One Broken Mom | How to Avoid Emotional Takeovers with Dr. Lindsay Gibson
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- Опубліковано 14 тра 2024
- Many people out there listening who have identified with the realization that they grew up in a household with emotionally immature parents
And growing up in a household of emotionally immature family members - maybe not even just your parents - doesn’t impact us the same way. Our own inner workings and the unique array of experiences - from our DNA to other people who we did or didn’t have in our lives at certain poignant periods - all come together and form the memories that our brains use to access and assess what we have to do next. In split seconds.
This can mean, we can be caught off guard at times if the right buttons get pushed by someone. And that’s why Ameé has fan-favorite Dr. Lindsay Gibson back on the show to talk about how to avoid falling prey to the emotional takeovers commonly used by emotionally immature people to coerce us into taking care of their issues for them. She is the Author of Adult Children of Emotionally-Immature Parents and her newest book, Recovering from Emotionally Immature Parents: Practical Tools to Establish Boundaries & Reclaim Your Emotional Autonomy
On this episode, you will hear:
The emotionally immature relationship system (EIRS) what is this and how do we detect it
Now EIPS (emotionally immature people) see the world through a distortion field - what does that mean?
How does an EIP develop this distortion field?
Now what happens to if we accept their view of the world?
Disassociation is something that can happen to us when we are locked into the emotionally immature relationship system. Can you describe what that is and how that might look and feel?
How do we know we are being lured into someone’s takeover?
Why are we vulnerable to these emotional takeovers?
How do we continue to shore up the defenses against these hostilities? What are the preparations and strengthening we can do between these encounters in order to make us more able to resist and to eliminate this threat to our well-being in the future? - Розваги
Exceptional! This just summarized and clarified a handful of my inner concerns and showed a way out.
UNBELIEVABLY HELPFUL!!!!! THANKYOU SOOOO MUCH❤
I'm so excited to listen to this. I just listened to one of Dr. Lindsay's books and now and reading the other one. I have been looking for the answers and comfort she has given me all my life - I'm now 53. Thank you for having her on. I hope she reads this comment but I sorta doubt she will, but she had helped me TREMENDOUSLY. And I'm excited to discover your podcast!
Awww, thank you! And sheeh - 2020! I missed on replying back to you almost 9 months ago. I will let Lindsay know, for sure. She is definitely a gem of a human being! - Ameé
She has five books I believe
When an emotionally immature parent projects trauma and stress on baby and young children, the children respond with confusion and terror. The parent interprets it as rebellion, naughtiness, meanness, disrespect, ungratefulness, and punishes the child for receiving projected stress. The parent’s unregulated emotions caused the behavior and the child needed a calm parent. Child can have no needs.
My chest tightens, then I feel so depressed and drained.
I feel suffocated by my parent as well. It is exhausting.
Thank you so much for this interview, I have just finished Dr Lindsay Gibson book Adult children of emotionally immature parents. I can't say it enough how important and healing it is to hear these conversations.. Thank you!
Fantastic video, bravo!!!
Hey great discussion, Unfortunately I began to identify with being an EIP, in the sense I've been going through a stressful time with my business and being emotionally needy to people around me. I did feel put in a box as being this kind of person as if these people never change as apposed to going through a difficult time, and needing more support than people around are able to give. perhaps a discussion could be good to support people who can relate with being EIP to help understand whats going on for them. thanks
an enormous Thank You for facilitating and sharing this moment with Dr Lindsay , so valuable wisdom about our emotional lives. thank you
You're welcome! Thank you for watching!
Sooooo good! Can’t get enough of Dr. Gibson since I recently discovered her through my therapist. So grateful! Doing wonders for me 🙏
me toooo! Im just in awe of her brilliance.
Omg only 16 mins in and I feel like crying because it's so spot on!
THANK YOU SO MUCH for this deep, rich, extremely useful and detailed podcast - you have both added many bricks inside my inner home and in dealing with my EI mother - I haven’t found this type of specific help anywhere else thanks 🙏 thanks 🙏
OMG I knew I wasn't crazy and could actually see this going on in my mind.
First one I've seen from you. Subbed.
I only began using the term emotionally immature because of a place I began working. I can't stay there. I also share a child with an emotionally immature person. Cohabitating in different rooms. It's 6 years in, and over the last 3 I've been unpeeling the manipulation that must've seeped in during my sleepless with a newborn and self-harming teen days. I recorded the last argument, the day of our daughter's birthday party. Had to listen multiple times to him stating what's wrong with me. Then that night, another "talk" where basically we'll be fine once I change. Now I just need to get into a healthy position to move out and sustain my kids and self. Our daughter is 5, so closely monitoring her time with her dad to try and prevent manipulation during such programmable brain waves.
I'm glad you found the channel and I'm really sorry you are going through what you are. Stay strong and stay safe. Sometimes we have to be willing to go or act before we think we are ready - that's when we find out how much stronger we realize we are. Take care! -Ameé
Thank you for this! Really needed this today.
You are so welcome!
This totally makes sense for a recent family thing with my sister. She was calling up to 4x a week with issues in her personal life that needed big help, of course i wanted to be there for her so i was making a sincere attempt at doing so. However, the problems weren't being resolved and i realized late at night with another of those calls that things were unhealthy in several ways. When i approached the idea of all that and said it needed to stop i got a very negative, lash out, gaslighting response. It was pretty bad and it's been challenging for me ever since because i realize it's been an issue for a long time and i needed to have more self protection from now on. All of this is why I've been more diligent now with the "beedtime" mode on my phone lol, I've turned it off for small time periods in the past or felt i didn't need it on weekends and now i have it so it's on every night so this doesn't happen. Texts and phone calls are delayed or turned over to voicemail and that is helpful.
Just heard you on 'The Crappy Childhood Fairy' ....Here and I subd....Thank You.!!
That's awesome! Welcome to the group! And thank YOU!! -Ameé
I would have liked to hear more from Lindsay I felt like the host dominated a little to much
Turn your phone off or on airplane mode when you go to bed. No one and nothing disturbs....people figure it out and the world will not end.
Excellent program. I've listened to a couple of Dr. Gibson's books. I won't comment much because I'm feeling a little less than patient today and some of this was triggering. Why are parents such d*cks? Jesus, at some point, you have to become the adult in the room....or maybe not.
Understandable...
It's a basic human right 💋
Indeed it is, isn't it? -Ameé