Brad Browning. that’s a name i’ll remember for the rest of my life. i got dumped on september 4th of this year out of nowhere and i begged and pleaded with her for 2 weeks before giving up. i then relapsed and wanted her back again but i decided to search on youtube on how to get ex back and i found this channel. the methods you give out seemed foolish when i first heard them but i thought to myself that i have nothing to lose at this stage and as of today December 16th my ex finally had enough and spilled her guts to me that she isn’t over the breakup and wants to work something out. it’s all in my hands now on what i want to do but i just want to say thank you brad. you really do know the secret rule to turning situations in your favour. keep it up my friend and as good as i think your videos are i hope i’ll never have to click on another one of your videos again if you know what i mean. much respect 🤝
The way he behaves with me it's evident that he hates me from his gut. Actually, he never liked me at all, he settled down because he felt lonely. I want to forget him.
Forgetting someone or them being on your mind less takes time, as you can see, especially if that was a significant relationship. I suggest you get my Beat the Breakup e-book. I made sure it takes a wholesome approach so everyone can relate to and I spent a lot of time writing this and have given it careful thought, so I guarantee you'll find something useful in it to help you out and move forward in life without your ex. Check it out at www.beatmybreakup.com
Yes, but it's always best to take your time in deciding first so there'll be no regrets in the end. As I always say, the decision is ultimately up to you. You know your situation and your ex best. Sometimes a relationship can be salvaged and worth the save but sometimes it isn't, especially if there's cheating or some other type of abuse involved. It's your life and it's your decision.
@@BradBrowning Brad, I want to thank you you personally responded even though you have a very large and totally awesome UA-cam account. I think that you’re advice is 100% spot on and I don’t buy any means have any idea of making it worse. Again, thank you personally answered meI like that I respect your channel and God bless you and your family.
My man was falsely accusing me of cheating on him for four years with one if my exes that I have no longer had context with ever and was the one digging into my past and was making false videos of himself cropped out amd saying it was my past ex before him and been rebounding from chick to other and now just asked this other chick to marry him after only a cpl months and the only reason she said yes is because he has her so blind to his lies and I would like to cause them to split and her to be out of the way but I have no way to contact him as his mother had a harrassment protection order put on me so I'm trying to figure out how to get this relationship to end for the better sake of her because they are not compatible and he going to do the same thing to her he's done to all his exes in the past and get them on drugs as well
I hope it goes good for you brother I really mean that after all people do break up and then patch things up on a permanent basis but I wouldn’t turn my back on the bit.. if she did it one time she’ll do it again.
is that normal months later? I moved on and I saw him for the first time in person last week since the breakup (Almost 2 years ago). I was in NC all the time and never contacted him. He was really angry to see me, kind of ignored me. The breakup wasnt because of something big or bad. After this meeting I was only laughing.
Lots of people are rather indifferent after sometime. Him being mad could be due to a ton of factors, including your ex being in another relationship. Is it possible you thought he was still angry to see you just because he ignored you? Whatever the case, it doesn't matter since you both looked like you've moved on anyways. But if you need my help, hire me as your coach. Take care!
That never worked on me. I simply and maturely kept refusing them and once I met another man and got married to him and who is still my husband, that ex finally got the memo and finally left me in peace. Now I’m grateful to fully move on with no past past ex suitors trying to come after me. If any of them did start spreading false rumors or lying about me or trying to make me look bad, I defer to the truth from God, and be kind to my enemies and if they remain unrepentant, then I walk away for good. :)
Honestly when she was cold to me when I tried to initiate conversation for the first time after 2 weeks (we see each other at school every day, and she’s initiated nice conversation with me every now and then. Still good with no contact online) and honestly it kind of showed me that she still felt for me. The fact that it was obvious she didn’t want me talking to her showed me that she still cares for me and it hurts her when I initiate conversation instead of her. Needless to say, I haven’t spoken to her at all since then in order to give her space, even though she still talks to me.
Unless your situation falls under one or more of the scenarios here: ua-cam.com/video/ek_4wpkV66c/v-deo.html AND ua-cam.com/video/W7iC-gHmZ2A/v-deo.html it's best you ignore contact from your ex. If your ex continues to reach out to you during the no contact stage, however, then this really depends on the frequency and nature of the contact from your ex and whether or not you've reached the phase where you're supposed to be talking again. The only exception is if your ex asks for you back and is sincere about it. If your ex continually messages you, then it’s important to put your ex’s messages into context, more so if this happened during the “no contact” phase. Is your ex trying to contact you about something really important, like an emergency, unpaid bills, or something equally urgent? These are reasons to respond, including messages where they get angry due to your lack of response. Discussed that in full detail here: ua-cam.com/video/GTjEAGJWTuA/v-deo.html So if your ex is really just texting some useless random stuff and/or asses their power over you, then you can just ignore and continue on with the 30-day "no contact" rule. Use your discretion. Watch and follow the tips here: ua-cam.com/video/bgOG9s1fac8/v-deo.html
Hey Brad! My ex dumped me in September this year because we both messed up in a lot of ways but I still love him and I want him back. I tried contacting him many times and our conversations were just stuck in a loop with nothing substantial coming out of it. When I talked to him, sometimes I felt like he wants me back too but is too egoistic and hurt to say so. Finally in December, after months of trying and reaching out he asked me to leave and blocked me from everywhere. It's been 3 weeks since I have been practicing the NC rule. Plus he is in the USA and I am in India. We have very less chances of meeting. Do you think I can have him back?
The no contact rule should've been employed back in September as continuing to contact each other will only lead to more confusion, as is the case with you, I guess? As to your chances, I really wish I could give you a direct yes or no. However, as it is, each situation is unique, so I suggest you take the free quiz as it hits on the critical elements that will determine your chances depending on your answers. In other words, my quiz can give you a more accurate answer than I can since as you may have noticed, there are various factors at play here which needs to be looked at as well as your own actions after the breakup. Here's the link: www.breakupbrad.com/quiz Best of luck!
Hi Brad - enjoying your videos. So this Tuesday this week my ex and I reconnected after non contact of 2 months. What does being receptive to my conversation talk mean when my ex is responding not being rude cruel but awkward in a way and somewhat focused or daydreaming off
That's normal behaviour. Give it time for your ex to warm up slowly to you. Better to look at the situation with fresh eyes though and keep things fun and lighthearted. Also read my (updated) Ex Factor Guide 2.0, which covers commonly possible ‘what if’ scenarios and will give you pretty much everything you need to know, so read it many times over until you master it. It also comes with bonus texting materials to send your ex to keep things going. The aim of the guide is basically to put you in the best position to get your ex back...and to avoid the pitfalls to increase your chances altogether. Check it out at www.breakupbrad.com/fbuy Good luck!
Hey Brad👋 it'll be 5 weeks soon since I started 30 days NC. My ex is very old fashioned and rarely ever uses a phone. Would it be okay for me to reconnect by calling him and seeing if I can come by to get the rest of my stuff?
Yes, exchanging stuff is an important matter, so do that but make sure you stick to the topic and not talk about feelings or getting back together. That would mess up the whole thing. Make sure you check out my other vids for that and this one too: ua-cam.com/video/k8nr_BTxNns/v-deo.html Best of luck!
I’m mean to my ex bc I’ve told him a hundred times he brings me stress and he doesn’t listen. I literally wish he would leave me ALONE! I’ve tried to be nice but I can’t deal with him being a nuisance any longer-
I've witnessed both sides of the coin and yes, it does get annoying. As a dumper, be sure you're being firm in your decision and let your actions follow suit. ie: go no contact indefinitely until your ex gets the message.
I think with my ex it is a mixture I don’t think she’s necessarily cruel and I’m sure she doesn’t necessarily want to hurt me although she’s been hurting me for six or seven months and she knows it because she’s smart I think she still has some feelings for me and I think like any girl she wants to think she has a boyfriend but I’m done with this shit.
Her acting rude means you need to be laying low and giving her space as chances are you appear way too eager. Try to be neutral towards her especially if the breakup is still fresh.
hey brad, I've been watching your videos for some times. my ex and i broke up long ago. he was giving me mixed signals after knowing i started catching feelings for him again. everything went well but he's got a serious relationship and they broke up several times and got back again. now he's hiding his relationship from me and lying for some reason. I've applied no contact rule and he's upset now like he's only nice for some minutes then ghost me whole day.
That's not good especially if he's still in a relationship. Wait for a better time before interacting with your ex, however, don't wait around doing nothing. Take a leap of faith on a new path as well because you never know where life can take you, which may be better without your ex. Use this time to heal and prioritize yourself. But if it's been more than a year or so, make sure to check the signs if your ex has moved on, here: y2u.be/ZyJRphwDca4 and this should help guide you on what to do for the time being: y2u.be/hlikXIfMYN8 However, make it a point to be really productive with your time being apart. Follow the tips here to help guide you further: y2u.be/gUBNd6pDINM AND ua-cam.com/video/WVFZVqFDFV4/v-deo.html now when the time comes where your ex is free or is constantly contacting you, check out my other videos here in UA-cam to help you with a lot of texting tips as well as when to give up trying. Good luck!
Brad . I need a reply please. My ex broke up with me based on a petty fight. It's our 2nd breakup. I contacted my ex after 15 days. It's an LDR . I was blocked everywhere except mobile. I sent one of those texts that you sent after no contact. I didn't do no contact for long because the fight was not that big deal. And he immediately unblocked me on WhatsApp. We chatted. He agreed to call. I flexed all the good things of my life subtly. He got jealous and angry. He blocked me again everywhere. I can tell he is extremely jealous hot and cold confused and angry. What should I do next !? He also said he is keeping me blocked because he thinks he is not ready to face it. My social media profiles basically.
Petty or not, that fight definitely made an impact. Fighting is often unavoidable, but when it becomes too much, it’s time to nip the problem in the bud if you still can. So it's either that or you go on a break and discuss the logistics as well as how it should go and how long it should be. What were you two fighting or arguing about? It's best to consider the relationship overall first, so watch this: ua-cam.com/video/XuJFf5Kch5o/v-deo.html Anyways it's best to give it time because all this arguing had taken a toll in your relationship. This may help: ua-cam.com/video/BBEhaY3gLIw/v-deo.html Perhaps you've both argued more than you had a good time with each other? It could also be you're too incompatible or stubborn to meet each other halfway. If the negatives outweigh the positives in the relationship, that's when an imbalance happens and the relationship will keel over wherein one or both people will likely abandon ship, as the case with your ex. It's time to reset things. Start with the 30-day "no contact" rule to get your ex into a psychological neutral. Here's how it can help you: y2u.be/zw0ChuXCEmw
Hey brad, been watching for the past month or so. I've finished 30 days of no contact, and reached out. my message to break the no contact was "hey, just passed by X restaurant and remembered our lunch together there last summer. Hope you're doing well." She responded with a 👍, and left it there. a few days later, I was hospitalized and she reached out to make sure I was ok. My question is how do i gauge how much to contact her, and is she acting hot and cold or just worried about me? Thanks for your help!
It's difficult to assess your situation unless I get a good grasp on what's going on as well as your history, in addition to the daily updates on how the interactions go with her. So as general advice, it looks like you're on the right track, assuming you've done the first phase (30-day "no contact" rule) correctly and basically had set the stage for this second part. Be sure to check out my other videos for more tips on how to go about this, especially this: y2u.be/gUBNd6pDINM Since you've only recently reconnected, then don't expect your ex to warm up easily. Getting an ex back is a process. Here's a short infograph to guide you in each process: ua-cam.com/video/7JtmVbDkblw/v-deo.html Look out for the signs that your ex has moved on, though: y2u.be/TnZzeEIPEik But evaluate things, too. Are you sure you're not trying to rush it? Setting a deadline is a good way to fail when it comes to exes, so I highly discourage it. What steps have you taken to get your ex back? It's time to re-assess those and see what's working versus what's not working. Sometimes, getting an ex back is like trying to fit a square into a circle, but oftentimes, chances are you're letting emotion dictate you and therefore end up making the wrong choices. Have you checked out my guide yet? It’s ultimately up to you to act (or not act, depending on which phase you’re in) on getting your ex back, but it helps if you read it to ensure that you’re on the right track. Check it out at www.breakupbrad.com
I dumped my ex 2 months ago, i did the nc for 1 month. He never reached out. I reached out to him, but he was rude to me. He posted pics of himself n a girl. Is there any chance of getting him back? What should i do?
Hey Brad, I broke up with my x twice blocked her on all platforms exceptions Instagram I forgot about it even both my phones. She was calling me from blocked numbers until I stopped answering. Our conversation picked back up after she saw an old video I sent her a couple months after we broke up criticizing my experience with her threw relationship coaches video. She responded almost 2 months after it was sent. And proceeded to talk mad trash to me about how great she's doing and talk down to me. I cant figure out why she wants to speak to me with nothing nice to say. Its foolish can you help me understand? I'm like if you have nothing nice to say stop reaching out to me. She tries to manipulate me by saying im sensitive to get me to put up with disrespect. She said we could hang out but who would hang out to be disrespected. Any advice?
Just let it go. Why is she still so mad at you? If she can't even talk to you in a civil manner, it's best to just let this all go unless you did something that warrant this kind of treatment from your ex?
Hi Brad.. in my case it was my fault and I realised he is the only one I want to be with, his family and my family knows about us and he hasn't told about my fault. He shows mixed behaviours. Do you think he will become normal like before?
What did you do? I suggest you heed my advice from this vid, first and foremost: ua-cam.com/video/jikW4YYC9yo/v-deo.html and from my other vid here: ua-cam.com/video/PN-07kAtIjw/v-deo.html but also make sure you aren't being defensive or deflecting the blame because that's as annoying as ever. It may help to apply the tips here first: ua-cam.com/video/qnE192fUKxI/v-deo.html
Thank you Brad. I went to see him in person because I owe honest apologies to him. When I reached his home he was cold but his family welcomed me and they were really happy. His cold behavior is lesser now and we started to talk like before. I will now give my 100% to us.
@@Meera170 I think it's my fault my boyfriend broke up with me on January 1st New year's. He's mad at me because I didn't respond to his because I was busy I got blocked over that. A few days after my breakup a good friend of mine passed away on January 4th 2023. And my ex saying he doesn't care that I'm suffering he doesn't care that my friend passed away 💔 😔💔 it's my fault for not getting back to him. My ex didn't have a very good Christmas because I didn't say Merry Christmas or happy New year's to him so he kicked me out of his life for that 😓 I got blocked.
hey brad we have spoken everyday sense the breakup but it's been moments of anger with her being made for me messing up and hurting her and then her showing softness towards me. it all ended with her storming out after seeing a card she made me and left crying and we haven't spoken sense. should i just leave it alone? and give her space right now?
Hello Brad, you're doing a great job.. We were together for 3+ years.. Last evening me nd her had a bad fight, during an argument she pushed me twice my head did hit on wall and i slapped her (I am feeling very bad about that) then she started crying and threw some glasses on me my hand and chest got cut and then she left.. Now she deleted our pictures from social media and blocked me.. What should I do? Should I apologize? Help me man please🙏🙏
Wow things got pretty out of hand there! Has she always been this violent though? I don't condone to any acts of physical violence so I suggest you really take your time to see if this is something worth saving. What do you two argue about anyway which led to all that mess? Since your situation may be unique, I think you can benefit by working with me one-on-one so I get to learn more about the situation and therefore be more equipped to help you out, at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
That's not good. If your ex has ghosted you or blocked you everywhere where contact is impossible and you can't text/call/email even though a lot of time has already passed (i.e: more than 6 months), then I'm sorry to be the bearer of bad news, but it may be over for good. It's one of the things I've discussed here: ua-cam.com/video/FP8YmErEOW8/v-deo.html
Hey Brad, my ex broke up with me because i microcheated him..but he still contacts but in a very small portion..i begged for last 2 months and tried a lot to win his heart but he just hates me and when i called him yesterday he really talked so harshly..and told me not to call him..what should i do?
How does one "microcheat"? Begging won't help though. What helps is giving him space to process what happened and process the hurt, pain and anger he's likely going through... after you've sincerely apologized.
@@BradBrowning i wanted to mean by "microcheating" is actually i texted another guy even if my ex requested me not to...i did it twice..first time he forgave me... But this time he doesn’t want to forgive...i myself told him that i texted that guy but it was just one single day not any more...i really apologised but my ex said it is not possible for him to trust me again and that's why he doesn’t wanna continue our relationship anymore
Brad we had misunderstanding few days ago, i keep on begging and asking for another chance, i even call on her family and friends to help me get another chance, today in a voice recording with her friends she said she is not coming back so we should all move on, doing the no contact, please do i still have a chance of getting back with her??
I think at this point it's best you redo the "no contact" rule and make sure you stick to it this time. But watch this first to help manage your expectations: ua-cam.com/video/OzVymYnQFTk/v-deo.html Here's how you can tell you're doing the "no contact" rule properly: ua-cam.com/video/f7zuXk-sVsI/v-deo.html It may help to make use of the clean slate template, which is a free version from a piece of my Ex Factor Guide. Watch this: ua-cam.com/video/6K3xufEwEFg/v-deo.html The main goal is to bring your ex into an emotional neutral state by employing the 30-day “no contact” rule -- let your ex miss you and don't rush it. But in order to fully understand how this concept works, watch the free in-depth video on my website to learn some psychology techniques and understand how giving each other space for around a month can benefit you than otherwise, at www.breakupbrad.com
Hey my bf just left me. He wanted me to be clingy in the beginning but now he doesn’t like it. He felt trapped he said but he couldn’t be honest about with me even though he always tells me to be. It’s been like 1-2 days of no contact but I miss him a lot. He said he didn’t want to get back together because he wouldn’t feel happy but he’s not letting us resolve this together. He told me he put himself first so he ended it. I didn’t realize at first that I shouldn’t beg so I did. He said he’d cut me off I didn’t stop so I stopped. I want him back because I know we can be happy together. He’s just not letting us fix anything. He chose his friends over me. He’s known his friends for a shorter amount of time. What should I do? I want to be with him again but I’m scared he won’t miss me even if I look and act better and independent. There was a build up with little arguments he said but there were more positive things than negative. This is the second time he left me. Is there still a chance we could be together again? He told me he decided to break up with me 2 weeks before he ended it. Is more time and no contact really good for our situation?
He told me when I was still begging I was jeopardizing his own happiness. I’m giving him some of his stuff back today. He said he wanted to be left alone and he didn’t want a relationship. He promised he would leave me again and that he wanted to marry me. I don’t know what to do. He send even if it wasn’t rational to leave me, he said his decision was final and he made up his mind. I’m planning on giving him a little clean slate letter since I cut him off before break. Please help me. He promised he wouldn’t give up on our relationship. But to avoid breaking it he said he wasn’t giving up, just letting go. What do I do? I want him back so much but I’m scared no contact won’t work. He said that I hoped I found someone that was scared to lose me. But I don’t want anyone else. I just want him
Sorry to hear that. He's done resolving issues in your relationship and at this point, you ought to give him space, okay? Stop forcing things. Try to have self discipline and remember, love should never be forced. Otherwise it becomes an obsession, so be very careful of going that route. If your ex dumped you and showed you he/she doesn't want to be in your life at the moment, you ought to respect that, okay? For most dumpees that is the case. It doesn't mean that will be the case forever but at the moment, it surely is, so respect your ex's need for space and have some self discipline. Focus on yourself instead. Okay? This vid is for you: ua-cam.com/video/WVB0_l60SpM/v-deo.html
@@BradBrowning Tysm. For some reason now my ex is mad? I made the mistake of telling him we’re going no contact. He acknowledged it but now he’s kinda upset I’m ignoring him I think? I gave a present to a friend that was in his class but I asked another friend to deliver it in front of him. Another friend is telling me I stared at him. He’s also mad because I didn’t give him back two things but I explained to him why I wasn’t going to give them back. Apparently he’s also kind of mad because he was expecting a present and I’m not allowed to give him one anymore because he ended things. I don’t understand why he doesn’t just reach out to me himself instead of telling our friends. Before he ended stuff, he would say I’m not listening but was he even listening as well?
Hi brad, we broke up month and half ago I did some mistakes after the break up but I started to do no contact again since 25 days now ,but he's so silent didn't try to reach me out at all ,is it a bad sign? He sees all of my posts and stories daily but does not do any contact with me ,And also I need ur help on what I do after no contact how to start talking to him again what should be my first message and how frequently I should text him leave a week between every time I try to text him or what ,and thank u so much for our amazing channel!
Once you've already completed the full 30-day "no contact" rule and assuming you did it correctly, then the texting tips here will be a good starter: ua-cam.com/video/XonMtLFo000/v-deo.html but make sure you tick off the checklist here first: ua-cam.com/video/BAhMrmw3Sms/v-deo.html This means you take time focusing on the second phase and eventually the third phase when the time is right. This won’t happen overnight, of course, but it’s something you ought to continue to work on to the point where you’re gradually building attraction again. This is what my guide is for. Have you checked it out yet? It's too complicated to explain everything on here, but here's an overview of these phases and what to expect in each one: ua-cam.com/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/v-deo.html Good luck!
Well, my ex has had quite a few bad behaviors lately, including leaving me stranded with a work we had shared even though he wanted after the breakup to be part of that project. The thing is that it's been five months since we broke up (he broke with me), two with zero contact included, and he has in his house belongings of mine, I asked him for them the other day back, I told him he could send them to me by mail if he wanted, that I would pay for the transport, and he hasn't answered me, he has even blocked me.... It is frustrating.
Sorry to hear that. It's frustrating indeed when an ex acts rebellious despite you trying to be nice about it. How far is this place and is it possible to have a friend or you drop by the place to arrange for pickup? If he's angry for a reason, just leave him be for a few more weeks.
@@BradBrowning Thank you very much for answering me. No, it is not possible for a friend of both of us to try to pick up my things, my ex does not want to talk to anyone about the breakup. He's smart so I hope that when he's accepted everything, he'll contact me to get things back. I wish we had ended well, but I think now he just needs to make peace with himself and with the world.
He is, he is rude lol😂😂😂, wtf is this like we a messaged a few and then all of sudden he becomes rude and bullied me in the most childish way as you can imagine😂😂😂 i am actually laughing out the shi* on this
lol yeah it's weird when an ex suddenly attempts to be rude especially when you know they're good-natured otherwise. Just respect their need for space though and follow the tips from this vid. Good luck!
@@BradBrowning nah i blocked him i know he is mentally sick, suffering from pathological narcissistic disorder, it is not the same as being simply rude towards someone, he acted like he does't want to listen to any of my voice messages which i sent to him well he doesn't have to, and i don't have to be with him we were together for like a month then everything became toxic in any sense, it is just not worth for me to fight for him, my health is more important than anyone else mainly because i have PTSD which is also not a walk in the park mental illness, but thank you for your helping, maybe in the future i am gonna take your advice but not for now😅🤷
I'm mean to my ex-girlfriends when they are trying to communicate with me. They need to leave me alone because my feelings for them aren't there anymore.
hey I need me and my ex split up we got back together the reason we split up cuz I cheated again I love her and ill do anything to get her back but she said we would never get back together I need help to know what to do if I should just let her go or
Sorry, this is a bit too complex for me to properly respond here… please consider signing up for coaching if you want to talk at length about your situation: www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
I am the one who is mean to my ex.....I will try to ignore him and move forward. He been comingback and i didnt like it but i dont wanna be mean anymore, hard and harsh on him. I somehow sound like a bully......But this has also to do with my mental ilness ive been dealing with. Actually my ex is really pretty and if another girl should date him then please dont break his heart anymore.🙂↔️
Sorry to hear. I know how painful a breakup can be, but the best way to get your ex back is to take care of yourself first and get your emotional and mental health back into full gear. Awareness is key, so at least you're halfway there! :-) These changes take time to work though, so put your relationship in the back burner first just so you can really take time to really tend to your own issues first with the help of the professionals you're already talking to, okay? Take care!
Reached out after 6 months NC. Told her my feelings explaining some work I've done oneself during NC. She was nothing but short and angry, sarcastic. She then unfriended me on social media. Clearly she is not happy with herself, projecting feelings onto me.
That's not the way to regain attraction though. Also these changes, do it for yourself and never for anyone else, okay? See, making changes for the sake of someone is considered seeking validation, and that's an unattractive trait in and of itself… so it naturally won't do anything to rebuild the attraction necessary to get your ex back in the long run. Lastly, since it's been many months since the breakup, it's best to consider the facts I've mentioned here first as this lets you determine whether there's still a real shot or not: ua-cam.com/video/YVViZmY2x0I/v-deo.html and/or take the free quiz at www.breakupbrad.com/quiz Good luck!
I love your channels I'm starting to realize I watch ur videos alot my question is this me and My ex broke 17 years ago but we stayed in touch we both got married had kids stayed in touch now we both are divorce at the same time our conversations changed I open up to her and she called me been since were together she did this we talked for a hour about how we were together then she stop the contact we text for 1 straight week we have never did this none of this be4 then she pulled bk again and told me she wasn't trying to go backwards but she Saud I was the greatest man she ever dated and the most caring and attentive do I give her time to heal from her divorce are just give up she now doest answer my text I have did nothing wrong but be kind towards her
Give her time to heal from the divorce before trying again, man, especially if that was a recent occurrence as she needs to heal first. Keep your options open in the meantime. Watch this first to help set your expectations: y2u.be/82uUJ7kPXhE and look out for the signs that your ex has moved on: y2u.be/TnZzeEIPEik Best of luck!
Hi Brad. Thank you for your videos. Trying to subscribe to your one- one coaching but there is a problem with the payment link on PayPal. Could you plz help me out with this?
I’m in a new healthy relationship but I just wanted to know why this happens tbh, cos mine did this , I found out she was cheating and now she pregnant after a year and abit
Hi Brad! Thank you for your videos and for keeping me sane. My ex broke up with me 10 days ago after a month of fighting saying he cannot give me the kind of affection I want from him. I felt him pulling away and he dint even meet me on my bday and instead went for a friend's sisters wedding. The day he broke up I told him hes wrong and that we can work it out, but I accepted his decision and said he will never hear from me again. The same day called 7 times and I dint pick and he called once more the day after and I dint pick. Its been 10 days now and he hasn't reached out. Have I blown my chances by not picking his calls? Should I reach out or continue NC.
You're welcome! What do you two always bicker about? Fighting is often unavoidable, but when it becomes too much, it’s time to nip the problem in the bud if you still can. So it's either that or you go on a break and discuss the logistics as well as how it should go and how long it should be. What were you two fighting or arguing about? It's best to consider the relationship overall first, so watch this: ua-cam.com/video/XuJFf5Kch5o/v-deo.html Anyways it's best to give it time because all this arguing had taken a toll in your relationship. This may help: ua-cam.com/video/BBEhaY3gLIw/v-deo.html Perhaps you've both argued more than you had a good time with each other? It could also be you're too incompatible or stubborn to meet each other halfway. If the negatives outweigh the positives in the relationship, that's when an imbalance happens and the relationship will keel over wherein one or both people will likely abandon ship, as the case with your ex. It's time to reset things. Start with the 30-day "no contact" rule to get your ex into a psychological neutral. Here's how it can help you: y2u.be/zw0ChuXCEmw
hi brad, i think my ex is being cold and rude to me because of the last reason you stated. he cheated on me with an online girl from another country who's so much older and i'm trying to win him back. they met on roblox and they're edating (lmfao). no contact period would make him enjoy his time more and forget about me. how do u think i can get him back?
If it's a cheating ex, yes, they always do that and go as cold as possible. That is your ex's choice however, as hard as it may be to accept. Sorry, but chances are your beau has been at least emotionally cheating on you. Discussed that in depth here: y2u.be/7KE6nb4-ndA There's no easy way to say this but the answer is is to move on, especially if your ex doesn't seem to be regretting their actions and asking to get back together. Most of the time, a lot of people would move on, but a few would still fight for the relationship, so this all depends which side you're on and what your views are. But take into consideration about what I’ve mentioned here, too: ua-cam.com/video/m27TLeyUmwg/v-deo.html There is no right or wrong answer here because it is your relationship and it's personal to you. Make sense? Anyway men and women cheat for different reasons, but if you think your ex is worth it and if there's been a genuine connection between you two before the cheating happened, then try to see the roles that you BOTH played that led to all this mess and see once and for all if it can be resolved or not, okay? Whatever the case, it's important you forgive yourself because no one's perfect, and forgive your ex too. Really take your time before deciding though and be sure not to make any hasty decisions from an emotional place but never force things with him if you can see he no longer wants to try. Take care!
Okay Brad the man I follow you ideas and steps and come to the conclusion since my ex are speak I opened a clothing line after we broke and I don’t think I want her back anymore hahah ironic and she can’t stop talking to me Evan getting a lil jealous but I don’t want her no more I’m busy now haha thanks for the help tho like you help me a lot but just hit me all of a sudden I’m better off without her haha wow thanks bro
You're welcome! Yeah, well, like I always say, the decision is ultimately up to you. You know your situation and your ex best. Sometimes a relationship can be salvaged and worth the save but sometimes it isn't, especially if there's cheating or some other type of abuse involved. Take care!
No it doesn't, granted you don't end up sending the message. Better yet, I suggest to stay away from that so you won't be tempted while still in the 30-day "no contact" rule, okay?
please help me :( my ex and i broke up a week ago and we ended on good terms, we still texted each other and talked about normal stuff. unfortunately i made the mistake of asking for another chance on tuesday, but he said it wouldnt work because we would keep hurting each other. things were fine after that until i found your videos and decided to apply the nc rule. i didnt text him all day yesterday and he didnt text me either, but at night i saw that he followed all the girls that had a crush on him when we were still together and it broke me. i couldnt help myself and texted him saying that he made me feel like i was paranoid and stupid for worrying about them, but ran to all of them right after we broke up, and that it just proves me that i wasnt so crazy after all. he ignored it, but answered this morning with just 'ok'. im supposed to come over and pick up the rest of my stuff today (we lived together), but i dont know how to act around him now. part of me wants to tell him how much it hurts me that hes doing this bc like i said we were fine, but im not sure if i should just act like nothing happened and not mention it. i feel so dumb.
Sorry to hear you're going through this... but there's no need to hurt yourself more, so maybe stop trying to look at your ex's profile/messages/snaps, posts, etc.? An essential part of the "no contact" rule is to turn your focus inwards for a good 30 days straight, and looking at what your ex is doing and whatnot largely deviates from that point, don't you think? Discussed that here, too: ua-cam.com/video/MroLZ7XK9gY/v-deo.html
My ex all of sudden broke up with me....told me she lost feelings for me and opinion on love too...she deleted everything happened since 3years and was mean to me....she asked me to move on..... what's that mean
Me ex breakup with me because I talked about her attitude even though my approach wasn’t good but that wasn’t my intention and decided to go back to her ex 🤦🏿♂️
I really hate to burst your bubble here but let her finish whatever unfinished business she has with this ex. Sorry, but there's not much you can do at this point, especially if your relationship only lasted a short while and more so if she's seemingly (subconsciously or not) used you as a rebound, for your ex to jump back too quickly with him. Good luck and I hope you find the right woman for you soon!
My ex and I saw each other for the first time for a coffee date. I reached out a few days later to say I enjoyed our time and he was very short. I have not reached out since and it's been 2 weeks. He has never once said he doesn't want to be in contact or there's no chance for us to ever get back together .....is no contact a good approach
No contact is always the best approach, especially if you hadn't done it yet. Play your cards right and notice the world of difference that this can make. Stick to the "no contact" rule this time for at least 30 days. Here's how you can tell it's starting to work: ua-cam.com/video/T4Sz6DiWRsQ/v-deo.html AND the importance of silence after the breakup here: y2u.be/zw0ChuXCEmw and in the meantime, this is the principle you ought to follow: ua-cam.com/video/EfbgU7v0Ny4/v-deo.html A situation with an ex is often fragile, so you'd really want to omit, if not minimize these mistakes. Start with the 30-day straight "no contact rule. It’s one step forward, two steps backward with an ex & there are no unlimited chances with them, so if you can do it right moving forward, then do so. Check out my guide so you won't end up making the same mistakes. Good luck!
Hey Brad, I just started talking to my ex again and he wanted to hang out with me. He said he missed me. He called me babe by accident. He said he was immature and he doesn’t know why he’s with this girl the day after he followed me on TikTok and posted a video of him and her and I un added him because I don’t wanna see that. And I unfollowed him and he did the same and deleted the video. I’m very confused, very lost. I don’t know what’s going on he kept flirting with me. He kept bringing old memories of us. He told me he missed me. Helpp
How long has it been since you two broke up? Unless he's asking to get back together and leaves the other relationship, you ought to be cutting off contact and giving each other that much needed space first. Otherwise the chances are high you'd get strung along, especially if the breakup is still fresh. Depending on how long it's been, you may have to stand your ground and be firm with him. Your situation is also very delicate so once you start to see some more progress with your ex, then don’t go at it alone, especially if you're in doubt or don't know what to do next. Sign up for my coaching program so I can help assess your situation clearly, look at all the other factors at play and see things you might have missed, then guide you accordingly on a regular, ongoing basis at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
@@BradBrowning hello Brad, so we went three months without contacting each other without talking to each other. We do share kids murmur. We stop talking to each other for a while. I stopped contact about a month after we broke up but we’re going on five months now. Am I just being played along ??
I had broke up 💔with my Ex last month.... Till today I keep on missing her Dream her 😪.. As you said No contact works So I'm following that. So.... I keep on following this. Brad--My ex is too Stubborn and Strong women.. She use to say to my when we were together like.... Once I decided I won't change my mind nor I'll listen to anything else. Till today I really Love her. ❤ Please..... Help me out. 🙏
Do the 30-day rule first. Once you're done with the "no contact" phase and had sent one of these text messages for re-establishing contact, give your ex time to warm up slowly to you. Don't expect one text to work magic because it simply doesn't work that way. Getting an ex back is a process, therefore, learn to be patient and like I said, give her time to actually come close to you. She can't do that if you keep chasing her. Makes sense? Also, this may help: ua-cam.com/video/PBotQygy7os/v-deo.html
Soo as you know my story ....I don't want to force things or anything that's makes her be proud that she leave me I Just I want to know that how it's possible....my ex girlfriend and me read in the same school and today's morning I fainted during prayer line ..my all friends looking very worry about me and some of friends come to peaking me to the class but my Ex dose not even come or doing anything that's makes me feel she still care about me my some friends from her class section ..I asked them dose she looking worried about me or anything but they said don't be upset but she is laughing with others chilling I didn't understand yet that how she could forgot about our 2 years friendship...and the way leave from school she just look at me once and then just left I don't know if she has asked out about me to someone else but This is what I told from what I heard...I don't wanna be hurt or sad anymore but the things is killing me from inside ....how she can be soo psychopath!!! Help mee to get out of this 😭
Sorry to hear that. I know how upsetting that can be. Get yourself checked if you still faint again. How old are you both? Life is or will be taking you in two different directions at this stage. Watch this, too: ua-cam.com/video/2CakOOSwIiY/v-deo.html&lc=Ugw4Ce3x9APUrYfz29N4AaABAg So whatever the case may be, act responsibly yet try not to take things too seriously for now since you two are in a period of growth and lots of changes, including preferences in attitude, personality, etc. Focus on your studies instead, all right? Take care!
@@BradBrowning we are both 16 years old I know we are still immature but I can't believe she change her like this and she is a very nice girl to me still er are in friendship but the sudden 360 degree change shook me a alot😔 I don't need my gf back I want the same bestie that I had .....it's very painfull for me ..i have the true feelings for her I tried to move on but I thinking I Also made mistake and I deserve a second chance and I know how it will be beautiful if I had the chance but she also made mistakes and even didn't give a me chance..... I sometimes think that it would have been better if I didn't fight that day, I feel guilty sometimes😭😭
I was with someone for 14 years and have 2 kids with them and after my sister which is my only sibling had moved in with us bc she had split up with her kids dad and the kids stayed with there dad it was just her that moved in with us as I always tried to help her in any way I could.we always would say how we would never let a guy come between us as we would not have to worry about that because we would never be with someone that was with our sibling ever but she showed me that was all just words as she obviously didn't mean it as now they are living together and claim to not be a couple but also he doesn't care to let it be known that he wants to be with her in a relationship I was betrayed by my only sibling and my kids dad and boyfriend at the time cheated on me as we were still a couple and had already went to stay at his brother's house bc of the way things was going with her being here as she protraye that she pretty much hated him as she even told others she did and fabt she didn't want me with him bc he was not good for me despite him being my kids father. Then out of nowhere it happened as I now am in disbelief she would so me this way bc we were always close siblings and me and him have kids now I have to be strong for my kids as it is hard and it is awful bc he really isn't trying to be there for our girls and I live in my mom and dad's rental as that is where we were all living and now my mom says he isn't allowed here at all period bc of her own issues with him besides what he done as it only made it worse and states that if he wants to see his kids it will have to be somewhere other than here bc she isn't gonna let him come around and I don't know what to do as I am not in a position to move yet or to be able to handle seeing him with having her around him but I have to try for my kids sake but I told him when he is to see the girls not to have her with as the girls don't wanna see her with there dad for a few reasons with one being that is there aunt and she also has scared my kids with her acting out like crazy in front of them since this has all haooened
Sorry to hear that. Unfortunately his actions are something that is out of your control. You do need to stay civil for your kids. Depending on how long this issue between you have been going on, it may be time to move on from this. Whatever the case, It's an uphill battle for sure with kid/s involved and/or usually other responsibilities still tied to your ex, but it's best you do limited contact or what I call the dynamic "no contact" rule. Prepare for things to be tough but if you play your cards right and depending on the extent of damage done, it can actually still be salvaged. Try to prevent things from getting even more awkward than it has to be by applying the tips here as much as possible: ua-cam.com/video/GTjEAGJWTuA/v-deo.html AND ua-cam.com/video/dDZrnNh8LOg/v-deo.html
Do limited contact instead and keep any limited conversation you have strictly work-related. You've got a long way to go but for starters, you can follow the tips here to prevent things from getting even more awkward than it has to be: ua-cam.com/video/GTjEAGJWTuA/v-deo.html AND ua-cam.com/video/dDZrnNh8LOg/v-deo.html
hello brad so me and my bf i know its just a short time but we broke up after being in a relationship for 3 months we r still both teenagers and the reason why we broke up is because he put so much effort in a span of 3 months and me i didnt becaue i thought we both have different lifestyle and i was in a toxic household im so lost he said that we have to breakup because he doesnt want to keep hurting me and he wants me to have a good life and to think about myself more…. we decided to see eachother and honestly it didnt look like we are gonna break up we were both happy but when we talked the both of us are crying real hard and he still loves me but he wants to focus on himself and he want me to focus on myself so we decided to break it off but that night we even kissed and hugged and me and him are crying really hard when we broke things off that night also he came running to me because my phone is only 5% so i decidedto text him and he came and i cant call the uber anymore so he came to me and he said i love you and im sorry after booking an uber and opening the door for me
and it has been just 3 days now and i dont know what to do anymore we both still love eachother and it was a healthy breakup but i still want him back we chatted again today and he told me he doesnt want to talk to me anymore and i said maybe if the both of us heals maybe we can be back together and he said okay…but right now there is no us so what am i supposed to do brad? i mean i decided to give him space and ill try the no contact rule but he’s stubborn and also i took ur test and my score is 70…..
he also said that i shouldnt force it and stop looking for ways to bring us back together but he agreed that if the both of us heals and the both of us still love eachother maybe we can try again
I really want to talk to my ex and I have been able to for a while and everything's been fine, she's being friendly and receptive, and all of a sudden I'm terrified to call her, what's going on?
Looks like you aren't ready to reconnect. Did you make sure you gave each other enough time and space? Do that first and don't rush through the process.
I don't see this as a cause for concern really, unless you've done something really epic to mess things up or really hurt your ex, there's no reason to worry as much, really, because it could be due to the top 3 reasons I've stated on this vid: y2u.be/fjtv90o9bkI Blocking you could just be your ex’s way of coping so I wouldn’t worry too much about it if I were you, at least not initially. So give it time. If you stay blocked after months though, then that’s another story, especially if you have no other means of communication or have no mutual friends. More about that on here: ua-cam.com/video/5UT92IB5ugs/v-deo.html Anyway social media should be the least of your concerns. Focus on all three phases and your ex may naturally unblock you, in time, as you learn to rebuild that attraction and re-attract this ex back to your life.. Here are the basics of all three phases to getting an ex back: ua-cam.com/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/v-deo.html and social-media wise, here (but then again, don't let it become your sole focus) : ua-cam.com/video/D1GpR5MApQk/v-deo.html Good luck!
Mine ex is being mean to me 😥💔 he's not caring for the passing of my friend I lost. My friend passed away on January 4th 2023 after New year's 😢 and my ex said yeah whatever he didn't care what 😥 because he's hurt that I'm didn't talk to him I didn't say Merry Christmas or New year's to him. He's not supporting me because I didn't reply to him he's mad at me for not replying to him he's mad at me that got busy. 😓 Time for me to put my life on hold 💔💔 🤧 if I ever date him. I felt forced to trust him I gave him another chance. Originally he wanted my trust back he wanted me to hurry up I think. 😓 My friend passed away on January 4th I got dumped on New year's day January 1st. 💔😓 My heart is shattered. He keeps blocking me from sending me friend request and blocking. 😥 Now he officially said to someone she's out of My Life. I got kicked out of his life for not replying back to him 😓💔 I've been doing the no contact rule right after the break up.
Well... if you two can't seem to compromise to get both of your wants and needs met, the breakup may have been a blessing in disguise. Take time to heal from this and learn from it, yeah? Take care!
@@BradBrowning yeah parts of it felt like a blessing. Also he always got mad at me when I was busy and not responing to him. It just felt like he was isolated me from being busy and family and friends. It's like he wanted me to put my life on hold. He always blocks me due to me being busy. And he said I don't like this. Meaning he doesn't like me being busy or talking to other people.
@@BradBrowning he did this to me last year too. He was begging me for trust and saying please forgive me I didn't mean to block you. And the second time he said the same thing. That time I didn't give him my trust so he got really mad at me and blocked me. He's hurt that I'm not talking to him well I'm grieving hurt that my friend passed away. And he only seems to cares that I didn't say say Merry Christmas or happy New year to him that's what this is all about.
@@BradBrowning he didn't even say sorry for your loss. I didn't get support from him at all. But no instead he was only thinking about me not being on Facebook much so I get blocked over that
Sir plz reply toy question sir it's urgent... Iam still suffering from this break up pain ... It's about 6 month... Since from July 7th... We are in same college... Same branch earlier in between July to August i really tried hard that is like begging,, her and in many ways but that time she acted like u said cold suddenly rough. And insulted also me in many ways.... After that i stop trying and now it's been long time yesterday I talked her again like normal conversation like what's going on , how is your parents and when I said again like how are u , she again acted roughly..... Sir i really want her back but there is some trust issues.... Our many frnds also involved.... She thought I told them to involve but in reality I was suffering from anxiety...... Plz reply sir .
Really sorry, man, but I'm not the coach who gives false hopes and from what you're describing, your window of opportunity may have already passed. Discussed that here: ua-cam.com/video/e3l5KWEpIpw/v-deo.html and especially if you see the signs here: y2u.be/k1myDIp0gSc I suggest you take steps towards moving on, yeah? And take care of your own wellbeing as well. It takes a while but you'll get there, just try to put the focus back to yourself at this time. Take care!
It happens. For some people, seeing a breakup coming is better than having no signs at all. Have you tried to talk to him about it prior the breakup though?
i am bisexuals And I went from being bff for two years to being in a relationship for ten months with my best friend.Everything was going fine but after a fight one day he said he won't be with me anymore. He insulted me a lot but I don't know why I still love her। He studies in my school and I see her every day. I am trying to move on. It hurts me a lot when she huged another girl in front of me but I can't do anything. I want to make her mine. And I wanna correct my mistakes. She thinks I am fully toxic and don't wanna be with me anymore.she don't even talk to mee .and she said she never gonna take me back Never come to me again. Also she acted soo cold and rude towards me .I am just shook to see how she even forgot about our 2yesr friendship just for 10 moths relationship .What should I do in this time?
Stop forcing things. Try to have self discipline and remember, love should never be forced. Otherwise it becomes an obsession, so be very careful of going that route. If your ex dumped you and showed you he/she doesn't want to be in your life at the moment, you ought to respect that, okay? For most dumpees that is the case. It doesn't mean that will be the case forever but at the moment, it surely is, so respect your ex's need for space and have some self discipline. Focus on yourself instead. Okay? This vid is for you: ua-cam.com/video/WVB0_l60SpM/v-deo.html
It doesn't mean anything substantial... and I don't see this as a cause for concern really, unless you've done something really epic to mess things up or really hurt your ex, there's no reason to worry as much, really, because it could be due to the top 3 reasons I've stated on this vid: y2u.be/fjtv90o9bkI Blocking you could just be your ex’s way of coping so I wouldn’t worry too much about it if I were you, at least not initially. So give it time. If you stay blocked after months though, then that’s another story, especially if you have no other means of communication or have no mutual friends. More about that on here: ua-cam.com/video/5UT92IB5ugs/v-deo.html Anyway social media should be the least of your concerns. Focus on all three phases and your ex may naturally unblock you, in time, as you learn to rebuild that attraction and re-attract this ex back to your life.. Here are the basics of all three phases to getting an ex back: ua-cam.com/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/v-deo.html and social-media wise, here (but then again, don't let it become your sole focus) : ua-cam.com/video/D1GpR5MApQk/v-deo.html Good luck!
What if you left them alone stoped Talkin to them..unless it's about the kids... Yet every week they msg you to fight or argue because she thinks something that isn't even true ???
Then that's more like your ex's problem with her accusations. This probably means you two need some time apart and yes keep communications strictly about the kids for now. It's an uphill battle for sure with kid/s involved and/or usually other responsibilities still tied to your ex, but it's best you do limited contact or what I call the dynamic "no contact" rule. Prepare for things to be tough but if you play your cards right and depending on the extent of damage done, it can actually still be salvaged. Try to prevent things from getting even more awkward than it has to be by applying the tips here as much as possible: ua-cam.com/video/GTjEAGJWTuA/v-deo.html AND ua-cam.com/video/dDZrnNh8LOg/v-deo.html
How long has it been since the breakup? That's the danger of meeting up when one or both of you aren't ready to do so yet. Emotions tend to run high when the breakup is still fresh which is why I often say no contact is key!
If he's truly a narcissist, you might want to think twice before trying to get him back, because even if you can change his mind, you can't change his personality, especially if he has a narcissistic personality disorder or the traits being shown to you. It's a mental illness that should be looked into by a medical professional. The best you can do is to encourage him to seek help. Now if you aren't sure whether he really is one and/or how to best handle the situation, consider signing up for my coaching program so I can look into this with you and what's really happening that you may be too close to see or have an outside perspective on. Best of luck!
It happens. Relationships teach you about things, sometimes it's about yourself. So it's best to take this as a lesson learned and apply those lessons in your next relationship after becoming a better version of yourself.
It is the reality in most although not all cases... unless you've done something wrong to truly piss off your ex or something that would warrant your ex's anger.
Me and this one girl we were together for 3 years she broke up with me cause we had nothing in common at all we were very different from each other and made a promise to never block me and than 2 weeks later after the breakup i went on social media saw that she blocked me and didnt even say a word to me before doing it. She lied to me she doesent care not only does she not care she also broke a promise to me. I am broken from her doing that to me i didnt do anything wrong for her to ditch me from my life like that. She'd tell me she still loves me and that i still matter well her action says otherwise and it broke me when she did that to me and i cry every day now
When feelings or attraction is gone, people will tend to behave differently. Take time to re-assess your relationship first. Were you two really just forcing things and try to be compatible when you're not? This vid is for you: ua-cam.com/video/t6I5k55pnCE/v-deo.html
Hi brad .. my ex broke up with me 2 months ago followed by a fight she.. for atleast a month i begged and pleaded. After watching your couple of videos i started no contact and after 10-15 days she texted me .. we had a chat and then again i followed the no contact then she again texted we and unblocked me .. she still don't want to get in relationships but i want her.. yesterday we were gone to shopping and then at evening we makeout (i does her., touching, romantically, satisfying) .. i asked her that do you love me.? She said NO but during that entire day she was very happy and spending time with me. On the way to shopping i held her hands and she had no issue with that.. and then again the next we were together in her residence and we did that again and she said that we again did the wrong thing without any relationship. She said -Now we’ll never meet again ..I don't understand now what to do.. we makeout yesterday.. i want to get her back..My relationship was 1 year ago and she has treated me very nice and lovingly. She usually used to say that “please don’t leave me and I can’t live without you” Please help me brad to get her back Thank you
I think it's too soon to be doing all that especially after begging her, man. I suggest you stop forcing things or try not to appear like you're forcing stuff. Try to have self discipline and remember, love should never be forced. Otherwise it becomes an obsession, so be very careful of going that route. If your ex dumped you and showed you he/she doesn't want to be in your life at the moment, you ought to respect that, okay? For most dumpees that is the case. It doesn't mean that will be the case forever but at the moment, it surely is, so respect your ex's need for space and have some self discipline. Focus on yourself instead. Okay? This vid is for you: ua-cam.com/video/WVB0_l60SpM/v-deo.html
Hi all….. Update 28/11/22: She found out I’d received my ticket for the works due for Sat 3rd December. She text me saying “I can’t believe your still going! As you don’t talk to me now or sit with me at dinner time. A never replied 01/12/22: She confronted me at work,I said if you really don’t want me to go (After all this time, Saying you want me to ) then I won’t, I’ll just have my money back!! She said she just wanted a good time……. She was a bit abrupt through this confrontation! Kept repeating herself saying she’s happy. Then she wanted to know why i stopped talking to her and sitting with her at dinner: I said because when I picked my clothes up etc and we promised each other a few things and you’d gone back on your word. Sitting with you? Were not a couple anymore and that was your choice… 03/012/22: Works Due I was the last 1 to arrive, She got up and asked if I wanted a drink? And could help her carry drinks with her… Ask we got to the bar,She apologised for how she had acted at work! We had a laugh , Asked me to dance with her. Present: We’ve been communicating better…. I’m hoping she may have that feeling of coming back around! It’s been really cold today, She grabbed my hand and held it out of the blue,She said my hands are freezing. Little more contact recently ( Hello everyone Me (34)and my ex avoidant girlfriend (47 Yr old ) split up on September 12th after 5 years together!! (Work at the same place) Citing lost feelings….Though earlier in the day we’d booked to go on our Christmas works due together?!?! We briefly split at the end of Covid 19 from March 2021 to June 2021.Her Hysterectomy Op has sent her in to early menopause this year , Along with her daughter having mental health problems and her mum been diagnosed with cancer it’s been a tough year for her. ( I’ve been supportive in that time ) Since the breakup: 20/09/2022 Obviously we work at the same place,I’ve been applying no contact since last week ( the split ) , Walked in canteen for my dinner could see her sat at our table with the neck stuck out looking where I was going. As I paid for my food went to eat in the other side,All I could hear was “Luke” luke “ sit here…. I was so confused,but never sat down! Just said I need to off back to work. Gets back to my office which is 5 mins away,pulled my phone out and have a message of her asking if I’m okay?!?! LastNight: Random message sent from her yesterday evening! She works crazy hours (Always has ) , Saying thank you for leaving a gift on her and her coworkers locker. I never answered for an hour or 2! Then bluntly sent to her I haven’t… / She text back straight away Okay no worries I’m confused 22/09/2022 : Bumped in to her at work today she was again been weirdly nice(Asking how I am! What I’m doing at the gym, and telling me she’s not feeling good and she’s on edge all the time. I was like Ohhh 😮 hope you get better. I made out I had to go… 30/09/22: She asked me to come through and pick my clothes up today! She had a coffee waiting for me….Saying I can always pop over to see her and our dog. Mixed signals all over through this 01/10/2022: Changed her status from Relationship to blank / To Single and then back to blank 03/10/22: Got a random message from her this morning: If anyones been asking at work about the breakup? ( As above on Saturday morning she changed her profile to single , But changed it to nothing later ) ( I left my on single since Saturday evening ) Trying to insinuate people will know because my profile is now single , Though people notice she changed hers three times on Saturday. I used NO CONTACT TO THE MESSAGE! She’s then removed the message this afternoon?!?! I’m confused )
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Brad Browning. that’s a name i’ll remember for the rest of my life. i got dumped on september 4th of this year out of nowhere and i begged and pleaded with her for 2 weeks before giving up. i then relapsed and wanted her back again but i decided to search on youtube on how to get ex back and i found this channel. the methods you give out seemed foolish when i first heard them but i thought to myself that i have nothing to lose at this stage and as of today December 16th my ex finally had enough and spilled her guts to me that she isn’t over the breakup and wants to work something out. it’s all in my hands now on what i want to do but i just want to say thank you brad. you really do know the secret rule to turning situations in your favour. keep it up my friend and as good as i think your videos are i hope i’ll never have to click on another one of your videos again if you know what i mean. much respect 🤝
Yay! Sounds great, man. I'm happy for you! :-)
I'm happy for you also
This is so wholesome. I am begging and pleading right now since a week. Going to stop doing it.
looking at your story makes me hopeful.
Update? She dump you again?
@@Wildanimal864. hahah no i did. had to be done to progress myself better in life. i appreciate the very late comment 😂😂
The way he behaves with me it's evident that he hates me from his gut. Actually, he never liked me at all, he settled down because he felt lonely. I want to forget him.
Forgetting someone or them being on your mind less takes time, as you can see, especially if that was a significant relationship. I suggest you get my Beat the Breakup e-book. I made sure it takes a wholesome approach so everyone can relate to and I spent a lot of time writing this and have given it careful thought, so I guarantee you'll find something useful in it to help you out and move forward in life without your ex. Check it out at www.beatmybreakup.com
I don’t want my ex back!!! The bit.. us only showing who they are!!!
Yes, but it's always best to take your time in deciding first so there'll be no regrets in the end. As I always say, the decision is ultimately up to you. You know your situation and your ex best. Sometimes a relationship can be salvaged and worth the save but sometimes it isn't, especially if there's cheating or some other type of abuse involved. It's your life and it's your decision.
@@BradBrowning Brad, I want to thank you you personally responded even though you have a very large and totally awesome UA-cam account. I think that you’re advice is 100% spot on and I don’t buy any means have any idea of making it worse. Again, thank you personally answered meI like that I respect your channel and God bless you and your family.
HE IS RIGHT ABOUT NOT TAKING THE BAIT!
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Great Video
Hey, thanks! Thanks for the support… please like and subscribe if you haven’t already: ua-cam.com/users/bradbrowning”
Thanks for everything I got my ex back thanks for everything man
What ecxatly did u do after no contact, how frequently did u text him and how long it took to get him back, please?
That's awesome! You're welcome!
My man was falsely accusing me of cheating on him for four years with one if my exes that I have no longer had context with ever and was the one digging into my past and was making false videos of himself cropped out amd saying it was my past ex before him and been rebounding from chick to other and now just asked this other chick to marry him after only a cpl months and the only reason she said yes is because he has her so blind to his lies and I would like to cause them to split and her to be out of the way but I have no way to contact him as his mother had a harrassment protection order put on me so I'm trying to figure out how to get this relationship to end for the better sake of her because they are not compatible and he going to do the same thing to her he's done to all his exes in the past and get them on drugs as well
Nooooo he/She a ex for a reason
I hope it goes good for you brother I really mean that after all people do break up and then patch things up on a permanent basis but I wouldn’t turn my back on the bit.. if she did it one time she’ll do it again.
is that normal months later? I moved on and I saw him for the first time in person last week since the breakup (Almost 2 years ago). I was in NC all the time and never contacted him. He was really angry to see me, kind of ignored me. The breakup wasnt because of something big or bad. After this meeting I was only laughing.
Lots of people are rather indifferent after sometime. Him being mad could be due to a ton of factors, including your ex being in another relationship. Is it possible you thought he was still angry to see you just because he ignored you? Whatever the case, it doesn't matter since you both looked like you've moved on anyways. But if you need my help, hire me as your coach. Take care!
The third message has SOME validaty!
Hey thanks for dropping by!
That never worked on me. I simply and maturely kept refusing them and once I met another man and got married to him and who is still my husband, that ex finally got the memo and finally left me in peace. Now I’m grateful to fully move on with no past past ex suitors trying to come after me. If any of them did start spreading false rumors or lying about me or trying to make me look bad, I defer to the truth from God, and be kind to my enemies and if they remain unrepentant, then I walk away for good. :)
Good. Looks like you're on the right track!
Honestly when she was cold to me when I tried to initiate conversation for the first time after 2 weeks (we see each other at school every day, and she’s initiated nice conversation with me every now and then. Still good with no contact online) and honestly it kind of showed me that she still felt for me. The fact that it was obvious she didn’t want me talking to her showed me that she still cares for me and it hurts her when I initiate conversation instead of her. Needless to say, I haven’t spoken to her at all since then in order to give her space, even though she still talks to me.
Unless your situation falls under one or more of the scenarios here: ua-cam.com/video/ek_4wpkV66c/v-deo.html AND ua-cam.com/video/W7iC-gHmZ2A/v-deo.html it's best you ignore contact from your ex. If your ex continues to reach out to you during the no contact stage, however, then this really depends on the frequency and nature of the contact from your ex and whether or not you've reached the phase where you're supposed to be talking again. The only exception is if your ex asks for you back and is sincere about it. If your ex continually messages you, then it’s important to put your ex’s messages into context, more so if this happened during the “no contact” phase. Is your ex trying to contact you about something really important, like an emergency, unpaid bills, or something equally urgent? These are reasons to respond, including messages where they get angry due to your lack of response. Discussed that in full detail here: ua-cam.com/video/GTjEAGJWTuA/v-deo.html So if your ex is really just texting some useless random stuff and/or asses their power over you, then you can just ignore and continue on with the 30-day "no contact" rule. Use your discretion. Watch and follow the tips here: ua-cam.com/video/bgOG9s1fac8/v-deo.html
@@BradBrowning hard to ignore when it’s not over text, but she sits next to me in every class and it’s in person conversation lol
Hey Brad! My ex dumped me in September this year because we both messed up in a lot of ways but I still love him and I want him back. I tried contacting him many times and our conversations were just stuck in a loop with nothing substantial coming out of it. When I talked to him, sometimes I felt like he wants me back too but is too egoistic and hurt to say so. Finally in December, after months of trying and reaching out he asked me to leave and blocked me from everywhere. It's been 3 weeks since I have been practicing the NC rule. Plus he is in the USA and I am in India. We have very less chances of meeting. Do you think I can have him back?
The no contact rule should've been employed back in September as continuing to contact each other will only lead to more confusion, as is the case with you, I guess? As to your chances, I really wish I could give you a direct yes or no. However, as it is, each situation is unique, so I suggest you take the free quiz as it hits on the critical elements that will determine your chances depending on your answers. In other words, my quiz can give you a more accurate answer than I can since as you may have noticed, there are various factors at play here which needs to be looked at as well as your own actions after the breakup. Here's the link: www.breakupbrad.com/quiz Best of luck!
No, move on. God bless! You WILL find your soulmate!
Hi Brad - enjoying your videos. So this Tuesday this week my ex and I reconnected after non contact of 2 months. What does being receptive to my conversation talk mean when my ex is responding not being rude cruel but awkward in a way and somewhat focused or daydreaming off
That's normal behaviour. Give it time for your ex to warm up slowly to you. Better to look at the situation with fresh eyes though and keep things fun and lighthearted. Also read my (updated) Ex Factor Guide 2.0, which covers commonly possible ‘what if’ scenarios and will give you pretty much everything you need to know, so read it many times over until you master it. It also comes with bonus texting materials to send your ex to keep things going. The aim of the guide is basically to put you in the best position to get your ex back...and to avoid the pitfalls to increase your chances altogether. Check it out at www.breakupbrad.com/fbuy Good luck!
Hey Brad👋 it'll be 5 weeks soon since I started 30 days NC. My ex is very old fashioned and rarely ever uses a phone. Would it be okay for me to reconnect by calling him and seeing if I can come by to get the rest of my stuff?
Yes, exchanging stuff is an important matter, so do that but make sure you stick to the topic and not talk about feelings or getting back together. That would mess up the whole thing. Make sure you check out my other vids for that and this one too: ua-cam.com/video/k8nr_BTxNns/v-deo.html Best of luck!
I’m mean to my ex bc I’ve told him a hundred times he brings me stress and he doesn’t listen. I literally wish he would leave me ALONE! I’ve tried to be nice but I can’t deal with him being a nuisance any longer-
I've witnessed both sides of the coin and yes, it does get annoying. As a dumper, be sure you're being firm in your decision and let your actions follow suit. ie: go no contact indefinitely until your ex gets the message.
Because they arent happy
Yes, that's a valid reason...hence it's important to have healthy communication with your partner while still in a relationship with them.
I think with my ex it is a mixture I don’t think she’s necessarily cruel and I’m sure she doesn’t necessarily want to hurt me although she’s been hurting me for six or seven months and she knows it because she’s smart I think she still has some feelings for me and I think like any girl she wants to think she has a boyfriend but I’m done with this shit.
Her acting rude means you need to be laying low and giving her space as chances are you appear way too eager. Try to be neutral towards her especially if the breakup is still fresh.
hey brad, I've been watching your videos for some times. my ex and i broke up long ago. he was giving me mixed signals after knowing i started catching feelings for him again. everything went well but he's got a serious relationship and they broke up several times and got back again. now he's hiding his relationship from me and lying for some reason. I've applied no contact rule and he's upset now like he's only nice for some minutes then ghost me whole day.
That's not good especially if he's still in a relationship. Wait for a better time before interacting with your ex, however, don't wait around doing nothing. Take a leap of faith on a new path as well because you never know where life can take you, which may be better without your ex. Use this time to heal and prioritize yourself. But if it's been more than a year or so, make sure to check the signs if your ex has moved on, here: y2u.be/ZyJRphwDca4 and this should help guide you on what to do for the time being: y2u.be/hlikXIfMYN8 However, make it a point to be really productive with your time being apart. Follow the tips here to help guide you further: y2u.be/gUBNd6pDINM AND ua-cam.com/video/WVFZVqFDFV4/v-deo.html now when the time comes where your ex is free or is constantly contacting you, check out my other videos here in UA-cam to help you with a lot of texting tips as well as when to give up trying. Good luck!
Or maybe he was in love with another woman and the woman dumbed him and than he made the entire anger out on me. 🤷♀️
Be sure you don't tolerate that kind of behaviour.
Brad . I need a reply please. My ex broke up with me based on a petty fight. It's our 2nd breakup. I contacted my ex after 15 days. It's an LDR . I was blocked everywhere except mobile. I sent one of those texts that you sent after no contact. I didn't do no contact for long because the fight was not that big deal. And he immediately unblocked me on WhatsApp. We chatted. He agreed to call. I flexed all the good things of my life subtly. He got jealous and angry. He blocked me again everywhere. I can tell he is extremely jealous hot and cold confused and angry. What should I do next !? He also said he is keeping me blocked because he thinks he is not ready to face it. My social media profiles basically.
Petty or not, that fight definitely made an impact. Fighting is often unavoidable, but when it becomes too much, it’s time to nip the problem in the bud if you still can. So it's either that or you go on a break and discuss the logistics as well as how it should go and how long it should be. What were you two fighting or arguing about? It's best to consider the relationship overall first, so watch this: ua-cam.com/video/XuJFf5Kch5o/v-deo.html Anyways it's best to give it time because all this arguing had taken a toll in your relationship. This may help: ua-cam.com/video/BBEhaY3gLIw/v-deo.html Perhaps you've both argued more than you had a good time with each other? It could also be you're too incompatible or stubborn to meet each other halfway. If the negatives outweigh the positives in the relationship, that's when an imbalance happens and the relationship will keel over wherein one or both people will likely abandon ship, as the case with your ex. It's time to reset things. Start with the 30-day "no contact" rule to get your ex into a psychological neutral. Here's how it can help you: y2u.be/zw0ChuXCEmw
@@BradBrowning thank you Brad. Surely follow your advice.
Hey brad, been watching for the past month or so. I've finished 30 days of no contact, and reached out. my message to break the no contact was "hey, just passed by X restaurant and remembered our lunch together there last summer. Hope you're doing well." She responded with a 👍, and left it there. a few days later, I was hospitalized and she reached out to make sure I was ok. My question is how do i gauge how much to contact her, and is she acting hot and cold or just worried about me? Thanks for your help!
It's difficult to assess your situation unless I get a good grasp on what's going on as well as your history, in addition to the daily updates on how the interactions go with her. So as general advice, it looks like you're on the right track, assuming you've done the first phase (30-day "no contact" rule) correctly and basically had set the stage for this second part. Be sure to check out my other videos for more tips on how to go about this, especially this: y2u.be/gUBNd6pDINM Since you've only recently reconnected, then don't expect your ex to warm up easily. Getting an ex back is a process. Here's a short infograph to guide you in each process: ua-cam.com/video/7JtmVbDkblw/v-deo.html Look out for the signs that your ex has moved on, though: y2u.be/TnZzeEIPEik But evaluate things, too. Are you sure you're not trying to rush it? Setting a deadline is a good way to fail when it comes to exes, so I highly discourage it. What steps have you taken to get your ex back? It's time to re-assess those and see what's working versus what's not working. Sometimes, getting an ex back is like trying to fit a square into a circle, but oftentimes, chances are you're letting emotion dictate you and therefore end up making the wrong choices. Have you checked out my guide yet? It’s ultimately up to you to act (or not act, depending on which phase you’re in) on getting your ex back, but it helps if you read it to ensure that you’re on the right track. Check it out at www.breakupbrad.com
I dumped my ex 2 months ago, i did the nc for 1 month. He never reached out. I reached out to him, but he was rude to me. He posted pics of himself n a girl. Is there any chance of getting him back? What should i do?
Apply the tips here: ua-cam.com/video/Y5jwPaxmJUM/v-deo.html
Hey Brad, I broke up with my x twice blocked her on all platforms exceptions Instagram I forgot about it even both my phones. She was calling me from blocked numbers until I stopped answering. Our conversation picked back up after she saw an old video I sent her a couple months after we broke up criticizing my experience with her threw relationship coaches video. She responded almost 2 months after it was sent. And proceeded to talk mad trash to me about how great she's doing and talk down to me. I cant figure out why she wants to speak to me with nothing nice to say. Its foolish can you help me understand? I'm like if you have nothing nice to say stop reaching out to me. She tries to manipulate me by saying im sensitive to get me to put up with disrespect. She said we could hang out but who would hang out to be disrespected. Any advice?
Just let it go. Why is she still so mad at you? If she can't even talk to you in a civil manner, it's best to just let this all go unless you did something that warrant this kind of treatment from your ex?
Hi Brad.. in my case it was my fault and I realised he is the only one I want to be with, his family and my family knows about us and he hasn't told about my fault. He shows mixed behaviours. Do you think he will become normal like before?
What did you do? I suggest you heed my advice from this vid, first and foremost: ua-cam.com/video/jikW4YYC9yo/v-deo.html and from my other vid here: ua-cam.com/video/PN-07kAtIjw/v-deo.html but also make sure you aren't being defensive or deflecting the blame because that's as annoying as ever. It may help to apply the tips here first: ua-cam.com/video/qnE192fUKxI/v-deo.html
Thank you Brad.
I went to see him in person because I owe honest apologies to him. When I reached his home he was cold but his family welcomed me and they were really happy. His cold behavior is lesser now and we started to talk like before. I will now give my 100% to us.
@@Meera170 I think it's my fault my boyfriend broke up with me on January 1st New year's. He's mad at me because I didn't respond to his because I was busy I got blocked over that. A few days after my breakup a good friend of mine passed away on January 4th 2023. And my ex saying he doesn't care that I'm suffering he doesn't care that my friend passed away 💔 😔💔 it's my fault for not getting back to him. My ex didn't have a very good Christmas because I didn't say Merry Christmas or happy New year's to him so he kicked me out of his life for that 😓 I got blocked.
hey brad we have spoken everyday sense the breakup but it's been moments of anger with her being made for me messing up and hurting her and then her showing softness towards me. it all ended with her storming out after seeing a card she made me and left crying and we haven't spoken sense. should i just leave it alone? and give her space right now?
Yes, should've done that the moment she broke up with you and not push it. This vid is for you: ua-cam.com/video/npuQb1APSaU/v-deo.html
Hello Brad, you're doing a great job.. We were together for 3+ years..
Last evening me nd her had a bad fight, during an argument she pushed me twice my head did hit on wall and i slapped her (I am feeling very bad about that) then she started crying and threw some glasses on me my hand and chest got cut and then she left.. Now she deleted our pictures from social media and blocked me.. What should I do? Should I apologize? Help me man please🙏🙏
Wow things got pretty out of hand there! Has she always been this violent though? I don't condone to any acts of physical violence so I suggest you really take your time to see if this is something worth saving. What do you two argue about anyway which led to all that mess? Since your situation may be unique, I think you can benefit by working with me one-on-one so I get to learn more about the situation and therefore be more equipped to help you out, at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
Hey...so he ghosted me for a month now. Is there any chance? And I didn't follow no contact yet. Also to mention he is a player regarding girls.
That's not good. If your ex has ghosted you or blocked you everywhere where contact is impossible and you can't text/call/email even though a lot of time has already passed (i.e: more than 6 months), then I'm sorry to be the bearer of bad news, but it may be over for good. It's one of the things I've discussed here: ua-cam.com/video/FP8YmErEOW8/v-deo.html
Hey Brad, my ex broke up with me because i microcheated him..but he still contacts but in a very small portion..i begged for last 2 months and tried a lot to win his heart but he just hates me and when i called him yesterday he really talked so harshly..and told me not to call him..what should i do?
How does one "microcheat"? Begging won't help though. What helps is giving him space to process what happened and process the hurt, pain and anger he's likely going through... after you've sincerely apologized.
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i wanted to mean by "microcheating" is actually i texted another guy even if my ex requested me not to...i did it twice..first time he forgave me... But this time he doesn’t want to forgive...i myself told him that i texted that guy but it was just one single day not any more...i really apologised but my ex said it is not possible for him to trust me again and that's why he doesn’t wanna continue our relationship anymore
Brad we had misunderstanding few days ago, i keep on begging and asking for another chance, i even call on her family and friends to help me get another chance, today in a voice recording with her friends she said she is not coming back so we should all move on, doing the no contact, please do i still have a chance of getting back with her??
I think at this point it's best you redo the "no contact" rule and make sure you stick to it this time. But watch this first to help manage your expectations: ua-cam.com/video/OzVymYnQFTk/v-deo.html Here's how you can tell you're doing the "no contact" rule properly: ua-cam.com/video/f7zuXk-sVsI/v-deo.html It may help to make use of the clean slate template, which is a free version from a piece of my Ex Factor Guide. Watch this: ua-cam.com/video/6K3xufEwEFg/v-deo.html The main goal is to bring your ex into an emotional neutral state by employing the 30-day “no contact” rule -- let your ex miss you and don't rush it. But in order to fully understand how this concept works, watch the free in-depth video on my website to learn some psychology techniques and understand how giving each other space for around a month can benefit you than otherwise, at www.breakupbrad.com
Hey my bf just left me. He wanted me to be clingy in the beginning but now he doesn’t like it. He felt trapped he said but he couldn’t be honest about with me even though he always tells me to be. It’s been like 1-2 days of no contact but I miss him a lot. He said he didn’t want to get back together because he wouldn’t feel happy but he’s not letting us resolve this together. He told me he put himself first so he ended it. I didn’t realize at first that I shouldn’t beg so I did. He said he’d cut me off I didn’t stop so I stopped. I want him back because I know we can be happy together. He’s just not letting us fix anything. He chose his friends over me. He’s known his friends for a shorter amount of time. What should I do? I want to be with him again but I’m scared he won’t miss me even if I look and act better and independent. There was a build up with little arguments he said but there were more positive things than negative. This is the second time he left me. Is there still a chance we could be together again? He told me he decided to break up with me 2 weeks before he ended it. Is more time and no contact really good for our situation?
He told me when I was still begging I was jeopardizing his own happiness. I’m giving him some of his stuff back today. He said he wanted to be left alone and he didn’t want a relationship. He promised he would leave me again and that he wanted to marry me. I don’t know what to do. He send even if it wasn’t rational to leave me, he said his decision was final and he made up his mind. I’m planning on giving him a little clean slate letter since I cut him off before break. Please help me. He promised he wouldn’t give up on our relationship. But to avoid breaking it he said he wasn’t giving up, just letting go. What do I do? I want him back so much but I’m scared no contact won’t work. He said that I hoped I found someone that was scared to lose me. But I don’t want anyone else. I just want him
Sorry to hear that. He's done resolving issues in your relationship and at this point, you ought to give him space, okay? Stop forcing things. Try to have self discipline and remember, love should never be forced. Otherwise it becomes an obsession, so be very careful of going that route. If your ex dumped you and showed you he/she doesn't want to be in your life at the moment, you ought to respect that, okay? For most dumpees that is the case. It doesn't mean that will be the case forever but at the moment, it surely is, so respect your ex's need for space and have some self discipline. Focus on yourself instead. Okay? This vid is for you: ua-cam.com/video/WVB0_l60SpM/v-deo.html
@@BradBrowning Tysm. For some reason now my ex is mad? I made the mistake of telling him we’re going no contact. He acknowledged it but now he’s kinda upset I’m ignoring him I think? I gave a present to a friend that was in his class but I asked another friend to deliver it in front of him. Another friend is telling me I stared at him. He’s also mad because I didn’t give him back two things but I explained to him why I wasn’t going to give them back. Apparently he’s also kind of mad because he was expecting a present and I’m not allowed to give him one anymore because he ended things. I don’t understand why he doesn’t just reach out to me himself instead of telling our friends. Before he ended stuff, he would say I’m not listening but was he even listening as well?
Hi brad, we broke up month and half ago I did some mistakes after the break up but I started to do no contact again since 25 days now ,but he's so silent didn't try to reach me out at all ,is it a bad sign? He sees all of my posts and stories daily but does not do any contact with me ,And also I need ur help on what I do after no contact how to start talking to him again what should be my first message and how frequently I should text him leave a week between every time I try to text him or what ,and thank u so much for our amazing channel!
Once you've already completed the full 30-day "no contact" rule and assuming you did it correctly, then the texting tips here will be a good starter: ua-cam.com/video/XonMtLFo000/v-deo.html but make sure you tick off the checklist here first: ua-cam.com/video/BAhMrmw3Sms/v-deo.html This means you take time focusing on the second phase and eventually the third phase when the time is right. This won’t happen overnight, of course, but it’s something you ought to continue to work on to the point where you’re gradually building attraction again. This is what my guide is for. Have you checked it out yet? It's too complicated to explain everything on here, but here's an overview of these phases and what to expect in each one: ua-cam.com/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/v-deo.html Good luck!
Well, my ex has had quite a few bad behaviors lately, including leaving me stranded with a work we had shared even though he wanted after the breakup to be part of that project. The thing is that it's been five months since we broke up (he broke with me), two with zero contact included, and he has in his house belongings of mine, I asked him for them the other day back, I told him he could send them to me by mail if he wanted, that I would pay for the transport, and he hasn't answered me, he has even blocked me.... It is frustrating.
Sorry to hear that. It's frustrating indeed when an ex acts rebellious despite you trying to be nice about it. How far is this place and is it possible to have a friend or you drop by the place to arrange for pickup? If he's angry for a reason, just leave him be for a few more weeks.
@@BradBrowning Thank you very much for answering me. No, it is not possible for a friend of both of us to try to pick up my things, my ex does not want to talk to anyone about the breakup. He's smart so I hope that when he's accepted everything, he'll contact me to get things back. I wish we had ended well, but I think now he just needs to make peace with himself and with the world.
He is, he is rude lol😂😂😂, wtf is this like we a messaged a few and then all of sudden he becomes rude and bullied me in the most childish way as you can imagine😂😂😂 i am actually laughing out the shi* on this
lol yeah it's weird when an ex suddenly attempts to be rude especially when you know they're good-natured otherwise. Just respect their need for space though and follow the tips from this vid. Good luck!
@@BradBrowning nah i blocked him i know he is mentally sick, suffering from pathological narcissistic disorder, it is not the same as being simply rude towards someone, he acted like he does't want to listen to any of my voice messages which i sent to him well he doesn't have to, and i don't have to be with him we were together for like a month then everything became toxic in any sense, it is just not worth for me to fight for him, my health is more important than anyone else mainly because i have PTSD which is also not a walk in the park mental illness, but thank you for your helping, maybe in the future i am gonna take your advice but not for now😅🤷
I'm mean to my ex-girlfriends when they are trying to communicate with me. They need to leave me alone because my feelings for them aren't there anymore.
Thanks for sharing your experience. In most cases though, the opposite of love isn't hate but indifference.
hey I need me and my ex split up we got back together the reason we split up cuz I cheated again I love her and ill do anything to get her back but she said we would never get back together I need help to know what to do if I should just let her go or
Sorry, this is a bit too complex for me to properly respond here… please consider signing up for coaching if you want to talk at length about your situation: www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
I am the one who is mean to my ex.....I will try to ignore him and move forward. He been comingback and i didnt like it but i dont wanna be mean anymore, hard and harsh on him. I somehow sound like a bully......But this has also to do with my mental ilness ive been dealing with. Actually my ex is really pretty and if another girl should date him then please dont break his heart anymore.🙂↔️
Sorry to hear. I know how painful a breakup can be, but the best way to get your ex back is to take care of yourself first and get your emotional and mental health back into full gear. Awareness is key, so at least you're halfway there! :-) These changes take time to work though, so put your relationship in the back burner first just so you can really take time to really tend to your own issues first with the help of the professionals you're already talking to, okay? Take care!
Reached out after 6 months NC. Told her my feelings explaining some work I've done oneself during NC. She was nothing but short and angry, sarcastic.
She then unfriended me on social media. Clearly she is not happy with herself, projecting feelings onto me.
That's not the way to regain attraction though. Also these changes, do it for yourself and never for anyone else, okay? See, making changes for the sake of someone is considered seeking validation, and that's an unattractive trait in and of itself… so it naturally won't do anything to rebuild the attraction necessary to get your ex back in the long run. Lastly, since it's been many months since the breakup, it's best to consider the facts I've mentioned here first as this lets you determine whether there's still a real shot or not: ua-cam.com/video/YVViZmY2x0I/v-deo.html and/or take the free quiz at www.breakupbrad.com/quiz Good luck!
I love your channels I'm starting to realize I watch ur videos alot my question is this me and My ex broke 17 years ago but we stayed in touch we both got married had kids stayed in touch now we both are divorce at the same time our conversations changed I open up to her and she called me been since were together she did this we talked for a hour about how we were together then she stop the contact we text for 1 straight week we have never did this none of this be4 then she pulled bk again and told me she wasn't trying to go backwards but she Saud I was the greatest man she ever dated and the most caring and attentive do I give her time to heal from her divorce are just give up she now doest answer my text I have did nothing wrong but be kind towards her
Give her time to heal from the divorce before trying again, man, especially if that was a recent occurrence as she needs to heal first. Keep your options open in the meantime. Watch this first to help set your expectations: y2u.be/82uUJ7kPXhE and look out for the signs that your ex has moved on: y2u.be/TnZzeEIPEik Best of luck!
Hi Brad. Thank you for your videos. Trying to subscribe to your one- one coaching but there is a problem with the payment link on PayPal. Could you plz help me out with this?
Sorry to hear that. Please contact my support team at support@bradbrowning.com or support.exfactorguide.com
I’m in a new healthy relationship but I just wanted to know why this happens tbh, cos mine did this , I found out she was cheating and now she pregnant after a year and abit
The reasons are all laid out on the vid.
Hi Brad!
Thank you for your videos and for keeping me sane.
My ex broke up with me 10 days ago after a month of fighting saying he cannot give me the kind of affection I want from him. I felt him pulling away and he dint even meet me on my bday and instead went for a friend's sisters wedding. The day he broke up I told him hes wrong and that we can work it out, but I accepted his decision and said he will never hear from me again. The same day called 7 times and I dint pick and he called once more the day after and I dint pick. Its been 10 days now and he hasn't reached out. Have I blown my chances by not picking his calls? Should I reach out or continue NC.
You're welcome! What do you two always bicker about? Fighting is often unavoidable, but when it becomes too much, it’s time to nip the problem in the bud if you still can. So it's either that or you go on a break and discuss the logistics as well as how it should go and how long it should be. What were you two fighting or arguing about? It's best to consider the relationship overall first, so watch this: ua-cam.com/video/XuJFf5Kch5o/v-deo.html Anyways it's best to give it time because all this arguing had taken a toll in your relationship. This may help: ua-cam.com/video/BBEhaY3gLIw/v-deo.html Perhaps you've both argued more than you had a good time with each other? It could also be you're too incompatible or stubborn to meet each other halfway. If the negatives outweigh the positives in the relationship, that's when an imbalance happens and the relationship will keel over wherein one or both people will likely abandon ship, as the case with your ex. It's time to reset things. Start with the 30-day "no contact" rule to get your ex into a psychological neutral. Here's how it can help you: y2u.be/zw0ChuXCEmw
hi brad, i think my ex is being cold and rude to me because of the last reason you stated. he cheated on me with an online girl from another country who's so much older and i'm trying to win him back. they met on roblox and they're edating (lmfao). no contact period would make him enjoy his time more and forget about me. how do u think i can get him back?
If it's a cheating ex, yes, they always do that and go as cold as possible. That is your ex's choice however, as hard as it may be to accept. Sorry, but chances are your beau has been at least emotionally cheating on you. Discussed that in depth here: y2u.be/7KE6nb4-ndA There's no easy way to say this but the answer is is to move on, especially if your ex doesn't seem to be regretting their actions and asking to get back together. Most of the time, a lot of people would move on, but a few would still fight for the relationship, so this all depends which side you're on and what your views are. But take into consideration about what I’ve mentioned here, too: ua-cam.com/video/m27TLeyUmwg/v-deo.html There is no right or wrong answer here because it is your relationship and it's personal to you. Make sense? Anyway men and women cheat for different reasons, but if you think your ex is worth it and if there's been a genuine connection between you two before the cheating happened, then try to see the roles that you BOTH played that led to all this mess and see once and for all if it can be resolved or not, okay? Whatever the case, it's important you forgive yourself because no one's perfect, and forgive your ex too. Really take your time before deciding though and be sure not to make any hasty decisions from an emotional place but never force things with him if you can see he no longer wants to try. Take care!
Why you want an cheating ex back? Live your life and meet someone better than a low life like him.
I don't want her back, yet still i find myself watching these videos. She broke up with me and am the one acting cold. Idk why
Experiencing a different range of emotions during this time is completely normal. Take time to process things and heal from this, okay? Take care!
Okay Brad the man I follow you ideas and steps and come to the conclusion since my ex are speak I opened a clothing line after we broke and I don’t think I want her back anymore hahah ironic and she can’t stop talking to me Evan getting a lil jealous but I don’t want her no more I’m busy now haha thanks for the help tho like you help me a lot but just hit me all of a sudden I’m better off without her haha wow thanks bro
You're welcome! Yeah, well, like I always say, the decision is ultimately up to you. You know your situation and your ex best. Sometimes a relationship can be salvaged and worth the save but sometimes it isn't, especially if there's cheating or some other type of abuse involved. Take care!
Some are so desperate they’ll go to the extreme to get your attention.
That's a huge red flag, especially if they dumped you.
Please make a video about why ex boyfriend shares text messages or do messages of his ex girlfriend on social media
Are you referring to you or another ex of his? It could be his way of coping.
I'm super curious Brad but does the so called "fake typing" on snapchat break the no contact rule??
No it doesn't, granted you don't end up sending the message. Better yet, I suggest to stay away from that so you won't be tempted while still in the 30-day "no contact" rule, okay?
please help me :( my ex and i broke up a week ago and we ended on good terms, we still texted each other and talked about normal stuff. unfortunately i made the mistake of asking for another chance on tuesday, but he said it wouldnt work because we would keep hurting each other. things were fine after that until i found your videos and decided to apply the nc rule. i didnt text him all day yesterday and he didnt text me either, but at night i saw that he followed all the girls that had a crush on him when we were still together and it broke me. i couldnt help myself and texted him saying that he made me feel like i was paranoid and stupid for worrying about them, but ran to all of them right after we broke up, and that it just proves me that i wasnt so crazy after all. he ignored it, but answered this morning with just 'ok'. im supposed to come over and pick up the rest of my stuff today (we lived together), but i dont know how to act around him now. part of me wants to tell him how much it hurts me that hes doing this bc like i said we were fine, but im not sure if i should just act like nothing happened and not mention it. i feel so dumb.
Sorry to hear you're going through this... but there's no need to hurt yourself more, so maybe stop trying to look at your ex's profile/messages/snaps, posts, etc.? An essential part of the "no contact" rule is to turn your focus inwards for a good 30 days straight, and looking at what your ex is doing and whatnot largely deviates from that point, don't you think? Discussed that here, too: ua-cam.com/video/MroLZ7XK9gY/v-deo.html
My ex all of sudden broke up with me....told me she lost feelings for me and opinion on love too...she deleted everything happened since 3years and was mean to me....she asked me to move on..... what's that mean
It meant she fell out of love with you / lost attraction. Did you make her the center of your world? Try to balance it out with family and friends.
Me ex breakup with me because I talked about her attitude even though my approach wasn’t good but that wasn’t my intention and decided to go back to her ex 🤦🏿♂️
I really hate to burst your bubble here but let her finish whatever unfinished business she has with this ex. Sorry, but there's not much you can do at this point, especially if your relationship only lasted a short while and more so if she's seemingly (subconsciously or not) used you as a rebound, for your ex to jump back too quickly with him. Good luck and I hope you find the right woman for you soon!
My ex and I saw each other for the first time for a coffee date. I reached out a few days later to say I enjoyed our time and he was very short. I have not reached out since and it's been 2 weeks. He has never once said he doesn't want to be in contact or there's no chance for us to ever get back together .....is no contact a good approach
No contact is always the best approach, especially if you hadn't done it yet. Play your cards right and notice the world of difference that this can make. Stick to the "no contact" rule this time for at least 30 days. Here's how you can tell it's starting to work: ua-cam.com/video/T4Sz6DiWRsQ/v-deo.html AND the importance of silence after the breakup here: y2u.be/zw0ChuXCEmw and in the meantime, this is the principle you ought to follow: ua-cam.com/video/EfbgU7v0Ny4/v-deo.html A situation with an ex is often fragile, so you'd really want to omit, if not minimize these mistakes. Start with the 30-day straight "no contact rule. It’s one step forward, two steps backward with an ex & there are no unlimited chances with them, so if you can do it right moving forward, then do so. Check out my guide so you won't end up making the same mistakes. Good luck!
Very much he does
Hey Brad, I just started talking to my ex again and he wanted to hang out with me. He said he missed me. He called me babe by accident. He said he was immature and he doesn’t know why he’s with this girl the day after he followed me on TikTok and posted a video of him and her and I un added him because I don’t wanna see that. And I unfollowed him and he did the same and deleted the video. I’m very confused, very lost. I don’t know what’s going on he kept flirting with me. He kept bringing old memories of us. He told me he missed me. Helpp
How long has it been since you two broke up? Unless he's asking to get back together and leaves the other relationship, you ought to be cutting off contact and giving each other that much needed space first. Otherwise the chances are high you'd get strung along, especially if the breakup is still fresh. Depending on how long it's been, you may have to stand your ground and be firm with him. Your situation is also very delicate so once you start to see some more progress with your ex, then don’t go at it alone, especially if you're in doubt or don't know what to do next. Sign up for my coaching program so I can help assess your situation clearly, look at all the other factors at play and see things you might have missed, then guide you accordingly on a regular, ongoing basis at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
@@BradBrowning hello Brad, so we went three months without contacting each other without talking to each other. We do share kids murmur. We stop talking to each other for a while. I stopped contact about a month after we broke up but we’re going on five months now. Am I just being played along ??
I had broke up 💔with my Ex last month.... Till today I keep on missing her Dream her 😪.. As you said No contact works So I'm following that.
So.... I keep on following this.
Brad--My ex is too Stubborn and Strong women.. She use to say to my when we were together like.... Once I decided I won't change my mind nor I'll listen to anything else.
Till today I really Love her. ❤
Please..... Help me out. 🙏
Do the 30-day rule first. Once you're done with the "no contact" phase and had sent one of these text messages for re-establishing contact, give your ex time to warm up slowly to you. Don't expect one text to work magic because it simply doesn't work that way. Getting an ex back is a process, therefore, learn to be patient and like I said, give her time to actually come close to you. She can't do that if you keep chasing her. Makes sense? Also, this may help: ua-cam.com/video/PBotQygy7os/v-deo.html
Soo as you know my story ....I don't want to force things or anything that's makes her be proud that she leave me I Just I want to know that how it's possible....my ex girlfriend and me read in the same school and today's morning I fainted during prayer line ..my all friends looking very worry about me and some of friends come to peaking me to the class but my Ex dose not even come or doing anything that's makes me feel she still care about me my some friends from her class section ..I asked them dose she looking worried about me or anything but they said don't be upset but she is laughing with others chilling I didn't understand yet that how she could forgot about our 2 years friendship...and the way leave from school she just look at me once and then just left I don't know if she has asked out about me to someone else but This is what I told from what I heard...I don't wanna be hurt or sad anymore but the things is killing me from inside ....how she can be soo psychopath!!! Help mee to get out of this 😭
Sorry to hear that. I know how upsetting that can be. Get yourself checked if you still faint again. How old are you both? Life is or will be taking you in two different directions at this stage. Watch this, too: ua-cam.com/video/2CakOOSwIiY/v-deo.html&lc=Ugw4Ce3x9APUrYfz29N4AaABAg So whatever the case may be, act responsibly yet try not to take things too seriously for now since you two are in a period of growth and lots of changes, including preferences in attitude, personality, etc. Focus on your studies instead, all right? Take care!
@@BradBrowning we are both 16 years old I know we are still immature but I can't believe she change her like this and she is a very nice girl to me still er are in friendship but the sudden 360 degree change shook me a alot😔 I don't need my gf back I want the same bestie that I had .....it's very painfull for me ..i have the true feelings for her I tried to move on but I thinking I Also made mistake and I deserve a second chance and I know how it will be beautiful if I had the chance but she also made mistakes and even didn't give a me chance..... I sometimes think that it would have been better if I didn't fight that day, I feel guilty sometimes😭😭
I be trying to, but some people force for attention.
Yeah, don't be that woman. You're so much better than that. Focus on yourself first and work on your own goals.
I was with someone for 14 years and have 2 kids with them and after my sister which is my only sibling had moved in with us bc she had split up with her kids dad and the kids stayed with there dad it was just her that moved in with us as I always tried to help her in any way I could.we always would say how we would never let a guy come between us as we would not have to worry about that because we would never be with someone that was with our sibling ever but she showed me that was all just words as she obviously didn't mean it as now they are living together and claim to not be a couple but also he doesn't care to let it be known that he wants to be with her in a relationship I was betrayed by my only sibling and my kids dad and boyfriend at the time cheated on me as we were still a couple and had already went to stay at his brother's house bc of the way things was going with her being here as she protraye that she pretty much hated him as she even told others she did and fabt she didn't want me with him bc he was not good for me despite him being my kids father. Then out of nowhere it happened as I now am in disbelief she would so me this way bc we were always close siblings and me and him have kids now I have to be strong for my kids as it is hard and it is awful bc he really isn't trying to be there for our girls and I live in my mom and dad's rental as that is where we were all living and now my mom says he isn't allowed here at all period bc of her own issues with him besides what he done as it only made it worse and states that if he wants to see his kids it will have to be somewhere other than here bc she isn't gonna let him come around and I don't know what to do as I am not in a position to move yet or to be able to handle seeing him with having her around him but I have to try for my kids sake but I told him when he is to see the girls not to have her with as the girls don't wanna see her with there dad for a few reasons with one being that is there aunt and she also has scared my kids with her acting out like crazy in front of them since this has all haooened
Sorry to hear that. Unfortunately his actions are something that is out of your control. You do need to stay civil for your kids. Depending on how long this issue between you have been going on, it may be time to move on from this. Whatever the case, It's an uphill battle for sure with kid/s involved and/or usually other responsibilities still tied to your ex, but it's best you do limited contact or what I call the dynamic "no contact" rule. Prepare for things to be tough but if you play your cards right and depending on the extent of damage done, it can actually still be salvaged. Try to prevent things from getting even more awkward than it has to be by applying the tips here as much as possible: ua-cam.com/video/GTjEAGJWTuA/v-deo.html AND ua-cam.com/video/dDZrnNh8LOg/v-deo.html
When you have to work w/ your ex it sucks 💯 let’s just get the job done ✅
Do limited contact instead and keep any limited conversation you have strictly work-related. You've got a long way to go but for starters, you can follow the tips here to prevent things from getting even more awkward than it has to be: ua-cam.com/video/GTjEAGJWTuA/v-deo.html AND ua-cam.com/video/dDZrnNh8LOg/v-deo.html
hello brad so me and my bf i know its just a short time but we broke up after being in a relationship for 3 months we r still both teenagers and the reason why we broke up is because he put so much effort in a span of 3 months and me i didnt becaue i thought we both have different lifestyle and i was in a toxic household im so lost he said that we have to breakup because he doesnt want to keep hurting me and he wants me to have a good life and to think about myself more…. we decided to see eachother and honestly it didnt look like we are gonna break up we were both happy but when we talked the both of us are crying real hard and he still loves me but he wants to focus on himself and he want me to focus on myself so we decided to break it off but that night we even kissed and hugged and me and him are crying really hard when we broke things off that night also he came running to me because my phone is only 5% so i decidedto text him and he came and i cant call the uber anymore so he came to me and he said i love you and im sorry after booking an uber and opening the door for me
and it has been just 3 days now and i dont know what to do anymore we both still love eachother and it was a healthy breakup but i still want him back we chatted again today and he told me he doesnt want to talk to me anymore and i said maybe if the both of us heals maybe we can be back together and he said okay…but right now there is no us so what am i supposed to do brad? i mean i decided to give him space and ill try the no contact rule but he’s stubborn and also i took ur test and my score is 70…..
he also said that i shouldnt force it and stop looking for ways to bring us back together but he agreed that if the both of us heals and the both of us still love eachother maybe we can try again
First 🥇 person and this is wat i need tqsm 🥺🙏
You made the first comment for this vid indeed. Thank you for dropping by! :-)
I really want to talk to my ex and I have been able to for a while and everything's been fine, she's being friendly and receptive, and all of a sudden I'm terrified to call her, what's going on?
Looks like you aren't ready to reconnect. Did you make sure you gave each other enough time and space? Do that first and don't rush through the process.
@@BradBrowning Yeah I've don't no contact a couple times, it was fine up until a couple weeks ago
My ex angry at me and she blocked me every social media we broke up before 2 months i want her back
I don't see this as a cause for concern really, unless you've done something really epic to mess things up or really hurt your ex, there's no reason to worry as much, really, because it could be due to the top 3 reasons I've stated on this vid: y2u.be/fjtv90o9bkI Blocking you could just be your ex’s way of coping so I wouldn’t worry too much about it if I were you, at least not initially. So give it time. If you stay blocked after months though, then that’s another story, especially if you have no other means of communication or have no mutual friends. More about that on here: ua-cam.com/video/5UT92IB5ugs/v-deo.html Anyway social media should be the least of your concerns. Focus on all three phases and your ex may naturally unblock you, in time, as you learn to rebuild that attraction and re-attract this ex back to your life.. Here are the basics of all three phases to getting an ex back: ua-cam.com/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/v-deo.html and social-media wise, here (but then again, don't let it become your sole focus) : ua-cam.com/video/D1GpR5MApQk/v-deo.html Good luck!
My ex had never been mean. I guess that's a bad sign
The absence of fighting doesn't mean it's automatically mean it's a good relationship, yes.
Mine ex is being mean to me 😥💔 he's not caring for the passing of my friend I lost. My friend passed away on January 4th 2023 after New year's 😢 and my ex said yeah whatever he didn't care what 😥 because he's hurt that I'm didn't talk to him I didn't say Merry Christmas or New year's to him. He's not supporting me because I didn't reply to him he's mad at me for not replying to him he's mad at me that got busy. 😓 Time for me to put my life on hold 💔💔 🤧 if I ever date him. I felt forced to trust him I gave him another chance. Originally he wanted my trust back he wanted me to hurry up I think. 😓 My friend passed away on January 4th I got dumped on New year's day January 1st. 💔😓 My heart is shattered. He keeps blocking me from sending me friend request and blocking. 😥 Now he officially said to someone she's out of My Life. I got kicked out of his life for not replying back to him 😓💔 I've been doing the no contact rule right after the break up.
Well... if you two can't seem to compromise to get both of your wants and needs met, the breakup may have been a blessing in disguise. Take time to heal from this and learn from it, yeah? Take care!
@@BradBrowning yeah parts of it felt like a blessing. Also he always got mad at me when I was busy and not responing to him. It just felt like he was isolated me from being busy and family and friends. It's like he wanted me to put my life on hold. He always blocks me due to me being busy. And he said I don't like this. Meaning he doesn't like me being busy or talking to other people.
@@BradBrowning he did this to me last year too. He was begging me for trust and saying please forgive me I didn't mean to block you. And the second time he said the same thing. That time I didn't give him my trust so he got really mad at me and blocked me. He's hurt that I'm not talking to him well I'm grieving hurt that my friend passed away. And he only seems to cares that I didn't say say Merry Christmas or happy New year to him that's what this is all about.
@@BradBrowning he didn't even say sorry for your loss. I didn't get support from him at all. But no instead he was only thinking about me not being on Facebook much so I get blocked over that
Sir plz reply toy question sir it's urgent...
Iam still suffering from this break up pain ...
It's about 6 month... Since from July 7th...
We are in same college... Same branch earlier in between July to August i really tried hard that is like begging,, her and in many ways but that time she acted like u said cold suddenly rough. And insulted also me in many ways.... After that i stop trying and now it's been long time yesterday I talked her again like normal conversation like what's going on , how is your parents and when I said again like how are u , she again acted roughly..... Sir i really want her back but there is some trust issues....
Our many frnds also involved.... She thought I told them to involve but in reality I was suffering from anxiety......
Plz reply sir .
Really sorry, man, but I'm not the coach who gives false hopes and from what you're describing, your window of opportunity may have already passed. Discussed that here: ua-cam.com/video/e3l5KWEpIpw/v-deo.html and especially if you see the signs here: y2u.be/k1myDIp0gSc I suggest you take steps towards moving on, yeah? And take care of your own wellbeing as well. It takes a while but you'll get there, just try to put the focus back to yourself at this time. Take care!
she had started being cold towards me way before the breakup 🤣
It happens. For some people, seeing a breakup coming is better than having no signs at all. Have you tried to talk to him about it prior the breakup though?
i am bisexuals And I went from being bff for two years to being in a relationship for ten months with my best friend.Everything was going fine but after a fight one day he said he won't be with me anymore. He insulted me a lot but I don't know why I still love her। He studies in my school and I see her every day. I am trying to move on. It hurts me a lot when she huged another girl in front of me but I can't do anything. I want to make her mine. And I wanna correct my mistakes. She thinks I am fully toxic and don't wanna be with me anymore.she don't even talk to mee .and she said she never gonna take me back Never come to me again. Also she acted soo cold and rude towards me .I am just shook to see how she even forgot about our 2yesr friendship just for 10 moths relationship .What should I do in this time?
Stop forcing things. Try to have self discipline and remember, love should never be forced. Otherwise it becomes an obsession, so be very careful of going that route. If your ex dumped you and showed you he/she doesn't want to be in your life at the moment, you ought to respect that, okay? For most dumpees that is the case. It doesn't mean that will be the case forever but at the moment, it surely is, so respect your ex's need for space and have some self discipline. Focus on yourself instead. Okay? This vid is for you: ua-cam.com/video/WVB0_l60SpM/v-deo.html
@@BradBrowning thanks
I had that
Because he's been affected by the break up just for sure
Yes, contrary to what other people say, a breakup hurts both parties regardless of who ended the relationship.
When she blocked your nd unblocked your and again blocked your what doesn't mean
It's in English or your can't understand
It doesn't mean anything substantial... and I don't see this as a cause for concern really, unless you've done something really epic to mess things up or really hurt your ex, there's no reason to worry as much, really, because it could be due to the top 3 reasons I've stated on this vid: y2u.be/fjtv90o9bkI Blocking you could just be your ex’s way of coping so I wouldn’t worry too much about it if I were you, at least not initially. So give it time. If you stay blocked after months though, then that’s another story, especially if you have no other means of communication or have no mutual friends. More about that on here: ua-cam.com/video/5UT92IB5ugs/v-deo.html Anyway social media should be the least of your concerns. Focus on all three phases and your ex may naturally unblock you, in time, as you learn to rebuild that attraction and re-attract this ex back to your life.. Here are the basics of all three phases to getting an ex back: ua-cam.com/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/v-deo.html and social-media wise, here (but then again, don't let it become your sole focus) : ua-cam.com/video/D1GpR5MApQk/v-deo.html Good luck!
Because he was an scapegoat-user.
If you realized you were just a mere scapegoat, don't wait for her to end things with you. Do that yourself instead and don't look back!
What if you left them alone stoped Talkin to them..unless it's about the kids... Yet every week they msg you to fight or argue because she thinks something that isn't even true ???
Then that's more like your ex's problem with her accusations. This probably means you two need some time apart and yes keep communications strictly about the kids for now. It's an uphill battle for sure with kid/s involved and/or usually other responsibilities still tied to your ex, but it's best you do limited contact or what I call the dynamic "no contact" rule. Prepare for things to be tough but if you play your cards right and depending on the extent of damage done, it can actually still be salvaged. Try to prevent things from getting even more awkward than it has to be by applying the tips here as much as possible: ua-cam.com/video/GTjEAGJWTuA/v-deo.html AND ua-cam.com/video/dDZrnNh8LOg/v-deo.html
If they hate you.. you probably did something to deserve it
9 times out of 10, that is correct.
Invited me over had sex asked to cuddle immediately started yelling about me talking to other girls threw me out of her house.: wtf
How long has it been since the breakup? That's the danger of meeting up when one or both of you aren't ready to do so yet. Emotions tend to run high when the breakup is still fresh which is why I often say no contact is key!
Because he's a narcissist..period
If he's truly a narcissist, you might want to think twice before trying to get him back, because even if you can change his mind, you can't change his personality, especially if he has a narcissistic personality disorder or the traits being shown to you. It's a mental illness that should be looked into by a medical professional. The best you can do is to encourage him to seek help. Now if you aren't sure whether he really is one and/or how to best handle the situation, consider signing up for my coaching program so I can look into this with you and what's really happening that you may be too close to see or have an outside perspective on. Best of luck!
When you realised you did everything wrong from the beginning and now it reached to divorce and him having a new gf😢
It happens. Relationships teach you about things, sometimes it's about yourself. So it's best to take this as a lesson learned and apply those lessons in your next relationship after becoming a better version of yourself.
No i don believe this fr ur just trying to make ppl feel better🥲
It is the reality in most although not all cases... unless you've done something wrong to truly piss off your ex or something that would warrant your ex's anger.
Me and this one girl we were together for 3 years she broke up with me cause we had nothing in common at all we were very different from each other and made a promise to never block me and than 2 weeks later after the breakup i went on social media saw that she blocked me and didnt even say a word to me before doing it. She lied to me she doesent care not only does she not care she also broke a promise to me. I am broken from her doing that to me i didnt do anything wrong for her to ditch me from my life like that. She'd tell me she still loves me and that i still matter well her action says otherwise and it broke me when she did that to me and i cry every day now
When feelings or attraction is gone, people will tend to behave differently. Take time to re-assess your relationship first. Were you two really just forcing things and try to be compatible when you're not? This vid is for you: ua-cam.com/video/t6I5k55pnCE/v-deo.html
Hi brad .. my ex broke up with me 2 months ago followed by a fight she.. for atleast a month i begged and pleaded. After watching your couple of videos i started no contact and after
10-15 days she texted me .. we had a chat and then again i followed the no contact then she again texted we and unblocked me .. she still don't want to get in relationships but i want her..
yesterday we were gone to shopping and then at evening we makeout (i does her., touching, romantically, satisfying) .. i asked her that do you love me.? She said NO but during that entire day she was very happy and spending time with me. On the way to shopping i held her hands and she had no issue with that.. and then again the next we were together in her residence and we did that again and she said that we again did the wrong thing without any relationship. She said -Now we’ll never meet again ..I don't understand now what to do.. we makeout yesterday.. i want to get her back..My relationship was 1 year ago and she has treated me very nice and lovingly.
She usually used to say that “please don’t leave me and I can’t live without you”
Please help me brad to get her back
Thank you
I think it's too soon to be doing all that especially after begging her, man. I suggest you stop forcing things or try not to appear like you're forcing stuff. Try to have self discipline and remember, love should never be forced. Otherwise it becomes an obsession, so be very careful of going that route. If your ex dumped you and showed you he/she doesn't want to be in your life at the moment, you ought to respect that, okay? For most dumpees that is the case. It doesn't mean that will be the case forever but at the moment, it surely is, so respect your ex's need for space and have some self discipline. Focus on yourself instead. Okay? This vid is for you: ua-cam.com/video/WVB0_l60SpM/v-deo.html
@@BradBrowning so now how can i get her back.. what should i do now..?
@@BradBrowning now should i be on no contact period??
Hi all….. Update
28/11/22:
She found out I’d received my ticket for the works due for Sat 3rd December. She text me saying “I can’t believe your still going! As you don’t talk to me now or sit with me at dinner time. A never replied
01/12/22:
She confronted me at work,I said if you really don’t want me to go (After all this time, Saying you want me to ) then I won’t, I’ll just have my money back!! She said she just wanted a good time……. She was a bit abrupt through this confrontation! Kept repeating herself saying she’s happy.
Then she wanted to know why i stopped talking to her and sitting with her at dinner:
I said because when I picked my clothes up etc and we promised each other a few things and you’d gone back on your word.
Sitting with you? Were not a couple anymore and that was your choice…
03/012/22:
Works Due
I was the last 1 to arrive, She got up and asked if I wanted a drink? And could help her carry drinks with her…
Ask we got to the bar,She apologised for how she had acted at work! We had a laugh , Asked me to dance with her.
Present:
We’ve been communicating better….
I’m hoping she may have that feeling of coming back around! It’s been really cold today, She grabbed my hand and held it out of the blue,She said my hands are freezing.
Little more contact recently
( Hello everyone
Me (34)and my ex avoidant girlfriend (47 Yr old ) split up on September 12th after 5 years together!!
(Work at the same place)
Citing lost feelings….Though earlier in the day we’d booked to go on our Christmas works due together?!?!
We briefly split at the end of
Covid 19 from March 2021 to June 2021.Her Hysterectomy Op has sent her in to early menopause this year , Along with her daughter having mental health problems and her mum been diagnosed with cancer it’s been a tough year for her.
( I’ve been supportive in that time )
Since the breakup: 20/09/2022
Obviously we work at the same place,I’ve been applying no contact since last week ( the split ) , Walked in canteen for my dinner could see her sat at our table with the neck stuck out looking where I was going.
As I paid for my food went to eat in the other side,All I could hear was
“Luke” luke “ sit here…. I was so confused,but never sat down! Just said I need to off back to work. Gets back to my office which is 5 mins away,pulled my phone out and have a message of her asking if I’m okay?!?!
LastNight:
Random message sent from her yesterday evening! She works crazy hours (Always has ) , Saying thank you for leaving a gift on her and her coworkers locker. I never answered for an hour or 2! Then bluntly sent to her I haven’t… / She text back straight away
Okay no worries
I’m confused
22/09/2022 :
Bumped in to her at work today she was again been weirdly nice(Asking how I am! What I’m doing at the gym, and telling me she’s not feeling good and she’s on edge all the time. I was like Ohhh 😮 hope you get better. I made out I had to go…
30/09/22:
She asked me to come through and pick my clothes up today! She had a coffee waiting for me….Saying I can always pop over to see her and our dog. Mixed signals all over through this
01/10/2022:
Changed her status from Relationship to blank / To Single and then back to blank
03/10/22:
Got a random message from her this morning:
If anyones been asking at work about the breakup? ( As above on Saturday morning she changed her profile to single , But changed it to nothing later )
( I left my on single since Saturday evening )
Trying to insinuate people will know because my profile is now single , Though people notice she changed hers three times on Saturday.
I used NO CONTACT TO THE MESSAGE!
She’s then removed the message this afternoon?!?!
I’m confused )
Sorry, this is a bit too complex for me to properly respond here… please consider signing up for coaching if you want to talk at length about your situation: www.breakupbrad.com/coaching