Therapy Chat - 389: Identity Development With Dr. Lindsay Gibson
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- Опубліковано 30 тра 2024
- Welcome back to Therapy Chat! This week, in a replay episode from early 2022, host Laura Reagan, LCSW-C interviews Dr. Lindsay Gibson, a developmental psychologist based in Virginia Beach, Virginia who has authored several books on the effects of being raised by parents who are emotionally immature. Lindsay explains how our identity and sense of self form around attachment experiences in childhood and the challenge of focusing on our own self care needs when we were raised in an environment where our emotional needs were unmet. Lindsay's newest book, Disentangling From Emotionally Immature People, is coming out soon and Lindsay will be returning to Therapy Chat soon to talk about it!
Learn more about Dr. Lindsay Gibson's work, books, and all of her offerings at her website: www.drlindsaygibson.com ( www.drlindsaygibson.com/ )
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This is how I’ve been operating. Thinking I should sacrifice myself and think about others to be a good person. Then I feel resentful when others don’t do it for me but still demand it of me. I was raised by two emotionally immature parents and two abusive siblings who treated me like their servant. I’m so glad ti find this video.
I just read "What My Bones Know" by Stephanie Foo. Content warning, there is a lot of violence in the first half and it can be triggering. But if you can stomach it, she beautifully describes this feeling and how her therapy process helped her learn that this is an effect of her trauma, rather than a truth about herself. Good luck!
Nowadays when I think of my parents, and my mind want to tell me anxiously "oh no, what would my parents think about me if I did that?!" Instead I start to automatically think "screw them, I do what I want. I don't need their permission".
34:34 is so real… it’s what I’m learning and I had to separate cuz my mom is plain jealous that everyone else likes me in the family and NOT her, I had NO IDEA!
I would really appreciate less hyperfocus on 'the humanity of the person being described' and much more focus on "the humanity of the person who has been and likely is still being affected and damaged"
Yes, me too. But we have that in other videos. I say my mother keeps being a narcisist apart of being an immature person. She will not change. I know that and I only say hello pa, hello ma, do you need anything else? (I just went for some shopping as they can't drive)... No? ok, see you next week, bye! 😊
Dr. Gibson sounds a bit different on this podcast.
A 12min intro is a very long intro. If I didn't already know that Lindsay would be sharing such helpful information, I would have moved on.