharing these encouraging words!
The timing of the video is impeccable. It's been so rough these past few.
Thanks for your videos. I'm so so sad today...so it's nice to watch this ❤
I needed to hear this too! It's been tough!
Everyone save yourself grief and just try to heal and move on. I had hope for 7 months. Focused on me. Improving myself. I never gave up. However, it takes two to make it work. My ex is still shut down and unwilling and when I finally got him to discuss us last night, he said he was done and I should move on. This was after 7 months of building a rapport with him again- being fun, patient and understanding. We were both texting and seeing each other- and only each other a couples times a month. Some exes have their own issues that they refuse to resolve them. Save yourself extended grief and heart ache and move on. I kept reopening that wound and I regret it. If they want you back, your ex will find YOU. Let it go. LET IT GO. 😞
Every situation is different Stacey. I warned you about your guy a long time ago. You deserve better and I made that very clear to you. The work you’ve done will pay off regardless of your ex. Which is the point we are making. Don’t give up on yourself
yes let go Stacey but the problem is how do you get the intrusive thoughts, the anxiety, the longing, and every thing else out of your mind? I am doing my part with counseling, gym, college, work and just focusing on me! but I just cant get over the fact after 15 years (9 on and off but 6 strong years) and a bad breakup just before Christmas 2018 shes in another full blown relationship within a month. I don't think its a rebound either. I live near her and my family lives on the same street and I see the guy spending nights there, doing things I was doing like yard work etc etc.. Its crushing.. so about 4 weeks now I decided not to go to my families house for a bit. It is refreshing not to see but its still in my mind. It is sad to feel in my heart she can just replace me and make it seem I never counted. HOWEVER I know in my heart i will get through this and yes I feel better than yesterday but It still comes to my mind daily. .
thanks for the kind post. Love this channel!
Ray Perez how are you doing now ?
I’m
Day 29 NC
I’m really struggling
I was coming gd
But I’ve just gone down hill again
I’m so depressed 😩
I’m doing everything I can too improve myself
But I’ve just hit a rock and been crying all morning
I salute you from my computer screen every video Sir and Ma'am. I deeply salute you! I am like your servant. I want to serve you everyday for being so helpful. I Salute you once again!
I already gave up...I see my ex frequently and he is friendly, but that is all...he shows no signs that he wants me back...I am sick and tired of thinking of him and wanting him while he does not value me at all :(
Amazing story, thank you Craig, I will do to!
thank you craig. hurtin real bad rn
Simon Cowbell hang in there
A firm reminder of just how powerful attachments can be. Learning about yourself through the wisdom of these two brilliant *awesome people* can change your life in amazing ways. (sorry, I'm not very articulate. Probably one of the reasons I'm here.) Hehe
Craig and Margaret, after watching all your videos... I'm not going to write you a hand written letter
Margaret is my spirit animal
I spent a good part of the fourth crying...sobbing... wailing. Some was done on the floor in the corner of my kitchen (in the house that we built together btw), some was done overnight. I can't eat, sleep, or stay focused. I truly feel like I am coming unglued.
aliacoo sending hugs❤
Cynthia Davison thank you 😊
I understand. It’s so painful.
I'm so sorry. I feel the exact same way right now.
Jerrold Morgan sorry to hear this. It's no fun for sure. Best of luck to you 😶
Can I get him back after massive anxiety attack and doing all the wrong things to the point that he has blocked me out of his life completely? No communication since breaking up 6 weeks ago?
I'm in a tough spot right now. My ex and I were together for 5 years, lived together for 4 of them. Serious relationship, discussed and planned for marriage, children of our own, the whole 9. I bought a house when I turned 24 and being the best option as caregivers, my niece moved in with us. Mind you, this was something my ex even suggested and supported 100%. She was an amazing mother to my niece, and still is. Our relationship was great the first 4 years I'd say. Hardly any arguments and we did fairly well with conflict resolution. The last year is really when things started to fall apart. Due to things that made me lose trust I became pretty insecure and acted out in various ways. I became a little controlling about who I didn't want her to hang out with, we would have progressively worse fights, and we both kind of started to push each other away and became distant over time. The last 3 fights I broke up with her each time because I felt we were not able to solve anything anymore. The first two we got back together the next day. Looking back, I wish I would have suggested counseling sooner. The last fight was it for her. She got all her things and moved in with her mother. She said she needs to focus on herself and she's trying to move on... The first two or three weeks I begged on occasion, cried on the phone telling her I would do anything, we even went to one session of counseling I set up. After that session we were walking to the car and she asked me, "What is your intention with this counseling", to which I replied "To mend our relationship and get back with you because I can't lose you I love you.". I returned the question and she said "I don't know what I want." After that I started no contact. A few weeks later she reached out to wish me happy fathers day via text, told me she thinks about me a lot with heart emojis and everything. Same for my birthday which was a week ago. The confusing thing is I tell her let me know when you would like to meet up for coffee and she says "That sounds good, I'll let you know". We were supposed to get coffee last weekend but she didn't follow through so I didn't even mention it. The only time we talk is about our child (my niece) and I keep it that way hoping that she will ask me to meet up sometime or give me at least some indication that she's ready for more than platonic. We have been separated for about a month and a half now and I'm starting to think there's no hope. Please give any insight you can offer, I really screwed up and I love this girl more than I could explain.
Did it ever work out?
Inspiring!!!
GREAT VIDEO!
Wow, why she felt the need to call him 8 months later? Just to tell him how bad he was? And why her current bf is calling to threaten him? She must have told the current bf that her ex is contacting her! She must be the reason why he was in the state that he was.
Wow. That’s insane. I’m glad my old girl is nothing like that
It's really hard to fight the pain when you feel at the moment that you need them to comfort you specially when your struggling into something and you remember that they were always there if something's went wrong. And now your all alone and you feel you need them specially when your up to something. Right now I'm dying inside I'm far from my family I'm working abroad and I meet her last year since then everything is fine I'm not alone. She's always there to comfort me specially when I'm struggling to something. Like what happened now I feel I need her to be here for me but we broke up already, she broke up with me and I'm alone and I feel the pain again of losing her.. Im crying now actually. I have to admit that the way she gave me the care, and love ECT friends cannot provide that only your partner. I miss her and I need her now and I'm in pain so much pain now. I'm alone. I need the one that she's providing me now but this is all a dream.. I need to be strong so that I won't break the no contact. But I want you to know couch craig the feeling is so painful I'm like dying slowly like I'm losing my breath slowly.
Same boat dude...plus I had a surgery too, the feeling of loss, the only person you had who should have been with you to care is no longer, is killing you.
I do think My situation is beyond repair. We were together for five years. we lived together for about four mounts. The reason she broke up with me was for my anger issues. You see I was never abusive it I just never really talked about my emotions I would just back off sometimes, but at this horrible moment I looked at her after a fight and in a calm and collected manner I told her I’ve accepted the fact that I will never be happy with you. We’ve been arguing about the same issue for year and her anxiety and panic attacks made it difficult for me to fix the issue and every time she had a panic attack I would just drop everything and try to comfort her. What happened recently was a girl who hates me and been harassing me for a year found out we broke up followed her as well took some pictures and now had framed me for stalking her. My ex is with a new man and it’s only been 44 days. In her eyes I am stalking her and I have no idea how to handle the situation. I have a restraining order on the girl and all the proof from her boyfriend, to clear my name but I just haven’t I can’t face her. Her dad believes me when I said it wasn’t me but I just can’t bring myself to tell my ex. I just want her to be happy even if it’s not with me. I need some advice guys :(
My ex fiancee and I split in April and spent may talking via message. Eventually she cut contact as she said it was prolonging the agony for both of us. She said she loved me and would never feel the same about anyone ever again.
I've no contact her for over 4 weeks now. For the 2 weeks prior to that I begged and pleaded and pushed her away further.
I have started making positive changes and my life has improved on a personal level. I miss her so much and I'm struggling without her.
She told my sister yesterday that she still loves me and always will. I'm very special to her but she said there is no chance of her ever getting back with me.
I'm so confused. Is she still angry and hurt and confused? My sister said she sounded adamant she's done for good. I have kept to no contact for the last 28 days.
Any help would be appreciated!
Alex Veitch do as Craig said and left her alone until she contacts you.
I am ...but I messed up with no contact ..today I just don't know how or how it got like this
What if u wanted them back at first but now your just kinda the point where u rather just be their friend if they were to come back?
Yeet Lucky you
Stacey Swope I mean I did a lot for her but for me to be with her things need to change on her part as in she needs to grow as well two weeks after she ended things with me she was with someone else and she’s been with him for like 3 months now the same probs we had in our relationship is the same one she’s gonna have with the new guy
I was with her in a relationship for one year then a situationship cuz I was waiting to get back with her hence why the situationship occurred after the first breakup she had to hide me from her mom and she’s hiding the new guy red flags tbh
I can’t go from lovers to friends. I rather cut them off for good.
@@Shon9tilR she eventually did stop talking to me cus apparently she doesn’t wasn’t her
Mom to find out we are talking still and honestly I’m glad we stopped talking she sucks major ass :) I met a way better girl who’s super cute and is very kind
Hey there Craig Kenneth and Margaret
Does no contact works on someone you have crush on ?
I broke no contact rule bout 3 or 4 times .so now lost all hope ..he replied he not going come back ..he be drinking n sounds bit angry still ..im now devastated 😭😭😭
Hey coach! I was wondering if you could do a future video about no contact when it's a woman doing it. I've noticed that a lot of people believe that no contact only works when men do it to women but not the other way around. I came across a few guys that agree that going no contact on a guy makes him think you have lost interest and thus causing him to move on. Why is this such a common belief?
That is not true. I see many women get their ex back. I even believe that men always come back because I see it all the time whereas for women coming back? I don't have faith in that.
Chris Bryant that's true...like no contact is biased towards working well for women.
Hi coach, I start giving up. I'm on day 30 of no contact. Because he is confused he is not ready for a relationship. He texted and called me on day 15 I ignored him. Now I regret I wish that I didn't. Plz coach help me I'm depressed need yr help
try 6 months lady. if he really likes you he contact you again
can you please do some content for separated couples with children ?
This is my biggest fear- that my ex would break NC just to boast about how over me they are or put me down. Then I realized the irony in that fear, which applies here; if you're so over me and or I'm such a prick; then why are you giving me attention? It's an oxymoron. 🤔
Just to put a little disclaimer my ex boyfriend is not an asshole it's just a fear I have. Sigh.
What about if someone ghost you? How do you handle that kind of breakup?
Great topic idea...
My Girlfriend has blocked me. We were so close. Didn’t end well at all. But to be so final & block me I never thought she would do that.
The upset & pain is unbearable
Petros Giorgallis I wanted to send an apology letter to her Father tho & to express my sincerity & take on a few things. Do you think that would be okay? It’s been near on 4weeks plus now. I feel it would help me & bring me peace. Plus I want some truths & love known & to apologies clearly & directly. I still care about her Family, regardless if I aruged with her Father. I’d much rather leave it on that note if things stay the same.
Petros Giorgallis It would mainly be to her Father tho, not her. The choice is my decision I know. I just want to speak my peace. I’m doing NC not sure how long I can do it indefinitely tho
Finding you coach Craig was the best thing I could have ever done I am going through a very rough situation right now. I did not treat my girl as good as I should have and she said I was mentally abusive towards her & she's done with us and I could not regret it enough. She moved out of the apartment that we are in yet we are both on the lease she said she's not coming back until I think about what the hell is going on what should I do?
dvdbnn1 the problem is I am currently unemployed and she knew that I am at the house with no food and I just cannot believe that she done me this way and I don't know what to do
dvdbnn1 we were dealing with a bed bug issue we've been living in this apartment for 4 years the upstairs unit just moved in and they brought bed bugs so I'm trying to fight that lawsuit and this is holding me back I knew something was weird when she started taking everything out of the house even her body wash and everything
I need help bad feels like I've been Left 4 Dead, I have been sleeping out in the truck with no sleep for like over a week that was my only chance to possibly get some sleep and she has the truck so I'm just screwed stuck in this apartment I have to get out of here I just don't have any money
dvdbnn1 thank u man
dvdbnn1 I broke down soon as I started reading your message bro because I know it's real, I wanted to work out used to be an athlete I'm just worried I only have 6 bottles of water left I know if I workout it's going to make me hungrier food is extremely scarce I'm going to try to take things day-by-day I contacted Church the Pastor said he will do counseling for me if I need it and he's going to look into getting me a job when he talks to the guy this evening I'm tired of crying bro I really am I can't tell you how much I appreciate you reaching out
I need some one to talk too... plz message me or contact I’m going through a hard break up ... and it’s hard to stay positive ...
Arias Feuter sorry to hear. Me too
Hey Craig have u gotten ex’s back ??
Yes
Hi Craig, no contact worked! My boyfriend and father to my unborn baby came back to me and now we are talking about moving in together. He apologized for being a dick and immature and said he loves me. He said being away from me realized how much he needed me. So thank you. I’ll always support you and watch you for relationship advice. God bless. xo
I’m happy things are turning around for you! Don’t get complacent! Keep working hard on personal growth! Things can get very difficult during a pregnancy!
Just want to say, it took a long time for me to completely get over my ex (6months) but it does happen. You'll just get over it and will be completely indifferent about whether or not they come back and you'll just go about enjoying life once again. Also dating is pretty fun, youre better off finding someone new and sharing a bunch of new experiences just my opinion
same man 6 months in and I now no longer feel anything. if she has boyfriend or not I am indifferent. finally deleted her number yesterday.
Damn, it's so easy for you two. It's been 7 months since my break-up and I still miss her, think about her most of the time, have dreams with her etc. even though I'm moving on with my life and dating other girls, but nothing will make it stop. I just wish she would call me one day and come back.
Nice man, it does feel good to finally get rid of the number and not care who shes seeing
I had dreams about my gf for 3 months every single day, you need to take your train of thought off her in your day to day life. If your thinking about her less in the day you'll eventually stop having the dreams and then will start forgetting about her more and more. If you haven't already you should have a look at corey waynes videos they're are a big help. He tells you what it means to be a proper man and goes in depth into how to have a easy fulfilling relationship
Yeah, I watched a lot of Corey's videos as well as Craig's and they really helped me out a lot. I feel much better than I did in the first 3 months after the breakup. Back then, I could barely sleep or eat and I felt so much pain I thought I was going to die. Now I'm more calm and at ease, I go out and party a lot with my buddies, I met a lot of new friends and girls, I'm working out and having a productive life. I've been in no contact for 2 months now, but I still miss her and want her back. I know now what I did wrong in our relationship and if I got a second chance I would be the perfect boyfriend that she always wanted me to be, because I've learnt so much from these videos and some articles I've found on the internet. I wish I knew all of that stuff before I met her, we would be married by now lol. I'm on the right path now and there's nothing else I can do, but to continue what I'm doing. She will either come back to me or I will find someone better. Btw I've got another date tomorrow night, so at least there's always something going on.
The boyfriend of the ex girlfriend is involved too? That girl loves drama! And I'm very good friend of my ex spouse but this is different, why I would talk about of someone is not in my life anymore with my actual partner? Triangulation, drama....
Did he drop acid? Yeah that's good for a broken heart.