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Loved this!

2:15 personal injury 2:55 social media, share communication 3:58 helped his law firm 4:30 opportunities 5:40 cant go on trip

Wife refused any counseling to save the marriage. Her only friends for years outside our marriage were divorced. THAT poisoned her. She finally screwed her coworker who of course supported and encouraged her to divorce me. 17 wasted years with her. And sicker than that, I want her back and still miss and love her 26 years later. We have never talked since I recieved the divorce papers.

Grateful for this video, I needed to hear it today. At 10:57 Mr. Mathews spoke a truth into me that was painful to receive, but so needed. Hope, what a powerful force it is....I am a Christian and this past year I've discovered Lamentations in a deeper way....Chapter 3:24 "The LORD is my portion says my soul, therefore I will HOPE in him". It is indeed a grief that we walk daily and the PIES have been such a helpful framework to rebuild. Thank you for the great work you do.

Do not recommend people to move on after divorce. Let each person decide. It is true that you don't want to be in waiting mode and be stuck. But moving on is not everyone's cup of tea.

10:33 this sounds like a good strategy to get opposing counsel all worked up at the beginning with a strategic plan to quickly calm yourself knowing you just got them all worked up and they may stay that way

Or maybe he’s an alcoholic in denial and won’t go to therapy or get meds

Thanks for the recap

Such a great topic! I enjoyed listening to Jefferson's calming responses and had a lot of takeaways that I'll be using effectively in my next discussions. Jefferson's tips are of huge benefit as I've been following him for some time now. Thanks!

Great episode, enjoyed the clinical review of brain fog research …..need for adequate hydration is something I perpetually miss the mark on. It would be interesting to review research on the effects of long term distress (i.e. divorce, homelessness, chronic disease) on brain fog. I can speak to the experience of a long and painful ongoing divorce that has undoubtedly resulted in brain fog in some of the domains you covered.

22:33 thanks for a great interview. I am stuck on the one thing related to post traumatic growth. Is Dr. Tedeschi saying that anxiety is a factor prior to people experience experiencing post traumatic growth? After 3 brain hemorrhages and, brain surgery and living with deficits after hemorrhagic stroke I feel like I’ve experienced post traumatic growth over the years but can’t say that I ever had anxiety. I’d love your thoughts.

How do I get guidance from this person, I’m in need of it!

I really love her research but, hearing about the whole trying out when younger and marriage later, I rather be the man who women try out with. I don't know how many men would consciously accept this. I hope someone talks about this even further because this seems kind of an empty way of being.

THANK YOU MADAM .LOVE U SOO MUCH❤❤❤❤

I have no hobbies or life. All work and no play. weve talked about it. But nothing changes. I resent getting married.i give and give. I wanna kill myself when im sad. I hate what my life is at 54. F it.

I have been listening to you and your father for about a week now nonstop. My husband left during our Thanksgiving holiday and I was completely taken by surprise. I was 4 months pregnant. I really tried and studied how to communicate with him and even tried different communicate styles, but I always felt like he was not listening at all. To date, we are separated and going through divorce proceedings, and when I have to bring anything up about the children being hurt/embarrassed by his mother he gets super angry and leaves. He will not communicate and I feel like he is not open to think that his parents are less than perfect. It makes him more angry when he yells at me that I don't get as emotional as he does and has told me that it means I don't care about the topic. How should I address any of the issues if he doesn't seem to want to communicate at all?

I committed to saving my marriage before my husband left our home. I have tried a lot of these things, but I feel like nothing is helping. He continues to not communicate and seems determined not to come back. I am praying constantly because I know God is for marriages! I will continue to try and work and will stay committed because I love this man and he is my God ordained husband until death do us part.

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How do I find the questionnaire!!!?

Kimberly, thank you for doing a recap at the end. Why don’t more hosts do that?

Oh, so now I had to look up what Texas Sheet Cake is... .Well, thank you, I guess! 😛

Genesis 3.16 she will be contrary to her husband.

I love that.. pinch a penny into a dime😅

interesting voice lovely expressions beautiful movements ❤❤❤❤

Wow 😮 provocative topic! Intriguing responses.

Great episode, I enjoy and I'm edified anytime I hear or read Dr. Wilcox's work....he cites sound research and informs the listener with sound commentary. Thank you again for having him on!

How do i do the work??

Too much work. Good advice though. I am better off single

My husband filed for divorce and he will not talk to me about anything. He says I treated him awful and he is done. Nothing is going to change. Please help

we haven’t separated or divorced but i know he is seeing someone else. he says he loves me but not in love with me. This just does not seem to be repairable. 😢

I would have to agree with your statement about counseling, making things in a marriage worse🤷🏻‍♂️ because that was my experiencez

Essentially, know how to walk on eggshells for people, because people are emotional children... Pathetic!

Yes

Listened to this before when it was first posted. Listened to this again just now. The collab from MH and the Gottman Institute is always a YES go for me. Thank you!

Thank you!

Very good communication Grazie

I’ve been following Marriage Helper for a minute, but I just stumbled across this channel right now. Needed this video for real.

I think I’ve gone through so much of those feelings that I just try to feel peace within myself at the time being. It’s been 2 years since the 14 years of confusion ended. I’m tired of running, trying to show compassion, anger, understanding. Pretty much be a firefighter with just a tad too little water to put out the little fires everywhere. I might’ve thought that I was an Atlas to her world, but even he has to put the world down and rest a while. It is what it is, and she is who she is. You simply can’t fix damaged people, they must fix themselves.

There are a bunch of great points in this video! One comment on the fertility, there was some good things pointed out, but you completely skipped the nutritional and enviromental standpoint! Those companies you mentioned are some of the big perpetuators of this. Please help people realize how big an impact things such as micro plastics, endocrine disruptors, fluoride, and birth control have on this! I think few to many understand this and how big an impact it has, and also a lot of woman and men do not understand well the biological clock that is running against them for having children. Mostly for woman it will be significantly harder to have children later on because of the limited number of fertile eggs, as well as that it will affect their body a lot more, because it is much harder to recover. Besides that, keep up the great work! Sincerely, JS

How does one get clarity if there is no clear communication? My fiance is in a relationship with my ex best friend. I know I need to work on me, but he is like your husband was in your marriage. It is 20 years down the line and 2 kids later 😢

I betrayed my wife if she was to listen to this she would just say that I am putting all the Blame on her!!! I dare you to reply

I still use my device but got rid of my socials. I just use this thing to learn. Thank you Kimberly! I saw a video 8 months ago about PIES! I got into the best shape! Doubled my salary! Went to therapy and learned about our father ❤

Most people can't answer this. But one thing I know is that everyone wants to feel good about themselves. Do and say things that uplifts the other person instead of bringing them down.

My husband just told me today that he wants a divorce (he found out I had an emotional affair with someone from my past). The hardest part for me is that this is the only real conflict we have had in our 7 years together and he just wants to throw in the towel. I've talked to him about working together to address the root of the issue, but right now he is stonewalling me. In the meantime, I'm going to use your advice, especially paying attention to changing some things that I do that might ne pushing him away. I'm glad I found this video. Thank you ❤

How can I help my husband who is addict . My husband felt home for 3 weeks now . Everyone is telling me to leave the marriage and move on 😔 what should I do . And he’s phone number is not reachable. Please someone should help .

What if you are already divorced 40 days and 6 month apart?

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7 STEPS 1)Calm down 2)Clarity 3)Pull spouse closer 4)Forgive & reconcile 5)Rebuild trust 6)Igniting intimacy & passion 7) Creating a dream life together

My pastor who is the best bible teacher in the world (my opinion) says councilors are a huge waste of money. He had the fourth largest southern Baptist church in Texas for 15 years until he resigned and left the SBC because it’s gone to the dogs. I found out from a friend who went to his church that he was moving to the Taos NM area and startling an online church. I had left all churches and anything related because I thought the church twisted the Bible. When I met with him (Dr. Randy White) I discovered that what I was sensing the church was doing is exactly why he quit FB Katy TX. I’ve had a rough rough rough 34 years of marriage given my wife is a devout Baptist and Beth Moore type believer and no amount of counseling can break the ties that control her. Dr White told me that he would not see a counselor and might have to accept that it doesn’t work and can’t be fixed. I believe that if one will listen to this woman or the woman at the happy marriage school they can have a happy marriage

This is deep. It’s helped me acknowledge how denial leads to deeper self esteem issues because at some point you start thinking you’re the problem (oh I have an anxious attachment style so I’m hyper vigilant about things that aren’t there) and so you take on the blame while they continue being evil lol