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    Chapters:
    00:00 Job and income
    05:10 How’s the religion going?
    10:04 Sounds like a GREAT marriage…
    16:00 This situation is crazy!
    21:30 She has no excuse!
    23:03 Fabric by Gerber Life
    28:00 Holy SPENDING
    34:39 Does she actually regret her choices?
    37:45 I’m calling him :rotating_light:
    43:41 Oh she got bills to pay :moneybag:
    45:55 Morgan & Morgan
    53:00 Leave him
    57:11 She’s using every excuse in the book
    1:01:59 She got seriously robbed
    1:05:45 What’s the verdict on this scammer?
    1:10:14 This has to end NOW
    1:12:26 Equity Multiple
    1:18:14 She needs a budget
    1:23:20 Time to hunt for aluminum cans…
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  • @CalebHammer
    @CalebHammer  12 днів тому +229

    It's WILD to see someone so open about disliking their husband... the tea spills EVEN MORE in today's Post Show: ua-cam.com/channels/Le_q9axMaeTbjN0hy1Z9xA.htmljoin
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    • @AnalyticalMenace
      @AnalyticalMenace 11 днів тому +15

      Question is....does he *know* he is disliked this much?

    • @DaisakoKunandra
      @DaisakoKunandra 11 днів тому +3

      If he didn't he probably does now...​@@AnalyticalMenace

    • @hockeyhalod
      @hockeyhalod 11 днів тому +7

      "I don't want to be married because I don't like paying for daycare.".... What?

    • @Everythingisawesome333
      @Everythingisawesome333 11 днів тому +3

      You obviously haven't spent much time around married women with deadbeat husbands.

    • @RundbarkKonark
      @RundbarkKonark 11 днів тому

      I'd be more surprised if she actually did like a loser like that.. She should run to the hills as if her life depended on it (which it might)

  • @gummibearzrule
    @gummibearzrule 11 днів тому +3085

    The fact that she lives in a patriarchal household with no patriarch is CRAZY.

    • @danakchampion
      @danakchampion 11 днів тому +63

      Wow, well put. I'm going to remember this phrase. I grew up in a patriarchal household with no patriarch (Christian fundamentalist). Probably why my values as an adult have veered about as far away from that ideology as I could possibly get..

    • @ismaileee
      @ismaileee 11 днів тому

      Can't call yourself a patriarchy while being an unemployed bum - his entire family are a bunch of enablers and freeloaders

    • @rrb396
      @rrb396 11 днів тому +40

      ​@FarisDou what exactly are you trying to argue? Muslim households are by definition patriarchal 😂

    • @rrb396
      @rrb396 11 днів тому +8

      @@FarisDou ohhhh, you're one of those

    • @FreePigeon
      @FreePigeon 11 днів тому +15

      @@rrb396 No you're one of those people. Someone states a fact and you think they're arguing. A house with no patriarch is not patriarchal by definition. But it sounds like it does have a patriarch, just a terrible one. Most households are patriarchal but they're not all living in the stone age.

  • @pixiegirl131415
    @pixiegirl131415 11 днів тому +1456

    He literally baby-trapped her. Girl, you are basically already a single parent of 2. Get out.

    • @YuckyMama
      @YuckyMama 10 днів тому +59

      What’s tragic is that she still clings to the delusion that “I love him”. Girl. You don’t love him. Love requires respect, working together as a team, equal sacrifice. She loves the idea of a nuclear family. Until she recognizes that she’s better off losing 150 lbs, she’ll never be happy. This entire episode was a waste of time because you have one adult, one child running up bills. Come back when she’s found freedom and independence.

    • @truebengalsfan
      @truebengalsfan 10 днів тому +5

      What happen to my body my choice lmao

    • @Red--Moon
      @Red--Moon 9 днів тому +10

      @@truebengalsfan Sigh.

    • @potato1084
      @potato1084 9 днів тому +5

      @@truebengalsfanWhat kinda comment is this? There’s nothing wrong with having choice but making the wrong choices and damaging your child’s future is a problem. Neither of them are following the religion properly anyway.

    • @jones2277
      @jones2277 7 днів тому +2

      Try paying for childcare on that income. It’s not at all the same as single parenthood.

  • @nodsib
    @nodsib 11 днів тому +908

    Wow, she got all the drawbacks of a fundamentalist Islamic marriage, and didn’t even get the one benefit of being able to stay home with her children and run the household.

    • @dm96177
      @dm96177 8 днів тому +73

      100%. She is being exploited for sure.

    • @Kyotopearl
      @Kyotopearl 8 днів тому +26

      It’s only a benefit if the kids are old enough to be gone a chunk of the day at school cause especially when they are very young, studies have shown that the at home parent endures significantly MORE stress than the parent who works outside the home. Unfortunately, the husband handles the stress by doing as little as possible all around in general

    • @gingerydelights3554
      @gingerydelights3554 5 днів тому +13

      ​@@KyotopearlIt's like you are forgetting this is 23 year old who gave birth to 2 children and went back to work. You think that was harder on Mr. Mom? Get real.

    • @ljhcmh614
      @ljhcmh614 5 днів тому

      "Benefits." LOL. It's gross and it's misogyny. Forgive me, but I don't hand out free passes based on medieval religions nonsense.

    • @qsmfocus
      @qsmfocus 4 дні тому +1

      What drawbacks?

  • @can1687
    @can1687 11 днів тому +535

    Lisa,
    As a son of that kind of a father.
    This man will not change.
    And like my mother for 40 years you will suffer.
    Please. Take your child and leave that man child.
    He will not change and nothing will be better.
    My mother was the man in the household.
    We resent our father. We told our mom to divorce him.
    But she stayed. Because a father is needed. Yes he is needed. But not like that.
    You are enough for your child. You did stepp up. .he did not.
    So
    What will you loose?
    They will blame you anyway.
    You deserve to be Happy.

    • @OGfancy420
      @OGfancy420 5 днів тому +5

      Idk, after watching this I kinda feel like they are perfect for each other. Just sucks that kids are involved.

    • @a.c.316
      @a.c.316 2 дні тому +1

      @@OGfancy420u dont even know him

    • @OGfancy420
      @OGfancy420 2 дні тому

      @a.c.316 you don't know that, but regardless my comment was about her.....

  • @cyoohoos
    @cyoohoos 11 днів тому +3590

    She LITERALLY erased her identity for a man who won’t/can’t get a job to support his family. She doesn’t drive. She adopted his religion. And she admitted she didn’t want to be married. I have no words

    • @nigiivogduff804
      @nigiivogduff804 11 днів тому +137

      He introduced!!!! The religion!!! She did not say he made her do anything please!! You are all so obbsessed with muslims and what they wear. All you people can talk about is how she looks and her religion. How about her financial situation? THAT is what this video is about🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️

    • @LaylaLover90
      @LaylaLover90 11 днів тому +542

      @@nigiivogduff804 Hey don't you think that her husband has a little something to do with her situation????? Come on with your BS

    • @Sugar735
      @Sugar735 11 днів тому +371

      ​@@nigiivogduff804 her husband and that religion are a huge part of her financials, dingus

    • @Raindrops4891
      @Raindrops4891 11 днів тому +40

      And im still single wtf is this

    • @nigiivogduff804
      @nigiivogduff804 11 днів тому +41

      @@LaylaLover90 is her husband islam in a physical form? What are you talking about??? She spends the money, does the quran say she has to spend a crazy amount of money with diffrent creditcards? Are you okay? How about responsibility, being an adult? She CHOOSE to wear niqab, she CHOOSE to spend money, she CHOOSE to be married with her husband so please...

  • @passingby8176
    @passingby8176 11 днів тому +1681

    Husband will probably watch this video and scold his wife rather than man up, self reflect, and step up for his family.

    • @kenennaoyeka5286
      @kenennaoyeka5286 11 днів тому +59

      And he would call every commenter an idiot 😂

    • @darkfafnir4389
      @darkfafnir4389 11 днів тому +13

      She literally called him and let Caleb talk and he hung up....she doesn't respect her husband but wants things a certain way...yea I hope she leaves him cause he can do better in sure🤡🤡

    • @darkfafnir4389
      @darkfafnir4389 11 днів тому +2

      ​@@kenennaoyeka5286cause you are....funny you laugh about that

    • @can1687
      @can1687 11 днів тому +8

      Of Course.
      Why should he be "wrong" -Irony

    • @geo4322
      @geo4322 11 днів тому

      What world are you living in? ​@@darkfafnir4389

  • @jamielivingston7765
    @jamielivingston7765 11 днів тому +488

    Girl leave him TODAY. You will qualify for healthcare and childcare!

    • @wmluna381
      @wmluna381 10 днів тому +17

      Yeah, she should make a solid plan NOW for the next tax refund season when she can claim the kid *and* the husband. She can bounce by February 2025 if she starts getting the money in order now. Whatever lease she has, she should plan to go month-to-month if it comes up for renewal in the meantime. She'll really have to suffer a bit until the kid can get into a preschool program (~4 y/o) within a public school system and they usually have cheaper before and after care for parents.

    • @Sar-ahG
      @Sar-ahG 9 днів тому +9

      No she still makes to much

    • @21truthbetold
      @21truthbetold 4 дні тому +4

      She makes too much to qualify at 48k a year with just 2 people- mom and child. She wouldn’t get childcare and if she doesn’t work she will loose her apartment.

    • @me78723
      @me78723 День тому

      You would think so but no.

  • @mkultraviolenc3
    @mkultraviolenc3 10 днів тому +139

    I'm a photographer and the minute she said "I won a discounted photo-shoot from a fb post", I KNEW it was a scam. How can people be so gullible?

  • @thecedars0612
    @thecedars0612 11 днів тому +784

    She just gave birth not even a year ago and is contemplating getting a weekend job while the husband stays at home and plays video games…crazy

    • @truebengalsfan
      @truebengalsfan 10 днів тому +9

      She choose this

    • @hackerzzunite
      @hackerzzunite 10 днів тому +34

      ​@@truebengalsfanclearly not, guessing you didn't watch any of the video????

    • @truebengalsfan
      @truebengalsfan 10 днів тому +5

      @@hackerzzunite you must not know women

    • @ellojello8639
      @ellojello8639 10 днів тому +6

      @@truebengalsfanbruh 😂

    • @yaboylevi
      @yaboylevi 10 днів тому +24

      ​@@truebengalsfan Incel moment

  • @sakaya9878
    @sakaya9878 11 днів тому +1494

    Girl as a born and raised muslim girl, this is the type of nonsense only a convert would suffer through. I don’t want to be offensive to converts or make it seem as if I see you as lesser muslims, we are all the same. But some things just don’t fly in muslim households. And if my husband was having me work and SPENDING MY MONEY FOR THE HOUSE WHILE HE DOESN’T EARN ANY LIVING my parents would come and take me home and tell my husband to get his shit together unless he wants a divorce. My parents would fight his parents and tell them to come get their bum son.

    • @Nabee_H
      @Nabee_H 11 днів тому +154

      This is what I thought as well. If the man fails to provide and the woman is in an abusive position the responsibility falls on the father and brothers/male cousins to go and take her out of the situtaiton/beat some sense into the deadbeat. In this case I'd assume her family isn't muslim either, and doesn't really understand the importance of this aspect. And I'd assume the husband avoids his own family is because of this specific reason, he doesn't want to get yelled at by his parents and family for being abusive and therefore actively avoids them at all times. Only a revert could get entrapped like this. Its haram to take the wifes money/valuables.

    • @arosemorose
      @arosemorose 11 днів тому +45

      yeah absolutely, I'm a convert and I always see people just taking whatever because they think they're supposed to, or they "have faith" and just go for it. No walis, thats a huge reason born muslims don't (usually or as often) get into this shit

    • @boisteranto9275
      @boisteranto9275 11 днів тому

      it’s because they don’t have the same community support, so they’re more vulnerable to the reject incels that born-muslim women are sheltered/protected from. ofc this is all under the assumption that born-muslim women actually have the villages they’re supposed to have.

    • @daebak_hana
      @daebak_hana 11 днів тому +8

      💯💯💯 same! He knew that too!

    • @jenfoster128
      @jenfoster128 11 днів тому +23

      I was curious because my kids are friends with several kids who are Muslim and in each of those families the dad is really hard on the boys but treats the girls like they are princesses. Is that a common thing in the culture or is it just specific to those families?

  • @Bree-fz4gy
    @Bree-fz4gy 10 днів тому +132

    I’ve been in a similar situation as her. My ex husband is a veteran, and he had 100% disability. He would spend all our money every month with going to the bar. He would spend my income as well. Then he would yell at me for not affording the bills, so I got a second job. Similar story with her. No money for babysitting. Then because I had a second job and come home exhausted, too exhausted to clean. He would yell at me for cheating. He would easily spend $300 in one night. Grr I’m still angry and salty about that and it’s been 15 years.
    I ended up losing my mind and told him to go. He threatened my life and told me to leave. So then I was homeless. He wrecked my car driving drunk a month prior, so worked the two jobs while living on the streets and washing up at the gym. No I didn’t have a cellphone. So as I could afford it, I called my mom, she was living so far away. It was just hell. Then my ex husband took my son away with him. I finally got my son back about 4 years ago.
    She needs to leave now before it gets worse, because it will.

    • @gingerydelights3554
      @gingerydelights3554 5 днів тому +8

      You are amazing. I hope you are proud of yourself.
      Did that bum get any karma?

    • @Fallingsakura265
      @Fallingsakura265 4 дні тому +6

      This needs a Reddit post

    • @korsakoff76
      @korsakoff76 2 дні тому +2

      She bought a laptop she did not need and spent $2,400 for photoshoot. She's dragging herself into the mess.

  • @kylehill4437
    @kylehill4437 10 днів тому +627

    Met a guy, two years later married, changed religion, had kids with him, financially support him and now wants a divorce all under 4 years at 23. A lot of terrible choices.

    • @btb997
      @btb997 10 днів тому +28

      Young and dumb

    • @judymarburger
      @judymarburger 8 днів тому +43

      He’s using her!

    • @MaidenHelll
      @MaidenHelll 7 днів тому +48

      I actually feel for her
      I bet he’s older than her too
      It’s wild that you’re putting all the blame on her

    • @LipglossAndLove12
      @LipglossAndLove12 7 днів тому +17

      @@MaidenHelllthey both graduated together so probably around the same age

    • @Codacoli
      @Codacoli 6 днів тому +1

      Yeah… also Kyle Hill… as in science Thor? Alt acct?

  • @kara8911
    @kara8911 11 днів тому +1389

    So his family sounds like they live overseas and they want him to come home. She should not under any circumstances let the baby go overseas with him.

    • @jdeux3677
      @jdeux3677 11 днів тому +73

      At all

    • @UpChuckCanuck
      @UpChuckCanuck 11 днів тому +97

      And you don't think that he's holding that over her head if she stops supporting him? That religion isn't known for letting women go against a man's wishes if they want to keep their heads

    • @lilitulee
      @lilitulee 11 днів тому +20

      That baby is gone NEVER know their mom if it keeps up

    • @drketchup1988
      @drketchup1988 11 днів тому +15

      Why not? Solves both problems. No deadbeat husband no paying for childcare.

    • @hotjazzy1
      @hotjazzy1 11 днів тому

      😂 ​@@drketchup1988

  • @ren-cy1gn
    @ren-cy1gn 11 днів тому +844

    If even his sisters won't talk to her, she needs to leave the marriage. They're completely disrespecting her. They have cut her from the family unit.

    • @AnalyticalMenace
      @AnalyticalMenace 11 днів тому +17

      I believe there is a name for this.. 🤔

    • @Digger-Nick
      @Digger-Nick 11 днів тому

      That's what happens when you become a muslim

    • @Sin-D_
      @Sin-D_ 11 днів тому

      They don’t respect her bc she’s a ditzy American. But their brother isn’t much better. But she “chose” the sh*t end of the deal in every aspect of their relationship.

    • @barbarasbisa892
      @barbarasbisa892 11 днів тому +11

      ​@@AnalyticalMenace"Green card"

    • @user-ne1pn8ih4j
      @user-ne1pn8ih4j 11 днів тому

      @@AnalyticalMenace.. disowned?

  • @Cfp-sx2vs
    @Cfp-sx2vs 11 днів тому +198

    I feel like Caleb let out a deep sigh after talking about her relationship because he's like, "Oh my God, now I have to yell at this poor woman."

  • @KhanKhanKhan5000
    @KhanKhanKhan5000 10 днів тому +137

    As a fellow Muslim I just want to say... GIRL YOU FELL FOR THE WRONG ONE

    • @Kingz2100
      @Kingz2100 7 днів тому

      Regardless of religion, her husband is a dead beat, family in law is not supportive by all means. Maybe there is a special place in hell for those like them, if they still refuse to change in order to help her.

    • @ALyaser1993
      @ALyaser1993 5 днів тому +9

      Also. It's a bigger sin to use interest based financial products than not wearing hijab and what she is wearing.

    • @Doritosaregood-h4r
      @Doritosaregood-h4r 5 днів тому

      Search "This is the husband of "this youtube title" on google

    • @me78723
      @me78723 День тому

      ​@@ALyaser1993welll we all sin differently.

    • @user-gc6tv1bh1v
      @user-gc6tv1bh1v День тому

      @@ALyaser1993she could’ve got a ‘halal’ loan which just puts fees instead of interest. Same thing in principle.

  • @ShasShankRedemption
    @ShasShankRedemption 11 днів тому +5514

    As a Muslim women, being the sole breadwinner is WILD

    • @user-zc6ug3qh3z
      @user-zc6ug3qh3z 11 днів тому +608

      I always thought, men were supposed to provide and give their wife extra money for themselves💀

    • @theTerriberg
      @theTerriberg 11 днів тому +39

      Are they not allowed? Sorry I know very little about it

    • @user-zc6ug3qh3z
      @user-zc6ug3qh3z 11 днів тому +115

      But I also thought that interest was haram...

    • @farah34978
      @farah34978 11 днів тому +565

      @@user-zc6ug3qh3z Yes, in Islam the mans money is the woman's money and any money made by the woman is hers. These are the rights of a woman in a marriage, Her husband is NOT the norm yikes

    • @FlowerGrl20
      @FlowerGrl20 11 днів тому +44

      Heck yeah! I’m so surprised, especially coming from religious folks

  • @jcnot9712
    @jcnot9712 11 днів тому +755

    Over an hour into the video, just when I thought her husband couldn’t get any worse it’s revealed he’s a League of Legends player. Now everything makes sense.

    • @GardenLikeAMother
      @GardenLikeAMother 11 днів тому +36

      Lmao as a former player yes by far the worse gaming community

    • @jcnot9712
      @jcnot9712 11 днів тому +26

      @@GardenLikeAMother it’s not even close. I also used to play it, and everyone who does has completely given up on life.

    • @sneakgeakz5377
      @sneakgeakz5377 11 днів тому

      @@jcnot9712Can confirm after playing for a decade it's one of the most addicting games out there and can ruin your life if you let it

    • @blackblack1167
      @blackblack1167 11 днів тому +15

      I’m like 10 minutes in but seeing this, it’s all making sense now. League players are the worse

    • @Plagiarist1
      @Plagiarist1 11 днів тому +16

      Lmao. Every time I see a brain dead take on Reddit I click their profile to see what subreddits they comment/post to often. 8 times out of 10 it's League of Legends.

  • @BecauseWhyNot660
    @BecauseWhyNot660 11 днів тому +88

    If he's not a good husband, he's not a good father. He needs to be a true partner in every way.

    • @Revert2017
      @Revert2017 11 днів тому +4

      He is not a good Muslim.

    • @Doritosaregood-h4r
      @Doritosaregood-h4r 5 днів тому

      Search "This is the husband of "this youtube title" on google

  • @highdesertsun3154
    @highdesertsun3154 10 днів тому +162

    “I’m scared…” she admits.
    I want to hug her and whisper in her ear, “Leave him, he will never change.”

    • @ljhcmh614
      @ljhcmh614 5 днів тому +1

      She missed therapy appointments because they were at 9 a.m. and she couldn't "get up early." She will never change either.

    • @robbiedontmiss
      @robbiedontmiss День тому

      ​@@ljhcmh614 sounds like depression to me

  • @Aging_Casually_Late_Gamer
    @Aging_Casually_Late_Gamer 11 днів тому +879

    To her husband, "ewww...brother ewwww. Whats that? Whats that brother?"

  • @Me-tv6ms
    @Me-tv6ms 11 днів тому +544

    Lisa, you're 23 years old. You have so much life ahead of you. PLEASE look out for yourself and your baby. If you feel unhappy with your life due to your marriage and you're not able to repair it PLEASE leave. If you feel afraid or that he's dangerous there are many women's resources and safe houses that can protect you. Consult a lawyer as well if you decide to go this route as well!!

  • @aguie34
    @aguie34 11 днів тому +139

    bro, she also clearly post partum depressed, like, that probably never went away, she just started coping by spending money. and her brains not done

  • @nane1013
    @nane1013 11 днів тому +95

    This seems like a cry for help episode . I hope her family checks in on her. Behind closed doors she's probably going through sooo much

  • @MrTheBest247
    @MrTheBest247 11 днів тому +2400

    She converted to this lifestyle? For him? With a kid? This is a fever dream.

    • @SimonCas
      @SimonCas 11 днів тому +97

      I for one am surprised it didn’t work out lol

    • @nigiivogduff804
      @nigiivogduff804 11 днів тому

      No. Did she say that? No it is just rooted in your brain to be negative about islam, to be islamofobic. A women does not have to convert to marry a muslim man. Any woman who does, has a mental health issue. It has nothing to do with religion but all with the people and their mental heath, and choices they make.

    • @Digger-Nick
      @Digger-Nick 11 днів тому

      Women are easily brainwashed

    • @veronicaescalera3421
      @veronicaescalera3421 11 днів тому +150

      Low self esteem is a hell of a thing. Once you can love yourself, it's easier to walk away.
      But there's like 3 things that could've happened: low self esteem, bad home life, or he really pretended to be someone else until he got what he wanted. I still haven't finished watching but her knowing it's bad but staying because of the baby... it's a tale as old as time.

    • @Dza_616
      @Dza_616 11 днів тому +6

      They aren’t following Islam. In islam it is the husband’s OBLIGATION to provide. This doesn’t seem like a man who is actually following the religion. but a useless man.

  • @Conartisttt
    @Conartisttt 11 днів тому +815

    I felt like Caleb was in a better mood, less harsh, less name calling.. I don't know.. I liked it. I needed it. Thanks for having a heart here Caleb

    • @user-lc8ec5fr4i
      @user-lc8ec5fr4i 11 днів тому +25

      Yeah he wasnt raised muslim 😂

    • @MiaMizuno
      @MiaMizuno 11 днів тому +32

      He feared some hate maybe 😂😊

    • @jamiealfenso737
      @jamiealfenso737 10 днів тому +65

      Tbh she seems like a victim, maybe he felt for her a bit 🤷 idk. I felt bad for her. She needs to leave the pos she with.

    • @bluesfan6862
      @bluesfan6862 10 днів тому +46

      Well… from everything I’ve seen on this channel, most of the people who come in are bums. Lazy, don’t want to work, etc.
      she’s really not doing anything terrible. Her husband is just destroying their lives. How can you yell at her over that?

    • @adrivoid5376
      @adrivoid5376 9 днів тому +27

      I think he has more sympathy for people who have fallen into traps or bad circumstances instead of just being lazy or spoiled. This woman converted to a religion her husband introduced her to and is now stuck in a bad marriage and is a breadwinner in a bad house. All he can do is calmly give tips to help with what she can control

  • @eliza6295
    @eliza6295 11 днів тому +115

    Caleb, please add a bobble head figure to your store and a purchase shame button. A “Purchase Shame” button that has your voice yelling “Nooooo”, “Are you f**king me?!”, or “no more bulls**t at gas stations!!”

  • @krstylwr7249
    @krstylwr7249 10 днів тому +90

    The beginning of this was like a live action version of a r/marriage post on Reddit.

  • @topnotchmusa
    @topnotchmusa 11 днів тому +775

    I was not expecting her to start crying when she did. She seemed so nonchalant at first. You can tell she's been dealing with this frustration for a while and has repressed a majority of her true feelings at this point.

    • @Dr.ZoidbergPhD
      @Dr.ZoidbergPhD 11 днів тому +12

      I have a friend who is getting divorced. I asked her what she told him and told me what she could remember.
      I started to swell up towards the end bc I could see the pain she was in and even though I wasn't the one those words were directed towards, I couldn't foe the life of me being the sad man at the end of that. It hurt me just to hear it basically

    • @ao1996
      @ao1996 11 днів тому

      If only there was some way to know how repressive and misogynistic this belief system was while putting on the bag that prevented you from interacting with other humans and seeing their emotional response hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm🤔

    • @chaaaaaaaaaaaad
      @chaaaaaaaaaaaad 11 днів тому +16

      I hope she gets divorced and comes out a strong and ALIVE 😂

    • @gio_graphy
      @gio_graphy 11 днів тому +23

      She is definitely dealing with the "sunk cost fallacy". She has "invested" in this man (converting, marrying and having a child with him) and even though her "investment" isn't benefiting her and if anything is a net negative, she feels like If she toughs it out then she will eventually "get the returns on her investment" (he becomes a better husband and dad). She needs to cut her losses with him, get her ducks in a row and GET OUT. He is gonna string her along, pretending/promising that he's gonna change and he's gonna waste years if not decades of her life.

    • @uniquenewyork3325
      @uniquenewyork3325 11 днів тому

      ​@gio_graphy many women in the west are dealing with this right now, they feel like they won't find anyone else after a certain age and if they aren't the perfect woman (giving up their entire life) they they'll be alone forever.

  • @TruckerJDub
    @TruckerJDub 11 днів тому +1793

    I don't have any real debt but I watch so many of these audits that I fired up Farming Simulator and paid off my loan, sold off all my rarly used farm equipment, and building an emergency fund incase something destroyes my virtual crops.

    • @perfectiondreamusa
      @perfectiondreamusa 11 днів тому +264

      Caleb Hammer’s crippling debt simulator when

    • @Dpain003
      @Dpain003 11 днів тому +17

      😂😂😂😂😂

    • @77maryrox
      @77maryrox 11 днів тому +129

      😂 lmao not me wanting my Sims family to build a 6 month emergency fund 😅

    • @lechugo6617
      @lechugo6617 11 днів тому +6

      LMFAOoo

    • @krystin0004
      @krystin0004 11 днів тому +6

      😂

  • @rahbruhn-howard8129
    @rahbruhn-howard8129 11 днів тому +49

    There is more than one type of domestic abuse- financial neglect, emotional neglect... love move in with your mum and rebuild

  • @princessrury
    @princessrury 11 днів тому +77

    As a Muslim my whole life I just want to say that divorce is allowed in Islam and it’s not frowned upon. Many cultures regardless of religion make you feel shame and make it seem like divorce is frowned upon…don’t mix religion and culture she has every right to leave him. Also in Islam the man is the provider and IF and a BIG IF the woman wants to work whatever she earns is her own money and he’s not entitled to any of it unless she wants to contribute voluntarily of which it’s considered charity and she’s rewarded for each dollar she spends on the household. Just clearing this up.

    • @indianumberonecountry
      @indianumberonecountry 11 днів тому +4

      Yeah a man can divorce his wife for cooking a bad dinner, but don't lie and say women have the same right

    • @farrazaed
      @farrazaed 11 днів тому +9

      @@indianumberonecountrywomen in Islam also the right for divorce.

    • @princessrury
      @princessrury 11 днів тому +4

      @@indianumberonecountry curious where such misguided information even comes from…?this is so untrue

    • @LizThomas-dp7sr
      @LizThomas-dp7sr 10 днів тому +2

      @@farrazaed Have the right to vs are able to are completely different things.

    • @hijabinomad
      @hijabinomad 7 днів тому +3

      @@indianumberonecountry Islam was the first Abrahamic religion to give the woman a right to divorce, what rock are you living under?

  • @briannasandoval52
    @briannasandoval52 11 днів тому +935

    The fact that she is willing to get another job rather then having him get one is insane

    • @Lucinda_Jackson
      @Lucinda_Jackson 11 днів тому +80

      No, it's realistic. She knows he isn't getting one.

    • @jamielivingston7765
      @jamielivingston7765 11 днів тому

      Exactly. Move out tomorrow. Qualify for free healthcare and cheap childcare. Done.​@@Lucinda_Jackson

    • @KingNugget420
      @KingNugget420 11 днів тому +14

      I guess she'd rather have him watch the kids vs pay for child care

    • @jamielivingston7765
      @jamielivingston7765 11 днів тому +28

      @@KingNugget420 she is just stuck. She shouldn't be judged for feeling that way. She doesn't want to upset her whole world, her daughter's whole world .

    • @Waterwave37
      @Waterwave37 11 днів тому +5

      @@Lucinda_Jacksonit’s insane that she is in that scenario, even if the reaction is realistic

  • @mandykiwi
    @mandykiwi 11 днів тому +1435

    Nothing huge, but I was finally able to put something into my emergency fund! It’s only $150, but it’s a start

    • @munchies982
      @munchies982 11 днів тому +146

      $150 more than you had before, proud of you

    • @cyanl.2245
      @cyanl.2245 11 днів тому +30

      You did great! Keep going🎉

    • @tonyahenry4167
      @tonyahenry4167 11 днів тому +8

      🙏🏽

    • @YellowStarrx3
      @YellowStarrx3 11 днів тому +37

      😊 good!! Now don't touch it. Lol

    • @TK-pj7pc
      @TK-pj7pc 11 днів тому +4

      congrats!!

  • @goldbanker2777
    @goldbanker2777 11 днів тому +50

    She needs to move back home with mom and dad. Husband needs a reality check

  • @almara90
    @almara90 8 днів тому +43

    I am a muslim woman. It is haram for a muslim man to take his wife's money. He is not supposed to even ask for it. He is supposed to be the provider, no matter if she gets an income or not. If he can't provide, he should not be married. This is a bare minimum right his wife has over him. For him to not be a provider and use her money is so insane. He knows he isn't suppose to do that and yet gets away with it. She married a boy unfortunately. Under islamic standards, he is a failure. Best thing is for her to get a quick divorce and find herself a man.

    • @niratomas579
      @niratomas579 5 днів тому +2

      A complete failure!

    • @ernigee
      @ernigee 3 дні тому +1

      I'm dying to scream watching this. as a muslim too I feel sorry for her

  • @CianMcsweeney
    @CianMcsweeney 11 днів тому +979

    Largest red flag was at the end: "he doesn't like them watching her", your own husband doesn't want your family looking after your kid? That's crazy

    • @nazcookz9948
      @nazcookz9948 11 днів тому +29

      Right!!! How did they just skim over that

    • @bistander
      @bistander 11 днів тому +11

      Yeah, need for deets. Are they reckless/incompetent? Drama? Etc.?

    • @Lilshinyfcker
      @Lilshinyfcker 11 днів тому

      Because they aren't muslim

    • @YuckyMama
      @YuckyMama 11 днів тому +61

      Of course he doesn’t!! It’s just more interaction with them who would probably support her leaving his worthless arse. The more she’s around women who aren’t beaten down the more she gets a taste of freedom.
      I cannot fathom why she’d stay. She leaves and she loses 150lbs of dead weight.

    • @darkfafnir4389
      @darkfafnir4389 11 днів тому +10

      I don't like my ladies family having my son...or my own mom....he is my kid so my responsibility...I know you all think you Deserve to have a babysitter and go out but you don't....don't have a kid if you don't want to focus on the kid....🤡🤡🤡💩💩💩

  • @mollyeaton917
    @mollyeaton917 11 днів тому +1238

    The fact that neither of them can drive and they have a child is CRAZY

    • @maxine2564
      @maxine2564 11 днів тому

      She married a man- child not a Muslim man.

    • @theTerriberg
      @theTerriberg 11 днів тому +18

      @@mollyeaton917 it's actually common

    • @fber5591
      @fber5591 11 днів тому +113

      @@theTerribergno it’s not

    • @carlycaye90
      @carlycaye90 11 днів тому +46

      I can't imagine not driving. It is such a huge part of this country's identity lol

    • @Sadreath
      @Sadreath 11 днів тому +42

      @@theTerriberg It's not even common in Europe where we have much more walkable cities. I have a friend who does not have a driver's license and he is definitely the odd one out. And even he agrees that if he had a kid or would not live in the middle of a bigger city and do a lot of HO he would need a drivers license and a car.

  • @skbee6
    @skbee6 10 днів тому +25

    Her husband does have a full-time job. It's making his wife's life miserable.
    I hope she finds a supportive, PARTNER who can make her life easier, not more difficult.

    • @Doritosaregood-h4r
      @Doritosaregood-h4r 5 днів тому

      Search "This is the husband of "this youtube title" on google

  • @MEGWY
    @MEGWY 11 днів тому +204

    the "feeling something's wrong" with her brain, randomly buying seven notebooks + fancy pens, missing appointments etc. is screaming ADHD

    • @uniquenewyork3325
      @uniquenewyork3325 11 днів тому +23

      This is usually the energy I get from the guests who are more reserved and unaware of how much they spend. Undiagnosed adhd (most likely add) is EVIL because you function well enough but not so well that you don't feel stupid and confused about why you act a certain way. I have nightmares about the impulse spending I did before getting diagnosed and finding help 😭 even if she doesn't have it, many of the techniques might help her

    • @Noname-vu1om
      @Noname-vu1om 9 днів тому

      @@uniquenewyork3325 hey would you mind elaborating about the techniques? I think they would help a lot of us struggling with these issues. Thanks

    • @Timbo360
      @Timbo360 9 днів тому +7

      @@uniquenewyork3325I have ADHD, there’s no difference between ADD and ADHD, it is now just ADHD. They used to think kids that were “jumpy” had ADHD and kids who seemed more reserved (like me) weren’t hyper. However, the hyperactive part of the disorder also pertains to things like hyper focus. I have to remind myself to drink water/eat if I start on a project or something like that because I get way too into “the zone” or in a flow state.

    • @dim307
      @dim307 8 днів тому

      omg i literally just said that before i got to ur comment lol

  • @carolg6598
    @carolg6598 11 днів тому +264

    $2,400 for a 1 hour photo shoot, for 19 photos? She got ripped to shreds. Unless it's wedding photo quality, she got scammed.

    • @McBlazington
      @McBlazington 11 днів тому +53

      $2400 for 19 photos in an hour (not on location) is still a scam, even at wedding rates.

    • @alirojek
      @alirojek 9 днів тому +23

      “Discounted” 😭 absolutely ripped off!

    • @AbruptAvalanche
      @AbruptAvalanche 9 днів тому +13

      "Here's your free photoshoot! Oh, you actually want to take the photos home with you? That'll be $2800."
      She said the three of them were each on a $900-something payment plan, so I'm guessing with that final number, but apparently that's after a $400 "discount" too. Absolutely insane. Even if she got a much more reasonable price, someone in her financial situation shouldn't be getting professional photos at all. Just snap some with your phone.

    • @claire98
      @claire98 9 днів тому +5

      Yeah it's crazy. I doubt the guy spent more than a day on all the photos in total (photoshoot + editing), but she paid him her MONTHLY paycheck for it? Absolutely unbelievable.

    • @SparklesNJazz
      @SparklesNJazz 8 днів тому +4

      absolutely insane. it shouldve been a MAX $400 shoot. you can get way better quality photos for 250-300. i’m a photographer and i charge low end because i don’t do it often but i could get her some nice photos for 275 and i would send her 40+ EDITED photos

  • @sabrinagranger5468
    @sabrinagranger5468 11 днів тому +192

    Lisa, even if you don't divorce, PLEASE make sure to have your paperwork for your baby in order before you do anything. Do not allow the child to be removed from the country unless you have everything firmly on paper: that includes not allowing the child to leave the house alone with your husband's family. I've seen too many cases where an auntie/grandparent/etc. takes the kid "to the park" or "for ice cream" but where they're going is actually the airport.
    Yes, a piece of paper can't stop a wrongful removal of the child from the country, but it really helps if you need to seek a legal remedy, and you can be really screwed without it.

    • @pippetandpossum
      @pippetandpossum 11 днів тому +14

      Especially when they take the kid to a country practicing sharia, they never see their mom again

    • @sabrinagranger5468
      @sabrinagranger5468 11 днів тому +10

      ​@@pippetandpossum Well, the family is Indian and wants the husband to return there, so that would be the highest risk. It can be a problem with any country, honestly: These cases drag on for forever and it can be impossible to locate someone or prove anything. That's why clear paperwork is important.
      I've never worked with a cases where the family was Muslim, so I can't speak to that, but these cases are always terrible.

  • @ArunKumarKumar-zs9ip
    @ArunKumarKumar-zs9ip 11 днів тому +797

    the most fair approach and yet the ultimate king of meme is Kardden

  • @johanna4456
    @johanna4456 10 днів тому +40

    I’m a 28 year old female convert to Islam. Girl he is violating all your Islamic rights it’s crazy. You are also still super young so you still have all your life in front of you. And he’s not behaving like a religious man. I don’t think he’s gonna change

    • @Doritosaregood-h4r
      @Doritosaregood-h4r 6 днів тому

      husband here. Read my post on crepycalebhammer. There is way more to this than what's on the video so ask your questiosn there.

    • @Doritosaregood-h4r
      @Doritosaregood-h4r 5 днів тому

      Search "This is the husband of "this youtube title" on google

  • @thegatas
    @thegatas 11 днів тому +416

    Complains that her therapist does not give her any tools but says her old therapist was wrong for telling her exactly what’s wrong in her relationship. 😂

    • @Socialmora
      @Socialmora 11 днів тому +55

      And then she admits that her mental health is suffering because of his choices. It seem like she needs to do deep soul searching.

    • @strawbraryliberry4604
      @strawbraryliberry4604 11 днів тому +47

      It seems she wasn't ready to hear it. But it sunk in eventually.

    • @uniquenewyork3325
      @uniquenewyork3325 11 днів тому +21

      It breaks my heart how rough therapists have it. When they don't work well with a client, it's "all therapy is useless" and when they DO help a client most won't even listen to the advice

    • @martaleszkiewicz5115
      @martaleszkiewicz5115 11 днів тому

      ​@@uniquenewyork3325tbf there's a lot of bad therapists out there

  • @dillmon1
    @dillmon1 11 днів тому +1629

    Both the American economy and Allah requires the husband to work

    • @jdeux3677
      @jdeux3677 11 днів тому +45

      😂

    • @sickofnelson
      @sickofnelson 11 днів тому +16

      😂

    • @LetshaveMotion
      @LetshaveMotion 11 днів тому +7

      Not rich or poor people. The working class work for them.

    • @TR-lh9yz
      @TR-lh9yz 11 днів тому +20

      The American economy requires SOMEONE work. There's no such thing as Allah, so no need to worry about guessing what he wants.

    • @AsadoMao
      @AsadoMao 11 днів тому +25

      ​@@TR-lh9yz 🤓

  • @lavaalive
    @lavaalive 11 днів тому +54

    The pattern here is that she does absolutely zero research about ANYTHING. She didn't know about the average cost of a mattress, nor did she double check the cost of a photoshoot (or the affirm associated when that came up).

    • @MissMosierable
      @MissMosierable 9 днів тому +6

      I bet her medical debt is also a result of non-research into her plan, non-research into medical providers, and not looking at her alternative options available in regards to the plan and providers. She also had no idea what her interest rate on her CC's were. She doesn't research anything, and she falls for scams.

    • @Afterlife2570
      @Afterlife2570 4 дні тому +1

      Unfortunately she doesnt have any support system, either. Youd expect as quite a young person, shed be getting council from parent figures... but even her mother had no help to offer with mattress costs

    • @theezenriarinze9203
      @theezenriarinze9203 4 дні тому +1

      ​@@Afterlife2570A support system isn't a replacement for basic common sense practices.

    • @Afterlife2570
      @Afterlife2570 4 дні тому

      @@theezenriarinze9203 citing common sense is such a copout. She doesn't have an issue with intelligence (do you have a BSc ?). You're seeing a failure to teach life skills at every level by her guardians. Where was her father when she married and got pregnant by this dropkickk at 22? Her family is even leeching off of her despite being broke with a baby! They spent no effort to set her up with the values and skills that would have been critical to avoid this situation in the first place. Yes, she spends money on Amazon and got cards when she should have known better (and she does know better bc it was her idea to come on the show), but every single circumstance that really matters in this situation is a failure of support by every person close to her (especially her husband). Even if her parents had taken the initiative to teach her to drive, she could at least be saving money. You can't even say she isn't independent despite all this. She's taken the initiative. She is the ONLY one who is taking the initiative.

    • @Afterlife2570
      @Afterlife2570 3 дні тому

      @@theezenriarinze9203 cop out, low effort reply.

  • @sarahtiegan
    @sarahtiegan 10 днів тому +24

    As a Catholic woman, we are “allowed” to divorce. Divorce isn’t a good thing even in secular circles. It’s just taken more seriously in religious ones.

    • @LizThomas-dp7sr
      @LizThomas-dp7sr 10 днів тому

      No Catholics aren't allow to divorce at all and have it recognised. You can end a marriage but you can't divorce. You can get a decree of annulment from a church tribunal that will review the details of your marriage. This means showing that something happened that made the marriage not valid in the eyes of the church. If you get an annulment you can remarry. For example if someone lied before the marriage that can be grounds for an annulment. Like someone cat fishing you into a marriage for a green card. If they lied about something that had you know you wouldn't have married them you can apply for an annulment and the tribunal will rule on your case.
      Your choice it to try for an annulment of just live in as separated and you can legally divorce but they church won't recognise this divorce your still married as far as the church is concerned so you can't remarry.

  • @jsebby2284
    @jsebby2284 11 днів тому +426

    The guy doesnt work, doesnt do home duties, and doesnt drive. Brother what do you do

    • @ikiwarno
      @ikiwarno 11 днів тому +37

      Co-creating a child?

    • @lilitulee
      @lilitulee 11 днів тому +1

      ​@@ikiwarno😂

    • @carlycaye90
      @carlycaye90 11 днів тому +63

      he plays League of Legends apparently

    • @ploys.2031
      @ploys.2031 11 днів тому +7

      ​@@carlycaye90 probably hard stuck Iron IV too

    • @sneakgeakz5377
      @sneakgeakz5377 11 днів тому +5

      @@ploys.2031lol if he's not even diamond what is he even doing playing

  • @theshadowfax239
    @theshadowfax239 11 днів тому +374

    PLEASE DO NOT LET YOUR HUSBAND LEAVE THE COUNTRY WITH YOUR KID!
    He could take those kids anytime she's at work to his home country and she will never see them again. She needs to leave ASAP.

    • @Username0467
      @Username0467 11 днів тому +31

      This comment is very very real.

    • @kara8911
      @kara8911 11 днів тому +13

      That’s what I’m saying too. Terrifying!

    • @mjbankhead9063
      @mjbankhead9063 11 днів тому +16

      Exactly! It will be a “Not Without My Daughter” situation

    • @mcnamaraky
      @mcnamaraky 11 днів тому +7

      ​@@mjbankhead9063I was literally going to say the exact same thing. That actually will be the future, I can see it as clearly as I could the film.

    • @babydollkincaid4584
      @babydollkincaid4584 10 днів тому

      True

  • @SloanMadeline
    @SloanMadeline 9 днів тому +22

    Him calling her husband and asking why he doesn’t like him was so funny 😂

  • @CHILLknowsfootball
    @CHILLknowsfootball 11 днів тому +142

    She said "I'm only married to him because I cant afford daycare." It's a crazy position to be in and it proves the child care system is broken.

    • @Mochiii26
      @Mochiii26 9 днів тому +4

      Child care system is broken what are you saying? People have to make a living child care prices differ depending on what you are looking for. If you just want someone to babysit your child and do the bare minimum it is not that expensive. Many people run child daycares from home and they are affordable. The issue isn’t childcare it’s people not choosing the right individual to raise and have a family with. That was her mistake, and now she is financially responsible for the whole family on 48,000. If her husband worked they would be able to afford childcare. Even so there are many facilities that offer childcare at reasonable prices.

    • @CHILLknowsfootball
      @CHILLknowsfootball 8 днів тому +4

      @@Mochiii26 so, you're saying the childcare system works perfectly well?

    • @frankvonfrauner
      @frankvonfrauner 5 днів тому +1

      Moms having to drop their children off with strangers so they can do a job they hate is the problem.
      Who could have possibly thought that doubling the labor pool would have negative consequences for workers?

    • @houseplant7441
      @houseplant7441 4 дні тому

      The gov used child care system to create more single mothers in the black community. Replace fathers with Big Brother. It should be reserved for only extreme cases (like this one) rather than a way for women to make bad choices and live off taxpayers

    • @jacobday3826
      @jacobday3826 23 години тому

      Oh no, we have females working on things that better society, what a shame.
      Want an example of why we need women in the workforce? Seatbelts. Seatbelts are deadly for women, especially when they're well endowed. Because only men were involved in the development of seatbelts. ​@@frankvonfrauner

  • @jadenhormann
    @jadenhormann 11 днів тому +1847

    "I think he can change" girl....

    • @AnalyticalMenace
      @AnalyticalMenace 11 днів тому +87

      Famous last words.

    • @chanoname4940
      @chanoname4940 11 днів тому +46

      Had a friend like this. She's waited wayyy too long to get away from him.

    • @Gabriel-ci8ex
      @Gabriel-ci8ex 11 днів тому

      *How to get beheaded*

    • @Mrmysterious-dj1ov
      @Mrmysterious-dj1ov 11 днів тому +29

      Those who change only change when want to change 🥠

    • @foobarFR
      @foobarFR 11 днів тому +3

      @@AnalyticalMenace dude. wild.

  • @michellevm4849
    @michellevm4849 11 днів тому +174

    Caleb, The crappy husband “doesn’t like you” because you demand accountability and responsibility and dude doesn’t practice either of those things.

    • @jadedkorean
      @jadedkorean 11 днів тому +2

      🎯

    • @Doritosaregood-h4r
      @Doritosaregood-h4r 7 днів тому +2

      It's not that I didn't like him, he never called back. When i was called i was heading towards walmart and couldn't hear anyone because of the trucks that were around. I called my wife back but she had it on silent so she never picked up. I don't hate the guy.

    • @jadedkorean
      @jadedkorean 7 днів тому +7

      @@Doritosaregood-h4r while you're at walmart pick up an application and get working. Some money is better than no money

    • @Doritosaregood-h4r
      @Doritosaregood-h4r 7 днів тому +1

      @@jadedkorean It is illegal for me to work while my application is processing (visa expired so I applied for residence because she wants me to stay). I made a post on creepycalebhammer explaining a lot of the things.

    • @jadedkorean
      @jadedkorean 6 днів тому

      @@Doritosaregood-h4r Work under the table. You and your wife are setting up your daughter for a very unsuccessful and unstable future

  • @sunshinejgb
    @sunshinejgb 10 днів тому +8

    I wonder how many of her 'issues' come from being totally exhausted and overwhelmed. She has a young baby. A sloth of a husband that is like another child. She works full time, presumably has long commutes on public transporation, and when she's not commuting or working she's nursing her baby, cooking, cleaning and doing all the other chores that her lazy husband should/could be doing. I actually feel really bad for her. She's young and naive and seems to prone to being scammed. She seems very sweet and I think she's let her expenses and budget go unexamined because it's just all too overwhelming. Thanks for helping her Caleb.🙏🏻 I suspect the husband won't even touch the finances, but will blame it all on her.

  • @ChiranjitRabha-un9hc
    @ChiranjitRabha-un9hc 11 днів тому +566

    Clearly Kardden was a right choice. Hope to learn more from you this is pure knowledge

    • @martaleszkiewicz5115
      @martaleszkiewicz5115 11 днів тому +18

      Everybody keep mentioning this "Kardden". Tf is a "Kardden"?

    • @alexdoe5707
      @alexdoe5707 10 днів тому

      @@martaleszkiewicz5115 according to the googles Kardden Token is the first blockchain-enabled worldwide open-source purchasing platform. if thats what is being refeferenced

    • @ThirtySomethingReads
      @ThirtySomethingReads 10 днів тому

      @@martaleszkiewicz5115 It looks like it is a blockchain/crypto coin. All the postings about it are bots promoting it.

  • @ItzLyds
    @ItzLyds 11 днів тому +707

    Admitting you don’t want to be married it the intro is wild.

    • @AnalyticalMenace
      @AnalyticalMenace 11 днів тому +21

      On the plus side, at least we have a (possibly abused?) spouse who knows she needs to get out of this apparently unhealthy relationship. Hard part is getting started..

    • @carlariggs525
      @carlariggs525 11 днів тому +14

      @@AnalyticalMenace she is apparently an American; this is 2024; there are laws in place to help her, not to mention hundreds of private/non profits that help women in her position. She appears educated and has a job...

    • @ItzLyds
      @ItzLyds 11 днів тому +2

      Agreed. Great to be self aware and hope she gets the help she needs. Especially if it’s a toxic relationship.

    • @Username0467
      @Username0467 11 днів тому +28

      @@carlariggs525 It takes the average person 7 times to fully leave an abusive relationship. Leaving is also the most dangerous time. It’s not statistically unlikely he will try to kill her as she leaves. Have grace.

    • @carlariggs525
      @carlariggs525 11 днів тому

      @@Username0467 not buying it. not in 2024.

  • @FPCCEM
    @FPCCEM 11 днів тому +136

    Girl, please run away from this situation. It will be so much better for you and your girl. You're married to another child.

  • @name8031
    @name8031 11 днів тому +95

    Just a quick comment from a Muslim here:
    1.) Interest-bearing debt is forbbiden in Islam. Some scholars allow for a mortgage, but that's about it.
    2.) A wife has a right to be provided for by her husband. There's no such thing as a woman being forced to work.
    3.) Should a woman be divorced or widowed, she has a right to be provided for by her male relatives.
    Sounds like we have a bad apple in the husband; all we can do is pray for them.

    • @The_Food_Police
      @The_Food_Police 11 днів тому +35

      Husband married a revert to take advantage of the fact that she wouldn't know that his behavior is considered unacceptable in his religion. A girl from a Muslim family would not tolerate this, and neither would her male relatives.

    • @philfoxtrot2115
      @philfoxtrot2115 10 днів тому

      Maybe Islam is just dumb?

    • @PotatoWiz
      @PotatoWiz 8 днів тому +3

      I dont think this is normal in any religion or written in any book.. that a man can stay home and women should bear children and work and provide for the family. So its not just for her.. any woman who is stuck with a man like that, leave his ass.....

    • @Doritosaregood-h4r
      @Doritosaregood-h4r 7 днів тому +2

      Ask me questions brother. She can't avoid interest sadly because she wasn't muslim before that and had to go to college. I couldn't work because my visa had issues and thus revoked but my wife doesn't want me to go back because i wouldnt be able to provide money. I do take well of the child, I am just terrible at doing the kitchen. I am at the last stages of getting it sorted out and Insha'Allah she can do whatever she wants.

  • @missearthlings5837
    @missearthlings5837 10 днів тому +24

    Wow... Just wow.
    So let me get this straight:
    - she is the only one making an income for her family after she just gave birth 8 MONTHS AGO
    - and is willing to sacrifice her weekend to get a 2nd job
    - while her good for nothing husband plays video games all day instead of finding work and not doing ANYTHING household related
    - in a desperate attempt to actually put food on THEIR table, she got herself in an immense amount of debt that she is now not able to pay back and digs her whole even deeper every month
    - but her family is not good enough FOR HIM to watch the kid, while she is worried that sth might happen to the child while under HIS care
    How is this guy is not beyond ashamed of himself.
    She is such a strong, amazing woman who does literally everything for them!
    And idgaf if he struggles mentally.
    We all do.
    You, Sir, decided to get married and have a kid.
    Take some fucking responsibility!

    • @Doritosaregood-h4r
      @Doritosaregood-h4r 7 днів тому

      Husband here. Read my post on creepycalebhammer.
      I agree she is the best person i have in my entire life. I do not play video games all day, it seems that way and i use it as means of coping when I am overwhelmed. It's not that I chose not to get work, that is a lie. My visa issues prevent me, and we are still in the process of fixing it. I got fired in a company i was feared to get fired in because of the fire rate of the company, then i couldnt get a job that was related to my bachelors because all of them were miles away that i need to get a car. I couldnt get a car because ID naming issues which i had to fix to get my visa sorted out, and now im in that years long immigration issue. Her family is not good enough for the way they treated her. She is worried something might happen because i didn't seem to react the way she expected me to react, which my introverted self has trouble expressing. And being scared while throwing up my child like any other father is not grounds to justify being scared such that its dangerous for my baby to have fun. Our baby loves and is terrified I do household related stuff, just not at the pace she wanted. Her biggest gripe was the kitchen which I am terrible at maintaining but try to improve. I do still like to get tips on doing that.

    • @Doritosaregood-h4r
      @Doritosaregood-h4r 5 днів тому

      Search "This is the husband of "this youtube title" on google

    • @leenafangry1217
      @leenafangry1217 3 дні тому +1

      i think she married him for love
      and didnt search good about his personality.. he's exploiting her
      so sad
      i am muslim too

    • @Doritosaregood-h4r
      @Doritosaregood-h4r 2 дні тому

      @@leenafangry1217 There is no exploitation. The video was over simplified, and she didn't explain everything thoroughly. The show made it assume I was lazy and didn't get a job when I was barred from getting a job due to document name differences for not having a last name which I was able to get fixed and now in the last stages of residence. Made a post if you would google the video's title. It's public.

  • @cryptomuerto6952
    @cryptomuerto6952 11 днів тому +109

    Understood why he hung up just seeing how he treats his own wife would let me know how disrespectful and lazy he is as a person.

  • @Kehri_Behri
    @Kehri_Behri 11 днів тому +178

    "Hey Siri, call future ex" I'm cryinggggggg😂😂😂

  • @libertarian4323
    @libertarian4323 11 днів тому +77

    She married a useless abusive husband. But look at the bright side, she got a really cool new wardrobe!

    • @user-jy8vk9tb2y
      @user-jy8vk9tb2y 5 днів тому +3

      The way it sounds she'll probably drop her religion when they divorce.

  • @KALYANQUEEN1214
    @KALYANQUEEN1214 11 днів тому +390

    After all the bad years Kardden is our savior

  • @sydney45
    @sydney45 11 днів тому +136

    When he called the husband 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
    "Why don't you like me?" 🥺🥺
    📞📞☎☎💀💀

  • @zahraaalz9621
    @zahraaalz9621 11 днів тому +192

    I feel so bad for her. I know Muslim woman in this kind of marriage, and I also know Christian woman in this kind of marriage.Crappy marriages come in all religions and I hope she finds the strength to leave.

    • @firstlast8258
      @firstlast8258 11 днів тому +3

      Hope is not a plan

    • @firefly5874
      @firefly5874 11 днів тому +23

      ​@@firstlast8258wtf else is she supposed to say😂

    • @GardenLikeAMother
      @GardenLikeAMother 11 днів тому +3

      I thought the same thing ❤ wishing her the best with leaving

    • @indianumberonecountry
      @indianumberonecountry 11 днів тому

      Yeah I guess it CAN happen in a Christian household, but it's not condoned in the Christian faith like it is in the Quran. Not saying the Quran endorses unemployed deadbeat husbands, but it sure as hell does condone some other, arguably worse things. Women are subhuman in Muslim theology. They'll never say that, but if you read the book their 'prophet' wrote, he condones some pretty disgusting shit.
      Tldr: it's legal in Islam to abuse your wife. It's not in Christianity.

    • @NapoleonicWargaming
      @NapoleonicWargaming 11 днів тому +1

      Only one of those gets happy with the acid though...

  • @_mulberry_
    @_mulberry_ 11 днів тому +14

    My husband and I payed $1600 for our wedding photographer. We got 400 professional touched photos and a ten minute video.

  • @CatsMeowPaw
    @CatsMeowPaw 11 днів тому +22

    The 'winning' a family photo shoot and then getting upsold with a whole bunch of expensive photos is a con I'm familiar with. I've had it done to my family. You 'win' a 'free' photoshoot but that's just a ruse to get you in the door and upsell a whole bunch of extra photos to you. The 'free' session ends up costing you.

  • @briana5772
    @briana5772 11 днів тому +390

    My heart goes out to this woman. She's having to support her baby and a grown man all by herself. Wishing her better things ahead. ❤❤

    • @fabipalacios5117
      @fabipalacios5117 11 днів тому +26

      At literally 23!

    • @silksatinsilver1
      @silksatinsilver1 11 днів тому +14

      She’s American and living in America. She can choose to not financially support a capable grown man who is choosing to sit on the couch all day instead of at least trying to change himself enough to be hired or clean the house for the safety of his baby. However, if she leaves, it’ll be messy, and she’ll have to accept help from a women’s shelter and likely some charity, especially if family doesn’t want to help her through the transition season

    • @philwill0123
      @philwill0123 11 днів тому +14

      Live in the real world mate. He's made the choice not to work, yet you blaming her.

    • @heatherwawro640
      @heatherwawro640 11 днів тому +6

      ​@silksatinsilver1 Anything to put the blame on her, huh? Cause it's that easy, obviously

    • @silksatinsilver1
      @silksatinsilver1 11 днів тому +4

      @@heatherwawro640no blame. Just hoping she sees the truth that he has no reason to change & won’t. Either way is hard. Hard staying in a marriage with someone dragging you down vs hard raising a child as a single mom

  • @asia.b
    @asia.b 11 днів тому +169

    "He does scare me sometimes." "He can be a little reckless." "I think he can change." It might be out of context (I'll edit after I finish the episode), but the intro has me seeing nothing but 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩. If this is what I think it is: Run, sis! Take advantage of being in a country where you can escape from men like this and get as far away as possible. HE WILL NOT CHANGE.
    Edit 25 mins in: So it seems he may have depression. That's terrible, but he has to *want* the help, or at the least be open to accepting help. 😕

    • @lilitulee
      @lilitulee 11 днів тому +10

      It's SO BAD that whole situation is just red flag incarnate

    • @maryamalhammadi588
      @maryamalhammadi588 11 днів тому +1

      The fact that he is a muslim man and he not supporting her is huge red flag

    • @javaskull88
      @javaskull88 11 днів тому +1

      And do it fast before he tries for custody and alimony.

    • @LizThomas-dp7sr
      @LizThomas-dp7sr 10 днів тому

      No depression is an excuse. He's abusive, he's using religion to abuse her and finances to abuse her so she can't leave.
      Islam doesn't require coverings like she's wearing at all, MULTIPLE muslim counties have banned them. He 'taught' her about Islam and thus didn't bother to teach her that. Why? The full covers were created to ISOLATE women and control them. Again its nothing to do with ISLAMIC dress rule at ALL.
      He suddenly couldn't work once she was pregnant and thus was more trapped.
      If her husband was really that Islamic and teaching her about the religion she wouldn't have all these consumer debts as there aren't rules about dressing this way but there are strict rules about borrowing and lending money. And she broke them all.

    • @Doritosaregood-h4r
      @Doritosaregood-h4r 7 днів тому

      Husband here, I've recently been getting help and working on myself better. She is much happier now, I still have an issue with the kitchen, better than before but not where i want it. I lost the job, visa issues came in, i couldn't get a job. Still working on fixing the issue, with how long America takes to fix things. made a post on creepycalebhammer.

  • @ra5194
    @ra5194 4 дні тому +5

    As someone who studied Islam and just seeing some of the weird comments underneath the shorts etc, to clarify:
    - both parties are allowed to divorce, women divorcing is a much more established process so that the womens rights are protected and usually done through the islamic council so please stop sharing ignorant comments on areas you have not yet studied.
    - there's a big difference between the religion vs culture/people practising, so stop generalising.
    -muslims are not allowed to take or pay interest as it is perceived to be more harmful.
    -muslim husbands are meant to be providers and look after the family so this is not a "traditional" or neither "islamic" marriage? If the wife wants to work, thats cool but her money is hers and his money is theirs.
    -if you're thinking to revert, please do it out of your own interest and beliefs and learn about the religion.

  • @HyacinthIce
    @HyacinthIce 11 днів тому +36

    She should not let her child go overseas at all with her husband. There’s a chance he might keep her with his family. :(

    • @Nabee_H
      @Nabee_H 11 днів тому +8

      As a Muslim, he WILL. The child won't have any chance at coming back either.

  • @AustiuNoMatterWho
    @AustiuNoMatterWho 11 днів тому +397

    I think I’m finally ready to be yelled at by Caleb

    • @CalebHammer
      @CalebHammer  11 днів тому +147

      I’m ready too!

    • @SpaghettiFlint
      @SpaghettiFlint 11 днів тому +8

      I want to with my husband but we can’t afford to get down to Texas and childcare.

    • @stellademer550
      @stellademer550 11 днів тому

      @@SpaghettiFlintCaleb’s team helps guests with travel expenses! Apply and see what they can do for y’all, it’s worth a shot

    • @nono99136
      @nono99136 11 днів тому +40

      ​@@SpaghettiFlintBring the kid with you to the taping! Caleb loves kids!
      The smellier and stinkier the better!

    • @chasemorrison9558
      @chasemorrison9558 11 днів тому +9

      @@SpaghettiFlintthey reimburse the trip down I know for sure like flight and maybe a nights stay?

  • @CaptainWalrusGaming
    @CaptainWalrusGaming 11 днів тому +301

    She paid $3000 AFTER A $700 DISCOUNT for 19 pictures... my god a wedding photograher is like $2k. That photogrpaher positively stole from her

    • @lilco147
      @lilco147 11 днів тому +7

      My mind is blown

    • @TonyTheFloridian
      @TonyTheFloridian 11 днів тому +9

      To be fair, I've known wedding photographers who offer their services at many different price points, from around $1k - $10k. 19 pictures is crazy though.

    • @serendipityhere2029
      @serendipityhere2029 11 днів тому +1

      It really depends on a lot of different things. 19 pictures though? Ooof..

    • @Throwawyy
      @Throwawyy 11 днів тому +13

      I've seen this scam on Facebook. They choose everyone who enters as the winner, then pretend you "won".

    • @nono99136
      @nono99136 11 днів тому +6

      It's a scam. I've seen that one before.
      Don't be dumb and let a DISCOUNT convince you to do something you can't afford and didn't want in the first place.
      She didn't 'win' anything. It's a scummy marketing tactic.

  • @kathleenbellefeuille5406
    @kathleenbellefeuille5406 4 дні тому +4

    My heart goes out to this woman - you deserve a partner and not a grown ass adult child!!! Talk to your parents, start the process of divorce, let him know what’s coming, but get ducks in a row and live your life happily!

  • @juliadanis9504
    @juliadanis9504 10 днів тому +8

    Kinda concerned about how easily she has been scammed. Between the photographer, the silly make money games, and the husband…I have a feeling she’s a little too trusting.

  • @kimtastick9010
    @kimtastick9010 11 днів тому +80

    This woman is obviously stressed in the marriage. She’s 23. She has her entire life ahead of her and there’s no reason she should continue on under the yoke of this marriage. If she’s tried all avenues and it’s not resolving she should 100% divorce him.

  • @ripbeckberlynn8376
    @ripbeckberlynn8376 11 днів тому +470

    I just inherited 50k. In the past, I've been so bad at spending. For the past two weeks, I've been binging Caleb's videos to force into my head that i CANNOT waste this money.
    For the first time in....years??? I did not click "checkout" on my cart for clothing. I closed the tab. I have used the money to pay off 10k in credit card debt and 2k in personal debt, meaning besides a small amount of low interest student loans, I'm debt free now. Putting the rest in a high yield savings account (something i didn't even know existed until watching Caleb... Yes, I'm that financially illiterate). I just want to say THANK YOU CALEB for helping me not waste this amazing financial gift that I have received!

    • @petejunebug
      @petejunebug 11 днів тому +17

      Congrats! you just got a huge step ahead of you use it right

    • @ripbeckberlynn8376
      @ripbeckberlynn8376 11 днів тому +18

      ​@@petejunebugthanks!! It doesn't feel real that my credit cards are paid off and I can close them. I'm shocked by how freeing it is. 10k credit card debt at 25 was horrible.... I'm so lucky to be free of it

    • @annagarcia1527
      @annagarcia1527 11 днів тому +7

      I used my tax return to pay off 2 student loans and have a back off savings. I am feeling grown up

    • @turdferguson5723
      @turdferguson5723 11 днів тому +2

      Put it all in scratchers and quick picks you can lose

    • @csk1452
      @csk1452 11 днів тому +9

      that’s awesome you have so much to be proud of! Idk your life but 38k is def a lot for HYS - have you considered moving 10-15k into a Roth IRA? Depending on your situation 20k might be good enough for a HYS account emergency fund (from, a fellow 25 year old)

  • @Cuwop2
    @Cuwop2 11 днів тому +17

    Feeling stuck living with someone u dont wanna be with is horrible. I hope the best for this young woman and her kid. Sometimes we gotta do what needs to be done, even if it goes against our beliefs. Nothing is worth choosing to hate your daily life.

    • @Cuwop2
      @Cuwop2 11 днів тому

      alright... her spending is outrageous. it seems like if she actually put in a solid effort she could for sure be out of her living situation. excuses started raining in like crazy 💀

    • @Doritosaregood-h4r
      @Doritosaregood-h4r 5 днів тому

      Search "This is the husband of "this youtube title" on google

  • @Dr.C_Stag
    @Dr.C_Stag 10 днів тому +12

    Yo. I almost died when Caleb said, “Hey, Siri, call future ex.” 😂💀

  • @hoodieman04
    @hoodieman04 11 днів тому +2431

    surprised her husband allowed her to be on the show

    • @VideosVlogsThatsIt
      @VideosVlogsThatsIt 11 днів тому +208

      Probably doesn't even know

    • @SpecOps140
      @SpecOps140 11 днів тому +206

      It's not like we'll know who she is😂😂😂

    • @CalebHammer
      @CalebHammer  11 днів тому +1245

      I don’t think he was fully aware

    • @luisvigo3777
      @luisvigo3777 11 днів тому +408

      She’s going to need a wellness check

    • @ArchIVEDCinema
      @ArchIVEDCinema 11 днів тому +116

      ​@CalebHammer Hopefully you didn't endanger her by having her on 😬😬

  • @suzykennedy3559
    @suzykennedy3559 11 днів тому +615

    Just wanted to say- I just paid off my car!!
    No more bad debt! I didn’t think my car was bad debt at 9.8% and I had an asset but Caleb educated me. Took my 7 year loan down to 3 with a second job.
    Time to play catch up with my savings!

  • @DeniseSReyes
    @DeniseSReyes 10 днів тому +7

    Girl run! For your child . Your response of him being a good dad got me nervous 😭

  • @markt9319
    @markt9319 11 днів тому +15

    I’ve been treading water for 2 years and finally have become debt free as of today! Thank you Caleb

  • @shirinim_shirinim
    @shirinim_shirinim 11 днів тому +342

    In Muslim household usually men provide for all, and women’s money is only her money. Why she got married not providing man

    • @Cattlynt
      @Cattlynt 11 днів тому +5

      I’m assuming agreed not Muslim but hiding her identity

    • @blessings4life
      @blessings4life 11 днів тому +11

      Theory and reality are often not the same.

    • @FirinMahLazer1
      @FirinMahLazer1 11 днів тому +38

      ​@@Cattlynt She said she was Muslim within the first 10 minutes

    • @harrietxo2310
      @harrietxo2310 11 днів тому +2

      @@blessings4lifeyes but it’s a different ball game in this regard

    • @ronnie5329
      @ronnie5329 11 днів тому +17

      ​@@FirinMahLazer1I get that it can be a way to hide her identity. Its really very rare you see women in these kinds of outfits, even among muslims, and those homes she would never be alllowed to go out to such a show alone.

  • @Britt4880
    @Britt4880 11 днів тому +154

    Yep with the calling of the husband, this is now officially Caleb Springer 😂

  • @ma-wi1qw
    @ma-wi1qw 5 днів тому +4

    As a Muslim women myself, I can say he is 1000% taking advantage of the fact that she doesn’t come from a traditional Muslim family. Most Muslim families wouldn’t accept a daughter paying 50/50 let alone 100% of the bills.
    I suggest she cuts her losses and divorces him, if she can negotiate some kind of living arrangement with her mother (eg, childcare in exchange for paying utilities and rent) she’d likely be able to pay off her debt and wouldn’t be so emotionally exhausted since her mother would likely pick up/help out with a lot of the Labour at home.

  • @starkbux
    @starkbux 8 днів тому +7

    this is so upsetting. girly's an educated, intelligent biochem graduate and she's stuck in this awful relationship and this terrible situation because of her bum of a husband when she should be living it up after studying so hard for so many years

  • @timwilson5567
    @timwilson5567 11 днів тому +189

    “Your debt sucks. Your marriage sucks.” 🤣🤣

  • @haroonjq
    @haroonjq 11 днів тому +251

    I don’t get how this ‘man’ can call himself a Muslim. It’s our responsibility to provide for our families. Sure the economy you live in might require two working, but to just be a bum?? It’s disgraceful.

    • @choreomaniac
      @choreomaniac 11 днів тому +29

      They went to the same school with the same degree at the same time and live in the same place. Yet she can get a job but he can’t?

    • @martaleszkiewicz5115
      @martaleszkiewicz5115 11 днів тому +13

      League of Legends is one hell of a drug

    • @churrosquirrel
      @churrosquirrel 10 днів тому +5

      Yeah, if only the major religions policed their followers better...

    • @LizThomas-dp7sr
      @LizThomas-dp7sr 10 днів тому

      Because he's just using religion as one extra way to trap her. Like the full coverings she is wearing isn't necessary in fact they are BANNED in multiple muslim countries, so its not required and not the norm so it puts barriers between her and other people. It's forcing her to be more isolation which is what all abusers do.
      No way a real Muslim household would be this much in consumer debt. None of the loans she had are sharia-compliant.

    • @toomanyrads3827
      @toomanyrads3827 9 днів тому +1

      Yeah, how are you supposed to support your cousin wife AND your 9 year old wife???

  • @aakifah8613
    @aakifah8613 11 днів тому +34

    As a Muslim woman in South Africa who always watches this show I think it's a bit wild and should definitely be noted that in Islam the wife isn't obligated to ANY expenses and it is the man's duty to provide any and all needs/wants of the wife and also, in our religion if the wife makes any money it is solely hers and she doesn't have to contribute a penny of her money towards any expenses at all. What's hers is hers and it is his duty to be providing for her and their son with no strings attached. I hope she gets out of her debt soon as that is always a heavy burden on anybody's shoulders and I hope her husband opens his eyes and steps into the role he signed up to play when he signed that nikkah (Islamic marriage) contract because he is doing his wife and child a huge injustice.

    • @robertwendal5894
      @robertwendal5894 11 днів тому

      Okay but is her personal debt his if she's the one who took the debt?

    • @philfoxtrot2115
      @philfoxtrot2115 10 днів тому

      Maybe Islam is just daft…in Western Society.

    • @Doritosaregood-h4r
      @Doritosaregood-h4r 7 днів тому

      Husband here, read my post on creepycalebhammer. I was providing until i was fired, and due to visa issues not allowed to work which we are fixing and are on the last stages. She wants me to stay so that she doesnt pay for day care and live with her family, and me working over seas means way less money meaning greater burden on her. Insha'Allah things will get sorted out.

    • @daedae6291
      @daedae6291 7 днів тому

      @@robertwendal5894yessirrrr

    • @Doritosaregood-h4r
      @Doritosaregood-h4r 5 днів тому

      Search "This is the husband of "this youtube title" on google

  • @88keys21
    @88keys21 11 днів тому +10

    As someone who was in this spot as the man who lost the job. Life went downhill and I spiraled. But at a certain point you can't stay there. I'm ashamed to say how long I stayed there but life goes on. Have to grow up sometime. Now life is going great. Life still has its ups and downs. But I don't go to the place I was before. I take it much better now.

  • @hill9948
    @hill9948 11 днів тому +89

    If the husband is behaving this way now, imagine spending the rest of your life being treated that way. If she splits up with him, he’ll have to get a job and she can get child support to help pay for childcare. Also, do you want your baby cared for by someone who doesn’t bother removing the chucking hazards off the floor?!

    • @kara8911
      @kara8911 11 днів тому +6

      He’ll go back home, she said he’s from India and his family is there. I’m just worried about their baby girl. He cannot take the baby out of the country.

    • @indianumberonecountry
      @indianumberonecountry 11 днів тому +3

      ​@@kara8911especially to a third world country with zero work ethic

    • @mzmi_
      @mzmi_ 11 днів тому

      I thought she said *her* family was from India... Now I gotta go back to see if it helps this dude's story. Doubtful.​@@kara8911

    • @uniquenewyork3325
      @uniquenewyork3325 11 днів тому +1

      Some are extremely petty. Either he moves back or stays jobless/low minimum wage to dodge child support.

  • @aredwood6891
    @aredwood6891 11 днів тому +99

    As a fellow 23 year old woman, girl what the hell

  • @hanan1205
    @hanan1205 11 днів тому +17

    Whenever there's a muslim part of a show, religion becomes the main issue in the comments. Why cant it be just a useless husband using his wife. 😒 happens in all countries religions and cultures

    • @Doritosaregood-h4r
      @Doritosaregood-h4r 6 днів тому

      husband here. Read my post on crepycalebhammer. There is more to this than what is on the video.

    • @Doritosaregood-h4r
      @Doritosaregood-h4r 5 днів тому

      Search "This is the husband of "this youtube title" on google

    • @TheMariemarie16
      @TheMariemarie16 3 дні тому +1

      Well most of the people mentioning religion are Muslims themselves and I haven't heard anything bad mostly people are saying that she deserves more based upon the husband's requirements within the religion. Nothing wrong there.

    • @Doritosaregood-h4r
      @Doritosaregood-h4r 3 дні тому

      Lots of over simplification here.

    • @Doritosaregood-h4r
      @Doritosaregood-h4r 3 дні тому

      @@TheMariemarie16 There's way more than just that. You should look at the shorts too.

  • @nikoli4814
    @nikoli4814 10 днів тому +7

    how come couples don't get communicating but SLEEP together and having children?

  • @tyerragriffin9857
    @tyerragriffin9857 11 днів тому +63

    It’s one thing to be a stay at home husband and your women is able to handle the household. It’s another to refuse to work and you know your wife is drowning in debt and begging for help 😢

    • @HDthis
      @HDthis 11 днів тому +1

      BINGO

  • @konflictification
    @konflictification 11 днів тому +190

    The $105 for missed therapy appointments really just did it for me. as someone who wishes they could afford therapy, that really just pissed me off

    • @EvieHeffner
      @EvieHeffner 11 днів тому +12

      Honestly, it makes you feel like it’s not even worth having the therapy bc you get penalized. And then have more stress having to figure out how to pay it. I feel like therapists should have like a 3 missed visit grace period. Where those fees can be waived. I realize therapists need to make their money and am 100% for that. But so many people avoid therapy bc they get stuck in that cycle of feeling helpless, something comes up and missing appts, then feeling more helpless and in debt. American healthcare sucks!

    • @Lucinda_Jackson
      @Lucinda_Jackson 11 днів тому +17

      @@EvieHeffner
      Are you seriously blaming American healthcare for the patient's lack of responsibility? If you go, it's 100% covered and paid by insurance. They're not paying services you didn't get. And you didn't get them by your own choice.

    • @bmx_or_die
      @bmx_or_die 11 днів тому +1

      @@EvieHeffnerwho has better?

    • @alexislex11
      @alexislex11 11 днів тому +7

      @@Lucinda_Jacksonyou do realize that a lot of people that need therapy have issues around sharing their feelings, going to appts, talking to people, addressing issues in their life, etc. right? I understand being upset if someone has the opportunity to do something you wish you could be doing but dogging them for when you don’t know their situation, mental state, or whatever is not productive. Everyone could benefit from some empathy instead of judgement.

    • @rob136916
      @rob136916 11 днів тому

      But it's free if you go so how do you not afford something that is free

  • @Zerozerozero0x0x0
    @Zerozerozero0x0x0 8 днів тому +8

    I laughed when Caleb said " I wasn't pregnant but I am fat and slept on the air mattress" HAHHAHAHAH