I find your work to be really good. The guests have been interesting and you have such a smooth and thorough way of asking questions and delivering the message. Stay Strong
This is deep. It’s helped me acknowledge how denial leads to deeper self esteem issues because at some point you start thinking you’re the problem (oh I have an anxious attachment style so I’m hyper vigilant about things that aren’t there) and so you take on the blame while they continue being evil lol
Hi Miss Beam Holmes, wirh respect to production, meaning lighting, sound, sets and camera work, everything is well. In addition, there were some very good nuggets of information regarding how being in difficult relationships can sometiems be a trinity of sorts, Dr. Greer hinted in stems due to childhood. I think this video might have undergond more editing or maybe simply not be posted. Where I diverge is when I start disagreeing with Dr. Greer, as in how she suggests an option for relating to a mother that you don't want to move in with you is by paying her lip service. Before having a conversation, ideally it's best to be able to assess a person's state of mind and perception of reality, meaning does their reality and your reality coincide. If you disagree with a person being interviewed, and you are uncertain what they expressed is their point of view, paraphrase what they said in the form of a question to verify it. If you feel more strongly, then directly confront them and explalin how you differ in opinion and see if you and the person being interviewd can come to some understanding. At the very beginning of the interview, Dr. Greer goes into a long winded explanation, which is not such a good start. We got into some very complicated territory and a lot of different topics. Rather than cover different topics at once, might this video have been broken down into a series of videos with Dr. Greer and you covering each topic individually? I am 51, at one point earlier during my early forties, I felt compelled to confront one my parents and ask them to acknowledge that they don't behave like a parent. Prior to doing this, I went thru two years of trying to schedule what I titled, an important conversation, and each time it was dismissed due to this parent's personal issues or the holiday season. When informally researching the topic parental abuse, I've read it starts in childhood and adolescence, and if not confronted and resolved, it tends to clandestinely escalate throughout adulthood . Eventually I had that conversation, and while my parent did not openly disagree with my assessment of we relate, we did not come to an agreement on how to move forward o rebrand the relationship.
I find it very confusing. It seems to me that I am in denial by standing for my marriage. I know it's not marriage helper but it does not really resonate with the principles. You can not change them or control them ( parents, friends, spouse) you have to start the change within yourself. Just some thoughts
Denial does come back to strike. I could never fully trust my husband. After being with him a year, things changed and I just had a reoccurring gut feeling. It started to cause me to withdrawal in different aspects; sexually, emotionally, I just felt he wasn’t giving all of himself to me. Now, we are trying to figure out life after his year long affair with my “friend”. I just knew. All the way down to who he was having an affair with. Denial. I knew, but I still didn’t speak up. I have such shame from that. He is a habitual liar, I knew he wouldn’t tell the truth. Even when confronted with multiple ways, he lied. There’s a false sense of security in marriage, vows, and having a child/children. Actions speak louder than words. Strange up for yourself, respectfully. If you truly feel it, it’s there.
I find your work to be really good. The guests have been interesting and you have such a smooth and thorough way of asking questions and delivering the message.
Stay Strong
This is deep. It’s helped me acknowledge how denial leads to deeper self esteem issues because at some point you start thinking you’re the problem (oh I have an anxious attachment style so I’m hyper vigilant about things that aren’t there) and so you take on the blame while they continue being evil lol
In denial, we keep sticking our head in the sand, which always comes to bite us in the 🍑 so many aha’s in this episode 👏🏾
Thank you. Such a clear voice.
I just ordered your book. Thank you
Hi Miss Beam Holmes, wirh respect to production, meaning lighting, sound, sets and camera work, everything is well. In addition, there were some very good nuggets of information regarding how being in difficult relationships can sometiems be a trinity of sorts, Dr. Greer hinted in stems due to childhood. I think this video might have undergond more editing or maybe simply not be posted. Where I diverge is when I start disagreeing with Dr. Greer, as in how she suggests an option for relating to a mother that you don't want to move in with you is by paying her lip service. Before having a conversation, ideally it's best to be able to assess a person's state of mind and perception of reality, meaning does their reality and your reality coincide. If you disagree with a person being interviewed, and you are uncertain what they expressed is their point of view, paraphrase what they said in the form of a question to verify it. If you feel more strongly, then directly confront them and explalin how you differ in opinion and see if you and the person being interviewd can come to some understanding. At the very beginning of the interview, Dr. Greer goes into a long winded explanation, which is not such a good start. We got into some very complicated territory and a lot of different topics. Rather than cover different topics at once, might this video have been broken down into a series of videos with Dr. Greer and you covering each topic individually? I am 51, at one point earlier during my early forties, I felt compelled to confront one my parents and ask them to acknowledge that they don't behave like a parent. Prior to doing this, I went thru two years of trying to schedule what I titled, an important conversation, and each time it was dismissed due to this parent's personal issues or the holiday season. When informally researching the topic parental abuse, I've read it starts in childhood and adolescence, and if not confronted and resolved, it tends to clandestinely escalate throughout adulthood . Eventually I had that conversation, and while my parent did not openly disagree with my assessment of we relate, we did not come to an agreement on how to move forward o rebrand the relationship.
I find it very confusing. It seems to me that I am in denial by standing for my marriage. I know it's not marriage helper but it does not really resonate with the principles. You can not change them or control them ( parents, friends, spouse) you have to start the change within yourself. Just some thoughts
lower egypt, is de nile😇🙏❤️
Denial does come back to strike. I could never fully trust my husband. After being with him a year, things changed and I just had a reoccurring gut feeling. It started to cause me to withdrawal in different aspects; sexually, emotionally, I just felt he wasn’t giving all of himself to me. Now, we are trying to figure out life after his year long affair with my “friend”. I just knew. All the way down to who he was having an affair with. Denial. I knew, but I still didn’t speak up. I have such shame from that. He is a habitual liar, I knew he wouldn’t tell the truth. Even when confronted with multiple ways, he lied. There’s a false sense of security in marriage, vows, and having a child/children.
Actions speak louder than words. Strange up for yourself, respectfully. If you truly feel it, it’s there.