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We Had A Fight. It Got Bad. / Squirmy and Grubs
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Shane Burcaw (he/him) is the author of several award-winning books about disability. He is the President of a nonprofit organization called Laughing At My Nightmare, and a renowned public speaker who has performed across the country at places such as Harvard University, The University of Florida, The University of Connecticut, Princeton University, and many more.
Hannah Burcaw (she/her) graduated from Carleton College, where she studied Sociology and Anthropology. She films and edits the “Squirmy and Grubs” vlog, which has over 800,000 subscribers on UA-cam. Hannah has spoken at prestigious universities and Fortune 500 companies alike about the realities of ableism. On her popular Instagram account, she advocates for acceptance of all people and works to improve the way society thinks about disability.
Shane and Hannah have been together for over four years. They got married in September of 2020 in the midst of a global pandemic in their backyard, with their officiant conducting the ceremony via Zoom. Their interabled relationship often confuses people, because much of society still cannot fathom people with disabilities being involved in loving, intimate relationships. Anyone who watches these episodes will quickly see their relationship is just as “normal” as any other. Sure, Hannah helps Shane use the bathroom and brush his teeth, but those activities do not detract from the emotional, intellectual, and physical connection they experience together.
Let's talk about how healthy it was that her mother heard the first signs of conflict, and turned her tv *up* to not overhear the conversation. Parents, Learn!!!
right? Haha my family would all come running and put their ears to the door. sigh 😥
I think its important to remember that as people, we have the ability to tune things out or simply not talk about it. Even if the television is on regardless. I dont think its a question of healthy or unhealthy. Parents dont determine the health of their childs relationship. Its just simply being accountable. At the same time, there are times when couples need a parent to step in because its the couple that is not mature enough to see their own problems. Just because you're in a relationship, doesnt make you mature enough by virtue of it
Yes, stay out of your kid's relationships. What happened is a normal part of married life .
@@Skatejock21 The point is, she was giving them their privacy. Doesn’t matter if you don’t blab, if you’re still being nosey yourself!
@@mincedmash796 what the fuck. why would you type that here
Whenever I or my partner have a problem, we will ask the other, "Do you want help solving, or do you just want to vent?" And it has helped tremendously with these misunderstandings. Sometimes people just want to complain!
Oh my gosh…so simple yet so brilliant!
@@thatveganchick668 yf
Wow I love this. I will 100% be discussing this approach with my partner. Thank you for sharing!!
Yep! I read that you’re supposed to ask - “do you want an ear or a solution”. We don’t always remember to do this but we’re trying!
I love it
Shane is like, "I'm mad! Hannah, throw that plate against the wall for me!"
This was the cutest discussion of a fight ever. I especially loved the “did you just take my sock off aggressively?!?” 😂 11:45
I’ve been with my husband 24 years and it’s always the “small things” when tired, long day or nothing is going right, that turn into some of the biggest fights. I loved hearing how the two of you worked through it together. Laughter is always the best “medicine” ❤️
@@mincedmash796 você é ridículo.
@@mincedmash796 do you speak English? What you said made absolutely no sense 🙄
So mincedmash when you get into arguments with your partner do you try to prevent them from peeing or pooping? If I ever had to sit in poop because my "care giver" was "mad" she would be immediately fired and much more... 😐
These 2 are literally the greatest story tellers of all friggin time. 🤣 Shane's "you are a MEAN person ..... 😳" I'm cracking up. I could never love another couple more, i swear i couldn't.
Humor is ALWAYS necessary in a healthy marriage 🤣 From someone who has been married for almost 35 years ♥️
😂😂 I agree, my hubby always finds a way to make me laugh after a silly argument! It works and then we talk about it and fix the issue lol
@@ericcartman9042 OH GOSH!
When are you guys going to over this? How long do these guys have to be together and married till you'll accept it? As if it's any of our business to begin with!
Can't y'all just scroll on by and NOT WATCH THEIR VIDEOS if you only have bad shit you're going to say?? BECAUSE YOU KNOW IT BEFORE YOU EVEN WATCH! JUST MOVE ON!
I mean you truly CAN NOT FEEL GOOD ABOUT YOURSELF AND YOUR LIFE if you have to attempt to bring others down. JUST BECAUSE YOU AND YOUR LIFE SUCKS SO BAD!!
@@ericcartman9042 You're truly out of your mind. And COMPLETELY MEAN. AND MEAN SPIRITED!!! I'm so glad that they don't give people like you the time of day.
GET A LIFE! And please just STOP trying to bring others up. Truly..... Attempt to bring someone UP tomorrow. You'll be amazed at how much better it makes you feel about yourself!
@@ericcartman9042 why are you so mad? Is it just because Shane and Hannah are happy and you’re not?
@@ericcartman9042 if its not real. Explain the wedding rings on their fingers. Typical chode lol
I know the look in Hannah's eyes well, it's some sort of combination of wanting to humor your spouse while feeling in your bones that you're right and knowing other women would have your back 🤣
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Shane needs to immediately watch the Parks & Rec episode where Chris learns that sometimes he just needs to say, “That really sucks, I’m so sorry,” to Ann instead of trying to solve her problems. 😁
He is a very mean person iam glad she leaving him
I thank it funny so the mean person can by hime self hope he has fun staying
He cant give here kid that wont be his kid and way he can be mean to him self i cant stand him he is so mean to here if that was me i wood leave to so by hannah run fare way frome the dirt bag he thank he nose everything i like here she a beautiful person so she doesnt need him she has any boyfriend when sheleave him i thank it so funny
I know him very well that why his other gril friend left beause he was mean to them i hate him so much iam glad she not having ababy by him beause he like it quite she having the baby by someone else
Humor can be such a bridge, and I love it that you both can use it that way. One time I was dealing with a conflict with someone in my life and feeling horrible about them thinking I did something wrong (and having told me so). I confided in another friend about the whole situation, which had been taking up all of my mental space. My confidant was learning to play the banjo and made up an impromptu song out of the unkind words I’d been told, and just sang them to me over and over in a very goofy voice. At first, I bristled with indignation, but as with Shane’s exaggeration, it ended up being really funny to me, and it was kind of like an antivenin. Because the hurtful words had been repackaged in a silly (and ultimately, loving) context, I got hilariously inoculated against my earlier distress about them. I still think of it as one of the most generous acts of emotional triage a friend has given me. Hooray for your great communication skills as a couple, and for what sounds like a willingness to keep growing and adding to your relationship toolkit. I’m a fan of your emotional intelligence and teamwork. Thanks for sharing with us.
the star of this event was Mom! she's a wise woman. two things to take away from this: mind your own business and own your own faults. just one more way you've added value to my day. and don't forget the importance of humor. thanks
First, you two have such an amazing relationship. It's impressive to see how healthy your relationship is. Second, thank you for sharing this information with us. Too often, social media posts give the impression that everything is always wonderful. This can make viewers feel badly that their own lives are not so perfect. Third, this is a very common issue between men and women. Men feel the need to fix the problem the woman is having because they want to help. It often turns out badly, because the woman feels like the man is TELLING her what to do, not just making suggestions. Also, women often just want someone to listen to them and be sympathetic. Men usually don't understand that and start making "helpful" suggestions to try and fix the problem.
This is a big fight? Oh boy. This is why I love watching yall. I genuinely find your content really helpful. I would like to be calmer and more patient with my long term partner.
I’m new to the channel and I have to say the love and mutual respect you have to each other comes through loud and clear.
You are such a well grounded couple. You are blessed to have found each other, be blessed.
Omg!!!! I just finished watching this video, I was laughing so hard I was crying. I LOVE YOU TWO♥️♥️
Wow, their “big fight” is like a daily passive aggressive response where I am from lol
Right
😂 I started to think, wait is this the bad fight that might have only happened a total of 3 times?? Amazing lol
Lol I know, right? My husband tells me things that are 1000 times worse than “you’re a mean person”. I envy their relationship!
....This thread is depressing. My partner doesn't do that to me.
@@Florette439seriously, I'm right there with you!
I always appreciate you guys sharing the ugly parts too, because the younger crowd viewing your videos that sees them and models their relationships after them will know it's natural to have those moments and it will normalize healthy communication for them. There is too much toxic positivity on the internet but you guys are a great model for healthy, balanced relationships! :)
If that was your biggest fight than me and my husband are monsters! I so enjoy these videos! Your love and respect for each are couple goals! Found you a couple weeks ago and have been binge watching every chance I get. I just love you guys!
Omgosh, same!!😂
Welcome to the fam!
@@karengarner9839 🤗
Well we will just let you know right now, "Hannah's mean". Lol
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I love these 2, sooo cute. " You are a mean person- OHH NOOO" 🤣
Hannah's hair looks gorgeous! Just wanted to share that.
The way she looks at him, its precious
Wow! You guys really make me look at my relationship and realize I’ve been too serious..thank you for being so honest ❤️ It’s refreshing
"Did you just take off my sock aggressively?" LOLOLOLOL I laughed so hard my belly hurt.
That part cracked me up too! I’m disabled with spine and joint problems and sometimes need help with things like dressing myself so I will be saving that line to make my husband laugh, which I love to do 🥰
"It was a dark and stormy night." Shane starting things with a quote from Snoopy - Priceless!
When even your fights are funny, you know you have something special.
You are both pure delight. The most genuine, authentic, joyful couple online.
Yes, a relationship where a woman has to do 100% of the work. So romantic and beautiful.
@@mrtony80 if she wants to do it for him then what's the problem? She chose it.
Humor goes a long way in cultivating a good marriage. You both are very uplifting.
You know you have a great relationship when you can look back and laugh about your fights and be able to talk about what happened.
You guys are so damn funny, just how you two remember that you were both angry at the time but that fact your two are laughing about it now is so hilarious and adorable
One time years ago, my wife got mad I threw out some duck sauce accidentally and it resulted in us getting in a huge fight and she slept on the couch. We laugh about it now!!
why her?
@@johnvelas70 Probably a lesbian thing.
Ask Hannah .
@@scatterednotes6088 🙄
@@scatterednotes6088 ?????
After almost 20 years of marriage, during these kinds of episodes, I have learned just straight up ask "is this a 'just let me vent' situation, or an 'I want advice' situation. (It's always a 'let me just vent' situation)
I think guys have to learn to ask that question and women have to learn that their husbands can't read our minds. A lot of men immediately offer solutions when their wife comes to them to discuss an upsetting issue. My husband does it too. He has learned over our 23 year marriage that I often just want to vent and he will now ask if that's what I want.
As for me, I've learned that my husband can't read my mind about something I want or need from him. For example, early in our marriage I had expectations about having a super romantic 1st anniversary. Instead of telling him that, I expected him to know it. When he didn't do much for the big day as I was imagining, I was crushed. Now I know better! If I want a romantic anniversary, I have to tell him beforehand. I spell it out and I've never been let down or disappointed again since I've learned this.
I'm just pausing the video to let you guys know that I really appreciate the healthy communication between you two. I also can somehow see how much you adore the other with such pure intentions. Also I think I'm gonna follow this channel. Lots of love all the way from Turkey!!
"Do you want comfort or solutions?" is a fab tactic in any relationship x
Hannah's poor Mom! LOL I can just picture Liz crankin' up the volume! So funny. Terry and I have had some doozy fights too and we continue to love each other more everyday! Thanks for sharing this so real moment with us all!
I love how it’s taken 4 days before you can talk about it!! Shows it’s a fab relationship as you can discuss it and talk through it. Fights are normal and I would have wanted an apology too lol!! Hannah your hair looks awesome like that by the way xx
It says a lot about your relationship when you can have a fight and laugh about it later! Welcome back to the Tundra BTW😀
This is such a common dynamic! Men (most) tend to try to 'fix' things and women, in general, just want support with their 'feelings' about what's happening. Love you two!😘
You guys are just awesome. I cannot begin to express how refreshing it is to see the topics you choose to speak about. It’s different than all the others. They are things we all go through, but don’t talk about. Thank you for being so open. You are teaching so many people what a healthy, stable, respectful relationship looks like. And Shane, I’m not kidding..you make me laugh. Really laugh. I smile throughout your entire videos. Thank you. 💕
I'll be modeling Shane's fearless use of humor - gorgeous, effective way to bring a fight to a close. Learned a lot. Thank you for posting.
You have a great relationship. That's how you were able to think over what you argued about!
I would do the same thing. Not listen to my daughters and my son in laws fights or arguments unless I heard something hitting someone then I would get involved but so far so good. With the two of them. I don’t take sides neither. It’s between the two of them
@@sharonbrown6595 Nicely put!👍😊
@Mimi Channel bot
WOW ! ! !
So you two ARE actually human ! ! !
We all get in fights with our significant other, it's how you work it out that matters... nobodies perfect, but being able to admit when you are wrong goes a long way in forgiveness...
Love you guys...
Haha for the ad, I heard you saying "Hairy's" I was like wow, very straight to-the-point, no beating round the bush company name. 😊👍.. 😂
OMG I ❤️ You Guys!!!! You are the most down to earth loving couple who are ABSOLUTELY PERFECT for each other!!!!!
“I will die on this hill” 😂🤣😂 You two are great! My husband & I fight over dumb stuff too and say stuff we don’t mean. We are usually back to normal within 15 minutes, if it’s a bad fight which is rare it could be an hour but we usually break the ice with laughter. Good story guys :) I love your videos.
I do not know how anyone could think you two are not married, because this fight happens in every marriage. ♥ ☺
Another perfect example of how real and healthy your relationship is. Thanks.
Love this. Sometimes it’s the little things combined with being tired that lead to the most real fights hahaha. The number of fights I’ve had with my partner just because we have different ideas about our cats personality… is absurd lol. But sometimes it’s the tone and the time and the place. Being able to laugh it off after is so crucial ♥️
Your cats personalities?! 😂😂😂
@@realcanadiangirl64 first world problems!! Their cat 😸 😂😂
You guys are literally the symbol of everything that’s good in this world. Gosh ❤️
Question for you guys (I’m only halfway through so far, so I apologize if you address it later on), but do you feel the dynamics of your fighting is different due to the caregiving aspect? I know often times couples take time apart after an argument to cool off. Since Hannah provides Shane assistance with physical tasks such as the nighttime routine, do you find that aspect of your relationship makes the aftermath of your arguments better or worse (like, does it break the silence/ease tension, or do things still sometimes remain tense through those moments?). Just interested to know how arguments impact your daily routine.
(This question isn’t intended to be offensive so I hope you don’t take it that way! I ask with the utmost respect for you both. You guys are wonderful and thank you for sharing your lives with us! ❤️)
This is such a good question. I hope they talk about it.
I can’t speak for this exactly, but I have noticed after a fight with my husband that it helps to do something like ask him if he wants a cup of coffee, bring him a cup randomly, or some other thing I do for him. It helps break the tension in mine big time lol.
“….here’s your after work coffee. So did you talk to your sister today about that get together?” Bam. Back to normal. Lol
My husband and I are the same way. Hannah I am so with you! My husband is always quick to offer his "solutions" too. Now I have learned to say "Don't fix this problem. I am just venting my frustration." My husband still has not mastered how to not try to solve my problems and he has been working at it for 20 years. :D
You guys should look into a whole house humidifier. It has helped my family with dry skin so much, especially in the winter months. ❤️
Also, aveeno baby for eczema .. I am an duly.. last winter was soo harsh on my skin.. and I used this…
Husband/wife, father/son, brother/sister, best friends, etc....relationships get messy sometimes. I have never regreted taking a moment to take a step back for a few hours or half a day to reflect on what I said in the heat of the moment, or take some time to understand what the other person is truely trying to say. Thanks for sharing a challenging moment in you lives.
Yes! I do that all the time. If my spouse is hurt, I’m taking an hour to really think on what I said because if I overstepped or was in the wrong, I need to go and genuinely apologize. Then I try to find a way to prevent it if it’s something that became a habit. What we do after the arguments or fights is sometimes the most important part.
The willingness to swallow pride, be honest, and consider the other eventually will no doubt keep your marriage flourishing. It's always encouraging to me when i watch your videos...
When he said "you're mean", I thought it would lead to Shane sleeping on the couch! Love that you are both so real!
My grandma always said ", never go to bed angry" .
This is so incredibly healthy !!! Thank you for sharing and being real and modeling how to resolve conflict without animosity or grudge holding.
This is really open and honest and really allows an insight into your life just as much as anything else you've shared as a couple!
Hannah is truly one of the most beautiful girls I have ever seen! You guys are a match made in heaven and I'm soo glad you guys share your lives with us ❤️ I feel loved
I liked how Shane started the story "it was a dark and stormy night" which wasn't 😂. Like if he was telling kids an imaginary story before they go to sleep 😂
I've been married to the same person for 31 years and we always get over any fight very quickly.... You two are gonna make it! My hubby and I have done the same thing...lol
You guys are hysterical!! My hubby and I have had this fight a few times over 35 years and Shane's approach to taking a stand after a major faux pas reminds me so much of my husband. And the terrified look of acknowledgement is exactly the same. LOL LOL Luckly, like you guys, we always wind up laughing at ourselves a few days later. You have a very blessed union!
This level of open and honest communication and self reflection is heartwarming and bodes well for a long healthy relationship!
Glad you can work thru the fights and thanks for being real with us, Yu are great!
Every married couple has been there. Great that you can look back and see where the moment went wrong. On the bright side, this made me laugh out loud. Nothing worse than technology problems.
THIS is one of your best videos ever. How silly most of our disagreements are....however aggressively removing socks is over the line. LOL really enjoy your videos!!!!
I’ve been married for 38 years and my husband LOVES to use humor to get past arguments but I need to take some lessons from y’all on accepting the humor and gel it sweat the small stuff. I’m enjoying your channel.
It took me a couple of years to realize fighting at night is almost always about being tired. I would get so upset and then we would go to sleep. The next day we would talk and make our apologies. We learned to recognize when we had a legitimate issue and when we were just tired and picking at each other. I am glad you both are adult enough to take responsibility for your own behaviors. Having said that, I am divorced and have no significant other so what do I know? 😉
LOL I tried marriage 3 times! 3 strikes I am out 😂. I have had a long term relationship but I will never get married again. I don't even want to live with a man. Date be together yes...live together nope 🤣🤣🤣🤣
@@sherribell4032I feel the exact same way. I don't think I could ever live with a man again. We have more than just our first name in common. 😂🤣
Such a wonderful exchange-you made me laugh and laugh with acknowledgement and commiseration. You are so good to share this with us, laughing all the way!
You two are so awesome; you even fight awesomely!!! Everyone fights some time and how you forgive and move forward will make it a happy and life long marriage! Congrats!!!
@@mincedmash796 You keep asking this but I am genuinely confused about the question, and why you seem to need the answer so badly lol.
I can’t even think of a way to answer that. Can a person not be capable of having a fight if they have to help the person do something shortly after? I don’t get it.
Because me and my husband can have a nasty fight and I’m still capable of helping him find the phone charger when he asks an hour later. He’s still capable of stopping at the pharmacy for me and grabbing my medication. So…yeah. You can have fights and also be an adult and help your spouse afterwards.
I feel you Shane. I typically jump into fix it mode as well which is not always received with the appreciation and enthusiasm that it should!!!.. lol. I'm working on learning to listen as well 😄
I totally related to that argument. lol Just went through something very similar... and I get really frustrated if my husband keeps talking while I'm trying to read something when I'm overwhelmed. We don't fight much but when we do, we also get over it pretty fast.
I hope that’s as serious as any of you arguments ever get!! Laughter is the best medicine. Glad you both could laugh at yourselves! ❤️❤️🙏🙏
I love you guys you are a good example of a loving relationship. Shane your face when you knew you F-ed up was hilarious and you kept on going it made me laugh out loud. Hannah is a wonderful partner. My husband and I fight like that but we don't talk about it like this it inspires me to get over fights and laugh about it like you did.
Glad you shared this real moment. None of us are perfect and this stuff makes us grow and be better humans. ❤️❤️
Oh, you guys are so, so precious! Yes, real relationships are not always smooth sailing, but when love and humor are both present, the storm swept seas are survivable- and become subjects of funny stories in the future!! Staying angry over nothing becomes toxic. You two are the OPPOSITE of toxic!!❤❤❤
I can really sympathize with her. Sexual frustration can lead to a lot of conflicts in any relationship.
your narrow view of sex and your drive to try hurt people who are happy tells us a lot.
Sounds like you're well versed in sexual frustration.
@@saucyandgramps6612 he’s used to it, though.
@@professorlib that’s exactly what I said. and that’s why I made the comment. Not sure how it wasn’t obvious.
@Joshua’s HAUS I already said that.
This is the healthiest discussion of a couple having an argument I’ve ever heard. You have so much respect for each other and the humor really defuses any tension
Communication is the best source of good in a marriage. Always communicate and I so agree that humor is the best medicine… sending hugs prayers and kindness ❤️🙏🏼🌹👍🏼🤗.
you guys, for the Midwest winter nose peeling issue I highly recommend CeraVe healing ointment! I put it around my nose/eyes after my usual moisturizer in the winter here -- it's a game changer 🙌
Local bee's wax is good too. 🐝 💕D
Aquaphor is another good option
Came on here to say that too! Such a great occlusive!
If CeraVe or something else doesn't work, I highly recommend coconut oil. It's the only thing that works for me.
I Loveeeeeee this video! Sounds weird I know…. But I love the realness and relatable videos. Shows you are both still human ❤️
Who would have ever thought that “you are a MEAN person” are fighting words. 😂🤣. I love Shane narration that included his inner dialogue. I knew immediately that I was in the wrong but I doubled down and decided that it was the hill I chose to day on. 🤣😂🤣😂💖💕👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
"You're a mean person" sorta reminds me of the old kidhood retort, "You're a big fat doody bomb"! But frustration does make one short. Glad you got the video running and the fight straightened out.
You guys are almost at a million!👏 Let's get these guys over!😊
Shane, you are looking good! Energetic and animated. Good to see! I am 17 years married and these things do happen. Maturity gets you through it and you both definitely have that.
This was so relatable!! Nothing like technical issues to get a fight going. I laughed more at this video than any of the others I've watched because it totally reminded me of tech fights in our home.
This is IMPORTANT for people to understand. This is a fundamental fight-starter! Also, it's beautiful to see that y'all have a method of working through fights. You're such a good match! Last thing: men, we don't always want a solution. Sometimes, a cheerleader or grumble buddy is better. Maybe just offer snacks...
What's funny to me is that my husband and I had almost the EXACT same fight years ago! I was on desktop computer and had been working on something for a long time. I was already frustrated ... I can't remember exactly why. I think it was because the computer just kept spinning and I was so afraid of losing what I'd been working on. So my husband comes in from work and does exactly what Shane did. HAHAH! I think it's in the genes for men to be this way. I got SO angry. But what really set me off was that he said, "You better just calm down RIGHT now!" This, my friends, is THE worst thing anyone can say to me. HAHAH! I can laugh now but the situation quickly devolved into a screaming fight.
When I am invited to a wedding, I always write these words of advice in the card: “Live fully, love freely, and laugh often.” I’ve been married 40 years.
This is the first video I watched of yours. I must say, the love that shows through your communication and humorous remarks brings me so much warmth. You are an inspirational couple because of this ability you both have. Thank you for sharing your lives with us. 💖 I cannot wait to watch more videos.
@@mincedmash796 you and I have very different inspiration scales. Do you watch so you can get some how to tips?
@@mincedmash796 So you are picking up tips. I am so happy for you. It is wonderful that UA-cam can bring us together to share gratitude for this channel in our different ways. :)
@@mincedmash796 I think you are mistaken that I was looking for tips. I was not.
My wife and I have been together for nearly 11 years and married for 9 years; since the beginning of our relationship our biggest rule has always been to never go to bed angry at each other. We have literally spent the entire night until the wee morning hours talking. It’s not for everyone but it works for us.
You two are just adorable! Remember fights are normal in Marriages. It's cute you two can let us know about it in a playful, fun matter too. Talking it out is key. You both are cool.
Love your guys' openness and transparency and hilarity.
Omg! Y’all are so funny!! Shane has the funniest faces when describing the whole thing! 🤣🤣🤣
I have learned over a lifetime, that when I am tired, things can escalate into ridiculous arguments etc. So now, I give a warning - ' you know I am tired and have entered the no-sense-of-humor zone" . Do not mess with me. Hubby has learned to leave it when that warning is issued. Both of us are better for it. It sounds like you guys handled it just fine from start to finish. Well done.
You two are so cute! We should all be able to learn valuable life lessons from you both. It is so evident that you love each other. Thanks for keeping us smiling!
"Did you just take my sock of aggressively"
Lol that is gold🤣
Aggressively!!!!!!!😂😂😂
So great that you were actually able to resolve it. Often times it ends with a compromised admittance of guilt spoken out but in the back of the mind it still feels like you weren't wrong, so when you talk about it again or make a remark about it, it still doesn't feel right and really resolved.
Me and husband had a HORRIBLE fight when we were first married.
I won't go into details, but it was BAD...
Somehow, we survived.
My husband gave me another chance.
It was a big adjustment after being single all of my life. (He had prior marriage, I had never been married,- first marriage at age 47).
You spend a lot of time adjusting to each other, and as time goes on things mellow out. I've learned that "this too shall pass".
No one stays mad forever.
Sometimes best thing is give each other space.
It's part of being married. I worry about couples who say they never argue.
That to me says that they aren't really coming together, but just role playing.
Coming together will inevitably lead to arguments.
Thank you for sharing your humanness!!!
Glad you kept your mask on
"Did you just take my sock off aggressively?!" Lol.
Sort of similar... my wife was mad at me last night when WE laid down, so she took her socks off and dropped them on my face instead of the floor. No, I'm not in to feet and yes I definitely deserved it. Haha
Wow!
I love that you can now both laugh about it. Thank you for sharing your life with us, and giving us a sense of normalcy. I may not comment often, but I do watch all of your videos! You guys are my absolute favorite! 💖
I love you guys! Just found you last night, I binged watched your videos till I couldn’t stay awake anymore❤️🙏💯
This is a common man brain vs woman brain issue! The fixer vs the venter. Girls sometimes just want to share that they’re having a problem to air it out, but that doesn’t mean we want you to try to fix it. Happens often. I now tell me significant other “I just want to vent/complain/be listened to for a bit”… it’s not personal! Love that you can look back at it lightly now