Yeah it fills me with pride and appreciation to know that people have made products and resources to give the disabled community the ability to be intimate with their partner in the most intimate of ways because everyone has that right and should be able to. It's important to a relationship and needs to be accessible to all.
Así es, siempre hablé de sexualidad con mi hija con respeto, y a pesar de que ahora soy célibe respeto a quienes hablan sobre sexualidad de forma adulta y respetuosa. Y me alegra que por fin se nos vea a quienes decidimos no tener sexo cómo personas NORMALES si quieres tener relaciones todo bien y sino, no pasa nada 🤷🏽♀️👍
❤Loved❤❗ Alright Now Cole...watchout, the way you said "Stay Sexy". ❤'d🔥🔥🔥😉 Charisma...getcha Manz Sis.😅 I'm So Crazy about you both. No disrespect @ all Charisma, but I'm definitely crazy about me some 💫Cole💫. God Bless You Both and Please Know that both of you are So inspiring to So Many. Keep Growing & Glowing. 😊
Some non-disabled men don’t realize that sexy can have little to do with the actual act. It is how they treat a woman all day. You two clearly have true intimacy. That is the key that non-disabled men don’t always find because their focus is on prowess and self-satisfaction. You are way ahead of them.
How funny I date a girl from Brazil she's gorgeous. I look at me I'm going what in the hell did she seeing me period and she just off the cuff said something one day as I was talking about my wrinkles she says your heart makes everything outside of you so beautiful and so fun. I mean to hear words like this that you read sometime but actually hear them call me it literally changes your whole life your confidence what you think about yourself and you can do this to other people that are just friends I mean it was such a beautiful thing I'm getting kind of wishy-washy but it was such a beautiful thing to hear. As I had never heard anything like that before.
I just absolutely love seeing Cole for a man communicate. He's sought help, to improve and express himself better. Healthier, transparent and openly. He's genuinely and every man should take notes from him. It's rare to find a man like that.
Hope this doesn't sound weird, but I think you are both very attractive. And a big part of that is your personalities. And I think together yall are just totally adorable.
Can't say often enough how gorgeous they are but what is the most charming thing about this couple is how respectful they are of each other and the amount of time each talks seems like 50/50% and they Listen so closely and reverently of each other.
I am disabled from chronic pain and arthritis and widowed and hope I can find someone who finds me attractive and desirable and will be willing to understand and willing to make whatever work out. Love you guys and your conversations❤️
I feel the same way being a post stroke dealing with chronic pain on a daily bases. I prayed and surrendered my future partner to God. I’m working on self love and my confidence.
Dearest Tina, in the meantime, while you're waiting for that right person to come along.... remember to pour all that you're looking for from another person into your very own life and trust that door will open up for you to bring that person into your life. I wish you the very best in all areas of your life. As for arthritis, you can start by changing the way you're eating if you haven't done so already. It worked for me... 😊😊❤❤
I am 52 years old, and I have just been recently diagnosed with fibromyagia after being misdiagnosed for 6 years with arthritis. Being overweight and having chronic pain, makes dating very difficult. On top of that, I have a mental illness and in recovery for alcohol addiction. In the last few years, my confidence has been obligated to the point, I am just existing. I just don't know how to change the situation I am in, so I don't do anything. But, this chanel has helped a bit in giving me ideas on how to get out of my comfortable zone. Thanks Cole and Charisma.
I just stumbled on this channel and am loving the conversation with Cole & Charisma. I have both (fibro & arthritis) Susan, totally hear you. I see that no matter how together someone “seems” to the world, everyone behind the curtain, struggles with their own positive self belief. I also think that people are really struggling more than ever with loss, isolation, fear, pain, and finding real connection with others, and a positive sense of self identity no matter what. Your message really got my attention, and I just wanted to acknowledge you for being so authentic in your sharing. I think this is how real confidence is created. I think the way “out” of the uncomfortable comfort zone you are describing is one action at a time, connecting, sharing, contributing. Sending good energy your way, blessings.
What’s so great about open and honest discussions like this is it can help EVERYONE. Interabled or not, these lessons you talked about can be applied to all types of people in all types of relationships. Confidence and communication are so important!
This is a good topic you answered all the questions perfectly with saying anything out line I love you guys so much you guys are very good people I would love to meet you guys good example for people to learn where there love nothing will stop being together keep on the good work I just cannot wait until god bless you guys with a blessing a baby ❤
Cole, you got game! You're an athlete in your heart and soul, so your strategy to wait until you had more control of your physicality was a smooth manly move. You are such a man! Thank for sharing.
I knew a long time ago; a woman who was a intimacy assistant for people with disabilities especially if both partners were disabled. She helped with position changes or creative positions. I loved her work in helping people with disabilities and intimacy. ❤
The chemistry between you two is SO tangible 😍 38 mins felt like 10 lol. Thank you for being THE PROOF that initamcy is universal, interabled or not! Look forward to the next 2 videos!!🙌🏽
This comment isn’t about intimacy, but listening to you share, I'm so impressed with how articulate you both are. You explain things well and are very natural. You both are great role models.
The fact that your interracial couple couple with disabilities we have to put our hat sound and thank you so much for your inspiration my house down I bow down to you just an inspiration admiration and much much gratitude
This was a wonderful talk. Hearing Cole talk in the beginning about loss of identity really resonated with me in a very deep way. I am not physically disabled, but I have such severe depression and anxiety, that I have truly lost myself and have been lost for a number of years (still lost as I write this). I lost my job and home; I'm in severe debt, I have no friends etc and my entire personality and identity is just... gone. I don't recognise myself AT ALL and I don't know how to deal with that. When I heard Cole speak about that, it was genuinely the first time hearing someone talk so well about loss of identity and how difficult it is to live and be confident when you don't recognise yourself and have no idea who you are. This was extremely helpful to me! I'm saving this video to watch again. Thank you so much Cole and Charisma!! ❤❤❤ God bless you for the wonderful work you're doing by sharing your stories. ❤
@@nkathagatobu6592 wow. Thank you so, so, so much! May God bless you on this Easter Sunday and beyond. How wonderful it is that people like you exist; people who wish the best for a stranger. ❤️❤️❤️ (Since writing that comment, I now have a job due to God's wonderful blessing. I have to work on getting rid of my debt, which I know will take a very long time. I still don't have friends, but my coworkers are nice. I'm learning to trust God again so I hope by His grace I will get rid of my anxiety and through all of that good, I hope my depression leaves as well.)
It’s a little ridiculous how much I absolutely adore two people I’ve never met in my life. Lol You guys are doing such a great job educating and entertaining everyone. (Shane and Hannah are my other favorite couple!)
It's so obvious how you two have indeed found love and peace with each other. Your perspectives on this matter have been valuable. Thank you for sharing.
To me intimacy means being completely vulnerable and comfortable with someone. It's about being your true self with that person and vice versa. Anything physical just falls into place after that in whichever way it works for a couple. But physical doesn't equal intimate at all in my eyes. So with that being said, they have a truly intimate relationship.
I love how open you are talking about intimacy. I don't know why we make it so taboo to talk about. You guys don't realize how you have helped other couples being so transparent. 😊
I love how willing you guys are to share this topic - especially for disabled persons who will only get a "clinical" answer from their doctor and want to learn more, love it.
@@okundola9388it's absolutely their fault. They are caregivers and physicians, they have a duty to learn and give the best care possible to their patients. They are paid to do so. The problem is they get comfortable making thousands with little to no service. Doctors and teachers are the only professionals in the World that get passes for not staying up to date with their professions and are excused for failing at their jobs.
@@okundola9388and how are those pros accessible…?? Also it’s not “blaming doctors” to say our culture and their profession in general is ableist AF and fails specific populations of patients in particular ways they can improve on (or can’t bc of systemic/institutional/$ constraints)
You did an excellent job with this video! You completely answered each question completely without compromising your privacy. As a health care provider, I deal with different abled people all of the time. These are topics they all have questions about. Thank you for sharing your more personal experiences.
Just found you and am so grateful for your willingness to be vulnerable and open about helping other people learn. It’s a beautiful thing. I particularly love the message that we all eventually need to deal with our own insecurities and being confident in the bodies we have to work with is a choice! How terrific is that !!! Bottom line too, sex and intimacy is often uncomfortable and trial and error for EVERYONE. Being able to laugh and recognize the humor in the situation is so important. We aren’t soap opera characters - and intimacy doesn’t look like a perfectly choreographed dance. It’s bumps and turns and giggling and learning to love yourself which is the true road to accepting and recognizing love from another person.
8:50 i empathise with this. I’ve gotten it back, I’ve lost it several times as well, because stuff keeps happening. I’ll try to remember your words cole, for when I forget my own
Thank you so much for addressing this subject. After 27 years of marriage, my partner became a paraplegic. 17 months in, we are struggling in this area.
Its so important to talk about each others perspective. Even if it's uncomfortable, the more you practice can help. Treasure the funny awkward times too!
Thankyou for sharing you guys are such an inspiration to me. This isn't anything about intamacy. But You don't even know many people you help.... I will tell you, just watching Cole litterly have saved my life.... almost 2yrs ago I fell, I put on 60 lbs... and ever since I started following you guys... I'm much better, I watch how strong you are..... no I'm not paralyzed but I have severe weakness in my left side... took a yr lost 20lbs, moving more, but my gait. Unstable.... still weak. But I push myself everyday.... because of you guys.... just thought I would share.......
I have a spinal cord injury and I'm so happy someone discusses this! I use a cane and braces but fractured l4&5 and am fused L3-S1 front and back twice as well as my cspine also done twice. Thanks for sharing your lives. For a long time my husband was afraid to be intimate for fear of hurting me.
Oh my goodness...I have just found your channel...and I am IN LOVE with you two!!!!Cutest and most loving couple..love your honesty and clear love and adoration for each other.Thanks for posting guys.😊
Thank you for taking about this. I am disabled due to chronic pain and while I don’t have an SCI, I do have physical limitations in life and in intimacy. Having a partner who is willing to talk about it and willing to stop and readjust is so important. If your partner isn’t willing to listen and work with you to find what works, maybe you need a some outside help or a different partner. Communication is key!
I have been missing you guys. You are good for me as a 70+ follower. It's great when you can get along and make humanity look easy because of the respect you have for all. Though I'm aware of the ugly in the world, it seems you've found that magic that makes me think, "What a wonderful world." I always feel better when I see you and the Scott's. Keep growing together and changing the world.❤❤
I'm a 54 year old woman not in a wheelchair but have a number of medical problems When I was in my 20s not married for years but long enough I started haveing problems with pain & discomfort when me & my husband made Love because I had a fantastic relationship with my Mam could go to her with anything she was always with me all my life with the many operations, hospitals & everything that comes with it. I told her my problems & my Mam helped me by telling me ways to make it easy for both me & my husband she told me ways that could make it easier & also not to lose the intermissy & keep it very nice & gave us Loveing pleasure. These videos you both gonna do is going to help people that aren't as lucky as I was haveing my Mam some people that don't Feil they can go talk to someone maybe out of embarrassment or even shame please don't Feil that way some people need help there's no shame it's a good thing to do
Cole and Charisma this is quite an insightful video, and I am sure it will help other couples in this situation. The way Charisma looks at you can see the love she has for you. The lord sent an angel to you Cole and hope one day i can find true love even at my old age.
Wow that was awesome. Despite not being "professionals" you have all of this experience and experience is valuable. I think people sometimes forget that not so long ago higher education wasn't as valued as it is now and experience was more highly regarded and so you Cole and Charisma are an amazing resource for people in the disabled community. I personally don't have any disabled friends, but obviously would be open and willing to be friends with someone that was. This channel and even Shane and Hannah's in conjunction with professionals would be my advice to them to help them navigate some of those difficulties they may be experiencing and lifting their spirits along with my own personal help or encouragement to them. I am just so much more aware of in my daily life about looking out for my disabled community members and will fight for their right to accessibility to have a fulfilling life as I can enjoy 😊
24:37 you inspire me man. I’m here wallowing because I’m losing my mental faculties, but I still have my body. And I still breathe. I swear if I ever become like you, I’ll have you as a bastion of resilience, and i will Live to your example and inspire others. You’ll never back down, and neither will I. We are indomitable
Thanks for sharing this. As a person with muscular dystrophy I struggle with a lot that’s mentioned here. Looking forward to the next chapter of this series and learning more. Thank you!
No need to be sad that you were not able to be intimate in college Cole,. It probably saved you from a lot of unseen problems. It helped to keep you pure and decent, although it was hard. It’s easy to give in to pleasures but it takes a strong man to do without until the time is right. Bravo 🎉
You guys are two of the best couples that I will spend time to listen and watch your videos. Trust me, lots of us who may not have a disability partner in our relationship does NOT have the beautiful relationship that you too have. I love to watch and listen to you both. There is communication, respect, love, friendship, with all this qualities other intimacys come easy. Some couples would wish to have what the two of you have. You both are a wonderful couple. I love to watch and listen to you both. Hope you get your million members soon..❤❤
I appreciate this video so much! I've contemplated doing a video discussing the very idea. Your video has helped tremendously. My husband is disabled and it's a topic we have searched long and hard to find info about. (Everything I've seen suggests going outside the marriage to find pleasure. That is not an option for us. )
That was so nice to watch! And let me just say (i hope ot doesnt sound weird lol) i think your chemistry, honesty, transparency and effort you have with each other is sexy!!!! That is what “intimacy is about every little thing” means! As a non-disabled person who had only had non-disabled relationships, i must say that many non-disabled couples don’t have an ounce of that. So, not wanting to be diminish of any suffering or the disappointment, but i genually believe that everytime you loose something you can gain something else. All the love to you guys! And congratulations for the beautiful work!
Thank you for addressing this topic with such authenticity, honesty and openness. I applaud you for educating all in this subject. We all have family, friends and coworkers we can help open the conversation. God bless you both.
I really appreciate this video. Especially the part on confidence! I'm three years post injury and working on building my confidence. I have insecurities so I'm thankful for the tips y'all shared. I'm looking forward to the Part 2 video.
You guys are such beautiful humans!! ❤❤ Inside AND out!! Absolutely attraction and love grows through time … and friendship! I was married to my soulmate husband for 20 years until he died suddenly 10 years ago. Remain friends, and the rest comes easy!!
Thank you for putting this series together! I watched Shane and Hannah's series from a few years ago and I was glad to see you guys explore this topic as well. Having chronic illness/chronic pain can make all types of intimacy difficult with my spouse at times, and I haven't been able to find good resources or advice. I wish I knew more interabled couples to discuss these issues with because sometimes there are body issues that come up that "able bodies" couples don't necessarily deal with or encounter. Thank you for this and I'm looking forward to watching your other videos on this topic.
You were meant for each other. So glad your stars aligned! You handle this topic so well and have hopefully helped many. And, I just need to say, I truly enjoy how articulate you both are.
Impressive discourse! Cole, you have grown so much! I LOVE your new confidence. Youre like a brand new man, in my eyes because of how long ago I saw you guys last. THIS is you! Charisma, you're a super woman! I believe this is your ministry- at least, one of your purpose in life. You are blessed and highly favored. May God continue to use both of you to give God the glory, as you speak to the world.💖👏🏽🎉🙏🏾😊❤️
Thank you for handling what some would call a "touchy" topic with such straightforward, informative, yet vulnerable style. You all gave us wonderful information that is so beneficial, not just to interabled relationships, but to all relationships. I appreciated your stressing how Important communication is as far as intimacy is concerned. I also appreciated you all pointing out there are many ways to be intimate, not just to where most people's minds normally gravitate. I look forward to your second conversation on this toppic. God Bless.
This is a great conversation. Thank you all for sharing. I am disabled with a few chronic illnesses and being single gets sad sometimes. It’s hard to find people who are willing to accommodate and understand and listen it makes dating terrifying and disheartening at the same time. Confidence and compassion and communication are key. Sometimes being disabled can seem like a burden. I’m glad you two found each other. Also I’m loving the hair charisma it’s super cute. You both are cute and seem so in tune with one another. It’s beautiful to see. ❤
As a therapeutic Massage Therapist, my first client was a quadriplegic. His tissues/muscles were as hard as cement. He was bedridden of course, so I could only do so much. But when I finished, his arms/legs/neck was pliable again for a little while. He said it felt like he had been working out. He said his neck would be feeling stiff, which relaxed with the Massage. Massage also helps rehabilitate atrophied muscles from non use such as a broken leg.... Massage dilates veins and increases circulation up to to 3 x the resting rate ..
Thank you for talking about such a private and intimate topic. Intimacy shouldn't be taboo, it's human nature.
Yeah it fills me with pride and appreciation to know that people have made products and resources to give the disabled community the ability to be intimate with their partner in the most intimate of ways because everyone has that right and should be able to. It's important to a relationship and needs to be accessible to all.
@@ceoa🎤🎸🥁😂😂
Así es, siempre hablé de sexualidad con mi hija con respeto, y a pesar de que ahora soy célibe respeto a quienes hablan sobre sexualidad de forma adulta y respetuosa. Y me alegra que por fin se nos vea a quienes decidimos no tener sexo cómo personas NORMALES si quieres tener relaciones todo bien y sino, no pasa nada 🤷🏽♀️👍
Thanks for this educational 34:36 information on this personal and private topic. You both handle it very professionally.
❤Loved❤❗ Alright Now Cole...watchout, the way you said "Stay Sexy". ❤'d🔥🔥🔥😉
Charisma...getcha Manz Sis.😅 I'm So Crazy about you both. No disrespect @ all Charisma, but I'm definitely crazy about me some 💫Cole💫. God Bless You Both and Please Know that both of you are So inspiring to So Many. Keep Growing & Glowing. 😊
I was disabled at 26. I’m 40 now. It’s been a long journey. I’m proud of you guys. Keep up the great love for each other
So sad to hear about people's disabilities. Even though they sometimes have a very fulfilling life
Very true. All you can do is live life to the fullest. Thank god everyday that I’m here.
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Keep on fighting ❤
I'm Proud Of You For Sticking In There 💪🏼💪🏼 You're A Go Getter Don't Let Disability Stop 🛑 You For Being Yourself 💯💯🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼😁😎
"This is the body I have to be confident in." One of the most obvious and yet profound statements ever spoken.
As an aspiring sexologist I can't tell you enough how valuable this is and how much I appreciate you for being vulnerable. Intimacy is for everyone!
Have you watched Murderball? They showed it to medical students where my husband went to Medical School and I was fortunate enough to see it as well.
@@cathytauscher6760 Haven't seen it no, but will definitely check it out thanks!
What is your contact info
@saraeisinger8269🤣😂😂😂😂👏👏👏👏
Sexologist? Smh.
His attractiveness stands out way more than his disability. He's a very nice looking dude, I'm sure many agree.
They both are attractive and intelligent. They seem joyous and happy, that is what I like.
@stefaniemccoy7377 yes, both are attractive. Charisma is a natural beauty, and they make a great couple for many reasons.
Can we STOP and talk about how CUTE your hair is. It looks so good on you. Keep rocking it.
Yasss sis, that hair everything! It’s so healthy
Some non-disabled men don’t realize that sexy can have little to do with the actual act. It is how they treat a woman all day. You two clearly have true intimacy. That is the key that non-disabled men don’t always find because their focus is on prowess and self-satisfaction. You are way ahead of them.
Amen to that!!!
Man judge the outside but true love lies within. God makes everything beautiful. you guys are inspiring.
It's not 'true love'.
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How funny I date a girl from Brazil she's gorgeous. I look at me I'm going what in the hell did she seeing me period and she just off the cuff said something one day as I was talking about my wrinkles she says your heart makes everything outside of you so beautiful and so fun. I mean to hear words like this that you read sometime but actually hear them call me it literally changes your whole life your confidence what you think about yourself and you can do this to other people that are just friends I mean it was such a beautiful thing I'm getting kind of wishy-washy but it was such a beautiful thing to hear. As I had never heard anything like that before.
I just absolutely love seeing Cole for a man communicate. He's sought help, to improve and express himself better. Healthier, transparent and openly. He's genuinely and every man should take notes from him. It's rare to find a man like that.
Hope this doesn't sound weird, but I think you are both very attractive. And a big part of that is your personalities. And I think together yall are just totally adorable.
Agree 💯 They are both so gorgeous but also so mature kind fun loving chill!!
Can't say often enough how gorgeous they are but what is the most charming thing about this couple is how respectful they are of each other and the amount of time each talks seems like 50/50% and they Listen so closely and reverently of each other.
Cole is a very handsome gentleman.
Crarizma( sorry about spelling) is a beautiful 🤩 woman too--
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@@SandraMontano-si3ufCharisma is beautiful too
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I am disabled from chronic pain and arthritis and widowed and hope I can find someone who finds me attractive and desirable and will be willing to understand and willing to make whatever work out. Love you guys and your conversations❤️
Awh well I think your beautiful! So I know you will find someone. Everyone has a soul mate
I feel the same way being a post stroke dealing with chronic pain on a daily bases. I prayed and surrendered my future partner to God. I’m working on self love and my confidence.
Dearest Tina, in the meantime, while you're waiting for that right person to come along.... remember to pour all that you're looking for from another person into your very own life and trust that door will open up for you to bring that person into your life. I wish you the very best in all areas of your life. As for arthritis, you can start by changing the way you're eating if you haven't done so already. It worked for me... 😊😊❤❤
I wish that for you!
You are very attractive, don’t settle for just anyone, wait for the one.
I am 52 years old, and I have just been recently diagnosed with fibromyagia after being misdiagnosed for 6 years with arthritis. Being overweight and having chronic pain, makes dating very difficult. On top of that, I have a mental illness and in recovery for alcohol addiction. In the last few years, my confidence has been obligated to the point, I am just existing. I just don't know how to change the situation I am in, so I don't do anything. But, this chanel has helped a bit in giving me ideas on how to get out of my comfortable zone. Thanks Cole and Charisma.
I just stumbled on this channel and am loving the conversation with Cole & Charisma. I have both (fibro & arthritis) Susan, totally hear you. I see that no matter how together someone “seems” to the world, everyone behind the curtain, struggles with their own positive self belief. I also think that people are really struggling more than ever with loss, isolation, fear, pain, and finding real connection with others, and a positive sense of self identity no matter what. Your message really got my attention, and I just wanted to acknowledge you for being so authentic in your sharing. I think this is how real confidence is created. I think the way “out” of the uncomfortable comfort zone you are describing is one action at a time, connecting, sharing, contributing. Sending good energy your way, blessings.
Great idea to do a group share video with your other friends about relationships & intimacy. Great channel, so glad I found you two.
What’s so great about open and honest discussions like this is it can help EVERYONE. Interabled or not, these lessons you talked about can be applied to all types of people in all types of relationships. Confidence and communication are so important!
This is a good topic you answered all the questions perfectly with saying anything out line I love you guys so much you guys are very good people I would love to meet you guys good example for people to learn where there love nothing will stop being together keep on the good work I just cannot wait until god bless you guys with a blessing a baby ❤
Cole, you got game! You're an athlete in your heart and soul, so your strategy to wait until you had more control of your physicality was a smooth manly move. You are such a man! Thank for sharing.
I LOVE Cole's humor and personality! He must be so much fun to be around! "Stay sexy" 😂
Yes they're such a sexy adorable couple!!
3:48 "Now they're definitely gonna watch" 😂😅. Oh my gosh I love these 2.
I knew a long time ago; a woman who was a intimacy assistant for people with disabilities especially if both partners were disabled. She helped with position changes or creative positions. I loved her work in helping people with disabilities and intimacy. ❤
i've seen corn like that before lolll
Pornography is perverted. Stay away from it
@@StarlaBizarre
You two are my favorite couple on the internet! Your chemistry is beautiful
Charisma has so much charm. You can tell their love is real .
Her name is so fitting for her lol
The chemistry will be enough eventually the golden egg will find you …. Keep going you both rock!!! 😊
Am really proud of dears . Am disabled. Am single. Am from India. I watch their programs . Am so very happy ❤❤❤❤❤❤
Such a brave topic to address. Thank you from a retired Occupational Therapist who addressed this topic with clients.
I love that they're almost at a million I mean they deserve it
Agreed they will get there
This is a great talk-even for those listeners are not disabled. Bravo!
I like the way Cole looks at charisma sooo intimate ❤ cute couple
You guys are definitely couples goals. You guys seem to have an amazing relationship. God bless you both.
As a person with a disability, am always inspired and eager to learn from you both. With love from 🇺🇬👌
@Kimpayecrhona SAME
Enjoy this and glad you all did this discussion…
Wow
Thanks for sharing
The chemistry between you two is SO tangible 😍 38 mins felt like 10 lol. Thank you for being THE PROOF that initamcy is universal, interabled or not! Look forward to the next 2 videos!!🙌🏽
This comment isn’t about intimacy, but listening to you share, I'm so impressed with how articulate you both are. You explain things well and are very natural. You both are great role models.
Go to the bathroom after intimacy as well to prevent UTIs! That's just as important as beforehand.
The fact that your interracial couple couple with disabilities we have to put our hat sound and thank you so much for your inspiration my house down I bow down to you just an inspiration admiration and much much gratitude
I love watching Cole and Charisma..they just give off nice chilled out vibes.
This was a wonderful talk.
Hearing Cole talk in the beginning about loss of identity really resonated with me in a very deep way. I am not physically disabled, but I have such severe depression and anxiety, that I have truly lost myself and have been lost for a number of years (still lost as I write this). I lost my job and home; I'm in severe debt, I have no friends etc and my entire personality and identity is just... gone. I don't recognise myself AT ALL and I don't know how to deal with that.
When I heard Cole speak about that, it was genuinely the first time hearing someone talk so well about loss of identity and how difficult it is to live and be confident when you don't recognise yourself and have no idea who you are.
This was extremely helpful to me! I'm saving this video to watch again. Thank you so much Cole and Charisma!! ❤❤❤ God bless you for the wonderful work you're doing by sharing your stories. ❤
May God heal your depression, anxiety, restore your losses and debt, may He also give you a true and genuine friend. I understand you. Be blessed
@@nkathagatobu6592 wow. Thank you so, so, so much! May God bless you on this Easter Sunday and beyond. How wonderful it is that people like you exist; people who wish the best for a stranger. ❤️❤️❤️
(Since writing that comment, I now have a job due to God's wonderful blessing. I have to work on getting rid of my debt, which I know will take a very long time. I still don't have friends, but my coworkers are nice. I'm learning to trust God again so I hope by His grace I will get rid of my anxiety and through all of that good, I hope my depression leaves as well.)
It’s a little ridiculous how much I absolutely adore two people I’ve never met in my life. Lol
You guys are doing such a great job educating and entertaining everyone.
(Shane and Hannah are my other favorite couple!)
It's so obvious how you two have indeed found love and peace with each other. Your perspectives on this matter have been valuable. Thank you for sharing.
As a disabled caregiver, really find some gems in your interactions! Keep up the great inspiration! Blessings
To me intimacy means being completely vulnerable and comfortable with someone. It's about being your true self with that person and vice versa. Anything physical just falls into place after that in whichever way it works for a couple. But physical doesn't equal intimate at all in my eyes. So with that being said, they have a truly intimate relationship.
It's nice to hear you two talk about intimacy in a positive adult manner without the horny details. As open as y'all are, privacy is sacred.
You both look so vibrant and healthy. You are doing something right!
Thank You Lord for Cole coming so alive 🙏
Thank you sweet girl for inspiring, encouraging and loving.
God bless you both.
I love how open you are talking about intimacy. I don't know why we make it so taboo to talk about. You guys don't realize how you have helped other couples being so transparent. 😊
I love how willing you guys are to share this topic - especially for disabled persons who will only get a "clinical" answer from their doctor and want to learn more, love it.
Don't blame doctors, it's not included in their training. There are professionals who are so trained.
@@okundola9388 no definitely not their fault at all, its not expected for dr to talk about intimacy to this extent
@@okundola9388it's absolutely their fault. They are caregivers and physicians, they have a duty to learn and give the best care possible to their patients. They are paid to do so. The problem is they get comfortable making thousands with little to no service. Doctors and teachers are the only professionals in the World that get passes for not staying up to date with their professions and are excused for failing at their jobs.
@@okundola9388and how are those pros accessible…?? Also it’s not “blaming doctors” to say our culture and their profession in general is ableist AF and fails specific populations of patients in particular ways they can improve on (or can’t bc of systemic/institutional/$ constraints)
I just love Cole’s personality you 2 make such a beautiful couple 🫶🏼
You did an excellent job with this video! You completely answered each question completely without compromising your privacy. As a health care provider, I deal with different abled people all of the time. These are topics they all have questions about. Thank you for sharing your more personal experiences.
Just found you and am so grateful for your willingness to be vulnerable and open about helping other people learn. It’s a beautiful thing. I particularly love the message that we all eventually need to deal with our own insecurities and being confident in the bodies we have to work with is a choice! How terrific is that !!! Bottom line too, sex and intimacy is often uncomfortable and trial and error for EVERYONE. Being able to laugh and recognize the humor in the situation is so important. We aren’t soap opera characters - and intimacy doesn’t look like a perfectly choreographed dance. It’s bumps and turns and giggling and learning to love yourself which is the true road to accepting and recognizing love from another person.
8:50 i empathise with this. I’ve gotten it back, I’ve lost it several times as well, because stuff keeps happening. I’ll try to remember your words cole, for when I forget my own
Your hair is absolutely so beautiful, gorgeous Queen!!!
Thank you so much for addressing this subject. After 27 years of marriage, my partner became a paraplegic. 17 months in, we are struggling in this area.
God bless you both 🙏❤
It takes time, and it will happen ❤
Its so important to talk about each others perspective. Even if it's uncomfortable, the more you practice can help. Treasure the funny awkward times too!
Thankyou for sharing you guys are such an inspiration to me. This isn't anything about intamacy. But You don't even know many people you help.... I will tell you, just watching Cole litterly have saved my life.... almost 2yrs ago I fell, I put on 60 lbs... and ever since I started following you guys... I'm much better, I watch how strong you are..... no I'm not paralyzed but I have severe weakness in my left side... took a yr lost 20lbs, moving more, but my gait. Unstable.... still weak. But I push myself everyday.... because of you guys.... just thought I would share.......
You rock 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
I have a spinal cord injury and I'm so happy someone discusses this! I use a cane and braces but fractured l4&5 and am fused L3-S1 front and back twice as well as my cspine also done twice. Thanks for sharing your lives. For a long time my husband was afraid to be intimate for fear of hurting me.
Charisma i just wanted to say your hair looks so pretty like that 😊
I think it’s a blessing you both find each other together you can do anything. God bless you.❤❤
It’s hard being creative…my dear, you’ve shown us everything there is to know about you both. Nothing more to see or tell, or see.
I think Charisma, the wife you have helpes a lot with the confidence and stuff.
Oh my goodness...I have just found your channel...and I am IN LOVE with you two!!!!Cutest and most loving couple..love your honesty and clear love and adoration for each other.Thanks for posting guys.😊
Thank you for taking about this. I am disabled due to chronic pain and while I don’t have an SCI, I do have physical limitations in life and in intimacy. Having a partner who is willing to talk about it and willing to stop and readjust is so important. If your partner isn’t willing to listen and work with you to find what works, maybe you need a some outside help or a different partner. Communication is key!
34:51 -34:54 We need an unedited live with just Cole cause he's dying to spill the tea, and we're here to drink it ☕️🫖🤤😂😂
I have been missing you guys. You are good for me as a 70+ follower. It's great when you can get along and make humanity look easy because of the respect you have for all. Though I'm aware of the ugly in the world, it seems you've found that magic that makes me think, "What a wonderful world." I always feel better when I see you and the Scott's. Keep growing together and changing the world.❤❤
I'm a 54 year old woman not in a wheelchair but have a number of medical problems When I was in my 20s not married for years but long enough I started haveing problems with pain & discomfort when me & my husband made Love because I had a fantastic relationship with my Mam could go to her with anything she was always with me all my life with the many operations, hospitals & everything that comes with it. I told her my problems & my Mam helped me by telling me ways to make it easy for both me & my husband she told me ways that could make it easier & also not to lose the intermissy & keep it very nice & gave us Loveing pleasure. These videos you both gonna do is going to help people that aren't as lucky as I was haveing my Mam some people that don't Feil they can go talk to someone maybe out of embarrassment or even shame please don't Feil that way some people need help there's no shame it's a good thing to do
Cole and Charisma this is quite an insightful video, and I am sure it will help other couples in this situation. The way Charisma looks at you can see the love she has for you. The lord sent an angel to you Cole and hope one day i can find true love even at my old age.
Wow that was awesome. Despite not being "professionals" you have all of this experience and experience is valuable. I think people sometimes forget that not so long ago higher education wasn't as valued as it is now and experience was more highly regarded and so you Cole and Charisma are an amazing resource for people in the disabled community. I personally don't have any disabled friends, but obviously would be open and willing to be friends with someone that was. This channel and even Shane and Hannah's in conjunction with professionals would be my advice to them to help them navigate some of those difficulties they may be experiencing and lifting their spirits along with my own personal help or encouragement to them. I am just so much more aware of in my daily life about looking out for my disabled community members and will fight for their right to accessibility to have a fulfilling life as I can enjoy 😊
To clarify too higher education is still something I value greatly and I'm grateful to have my degree.
24:37 you inspire me man. I’m here wallowing because I’m losing my mental faculties, but I still have my body. And I still breathe. I swear if I ever become like you, I’ll have you as a bastion of resilience, and i will
Live to your example and inspire others. You’ll never back down, and neither will I. We are indomitable
Thanks for sharing this. As a person with muscular dystrophy I struggle with a lot that’s mentioned here. Looking forward to the next chapter of this series and learning more. Thank you!
No need to be sad that you were not able to be intimate in college Cole,. It probably saved you from a lot of unseen problems. It helped to keep you pure and decent, although it was hard. It’s easy to give in to pleasures but it takes a strong man to do without until the time is right. Bravo 🎉
Perfectly said
Take your time to grow. Don't try to be fast.😊
You guys are two of the best couples that I will spend time to listen and watch your videos. Trust me, lots of us who may not have a disability partner in our relationship does NOT have the beautiful relationship that you too have. I love to watch and listen to you both. There is communication, respect, love, friendship, with all this qualities other intimacys come easy. Some couples would wish to have what the two of you have. You both are a wonderful couple. I love to watch and listen to you both. Hope you get your million members soon..❤❤
Your personality justifies your name❤❤
What a beautiful, young couple! May your life together be full of love and humor for all eternity!
Neither my partner nor I are disabled but I love watching your videos…they’re very informative and interesting! Love you guys! ❤❤
Excellent topic to address. Kudos to you both for your courage and ‘plain’ talk!👌🏾❤️🌺
I appreciate this video so much! I've contemplated doing a video discussing the very idea. Your video has helped tremendously. My husband is disabled and it's a topic we have searched long and hard to find info about. (Everything I've seen suggests going outside the marriage to find pleasure. That is not an option for us. )
Much love and respect for you both!!!! Both of you are beautiful souls!! ❤😊
That was so nice to watch! And let me just say (i hope ot doesnt sound weird lol) i think your chemistry, honesty, transparency and effort you have with each other is sexy!!!! That is what “intimacy is about every little thing” means! As a non-disabled person who had only had non-disabled relationships, i must say that many non-disabled couples don’t have an ounce of that. So, not wanting to be diminish of any suffering or the disappointment, but i genually believe that everytime you loose something you can gain something else. All the love to you guys! And congratulations for the beautiful work!
He’s eyes are very charming 🥰❤️
Best couple ever ❤
Thank you for addressing this topic with such authenticity, honesty and openness. I applaud you for educating all in this subject. We all have family, friends and coworkers we can help open the conversation. God bless you both.
If lOVE was person, you guys are so into each other,the chemistry is amazing, I wish you nothing but the best, stay blessed always
I really appreciate this video. Especially the part on confidence! I'm three years post injury and working on building my confidence. I have insecurities so I'm thankful for the tips y'all shared. I'm looking forward to the Part 2 video.
Sorry brother
You are a great man Cole, and God has a big plan for you. Keep strong. Your future is bright. God bless you and Charisma.
You guys are such beautiful humans!! ❤❤ Inside AND out!! Absolutely attraction and love grows through time … and friendship! I was married to my soulmate husband for 20 years until he died suddenly 10 years ago. Remain friends, and the rest comes easy!!
WoW, what a massive blow. I am so sorry, beyond sorry. I hope you have healed enough where you are doing well now. ❤❤
@@kavitadevathank you so much! It’s been a difficult journey but doing well now. 😊
I simply adore you both!! Thank you for being venerable and sharing! Looking forward to parts 2 and 3! MY FAVORITE COUPLE ❤
Thank you for putting this series together! I watched Shane and Hannah's series from a few years ago and I was glad to see you guys explore this topic as well.
Having chronic illness/chronic pain can make all types of intimacy difficult with my spouse at times, and I haven't been able to find good resources or advice. I wish I knew more interabled couples to discuss these issues with because sometimes there are body issues that come up that "able bodies" couples don't necessarily deal with or encounter. Thank you for this and I'm looking forward to watching your other videos on this topic.
I am single also, but i love seeing love expressed by you two. ❤
You were meant for each other. So glad your stars aligned! You handle this topic so well and have hopefully helped many. And, I just need to say, I truly enjoy how articulate you both are.
Love Cole’s sense of humor! Relax Charisma.
May God continue to bless your union.
This is very insightful. Thank you. Look forward to part 2 and 3.
Many things I deal with having Cerebral Palsy in my personal life too.
JUST THINK ABOUT ALL THE PEOPLE YOU ARE HELPING.
Impressive discourse! Cole, you have grown so much! I LOVE your new confidence. Youre like a brand new man, in my eyes because of how long ago I saw you guys last. THIS is you! Charisma, you're a super woman! I believe this is your ministry- at least, one of your purpose in life. You are blessed and highly favored. May God continue to use both of you to give God the glory, as you speak to the world.💖👏🏽🎉🙏🏾😊❤️
Very mature and educational video. Congratulations for stepping up.
Your love and respect for each other is so apparent! Love you two! ❤
You two are incredibly sweet and fun to watch. Great content guys!
Thank you for handling what some would call a "touchy" topic with such straightforward, informative, yet vulnerable style. You all gave us wonderful information that is so beneficial, not just to interabled relationships, but to all relationships. I appreciated your stressing how Important communication is as far as intimacy is concerned. I also appreciated you all pointing out there are many ways to be intimate, not just to where most people's minds normally gravitate. I look forward to your second conversation on this toppic. God Bless.
Yall are really blessing people out here with your advice and transparency!
I like how you both take cue from each other and how alert you are to cole 😄😄😄😄 and make sure he doesn’t give away too much😀😀
What an AWESOME job!!! As I've recently commented, thank you for being an advocate to others. You both are inspirational.
This is a great conversation. Thank you all for sharing. I am disabled with a few chronic illnesses and being single gets sad sometimes. It’s hard to find people who are willing to accommodate and understand and listen it makes dating terrifying and disheartening at the same time. Confidence and compassion and communication are key. Sometimes being disabled can seem like a burden. I’m glad you two found each other. Also I’m loving the hair charisma it’s super cute. You both are cute and seem so in tune with one another. It’s beautiful to see. ❤
THE BOTH OF YOU ARE AWESOME.
As a therapeutic Massage Therapist, my first client was a quadriplegic. His tissues/muscles were as hard as cement. He was bedridden of course, so I could only do so much. But when I finished, his arms/legs/neck was pliable again for a little while. He said it felt like he had been working out. He said his neck would be feeling stiff, which relaxed with the Massage. Massage also helps rehabilitate atrophied muscles from non use such as a broken leg.... Massage dilates veins and increases circulation up to to 3 x the resting rate ..
Would that work for someone with someone who has cp?